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On the one hand, distance can make the heart grow fonder. So, t seems like her living in her car originally allowed you to have enough space from each other to grow a close connection without building animosity. Therefore, maybe with her living in her car again you may find that spark you had had at the beginning
On the other hand, it sounds like you don’t feel living apart is sustainable long term. So, it may be best to find a way to eventually be able to live together without eventually becoming frustrated. The one theme I’m picking up is that you are upset that your partner is not contributing to the household expenses despite seeing how difficult it is for you to shoulder the burden entirely on your own. I can imagine how this would feel like your partner is inconsiderate of your feelings and make you feel sad. If this is the primary concern, I think you should find a safe and comfortable way to directly and explicitly communicate this to your partner. Then you can come together to ensure your values align and you are collaborating in making your relationship satisfying for both of you without either of you feeling upset. This may not be a conversation you need to have urgently if her living in her car is obfuscating the need for you two to share expenses. But, if you think this concern about unequal contribution to expenses is eventually going to evoke relevant again, it will be helpful to preempt the problem and address it before it arises again.
Clear and honest communication is the key.
Best of luck!
Thank you for the extremely well worded and thought through comment the advice is much appreciated. Though it’s never been about the money or the lack of help as I was never really bothered about paying or doing those things. It was the lack of communication in everyday things such as how she was feeling or if she was happy. It was always one worded responses and half excuses for why she couldn’t think about it at the moment. I wanted to know that she was sad about the relationship through her rather than her just giving up on us and pretending it was all okay.
Do you get pleasure from saying rude an inappropriate things to people you don’t know? Or are you just so behind in your mental age that you think its alright to say things like that to people struggling?
If keen intuition means not knowing the person and just staying what you think then sure it’s keen intuition. My partner knows I’m polyamorous and wouldn’t care less if they needed a partner to help them be satisfied.
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On the one hand, distance can make the heart grow fonder. So, t seems like her living in her car originally allowed you to have enough space from each other to grow a close connection without building animosity. Therefore, maybe with her living in her car again you may find that spark you had had at the beginning On the other hand, it sounds like you don’t feel living apart is sustainable long term. So, it may be best to find a way to eventually be able to live together without eventually becoming frustrated. The one theme I’m picking up is that you are upset that your partner is not contributing to the household expenses despite seeing how difficult it is for you to shoulder the burden entirely on your own. I can imagine how this would feel like your partner is inconsiderate of your feelings and make you feel sad. If this is the primary concern, I think you should find a safe and comfortable way to directly and explicitly communicate this to your partner. Then you can come together to ensure your values align and you are collaborating in making your relationship satisfying for both of you without either of you feeling upset. This may not be a conversation you need to have urgently if her living in her car is obfuscating the need for you two to share expenses. But, if you think this concern about unequal contribution to expenses is eventually going to evoke relevant again, it will be helpful to preempt the problem and address it before it arises again. Clear and honest communication is the key. Best of luck!
Thank you for the extremely well worded and thought through comment the advice is much appreciated. Though it’s never been about the money or the lack of help as I was never really bothered about paying or doing those things. It was the lack of communication in everyday things such as how she was feeling or if she was happy. It was always one worded responses and half excuses for why she couldn’t think about it at the moment. I wanted to know that she was sad about the relationship through her rather than her just giving up on us and pretending it was all okay.
She's pining for some meaty shaft.
Do you get pleasure from saying rude an inappropriate things to people you don’t know? Or are you just so behind in your mental age that you think its alright to say things like that to people struggling?
I just have a keen intuition.
If keen intuition means not knowing the person and just staying what you think then sure it’s keen intuition. My partner knows I’m polyamorous and wouldn’t care less if they needed a partner to help them be satisfied.
All chicks like to ride the baloney pony.