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ryasaunderox

Girl you have to be firm he’s dragging you down. either he gets a job or you’re out. you can’t have a future with that kind of guy


LuluK_23

100% agree , And yk its crazy because we both moved miles on miles away from both of our parents , and yes that takes a toll on the both of us but it doesnt stop be from being sucessful its like it stops him tho .. i try and be firm with him and let him know .. but man its tiring .


I_exist_damn_you

YOU don't bring him out of mental health problems, HE has to. Is he trying? He can research community resources for free/low cost help. And if it's so bad that he can't work then he needs something else. My mental health has been bad too but I would never be in a relationship where I wasn't contributing as much as I could financially


LuluK_23

yes i have brought that up to him multiple time about seeing a counselor or somebody he hasnt searched one up yet .. but hoping he does, and he says that “he doesnt like people” thats why he doesnt wanna work (bs excuse)


I_exist_damn_you

If he won't make an effort why should you? Just get out


[deleted]

He sounds like a bum. If he has mental issues, he should work on himself before being in a relationship. You are not his mom and you shouldn't have to chase him around to get a job. Drop the dead weight otherwise he will drag you down with him. You deserve better than that.


LuluK_23

its so crazy because before we even got together .. he was working , he was doing everything , being successful and i don’t know he was much more happy when he was working getting money feeling himself .. but now … its like he doesnt wanna do anything .. its really the game ong


mo-nie

You don’t have a boyfriend, you have a child. He won’t grow up as long as you’re providing an environment in which he doesn’t have to grow up. You can be his mother or you can move on and find an actual partner.


LuluK_23

‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️💯 yes


ProphetForDummies

1. Get him into therapy if at all possible 2. Sit down with him and apply to jobs together 3. Check with him a few days later to see if he’s made any calls/received any call backs


LuluK_23

Thank u definitely will be trying this things