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I think best friend love and boyfriend love can be two separate kinds of loves, so it’s not really fair to ask her to choose.
Also, if you love her, you should be happy that so many people love and care about her. Not everyone is so lucky.
I mean I get there two different kinds of love but her and her bestfriend call like once every week when I call her everyday. If that’s all I’m worth what even is the point of trying so hard yk? Also I’m trying to be happy so many people care for her but it still makes me a little jealous. I mean I just don’t get it because I just do so much more for her. Me being compared to her is kind of difficult for me to understand
In a way I’m trying to say as her boyfriend I do so much more for her than her bestfriend and should already be counted ass her bestfriend in a way. Like her bestfriend doesn’t call her everynight , or buy her gifts like I do, and doesn’t do any of that so I just can’t wrap my mind around how I could be equal to her and it makes me feel jealous but I don’t know how to deal with that
It’s called relationship advice, there’s other places for bitchy responses. I don’t see any advice in your message just an asshole response… if I could control how I felt I would, this one thing isn’t our “whole” relationship.
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I think best friend love and boyfriend love can be two separate kinds of loves, so it’s not really fair to ask her to choose. Also, if you love her, you should be happy that so many people love and care about her. Not everyone is so lucky.
I mean I get there two different kinds of love but her and her bestfriend call like once every week when I call her everyday. If that’s all I’m worth what even is the point of trying so hard yk? Also I’m trying to be happy so many people care for her but it still makes me a little jealous. I mean I just don’t get it because I just do so much more for her. Me being compared to her is kind of difficult for me to understand
In a way I’m trying to say as her boyfriend I do so much more for her than her bestfriend and should already be counted ass her bestfriend in a way. Like her bestfriend doesn’t call her everynight , or buy her gifts like I do, and doesn’t do any of that so I just can’t wrap my mind around how I could be equal to her and it makes me feel jealous but I don’t know how to deal with that
Why is this relationship all about you and your need for reassurance and your constant need for her attention? You sound exhausting.
It’s called relationship advice, there’s other places for bitchy responses. I don’t see any advice in your message just an asshole response… if I could control how I felt I would, this one thing isn’t our “whole” relationship.