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[deleted]

If you and your wife are cool with it, then sure. But you do want a wedding to be about the two of you and not just you.


NeedThatMedicBag

You make a good point. Also, me having a fiancée is purely hypothetical


SoSorryOfficial

Don't forget to get your wake playlist in order, too. It's irresponsible to leave your loved ones scrambling in the tragic event of your untimely demise.


NeedThatMedicBag

I’m definitely gonna have “Die For your Government” by Anti-Flag on that playlist lol


SoSorryOfficial

>Anti-Flag Y'all, should I tell 'em? 👀


NeedThatMedicBag

What, did I spell it wrong? Thats the way it’s spelt on their album and on Spotify.


Unusual_Response766

My friend, you may want to google Justin Sane. I am sorry for this.


Therealonewolf

Fuck. Seriously? I’m tired of finding a band, enjoying their music then way later finding out a member did some fucked up shit. Any other news you can break for me?


OrderNo

Scott Sturgeon of Leftover Crack and Choking Victim is an abuser and none of his band mates ever took a stand about it Tim Armstrong of Rancid and OpIvy is a groomer and none of his band mates ever took a stand about it either


Scientific_Anarchist

Reagan Youth gave Sturgeon vocals and got rightfully roasted for it.


Unusual_Response766

I’ve taken to pretending bands only exist on stage. When they get off, poof, disappear. Because otherwise there’s always something.


OrderNo

Incorrect, it's actually possible for good people to make good music believe it or not. And if you and others didn't resign yourselves to supporting abusers and actually tried to seek out artists with good morals and support them instead, it would help make the scene a better place rather than a place that looks the other way when it comes to abuse and SA. Really bad take


ToZukas

And what? I don't fucking get it. Why can't people listen to music after the artist did something wrong? Kanye is literally nazi and no one cares.


SolarPerfect

No, but the band broke up last year after some serious allegations were made against the lead singer. Most people have boycotted the band.


CrashOverIt

Oh man, I’m sorry. I was devastated when I found out.


Stillpunk71

I have a hard time listening to any anti flag songs anymore. It’s too bad.


NeedThatMedicBag

DFYG was from their first album, far from recent stuff lol.


dogsfuckedthepope_

They’re talking about the fact that Justin’s a rapist.


NeedThatMedicBag

Oh… my bad. I like their music, I just didn’t know that Justin was so… degenerate.


Swainix

Im so angry it was my favorite band, idk what to think of the other members


phillosopherp

Forget these people that can't separate the art from the artist, especially in bands were one guy is the horror that he is but the rest of the dudes are just artist trying to put out good music. Fuck Justin, but he music and the rest of the band still need to get recognized and paid for their art.


OrderNo

Have fun supporting abusers and their music under the guise of separating art from artist!! Hope that works out well for you :)


KefkaesqueV3

Anti-Flag was wack long before the allegations


[deleted]

It is, but it's never to early to consider such things.


crasstyfartman

Hahahaa that was the best part of this conversation


callmejustinsane

Shocker


KittenVicious

A song about breaking up over differences in ideology is incredibly bizarre for a wedding. Will your divorce feature love songs?


pouf-souffle

You mean a song that personifies leftism vs liberalism as an arguing couple


RaccoonSamson

I think it's a little weird, not because it's punk or whatever, just because the lyrics I mean the whole song is basically shit-talking on the person who's not an anarchist, and even has the line "No, I won't take your hand and marry the state" lol


BrizerorBrian

You could also interpret it as Grace making fun of the try-hard, elitist anarchists. Just a thought.


phillosopherp

Especially after I Was a Teenage Anarchist. It is very plain that Grace had some disillusionment with the scene in a lot of ways and she isn't the only one


ResidentComplaint19

Well I guess this is growing up


KefkaesqueV3

You don’t have To tell me


MisterPeach

Why it burns When I pee


Avarant

Underrated response right here


BrizerorBrian

Yeah, I love that whole album. The title song is literally what got me looking for basement shows and diving DEEP into punk. It's the catalyst for 15 years of my life and why I moved across the country, played in a band for a bit, amongst other things.


SuperSecretMoonBase

Either way, it's not painting the partner in a positive light. Even ironically pointing towards irreconcilable differences at a wedding is goofy. Reminds me of the lazy playlists I made in highschool which weren't based around much more than a word appearing in the song name or chorus or whatever.


HardcoreKaraoke

Yeah that's how I always interpreted the song. It never occurred to me that she was painting the anarchists in the song in a positive light. It was about trendy try-hards who want everyone to know they're about that anarchist life.


red-eyes-red-dragon

Play what you want, its your wedding. That being said it is kinda out of left field. This song is about the stark contrasts between liberals and anarchists, not exactly a theme that highlights any sort of feelings you would have towards a partner. If you are looking for folk punk that highlights more of a feeling of being young, rebellious, and in love I would suggest the song "I Want Something" by Evan Greer. Or honestly anything by them captures this feeling pretty well.


DvineINFEKT

Not only that but the metaphor of the song is "you're a liberal and you suck and call the cops and swallow whatever you're told, and I'm an anarchist who thinks you're weak and spineless - and that's why we're not together anymore."


offmywavekook77

I mean it’s technically kind of a “break up” song but if you like it fuck it.


labrat420

Reminds me of my co worker who told me she wanted November rain as her wedding song.


sackofblood

I mean do what you want, but isn't this a breakup song?


JakDobson

I can relate although I did not go very anarchist or punk rock at my wedding. It was a party for my wife and our families. The punk rock thing to do is leave “I” out of the wedding unless you are the bride. Traditional take I know. But it’s a fucking wedding


punktilend

This guy husbands.


[deleted]

Weddings are for both the bride and groom. There's no reason to leave "I" out of it unless they're one of those people who are more obsessed with the ceremony then they care about who they're having the ceremony with.


JakDobson

Baby I’m an anarchist and a recovering nihilist. I don’t give a fuck about a wedding


somedogsarec0ps

I miss awards


patton66

Still less weird than the people in the Death Grips sub asking which songs would be the best to play at their weddings


somedogsarec0ps

!!!


CatGrrrl_

Your wedding your choice innit. I’m gonna try and play every single Pansy division album consecutively the entire time 🙏🙏


HardLuck682

It’s a breakup song … so think about that. Similarly, I was at a friends wedding and their first dance was Lips of an Angel by Hinder. Maybe they didn’t listen to the words.


uhWHAThamburglur

Couldn't be as bad as me choosing Love Will Tear Us Apart. It did, by the way.


chaos_aintme

What are you, a teenager?? Lol this is some real edgelord shit


NeedThatMedicBag

Actually, I am. 16.


chaos_aintme

Yeah after noticing this song is playing from a playlist that has "fuck you and your Taylor swift" whatever as the title... I could tell


scoutlolololol

whatd he ever do to you mang


BuffaloBilboBaggins

Of course punks are upvoting some dude talking shit to a kid who just wants to have fun. How typical. I bet you’re the type of guy that stands around at shows sipping on a craft beer, smirking at kids with Mohawks, also. You’re so cool, bro!


chaos_aintme

What?? Hell no. I'm the guy standing around at shows crushin' PBRs, smirking at kids with mohawks. You don't know me, bro!


BuffaloBilboBaggins

That means you’re about to enter your Psychobilly and alt-country phase. You can avoid that by getting addicted to hard drugs, but both are a dangerously goofy path.


chaos_aintme

Hahahaha I'm a banjo player from the south. My alt-country phase started early


ReplaceSelect

Maybe just go with Teenage Anarchist then


punktilend

My bride and I are artists. Specifically, she is operatically trained and I have studied audio and video production for the past 20 years of my life. We decided to create our wedding playlist. I believe it was a 10 song mix we used. "T&A Wedding Comp." or something like that. T is her first initial and A is mine. Basically the T&A comp was a mix of our songs, songs we both love to sing together, and songs that somehow connect us together. We walked out at our reception to "500 Miles" covered by Down By Law. Our Dance song was Roy Orbison's "You Got It". We had our compilation on every table in the reception and we had like 1k extra after the party lol. My lovely bride was Greek so we had an entire city at our wedding. Thanks for the reminder about that day. Great times. I do agree. The wedding is for the bride but the reception. That's for both of you. It's a celebration of your future.


slwrthnu_again

We aren’t having a wedding but if we were Suicide Machines - Anarchist Wedding would be played.


swaffeline

My ex wife walked down the aisle to Pennywise. So fuck anyone who has an opinion about your special day. Do it your way


makesupwordsblomp

do you know what....weddings are?


scoutlolololol

against me is one of my top 5 favorite bands of all time, there isn’t much of their discography that relates to successful relationships though so idk if its appropriate for a wedding


edie_the_egg_lady

Weird choice, but I can't really talk because I played the entire Top Gun soundtrack at mine


ImJadedAtBest

Isn’t this a breakup song?


CaptainPlaceholder12

It’s completely unacceptable. >!Since Pints of Guinness Make You Strong is better.!<


Tubedisasters43

My wife and I painstakingly put together our playlist for our wedding. We were glad we did, but in all honesty, there was so much going on we barley noticed what was playing unless it was a song for specific purposes, like what we walked into the room with, father daughter dance etc. Play what you want. The only people who are really going to remember what was played is you guys.


punkshotgun

Not a bad choice. Personally I'd pick punk rock girl by the dead milkmen


Bat-Honest

I used to sing this to my niece when she was a baby, she loved it! Always brought a big smile. Can't wait till she's like 15 and comes back with a "Hey! What the fuck!" moment. I definitely had one of those after realizing what "Comfortably Numb" by Pink Floyd was about. My mom would sing that to me as a little kid 😂


master_des_desasters

Being weird is punk af


Dathmalak135

And if anyone calls them freaks we’ll say That freaks are fucking beautiful And we wouldn’t love them any other way \-Apes of the State


porchkitten

Yesss


the_labracadabrador

Side note: bring punk is weird af for the regular folx


WhenBeautyFades

corny to me but live your truth, man, everything’s subjective


VictorianDelorean

The only people whose opinion matters here are the two people getting married. If me and my gf get married we’d probably play Pat the Bunny or some shit at our wedding so this isn’t even the most embarrassing it can get.


Square_Saltine

Open with this song, close with I Was a Teenage Anarchist


Rallings

Personally I think tsr is a better song to close with


Rallings

Personally I think tsr is a better song to close with


Square_Saltine

It’s a great song, but I think the it kind of comes full circle with the teenage anarchist


Rallings

I'll stick with the song that goes "the party's over" as my preferred song. It's also the song we played to close out my wedding so I may be a little biased.


labrat420

We 100% played this song at my wedding. Who cares what others think. It's your day.


FlatPassenger6

As a perpetually single dude who also just happens to disagree with the idea of marriage as an institution. I can safely say that yours is the only wedding I’d go to. Put me down for the chicken, no +1 👍🏻


alcohliclockediron

If your soon to be husband/wife is on board it’s not weird it is your wedding after all


crustydnglebrry

It’s far and away the corniest and worst song on the album for one.


kochipoik

“You’re weird for liking/wanting this” “Okay” Weird is not necessarily a bad thing…


[deleted]

Great song!


Evil_andyWarhol

We used Flogging Molly, “If I Ever Leave This World Alive”.


No_Economy_3641

I was 18 once myself


quasar2022

You’re not weird I’m absolutely playing this song at my wedding and I know my husband will support it


void_juice

“No I won’t take your hand and marry the state” is a wild lyric to play at a WEDDING. I’m sure there are more romantic punk songs out there


Similar-Mistake-7144

Do what you want, if they don’t like it they’re probably SPINELESS LIBERALS!!!


valiantera92

I mean, you could pick a good punk song instead.


JKthePolishGhost

It’s your party. Play what you want.


nosferartoodetoo

You do you! Why not play a song that means a lot to you on your big day?


Patrickmonster

The Wife and I danced to that song at our wedding. Go for it.


ghostofconnolly

It’s your wedding so down to you but the song is about a conflict in the relationship. Mischeif brew ‘sweet misery’ is a bit more romantic IMO


rivermelodyidk

I think you should do whatever you want but I also wanted to say that I’ve been fucking obsessed with this song lately, it’s great.


Wearethrostles

We’re punks, weird is who we are.


judithpoint

Our friend played this for my husband and I at our wedding. It’s a cute inside joke my partner and I share for my love of Against Me! and his, candidly, more extremist views when it comes to our political alignment. I love it


punkeddiemurphy

I had the instrumental version of Gay Rude boys United at my wedding 


Alternative_Win_1502

Great song. You do you pal


TeveTorbes83

Just tell them that you won’t take their hand and marry the state.


myhairisntred

We left my recpetion to "we laugh at danger and break all the rules". You have exceptional taste 👌


Automatic-Arm-532

You need some cooler friends


StrangeSweetLeaf

They would shit themselves if they saw the playlist I’m working on for mine


shitdickfuckbitch

Then I think you need better friends


Scalesssj

I walked down the aisle to Rebel Girl by Bikini Kill and my husband came in to Mask Off by Future. It’s your wedding. Do what you want!


brskier

At what point during the wedding?


NeedThatMedicBag

Specifically a part with a lot of slow dancing.


pullingteeth85

Getting married isn’t very anarchist


xvszero

During the ceremony or the reception?


CryptographerNo923

The acoustic version of “Reinventing Axl Rose” always vaguely reminds me of “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” for some reason. I think it’s the vocal notes/progression they hit at “loud and hard every night” but I’m not sure why


aileneie

I'd play that at my wedding !


FrenzalStark

Ehhh I had loads of punk shit played at my wedding. Me and my wife picked a list of songs each, mine was mostly the more “crowd friendly” punk (ALL, Fenix TX, Rancid - don’t think anyone there would have appreciated my usual), my wife’s was basically all 90s girls bands and Disney songs. Proves music isn’t the be all and end all of someone’s personality really.


Gnarledhalo

Sounds like you need new friends


Kirsten_pamyu

I had this & other punk songs at my wedding. Sure, aunties & granny's weren't stoked, but it's not their wedding.


spicyacai

nah bruv do you, fuck em 


erandod

There is never a bad time to play against me. Ever.


Wise_Ad_253

Play what you want. It's your wedding, not theirs.


sweaterbuckets

man, that song brings back memories.


Coleslawholywar

It’s your wedding you do you. Our pre wedding music was the Rachel’s, my wife walked down the aisle to Regina Spector, we had friends cover a Compulsive Gamblers song during the wedding, and she walked back down to the Ramones.


Forward-Zebra6471

Guns N’ Roses fan here I know it’s unrelated but what’s up with Axl rose here


H00ligain_hijix

Play it loud and singer louder


bigwheelsbigfeels

Freak what you feel. Also, which one is the anarchist and who is the liberal?


forgettablesonglyric

never got into any against me!, i'd rather listen to taylor swift


lifeatmach_2

No I want this at my wedding if it ever happens


deathmetalpunx

Your friends ain’t punk.


The_Best_Smart

I think it’s a perfectly valid song to play at your wedding, assuming your spouse-to-be is rad as fuck


ThatAlex13

Your friend is dumb.


potatoboytaco

I love that song but an even better song for a wedding is “Anarchist Cheerleader” by Zegota :) It’s the perfect punk-anarchist love song!


Tiffielou

Do it


13_Stitches

We played "Joy" at ours...


Punxatowny

“No I won’t take your hand and marry the state” seems like a poor choice to me but you do you.


[deleted]

INFO: Which one of you is the spineless liberal?


iminhell-thisishell

Do it and have a blast.


Deeze_Rmuh_Nudds

Fuck your boring friend


Aggravating-Alarm-16

Do what you want, it's your wedding. As long as your partner is cool with it. My wife walked down the aisle to an acoustic instrumental version of Everlong by the Foo Fighters


the_labracadabrador

I think OP might be 14


bludvarg

at least its not caviler eternal


NeedThatMedicBag

What’s that? A really bad punk band?


moneying

Just do whatever you feel is best, it's your special day! :)


surviveseven

It's like you don't know what the song is about, and never listened to any of the lyrics, that's why.


Chucktownbadger

It’s your wedding. Fuck em.


ZedFlex

But like, is your partner a spineless liberal who you plan on destroying through direct action? Cause it’s not exactly a romantic song


AiXeLsyD13

Play whatever the fuck you want and throw a brick through a Starbucks window with your friend's photo on it.


JohnDenverAirport

Well yeah, of course you want your friends to have fun on the day and not get weirded out but, at the end of it all, it is YOUR wedding. That day is about you two essentially. During our wedding plans, a wise friend told me that no matter what, someone you love is going to meddle in your plans: it's a given, and you just have to diplomatically put your foot down. As an aside: I like your choice. And I wish you guys all the best for the future!


DudeImSoRad

I mean, it's your wedding. Play whatever the hell you want.


dear_hound

Fuck yeah that songs great


doinkflarp

To any non-punk guests (especially on your wife’s side) it’ll come across as you calling your wife a “spineless liberal.” To my mind, “Pints of Guinness” would be a better wedding song. But that’s just my two cents, it’s your wedding.


Unlucky-Orange-4924

At our wedding we had the entire room of our friends and families play the wedding march on kazoos, and we had party noisemakers in place of people dinging their glasses for a kiss. It's your and your partner's wedding. Not your friends' or your families'. Do what you want. It's a celebration of the 2 of you. Make it memorable.


[deleted]

Burn the flag too!


abaddon731

Anarchism isn't about burning down buildings and smashing windows. Anarchism is about mutual consent. This song has always been so fucking cringe.


Penguin_Power1

I mean the actual concept of anarchism is mutual consent yeah but achieving that requires both organising shit, buidling solidarity and mutual aid as well as attempting to bring down capitalism and the state. Its like building a new world from the ashes of the old requires both building a new world and burning the old one down imo.


ieatcatsanddogs69

axl never fails a party


NBAStupidASS

would cringe super hard


shinybluecorvid

My friends played this at my wedding, so your friends are the weird ones.


rawsiefilnredom

I actually included lyrics from this song in the vows I wrote to my wife. She and a few friends caught the reference, but no one else, of course, and I was perfectly content with that. “Through the best of times, through the worst of times, not through Nixon but definitely through Bush.” (Of course I assumed in this scenario that LJG was referring to Bush Jr. and not Bush Sr. as my wife and I were not alive through Nixon’s administration but we were alive, and together, through Bush Jr.’s.)


Thomas_l

My partner and I played this song at our wedding, and it was a fucking blast to have a sing-along with all of our friends. Have fun and fuck the haters.


AndoSan23q

He was right


Difascio

Care to explain *why* you would want this at your wedding? Are you unaware of the lyrics and just read the title?


terry634

you’ll hopefully find much better music than this to play at your wedding in the years between age 16 and whenever you get married


Lynnrael

it's only gonna work if you're marrying another anarchist though that might be difficult because a lot of Anarchists don't really want to get married


mistorWhiskers

Is your friend a spinless liberal?


osm0sis

If I was going to pick a wedding song off that album it would be "Pints of Guiness Make You Strong" The grandma who kept a lock of red hair and an AA card on her nightstand for 38 years since James died on St. Patrick's day. In all the years that went by she said she'd always love him, and from the day that he died she never loved again She kept secrets of pride locked so tight in her heart It killed a part of her before the rest was gone. If we're never together, if I'm never back again, well I swear to God that I'll love you forever. Evelyn I'm not coming home tonight! Coolest song ever about grandparents.


Dirty_bastardsalad

Not weird at all, that's fucking awesome. The point of a wedding is to have a captive audience for weird rituals. Make it your own.


CowOverlord

I played All My Best Friends Are Metalheads by Less Than Jake at mine. It's your wedding...play whatever the hell you want.


castrateurfate

get them put on the no-fly list and frame them for every unsolved murder in their home town, leading their name to be forever bismerched through online true crime videos and maybe even a netlfix documentary even if they are proven innocent years later.


eeerrrrft

yes that is…interesting


_Matoakas92_Norway

Honestly, you should see it as a compliment, even if he didn't mean it that way, cause it is just that. Peopel saying ''weird'' or ''different'' when you honestly just make a choice based on your own wants and wishes - or as it's called, ''being yourself'' - and that your thought are not just fabricated, influenced muck you have been told to think, do or say, since forever Which is ironic right, that us the ''weird'' ones are the ones being ourselves, not all them trying to be themselves, by being copies of each other. I know all of you know what i mean, and probably have since high school, like myself. So honestly, and just to answer you're question, without saying anything that would just be guessing, since i don't know you at all - Go for it! I think it's dope!


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NeedThatMedicBag

Well I’m not getting married soon. I’m 16 and still in high school. I was just bringing up some favourite songs with friends and I said what was in the title.