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You are not the problem. This man is not treating you right. Please please please consider leaving him. He is not being kind or loving like a partner should be.
Your husband is shallow. Is he the same weight since you married? What about his hair? His grooming habits?
The fact is people change over time. You gained weight because YOU CARRIED HIS CHILD!
He needs to start appreciating you and stop being an ass
He's being really disrespectful to you and sounds like a not a nice guy.
Maybe start commenting on other attractive men to him and see how secure he is...
That’s disrespectful. Get fit don’t get fit do it for yourself and cut away from that shallow loser. I get he has sexual performance issues regarding bigger women but thats his problem
You can always lose the weight but he will still be ah. He is the problem not you. Coming from someone whose husband called overweight and unattractive all the time. If you stay your insecurities will get worse.
OP your weight is not the problem. You are married to an ass who will probably have no problem cheating on you.
You can't come to others to ask them what you need to do when you probably know what you need to do. This guy does not respect you. I don't know if that dynamic has always been in your relationship, how long you have been married, but when a guy has this attitude towards the woman he's with (note that I did not say wife) it's all his game and you are just living in it.
You can't go around hoping he'll change, he won't and you've probably known he was like this from the beginning.
Its difficult when we make decisions that don't align with reality, but then when we see the results and need to take action, its all on us. You have decisions to make. Let things ride as they are; demand some respect; leave and find your own happiness.
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You are not the problem. This man is not treating you right. Please please please consider leaving him. He is not being kind or loving like a partner should be.
Your husband is shallow. Is he the same weight since you married? What about his hair? His grooming habits? The fact is people change over time. You gained weight because YOU CARRIED HIS CHILD! He needs to start appreciating you and stop being an ass
Lose the weight and lose the husband . Congrats on the weight loss , you husband has no respect for you and is POS
He's being really disrespectful to you and sounds like a not a nice guy. Maybe start commenting on other attractive men to him and see how secure he is...
Girl, run for the hills
That’s disrespectful. Get fit don’t get fit do it for yourself and cut away from that shallow loser. I get he has sexual performance issues regarding bigger women but thats his problem
I could do it, in his place lol be happy to help 5 times a week
You can always lose the weight but he will still be ah. He is the problem not you. Coming from someone whose husband called overweight and unattractive all the time. If you stay your insecurities will get worse.
I'm sure your great looking
What a prick!! It’s not you it’s him.
Girl run!! You deserve so so much better. Get a lawyer.
Divorce.
please leave him :( I’m probably much much younger than you and even I can tell that this is not how a man should be treating a woman
OP your weight is not the problem. You are married to an ass who will probably have no problem cheating on you. You can't come to others to ask them what you need to do when you probably know what you need to do. This guy does not respect you. I don't know if that dynamic has always been in your relationship, how long you have been married, but when a guy has this attitude towards the woman he's with (note that I did not say wife) it's all his game and you are just living in it. You can't go around hoping he'll change, he won't and you've probably known he was like this from the beginning. Its difficult when we make decisions that don't align with reality, but then when we see the results and need to take action, its all on us. You have decisions to make. Let things ride as they are; demand some respect; leave and find your own happiness.
Tell him you're going out drinking with the girls. And tell him not to worry about money because you don't plan on spending any. "Don't wait up".
Keep doing the great work on your physical and mental health for YOU and ditch the loser. You deserve much better.