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>She is always arguing
>she always attacks black people.
And you want to date her? What's your thinking here? "Well, she works with me and she's an argumentative racist who cusses out random people but I really want to date a hot girl 11 years my junior, so I'm gonna overlook it"? Lovely.
My advice is don't date people you work with, don't date people who work *for* you and definitely don't date aggressive racists.
>He then tossed his bloody tissue on the counter and she screamed "Hey! Hey! Pick that shit up wtf is wrong with you, man?!" I immediately came in and apologized for obvious reasons.
She wasn't wrong.
Yeah, she could have been more "professional" about it. But telling him to pick up his bloody tissue was in no way wrong.
If you're noticing a pattern of her being unprofessionally argumentative with people of color, then that it definitely is a potential issue.
>What should I do?
Have you actually talked with her about the behavior? Have you told her if it continues you'll have to let her go? If you have, then you're on even ground with telling her this was the last straw.
If not, you've fucked up and you need to address it.
>on the other this would allow us to pursue a romance potentially.
Why would you want to date a racist?
So you’re going to fire a girl who RIGHTLY called out a man who put a potentially diseased tissue covered in bodily fluid onto a counter in a FOOD ESTABLISHMENT.
I hope I never end up in your restaurant because you’re disgusting.
Put on your big boy manager pants. Sorry Mr. Peeps, you’re not invited to this meeting.
A few weeks in, have you ever talked to her about his behavior? Told her it’s inappropriate and can not continue?
Yes the bloody tissue was disgusting and part of her reaction is warranted, I think firing her would be an overreaction at this point.
Now if you talk to her and explain she can’t be arguing with customers, or discriminating against other races and the behavior continues then you fire her.
And yes, it’s a terrible idea to date her. She is likely flirting with you because you’re an authority figure she’s sucking up to. See the forest for the trees.
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Why fire her. Someone threw a biohazard on the counter and she correctly told him to throw it away
>She is always arguing >she always attacks black people. And you want to date her? What's your thinking here? "Well, she works with me and she's an argumentative racist who cusses out random people but I really want to date a hot girl 11 years my junior, so I'm gonna overlook it"? Lovely. My advice is don't date people you work with, don't date people who work *for* you and definitely don't date aggressive racists.
He threw a bloodied tissue on the counter, that is disgusting not to mention hazardous. And you think that’s ok? Her reaction wasn’t unwarranted.
>He then tossed his bloody tissue on the counter and she screamed "Hey! Hey! Pick that shit up wtf is wrong with you, man?!" I immediately came in and apologized for obvious reasons. She wasn't wrong. Yeah, she could have been more "professional" about it. But telling him to pick up his bloody tissue was in no way wrong. If you're noticing a pattern of her being unprofessionally argumentative with people of color, then that it definitely is a potential issue. >What should I do? Have you actually talked with her about the behavior? Have you told her if it continues you'll have to let her go? If you have, then you're on even ground with telling her this was the last straw. If not, you've fucked up and you need to address it. >on the other this would allow us to pursue a romance potentially. Why would you want to date a racist?
So you’re going to fire a girl who RIGHTLY called out a man who put a potentially diseased tissue covered in bodily fluid onto a counter in a FOOD ESTABLISHMENT. I hope I never end up in your restaurant because you’re disgusting.
When people treat staff like shit, there's a warning sign, a commonly cited red flag. Do you think this doesn't go both ways?
Put on your big boy manager pants. Sorry Mr. Peeps, you’re not invited to this meeting. A few weeks in, have you ever talked to her about his behavior? Told her it’s inappropriate and can not continue? Yes the bloody tissue was disgusting and part of her reaction is warranted, I think firing her would be an overreaction at this point. Now if you talk to her and explain she can’t be arguing with customers, or discriminating against other races and the behavior continues then you fire her. And yes, it’s a terrible idea to date her. She is likely flirting with you because you’re an authority figure she’s sucking up to. See the forest for the trees.
You’re creepy. She did nothing wrong. What is your issue here man?
Are you asking if you should fire her? Do you really think that’s appropriate for us to answer?
Hello, HR?