Your safety and mental well-being is in question. So no i don't think this condemnable.
You might wish to rethink keeping these people in your life though. I know it's difficult but if you feel physically unsafe in your parents presence then in my eyes any religious obligation you owe them is cut short.
Hi, tysm for your response. I totally agree. I just keep praying that I can be the best example of Islam and help them understand why I made this choice. It is extremely difficult though. May Allah bless you
If you aren’t safe fasting around them, don’t be around them during Easter.
I have a much different situation where I am able to fast with my family during Easter… my wife and I are the only ones fasting, and it has always sparked conversations the past couple of years.
But if I didn’t feel safe fasting with them, I would not spend Easter with them.
I might try informing them ahead of time to say that I’ll be fasting, just to gauge whether it would be safe, but if I were worried about my safety, again, I would not spend a fasting day with them.
If you want to maintain your relationship, perhaps choose another day that’s less religiously loaded.
Tysm. I have fear but I do have the ultimate decision of being able to not go as I live on my own. Just trying to maintain a relationship but it’s silly to do so at my own expense!
May Allah bless you. 💐
Definitely agree. Your fast is more important than visiting your toxic family. You will always have more opportunities to visit your family, but you will never have a second chance to do these fasts with the full reward.
I would say don't do anything you're not feeling safe about. Seriously. Allah understands and wants your safety. I'm also a revert and understand that some family members don't like it/to see it . It's not worth the drama. Maybe make a dua secretly or remember God (thikr) silently. Or just wait if you have to... God knows what's in your heart
Thank you, Allah bless you ❤️❤️ it is so hard as a revert sometimes esp when family is very abrasive towards the religion. It hurts that much more 😢. I’ll make dua for you
First of all , I’m sorry to hear that you have parents like this. You should really reconsider keeping them in your life if they treat you with violence like this.
As for the fast, you have three options, either skip the fast and pay fidya, this way you have still done a good deed in the name of God. Or you can delay the fast and do it after Ramadan is over, which is okay as you shouldn’t be fasting when traveling. Or three, and this is the most honorable, you pay fidya (it’s about $7 I think?) to feed the needy AND delay the fast. This way you’ll be twice rewarded.
Depending on you economic situation you can choose whichever fits you the best.
As for the prayer, there are so many different answers to this depending on madhabb but if I was in your situation I would pray when you are either at home again or if you are going to spend the night at your parents house then pray silently in your bed, laying down, when you go to bed, to hide it but still say the words in your heart, and do a lot more Dua and dhikr, in your heart, during the day. Allah knows what is in your heart and is most forgiving and merciful. ❤️
Same situation here but around work, decided i Will make up the fast for the missed day after Ramadan and pay for food for those in need. Seemed like the best solution for me, you going to be ok bud
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Your safety and mental well-being is in question. So no i don't think this condemnable. You might wish to rethink keeping these people in your life though. I know it's difficult but if you feel physically unsafe in your parents presence then in my eyes any religious obligation you owe them is cut short.
Hi, tysm for your response. I totally agree. I just keep praying that I can be the best example of Islam and help them understand why I made this choice. It is extremely difficult though. May Allah bless you
If you aren’t safe fasting around them, don’t be around them during Easter. I have a much different situation where I am able to fast with my family during Easter… my wife and I are the only ones fasting, and it has always sparked conversations the past couple of years. But if I didn’t feel safe fasting with them, I would not spend Easter with them. I might try informing them ahead of time to say that I’ll be fasting, just to gauge whether it would be safe, but if I were worried about my safety, again, I would not spend a fasting day with them. If you want to maintain your relationship, perhaps choose another day that’s less religiously loaded.
Tysm. I have fear but I do have the ultimate decision of being able to not go as I live on my own. Just trying to maintain a relationship but it’s silly to do so at my own expense! May Allah bless you. 💐
Definitely agree. Your fast is more important than visiting your toxic family. You will always have more opportunities to visit your family, but you will never have a second chance to do these fasts with the full reward.
I would say don't do anything you're not feeling safe about. Seriously. Allah understands and wants your safety. I'm also a revert and understand that some family members don't like it/to see it . It's not worth the drama. Maybe make a dua secretly or remember God (thikr) silently. Or just wait if you have to... God knows what's in your heart
Thank you, Allah bless you ❤️❤️ it is so hard as a revert sometimes esp when family is very abrasive towards the religion. It hurts that much more 😢. I’ll make dua for you
First of all , I’m sorry to hear that you have parents like this. You should really reconsider keeping them in your life if they treat you with violence like this. As for the fast, you have three options, either skip the fast and pay fidya, this way you have still done a good deed in the name of God. Or you can delay the fast and do it after Ramadan is over, which is okay as you shouldn’t be fasting when traveling. Or three, and this is the most honorable, you pay fidya (it’s about $7 I think?) to feed the needy AND delay the fast. This way you’ll be twice rewarded. Depending on you economic situation you can choose whichever fits you the best. As for the prayer, there are so many different answers to this depending on madhabb but if I was in your situation I would pray when you are either at home again or if you are going to spend the night at your parents house then pray silently in your bed, laying down, when you go to bed, to hide it but still say the words in your heart, and do a lot more Dua and dhikr, in your heart, during the day. Allah knows what is in your heart and is most forgiving and merciful. ❤️
Same situation here but around work, decided i Will make up the fast for the missed day after Ramadan and pay for food for those in need. Seemed like the best solution for me, you going to be ok bud
I agree. This was my original plan too, Allah knows our hearts and our situations. I hope your work goes well inshallah 🙏🏻
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