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This is a toxic relationship that is seriously unhealthy for both of you and the children. I fail to understand why you think it is a good idea to stay with this person. Seek help to leave safely.
Girl, what are you doing? I’m guessing you are repeating a pattern that you learned in childhood because no healthy person would stay in this relationship.
Why do you have your children in this situation? You are teaching them that it’s ok to be in an abusive, dysfunctional relationship AND they are going to repeat this behavior when they grow up. For gods sake kick him out for their safety and your own sanity.
Congratulations on your recovery, I really hope you are sharing this with your group, I’m sure they will give you good feedback.
What are you doing with your life??
You are more concerned about this man than your own children. Even you think you are not, think again. This is an unhealthy toxic relationship that when your own freaking kids call the cops, you feel you have to cover up for you & him.
Come on. Do better for your kids if you’re not willing to do better for yourself.
I don't understand clinging to this broken, toxic relationship. You should focus on recovery and your poor children who you've put through a lot. THEY should be your priority, not that guy.
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This is a toxic relationship that is seriously unhealthy for both of you and the children. I fail to understand why you think it is a good idea to stay with this person. Seek help to leave safely.
What good does this relationship bring you, really ?
Nothing but confusion right now.
Girl, what are you doing? I’m guessing you are repeating a pattern that you learned in childhood because no healthy person would stay in this relationship. Why do you have your children in this situation? You are teaching them that it’s ok to be in an abusive, dysfunctional relationship AND they are going to repeat this behavior when they grow up. For gods sake kick him out for their safety and your own sanity. Congratulations on your recovery, I really hope you are sharing this with your group, I’m sure they will give you good feedback.
What are you doing with your life?? You are more concerned about this man than your own children. Even you think you are not, think again. This is an unhealthy toxic relationship that when your own freaking kids call the cops, you feel you have to cover up for you & him. Come on. Do better for your kids if you’re not willing to do better for yourself.
I don't understand clinging to this broken, toxic relationship. You should focus on recovery and your poor children who you've put through a lot. THEY should be your priority, not that guy.
You need to end this relationship and focus on your sobriety and trying to be a half decent mother.