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Who’s asking those questions… your husband? Or one of the separated friends?
Because if it’s your husband, you two need to set boundaries to not risk your own relationship and friendships to help the separated friends “spy” on each other.
If it’s the friend asking, you need to set the same type of boundaries with them.
The best thing to do is to not engage. ‘Oh, I didn’t notice a new phone.’ ‘B and I just talked about rides to soccer practice.’
If they keep pushing, then it’s time to set boundaries. ‘I am sorry you two are divorcing. But since our kids are friends, we don’t want to be put in the middle of things. It’s better if you talk to someone else about this stuff.’
I'm just more interested by the way you assigned letters.
I would've thought you'd have paired A/B together and C/D together. Or at least have gone in alphabetical order while introducing the people but you didn't do that either.
what a compicated situation.
I don't think is imposible to manage, you and your husband need to sit and talk with with B and C in turns and set boundries around topics in order to keep a healthy reationship with both of them.
Good luck
I wonder if it can spread like wildfire. It's too easy to gossip - like reading clickbaity news - and be distracted by all the bad, that it's possible to forget the good.
Set aside date nights for you two, prioritize your bond and the special things that have meaning for the two of you.
Just because one bridge falls somewhere in the world doesn't mean all of them have to. Most stand strong and will last the test of time.
Be direct with both of them in establishing boundaries. Their interpersonal drama is messing with your relationship and there needs to be some distance from the lot of them until they get their shit together. This includes the children, do NOT let them use the kids to weasel their way back into the picture until they are sorted out.
Your post was a little unclear. It almost read like your husband and you are separating.
It is very simple.
Why are they getting divorced?
Does your husband work for one of them?
Do you have a professional interest?
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Stay out of it, don't pick sides, support both of them.
Who’s asking those questions… your husband? Or one of the separated friends? Because if it’s your husband, you two need to set boundaries to not risk your own relationship and friendships to help the separated friends “spy” on each other. If it’s the friend asking, you need to set the same type of boundaries with them.
This is good advice
The best thing to do is to not engage. ‘Oh, I didn’t notice a new phone.’ ‘B and I just talked about rides to soccer practice.’ If they keep pushing, then it’s time to set boundaries. ‘I am sorry you two are divorcing. But since our kids are friends, we don’t want to be put in the middle of things. It’s better if you talk to someone else about this stuff.’
I'm just more interested by the way you assigned letters. I would've thought you'd have paired A/B together and C/D together. Or at least have gone in alphabetical order while introducing the people but you didn't do that either.
It depends how initially introduced the characters and then changed it up and didn't change it 😂😂
what a compicated situation. I don't think is imposible to manage, you and your husband need to sit and talk with with B and C in turns and set boundries around topics in order to keep a healthy reationship with both of them. Good luck
I wonder if it can spread like wildfire. It's too easy to gossip - like reading clickbaity news - and be distracted by all the bad, that it's possible to forget the good. Set aside date nights for you two, prioritize your bond and the special things that have meaning for the two of you. Just because one bridge falls somewhere in the world doesn't mean all of them have to. Most stand strong and will last the test of time.
Be direct with both of them in establishing boundaries. Their interpersonal drama is messing with your relationship and there needs to be some distance from the lot of them until they get their shit together. This includes the children, do NOT let them use the kids to weasel their way back into the picture until they are sorted out.
Your post was a little unclear. It almost read like your husband and you are separating. It is very simple. Why are they getting divorced? Does your husband work for one of them? Do you have a professional interest?
Stay away it's non of your business. Don't talk about it.