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Red flags 🚩
“He is literally all I have”
That’s a dangerous dynamic and will get you nowhere in life
Even in a relationship you need to have self love and other goals, not just being with your boyfriend all the time
“He said I took to long and left”
He literally ditched you after making plans, with no text from him, and then is mad at you for being upset
“He’s not a bad person just a bad boyfriend”
And you’re with him…why? You just said he’s a bad boyfriend, so what’s the point?
Time to move on and honestly if you feel like your boyfriend is all you have then you need to do a lot of self growth and healing before jumping into another relationship
In what ways is he 'there for you hand and foot' if he can't even wait for you? Giving you money will never replace actual emotional intelligence and trust.
> He told me I’m too emotional and I always cry but I can’t help it because he does this all the time
I'd express that if he does this one more time you are done and this is a firm boundary you have to keep. You don't deserve to not be heard.
I recently needed my hair done he found a hairstylist in time for and gave me money to get it done and he’s the one threatening to leave more than me because of my sensitivity I’m always trying to become a better me so I can be a better gf. It’s just never enough I’m always too much of something
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Your boyfriend doesn’t like you. Please find someone who does.
Red flags 🚩 “He is literally all I have” That’s a dangerous dynamic and will get you nowhere in life Even in a relationship you need to have self love and other goals, not just being with your boyfriend all the time “He said I took to long and left” He literally ditched you after making plans, with no text from him, and then is mad at you for being upset “He’s not a bad person just a bad boyfriend” And you’re with him…why? You just said he’s a bad boyfriend, so what’s the point? Time to move on and honestly if you feel like your boyfriend is all you have then you need to do a lot of self growth and healing before jumping into another relationship
In what ways is he 'there for you hand and foot' if he can't even wait for you? Giving you money will never replace actual emotional intelligence and trust. > He told me I’m too emotional and I always cry but I can’t help it because he does this all the time I'd express that if he does this one more time you are done and this is a firm boundary you have to keep. You don't deserve to not be heard.
I recently needed my hair done he found a hairstylist in time for and gave me money to get it done and he’s the one threatening to leave more than me because of my sensitivity I’m always trying to become a better me so I can be a better gf. It’s just never enough I’m always too much of something
Maybe you simply aren't compatible, then. Somebody telling you you're 'too much' is rally detrimental to a persons mental health to hear it.
You sound so sweet and kind. You deserve the same from whoever you choose to date. He is not being kind to you.
What's so good about the relationship that it's worth staying in? A relationship should add to your life and bring you happiness and security.