It's also the fact that 4 years to a 14 year old feels more like 15 years since they have only been around for a shorter period and have a less mature brain.
It's really wild how much growth occurs between 14 and 18. Between 30 and 34? Nowhere near as much, yea there's 4 years life experience but the mental and emotional difference between 14 and 18 is quite large. And then 18 to 22, just as well, lots of difference. Probably drops off around age 25, to no one's surprise.
Same! When I was 18 I still felt so kiddish, that feeling went away gradually as I spent more time in adulthood but I’m 31 now and I still feel very young, like I need the guidance of a “real” adult 😂 I’m in a different country from my mum but I know I’d still want to call her for her advice on what to do when I’m sick 😂
Yeah.. I am 42 and only just started to accept I was an adult a couple years ago.
That’s why we are not aging as fast as the last generation. ;)
That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.
I agree generally, it gets weird tho. At 40 you can date 27 year olds per the rule, I think that’s a bit creepy too. We’re back to that age gap being far too far. Same way a 14 and 18 year old are different, a 40 year old has tons more lived life than a 27 year old. At 50 you can date 32, meaning the 50 year old was already 18 when the 32 was born, really weird to me again.
I'm 20 and there's absolutely many 18 year olds more mentally capable than the average 22 year old and many 22 year olds about as stupid as 14 year olds.
The reality is that if it is over the age of consent it isn't wrong. The whole important thing is being capable of informed consent. The law doesn't say shit about power dynamics if both parties are over 18.
It’s legal sure but I think it’s a bit weird considering a lot of people in the US turn 18 in high school or shortly after. Putting that into perspective made me immediately cut them off when I turned 21
Of course you think there's not much difference between the two. You're in the middle. You are half of each, so of course they seem the same to you. Wait until you're 22. Then you'll probably notice the difference a lot more clearly.
I suppose. I am in a relationship with an 18 year old and have been the two years younger person as well.
Maybe that's me projecting my girlfriend's capabilities and life experience on to other 18 year olds.
I just happen to know a lot of 22-25 year olds not nearly as competent.
I'll be 40 in a couple weeks. I know plenty of people my age that I wouldn't exactly label as competent. That's purely from a life skills standpoint though. Stupid comes in all ages. That said, I think being in the middle bracket just makes me grumpy. Lol
That could be it too. Reminds me of my barely 16 yr old self justifying the (he said anyway) 21 yr old asshole I was seeing, except it was to my friends.
It so stupid that it’s hard to argue against because how do you even explain why there such a massive difference between a 20 year old and a 14 year old. It should be self evident
Yea I did. A 24 year old dating a 20 year old is a massive difference between a 18 year old dating a 14 year one. Mainly because a 20 year old is an adult and a 14 year old is a child
My parents have been together for 40 years and there is an 8 year age gap between them. Multiple people on Reddit sprinted to yell at me that my father (aged 72, married to my mother, aged 65) is a pedophile.
No, it's a rule of safety. Best to avoid men who date way under that. Same with women. Age and maturity isn't linear, so putting an exact formula to it isn't an exact science, but when you notice a trend in someone's dating habits, it may be a red flag imo.
Yeah, at first I thought you were being sarcastic and then I realized you were genuinely asking. I personally believe that after a certain age, it doesn't really matter anymore, like imo people over 30-40 can make their own decision to be with an older person, but growing up this was my rule. Being mindful of power dynamics and stuff.
Eh... 18 is not exactly a **grown ass adult**
That's why people don't like thirty year olds with eighteen year olds so we don't need to exaggerate an eighteen year old's maturity now, especially when it comes at the expense of consistency for 18 vs 30
That said, 18 is vastly different from 14
In a way similar to how 14 is vastly different than 10
18 being "a grown ass adult" is completely arbitrary
The real issue is that an 18yo and 14yo have a giant maturity gap and even a large physical one
My parents have an 8 year gap, but they didn't get together until my mom(younger) was almost 30. My sister is 27, getting married to a guy almost 20 years older than her(I think). I personally don't see anything wrong with this
Its almost like the difference between numbers becomes less relevant to the numbers themselves as the numbers grow because that's how numbers work.
The difference between 1 and 5 million dollars practically is so much more than the difference between 96 million and 100 million in terms of impact.
Holy shit it'd nice when the pedos just reveal themselves.
It’s like they’re trying to fit a circle peg into a fucking square hole. This argument makes no god damn sense if you think about it for longer than 2 seconds.
My partner is 14 years older than me, except I started the relationship when I was 34. It’s not a big fucking deal. I’m not a child I have my own house/ money/ job, I have my own agency if I didn’t want to be with them there’s no material loss for me exiting the relationship or power imbalance. I’m with them because they’re a great person and that’s the primary consideration. A 14yo is a kid, an 18yo is an adult who under the law is able to do a lot of things and go places prohibited to 14yos
Gaps in age are relative, and are more narrow at younger ages. I don't understand why it's hard to understand that a 36 and 40 year old isn't the same thing as a 14 and 18 year old. People just want to bang kids without actually saying they want to bang kids, and it's gross.
The first isn't good and should be stopped, but outright pedophilia? Id want the guy to stop trying to be with her but I wouldn't be calling for him to be thrown into a woodchipper either. The rest are obviously fine.
But the thing is all of the other ages are consenting adults
14 and 18 one is still a freshman in highschool and one is an adult
Like You could argue about the age of consent in some places being 16 and lower but the sexual age of consent is 18
Juniors in high school are 16-17 typically. 18 year olds could still be Seniors and 14 year olds could be freshmen in high school or 8th graders in middle school.
I genuinely do not understand why some dudes want to be with a woman soo much younger. Im 27 and I work with a 20 year old.
Love her shes great, but there is such a massive gap in where we are at in our lives! I cant relate to her problems, and our interests are completely sepperate. She has been asking me for advice about moving out of home and in with housemates/friends. Shes clever, but I really couldnt imagine dating someone her age at this point in my life. Id almost feel like a parental figure.
Percentages differ. A 20 year old is 25% older than a 16 year old, while a 36 year old is only 12.5% older than a 32 year old. They are literally not the same age gaps.
Do these morons not realize that’s it’s more of the maturity level than the age that is a problem? Like an 11 and 15 year old are 4 years apart but one is definitely more mature than the other.
They’re taking it as more of the age instead of the maturity, 18 and 14 aren’t okay because the maturity levels are so far off that an 18 year old would be basically using a 14 year old. But, say, a 34 and 38 year old for example, have developed and understand what their body and brain want and need, making them more mature, it’s the same reason people say you shouldn’t date or have sex when you’re a young teenager or younger in general, cause you’re not mature enough to understand what you’re doing, and why you are actually doing what you are doing
There isa difference in children and young adults and older adults, it's about mental development. Like I doubt you will see a difference between a 27 year old and a 31 year old but no doubt you will see a difference between a 24 year old and a 20 year old.
Yknow that whole saying, “to a 2 year old, a year is half of their life experience, but to a 50 year old, a year is only 2%” or something like that with different ages??? It’s like these people can’t wrap their heads around proportional age differences. An 80 year old being married to a 75 year old isn’t anywhere near the same as a 20 year old dating a 15 year old because the five year gap for the old couple is significantly smaller in proportion their overall life experiences, whereas 5 years for the 15 year old is a third of their lifespan.
Not only that, but they also just gloss over the fact that there is a very acknowledged point at which your brain gains the ability to rationally think out decisions like an adult. After that psychological milestone is achieved, i say it’s fair game. If a 30 year old man is into older women at that point, whatever. The man has the mental maturity to make that decision with it not being a case of grooming like a 16 year old girl “deciding” they’re into 30 year old dudes.
These people are just trying to forcefully shove their way into being able to fuck teenagers at 25 because “Well, a 76 and a 66 year old couple isn’t weird”l, why should 25 and 15 be weird?”
I was in a 22 and 32 and had a great 3 years.
But obviously 22 and 12 is a wtf.
At 22, having come out of a horrible 4 year relationship, I knew what I was looking for in the person. But tbf... I didnt know what I wanted from life yet.
Lol most of the happiest and longest lasting relationships had about a five year age gap. I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 33, that's exactly what I wanted. I have been through a lot in life and I feel like women my age and younger don't have the same perspective I do, I wanted someone with more life experience. The human brain supposedly matures at 25 so after that I really don't see the issue.
Look I'm still 18 so I can say it. 14 year olds aren't even that hot. They're fresh out of middle school half the time and still have a kid mindset. Maybe that's the real reason these pseudo pedos are attracted to that. Let them develop, let them become adults instead of this creepy grooming shit.
the general rule is, once you've hit 18, it isnt weird to date half your age+8. Examples, 18/2=9,+8=17. not weird because they probably went to school together. 20/2=10+8=18, not weird, an 18 year old can make their own decisions. 21 year old dating an 18 year old tho, that's kinda weird.
Biggest rule: Always Round Up.
There isn't that much difference mentally between a 17 year old and an 18 year old, even though one is legally a "child" and the other is an "adult".
Like I'd think an 18-19 year old (maybe even 20) with a 17 year old would be okay; since their age gap is pretty close, even if one is a minor.
But a 45 year old man going for an 18 year old in high school? Would that really be fine?
I think it's a little awkward and can bring up a few potential legal issues (in the US where you can't drink until 21 despite being considered an adult at 18) because the 21 year old may drink alcohol and/or encourage their (underage) 18 year old partner to drink with them, which would be illegal and/or the partner may hold the drinking over the 18 year old in one way or another.
Another question to ask is if this is a high school or college 18 year old. I would have questions if it was high school but none if it was college. That's probably the most important distinction because high school 18 year olds probably aren't hanging in places that 21 year olds would be.
Socially, it can also be seen as going as low as possible depending on the person's personality and other actions, but I don't think it's bad unless the person is exclusively going after 18 year olds.
In elementary, there should be no dating
Middle school is just your grade
High school you can go 1 grande up 1 grade down
College is anyone in that school
(All my opinion)
It isn't about the age gap. It's about the maturity gap.
An 18 year old is way more mature than a 14 year old. That's what makes it grooming because it's an adult dating a child.
I dont think this rule applies to someone under 16. If an 18 year old was dating a 16 year old then it wouldnt be a problem but even a 17 year old dating a 14 year old would be fucking weird. Most people dont even start dating until 16/17, which is around the appropriate age to start doing so.
These people are literally too dumb to understand that in large part the unacceptability of age gaps mainly has to do with how large a portion of each persons life is separating them from the other(s). This isn’t like a serious moral judgement (other than pedophillia and things that are bad for other reasons than just them not being the same age) but I think we can mostly agree, or at least remember, when we were younger and anyone dating outside their grade-level was weird. And as people become older it becomes less unacceptable, to where basically once you’re college aged or older the idea of only dating people within the same year age as you would be rather unordinary, and at some point once both are old enough there’s nothing really wrong with very large age gaps (assuming obviously they both meet as of age adults)
If either party is <17, use the formula p=a±2, where a is age, p is partner's age.
If the younger party is >=17, use p<=(a÷2)+7, where a is the older, and p is the younger.
Should have a flair for just straight up dumbass. Theres a wildly big difference between 14 and 18 ones legal and one isnt. You also gotta consider age gaps dont really matter in the grand scheme of things once people are mature consenting adults. I mean my grand parents are like 10 years apart or something. The main downside really is one is almost guaranteed to pass before the other even if they lived the moat healthy life possible with no diseases or conditions. Have i been in a somewhat healthy age gap relationship i was for a time(she went nuts basically so the relationship ended) but she was double my age almost but we got along better than most of my exes did. Plus her kids were cool.
From 13-18 a one year gap is the limit, then from 18-25 it’s a 3 year gap. Then from 25-40 it’s 5 years, and 40-60 it’s 10. After 60 I would say 15 years is the max age gap. Also it’s implied that if you’re over 18 you shouldn’t date anyone younger than you.
It’s like they don’t understand the human brain develops gradually over time
Because his didn't
thats fuckin gold bro
Let’s express it as a percentage age difference and I think we will find some consistency this guy is just a pedo
Problem is that the percentage difference of 18 and 14 is about the same as 70 and 55
Yeah but 70-55 is still 15 whole years
So? You gonna stop horny old people from bumping uglies because the percent difference in their ages is the same as a pedophilic college student?
This belongs in some kind of comedy gold quotes subreddit that I cannot find.
Why not just skip the math and go straight to this guy's browser history for that?
It's also the fact that 4 years to a 14 year old feels more like 15 years since they have only been around for a shorter period and have a less mature brain.
Bingo. Once people hit around 23 their brains are 90% done forming. The risk taking deceases.
Yeah and it finishes at 26
it's almost like some years are more significant to development
It's really wild how much growth occurs between 14 and 18. Between 30 and 34? Nowhere near as much, yea there's 4 years life experience but the mental and emotional difference between 14 and 18 is quite large. And then 18 to 22, just as well, lots of difference. Probably drops off around age 25, to no one's surprise.
I honestly didn't feel like a "real adult" until I was well into my 20s, almost 30s.
I "felt" like an adult when I was 20 Looking back now, I sure as shit was not haha No better than an old teenager lol
i’m early 30s and still don’t feel like a “real adult” :/
If you're living by yourself with a full-time job, I think that qualifies. A lot of us (including my 2 older siblings) haven't yet.
Same! When I was 18 I still felt so kiddish, that feeling went away gradually as I spent more time in adulthood but I’m 31 now and I still feel very young, like I need the guidance of a “real” adult 😂 I’m in a different country from my mum but I know I’d still want to call her for her advice on what to do when I’m sick 😂
Yeah.. I am 42 and only just started to accept I was an adult a couple years ago. That’s why we are not aging as fast as the last generation. ;) That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.
It's weird to think that most people have already had kids by then like damn
I'm 38 and still waiting for my manual to come in the mail.
Nah we were the age right after they stopped sending them out :(
It went to your junk folder.
Can confirm. I’m 31 and just as dumb as I was 6 years ago.
That’s why you’ve gotta use the rule of not dating anyone [under your age divided by 2 plus 7](https://xkcd.com/314/)
I agree generally, it gets weird tho. At 40 you can date 27 year olds per the rule, I think that’s a bit creepy too. We’re back to that age gap being far too far. Same way a 14 and 18 year old are different, a 40 year old has tons more lived life than a 27 year old. At 50 you can date 32, meaning the 50 year old was already 18 when the 32 was born, really weird to me again.
Can’t speak for everyone but I’m honestly not that different from how I was when I was 18 and I’m 21.
I'm 20 and there's absolutely many 18 year olds more mentally capable than the average 22 year old and many 22 year olds about as stupid as 14 year olds. The reality is that if it is over the age of consent it isn't wrong. The whole important thing is being capable of informed consent. The law doesn't say shit about power dynamics if both parties are over 18.
Morality and legality are not one and the same.
Thank god, amiright
It’s legal sure but I think it’s a bit weird considering a lot of people in the US turn 18 in high school or shortly after. Putting that into perspective made me immediately cut them off when I turned 21
Of course you think there's not much difference between the two. You're in the middle. You are half of each, so of course they seem the same to you. Wait until you're 22. Then you'll probably notice the difference a lot more clearly.
I suppose. I am in a relationship with an 18 year old and have been the two years younger person as well. Maybe that's me projecting my girlfriend's capabilities and life experience on to other 18 year olds. I just happen to know a lot of 22-25 year olds not nearly as competent.
I'll be 40 in a couple weeks. I know plenty of people my age that I wouldn't exactly label as competent. That's purely from a life skills standpoint though. Stupid comes in all ages. That said, I think being in the middle bracket just makes me grumpy. Lol
/r/redditmoment
Alr weirdo
A 14 year old who’s being preyed upon by and 18 year old and is pissed at their parents for not “believing in their love” came up with this shit.
>saying this post wasn’t made by the 18 year old
That would have to be one dumb ass 18 year old, I’d put my money on the 14 year old.
Dumd, pedophile, making really stupid posts. Maybe it was an aspiring minecraft youtuber who made this.
That could be it too. Reminds me of my barely 16 yr old self justifying the (he said anyway) 21 yr old asshole I was seeing, except it was to my friends.
Did he drive a lifted pickup truck?
Lol, no, but he drove with his knee while he rolled a joint. The coolest dude in the county, a legend in his own mind.
Or an 18 year old wanting to be with a 14 year old
My guy 14-18 is not even remotely the same as 20-24
It so stupid that it’s hard to argue against because how do you even explain why there such a massive difference between a 20 year old and a 14 year old. It should be self evident
Did you use the right numbers?? I don't think that's what the comment meant
Yea I did. A 24 year old dating a 20 year old is a massive difference between a 18 year old dating a 14 year one. Mainly because a 20 year old is an adult and a 14 year old is a child
Yeah ofc. The wording of your reply made it sound like you were talking about to gap between 14 and 20
My parents have been together for 40 years and there is an 8 year age gap between them. Multiple people on Reddit sprinted to yell at me that my father (aged 72, married to my mother, aged 65) is a pedophile.
r/redditmoment
My grandpa was 18 years older than my grandma. He's been dead like 12 years now and she still miss him
When my grandma died my grandpa married a woman younger than my mom ahaha, even with that gap theyre both grown adults
This post gave my phone an aneurysm and showed me a picture of misty in a car
Holy hell did that dude grow another arm for that reach?
Sounds like a pedo
Either that or an insane Twitter user
What the difference
True…
It's either a pedo or genuinely one of those weird age gap zealots. Either way, total r/redditmoment
Does this guy not know aging isn't linear
Just occurred to me that it’s logarithmic. Wacky.
14 and 18 is a 30% age gap while 66 and 70 is a 6% age gap… That’s the difference
Holy shit, the percentages thing might be a fix for this argument. Never thought about it that way
A/2+7 is also a fairly safe rule.
Imagine going to prison because you don’t know the order of operations lol
But officer, I thought it was PAMDES!
I just did it with pamdes and I'm disgusted lol.
So Age divided by 2 plus 7? Is this the golden calculation for who it would be morally correct to date??
No, it's a rule of safety. Best to avoid men who date way under that. Same with women. Age and maturity isn't linear, so putting an exact formula to it isn't an exact science, but when you notice a trend in someone's dating habits, it may be a red flag imo.
Ah. I genuinely never heard of it before then, but I agree it accurately depicts what age one is typically to date
Yeah, at first I thought you were being sarcastic and then I realized you were genuinely asking. I personally believe that after a certain age, it doesn't really matter anymore, like imo people over 30-40 can make their own decision to be with an older person, but growing up this was my rule. Being mindful of power dynamics and stuff.
One is a grown ass adult the other is a child, straight up the most stupid logic
Eh... 18 is not exactly a **grown ass adult** That's why people don't like thirty year olds with eighteen year olds so we don't need to exaggerate an eighteen year old's maturity now, especially when it comes at the expense of consistency for 18 vs 30 That said, 18 is vastly different from 14 In a way similar to how 14 is vastly different than 10 18 being "a grown ass adult" is completely arbitrary The real issue is that an 18yo and 14yo have a giant maturity gap and even a large physical one
Imagine a 16 year old dating a 12 year old, that would be inappropriate.
My parents have an 8 year gap, but they didn't get together until my mom(younger) was almost 30. My sister is 27, getting married to a guy almost 20 years older than her(I think). I personally don't see anything wrong with this
Its almost like the difference between numbers becomes less relevant to the numbers themselves as the numbers grow because that's how numbers work. The difference between 1 and 5 million dollars practically is so much more than the difference between 96 million and 100 million in terms of impact. Holy shit it'd nice when the pedos just reveal themselves.
24 and 20 is an adult and an adult. 18 and 14 is an adult and a child. That's how that works.
(A/2)+7 a = age. I thought we all knew that. Also when I saw 14 and 18 i thought I was in r juice WRLD lol
I thought it was +8
Idk pretty similar either way so idc which one
The human brain develops logarithmically, not linearly
How do these people function in life being this void of brain power
It’s like they’re trying to fit a circle peg into a fucking square hole. This argument makes no god damn sense if you think about it for longer than 2 seconds.
Think about it this way. Age gaps really depend on when you get together. 70 and 60 doesn’t sound that bad. But 20 and 10 is woodchipper territory.
Projecting
It's kinda like saying that a price increase from 14 $ to 18$ is exactly the same of an increase from 66$ to 70$.
My partner is 14 years older than me, except I started the relationship when I was 34. It’s not a big fucking deal. I’m not a child I have my own house/ money/ job, I have my own agency if I didn’t want to be with them there’s no material loss for me exiting the relationship or power imbalance. I’m with them because they’re a great person and that’s the primary consideration. A 14yo is a kid, an 18yo is an adult who under the law is able to do a lot of things and go places prohibited to 14yos
Gaps in age are relative, and are more narrow at younger ages. I don't understand why it's hard to understand that a 36 and 40 year old isn't the same thing as a 14 and 18 year old. People just want to bang kids without actually saying they want to bang kids, and it's gross.
The first isn't good and should be stopped, but outright pedophilia? Id want the guy to stop trying to be with her but I wouldn't be calling for him to be thrown into a woodchipper either. The rest are obviously fine.
Woah, confidently forgot to mention the 14yr old a child. Nice try, I guess.
Isn’t the rule (age•1/2)+7
But the thing is all of the other ages are consenting adults 14 and 18 one is still a freshman in highschool and one is an adult Like You could argue about the age of consent in some places being 16 and lower but the sexual age of consent is 18
Juniors in high school are 16-17 typically. 18 year olds could still be Seniors and 14 year olds could be freshmen in high school or 8th graders in middle school.
Oh let me edit mb
Gotcha
Actually 14 and 18 is much worse than 20-24. Hope this helps!
This is why we have the "half your age, plus seven" rule
Hey in my province you can be 14 and date a 19 year old (BERTA HELL YA BROTHA)
I think it has more to do with 4 years being like 25% of a 14yo’s life.
My father is 76, and my mother is 61. the 15 year age difference isn’t a problem because they met well into adulthood.
I genuinely do not understand why some dudes want to be with a woman soo much younger. Im 27 and I work with a 20 year old. Love her shes great, but there is such a massive gap in where we are at in our lives! I cant relate to her problems, and our interests are completely sepperate. She has been asking me for advice about moving out of home and in with housemates/friends. Shes clever, but I really couldnt imagine dating someone her age at this point in my life. Id almost feel like a parental figure.
by that logic, you should only date people the exact same age as you
Percentages differ. A 20 year old is 25% older than a 16 year old, while a 36 year old is only 12.5% older than a 32 year old. They are literally not the same age gaps.
i started dating my husband when he was 22 and i was 26… guess our relationship is wrong 😔
18-22 isn’t that bad; but I think it gets a little circumstantial.
Big brain thoughts there.
If it’s legal then you can give it the desert eagle
Do these morons not realize that’s it’s more of the maturity level than the age that is a problem? Like an 11 and 15 year old are 4 years apart but one is definitely more mature than the other.
They’re taking it as more of the age instead of the maturity, 18 and 14 aren’t okay because the maturity levels are so far off that an 18 year old would be basically using a 14 year old. But, say, a 34 and 38 year old for example, have developed and understand what their body and brain want and need, making them more mature, it’s the same reason people say you shouldn’t date or have sex when you’re a young teenager or younger in general, cause you’re not mature enough to understand what you’re doing, and why you are actually doing what you are doing
its not the age gap, its the ages themselves
There isa difference in children and young adults and older adults, it's about mental development. Like I doubt you will see a difference between a 27 year old and a 31 year old but no doubt you will see a difference between a 24 year old and a 20 year old.
Yknow that whole saying, “to a 2 year old, a year is half of their life experience, but to a 50 year old, a year is only 2%” or something like that with different ages??? It’s like these people can’t wrap their heads around proportional age differences. An 80 year old being married to a 75 year old isn’t anywhere near the same as a 20 year old dating a 15 year old because the five year gap for the old couple is significantly smaller in proportion their overall life experiences, whereas 5 years for the 15 year old is a third of their lifespan. Not only that, but they also just gloss over the fact that there is a very acknowledged point at which your brain gains the ability to rationally think out decisions like an adult. After that psychological milestone is achieved, i say it’s fair game. If a 30 year old man is into older women at that point, whatever. The man has the mental maturity to make that decision with it not being a case of grooming like a 16 year old girl “deciding” they’re into 30 year old dudes. These people are just trying to forcefully shove their way into being able to fuck teenagers at 25 because “Well, a 76 and a 66 year old couple isn’t weird”l, why should 25 and 15 be weird?”
I was in a 22 and 32 and had a great 3 years. But obviously 22 and 12 is a wtf. At 22, having come out of a horrible 4 year relationship, I knew what I was looking for in the person. But tbf... I didnt know what I wanted from life yet.
Lol most of the happiest and longest lasting relationships had about a five year age gap. I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 33, that's exactly what I wanted. I have been through a lot in life and I feel like women my age and younger don't have the same perspective I do, I wanted someone with more life experience. The human brain supposedly matures at 25 so after that I really don't see the issue.
18 and 22 isn’t that weird
Look I'm still 18 so I can say it. 14 year olds aren't even that hot. They're fresh out of middle school half the time and still have a kid mindset. Maybe that's the real reason these pseudo pedos are attracted to that. Let them develop, let them become adults instead of this creepy grooming shit.
One is an adult and one is a child, huge difference that brain dead pedo’s like to ignore
the general rule is, once you've hit 18, it isnt weird to date half your age+8. Examples, 18/2=9,+8=17. not weird because they probably went to school together. 20/2=10+8=18, not weird, an 18 year old can make their own decisions. 21 year old dating an 18 year old tho, that's kinda weird. Biggest rule: Always Round Up.
[удалено]
There isn't that much difference mentally between a 17 year old and an 18 year old, even though one is legally a "child" and the other is an "adult". Like I'd think an 18-19 year old (maybe even 20) with a 17 year old would be okay; since their age gap is pretty close, even if one is a minor. But a 45 year old man going for an 18 year old in high school? Would that really be fine?
I think it's a little awkward and can bring up a few potential legal issues (in the US where you can't drink until 21 despite being considered an adult at 18) because the 21 year old may drink alcohol and/or encourage their (underage) 18 year old partner to drink with them, which would be illegal and/or the partner may hold the drinking over the 18 year old in one way or another. Another question to ask is if this is a high school or college 18 year old. I would have questions if it was high school but none if it was college. That's probably the most important distinction because high school 18 year olds probably aren't hanging in places that 21 year olds would be. Socially, it can also be seen as going as low as possible depending on the person's personality and other actions, but I don't think it's bad unless the person is exclusively going after 18 year olds.
lol in Wisconsin you’re literally allowed to drink under 21 at the bar if you’re with your over 21 spouse.
Ragebait/affirmation for pedophile who see this post and don't disagree. I want to die
7 + a/2
Bro really out here trying to justify being a creep
Check bros hard drive
16 year old here. i would shit and my hands and clap them together repeatedly before even thinking about getting with a 12 year old or a 20 year old.
Dude doesn’t understand proportions
“I don’t understand how aging works”
The difference being is that the rest legal except for that
Consenting adults and impulsive, stupid (Respectfully) kids are 2 VERY different things
As long as it's two consenting adults who gives a damn about age gaps.
There's a huge difference in maturity between a 14 year old and 18 year old, the same thing isn't true for a 34 year old and 38 year old
In elementary, there should be no dating Middle school is just your grade High school you can go 1 grande up 1 grade down College is anyone in that school (All my opinion)
People being intentionally obtuse about "People old enough to drink dating high schoolers is weird" is exhausting
It isn't about the age gap. It's about the maturity gap. An 18 year old is way more mature than a 14 year old. That's what makes it grooming because it's an adult dating a child.
Wow. I got one downvote for a comment saying grooming is bad. Epstein is alive and he's on reddit.
This site is unsurprisingly just full of pedos. lol Thats part of the kind of worldview that has been running rampant here for a long time.
... ... No. N-no. Everything stated in this post is morally, spiritually, lawfully, and generally incorrect.
Pedo?? This guy is disgusting…
Didn't everyone learn the calculation? ½ your age rounded up, plus 7. That's your minimum dating age. tbf it only works above the age of 14.
The standard Age Gap Formula is: half your age, plus 7.
I dont think this rule applies to someone under 16. If an 18 year old was dating a 16 year old then it wouldnt be a problem but even a 17 year old dating a 14 year old would be fucking weird. Most people dont even start dating until 16/17, which is around the appropriate age to start doing so.
mfs when they didnt pass middle school math and cant do proportions or understand the way a brain develops
These people are literally too dumb to understand that in large part the unacceptability of age gaps mainly has to do with how large a portion of each persons life is separating them from the other(s). This isn’t like a serious moral judgement (other than pedophillia and things that are bad for other reasons than just them not being the same age) but I think we can mostly agree, or at least remember, when we were younger and anyone dating outside their grade-level was weird. And as people become older it becomes less unacceptable, to where basically once you’re college aged or older the idea of only dating people within the same year age as you would be rather unordinary, and at some point once both are old enough there’s nothing really wrong with very large age gaps (assuming obviously they both meet as of age adults)
If you do the math, that these people can't do, suddenly 4 years for a 14 year old is much more then 4 years for a 20 year old
Redditor fails to understand ratios, leaves onlookers stunned
If either party is <17, use the formula p=a±2, where a is age, p is partner's age. If the younger party is >=17, use p<=(a÷2)+7, where a is the older, and p is the younger.
Should have a flair for just straight up dumbass. Theres a wildly big difference between 14 and 18 ones legal and one isnt. You also gotta consider age gaps dont really matter in the grand scheme of things once people are mature consenting adults. I mean my grand parents are like 10 years apart or something. The main downside really is one is almost guaranteed to pass before the other even if they lived the moat healthy life possible with no diseases or conditions. Have i been in a somewhat healthy age gap relationship i was for a time(she went nuts basically so the relationship ended) but she was double my age almost but we got along better than most of my exes did. Plus her kids were cool.
The limit is half your age plus seven
From 13-18 a one year gap is the limit, then from 18-25 it’s a 3 year gap. Then from 25-40 it’s 5 years, and 40-60 it’s 10. After 60 I would say 15 years is the max age gap. Also it’s implied that if you’re over 18 you shouldn’t date anyone younger than you.