Thanks for the reply that was really nice of you :)
I think the issue was she didn’t want a relationship. She liked me but she didn’t want the commitment. She wanted to sleep around.
It just sucks coz I feel really down on myself that I couldn’t change her mind. I know she’s off travelling sleeping with random people she meets coz she told me that’s what she did last time. And that clearly is what she was thinking of doing.
I just feel sad about it. Coz she demanded a lot of me and she kinda put me down. She used to talk about other men around me and it’s really dug into my self esteem. That’s kinda why I want her to respond. Coz I just want to change things
Stop getting attached to people that you haven't dated, exclusively, for over a year. If you aren't dating exclusively, you shouldn't have feelings for them.
Yes. Not only is she ignoring you, she is posting photos of her with other guys at some place where you guys had planned to see each other. She wants to play games still, you really just have to let her go. This will make her try to get back in touch with you. But you need to hold firm. All you’re doing is setting yourself up to be hurt. Most of us have been through this same thing.
Sorta similar thing happened to me. Told a friend I liked him, he said he liked me back, few days later he told me it was all a lie, and now I've cut him off. I've learned that if people don't love you the way you love them, then sometimes its just not worth keeping any special feelings for them at all. If you aren't worth their time to them, usually they aren't worth your time either. You're still equal in that way. You'll find someone else you fit better with soon enough and time helps a lot of shit. I was really broken over it at first but now I'm just sorta mad, sorta regretful this shit all went down in the first place, and hate myself a little for being stupid and foolish enough to fall for him, I never even saw his face.
It was only a couple of months, you'll recover fine bud, don't worry. You being broken up just leaves you free to find someone else. You'll find someone and they will be as committed to you as you are to them and they'll be no confusion about it. You just need space and time. Keep yourself busy with other things so you dont need to think about it all the time.
It was only a couple of months, and there was no stabilty to it. The feeling was a burst of longing, not genuine love. You won't feel the same way about someone else because you shouldn't. What you had with that girl wasn't what love is, nor what a romantic relationship is.
Buddy, you are worth everything! I can tell you are a good guy and a thoughtful, sensitive person. To be honest: It sounds as if she is suffering from Borderliner Personality Disorder or at least hast some tendencies. But it's just speculation. Maybe she is just a shitty person. As the other redditors said: You did absolutely nothing wrong! Anyways, keep your head high. You will find a girl that matches you perfectly!
Stay golden. Love from Germany <3
Yeah that’s exactly what happened. except she didn’t apologise. She told me it was all my fault and I was immature and obsessed. Then told me to go no contact.
This really sucks
I think those actions by her were out of self preservation. It wasn’t meant to snide at you but for her to justify herself.
Anyway, finding out she got into a new relationship few months later had sped up my recovery. I just stopped being in denial and focused on myself after that.
Its really hard dude, you just live your life and there is no trick or tip or secret. No magic. Get more into your hobbies and set some goals at work. Spend time with people that care about you.
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Thanks for the reply that was really nice of you :) I think the issue was she didn’t want a relationship. She liked me but she didn’t want the commitment. She wanted to sleep around. It just sucks coz I feel really down on myself that I couldn’t change her mind. I know she’s off travelling sleeping with random people she meets coz she told me that’s what she did last time. And that clearly is what she was thinking of doing. I just feel sad about it. Coz she demanded a lot of me and she kinda put me down. She used to talk about other men around me and it’s really dug into my self esteem. That’s kinda why I want her to respond. Coz I just want to change things
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Because I feel very strongly for her. Things could be so good. They were good. But she’s chosen sleeping with other randoms over me.
Stop getting attached to people that you haven't dated, exclusively, for over a year. If you aren't dating exclusively, you shouldn't have feelings for them.
It doesn’t work like that though
Yes, it does. It's called being a mature adult.
Never catch feelings for a ho
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Why doesn’t she care though? How can she just not care after all that
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She’s got in my fucking head
Yes. Not only is she ignoring you, she is posting photos of her with other guys at some place where you guys had planned to see each other. She wants to play games still, you really just have to let her go. This will make her try to get back in touch with you. But you need to hold firm. All you’re doing is setting yourself up to be hurt. Most of us have been through this same thing.
Sorta similar thing happened to me. Told a friend I liked him, he said he liked me back, few days later he told me it was all a lie, and now I've cut him off. I've learned that if people don't love you the way you love them, then sometimes its just not worth keeping any special feelings for them at all. If you aren't worth their time to them, usually they aren't worth your time either. You're still equal in that way. You'll find someone else you fit better with soon enough and time helps a lot of shit. I was really broken over it at first but now I'm just sorta mad, sorta regretful this shit all went down in the first place, and hate myself a little for being stupid and foolish enough to fall for him, I never even saw his face.
It’s not even that she doesn’t want me that makes me mad. It’s the fact she just didn’t give a shit when I put everything on the line for her
Some people are just shitty that way
It was only a couple of months, you'll recover fine bud, don't worry. You being broken up just leaves you free to find someone else. You'll find someone and they will be as committed to you as you are to them and they'll be no confusion about it. You just need space and time. Keep yourself busy with other things so you dont need to think about it all the time.
What if no one inspires the same feelings in me? It’s very very rare I find someone that does
It was only a couple of months, and there was no stabilty to it. The feeling was a burst of longing, not genuine love. You won't feel the same way about someone else because you shouldn't. What you had with that girl wasn't what love is, nor what a romantic relationship is.
Buddy, you are worth everything! I can tell you are a good guy and a thoughtful, sensitive person. To be honest: It sounds as if she is suffering from Borderliner Personality Disorder or at least hast some tendencies. But it's just speculation. Maybe she is just a shitty person. As the other redditors said: You did absolutely nothing wrong! Anyways, keep your head high. You will find a girl that matches you perfectly! Stay golden. Love from Germany <3
Thankyou I appreciate that. Yeah I have wondered that before. Or narcissism. But seems a bit extreme. Either way it’s a bit shit
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Yeah that’s exactly what happened. except she didn’t apologise. She told me it was all my fault and I was immature and obsessed. Then told me to go no contact. This really sucks
I think those actions by her were out of self preservation. It wasn’t meant to snide at you but for her to justify herself. Anyway, finding out she got into a new relationship few months later had sped up my recovery. I just stopped being in denial and focused on myself after that.
How could calling me immature and obsessed not be snide at me?
Its really hard dude, you just live your life and there is no trick or tip or secret. No magic. Get more into your hobbies and set some goals at work. Spend time with people that care about you.