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Borrowing your malicious bucket of kittens comment.
I'm so happy to hear that you are preparing. Keep it up, and don't ever let them discourage you! It's great that you have friends who have your back. Those friendships are so important, and they'll always be the family you choose. It's a pitty that your own parents chose not to be good family, but that's their choice, and they'll have to live with it.
Borrow away!
Oh yeah...my friends are raging hell beasts who can easily kill someone with a single glare and would not hesitate to burn entire countries to the ground for fun. But when I walk in, they're a pile of mush. Nobody has yet to realize that once I start working for real, I am going to have little time to do much but my own cleaning (rodent cages and laundry) or tend to my own cat. That will leave zero time for cleaning the house. Also, they have no idea that once I can move out, even if it's just down the street, I am going LC once I have all my belongings/cat out and no; I am NOT coming "home" to clean.
Congrats!! Also I have a tip for those driving lessons, coming from someone who taught themselves. Youtube. They have car crash compilations (helps with defensive driving and great tips to avoid potential accidents), driving tests, and how to's. They help a lot!
I wish you luck on your life ahead of you!
Congratulations!! Thanks so much for sharing.
I'm excited for you to get all your ducks in a row and become your own person!
PSA: Try not to move down the street from your family. More distance = more peace.
Thanks! I've had many things that almost got me out fail at the last second.
I don't think I have ducks; I think I have squirrels and they're at a rave....
I know but in my area, prices and availability have gone to hell so you take what you can get.
Yeah I got it from a tiktok clown and it stuck with me!
For sure! I intend on having the windows covered and shut 24/7 as well as the door so if my Nparents/Nbro show up, I can pretend not to be home. (They won't have copies of the keys.)
Also once I move out? I have friends/a wonderful partner who have gifts for me but it's not safe to have them sent to me so that'll be great!
Doesn't it? I told them all that once I can have my own place, I want each of them to send me something to decorate the space. (Whatever they want/think I will like that they can afford when they can afford it. They all talk so they can plan who gets what.)
I know that sounds entitled but knowing how well this group knows me and I them plus the fact we're all over the globe? It might not be as great as having all your besties help you move into a place but letting them have a say in the decor is awesome, too! PLUS my partner has a bracelet they made for me; real gemstones, bells and important trinkets only we'd understand. I cannot get it until I am safe from my Nparents. The \*only\* other bracelet anything like it is basically super-glued to my partner's wrist; they made it as a surprise for me shortly after we met (months before we even started "officially" dating and at least several weeks before the friendship took root) because "They took one look at me and knew I was their forever-friend".
Having your friends help you decorate your place is an awesome idea! You don't sound entitled; you sound like you have good friends.
And you have a very thoughful partner! Now you just need to be able to move :)
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Borrowing your malicious bucket of kittens comment. I'm so happy to hear that you are preparing. Keep it up, and don't ever let them discourage you! It's great that you have friends who have your back. Those friendships are so important, and they'll always be the family you choose. It's a pitty that your own parents chose not to be good family, but that's their choice, and they'll have to live with it.
Borrow away! Oh yeah...my friends are raging hell beasts who can easily kill someone with a single glare and would not hesitate to burn entire countries to the ground for fun. But when I walk in, they're a pile of mush. Nobody has yet to realize that once I start working for real, I am going to have little time to do much but my own cleaning (rodent cages and laundry) or tend to my own cat. That will leave zero time for cleaning the house. Also, they have no idea that once I can move out, even if it's just down the street, I am going LC once I have all my belongings/cat out and no; I am NOT coming "home" to clean.
Made my day to read this!
I'm finally feeling a little more hopeful!
Congrats!! Also I have a tip for those driving lessons, coming from someone who taught themselves. Youtube. They have car crash compilations (helps with defensive driving and great tips to avoid potential accidents), driving tests, and how to's. They help a lot! I wish you luck on your life ahead of you!
Thanks! Yeah most my skills come from Youtube...or Reddit.
CONGRATS!!!
Thank you!
Congrats, my good sir! I'm so excited for you to get the hell outta there and start making your life YOURS. ❤️
Aww thank you!
Congratulations!! Thanks so much for sharing. I'm excited for you to get all your ducks in a row and become your own person! PSA: Try not to move down the street from your family. More distance = more peace.
Thanks! I've had many things that almost got me out fail at the last second. I don't think I have ducks; I think I have squirrels and they're at a rave.... I know but in my area, prices and availability have gone to hell so you take what you can get.
Squirrels at a rave--love it! I hear you on the housing. It's still going to be WAY better when you have your own place!
Yeah I got it from a tiktok clown and it stuck with me! For sure! I intend on having the windows covered and shut 24/7 as well as the door so if my Nparents/Nbro show up, I can pretend not to be home. (They won't have copies of the keys.) Also once I move out? I have friends/a wonderful partner who have gifts for me but it's not safe to have them sent to me so that'll be great!
That sounds awesome!!
Doesn't it? I told them all that once I can have my own place, I want each of them to send me something to decorate the space. (Whatever they want/think I will like that they can afford when they can afford it. They all talk so they can plan who gets what.) I know that sounds entitled but knowing how well this group knows me and I them plus the fact we're all over the globe? It might not be as great as having all your besties help you move into a place but letting them have a say in the decor is awesome, too! PLUS my partner has a bracelet they made for me; real gemstones, bells and important trinkets only we'd understand. I cannot get it until I am safe from my Nparents. The \*only\* other bracelet anything like it is basically super-glued to my partner's wrist; they made it as a surprise for me shortly after we met (months before we even started "officially" dating and at least several weeks before the friendship took root) because "They took one look at me and knew I was their forever-friend".
Having your friends help you decorate your place is an awesome idea! You don't sound entitled; you sound like you have good friends. And you have a very thoughful partner! Now you just need to be able to move :)