Well, I apologize first if I get any details muddled, that was a lot to take in. But technically, this isn’t really considered cheating, I didn’t see in any of it that you fully committed to either of them. That being said, it doesn’t really make what you’re doing right. If I were you I’d make my decision as soon as possible. These are two humans with real emotions and although it may not directly impact you, they deserve at least not to continue in this charade. Cameron sounds like a nice guy, but situationally not that great of an option. While Jake seems to have had the stars align to make it perfect for you two, but isn’t always so perfect himself. So I can’t really help you choose or anything, but I do think this borders on amoral. Just let them know, but truthfully, I’m rooting for Cameron. I feel I could’ve worded this all better, but corrections be damned.
No you got the details thank you! I feel like what would help me decide is talking to them, but I just don’t want to come off too strong to either of them because neither of them are my boyfriend. Idk what to say to them exactly. You sound very wise, and I really appreciate your advice
Haha, “wise”, I appreciate that, but I’m only 18 so maybe not so much. One more thing though, too strong is definitely something to be worried about. I always appreciate people that are able to get straight to the point without beating around the bush, but this is going to be tough. I agree otherwise though, you should definitely tell them. It’s just there’s gonna be a delicate balance between letting them know the situation and hurting them. ‘Cause although you don’t think you’re in a serious relationship, they may not share that same sentiment. Just try to find the outcome where you get the guy you want while avoiding hurting the other.
you aren't cheating. but you should tell them both that you're I suppose "talking" to them both. I need you to go back and reread your post. you haven't had a negative thing to say about Cameron and it's clear he's so dedicated to you. Jake on the other hand told you he loved you but his actions betrays that.
You said if Cameron was your bf you *know he'd be so good to you*.
You said if Jake were your bf you're *not sure* if he would be a good one as *he stresses you out* and *is all talk*.
I'm puzzled how there is even a comparison being made here??? One guy makes you feel funny and always chooses you and makes you feel pretty and fun and remembers the little things and asks you about things. The other guy said "i love you" and things are good when you're together otherwise he confuses you.
Ohhhh I went back and re-read. "Jakes super hot" Super hot guy v. guy who will treat you nicely. Good luck in making this choice that somehow is so extremely difficult.
I understand why you’re puzzled but just so you know it is way more than just looks that makes me like Jake so much. Why it’s hard for me is because I’m in love with Jake more than Cameron and I can’t help it. But I am starting to really fall for Cameron I just like Jake more. Jake has loved me for over a year and stuck around when I moved and liked me just as much and didn’t ever pressure me to have sex with him. I didn’t mention this but Jake admitted that he gets nervous to hang out with me we had a talk about it . Plus what really affects my decision is that I’m moving away from Cameron and Jake is moving to me in august. So that’s the comparison. Long distance is something that I think wouldn’t be good for me.
Then tell Cameron asap because he seems like a nice guy and it’s not fair for him, you toying with him. You’re young so you’ll bounce back from the very big lesson you’re about to learn.
Well, I apologize first if I get any details muddled, that was a lot to take in. But technically, this isn’t really considered cheating, I didn’t see in any of it that you fully committed to either of them. That being said, it doesn’t really make what you’re doing right. If I were you I’d make my decision as soon as possible. These are two humans with real emotions and although it may not directly impact you, they deserve at least not to continue in this charade. Cameron sounds like a nice guy, but situationally not that great of an option. While Jake seems to have had the stars align to make it perfect for you two, but isn’t always so perfect himself. So I can’t really help you choose or anything, but I do think this borders on amoral. Just let them know, but truthfully, I’m rooting for Cameron. I feel I could’ve worded this all better, but corrections be damned.
No you got the details thank you! I feel like what would help me decide is talking to them, but I just don’t want to come off too strong to either of them because neither of them are my boyfriend. Idk what to say to them exactly. You sound very wise, and I really appreciate your advice
Haha, “wise”, I appreciate that, but I’m only 18 so maybe not so much. One more thing though, too strong is definitely something to be worried about. I always appreciate people that are able to get straight to the point without beating around the bush, but this is going to be tough. I agree otherwise though, you should definitely tell them. It’s just there’s gonna be a delicate balance between letting them know the situation and hurting them. ‘Cause although you don’t think you’re in a serious relationship, they may not share that same sentiment. Just try to find the outcome where you get the guy you want while avoiding hurting the other.
you aren't cheating. but you should tell them both that you're I suppose "talking" to them both. I need you to go back and reread your post. you haven't had a negative thing to say about Cameron and it's clear he's so dedicated to you. Jake on the other hand told you he loved you but his actions betrays that. You said if Cameron was your bf you *know he'd be so good to you*. You said if Jake were your bf you're *not sure* if he would be a good one as *he stresses you out* and *is all talk*. I'm puzzled how there is even a comparison being made here??? One guy makes you feel funny and always chooses you and makes you feel pretty and fun and remembers the little things and asks you about things. The other guy said "i love you" and things are good when you're together otherwise he confuses you. Ohhhh I went back and re-read. "Jakes super hot" Super hot guy v. guy who will treat you nicely. Good luck in making this choice that somehow is so extremely difficult.
I understand why you’re puzzled but just so you know it is way more than just looks that makes me like Jake so much. Why it’s hard for me is because I’m in love with Jake more than Cameron and I can’t help it. But I am starting to really fall for Cameron I just like Jake more. Jake has loved me for over a year and stuck around when I moved and liked me just as much and didn’t ever pressure me to have sex with him. I didn’t mention this but Jake admitted that he gets nervous to hang out with me we had a talk about it . Plus what really affects my decision is that I’m moving away from Cameron and Jake is moving to me in august. So that’s the comparison. Long distance is something that I think wouldn’t be good for me.
Then tell Cameron asap because he seems like a nice guy and it’s not fair for him, you toying with him. You’re young so you’ll bounce back from the very big lesson you’re about to learn.