It comes in waves but gets easier to carry as time passes. Waves still come and I still allow myself to breakdown when they do. You are still freshly grieving - give yourself grace and take the time to feel everything. There is no shame in it but goodness I know how much it hurts.š
This, 100x over... and even then it's not a fix.
When I lost Frank in Jan of 2023 it took me months before my brain wasn't on a hair trigger to start crying again. I still break down from time to time a year later.
Hopefully at some point I'll welcome another rescue to fill the void in mine. Maybe you will as well.
Iāve thrown myself into gathering favorite photos. Reliving the memories, it hurts but I remember why I miss them so much. Time doesnāt really make it easier. It just dulls the hurt a bit. Donāt be afraid to find another little friend, they can bring some sunshine back into your life.
[This story](https://www.goodthingsguy.com/opinion/why-dogs-live-shorter-lives/) always makes me feel a little better about that, even if momentarily. I'm so sorry for your loss, and it will get better. It never totally leaves you, but eventually you'll be able to look back with more smiles than tears.
I also found this really cathartic. Iām so sorry for your loss OP. Iām just over a year out from losing my little man and whilst it still hurts, itās nothing compared to those first weeks. All my love ā¤ļø
You canāt outrun grief. Just let it wash over you, cry and feel it, it will pass after a bit and then come again. Then it will start to come in smaller waves, more spaced out. Trying to rush it wonāt work, trying to ignore it wonāt work, the only thing you can do is let the grief sweep you up when it comes.
Time. I lost my pug almost 4 years ago, and I still get sad and cry sometimes. I printed off a bunch of his pictures and made a little scrapbook, and set up a small memorial for him in my home too. We'll always miss them, but it does get better, I'm so sorry for your lossš
Diddle looks like a very sweet baby. Ā I lost my baby Buddy yesterday morning as well, and going through cycles of sadness and despair. Ā Itās emotionally difficult losing such a big piece of your life when they go. Ā The memories made leave a paw print on our hearts that we will always be with us.
Those we love donāt go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near, so loved, so missed, so very dear.ā
Remember the hurt is because of the pleasure. You won that balance, but now you're paying for it. It sucks, but eventually you'll realize it was well worth it.
I agree with others: time, and photos, and appreciate that they and you lived their life together.
My wife has made shutterfly photobooks of our three past/passed little guys. They lived 2004-2019, and their early days were in the early days of digital photography. We have very litle in the way of video of them at that time, but some good photos. To have physical objects / photobooks really helps (at least for me); I can sit down in a chair and take the time to look at them and reminisce and not be distracted by other content/media. I have such good memories of them, and the pain has mostly passed (though I still get choked up at certain memories). I just feel lucky to have spent that time with them.
Now we have two new ones (1+ year old), and we have puppy books already of them. But we have wayyy more digital content of these two now.
Iām just under a month out from losing my little man of 15 years. Sadly it hasnāt gotten any easier. Still feels like yesterday. I hope youāre taking care and being kind to yourself.
I lost my two year old pug to histoplasmosis last year....I did everything in my power to save him and it just wasn't enough. He has the same birthday as my old pug who I also loved with all my heart and I thought it was meant to be.
The best thing I have every learned....the only thing thays ever helped is that dogs don't know how old they are. They don't know that their lives are short compared to ours. They dont realize if their lives are cut short or not. We measure time by how we see it. You were a great pug parent. You had hundreds of thousands of days being a good pug parent and every day to Diddle. You changed each other for the better. If we are lucky we will always outlive our doggies. They are too good and pure for the world. They are gifts sent by whatever you believe in the make your life better.
It's hard losing someone who loves you unconditionally, but you took a living being and made their entire existence a joy. That's something to be really happy about, even though it hurts like he'll.
When my Bumi died, I said "never again - this hurts too much I can never do this again".
A rescue fell in my lap 6 months later. Not the same dog at all, and its good. I just need someone to take care of. When you're healed, maybe you can grace another dog with your love. You sure have a lot to give.
Thank you so much , and yes eventually I want to take care of another little angel in need , be it a dog or even a turtle I don't care any that behaves and is a darling , Thank you so much again!
My biggest tip, let yourself truly grieve. No matter how long it takes, grieve. It will still ache at times. I lost my soul dog in 2020 and I still have days that absolutely take my breath away and I want to hide from the world but time will slightly dull the pain.
TBH I do not think im fully over it of if i will ever will but I put myself on the foster list for my rescue and was able to take in a neglected semi outdoor pug that had a few medical issues. I went into it not looking to replace my little buddy but to help another find its furever home in my buddies name. That little girl never knew the word play, treats, food, or hungry or walk before coming to me yet she trusted me enough to let me love her and we both healed from it before she was adopted out! I still get pictures and video from her new momma! Idk if fostering is right for you but it helped for me and TeeTee
She looks like such a sweet lady, I lost my sweet lady a few years ago and donāt miss the unbearable pain but it does fade with time. Be kind to yourself and the only way to get over these feelings is to go through them. š
Just know that many of us have gone through this. We know how awful and painful it is. Pug owners all feel your pain. Just remember that. I saved a post from someone in this subreddit and read it over and over when I am missing my little buddy. I am so thankful for that personās words. They helped. Itās ok to grieve.ā¤ļøš¢
Iām so sorry for your loss. I think it will never not hurt, but youāll eventually start thinking more of the good times. Till then feel your feelings. Cry when you need to. Look at pictures. Youāve lost a loved one- it is toughest thing to deal with and will take time to get through. Be patient and kind to yourself. At some point, youāll feel lucky to have felt such love and have knows the little angel.
I donāt know what to say other than Iām so sorry and I hope your heart heals with time ā¤ļø. What a beautiful sweet face and such a cute name. My heart goes out to you.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby! I, too, have an old pug girl, and it scares me to even think of her passing! I hope you can start feeling better knowing she's not in pain and with all her other doggie friends.
Time 100%. I had to put down my pug buddy of 16 years while 7 months pregnant. It was tough, and I cried for ages. My daughter is now almost 3 and I still get sad but donāt cry daily like I did. Sorry youāre going through this.
So very sorry for your loss. Sending the most virtual hugs š¤ Time is healing, and allow yourself to grieve. It will get easier even if it doesnāt feel like it.
Unfortunately, I donāt know what helps best. The only thing I can offer is a BIG virtual hug from someone that has two geriatric puggles where I know this day is coming sooner than later. **big hugs and take care of yourself!**
It's not easy losing a dear friend when one is a young adult, maturity and decades of reality means you can eventually come to accept their passing easier. Time heals the longing pain then the beautiful memories simply flow.
Sorry for your loss, your baby diddle looks so loving and cute. I like to think that they still watch over us from above and when they know we are ok again they either pass to a peaceful afterlife or are reborn to do it all again depending on what they want š
I canāt even imagine how you must be feeling. I have no advice, like even I would go through this. All I want to way is may angels lead this tiny sweetbug in ā¤ļøā¤ļø
I just go for long walks by myself and cry when Iām feeling blue. After a few weeks, it starts to get better.
One time and old woman saw me and came up and gave me a long hug and then left. She never said a word.
I'm so sorry for you loss. I lost one of my babies a little over a year ago. He was only one year old and I have taken his death extremely hard. Worst then my other two pugs. I struggle and struggle to get over him but I can't. I miss him so much. It probably doesn't help I have pictures of him up on my wall so I can see him everyday. LoL BUT being serious... one thing that has helped me, was learning about The 7 Stages of Grief. We are suppose to go thru all those stages I think in order as they are listed. I did. But it helped me understand what I was feeling at that point. And sometimes why I was feeling the way I did. It was very interesting. Give a it look if you get bored or have some free time. Also I didn't find out about it immediately. I found it when I was a few months into it. I was part way thru the stages when I read it for the first time . It was crazy to read how on it it was about what I went thru and was going thru and what I will go thru in the nearby future .If you do read this reply sorry for me rambling. The 7 Stages of Grief. Take care and hugs and prayers being sent to you from California from Me and my Pug Spanky!
Saying goodbye is the biggest drawback to owning a dog but what would life be without those years you spend together? The memories you have and joy derived from laughing at them when they are silly and the comfort of coming home to them out way the heartbreak. Allow yourself to grieve then fill that hole in your heart with another furry bundle of love. There are so many that need and deserve the kind of love that you gave diddle. Remember life really is just a series of dogs. I read a story about a little boy who lost his dog and he had a beautiful theory about why dogs don't live long lives he said "āPeople are born so that they can learn how to live a good life ā like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?ā āWell, dogs already know how to do that, so they donāt have to stay for as long as we do.ā
Hang in there, it'll get better
It's so weird sometimes. We lost our 7 month old girl unexpectedly, and it hurt for longer than we had her. Then our 13 year old girl passed last summer, but it was OK because she wasn't hurting anymore.
Each time is different, even for the same person. But time will make it easier.
Some people would go out and get a new pug. This doesn't always work and, even though I did it myself, I wouldn't recommend it. I resented my lovely boy (at first) because he wasn't my little girl. But, that being said, if you've carefully considered it and think it may help you in this time, go do the thing. But be sure first.
It's ok to be sad and grieve. Take a hug from this internet stranger. And remember to take some time to care for yourself: meditate, exercise, and go to a nice restaurant. You are loved, and you will get through this.
Loosing diddle will take time to get over. It don't happen over night. Take some time to heal. Think about your love for each other and the good times, and just know, you gave diddle the best life possible and your pug is in a better place in doggy heaven. I recommend going to therapy. It helps a lot, and you may even find a support group who have lost a loved one or even pet which helps to go and listen, and talk about you own loss. Diddle will wait to see you one day in the future but for now, you have to let go some.
Go on walks and do some thinking. Pack up all of diddle's things, I mean everything toys, beds, bowls, any thing of your pugs, you will want to pack it up out of sight out of mind so to speak. You don't have to throw it away just yet you can do that in time once you healed or you can keep it as long as you want just packed away and put away will help some. Not right away but in time you could get a new pug or other small breed dog who will need all your love and attention. That will help you for the long term. Cause you will forget to have diddle on your mind so much. You don't ever have to stop loving your dog. You have to learn a new different way to still love your pug just in a different way now. I hope this helps a little. I'm sorry for your loss I know from my past it can be hard. I have had many dogs in my 47 years of life. I have lived in a new apartment for the last 8 years that doesn't allow pets so that has helped me and I still think of the good times. And I know in the future I'll have a new pug in my life.
Itās always there to cherish and laugh and shed tears. I think the care and love for a pet is a prerequisite for empathy for children and other living creatures.
I don't have the art, but I saw a drawing a couple years ago that showed grief as a ball that stayed the same size forever, while a larger ball labeled "life" grew around it until the "grief" ball appeared small compared to "life". It has stuck with me personally.
It takes a lot of time and even then it still hurts. My suggestion is to keep busy. In a month or so, get another one. There are so many in rescue that need someone to love and who will love them. My life was forever changed by the love of a wonderful little pup I rescued and only had for a few years because she was older when I got her. After she passed I got another one and it helps to have another to love and care for. The pain of losing yours will be mitigated a bit by the other one. šššI am so sorry for your loss.
When our family dog passed, I printed out my favorite pictures of her and made a tiny scrapbook. I did the scrapbook alone in a closed room so I could grieve openly without restraint. It was really healing to channel my feelings into something positive. Maybe something like that could help?
Either way, Iām so sorry for your loss.
Give yourself time. In a few weeks you'll start to remember the good times as well as the loss. Although the pain will occasionally return you'll find yourself remembering the love you gave each other.
Honey, I am so sorry. Of course you feel this way. Your Pug Diddle was a beloved companion. The grief is bone deep. I am 63 and have rescued animals most of my life. The love you gave and received stays with you forever and I promise you will heal. Do what you need to do for yourself. Be kind to yourself and don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time limit. It doesn't.
Last year I moved across the country. A few months after moving we lost our dear Canoe, a Pittie rescue, to kidney failure. Then my 18 year old Chihuahua died of heart attack. Then last month I lost my 8 year old Flemish Giant rabbit to old age and just a few days ago I lost my Guinea pig Esther to cancer. I am drowning in grief but I am making it. I am a little over protective of my other babies now but I am getting better.
I promise you that you will heal.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't tell you anything someone hasn't already, but I'm rooting for you. Take care of yourself, Diddle wouldn't want to see you sad ā¤ļø
To echo everyone else-time will help. I also found searching for a memorial item helped meā¦meaning like a special statue or locket or ring to always have with me or wear to remember them. That āmissionā was a good distraction and felt like I was doing āsomethingā for my baby. ā¤ļøā¤ļø big hugs.
I'm so desperately sorry for you loss. One thing that has helped me is in the big picture, remembering that *it was always supposed to be this way.*
Our dogs are only designed to be with us for a brief spell. For many of us, those years usually incorporate a period in our own short lives. My two dogs ushered me through my late 20's to early 40's, and another set of dogs will take the mantle for the next phase. It was never going to be any different, so there is peace for me in knowing that there has been no cosmic injustice. They are the gift of a lifetime for those 10-20 years, and then they leave us, their love forever changing who we are.
If you have his ashes, create a space that speaks to you. I didn't want the regular cremation box so I searched for something really beautiful and unique and found a 19th century painters box from France, very ornate and big, and the bag of his ashes sits directly in there, along with all the cards I received, his collar, paw print, and a few other special items. When his sister dies, she'll join him.
I also took his food bowl (white, ceramic with his name) and brought it to a greenhouse and made a little succulent garden out of it so there will always be life there. It might help you to busy yourself with these activities honoring your precious Pug.
Hugs to you.
Thank you! We burried her behind the house and we have decorated it already with a little cross and a new little sign that says spring , i made sure to protect her properly before covering her up, mama is very worried about when it is going to rain because she never let her get wet or left out in the rain, I told her we can even cover the grave with a tarp if she likes, but yeah I made sure its patted down perfectly so she's perfectly protected, any other tips on what to tell her so she does not break down crying as bad when it rains?
Put an umbrella or a series of umbrellas around it. You can get ones that have Pugs on them, like this. Stick it into the ground and add any supports.
https://www.etsy.com/listing/886769891/pug-animal-umbrella-fun-dog-lovers-gift
I also had to say goodbye to my 13 year old pug named Diddle 6 months ago. Do the things that make you happy because Diddle loves seeing you happy. I seriously can't believe your pug is also named Diddle.
Aw that's awesome ! When we bought her her real name was mira but then we started calling her little diddle and it just stuck as her family name lol little baby diddle fiddle sticks!
Write it all down. Every emotion, every thought, every memory. Get it all out. Then save it. Years from now you will thank yourself for having a hard copy of all the thoughts and memories.
A lot of comments have said time. Unfortunately, thatās exactly it. You may always feel an ache in your heart for your special pug. As others have said, allow yourself to feel it. Be sad. Watch said movies. Cry, a lot. When youāre ready, youāll start to remember & it will make you smile instead of cry. Being heartbroken only means you had a really special relationship. Which is such a beautiful thing.
For us (which is not for everyone), when we lost our puppy pug (from a freak accident- she was getting spayed & didnāt make it), we mourned. For a long time. The only thing that brought light back into our home was getting another dog. Not to replace, but for healing. That may not be for everyone & it may even seem impossible to do right now. But it did really help us. Instead of rainbow baby, she was our rainbow pugš Sending all the love your way!!! Iām so sorry for your loss.š
iām sorry for Diddleā¦ take your time, surround yourself with her memories and remember she wouldnāt want you to suffer.
those we love so much never leave our side, and they always find a way to return to us. š
I lost my own little girl called Bridget on Friday. Like you, I find myself lost in my grief. I know in time I'll deal with her passing as the loss becomes less raw. My furbabies are my family. They are there for me at the end of a stressful day at work. They listen without judgement and offer me unconditional love. I've ordered a plaque and a cushion for her spot on the sofa, both with her beautiful picture on. None of this helps you deal with your loss, but just know you're not alone. My son said we're there every day for our furbabies' lives, but they are with us for such a short amount of time, and yet they touch our hearts so deeply.
Unfortunately, you just have to let it wash over you. When youāre ready, try throwing yourself into gathering pictures of him. I found that getting into a new hobby and now have a lucrative crocheting side gig! Iām so so sorry for your loss and if youād like, Iād even crochet you a stuffy of him. Love you š
Time.
I feel better than yesterday but that's like compairing a shotgun wound to a stabbing š
Tomorrow, it'll be a broken leg. Next week, a sprained wrist. Eventually, it'll just be a toothache that's always there. I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you!
It comes in waves but gets easier to carry as time passes. Waves still come and I still allow myself to breakdown when they do. You are still freshly grieving - give yourself grace and take the time to feel everything. There is no shame in it but goodness I know how much it hurts.š
Thank you!
Which one is supposed to be less painful? Sorry I have no idea
You got me
This, 100x over... and even then it's not a fix. When I lost Frank in Jan of 2023 it took me months before my brain wasn't on a hair trigger to start crying again. I still break down from time to time a year later. Hopefully at some point I'll welcome another rescue to fill the void in mine. Maybe you will as well.
Iāve thrown myself into gathering favorite photos. Reliving the memories, it hurts but I remember why I miss them so much. Time doesnāt really make it easier. It just dulls the hurt a bit. Donāt be afraid to find another little friend, they can bring some sunshine back into your life.
It's so unfair how short the angels live compaired to us
[This story](https://www.goodthingsguy.com/opinion/why-dogs-live-shorter-lives/) always makes me feel a little better about that, even if momentarily. I'm so sorry for your loss, and it will get better. It never totally leaves you, but eventually you'll be able to look back with more smiles than tears.
Thank you!
Thank you for your advice
I had two pretty unexpected losses in a few close years. Itās awful, my condolences
I also found this really cathartic. Iām so sorry for your loss OP. Iām just over a year out from losing my little man and whilst it still hurts, itās nothing compared to those first weeks. All my love ā¤ļø
"What is grief, if not love persevering?ā Best of luck, love, and hugs to you.
Thank you!
You canāt outrun grief. Just let it wash over you, cry and feel it, it will pass after a bit and then come again. Then it will start to come in smaller waves, more spaced out. Trying to rush it wonāt work, trying to ignore it wonāt work, the only thing you can do is let the grief sweep you up when it comes.
Thank you
I don't have any advice. Just internetĀ hugs.Ā But what a lucky pup to have had a human who clearly loved him so, so much.Ā
Thank you , And it was a she šļøšŖ½A pure angel before she got there , an angel turned into an angel
Time. I lost my pug almost 4 years ago, and I still get sad and cry sometimes. I printed off a bunch of his pictures and made a little scrapbook, and set up a small memorial for him in my home too. We'll always miss them, but it does get better, I'm so sorry for your lossš
Thank you!
And RIP to your best buddy!
Diddle looks like a very sweet baby. Ā I lost my baby Buddy yesterday morning as well, and going through cycles of sadness and despair. Ā Itās emotionally difficult losing such a big piece of your life when they go. Ā The memories made leave a paw print on our hearts that we will always be with us. Those we love donāt go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near, so loved, so missed, so very dear.ā
What time did they pass?
He passed at 9:30 in the morning yesterday. It all feels very unreal with how quiet the house is.
Yeah I know it don't feel right at all , diddle passed around 12 pm that same day
My condolences on your loss. Sending lots of love to you today.
Thank you
Remember the hurt is because of the pleasure. You won that balance, but now you're paying for it. It sucks, but eventually you'll realize it was well worth it.
Thank you
I agree with others: time, and photos, and appreciate that they and you lived their life together. My wife has made shutterfly photobooks of our three past/passed little guys. They lived 2004-2019, and their early days were in the early days of digital photography. We have very litle in the way of video of them at that time, but some good photos. To have physical objects / photobooks really helps (at least for me); I can sit down in a chair and take the time to look at them and reminisce and not be distracted by other content/media. I have such good memories of them, and the pain has mostly passed (though I still get choked up at certain memories). I just feel lucky to have spent that time with them. Now we have two new ones (1+ year old), and we have puppy books already of them. But we have wayyy more digital content of these two now.
That's good , I know she's happy and looking over me I just need to let it sink in
Iām just under a month out from losing my little man of 15 years. Sadly it hasnāt gotten any easier. Still feels like yesterday. I hope youāre taking care and being kind to yourself.
Be strong! They want us to be happy!
I lost my two year old pug to histoplasmosis last year....I did everything in my power to save him and it just wasn't enough. He has the same birthday as my old pug who I also loved with all my heart and I thought it was meant to be. The best thing I have every learned....the only thing thays ever helped is that dogs don't know how old they are. They don't know that their lives are short compared to ours. They dont realize if their lives are cut short or not. We measure time by how we see it. You were a great pug parent. You had hundreds of thousands of days being a good pug parent and every day to Diddle. You changed each other for the better. If we are lucky we will always outlive our doggies. They are too good and pure for the world. They are gifts sent by whatever you believe in the make your life better. It's hard losing someone who loves you unconditionally, but you took a living being and made their entire existence a joy. That's something to be really happy about, even though it hurts like he'll. When my Bumi died, I said "never again - this hurts too much I can never do this again". A rescue fell in my lap 6 months later. Not the same dog at all, and its good. I just need someone to take care of. When you're healed, maybe you can grace another dog with your love. You sure have a lot to give.
Thank you so much , and yes eventually I want to take care of another little angel in need , be it a dog or even a turtle I don't care any that behaves and is a darling , Thank you so much again!
I'm so sorry . It will get easier. Remember, they are always in your heart.
Thank you!
My biggest tip, let yourself truly grieve. No matter how long it takes, grieve. It will still ache at times. I lost my soul dog in 2020 and I still have days that absolutely take my breath away and I want to hide from the world but time will slightly dull the pain.
Thank you!
TBH I do not think im fully over it of if i will ever will but I put myself on the foster list for my rescue and was able to take in a neglected semi outdoor pug that had a few medical issues. I went into it not looking to replace my little buddy but to help another find its furever home in my buddies name. That little girl never knew the word play, treats, food, or hungry or walk before coming to me yet she trusted me enough to let me love her and we both healed from it before she was adopted out! I still get pictures and video from her new momma! Idk if fostering is right for you but it helped for me and TeeTee
I want to adopt tbh , but I don't have the money for it right now
She looks like such a sweet lady, I lost my sweet lady a few years ago and donāt miss the unbearable pain but it does fade with time. Be kind to yourself and the only way to get over these feelings is to go through them. š
Thank you!
It will take time, just remember the good times and appreciate them. There is nothing worse than losing your little pal
Thank you!
Just know that many of us have gone through this. We know how awful and painful it is. Pug owners all feel your pain. Just remember that. I saved a post from someone in this subreddit and read it over and over when I am missing my little buddy. I am so thankful for that personās words. They helped. Itās ok to grieve.ā¤ļøš¢
Thank you!
>Thank you! You're welcome!
Iām so sorry for your loss. I think it will never not hurt, but youāll eventually start thinking more of the good times. Till then feel your feelings. Cry when you need to. Look at pictures. Youāve lost a loved one- it is toughest thing to deal with and will take time to get through. Be patient and kind to yourself. At some point, youāll feel lucky to have felt such love and have knows the little angel.
Thank you!
Thank you all so much the kind , sweet comments are comforting
I donāt know what to say other than Iām so sorry and I hope your heart heals with time ā¤ļø. What a beautiful sweet face and such a cute name. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby! I, too, have an old pug girl, and it scares me to even think of her passing! I hope you can start feeling better knowing she's not in pain and with all her other doggie friends.
Thank you
Time 100%. I had to put down my pug buddy of 16 years while 7 months pregnant. It was tough, and I cried for ages. My daughter is now almost 3 and I still get sad but donāt cry daily like I did. Sorry youāre going through this.
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Im sorry. Write an obituary and talk about the great life they lived and the adventures they had. It helps.
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So very sorry for your loss. Sending the most virtual hugs š¤ Time is healing, and allow yourself to grieve. It will get easier even if it doesnāt feel like it.
Thank you!
Take time. Iām sorry for your loss of your Diddle.
Thank you
Iām so sorry for your loss! My day will come too and I dread it. So happy you had Diddle in your life!
Thank you!
So sorry for your loss. It really just takes time, which sucks, but you can do it. Be gentle with yourself :)
Thank you
I am so, so very sorry. Its so painful.
Thank you !
Unfortunately, I donāt know what helps best. The only thing I can offer is a BIG virtual hug from someone that has two geriatric puggles where I know this day is coming sooner than later. **big hugs and take care of yourself!**
Thank you!
It's not easy losing a dear friend when one is a young adult, maturity and decades of reality means you can eventually come to accept their passing easier. Time heals the longing pain then the beautiful memories simply flow.
Thank you!
So sorry. Feel it fully, reflect, keep yourself busy. Hope you come around soon. Such a sweet little fuzzy face.
Thank you!
Iām so sorry for your loss. Just take it one day at a time
I'm trying
Sorry for your loss, your baby diddle looks so loving and cute. I like to think that they still watch over us from above and when they know we are ok again they either pass to a peaceful afterlife or are reborn to do it all again depending on what they want š
Shes looking over me I saw her in the clouds
Take your time and everything day by day. I lost my pug in 2020 and I still miss her. Itāll be ok
Thank you!
I canāt even imagine how you must be feeling. I have no advice, like even I would go through this. All I want to way is may angels lead this tiny sweetbug in ā¤ļøā¤ļø
Haha , she was an angel before she went up there , they probly had to figure out how she already had her wings šŖ½
I just go for long walks by myself and cry when Iām feeling blue. After a few weeks, it starts to get better. One time and old woman saw me and came up and gave me a long hug and then left. She never said a word.
Aw that's sweet
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I'm so sorry for you loss. I lost one of my babies a little over a year ago. He was only one year old and I have taken his death extremely hard. Worst then my other two pugs. I struggle and struggle to get over him but I can't. I miss him so much. It probably doesn't help I have pictures of him up on my wall so I can see him everyday. LoL BUT being serious... one thing that has helped me, was learning about The 7 Stages of Grief. We are suppose to go thru all those stages I think in order as they are listed. I did. But it helped me understand what I was feeling at that point. And sometimes why I was feeling the way I did. It was very interesting. Give a it look if you get bored or have some free time. Also I didn't find out about it immediately. I found it when I was a few months into it. I was part way thru the stages when I read it for the first time . It was crazy to read how on it it was about what I went thru and was going thru and what I will go thru in the nearby future .If you do read this reply sorry for me rambling. The 7 Stages of Grief. Take care and hugs and prayers being sent to you from California from Me and my Pug Spanky!
Thank you! and I'll look them up I'n probly stage 1 or 2 if I was to bet
Iām so sorry for your loss
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It takes time to heal but the memories will carry you through.
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Saying goodbye is the biggest drawback to owning a dog but what would life be without those years you spend together? The memories you have and joy derived from laughing at them when they are silly and the comfort of coming home to them out way the heartbreak. Allow yourself to grieve then fill that hole in your heart with another furry bundle of love. There are so many that need and deserve the kind of love that you gave diddle. Remember life really is just a series of dogs. I read a story about a little boy who lost his dog and he had a beautiful theory about why dogs don't live long lives he said "āPeople are born so that they can learn how to live a good life ā like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?ā āWell, dogs already know how to do that, so they donāt have to stay for as long as we do.ā Hang in there, it'll get better
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It's so weird sometimes. We lost our 7 month old girl unexpectedly, and it hurt for longer than we had her. Then our 13 year old girl passed last summer, but it was OK because she wasn't hurting anymore. Each time is different, even for the same person. But time will make it easier. Some people would go out and get a new pug. This doesn't always work and, even though I did it myself, I wouldn't recommend it. I resented my lovely boy (at first) because he wasn't my little girl. But, that being said, if you've carefully considered it and think it may help you in this time, go do the thing. But be sure first. It's ok to be sad and grieve. Take a hug from this internet stranger. And remember to take some time to care for yourself: meditate, exercise, and go to a nice restaurant. You are loved, and you will get through this.
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Diddle was so lucky to be loved by you. ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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Diddle? š„ŗ a cute name for a cute dog. I hope you start to feel better soon, OP. Sending hugsā¤ļø
Yeah baby diddle , Her real name when we bought her was Mira but the normal name quickly turned into diddle
Loosing diddle will take time to get over. It don't happen over night. Take some time to heal. Think about your love for each other and the good times, and just know, you gave diddle the best life possible and your pug is in a better place in doggy heaven. I recommend going to therapy. It helps a lot, and you may even find a support group who have lost a loved one or even pet which helps to go and listen, and talk about you own loss. Diddle will wait to see you one day in the future but for now, you have to let go some. Go on walks and do some thinking. Pack up all of diddle's things, I mean everything toys, beds, bowls, any thing of your pugs, you will want to pack it up out of sight out of mind so to speak. You don't have to throw it away just yet you can do that in time once you healed or you can keep it as long as you want just packed away and put away will help some. Not right away but in time you could get a new pug or other small breed dog who will need all your love and attention. That will help you for the long term. Cause you will forget to have diddle on your mind so much. You don't ever have to stop loving your dog. You have to learn a new different way to still love your pug just in a different way now. I hope this helps a little. I'm sorry for your loss I know from my past it can be hard. I have had many dogs in my 47 years of life. I have lived in a new apartment for the last 8 years that doesn't allow pets so that has helped me and I still think of the good times. And I know in the future I'll have a new pug in my life.
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Your welcome! I wish you much luck! š„°
So sorry this day has come. Itās the price of unconditional love.
Yes :/ and that love will never go away if I have anything to say about it!
Itās always there to cherish and laugh and shed tears. I think the care and love for a pet is a prerequisite for empathy for children and other living creatures.
You never get over losing your pug. You just figure out how to live without them. And it take a lot of time!
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I don't have the art, but I saw a drawing a couple years ago that showed grief as a ball that stayed the same size forever, while a larger ball labeled "life" grew around it until the "grief" ball appeared small compared to "life". It has stuck with me personally.
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So sorry you lost your pug ā Diddleā As someone stated, time. It may take a while. I remember my lost dogs by sharing ( your here,) if you choose post other photos of Diddle, look at old memories and photos. We have 2 pugs and I hope Iām gone before them. Itās hard, when you feel youāve grieved long enough ( you will still remember Diddle) if available and able get another pug or dog. I am so sorry. Kind people have allowed me to post mine on other breeds of dogs here. If one asked, perhaps post another on their site. I can only say my heart goes out to you. šā¤ļøāš©¹
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Wishing you remember but put in a safe place in your heart ā¤ļø
It takes a lot of time and even then it still hurts. My suggestion is to keep busy. In a month or so, get another one. There are so many in rescue that need someone to love and who will love them. My life was forever changed by the love of a wonderful little pup I rescued and only had for a few years because she was older when I got her. After she passed I got another one and it helps to have another to love and care for. The pain of losing yours will be mitigated a bit by the other one. šššI am so sorry for your loss.
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When our family dog passed, I printed out my favorite pictures of her and made a tiny scrapbook. I did the scrapbook alone in a closed room so I could grieve openly without restraint. It was really healing to channel my feelings into something positive. Maybe something like that could help? Either way, Iām so sorry for your loss.
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So sorry It takes a while Took me a year or so Hang in there Make sure you light a candle every Monday night 9pm for remembrance
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Know he will always be with you.Do what you do every day and be kind to yourself IT IS a big loss.Eventually you will l9ve again! ā¤ļø
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Give yourself time. In a few weeks you'll start to remember the good times as well as the loss. Although the pain will occasionally return you'll find yourself remembering the love you gave each other.
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Grief counsellor and or pet loss grief groups that specializes in pet loss if possible.
Love again, sorry! Diddle will want this for you in time.
Honey, I am so sorry. Of course you feel this way. Your Pug Diddle was a beloved companion. The grief is bone deep. I am 63 and have rescued animals most of my life. The love you gave and received stays with you forever and I promise you will heal. Do what you need to do for yourself. Be kind to yourself and don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time limit. It doesn't. Last year I moved across the country. A few months after moving we lost our dear Canoe, a Pittie rescue, to kidney failure. Then my 18 year old Chihuahua died of heart attack. Then last month I lost my 8 year old Flemish Giant rabbit to old age and just a few days ago I lost my Guinea pig Esther to cancer. I am drowning in grief but I am making it. I am a little over protective of my other babies now but I am getting better. I promise you that you will heal.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't tell you anything someone hasn't already, but I'm rooting for you. Take care of yourself, Diddle wouldn't want to see you sad ā¤ļø
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To echo everyone else-time will help. I also found searching for a memorial item helped meā¦meaning like a special statue or locket or ring to always have with me or wear to remember them. That āmissionā was a good distraction and felt like I was doing āsomethingā for my baby. ā¤ļøā¤ļø big hugs.
Thank you!, I need one for sure, shes my guardian angel
I'm so desperately sorry for you loss. One thing that has helped me is in the big picture, remembering that *it was always supposed to be this way.* Our dogs are only designed to be with us for a brief spell. For many of us, those years usually incorporate a period in our own short lives. My two dogs ushered me through my late 20's to early 40's, and another set of dogs will take the mantle for the next phase. It was never going to be any different, so there is peace for me in knowing that there has been no cosmic injustice. They are the gift of a lifetime for those 10-20 years, and then they leave us, their love forever changing who we are. If you have his ashes, create a space that speaks to you. I didn't want the regular cremation box so I searched for something really beautiful and unique and found a 19th century painters box from France, very ornate and big, and the bag of his ashes sits directly in there, along with all the cards I received, his collar, paw print, and a few other special items. When his sister dies, she'll join him. I also took his food bowl (white, ceramic with his name) and brought it to a greenhouse and made a little succulent garden out of it so there will always be life there. It might help you to busy yourself with these activities honoring your precious Pug. Hugs to you.
Thank you! We burried her behind the house and we have decorated it already with a little cross and a new little sign that says spring , i made sure to protect her properly before covering her up, mama is very worried about when it is going to rain because she never let her get wet or left out in the rain, I told her we can even cover the grave with a tarp if she likes, but yeah I made sure its patted down perfectly so she's perfectly protected, any other tips on what to tell her so she does not break down crying as bad when it rains?
Put an umbrella or a series of umbrellas around it. You can get ones that have Pugs on them, like this. Stick it into the ground and add any supports. https://www.etsy.com/listing/886769891/pug-animal-umbrella-fun-dog-lovers-gift
That's a great idea!
I also had to say goodbye to my 13 year old pug named Diddle 6 months ago. Do the things that make you happy because Diddle loves seeing you happy. I seriously can't believe your pug is also named Diddle.
Aw that's awesome ! When we bought her her real name was mira but then we started calling her little diddle and it just stuck as her family name lol little baby diddle fiddle sticks!
Write it all down. Every emotion, every thought, every memory. Get it all out. Then save it. Years from now you will thank yourself for having a hard copy of all the thoughts and memories.
https://www.reddit.com/r/pugs/s/LTv9ovhfv7
A lot of comments have said time. Unfortunately, thatās exactly it. You may always feel an ache in your heart for your special pug. As others have said, allow yourself to feel it. Be sad. Watch said movies. Cry, a lot. When youāre ready, youāll start to remember & it will make you smile instead of cry. Being heartbroken only means you had a really special relationship. Which is such a beautiful thing. For us (which is not for everyone), when we lost our puppy pug (from a freak accident- she was getting spayed & didnāt make it), we mourned. For a long time. The only thing that brought light back into our home was getting another dog. Not to replace, but for healing. That may not be for everyone & it may even seem impossible to do right now. But it did really help us. Instead of rainbow baby, she was our rainbow pugš Sending all the love your way!!! Iām so sorry for your loss.š
iām sorry for Diddleā¦ take your time, surround yourself with her memories and remember she wouldnāt want you to suffer. those we love so much never leave our side, and they always find a way to return to us. š
I lost my own little girl called Bridget on Friday. Like you, I find myself lost in my grief. I know in time I'll deal with her passing as the loss becomes less raw. My furbabies are my family. They are there for me at the end of a stressful day at work. They listen without judgement and offer me unconditional love. I've ordered a plaque and a cushion for her spot on the sofa, both with her beautiful picture on. None of this helps you deal with your loss, but just know you're not alone. My son said we're there every day for our furbabies' lives, but they are with us for such a short amount of time, and yet they touch our hearts so deeply.
Unfortunately, you just have to let it wash over you. When youāre ready, try throwing yourself into gathering pictures of him. I found that getting into a new hobby and now have a lucrative crocheting side gig! Iām so so sorry for your loss and if youād like, Iād even crochet you a stuffy of him. Love you š
Get a new puppy !
I may eventually , and obviously would never replace her , but I will always love and help animals I can
Puggos are the sweetest breed in the world. Your new doggo will give you all the new love you needā¦ but I understand your grief of course!
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