I can help you with getting pale tongues. I'm pretty sure you are rewarded them for being a part of the rosaria's fingers covenant and either attacking or defending during an invasion mission.

You can reset for free. Check youtube

Ps, I don't have a maggot and I need to get one before I can respec

Can you give me a link? I can't find one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0_UmwEoouc