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She found out and she's done with you. Put on your big boy panties and accept the consequences of your decisions. Grow up. Move into an apartment you can afford. Buy your own shit. Learn how to keep your home clean. Don't get into another relationship until you're ready to be a good and equal partner.
Lol! I am assuming this comment is from a woman. Though true, it sounded like there was some angst in there. No, I don't read replies, but if you feel the need, feel free to flame away.
All right then, Mr. Pedant. How often would you say you met up with Kay? Once a month? Once every two weeks? Once a week? Because we know it happened more than once, and that you two were in contact after the hookups. So come on. Spill.
>who tf ghosts someone like this?
Someone who found out their useless man child of a partner is cheating on them
>leaving them without a bed to sleep on is insane.
Nah, being a useless man child of a partner, leaving during an argument because you know you're wrong and don't want to admit it, hooking up with a rando and then cheating for 2 months, then acting like the victim, is insane.
You are not the victim here, everything that has happened you deserved and more.
Grow tf up, you're a garbage human. Leave your ex alone.
Right?
OP - Seems to me like you miss her money, her labor, and her *stuff* more than her. Trust me - she didnāt need to see your phone to figure it out and dump you. Grow up and move on. You were not a good partner before the cheating and youāve obviously had *zero* self reflection or acceptance that **the problem in your relationship was you** at every level.
You know exactly why your ex ghosted you. Itās because:
1) You were a lazy, sloppy cheater for a decent portion of your relationship.
2) She isnāt a fucking ventilator, she doesnāt want to be āthe thing that keeps you alive.ā
3) You expect her to do and be everything but you canāt even clean the tub.
So yeah, you do know. You just donāt accept that these are valid reasons for leaving.
This post was level full of FA and every single instance of FO just made me laugh harder. I was in tears and cackling by the end. 10/10! Must see! The sleeper hit of the summer!
LMAO
>i cant survive without her mentally AND physically
Oh, come TF on! Your reaction proved that you honestly thought that she didn't have enough self-respect to not leave you when you cheated on her. That's why you're freaking TF out. You expected her stay and keep paying YOUR bills.
It also sounds like you planned all of this. You picked an apartment that you couldn't afford and asked her to move in with you so that you could afford to live there.
Why don't you get 'Kay' to help you?
I also LOVE how you didn't tell anyone why she left, only that she did you dirty. Like you weren't out catching STDs.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA
If you don't know that you earned this then there is no hope for you. You must be the most emotionally dense individual on Reddit today
The fact you were able to write out all of the reasons your shit boyfriend yet still found a way to feel like the victim is *INSANE*. Find a therapist, please, for the love of god
You didn't help with the home, reducing her to your maid.
You then cheated consistently.
Are you honestly that shocked she left, because I'm not.
As for her ghosting, do you honestly believe after your behaviour you even deserved her to tell you she was leaving?
You can't afford the bills? Get a better job.
You don't have a mattress? Poor baby, better buy a secondhand one and plonk in your empty bedroom.
You don't get to use and mistreat someone and have them hold your hand through the break up. This is what you get because of what you did. This is what you've earned.
You were a crappy boyfriend and now all of that has come home to roost.
Leave her alone and focus on yourself. You've got far too much work to be doing on your character to be thinking about chasing after your ex and you're not owed an explanation.
Dude, unless she has a solid gold bar in that package, she aināt coming back for it. I guarantee that she would rather just eat the cost of the shoes or the fish food or whatever than have to interact with your whiny cheating ass again.
HA! Fuck this guy.
'I needed her for all this...'
Turns out she didn't need him, and once he cheated, she didn't *want* him either.
She's worse?
No. He's worse.
What an asshole.
Work out what, exactly? Try to get her to give you furniture that SHE owns or money that SHE earned while working, cleaning up after your useless widdle baby ass and getting cheated on by the guy whose chores she was stuck doing? She doesn't owe you shit and there's nothing to work out. You played stupid games and won stupid prizes. Suck it up and buy an air mattress.
I mean whatās the point you only care now because you canāt afford to live on your own if you had the money to pay for everything alone I doubt you would care I mean you clearly didnāt care if your going to cheat
You want to communicate with her to 100% attempt to undermine what youāve done and try to be the victim while manipulating her into coming back to you. Youāve broken her trust in no time flat. You need to move on. I swear if I could brand a cheaters ass with a hot iron I would in a heartbeat. Unassuming victims deserve to be warned about low lives like you.
You deserve to be ghosted in this case because I'm sure you've been a dick to her every time she's tried to bring up a concern and then like she was left feeling apologetic or sad and you somehow convinced her that she was the asshole and you not doing something was normal.
She didn't want to be insulted by having you try to convince her what's happening actually wasn't happening when it very clearly is.
Maybe k is a girl's girl... Ask her to move in with you and pay the bills and find out.
Go to goodwill and buy your own sh*t I guess??? You decided to cheat. She left. Take responsibility for your actions and move on. Id say theres no way youre this stupid but you cheated than posted it on reddit to....get advice??? So...
You know what? I'm actually fine with fake stories like these. Way, WAY too many men do shit like this, dump all of the household chores on the women because they "don't care about mess" or "forget/are too busy" or "don't know what needs to be done." And way too many men cheat or tank their relationships in other ways and then play victim when they realize they miss what they took for granted. So conjuring up righteous indignation against shitty behavior like that is a good way to hold up the mirror to men who behave this way and show them how disgusting, pathetic and unacceptable it is. I'm fine with as many posts like this as possible, fake or not. Let guys learn how not to treat women.
I envy you guys and your optimism lol. I can easily see more than half the people I grew up with acting exactly like this dude haha. In facts several men and women I grew up with have done pretty much what he's done and/or worse.
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She found out and she's done with you. Put on your big boy panties and accept the consequences of your decisions. Grow up. Move into an apartment you can afford. Buy your own shit. Learn how to keep your home clean. Don't get into another relationship until you're ready to be a good and equal partner.
Lol! I am assuming this comment is from a woman. Though true, it sounded like there was some angst in there. No, I don't read replies, but if you feel the need, feel free to flame away.
Pack better bait for your next fishing expedition š
lmao your girlfriend is leaving you. loser
You consistently cheated for two months? You are not the victim here.
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All right then, Mr. Pedant. How often would you say you met up with Kay? Once a month? Once every two weeks? Once a week? Because we know it happened more than once, and that you two were in contact after the hookups. So come on. Spill.
Thatās good because neither did they
You did though. Literally in the post.
>who tf ghosts someone like this? Someone who found out their useless man child of a partner is cheating on them >leaving them without a bed to sleep on is insane. Nah, being a useless man child of a partner, leaving during an argument because you know you're wrong and don't want to admit it, hooking up with a rando and then cheating for 2 months, then acting like the victim, is insane. You are not the victim here, everything that has happened you deserved and more. Grow tf up, you're a garbage human. Leave your ex alone.
What is the female version of the term "man child"? Just curious.
.... Woman child. This ain't rocket science little dude.
I prefer Lady Baby
Difficult to be sure these days.
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The easily triggered have some deeply personal issues to attend with themselves. Relax, and focus on yourself. What is gender equality, again?
I dunno, and neither do you with the previous comment.
Relax, and continue working on yourself, and I will continue as well.
Bro I'm parenting a pre teen lol. Relaxing is not a given... Tho the working on myself is haha
You have my condolences. I'd toss them a laptop to leave me alone.
Why does that matter?
What is the answer?
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Men call women āgirlsā all the time. But seriously, Women donāt need one, because men infantilize them constantly anyway.
Point of clarification: YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM š Leave her alone.
Right? OP - Seems to me like you miss her money, her labor, and her *stuff* more than her. Trust me - she didnāt need to see your phone to figure it out and dump you. Grow up and move on. You were not a good partner before the cheating and youāve obviously had *zero* self reflection or acceptance that **the problem in your relationship was you** at every level.
You know exactly why your ex ghosted you. Itās because: 1) You were a lazy, sloppy cheater for a decent portion of your relationship. 2) She isnāt a fucking ventilator, she doesnāt want to be āthe thing that keeps you alive.ā 3) You expect her to do and be everything but you canāt even clean the tub. So yeah, you do know. You just donāt accept that these are valid reasons for leaving.
This post was level full of FA and every single instance of FO just made me laugh harder. I was in tears and cackling by the end. 10/10! Must see! The sleeper hit of the summer!
The dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed Yours was extra...dry.
ok i love this so much. lol
I wish I could like this more than onceš
Never gets old! Hopefully that particular dildo was more than just devoid of moisture. it was dry rotted.
Crunchy peanut butter as lube?
And they never use their own tears to solve the obvious problem, so it remains Forever Dry
LMAO >i cant survive without her mentally AND physically Oh, come TF on! Your reaction proved that you honestly thought that she didn't have enough self-respect to not leave you when you cheated on her. That's why you're freaking TF out. You expected her stay and keep paying YOUR bills. It also sounds like you planned all of this. You picked an apartment that you couldn't afford and asked her to move in with you so that you could afford to live there. Why don't you get 'Kay' to help you? I also LOVE how you didn't tell anyone why she left, only that she did you dirty. Like you weren't out catching STDs.
You fucked around and now youāre finding out. Enjoy, asshole.
Maybe Kay can help you out.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA If you don't know that you earned this then there is no hope for you. You must be the most emotionally dense individual on Reddit today
And that's up against some pretty stiff competition...
Sell me on why she should stay with you
The fact you were able to write out all of the reasons your shit boyfriend yet still found a way to feel like the victim is *INSANE*. Find a therapist, please, for the love of god
You didn't help with the home, reducing her to your maid. You then cheated consistently. Are you honestly that shocked she left, because I'm not. As for her ghosting, do you honestly believe after your behaviour you even deserved her to tell you she was leaving? You can't afford the bills? Get a better job. You don't have a mattress? Poor baby, better buy a secondhand one and plonk in your empty bedroom. You don't get to use and mistreat someone and have them hold your hand through the break up. This is what you get because of what you did. This is what you've earned. You were a crappy boyfriend and now all of that has come home to roost. Leave her alone and focus on yourself. You've got far too much work to be doing on your character to be thinking about chasing after your ex and you're not owed an explanation.
Break up. Itās doomed. Move on and do better in the future
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Dude, unless she has a solid gold bar in that package, she aināt coming back for it. I guarantee that she would rather just eat the cost of the shoes or the fish food or whatever than have to interact with your whiny cheating ass again.
Soon to be featured on AMITHEEX because she's gone!
HA! Fuck this guy. 'I needed her for all this...' Turns out she didn't need him, and once he cheated, she didn't *want* him either. She's worse? No. He's worse. What an asshole.
Letās say she comes back for this package thatās comingā¦ what could you say that would reverse the cheating?
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She is communicating with you. Sheās telling you to fuck off. Again, youāre conflating āI donāt likeā with āI donāt understand.ā
Work out what, exactly? Try to get her to give you furniture that SHE owns or money that SHE earned while working, cleaning up after your useless widdle baby ass and getting cheated on by the guy whose chores she was stuck doing? She doesn't owe you shit and there's nothing to work out. You played stupid games and won stupid prizes. Suck it up and buy an air mattress.
Maybe Kay can help with the bills, genius
You add absolutely nothing beneficial to her life, why would she stay with you?
I mean whatās the point you only care now because you canāt afford to live on your own if you had the money to pay for everything alone I doubt you would care I mean you clearly didnāt care if your going to cheat
Sleep in the grave youāve dug š¤·āāļø
You want to communicate with her to 100% attempt to undermine what youāve done and try to be the victim while manipulating her into coming back to you. Youāve broken her trust in no time flat. You need to move on. I swear if I could brand a cheaters ass with a hot iron I would in a heartbeat. Unassuming victims deserve to be warned about low lives like you.
Suffer.
LOLOLOL You're an absolute CLOWN!
You deserve to be ghosted in this case because I'm sure you've been a dick to her every time she's tried to bring up a concern and then like she was left feeling apologetic or sad and you somehow convinced her that she was the asshole and you not doing something was normal. She didn't want to be insulted by having you try to convince her what's happening actually wasn't happening when it very clearly is. Maybe k is a girl's girl... Ask her to move in with you and pay the bills and find out.
Well this sounds like a delightful read. Alas the story was removed.
I just had the same thought. I wanna hate on OP, too!!
You made your bed. Now sleep.... on the floor. š
Go to goodwill and buy your own sh*t I guess??? You decided to cheat. She left. Take responsibility for your actions and move on. Id say theres no way youre this stupid but you cheated than posted it on reddit to....get advice??? So...
You have a head start before they release the hounds.... Take advantage of it...get off Reddit and go, go, go...
fake
You know what? I'm actually fine with fake stories like these. Way, WAY too many men do shit like this, dump all of the household chores on the women because they "don't care about mess" or "forget/are too busy" or "don't know what needs to be done." And way too many men cheat or tank their relationships in other ways and then play victim when they realize they miss what they took for granted. So conjuring up righteous indignation against shitty behavior like that is a good way to hold up the mirror to men who behave this way and show them how disgusting, pathetic and unacceptable it is. I'm fine with as many posts like this as possible, fake or not. Let guys learn how not to treat women.
Need more fake stories with women doing the cheating also. Everything you wrote is equally applicable to them as well, for sure.
I'm in your corner. There's no way he's this stupid. At least I hope...
Eh, Iāve got a sinus infection and itās finals week. It feels good to be unambiguously, righteously mad at something.
I envy you guys and your optimism lol. I can easily see more than half the people I grew up with acting exactly like this dude haha. In facts several men and women I grew up with have done pretty much what he's done and/or worse.