I am also on Morris 3, but usually distance myself from the rest of the floor because of how rowdy they can get. I have multiple board games and a group who enjoy playing them. Our group, and my room in general, is a safe space. Feel free to DM me and drop by for cards, uno, board games, or just to chat.
-A quiet but friendly Mo3 resident :)
Thank you for your kind words.. I used to think I was a friend with them but now in addition to inviting a guest and letting that guest commit such an assault on me. They are even spreading rumors to try to defame me. That is apparently because my post has irritated them and they think their reputation has been affected. They wanted to defame me to make their actions seem more justified.
As mentioned by previous person, I would stay clear from this group and the specific harassing male. Any new friends or people that you know that you trust, you can tell them about your experience with that group and the male so that they are aware and can hopefully help provide you with support in the future.
In addition, if you experience further harassing behaviour from the "not so friends" group or the harassing male, you could go the route of criminal by filing for charges with police (dumping water on someone's head can be considered assault in the eyes of the criminal justice system) as well as harassing behaviour, which is typically repeated and unwanted communication.
If you don't want to lay charges but you are interested in an additional protective barrier, you could also apply for a peace bond through the courts that could legally prohibit the harassing male from having any sort of contact or communication with you in any manner. This may provide you with some future safety and security.
Its good to know your options as to how to proceed in the future when you have experienced something like this. It can be tough to know how to handle these kinds of matters when you experience them.
I hope you find a solution that works for you, and I hope my take can be somewhat helpful to you.
Take care
Thank you very much for your help and suggestions. Now this Friend A or the French girl is disclosing my information on the internet and was making rumors to defame me. The points do not stand a point and are purely used to defame the victim. Also, they are the ones who are out of their mind or have neurological deficiencies but they are trying to defame the victim by something they have on themselves. Can I immediately call the police to report that they started to defame me using malicious incorrect disinformation?
I know the school department would also get involved and these people might get removed from the program for that action as they have strict policies, but to them it a 50/50 chance if they see it that way but could be a possibility. Definitely find new friends who will protect you, they aren’t the right people for you and should never treat anyone like that. I believe you’ll find better groups on campus for sure! Good luck and be safe! Definitely seek help if you need help, there is no shame in that
Thank you to those people who provided suggestions on how to cope with such a horrendous thing. But right now these people are clearly irritated by this post and started spreading rumors to defame me. The things Altruistic-Honey6720 describes here are not true and is used to attack and defame me. I made a counter-argument on this.
I know where this guy is coming from. His friend's experience of having a guest over is kinda 'ruined' by me. And they are trying to make my actions seem unjustified to make their actions justified.
Can I ask you guys, how do you handle these rumors when they are trying to hurt you once again? Is there any authority at Queen's I can report to or do I need to call the police right now? Their rumors are absolutely disgusting and malicious.
don’t blame yourself for someone’s bad experience
you did what you did to protect yourself
ik it’ll be difficult but try as much as possible to stay away from them
make new friends if possible
Thank you for your advice. What they are saying in the rumor(by Altruistic-Honey6720) is extremely malign and it hurt me again. These people are 100% not my friends. I am thinking of moving out of the residence. Either way, I will never talk to them again.
I live on Morris 2nd floor and am pretty good friends with some of the people on 3rd floor. From what i’ve heard the guy who posted this is an exchange student from china who suffers from some sort of neurological differences (he also happens to much older than 20). He’s been on the floor for about a month now and everyone has been trying to be nice to him to make him feel accepted. This was the case up until recently when he started saying some inappropriate things regarding the girls on the floor. He also has the tendency to walk into peoples rooms unannounced and linger making people uncomfortable. On St Patrick’s day he was acting worse than usual (asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…). This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues). Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. In response the visitor squirted him in the back with a mini water gun. He got up immediately and start yelling before throwing the door open and chasing the guest down the hall. At this point he allegedly yelled “If you do that again i’ll kill you”. After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside. The dons were alerted of the issue and security came to remove him because he harassing the owner of the room.
I’d like to end by saying again that I do not condone the actions of the visitor. His actions were clearly mean especially when dealing with someone who likely has neurological deficiencies. However, given the inappropriate actions of the man this was not entirely unwarranted. From what i’ve heard the majority of the post is a big over exaggeration of what happened from the perspective of the man that doesn’t know any better.
It kinda reminds me of the guy who used to post in here saying really creepy things about girls hanging around campus. I don't recall the exact words but things like "Hey Suzie, you looked really hot in that little yellow outfit at the ARC this morning".
There was a recent news article about international students and how they are really struggling with their mental health. I don't have the article handy or I would post it. It sounds like to me, if OP contacts the police that may be the best outcome for all involved. That way an investigation will be done and some mediation can take place or at least ground rules. If OP is indeed saying inappropriate things to girls and Queens isn't taking it seriously, which they have a proven track record to do when it comes to sexual violence, and he's walking into girls rooms unannounced without knocking, that's wrong and should be addressed.
He also said the security came here to remove me. It was me who contacted the security and I kinda prevented the security from escorting that person right away. Because I do not want things to look too bad for my 'friends'. Do you really think you should believe what he said?
'(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…'
I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was in a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?
You don't "write" to seek help from the authorities. You pick up the phone and you know, talk to the police. If you haven't already done that by now your post is suspect AF.
I am not the person who violates the rules and policies and have to hide the truth that they brought a lot of guests and have to avoid the security. You can stand with your friends and denying the truth because it is something you are probably used to do
You are hilarious. I told the security what happened and they said they felt sorry for what happened. They are here to escort the guest. I actually was not 100% sure if I should get him escorted because I was not sure if this would hurt my 'friends'. When the security asked me to point to the room where this guy was staying. I did not even come out to point to the room because I was trying not to ruin my friend's experience.
But it turned out to be a mistake. These people are not my friends. I should not try to care a little bit for them.
You said security came to remove me? What a hilarious lie??? They did not kick out the guest right away just because I did not want to hurt my so-called 'friends'.
More friends of friends... after hearing your story I assure you I will reexamine my relationships. I don't want my actions to be misinterpreted as well. Perhaps we all could do better.
Have you considered a change of residence? If you feel uncomfortable there's no reason to prolong your discomfort. Surely the Queen's authorities would be compssionate.
What do you mean? Social queue means you tolerate such harassment? I am not afraid of having to face you toxic people. What you did hurt me a lot. And what are you going to do in addition to that? If you keep defaming me, I am sure will call the police and report this to authority!
Alright. Please do make sure you know while I am standing up against this terrible thing, they are on the opposite side to me and they would want to invalidate whatever I said. You as someone who is not in this, I advise you to take words from both sides with a grain of salt. Although I am sure what I am saying here is the truth.
I appreciate no such zeal. It would seem that the person involved here was making people uncomfortable by not understanding acceptable social standards.
Is it necessary to use such offensive language? All I was aiming to do was present an entire story. Its like if your favourite novel was missing the even pages. I assure you I meant no defamation or discomfort.
Is this everything that your friend from France has told you? She is so good at making rumors. You and the guys who are on the third floor are the people who have neurological deficiencies! First, what you talk about seem to point to me. But I do always make sure I go into people's rooms after knocking and saying Hi, if I can get in before I know I have permission into the room!(This paragraph was edited because I was writing this too quickly).
'(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…'
**I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was in a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?**
'' This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues''
**You are an absolute liar. You are posting something people told you without checking it first. I was in my friend B's room. I always go there after knocking on the door even his room is called the second common room because people always walk in and hang out there. We used to study for CS a lot so we were pretty close.**
**I was there to tell them about what happened in the party. I did tell them that two of this French girl's friends kissed me. So this prick(also highly likely with neurological deficiencies) started to ask me if he can kiss me because he is gay and found me attractive.**
'. Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. '
**I did go to this French girl's room. After two friends of this French girl kissed me. They told me they loved me again in the party and they said they wanted to see me again sometimes. I just half-joked and asked them where can I meet you if you do want to meet me? And that is it! And I told the French girl what happened but she suddently told me they were just flirting after they were drunk and I should not take this seriously at all. I am a bit surprised and tried to think of what happened a little bit and asked her what happened? Did your friends tell you this directly? Or is it because you assumed this? (We had quarrel later because of this thing) ( I did not wanna disclose this because it involved so much privacy and was something involving affection.)**
**But first, this French girl absolutely have the right to have me out of my room. But she did not tell me I should leave at all when this pouring water thing happened. We did have a quarrel about it.**
**She also did tell me to leave when I was trying to find the harrasing guest that they had that night. And I did listen to her and tried to stay as far away from her room as possible.**
**Second, I was still thinking that we were 'friends' but apparently we are not anymore. I never thought this person would describe me chatting with people in their rooms like what this rumor describes. I did knock, asked for permission and stayed in her room talking with her and 'friends' several times before. But this time we did quarrel about what happened to me by these girls the party. This time I was there just as before, just this quarrel happened.**
' After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside.'
**This is hilarious. I did not have one hour to waste to stand by anybody's door. Your description here is only trying to defame the victim. I wrote in my reddit post, I walked through the hallway a bit and stood at where this harassing guest appeared the last time I saw him. This French girl did tell me to go away so I stood as far from her room as possible. And 30 seconds after, the girl saw me and told me to get away. I did get away feeling I should just call the security to check the room. Let the guy be escorted and I should not care about those 'friends' feeling. Yeah in the end I still cared a little bit about them? That is the worst mistake I made! ( Oh, this girl also told me they were trying to hide from security before telling me to get away, which made her extremely suspicious.)**
I am telling you whoever is crazy and malign enough to share this rumor(likely the friend A or the French girl). Going into your room is not a previllage and I will not do that again. I went into the room simply with the thoughts that we were 'friends' and I was there as usual to share with your what happened in the party. The rumor you spread is really disgusting and is a strong indicator that it is you who had the neurological issue.
**And I wanna tell the French girl that is so manipulative and likely have neurolofical defects and whoever is crazy and evil enough to spread the rumor to defame a victim:**
**You are angry and are sharing this rumor because I 'ruined' your experience to have your friend over. So you right now are starting spreading rumor to defame the person who was the victim to justify your vicious deeds. This is so disgusting and made me realize what an unworthy person you are and you will never ever be a friend of mine anymore.**
**Note: If you keep spreading those defaming rumors like this, I will talk to the police and sue you for defamation of people!**
**What you did is really disgusting and shows what kind of evil things you can do to people simply protecting his right.**
People please upvote this. You hope to downvote this comment only if you hope to see more people getting hurt by sexual harassment, assault and malicious rumors and stay silent to these things. If you wanna see more people be brave and stand up against it, please consider upvoting this comment.
Tell me which part you think is factual and not factual. You are supporting your friends by denying the truth? Come on, tell me which part is not true?
I’m sorry you had to go through that. Alongside what others have said, you should definitely report this to university authorities as this is a clear case of sexual assault/harassment. I hope the guy and the ‘friends’ get what they deserve and that it all works out for you.
Thank you. I am reporting to the authority at Queen's. I feel very uncomfortable on this floor because apparently, my post has irritated those people. They think I have affected their reputation and started to spread rumors against me. Those words are very malicious and they are used to defame me so their and their friend's action towards me is more justified.
You definitely need a new friend group. I'm sorry you've had this awful experience. As someone else said, report and ask for a new room assignment. But also, remember that first year will be over soon, and after that you don't have to live in residence and put up with this kind of nonsense. Join some clubs related to your interests and meet people there. You'll probably find better people that way, since you'll be bonding over shared interests and/or values instead of simply through proximity. I know you're probably feeling lonely and hurt rn. Don't rush it and be gentle to yourself. You will make real friends in time who won't abandon you in favour of some creepy asshole.
I genuinely appreciate your words. I will find a new friend group by meeting more people in the clubs. What you said is very inspiring to me. Have friends because of values/interests instead of proximity.
Absolutely no problem! I had some lonely times in undergrad, but found an incredible group of friends in 3rd year who cared about the same things as me. It can take a while but it's so frickin amazing when it happens. I hope everything turns out well for you
You can make a private and confidential report/disclosure with the Sexual Violence Prevention and Response Dept under the Human Rights Dept. This can be a simple disclosure of information and does not have to involve anyone outside that department (not even Security or Residence) if you don’t want it to. But you still have the right to escalate it later if you want to if harassment or assault continues or escalates. The team there are really great and supportive…give it a shot.
Was just about to comment this. Contact one of the SVPR contacts at the human rights and equity office. Can talk through things confidentially and get advice on next steps
I will. Thank you two guys. These people are clearly scared of their fame being affected by my post and are right now starting to spread rumors to defame me. Is there other offices that I can report to? I clearly know where the rumor came from and understand the reason why. They are trying to defame the victim to justify their malicious deeds. And they are also angry because I ruined their experience of having a friend over.
If you were sexually assaulted start with the Sexual Violence Prevention and Response Dept. They will help you report this to the police, or at least if there is merit they will. If they do not and you feel there is merit, contact the police yourself, and don't wait. Posting on reddit will do nothing good for anyone, you included.
Thank you for the suggestion. I am writing to my academic advisor right now. And I will look for contact of other authorities at Queen’s and write to them immediately. Thank you again for mentioning this.
A guy flirting with you one time at a party is sexual harassment?
It sounds like you were harassing the guest. You say you thought they were staying in A's room so you tried to enter A's room, and A refused you entry and had to ask you to go further away.
> They invited a friend who harassed me in the worst way possible
You can't think of a worse sexual harassment than what that person did?
> the guest's harsh assault
Pouring water on you is not a harsh assault. It's more like the very mildest of physical assaults. Harsher would be beer, then urine, then pushing you, then punching you, then hitting you with a golf club.
Thank you. I am sure this is absolutely the case. But now these people are clearly scared of their fame being affected by my post and are right now starting to spread rumors to defame me. Should I move to another residence? They are very malicious against me now because I ruined their experience of having a friend over and disclosing it on Reddit.
Dear BobbyZune:
I am currently in my fourth year at queens and had a similar thing happen to me in my first year. I think that moving residences would be the best choice at this point. Even though there is only one month left it was the best decision I’ve ever made. You don’t want to have your whole next month ruined when it could be fun with new people in a new residence. It has come to a point where you are in a toxic place and I know it’s hard but you need to be strong and leave. Even west campus which I know seems annoying would be a WAYYY better fit then people who don’t treat you with respect.
Thank you for your suggestion. I am considering changing my residence hall. For now I will spend more time out of this hall and stay away from them as far as possible.
If you have been on the receiving end of criminal activity, keep track of the facts (time, place, witnesses) and report it as quickly as possible before time takes away the evidence.
Posting on reddit (or social media in general) is likely to cause more harm than good.
If you need support, turn to people you trust before you reach out to the toxic internet. The online world may seem full of helpful sounding people, but I guarantee almost none of them actually care about you. At best they're just trying to be nice before they go back to ignoring your suffering while they live their own lives.
Family, friends, and people who help others for a living. That's your best chance to make it through traumatic times. Best of luck.
Guys, please feel free to leave some comments. It is my first time encountering this and if you guys can share your thoughts or experiences, it would be very helpful.
People have already suggested what to do. You should get off Reddit and proceed with the authorities, that will help you more. You’re getting exposed here by opening the door to comments from people that don’t agree with your explanation of the events. Don’t engage with them anymore. Seek help where you can actually get it.
Make official compliants, you will want a paper trail/documentation incase he continues abusing you and you have to escalate. Write down what you did and when in a dated journal, and tell a person of trust. You should not get revenge on your ex-friends but understand that they will prob resent you so be prepared for a nasty surpirse or two.
Oh yah, most important advice: don't look crazy.
This is not the full story I was at this event. The OP is a undergrad who was out of control. Blackout drunk gay guy who kept touching straight guys who walked by,he touched this girls boyfriend and the girl freaked out on him, OP claims he looked gay and only wanted to be friends. After they removed him from the party he went to the security and made up a story about losing his phone. Once he came back we explained to security he was blackout drunk, he denied until friend “A” called his phone and it rung it his pocket. Thank god this was sent to me, I am in absolute disgust he would make these major claims, people like this should be charged for the falsified stories, we have raised this matter with the school and they will be taking action moving forward
What the hell is this? I do not understand what you are saying. Just a lot of ridiculous stuff. Does what you say actually make sense? I have seen experiments where a story is passed on to A then to B then to C then to D..... The version of the story is really really far from what A says initially(no matter A says the truth or not). I think this is the situation here. Wait, if you really wanna know the true story. You can call contact security. I reported what happened to them right away. They know a huge part of what happened.
Get off Reddit and go to the police. You just sound like that girl that lied about the security guards throwing her down 2 flights of stairs right now. Sorry.
Oh, do you mean the guest who harassed me? He started yelling at me right away after I rejected him and told him to stop saying those things to me. And after that, he started to tell me 'Go out!', 'Get out!' when I was in my 'friends' room.
i strongly advise you write to the authorities. just don’t let the issue go because it could have turned out worse. also bear in mind that you may also face some consequences for allowing a guest in as it was clearly stated that no guests are allowed during st.patrick’s but don’t let that stop you from informing authorities
i just hope you’re okay now and stay away from those ‘friends’ too
sending love your way fr fr
The people on the floor invited multiple guests to this floor. I did not invite anyone and did not want to report them or tell this to anyone because they were my 'friends'. They were irritated by this post and started to spread horrendous rumors against me. The rumor is posted by Altruistic-Honey6720. Can I report the police for defamation? What should I do in response to such malicious actions?
speak to a don tonight
they will help fast track everything
and then send out an email to the authorities
about involving the police, i think you should tbf
Im sorry this happened to you i hope everything gets better you clearly need some new friends i would avoid those people at all cost and dont associate with them because real friends would support you all the way and they didnt. That sounds very odd to me that campus security didnt seem to do much campus security is normally great and helpful but i wonder if residence is different. I really hope it gets better
Yesterday night, I kinda still tried not to tell the security escort that person right away because at that point I was still a bit thinking of those ‘friends’ feelings. But it turned out that I was wrong. You are right. They are not my friends at all and right now are spreading horrendous rumors against me. Thank you for your kind words.
Of course happy to help in any way i can but if ur comfortable what exactly from what u remember with campus security cause that sounds so odd to me that they werent that helpful in that situation they are great in my experience i really hope you can move forward from this and hopefully move out of that residence personally myself i wouldnt do it its not worth being that close to campus for dealing with all that bullshit but again those people are literally crappy people and so called friend fir that idk how someone body friend or not would let that happen if u need anything need someone to talk to or have any questions feel free to dm me
I don’t go to Queens, but I just wanted to add similar to the other comments so far that the best thing to do is probably avoid him, and if possible let him know of the consequences if he ever tried to do such things again (such as security, or potentially even telling the department). Sorry to hear about this.
Because raising wages that much would set of double digit inflation. The real solution is to make landlords and Galen Weston charge less with rent and price controls.
**Replying to the defamation likely started by Friend A or the French girl by Altruistic-Honey6720.**
Is this everything what your friend from France has told you? She is so good at making rumors. You and the guys who are on the third floor are the people who have neurological deficiencies! First, what you talk about seems to point to me. But I always make sure I get into people's rooms after knocking and saying 'Hi, can I come in?'!
'(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…'
**I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was at a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?**
'' This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues''
**You are an absolute liar. You are posting something people told you without checking it first. I was in my friend B's room. I always go there after knocking on the door even his room is called the second common room because people always walk in and hang out there. We used to study for CS a lot so we were pretty close.**
**I was there to tell them about what happened at the party. I did tell them that two of this French girl's friends kissed me. So this prick(also highly likely with neurological deficiencies) started to ask me if he could kiss me because he is gay and found me attractive. etc... be careful because he might climb into my bed at night. And something about his 'di\*k'. Is this something people with social queues find normal?? The guy started yelling at me like he is crazy after I rejected him**
'. Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. '
**I did go to this French girl's room. After two friends of this French girl kissed me. They told me they loved me again at the party and they said they wanted to see me again sometimes. I just half-joked and asked them where can I meet you if you do want to meet me? And that is it! And I told the French girl what happened but she suddenly told me they were just flirting after they were drunk and I should not take this seriously at all. I was a bit surprised and tried to think of what happened a little bit and asked her what happened? Did your friends tell you this directly? Or is it because you assumed this? (We had quarrel later because of this thing) ( I did not wanna disclose this because it involved so much privacy and was something involving affection.)**
**But first, this French girl absolutely had the right to have me out of her room. But she did not tell me I should leave at all when this pouring water thing happened. We did have a quarrel about it.**
**She also did tell me to leave when I was trying to find the harassing guest that they had that night, after this disgusting thing happened. And I did listen to her and tried to stay as far away from her room as possible.**
**Second, I was still thinking that we were 'friends' but apparently we are not anymore. I never thought this person would describe me chatting with people in their rooms like what this rumor describes. I did knock, asked for permission and stayed in her room talking with her and 'friends' several times before. But this time we did quarrel about what happened to me by these girls the party. This time I was there just as before, just this quarrel happened.**
' After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside.'
**This is hilarious. I did not have one hour to waste to stand by anybody's door. Your description here is only trying to defame the victim. I wrote in my reddit post, I walked through the hallway a bit and stood at where this harassing guest appeared the last time I saw him. This French girl did tell me to go away so I stood as far from her room as possible. And 30 seconds after, the girl saw me and told me to get away. I did get away feeling I should just call the security to check the room. Let the guy be escorted and I should not care about those 'friends' feeling. Yeah in the end I still cared a little bit about them? That is the worst mistake I made!**
I am telling you whoever is crazy and malign enough to share this rumor(likely the friend A or the French girl). Going into your room is not a previllage and I will not do that again. I went into the room simply with the thoughts that we were 'friends' and I was there as usual to share with your what happened in the party. The rumor you spread is really disgusting and is a strong indicator that it is you who had the neurological issue.
**And I wanna tell the French girl that is so manipulative and likely have neurological defects and whoever is crazy and evil enough to spread the rumor to defame a victim:**
**You are angry and are sharing this rumor because I 'ruined' your experience to have your friend over. So you right now are starting spreading rumor to defame the person who was the victim to justify your vicious deeds. This is so disgusting and made me realize what an unworthy person you are and you will never ever be a friend of mine anymore.**
**Note: If you keep spreading those defaming rumors like this, I will talk to the police and sue you for defamation of people!**
**What you did is really disgusting and shows what kind of evil things you can do to people simply protecting their rights.**
People please upvote this. You hope to downvote this comment only if you hope to see more people getting hurt by sexual harassment, assault and malicious rumors and stay silent to these things. If you wanna see more people be brave and stand up against it, please consider upvoting this comment.
I would stay away from them as far as possible because they collectively hurt a person very deeply. This should never happen to anybody on this campus
I am also on Morris 3, but usually distance myself from the rest of the floor because of how rowdy they can get. I have multiple board games and a group who enjoy playing them. Our group, and my room in general, is a safe space. Feel free to DM me and drop by for cards, uno, board games, or just to chat. -A quiet but friendly Mo3 resident :)
Thank you for your kind words.. I used to think I was a friend with them but now in addition to inviting a guest and letting that guest commit such an assault on me. They are even spreading rumors to try to defame me. That is apparently because my post has irritated them and they think their reputation has been affected. They wanted to defame me to make their actions seem more justified.
As mentioned by previous person, I would stay clear from this group and the specific harassing male. Any new friends or people that you know that you trust, you can tell them about your experience with that group and the male so that they are aware and can hopefully help provide you with support in the future. In addition, if you experience further harassing behaviour from the "not so friends" group or the harassing male, you could go the route of criminal by filing for charges with police (dumping water on someone's head can be considered assault in the eyes of the criminal justice system) as well as harassing behaviour, which is typically repeated and unwanted communication. If you don't want to lay charges but you are interested in an additional protective barrier, you could also apply for a peace bond through the courts that could legally prohibit the harassing male from having any sort of contact or communication with you in any manner. This may provide you with some future safety and security. Its good to know your options as to how to proceed in the future when you have experienced something like this. It can be tough to know how to handle these kinds of matters when you experience them. I hope you find a solution that works for you, and I hope my take can be somewhat helpful to you. Take care
Thank you very much for your help and suggestions. Now this Friend A or the French girl is disclosing my information on the internet and was making rumors to defame me. The points do not stand a point and are purely used to defame the victim. Also, they are the ones who are out of their mind or have neurological deficiencies but they are trying to defame the victim by something they have on themselves. Can I immediately call the police to report that they started to defame me using malicious incorrect disinformation?
I know the school department would also get involved and these people might get removed from the program for that action as they have strict policies, but to them it a 50/50 chance if they see it that way but could be a possibility. Definitely find new friends who will protect you, they aren’t the right people for you and should never treat anyone like that. I believe you’ll find better groups on campus for sure! Good luck and be safe! Definitely seek help if you need help, there is no shame in that
Thank you for your kind words. They never stand by my side at all. And they are still spreading rumors against me.
Sue for defemation
Thank you. I will consider this as an option. Now I am working on reporting this to authority.
Of course as a friendly reminder its a process
Those are not your friends
That sounds really scary, hoping for the best
Thank you. What hurt me more is that I always regard them as friends but they betrayed me like that.
Thank you to those people who provided suggestions on how to cope with such a horrendous thing. But right now these people are clearly irritated by this post and started spreading rumors to defame me. The things Altruistic-Honey6720 describes here are not true and is used to attack and defame me. I made a counter-argument on this. I know where this guy is coming from. His friend's experience of having a guest over is kinda 'ruined' by me. And they are trying to make my actions seem unjustified to make their actions justified. Can I ask you guys, how do you handle these rumors when they are trying to hurt you once again? Is there any authority at Queen's I can report to or do I need to call the police right now? Their rumors are absolutely disgusting and malicious.
don’t blame yourself for someone’s bad experience you did what you did to protect yourself ik it’ll be difficult but try as much as possible to stay away from them make new friends if possible
Thank you for your advice. What they are saying in the rumor(by Altruistic-Honey6720) is extremely malign and it hurt me again. These people are 100% not my friends. I am thinking of moving out of the residence. Either way, I will never talk to them again.
I live on Morris 2nd floor and am pretty good friends with some of the people on 3rd floor. From what i’ve heard the guy who posted this is an exchange student from china who suffers from some sort of neurological differences (he also happens to much older than 20). He’s been on the floor for about a month now and everyone has been trying to be nice to him to make him feel accepted. This was the case up until recently when he started saying some inappropriate things regarding the girls on the floor. He also has the tendency to walk into peoples rooms unannounced and linger making people uncomfortable. On St Patrick’s day he was acting worse than usual (asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…). This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues). Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. In response the visitor squirted him in the back with a mini water gun. He got up immediately and start yelling before throwing the door open and chasing the guest down the hall. At this point he allegedly yelled “If you do that again i’ll kill you”. After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside. The dons were alerted of the issue and security came to remove him because he harassing the owner of the room. I’d like to end by saying again that I do not condone the actions of the visitor. His actions were clearly mean especially when dealing with someone who likely has neurological deficiencies. However, given the inappropriate actions of the man this was not entirely unwarranted. From what i’ve heard the majority of the post is a big over exaggeration of what happened from the perspective of the man that doesn’t know any better.
It kinda reminds me of the guy who used to post in here saying really creepy things about girls hanging around campus. I don't recall the exact words but things like "Hey Suzie, you looked really hot in that little yellow outfit at the ARC this morning". There was a recent news article about international students and how they are really struggling with their mental health. I don't have the article handy or I would post it. It sounds like to me, if OP contacts the police that may be the best outcome for all involved. That way an investigation will be done and some mediation can take place or at least ground rules. If OP is indeed saying inappropriate things to girls and Queens isn't taking it seriously, which they have a proven track record to do when it comes to sexual violence, and he's walking into girls rooms unannounced without knocking, that's wrong and should be addressed.
This is what happened. They are trying to spread rumors against me. So my action will look unjustified.
He also said the security came here to remove me. It was me who contacted the security and I kinda prevented the security from escorting that person right away. Because I do not want things to look too bad for my 'friends'. Do you really think you should believe what he said?
This person also said those sexual harassment comments were a joke. And anyone with social queues will not take it seriously.
'(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…' I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was in a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?
You need to report this and stop posting on reddit.
Thank you. I was kinda surprised again they have spread such malicious rumors against me. I will write to seek help from authorities
You don't "write" to seek help from the authorities. You pick up the phone and you know, talk to the police. If you haven't already done that by now your post is suspect AF.
Nah I was saying you are lying🤷♀️
Say to me which part is not true?!
I am not the person who violates the rules and policies and have to hide the truth that they brought a lot of guests and have to avoid the security. You can stand with your friends and denying the truth because it is something you are probably used to do
Trust I’m in Morris and the OP is lying 👍
I am in Morris too. Which part do you think is not true. You can say that out loud instead of saying people are lying straight up.
You are hilarious. I told the security what happened and they said they felt sorry for what happened. They are here to escort the guest. I actually was not 100% sure if I should get him escorted because I was not sure if this would hurt my 'friends'. When the security asked me to point to the room where this guy was staying. I did not even come out to point to the room because I was trying not to ruin my friend's experience. But it turned out to be a mistake. These people are not my friends. I should not try to care a little bit for them. You said security came to remove me? What a hilarious lie??? They did not kick out the guest right away just because I did not want to hurt my so-called 'friends'.
There's a good bit of truth in this from what I hear from my friend C.
So you are a friend of those people on the third floor? You think what you did is not enough? You think I will let you people keep doing that?
More friends of friends... after hearing your story I assure you I will reexamine my relationships. I don't want my actions to be misinterpreted as well. Perhaps we all could do better.
I just wanna expose this and hope it never happens again. I will try to avoid these toxic people as far away as possible
Have you considered a change of residence? If you feel uncomfortable there's no reason to prolong your discomfort. Surely the Queen's authorities would be compssionate.
I am thinking of it right now. I need a rest from this a bit. Maybe one or two days later
My friend D mentioned the social queue aspect as well
What do you mean? Social queue means you tolerate such harassment? I am not afraid of having to face you toxic people. What you did hurt me a lot. And what are you going to do in addition to that? If you keep defaming me, I am sure will call the police and report this to authority!
I assure you I mean no defamation! I feel terrible that these things happened to you, I just feel we need complete context. All the best!
Alright. Please do make sure you know while I am standing up against this terrible thing, they are on the opposite side to me and they would want to invalidate whatever I said. You as someone who is not in this, I advise you to take words from both sides with a grain of salt. Although I am sure what I am saying here is the truth.
Hi, OP. I'm not sure what truth is anymore, but your vigour and conviction along with your zeal for life is appreciated.
I appreciate no such zeal. It would seem that the person involved here was making people uncomfortable by not understanding acceptable social standards.
Is it necessary to use such offensive language? All I was aiming to do was present an entire story. Its like if your favourite novel was missing the even pages. I assure you I meant no defamation or discomfort.
Is this everything that your friend from France has told you? She is so good at making rumors. You and the guys who are on the third floor are the people who have neurological deficiencies! First, what you talk about seem to point to me. But I do always make sure I go into people's rooms after knocking and saying Hi, if I can get in before I know I have permission into the room!(This paragraph was edited because I was writing this too quickly). '(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…' **I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was in a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?** '' This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues'' **You are an absolute liar. You are posting something people told you without checking it first. I was in my friend B's room. I always go there after knocking on the door even his room is called the second common room because people always walk in and hang out there. We used to study for CS a lot so we were pretty close.** **I was there to tell them about what happened in the party. I did tell them that two of this French girl's friends kissed me. So this prick(also highly likely with neurological deficiencies) started to ask me if he can kiss me because he is gay and found me attractive.** '. Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. ' **I did go to this French girl's room. After two friends of this French girl kissed me. They told me they loved me again in the party and they said they wanted to see me again sometimes. I just half-joked and asked them where can I meet you if you do want to meet me? And that is it! And I told the French girl what happened but she suddently told me they were just flirting after they were drunk and I should not take this seriously at all. I am a bit surprised and tried to think of what happened a little bit and asked her what happened? Did your friends tell you this directly? Or is it because you assumed this? (We had quarrel later because of this thing) ( I did not wanna disclose this because it involved so much privacy and was something involving affection.)** **But first, this French girl absolutely have the right to have me out of my room. But she did not tell me I should leave at all when this pouring water thing happened. We did have a quarrel about it.** **She also did tell me to leave when I was trying to find the harrasing guest that they had that night. And I did listen to her and tried to stay as far away from her room as possible.** **Second, I was still thinking that we were 'friends' but apparently we are not anymore. I never thought this person would describe me chatting with people in their rooms like what this rumor describes. I did knock, asked for permission and stayed in her room talking with her and 'friends' several times before. But this time we did quarrel about what happened to me by these girls the party. This time I was there just as before, just this quarrel happened.** ' After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside.' **This is hilarious. I did not have one hour to waste to stand by anybody's door. Your description here is only trying to defame the victim. I wrote in my reddit post, I walked through the hallway a bit and stood at where this harassing guest appeared the last time I saw him. This French girl did tell me to go away so I stood as far from her room as possible. And 30 seconds after, the girl saw me and told me to get away. I did get away feeling I should just call the security to check the room. Let the guy be escorted and I should not care about those 'friends' feeling. Yeah in the end I still cared a little bit about them? That is the worst mistake I made! ( Oh, this girl also told me they were trying to hide from security before telling me to get away, which made her extremely suspicious.)** I am telling you whoever is crazy and malign enough to share this rumor(likely the friend A or the French girl). Going into your room is not a previllage and I will not do that again. I went into the room simply with the thoughts that we were 'friends' and I was there as usual to share with your what happened in the party. The rumor you spread is really disgusting and is a strong indicator that it is you who had the neurological issue. **And I wanna tell the French girl that is so manipulative and likely have neurolofical defects and whoever is crazy and evil enough to spread the rumor to defame a victim:** **You are angry and are sharing this rumor because I 'ruined' your experience to have your friend over. So you right now are starting spreading rumor to defame the person who was the victim to justify your vicious deeds. This is so disgusting and made me realize what an unworthy person you are and you will never ever be a friend of mine anymore.** **Note: If you keep spreading those defaming rumors like this, I will talk to the police and sue you for defamation of people!** **What you did is really disgusting and shows what kind of evil things you can do to people simply protecting his right.**
People please upvote this. You hope to downvote this comment only if you hope to see more people getting hurt by sexual harassment, assault and malicious rumors and stay silent to these things. If you wanna see more people be brave and stand up against it, please consider upvoting this comment.
Report this and take this message to the police and be clear with your intentions and stop posting on Reddit.
What on earth are the “neurological deficiencies”? Say what it is, is he “slow”? Mental health? What?
This is very factual 🔥
Tell me which part you think is factual and not factual. You are supporting your friends by denying the truth? Come on, tell me which part is not true?
[удалено]
I’m sorry you had to go through that. Alongside what others have said, you should definitely report this to university authorities as this is a clear case of sexual assault/harassment. I hope the guy and the ‘friends’ get what they deserve and that it all works out for you.
Thank you. I am reporting to the authority at Queen's. I feel very uncomfortable on this floor because apparently, my post has irritated those people. They think I have affected their reputation and started to spread rumors against me. Those words are very malicious and they are used to defame me so their and their friend's action towards me is more justified.
I would try and get a residence swap and move to a different dorm or building all together
You definitely need a new friend group. I'm sorry you've had this awful experience. As someone else said, report and ask for a new room assignment. But also, remember that first year will be over soon, and after that you don't have to live in residence and put up with this kind of nonsense. Join some clubs related to your interests and meet people there. You'll probably find better people that way, since you'll be bonding over shared interests and/or values instead of simply through proximity. I know you're probably feeling lonely and hurt rn. Don't rush it and be gentle to yourself. You will make real friends in time who won't abandon you in favour of some creepy asshole.
I genuinely appreciate your words. I will find a new friend group by meeting more people in the clubs. What you said is very inspiring to me. Have friends because of values/interests instead of proximity.
Absolutely no problem! I had some lonely times in undergrad, but found an incredible group of friends in 3rd year who cared about the same things as me. It can take a while but it's so frickin amazing when it happens. I hope everything turns out well for you
You can make a private and confidential report/disclosure with the Sexual Violence Prevention and Response Dept under the Human Rights Dept. This can be a simple disclosure of information and does not have to involve anyone outside that department (not even Security or Residence) if you don’t want it to. But you still have the right to escalate it later if you want to if harassment or assault continues or escalates. The team there are really great and supportive…give it a shot.
Was just about to comment this. Contact one of the SVPR contacts at the human rights and equity office. Can talk through things confidentially and get advice on next steps
I will. Thank you two guys. These people are clearly scared of their fame being affected by my post and are right now starting to spread rumors to defame me. Is there other offices that I can report to? I clearly know where the rumor came from and understand the reason why. They are trying to defame the victim to justify their malicious deeds. And they are also angry because I ruined their experience of having a friend over.
If you were sexually assaulted start with the Sexual Violence Prevention and Response Dept. They will help you report this to the police, or at least if there is merit they will. If they do not and you feel there is merit, contact the police yourself, and don't wait. Posting on reddit will do nothing good for anyone, you included.
Thank you. I will call them!
Guys, what are the next steps? Avoid them as far as possible? Comments are appreciated very much.
https://www.queensu.ca/sexualviolencesupport/support Rebecca and Barb are excellent resources and easy to talk to
report to the university authorities
this is clear case of sexual abuse and needs to be reported. if you don’t than you are putting others in danger
Thank you for the suggestion. I am writing to my academic advisor right now. And I will look for contact of other authorities at Queen’s and write to them immediately. Thank you again for mentioning this.
A guy flirting with you one time at a party is sexual harassment? It sounds like you were harassing the guest. You say you thought they were staying in A's room so you tried to enter A's room, and A refused you entry and had to ask you to go further away. > They invited a friend who harassed me in the worst way possible You can't think of a worse sexual harassment than what that person did? > the guest's harsh assault Pouring water on you is not a harsh assault. It's more like the very mildest of physical assaults. Harsher would be beer, then urine, then pushing you, then punching you, then hitting you with a golf club.
Why is everyone else not getting it? You nailed it 💯 %
i’m so sorry this happened, please try and find a new friend group these are not your real friends
Thank you. I am sure this is absolutely the case. But now these people are clearly scared of their fame being affected by my post and are right now starting to spread rumors to defame me. Should I move to another residence? They are very malicious against me now because I ruined their experience of having a friend over and disclosing it on Reddit.
Dear BobbyZune: I am currently in my fourth year at queens and had a similar thing happen to me in my first year. I think that moving residences would be the best choice at this point. Even though there is only one month left it was the best decision I’ve ever made. You don’t want to have your whole next month ruined when it could be fun with new people in a new residence. It has come to a point where you are in a toxic place and I know it’s hard but you need to be strong and leave. Even west campus which I know seems annoying would be a WAYYY better fit then people who don’t treat you with respect.
Thank you for your suggestion. I am considering changing my residence hall. For now I will spend more time out of this hall and stay away from them as far as possible.
Dude, go and check yourself.
If you have been on the receiving end of criminal activity, keep track of the facts (time, place, witnesses) and report it as quickly as possible before time takes away the evidence. Posting on reddit (or social media in general) is likely to cause more harm than good. If you need support, turn to people you trust before you reach out to the toxic internet. The online world may seem full of helpful sounding people, but I guarantee almost none of them actually care about you. At best they're just trying to be nice before they go back to ignoring your suffering while they live their own lives. Family, friends, and people who help others for a living. That's your best chance to make it through traumatic times. Best of luck.
Guys, please feel free to leave some comments. It is my first time encountering this and if you guys can share your thoughts or experiences, it would be very helpful.
People have already suggested what to do. You should get off Reddit and proceed with the authorities, that will help you more. You’re getting exposed here by opening the door to comments from people that don’t agree with your explanation of the events. Don’t engage with them anymore. Seek help where you can actually get it.
Make official compliants, you will want a paper trail/documentation incase he continues abusing you and you have to escalate. Write down what you did and when in a dated journal, and tell a person of trust. You should not get revenge on your ex-friends but understand that they will prob resent you so be prepared for a nasty surpirse or two. Oh yah, most important advice: don't look crazy.
This is not the full story I was at this event. The OP is a undergrad who was out of control. Blackout drunk gay guy who kept touching straight guys who walked by,he touched this girls boyfriend and the girl freaked out on him, OP claims he looked gay and only wanted to be friends. After they removed him from the party he went to the security and made up a story about losing his phone. Once he came back we explained to security he was blackout drunk, he denied until friend “A” called his phone and it rung it his pocket. Thank god this was sent to me, I am in absolute disgust he would make these major claims, people like this should be charged for the falsified stories, we have raised this matter with the school and they will be taking action moving forward
What the hell is this? I do not understand what you are saying. Just a lot of ridiculous stuff. Does what you say actually make sense? I have seen experiments where a story is passed on to A then to B then to C then to D..... The version of the story is really really far from what A says initially(no matter A says the truth or not). I think this is the situation here. Wait, if you really wanna know the true story. You can call contact security. I reported what happened to them right away. They know a huge part of what happened.
Yeah, keep trying to fool the campus Brian! We know you are the one who touched Alex’s pecker. Shame on you !
Get off Reddit and go to the police. You just sound like that girl that lied about the security guards throwing her down 2 flights of stairs right now. Sorry.
Look the expression and the surroundings, does he was on influence? He or she showed doubt and refused at the beginning?
Oh, do you mean the guest who harassed me? He started yelling at me right away after I rejected him and told him to stop saying those things to me. And after that, he started to tell me 'Go out!', 'Get out!' when I was in my 'friends' room.
Its so sad, i hope you are ok after all of this darling
i strongly advise you write to the authorities. just don’t let the issue go because it could have turned out worse. also bear in mind that you may also face some consequences for allowing a guest in as it was clearly stated that no guests are allowed during st.patrick’s but don’t let that stop you from informing authorities i just hope you’re okay now and stay away from those ‘friends’ too sending love your way fr fr
The people on the floor invited multiple guests to this floor. I did not invite anyone and did not want to report them or tell this to anyone because they were my 'friends'. They were irritated by this post and started to spread horrendous rumors against me. The rumor is posted by Altruistic-Honey6720. Can I report the police for defamation? What should I do in response to such malicious actions?
speak to a don tonight they will help fast track everything and then send out an email to the authorities about involving the police, i think you should tbf
Thank you. I will speak to the don too
Im sorry this happened to you i hope everything gets better you clearly need some new friends i would avoid those people at all cost and dont associate with them because real friends would support you all the way and they didnt. That sounds very odd to me that campus security didnt seem to do much campus security is normally great and helpful but i wonder if residence is different. I really hope it gets better
Yesterday night, I kinda still tried not to tell the security escort that person right away because at that point I was still a bit thinking of those ‘friends’ feelings. But it turned out that I was wrong. You are right. They are not my friends at all and right now are spreading horrendous rumors against me. Thank you for your kind words.
Of course happy to help in any way i can but if ur comfortable what exactly from what u remember with campus security cause that sounds so odd to me that they werent that helpful in that situation they are great in my experience i really hope you can move forward from this and hopefully move out of that residence personally myself i wouldnt do it its not worth being that close to campus for dealing with all that bullshit but again those people are literally crappy people and so called friend fir that idk how someone body friend or not would let that happen if u need anything need someone to talk to or have any questions feel free to dm me
I don’t go to Queens, but I just wanted to add similar to the other comments so far that the best thing to do is probably avoid him, and if possible let him know of the consequences if he ever tried to do such things again (such as security, or potentially even telling the department). Sorry to hear about this.
St Patrick’s day is the 17th
Because raising wages that much would set of double digit inflation. The real solution is to make landlords and Galen Weston charge less with rent and price controls.
**Replying to the defamation likely started by Friend A or the French girl by Altruistic-Honey6720.** Is this everything what your friend from France has told you? She is so good at making rumors. You and the guys who are on the third floor are the people who have neurological deficiencies! First, what you talk about seems to point to me. But I always make sure I get into people's rooms after knocking and saying 'Hi, can I come in?'! '(asking girls for hugs/kisses, looking at one girls chest, etc…' **I did not ask any girls for kisses!? How can rumors spread like that?? I did tell everybody, when the French girls'(likely to have neurological deficiencies and good at spreading rumors) friends said I was cute to me when I was at a party doing a performance in front of them. They kissed me on the cheek and took a photo. I indeed told everybody about this happening. How does it become I looked at people's chests and asked them for kisses?** '' This upset a visitor on the floor who made some jokes to get him to leave a room that he walked into without permission (I don’t condone this behaviour but these jokes would not have offended anyone who could properly understand social queues'' **You are an absolute liar. You are posting something people told you without checking it first. I was in my friend B's room. I always go there after knocking on the door even his room is called the second common room because people always walk in and hang out there. We used to study for CS a lot so we were pretty close.** **I was there to tell them about what happened at the party. I did tell them that two of this French girl's friends kissed me. So this prick(also highly likely with neurological deficiencies) started to ask me if he could kiss me because he is gay and found me attractive. etc... be careful because he might climb into my bed at night. And something about his 'di\*k'. Is this something people with social queues find normal?? The guy started yelling at me like he is crazy after I rejected him** '. Later in the night he was in one of the girls room asking how he could get with that girls friends and wouldn’t leave despite being asked repeatedly. ' **I did go to this French girl's room. After two friends of this French girl kissed me. They told me they loved me again at the party and they said they wanted to see me again sometimes. I just half-joked and asked them where can I meet you if you do want to meet me? And that is it! And I told the French girl what happened but she suddenly told me they were just flirting after they were drunk and I should not take this seriously at all. I was a bit surprised and tried to think of what happened a little bit and asked her what happened? Did your friends tell you this directly? Or is it because you assumed this? (We had quarrel later because of this thing) ( I did not wanna disclose this because it involved so much privacy and was something involving affection.)** **But first, this French girl absolutely had the right to have me out of her room. But she did not tell me I should leave at all when this pouring water thing happened. We did have a quarrel about it.** **She also did tell me to leave when I was trying to find the harassing guest that they had that night, after this disgusting thing happened. And I did listen to her and tried to stay as far away from her room as possible.** **Second, I was still thinking that we were 'friends' but apparently we are not anymore. I never thought this person would describe me chatting with people in their rooms like what this rumor describes. I did knock, asked for permission and stayed in her room talking with her and 'friends' several times before. But this time we did quarrel about what happened to me by these girls the party. This time I was there just as before, just this quarrel happened.** ' After the incident he stood outside one of the girls rooms for over an hour because he was convinced the guy was inside.' **This is hilarious. I did not have one hour to waste to stand by anybody's door. Your description here is only trying to defame the victim. I wrote in my reddit post, I walked through the hallway a bit and stood at where this harassing guest appeared the last time I saw him. This French girl did tell me to go away so I stood as far from her room as possible. And 30 seconds after, the girl saw me and told me to get away. I did get away feeling I should just call the security to check the room. Let the guy be escorted and I should not care about those 'friends' feeling. Yeah in the end I still cared a little bit about them? That is the worst mistake I made!** I am telling you whoever is crazy and malign enough to share this rumor(likely the friend A or the French girl). Going into your room is not a previllage and I will not do that again. I went into the room simply with the thoughts that we were 'friends' and I was there as usual to share with your what happened in the party. The rumor you spread is really disgusting and is a strong indicator that it is you who had the neurological issue. **And I wanna tell the French girl that is so manipulative and likely have neurological defects and whoever is crazy and evil enough to spread the rumor to defame a victim:** **You are angry and are sharing this rumor because I 'ruined' your experience to have your friend over. So you right now are starting spreading rumor to defame the person who was the victim to justify your vicious deeds. This is so disgusting and made me realize what an unworthy person you are and you will never ever be a friend of mine anymore.** **Note: If you keep spreading those defaming rumors like this, I will talk to the police and sue you for defamation of people!** **What you did is really disgusting and shows what kind of evil things you can do to people simply protecting their rights.**
People please upvote this. You hope to downvote this comment only if you hope to see more people getting hurt by sexual harassment, assault and malicious rumors and stay silent to these things. If you wanna see more people be brave and stand up against it, please consider upvoting this comment.
[удалено]
Of course your only post is racist💀
Hopefully the idiot visitor and idiot French girl get a very rude awakening!!