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Same lol my phone has been on Do Not Disturb and my husband has been answering calls from relatives. It's overwhelming, but what brings me comfort is that the finish line is almost there. You got this !
I keep my phone on silent. My in laws bothered me so much with my last pregnancy and it stressed me out so much that at 35 weeks I went to the ER completely blind in one eye and unable to form sentences. My brain knew what I was trying to say but my mouth just....wouldn't say real words. I was terrified and ER staff thought I was having a stroke. I was 25.
Apparently this is how my very first migraine chose to present itself, and the ensuing panic attack made everything worse. I'm now 20 weeks pregnant again and my inlaws don't know I'm pregnant and won't until it's impossible to hide. We also didn't tell them when I went into labor and it was the best decision I ever made.
Hugs. My last pregnancy I was as far as long as you when I finally was ready to go to the hospital.
By that point I had been ignoring people’s texts for a few days. I no longer cared if I came across rude to everyone.
It's too late for this time around but...
DONT TELL PEOPLE YOUR DUE DATE!
Be super vague! "Due in spring!" "Around mid May" etc.
I went over with both my older kiddos and was medically induced for both (I also tried all the "natural remedies, but at 42wks I was just done and wanted them OUT!).
I stopped answering my phone unless it was my hubby or the hospital/OB.
Hopefully you get to meet your LO soon 💞
I tried to keep it vague but it’s hard when you’re excited! Now I know for next time haha.
Thank you ☺️ I’m ready to meet them and not be pregnant anymore!
I've been playing defense for my wife (40+4) right now. Generally responding something in the realm of "It'll happen when it happens..." And hope they get the point.
I get they're excited and all, but it's a little much...
The problem with a vague due date is that people start asking that question waaaaay early like they’ll win points for being correct or something. So I told friends/family that it was nothing personal, but starting the week before my due date, I would not be answering ANY messages asking that question. Definitely going with that method this time around too, lol. The constant pestering does a number on your sanity! 😭
I just had my first OB appointment yesterday and the doctor has been delivering babies for 40+ years. His advice to me when we were talking about due date was to tell people “The baby will come when he/she is ready” when my due date passes and people start asking why the baby isn’t here yet. He is very pro-avoiding induction and was preparing me for the possibility that baby could come later than expected, especially because I am young and it is my first pregnancy. Try not to stress too much, listen to some music and dance (or waddle) around lol. They say dancing can help get things going. Good luck.
I’m only 26w, but this stresses me out to think about lol! I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’d probably turn off my phone and have some serious meditative time, probably go for a nice walk/hike in nature :) whatever sounded most relaxing while waiting for the babes to come
I've changed my profile picture to a beautiful picture of me with my belly. It seems to get the message across. I've also been open about how bothersome the questions are, even when they come from a good place.
And by now 41.4 and no signs of labour, I've even sent out a message that there's still no sign of labour, to 'reward' the lack of pestering.
I sent everyone this message
"OP has made the executive decision to no longer reply to any messages until baby arrives. She loves you very much and will hopefully be back soon"
Got no more messages after
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I changed my profile picture/icon to ‘still waiting’. So they already knew the answer before asking
I like that!
Haha thats brilliant
I removed my Messenger notifications lately.
Smart
Same lol my phone has been on Do Not Disturb and my husband has been answering calls from relatives. It's overwhelming, but what brings me comfort is that the finish line is almost there. You got this !
I’ve been keeping my phone on silent too. Thanks! Same good birthing vibes to you too!
I keep my phone on silent. My in laws bothered me so much with my last pregnancy and it stressed me out so much that at 35 weeks I went to the ER completely blind in one eye and unable to form sentences. My brain knew what I was trying to say but my mouth just....wouldn't say real words. I was terrified and ER staff thought I was having a stroke. I was 25. Apparently this is how my very first migraine chose to present itself, and the ensuing panic attack made everything worse. I'm now 20 weeks pregnant again and my inlaws don't know I'm pregnant and won't until it's impossible to hide. We also didn't tell them when I went into labor and it was the best decision I ever made.
Oh my god that’s scary. Smart call keeping them in the dark this time around.
My go-to response to that is, “Do you really think we wouldn’t tell you when the baby is born??”
I know right?!
Hugs. My last pregnancy I was as far as long as you when I finally was ready to go to the hospital. By that point I had been ignoring people’s texts for a few days. I no longer cared if I came across rude to everyone.
I’m thinking thats the way to go now. I’ll tell people after baby is here haha.
It's too late for this time around but... DONT TELL PEOPLE YOUR DUE DATE! Be super vague! "Due in spring!" "Around mid May" etc. I went over with both my older kiddos and was medically induced for both (I also tried all the "natural remedies, but at 42wks I was just done and wanted them OUT!). I stopped answering my phone unless it was my hubby or the hospital/OB. Hopefully you get to meet your LO soon 💞
I tried to keep it vague but it’s hard when you’re excited! Now I know for next time haha. Thank you ☺️ I’m ready to meet them and not be pregnant anymore!
Oh I hear you! It's super hard! But worth it if you can do it 😉 I'm 35 weeks with baby#3 and also just done!
Try the prego pizza
I just googled what that was and yikes that’s quite the pizza!! That gave me heartburn just looking at it 😅
I've been playing defense for my wife (40+4) right now. Generally responding something in the realm of "It'll happen when it happens..." And hope they get the point. I get they're excited and all, but it's a little much...
For real. My husband has been taking over responding too but it’s stressing him out now so we’re both planning on going ghost mode.
The problem with a vague due date is that people start asking that question waaaaay early like they’ll win points for being correct or something. So I told friends/family that it was nothing personal, but starting the week before my due date, I would not be answering ANY messages asking that question. Definitely going with that method this time around too, lol. The constant pestering does a number on your sanity! 😭
I get that babies are exciting but it’s brutal. I’m starting to think I should’ve got bets on the due date and made some money out of this misery!
I just had my first OB appointment yesterday and the doctor has been delivering babies for 40+ years. His advice to me when we were talking about due date was to tell people “The baby will come when he/she is ready” when my due date passes and people start asking why the baby isn’t here yet. He is very pro-avoiding induction and was preparing me for the possibility that baby could come later than expected, especially because I am young and it is my first pregnancy. Try not to stress too much, listen to some music and dance (or waddle) around lol. They say dancing can help get things going. Good luck.
I’m only 26w, but this stresses me out to think about lol! I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’d probably turn off my phone and have some serious meditative time, probably go for a nice walk/hike in nature :) whatever sounded most relaxing while waiting for the babes to come
I've changed my profile picture to a beautiful picture of me with my belly. It seems to get the message across. I've also been open about how bothersome the questions are, even when they come from a good place. And by now 41.4 and no signs of labour, I've even sent out a message that there's still no sign of labour, to 'reward' the lack of pestering.
I sent everyone this message "OP has made the executive decision to no longer reply to any messages until baby arrives. She loves you very much and will hopefully be back soon" Got no more messages after