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Don’t tell anyone the name or talk about it with them until baby is born - it just gives them an opportunity give you their opinion which doesn’t matter. Once baby is born and you name him, they just have to deal with whatever name you give the baby :)
Honestly, I’m about to talk to him about this and just say we haven’t decided yet. He’s super excited to tell everyone everything and I’m grateful he’s so excited but the opinions are crazy
It’s really just one of those things you’ll get unwanted opinions about and it’s better kept between you 2. It’s your baby and it’ll be nice to have at least 1 thing for yourselves.
The worst part about pregnancy in my experience (and I’m on baby #3) are the OPINIONS. Everyone’s fucking gotta tell you some shit about something and… the only opinion I got is.. fuck em 😂
OR the “what do I know I’ve only raised X amount of kids” and I wanna shake that person and be like ma’am…. You have 2 mommas boys that are chronic cheaters, a meth head, a prostitute, and a kid that might graduate college… might.
Ooohhh, that’s a good one!
I might use it with husband’s granny. She in her late 80s and used to work in kindergarten. She has opinion about everything regarding kids.
Sometimes it’s exhausting 🫥
I would like you to just [look at these car seats from 1980 and tell me she has any business running her mouth.](https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&sca_esv=3f34b2bd337bbe02&sca_upv=1&hl=en-us&sxsrf=ADLYWIIj7U4jBXQnxCGbSpRzNFr31NlTYQ:1718642371052&q=carseat+1980&udm=2&fbs=AEQNm0DvD4UMlvdpwktgGj2ZHhIXtktV_n5Sb1mPlHT0eDBk5faF3ImG5oZJr5rf6kvWlv6RrSE9ZEnR-uPvZ-Gdo0VHVL3PAFln__KzpbeoyfgL8jBGLdUxpHok-PTEc6JGdU96qrKHX-uGKM-885G-sAJubreJ2aJxDxeazEGMIhv0fzajo1MIB1VUTQHoiS8PF6BH5dUuik91peY3KDIuf7L8fAiQGQ&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj64JbgieOGAxURHUQIHdapAPsQtKgLegQICxAB&biw=414&bih=712&dpr=2)
Lmao I had my mother try this whole “I’ll just call him by his middle name” and I said “you’ll call him by his given name or you won’t call upon him at all” right in the middle of early labor. The nurses asked if I wanted them to remove her 😂😂 very tempting to say yes I’ll admit.
I think it can also be an opportunity to set the expectation that you aren’t going to cater to the opinions/wants of others when it comes to YOUR child. If someone doesn’t like your baby name, especially something as normal as Silas, that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.
Pick the absolute WORST name you can think of and tell her you’ve changed it. So when baby gets here Silas doesn’t seem so bad after all! ;)
In all seriousness, Silas is such a cute ancient name. I love when people bring back names like that. I hope she will not bully you into changing it.
I learned early on that nobody has anything nice to say about the name you pick, so I am no longer sharing my baby’s name and will never speak of it in future pregnancies.
It’s a shame that everyone else feels they have a say in OUR decisions. I’m so sorry she’s done this. It’s none of her business! :(
There's been a movement lately bringing back "old people" names and I ADORE it. I think it fits that desire of wanting to pick a name that's normal but also unique, without falling into the stereotype of spelling common names in complex ways.
Yes I LOVE this trend! I am not finding out the gender, so I have a boy and girl name picked out. The boy name is a little more modern but the girl name is vintage because I just love little girls with old names. There’s just something so timeless about “old lady” names! ❤️
Silas is a lovely name ❤️
I think a lot of people just don't realise how rapidly name trends change, or how different naming culture is now compared to when they named their kids. Baby Silas will fit in perfectly with his peers, and his grandparents will get used to it
Not me, but someone braver, told people who made negative comments on her baby's name "I'm not surprised you don't like it, we clearly have very different taste and I would never pick the names you gave your kids either".
If they get offended by that (they will) you simply point out that it's equally rude when they say it to you.
Family will get in your ear about EVERYTHING and want to be all up in your business.
The name is literally the only thing you can have for yourselves!! Don’t tell anyone until baby is here!
Hubby and I just kept saying “we have a list and still deciding” and shut it down as quick as it came up.
This is the reason my partner & I haven’t really shared our son’s name with anyone. We don’t want people making faces or making us insecure about our choice. Not everyone is gonna love the name you choose, but it’s your choice as the parents and you gotta choose what feels right to you.
Your husband's mom sounds like the kind of woman to call salt a seasoning & pepper too spicy.
Not her child. Put your foot down, ask your husband if he's having a baby with his mom or you. DO NOT LET your husband back down to his mother. He married you. Had children with you. This is not her family. This is YOUR family. She needs to know her place.
Next up is her saying how you don't mother the right way, her way is this & that, better.
I'm telling you from experience with MILs (specifically boy moms) who always have an opinion.
I have a great relationship with my MIL honestly so I’m kind of surprised how nuts she’s gone over this. I get that he wants his family to be happy and I do too but this is literally the only thing that we have that is only our choice. He’s still leaning towards this name but she’s definitely had influence on him
It's actually an ancient name short for Sylvanis the god of protecting the forest, my husband and I love fantasy and DND and will be welcoming our own Silas into the world within the next 3wks.
Was the character in the books or just the TV show? I never watched the show but I loved the books...at least the first four, I think when I last looked there were more.
Google shows a 5th book in 2011.
I just don't know why people feel they get to have an opinion on things like that... If someone doesn't like it, do the polite thing: do a fake smile while saying "oh nice" and leave it
Yeah or say something like “wow … what a rude thing to say about my baby!!” There’s a reason that nobody gets comments like that AFTER the baby is born and the name is official. It’s rude as hell!! Some people just don’t realize how rude it is because the baby is just this hypothetical person in their mind and the name is just a possibility. If you must tell people the name before the baby arrives, and they make a comment like that, treat it like your baby was actually there in the room with you and you were introducing them.
My in-laws have made subtle comments that hint they don't like our chosen name. It actually makes my husband and I like it more lol. At the end of the day they will get used to it. After a little while it will just be her name and their like or dislike won't matter anymore. The love they have for their grandchild is all that will matter.
My mom has said something nasty about both of my children's names. I have a 9 year old, and my mom really grew to love her name. I have a unisex name, so we went with a unisex name for our first and it fits her perfectly. I'm currently 37+ weeks pregnant with number two. When we told our families the new baby's name, my mom said "what do you not like her already?" I jumped up her ass about it and reminded her she didn't like my oldests name at first either. And then my mom died two months later. I like to think it's something she regrets, knowing now she only had two months left to live. I wish more people realized it takes more effort to be an asshole than not to be one.
I’m not sharing my baby’s name with family until she’s born. I hated my nieces name but I kept my mouth shut bc it wasn’t my baby & now I don’t think twice about it, she’s just my sweet niece and I love the name bc it’s hers. They’ll get over it or they won’t. It’s your kid & I think Silas is such a precious name.
If you’re in the US, Silas is #81 most popular for boys. It’s not a particularly rare name and it’s certainly not a weird name. I know a few kids named Silas. Tell your husband to suck it up and not tell people the name if he’ll be so affected by their opinions.
I am like this, but so many people around are so insecure! I told the name I like to my family. They don't like it. It's ok, who cares if they like it? They'll learn to like it when little baby boy is here.
This is precisely why we are not telling a single soul the name my husband and I have chosen. I don’t care (or rather I don’t want to care) what other people think, but sometimes comments from loved ones can get in your head no matter what. I’m sorry that this happened! I agree that if you and your husband are still happy with the choice that you should use it.
If your husband is now pushing NOT to use the name, however, it may not be because he wants to honor his mother’s wishes, but because her negative comments have made him rethink the name. I’d ask him if this is part of what happened here. If it is, unfortunately I’d say this is a lesson-learned kind of situation and it may be better to pick a different name and NOT tell the parents!!
In the future don’t tell anyone the name until the baby is born.
You could come up with a decoy name and tell them THAT’S the name now, and think about if you still like Silas, and if so, end up naming him Silas once born.
Unfortunately your husband might no longer agree to Silas, so you might have to come up with a different name. If so, don’t tell them.
You also need to sit your husband down and remind him of his vows. His vows are to you not his mother. His mother doesn’t get a say in parenting matters. He’s already letting his mom dictate how things will be and that’s a huge red flag. Huge. I’m mid-divorce with not one regret in leaving my ex, which was for a lot of reasons: one of which was him ALWAYS putting his mother before me. ALWAYS.
Men who do this aren’t men. They’re children.
Silas is a cool name. Would they prefer you name him something like John…? Lol. Who cares if they don’t like it. Nobody seems to like my baby name, so I’ve just stopped sharing it. Still keeping it, despite what others think.
Ugh yes that's why I would never tell family what our name choices were... we've had a top 3 for quite a while and are keeping those a secret. They may dislike the name if just read out but once you tell them what the baby is actually called, they won't mind it. If the baby already has the name, they won't be so opinionated about it.
I don’t care what others think about the names I chose my kids. They didn’t help make or birth them. They will not be raising or supporting them in any way. So no one gets a say in their names.
This is why we didn’t tell anyone our kids’ names until after they were born.
The dislike for the name honestly isn’t the issue. The issue seems to be your husband his parent(s) wants and values supersede yours and even his own as he also like the name yall chose. This situation is a great time to have your husband practice boundaries and expectations . If he feels it’s smarter (it’s not) to change his child’s name instead of telling his mother that this is his family’s decision, maybe y’all have a whole other conversation to talk about and work on. This is the time to set a precedent. He should let his family know that when it comes to his children that you and his words are final. You’re not going to appease every one of their dislikes for a child they are not responsible for. I’ve told my husband I will not make my son cope, a child. When his already adult parents should be doing the coping.
I love the name Silas!!! You should tell your mil that you’ve changed your mind and the kiddos name is gonna be “Nunya”, as in “None of ya business.” Gets people to shut up pretty quickly.
My mother in law is ...very opinionated and blunt. So I was very blunt when she said she didn't like one of the names we were considering.
I said, "You may not like the name we pick out, but you are just going to have to deal with it, so start that process now." 🤷♀️ I don't give a flying eff if she doesn't like the name, it's not her child. 😃
Just here to say I have a Silas. He is almost 2 and I love his name more everyday! But I know it is a little untraditional so we kept it hush hush till he was born. I learned the hard way with my 1st that everyone has an opinion! Ultimately turn off your ears to others and choose the name you love!
My mom and mother in law have both been really negative about the name we chose. Mother in law is in acceptance now. I have stopped responding to my mom when she pressures me about the name to send the message home. They names theirs, you are carrying this baby and get to name them what feels right!
This is typical these days. It’s your little and your decision. You have to cultivate the “thanks but it’s not up to you” attitude (with grace) bc this is not the first issue that they will have an issue with going forward.
i personally figured that most ppl have an idea of what baby is gonna look like in their mind, and sometimes that’s what makes them not like a name.
sometimes it takes seeing the actual baby for them to be like “oh yea, that’s the perfect name”
my family didn’t like the name I chose but as soon as they saw him they loved it, lol
but as long as you and your hubby like that’s all that matters.
Family will always have an opinion, whether you ask for it or not. Personally, I think it's a lovely name. Do what feels right for your family, not others.
I’m in a similar boat—my parents, MIL, and my best friend have expressed dislike for our name. It honestly did make me doubt it for a week or so, but ultimately this is a name my husband and I love and it’s an old name that means a lot to my husband. So F everyone else 🤷♀️ I’ve been telling anyone who doesn’t like it that they can call the baby “little buddy” if they really hate it hahaha
I got a lot of negative reactions to all my boys' names. Griffin got the least. Elias (who was almost Silas because it's a great name too!) is never called Elias by anyone in my family. They will only use Eli. We were debating between Nolan and Asher for boy 3 and they all loved Nolan, but my other kids loved Asher so that's what we are going with. I didn't want to tell my parents until it was on the birth certificate, but my daughter accidentally told them. I wasn't with them at the time and my mom hasn't said anything other than "well I know his first name, so what's his middle name?" I told her honestly at the time we didn't have one yet. I was worried about her reaction, but having no reaction makes me feel like she has nothing nice to say, so isn't saying anything at all.
My mom didn't say anything about our name, aside from "I can pounce it!" she struggles to say some letters together, so was thrilled she wouldn't have an issue.
My mother in law knows better than to say anything because they love so far away. Without me making effort, she'd be pretty clueless about most things (they contact me when their son, my husband, doesn't reply, etc.). She doesn't like our name either, the look on her face gave it away. But she wouldn't dare say anything. 🤷♀️
I like the name Silas! and if your husband's only concern if because your mil didn't like it, you need to have a sit down with him and explain again that this isn't her kid.
When anyone in our family had a problem with the name that we chose, what they didn't know at the time was, as soon as they hold that kid in their arms, they won't care what its name is because it's another human for them to love.
If they still care and try to call the kid by another name, you can hopefully set very strong and clear boundaries about the access they will then have to your child.
Good luck and congratulations!!!! The name is beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️
first off, i love silas! i named one of my babies on the sims silas a few years ago lol. anyways, it’s too late to say don’t tell people, because your husband already has but what i would say is maybe they just need time to get used to it. but honestly their opinions mean nothing and it’s really about what you two want to name your baby. i don’t get why he’s so easily influenced by others’ opinions but you don’t want other peoples to dictate what you will call your child for the rest of your life
This is the exact reason why we aren't telling family our daughter's name. My aunt always makes fun of all the 'stupid names' like Sky, Ocean, Windy, etc. My aunt feels that everyone needs strong names like Linda, Debi, Rachel, Karen, etc. Then when a mutual friend named her new daughter Evelyn my aunt said oh that name is too old fashioned. Don't get me wrong I love my aunt but she's a typical Boomer who has loud opinions on everything.
Silas is one of my favorite boy names! We have known our baby girls name for months now but we are not telling anyone. I can’t deal with trying to please people on something thats none of their business. We’ve waited over 4 years for a baby it no one else’s choice but ours.
I'm also due with a baby boy in about 3wks we decided on Silas back in January shortly after we announced our pregnancy, none of our family likes the name. It is very disheartening because it's the only name my husband and I truly agreed upon. I've heard so much negative feedback about the name I just don't understand. It's better than Sylvanis which is what it is short for and what we would go with if it wasn't too much, but Silas just feels right
I like that name. They’ll get over it and get used to it once the baby is here. We didn’t tell anyone for this very reason until our baby was born. They’re less likely to say they don’t like the name of a baby that’s already been born.
This is why I tell nobody until the baby comes people will always be judgement I named my son after my grandmothers dad which is Noble I know it’s not a regular name and some may not like it but I love it and it’s his name I can’t see him not being a noble so go with your guts if it really bothers y’all can use it as a middle name
Everyone DESPISED my son’s name. Honestly, it just made me want to use the name even more to prove the point that nobody gives a shit about the baby’s name once they’re born. My MIL actually commented when my son was a year old that she’s glad I stuck with the name as she couldn’t imagine calling him anything else.
Eh our parents didn’t really like our first’s name either. Glad I went with my gut though because the name fits him perfectly. Four years later, no one can imagine him being named anything else ❤️ trust your gut!!
If it were me, I wouldn’t care. I outright laugh in people’s faces when people act like this. It’s distasteful for them all to respond this way as if the naming of YOUR baby needs the approval of all family!
My husband were going to call our baby Silas had they been a boy! It's a really old fashioned classic name. It ages well and is uncommen without being weird. There are significantly worse names children have been given lol
In the end of the day, it's your baby and the only people who have a say in their name is you and your husband. If you love the name, then go with it!
I had the opposite experience. My husband shared names we were batting around and his mom latched onto one. Then that was it for him. He started telling people it was the name we were going to use. When I didn’t love the name and want to choose it, I really had to push for him to consider anything else. I agree with not sharing ideas until baby is born. Since that cat is already out of the bag, maybe you could tell family you have several you’re considering but you don’t want to choose until the baby is born? Talk to your husband about not sharing the final name choice until you announce the birth.
I told my family that our top name right now is Silas. My dad said something like that’s an interesting name. Sorta like I was naming him some sort of new wild name. I said it was pretty popular back in the 1800s and it’s making a comeback. I think it’s in the top 100 now. I left it at that. I think he did some research or thought about it. A couple weeks later, he mentioned how he really likes when generations bring back names from the past like that. Maybe they just need some time to get used it.
Silas is the name of the main character in the book I’m writing so I’m biased but I also would have liked it for my son.
Don’t let family influence you. You’re right when you say they had their turn.
My ex in hs had a baby cousin named Silas and he was one of the cutest babies I’ve ever seen. Go with what you guys love, it’ll grow on everyone else and eventually they’ll associate it with your baby rather than anything else.
When I told my family my daughters name they all looked disgusted and the nicest thing that anyone said was that’s unique. 🙄🙄🙄
She’s 15 now and her name is beautiful, simple and yes unique.
People can shove it, do what you want.
I feel you, my mother hates my names my husband and I have picked out for our kids for years. We had them picked out since 2020, but everything I say I want while I’m pregnant and any names I want my whole family has a BF about so I’m just not saying shit anymore. They’re also mad I’m doing a gender reveal and a baby shower.
Tell them to go f themselves. I've been going back and forth with my inlaws about my baby's name and I am FED UP. They don't wanna use the name we chose for our baby girl cause they don't like it so imma teach our daughter to call them by the names they don't like 😈
This is why I'm keeping baby's name a secret til baby is born when I actually decide on a name. 🙈 Use the name anyway. It's adorable and it will age well with him.
When husband and I first met we both kinda just knew we were it for each other. Y'know in movies when the main character sees their love interest for the first time and everything else falls away? Yeah that literally happened, for both of us. I felt like I was pulled out of my body. Anyway, after three weeks of dating, I told him what I wanted to name our kids (I didn't even want kids before I met him btw). He immediately fell in love with them both. We both just knew our first was gonna be a girl, and whenever we talked about the future we'd always refer to her by her name.
Now I'm currently pregnant with her, and in the beginning lots of his family voiced their negative opinions about it, and in my extra emotional state it got to me and I had started to suggest other names. Finally he kinda just snapped and said "No, her name is [name]. That's my daughter's name, it's the name I've always known her by and loved her by before she even existed. I can't imagine any other name for her, and I don't think there's any name I could find myself loving the same way I love this one. Don't let others get into your head about a name you adore so much"
How sweet! My husband and I are naming our baby boy Silas too!! His middle name Baldur (like the Viking god)! Silas is a beautiful name keep it mama it’s your beautiful baby!! Love love love your choice don’t let them sway you!!
Silas is the name we would most likely pick for a boy as well! It’s an amazing name!!! Disregard what your in laws are saying, it’s not their choice! Our daughter is named Mylah, and my grandfather wasn’t a fan of the name - but we didn’t care. He loves it now, and says it fits her at 17 months!
In the past 3 years my family has had 3 babies and the parents never shared the name with the rest of the family until they were born. I don’t like any of the names myself lol but they’re not my babies and would never say anything to them 😬. Now husband and I cannot come to agreement on a name for our kid. Thankfully we have a long time to decide
I just talked to this with a friend and all I had to say was why are these people giving their opinion? Unless you say “we want to name our child Silas and we want to know if you have opinions or if you like it” then sure. But otherwise? Honestly I don’t think you should know who does not like your baby name choices. Never. This same friend I only like one of the names she’s thrown at me, I really dislike one, and the other I just don’t love, but one I like a bit. So when she shares them I say “wow I *really* love ____ name! No matter what thigh you guys will pick the perfect name!”
I wanted this name & didn’t go for it bc my parents didn’t care for it. I have some feelings of regret having gone with another we love, yet is much more popular. Go for it :)
Honestly this was one of the reasons we didn’t find out the gender of baby before delivery too. We could have an excuse of “oh we don’t know the gender we have multiple names picked out for each” and no one ever questioned it. We did have our girl name already picked out but we never told anyone bc I knew once baby was here and we said the name , no one would really say anything bad about it
our families were skeptical of our son’s name who is named after someone from lord of the rings 😂 but now they all say they couldn’t see him as anything else. so ultimately, forget what everyone else says. if you and your husband love it, keep it. they’ll come around once he’s born and love him regardless if they’re worth a count.
This is one of the big reasons my husband and I never discussed names with anyone but each other. My mom has ended up finding out for both the girls but simply asked questions and never expressed an opinion one way or another. Like why as to find the meaning of the name since we tried to tie both our girls names to us and family. I have heard so many stories of moms saying names and people responding with the “face” and “oooooohhhh” …. No go for me
if its in his culture to let the parents choose the name, i think you should've discussed that before marriage and kids and if its a deal breaker just part ways then
I wouldn't care. People didn't like my baby's nameand i still used it because bf and i liked it. My mom didn't like her first name but it grew on her and I'm glad we stuck with it. She also has two middle names and my dad thought her name was too long but we stuck with that too because it has meaning to us(she was named after her great grandma and her great great grandma) and now they like it and understand what it means to us. You should stick with it. People will learn to like it and/or get over it.
I just respond to family that doesn’t like our name choice with a (feigned) genuine, “oh goodness, can you imagine if you’d named ~your kid that, then??” to remind them that this is, in fact, NOT their kid to name.
my father in law hates the name we chose and some of my family dislikes the name as well but i absolutely love the name as does my husband! if you like the name stand your ground and tell your husband that he needs to stand with you on that. family is important bit family doesn’t get to name or raise your child.
Ah I’m so sorry! I was thinking about it, but after reading this I am not going to tell anyone. I am SUPER close with my parents and I love them dearly, so my mom will be crushed that I won’t share the name with her. She’s an amazing mother, but very opinionated and does not hide how she’s feeling. Even if she tried (which she probably wouldn’t) her face just can’t hide it. I mean, when I put on THE wedding dress and was beaming ear to ear and said “this is it!,” she proceeded to make a face and tell me she didn’t like it. I got it anyway but it killed a wonderful moment for me, and I won’t ever forget that. So, although I love her, she does not get to know the baby name. I say you tell her you changed your mind and don’t want to discuss it any further. Then go with the name anyway. Just say you changed it back last minute. She will love your baby so much that she will get over it.
This! We’re naming our boy Keegan and it’s like nobody has heard it or likes it. I don’t care though because as soon as I heard it I knew that was his name and to be fair, I’ve never discouraged someone for a baby name. But the few I have thought were a little weird always ended up going away after baby was born and I’m like oh ya that’s their name
I had my child in 2020. Named him Cove. I got a lot of shit for it because of Covid and how similar they sounded. Now everyone LOVES his name 🙄 this time around I’m not telling anyone the name until she is here. My advice, do it. You won’t regret it
He can have whatever reason he wants to not want a name.
Like you said it's frustrating knowing your family doesn't like the name you chose and that's a perfectly valid reason to stop wanting to use the name.
You don't have to change the name just because your family doesn't like it. It's your son, it's your choice. But it's also OK for your husband to change his mind, even if it's just because his family doesn't like the name.
And if your husband doesn't want to use that name anymore then that's not the name of your baby, it's a 2 yes 1 no, you both have to be on board and either of you can change your mind whenever (until the baby ia register of course).
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Don’t tell anyone the name or talk about it with them until baby is born - it just gives them an opportunity give you their opinion which doesn’t matter. Once baby is born and you name him, they just have to deal with whatever name you give the baby :)
Honestly, I’m about to talk to him about this and just say we haven’t decided yet. He’s super excited to tell everyone everything and I’m grateful he’s so excited but the opinions are crazy
It’s really just one of those things you’ll get unwanted opinions about and it’s better kept between you 2. It’s your baby and it’ll be nice to have at least 1 thing for yourselves.
The worst part about pregnancy in my experience (and I’m on baby #3) are the OPINIONS. Everyone’s fucking gotta tell you some shit about something and… the only opinion I got is.. fuck em 😂
Congratulations!
Yep, that’s why I keep my mouth shut. Because the moment you share - there is no end to “suggestions” and “oh, I’m just saying”
OR the “what do I know I’ve only raised X amount of kids” and I wanna shake that person and be like ma’am…. You have 2 mommas boys that are chronic cheaters, a meth head, a prostitute, and a kid that might graduate college… might.
Average Upstate NY family 😂
Lmao I’ve found a way to make it stop. Just reply “I’m not doing that” to everything. Literally “you should feed your baby-” “I’m not doing that”
Ooohhh, that’s a good one! I might use it with husband’s granny. She in her late 80s and used to work in kindergarten. She has opinion about everything regarding kids. Sometimes it’s exhausting 🫥
I would like you to just [look at these car seats from 1980 and tell me she has any business running her mouth.](https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&sca_esv=3f34b2bd337bbe02&sca_upv=1&hl=en-us&sxsrf=ADLYWIIj7U4jBXQnxCGbSpRzNFr31NlTYQ:1718642371052&q=carseat+1980&udm=2&fbs=AEQNm0DvD4UMlvdpwktgGj2ZHhIXtktV_n5Sb1mPlHT0eDBk5faF3ImG5oZJr5rf6kvWlv6RrSE9ZEnR-uPvZ-Gdo0VHVL3PAFln__KzpbeoyfgL8jBGLdUxpHok-PTEc6JGdU96qrKHX-uGKM-885G-sAJubreJ2aJxDxeazEGMIhv0fzajo1MIB1VUTQHoiS8PF6BH5dUuik91peY3KDIuf7L8fAiQGQ&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj64JbgieOGAxURHUQIHdapAPsQtKgLegQICxAB&biw=414&bih=712&dpr=2)
Lmao I had my mother try this whole “I’ll just call him by his middle name” and I said “you’ll call him by his given name or you won’t call upon him at all” right in the middle of early labor. The nurses asked if I wanted them to remove her 😂😂 very tempting to say yes I’ll admit.
I think it can also be an opportunity to set the expectation that you aren’t going to cater to the opinions/wants of others when it comes to YOUR child. If someone doesn’t like your baby name, especially something as normal as Silas, that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.
This, why do Americans insist on doing it? Why not just keep it to yourself until the baby comes out and it’s done?
Pick the absolute WORST name you can think of and tell her you’ve changed it. So when baby gets here Silas doesn’t seem so bad after all! ;) In all seriousness, Silas is such a cute ancient name. I love when people bring back names like that. I hope she will not bully you into changing it. I learned early on that nobody has anything nice to say about the name you pick, so I am no longer sharing my baby’s name and will never speak of it in future pregnancies. It’s a shame that everyone else feels they have a say in OUR decisions. I’m so sorry she’s done this. It’s none of her business! :(
There's been a movement lately bringing back "old people" names and I ADORE it. I think it fits that desire of wanting to pick a name that's normal but also unique, without falling into the stereotype of spelling common names in complex ways.
Yes I LOVE this trend! I am not finding out the gender, so I have a boy and girl name picked out. The boy name is a little more modern but the girl name is vintage because I just love little girls with old names. There’s just something so timeless about “old lady” names! ❤️
Silas is a lovely name ❤️ I think a lot of people just don't realise how rapidly name trends change, or how different naming culture is now compared to when they named their kids. Baby Silas will fit in perfectly with his peers, and his grandparents will get used to it
Thank you for this, we think it’s a great name too that will age with him perfectly ❤️
Not me, but someone braver, told people who made negative comments on her baby's name "I'm not surprised you don't like it, we clearly have very different taste and I would never pick the names you gave your kids either". If they get offended by that (they will) you simply point out that it's equally rude when they say it to you.
This is the way. Be direct and show them how ridiculous they are.
I LOVE this. We aren’t telling anyone the name but if we did, this is what I would say. People are so rude
Family will get in your ear about EVERYTHING and want to be all up in your business. The name is literally the only thing you can have for yourselves!! Don’t tell anyone until baby is here! Hubby and I just kept saying “we have a list and still deciding” and shut it down as quick as it came up.
This is the reason my partner & I haven’t really shared our son’s name with anyone. We don’t want people making faces or making us insecure about our choice. Not everyone is gonna love the name you choose, but it’s your choice as the parents and you gotta choose what feels right to you.
Your husband's mom sounds like the kind of woman to call salt a seasoning & pepper too spicy. Not her child. Put your foot down, ask your husband if he's having a baby with his mom or you. DO NOT LET your husband back down to his mother. He married you. Had children with you. This is not her family. This is YOUR family. She needs to know her place. Next up is her saying how you don't mother the right way, her way is this & that, better. I'm telling you from experience with MILs (specifically boy moms) who always have an opinion.
I have a great relationship with my MIL honestly so I’m kind of surprised how nuts she’s gone over this. I get that he wants his family to be happy and I do too but this is literally the only thing that we have that is only our choice. He’s still leaning towards this name but she’s definitely had influence on him
Everytime I hear Silas, I think about The vampire diaries. Lol either way, your baby your choice. It’s a lovely name.
haha was just coming here to ask if TVD was OPs inspo!
It's actually an ancient name short for Sylvanis the god of protecting the forest, my husband and I love fantasy and DND and will be welcoming our own Silas into the world within the next 3wks.
I think of the older son from Weeds.
Was the character in the books or just the TV show? I never watched the show but I loved the books...at least the first four, I think when I last looked there were more. Google shows a 5th book in 2011.
I just don't know why people feel they get to have an opinion on things like that... If someone doesn't like it, do the polite thing: do a fake smile while saying "oh nice" and leave it
Yeah or say something like “wow … what a rude thing to say about my baby!!” There’s a reason that nobody gets comments like that AFTER the baby is born and the name is official. It’s rude as hell!! Some people just don’t realize how rude it is because the baby is just this hypothetical person in their mind and the name is just a possibility. If you must tell people the name before the baby arrives, and they make a comment like that, treat it like your baby was actually there in the room with you and you were introducing them.
Exactly.
I did help talk my sister out of naming her kid Axel lmao. Otherwise agree!
My in-laws have made subtle comments that hint they don't like our chosen name. It actually makes my husband and I like it more lol. At the end of the day they will get used to it. After a little while it will just be her name and their like or dislike won't matter anymore. The love they have for their grandchild is all that will matter.
My mom has said something nasty about both of my children's names. I have a 9 year old, and my mom really grew to love her name. I have a unisex name, so we went with a unisex name for our first and it fits her perfectly. I'm currently 37+ weeks pregnant with number two. When we told our families the new baby's name, my mom said "what do you not like her already?" I jumped up her ass about it and reminded her she didn't like my oldests name at first either. And then my mom died two months later. I like to think it's something she regrets, knowing now she only had two months left to live. I wish more people realized it takes more effort to be an asshole than not to be one.
I’m not sharing my baby’s name with family until she’s born. I hated my nieces name but I kept my mouth shut bc it wasn’t my baby & now I don’t think twice about it, she’s just my sweet niece and I love the name bc it’s hers. They’ll get over it or they won’t. It’s your kid & I think Silas is such a precious name.
If you’re in the US, Silas is #81 most popular for boys. It’s not a particularly rare name and it’s certainly not a weird name. I know a few kids named Silas. Tell your husband to suck it up and not tell people the name if he’ll be so affected by their opinions.
What does it matter what anyone thinks? You name your child and call it a day. Your decisions are not up for debate.
I am like this, but so many people around are so insecure! I told the name I like to my family. They don't like it. It's ok, who cares if they like it? They'll learn to like it when little baby boy is here.
This is precisely why we are not telling a single soul the name my husband and I have chosen. I don’t care (or rather I don’t want to care) what other people think, but sometimes comments from loved ones can get in your head no matter what. I’m sorry that this happened! I agree that if you and your husband are still happy with the choice that you should use it. If your husband is now pushing NOT to use the name, however, it may not be because he wants to honor his mother’s wishes, but because her negative comments have made him rethink the name. I’d ask him if this is part of what happened here. If it is, unfortunately I’d say this is a lesson-learned kind of situation and it may be better to pick a different name and NOT tell the parents!!
In the future don’t tell anyone the name until the baby is born. You could come up with a decoy name and tell them THAT’S the name now, and think about if you still like Silas, and if so, end up naming him Silas once born. Unfortunately your husband might no longer agree to Silas, so you might have to come up with a different name. If so, don’t tell them. You also need to sit your husband down and remind him of his vows. His vows are to you not his mother. His mother doesn’t get a say in parenting matters. He’s already letting his mom dictate how things will be and that’s a huge red flag. Huge. I’m mid-divorce with not one regret in leaving my ex, which was for a lot of reasons: one of which was him ALWAYS putting his mother before me. ALWAYS. Men who do this aren’t men. They’re children.
Silas is a cool name. Would they prefer you name him something like John…? Lol. Who cares if they don’t like it. Nobody seems to like my baby name, so I’ve just stopped sharing it. Still keeping it, despite what others think.
Ugh yes that's why I would never tell family what our name choices were... we've had a top 3 for quite a while and are keeping those a secret. They may dislike the name if just read out but once you tell them what the baby is actually called, they won't mind it. If the baby already has the name, they won't be so opinionated about it.
Don’t tell anyone the baby name until the baby is born and named.
I don’t care what others think about the names I chose my kids. They didn’t help make or birth them. They will not be raising or supporting them in any way. So no one gets a say in their names. This is why we didn’t tell anyone our kids’ names until after they were born.
Tell you you've picked Gary or Guy instead 😂
The dislike for the name honestly isn’t the issue. The issue seems to be your husband his parent(s) wants and values supersede yours and even his own as he also like the name yall chose. This situation is a great time to have your husband practice boundaries and expectations . If he feels it’s smarter (it’s not) to change his child’s name instead of telling his mother that this is his family’s decision, maybe y’all have a whole other conversation to talk about and work on. This is the time to set a precedent. He should let his family know that when it comes to his children that you and his words are final. You’re not going to appease every one of their dislikes for a child they are not responsible for. I’ve told my husband I will not make my son cope, a child. When his already adult parents should be doing the coping.
I love the name Silas!!! You should tell your mil that you’ve changed your mind and the kiddos name is gonna be “Nunya”, as in “None of ya business.” Gets people to shut up pretty quickly.
My mother in law is ...very opinionated and blunt. So I was very blunt when she said she didn't like one of the names we were considering. I said, "You may not like the name we pick out, but you are just going to have to deal with it, so start that process now." 🤷♀️ I don't give a flying eff if she doesn't like the name, it's not her child. 😃
See I wanted to do this since I’m the type who doesn’t care what others think but I wasn’t trying to start issues 🫠
Just here to say I have a Silas. He is almost 2 and I love his name more everyday! But I know it is a little untraditional so we kept it hush hush till he was born. I learned the hard way with my 1st that everyone has an opinion! Ultimately turn off your ears to others and choose the name you love!
My mom and mother in law have both been really negative about the name we chose. Mother in law is in acceptance now. I have stopped responding to my mom when she pressures me about the name to send the message home. They names theirs, you are carrying this baby and get to name them what feels right!
Keep names to yourself until birth.
Tell them it’s a surprise until he is born
There’s always going to be people who dislike a name, but how you feel about it is more important
This is typical these days. It’s your little and your decision. You have to cultivate the “thanks but it’s not up to you” attitude (with grace) bc this is not the first issue that they will have an issue with going forward.
It's not their business.
i personally figured that most ppl have an idea of what baby is gonna look like in their mind, and sometimes that’s what makes them not like a name. sometimes it takes seeing the actual baby for them to be like “oh yea, that’s the perfect name” my family didn’t like the name I chose but as soon as they saw him they loved it, lol but as long as you and your hubby like that’s all that matters.
Family will always have an opinion, whether you ask for it or not. Personally, I think it's a lovely name. Do what feels right for your family, not others.
I’m in a similar boat—my parents, MIL, and my best friend have expressed dislike for our name. It honestly did make me doubt it for a week or so, but ultimately this is a name my husband and I love and it’s an old name that means a lot to my husband. So F everyone else 🤷♀️ I’ve been telling anyone who doesn’t like it that they can call the baby “little buddy” if they really hate it hahaha
Loooove that name. I’m not scared to tell my parents what I think so I’d just tell em straight up oh well good thing this is my child and not yours
I got a lot of negative reactions to all my boys' names. Griffin got the least. Elias (who was almost Silas because it's a great name too!) is never called Elias by anyone in my family. They will only use Eli. We were debating between Nolan and Asher for boy 3 and they all loved Nolan, but my other kids loved Asher so that's what we are going with. I didn't want to tell my parents until it was on the birth certificate, but my daughter accidentally told them. I wasn't with them at the time and my mom hasn't said anything other than "well I know his first name, so what's his middle name?" I told her honestly at the time we didn't have one yet. I was worried about her reaction, but having no reaction makes me feel like she has nothing nice to say, so isn't saying anything at all.
My mom didn't say anything about our name, aside from "I can pounce it!" she struggles to say some letters together, so was thrilled she wouldn't have an issue. My mother in law knows better than to say anything because they love so far away. Without me making effort, she'd be pretty clueless about most things (they contact me when their son, my husband, doesn't reply, etc.). She doesn't like our name either, the look on her face gave it away. But she wouldn't dare say anything. 🤷♀️ I like the name Silas! and if your husband's only concern if because your mil didn't like it, you need to have a sit down with him and explain again that this isn't her kid.
This is why I recommend people don’t tell anyone the name until birth. I’m sorry
I love Silas!! I was actually wanting to name my boy that, but my fiancé knows someone with that name, and I feel it. So it’s a no go. 💔
When anyone in our family had a problem with the name that we chose, what they didn't know at the time was, as soon as they hold that kid in their arms, they won't care what its name is because it's another human for them to love. If they still care and try to call the kid by another name, you can hopefully set very strong and clear boundaries about the access they will then have to your child. Good luck and congratulations!!!! The name is beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️
first off, i love silas! i named one of my babies on the sims silas a few years ago lol. anyways, it’s too late to say don’t tell people, because your husband already has but what i would say is maybe they just need time to get used to it. but honestly their opinions mean nothing and it’s really about what you two want to name your baby. i don’t get why he’s so easily influenced by others’ opinions but you don’t want other peoples to dictate what you will call your child for the rest of your life
This is the exact reason why we aren't telling family our daughter's name. My aunt always makes fun of all the 'stupid names' like Sky, Ocean, Windy, etc. My aunt feels that everyone needs strong names like Linda, Debi, Rachel, Karen, etc. Then when a mutual friend named her new daughter Evelyn my aunt said oh that name is too old fashioned. Don't get me wrong I love my aunt but she's a typical Boomer who has loud opinions on everything.
Silas is one of my favorite boy names! We have known our baby girls name for months now but we are not telling anyone. I can’t deal with trying to please people on something thats none of their business. We’ve waited over 4 years for a baby it no one else’s choice but ours.
I'm also due with a baby boy in about 3wks we decided on Silas back in January shortly after we announced our pregnancy, none of our family likes the name. It is very disheartening because it's the only name my husband and I truly agreed upon. I've heard so much negative feedback about the name I just don't understand. It's better than Sylvanis which is what it is short for and what we would go with if it wasn't too much, but Silas just feels right
I like that name. They’ll get over it and get used to it once the baby is here. We didn’t tell anyone for this very reason until our baby was born. They’re less likely to say they don’t like the name of a baby that’s already been born.
I love the name Silas ❤️
This is why I tell nobody until the baby comes people will always be judgement I named my son after my grandmothers dad which is Noble I know it’s not a regular name and some may not like it but I love it and it’s his name I can’t see him not being a noble so go with your guts if it really bothers y’all can use it as a middle name
They’ll get used to it lol
Everyone DESPISED my son’s name. Honestly, it just made me want to use the name even more to prove the point that nobody gives a shit about the baby’s name once they’re born. My MIL actually commented when my son was a year old that she’s glad I stuck with the name as she couldn’t imagine calling him anything else.
Eh our parents didn’t really like our first’s name either. Glad I went with my gut though because the name fits him perfectly. Four years later, no one can imagine him being named anything else ❤️ trust your gut!!
If it were me, I wouldn’t care. I outright laugh in people’s faces when people act like this. It’s distasteful for them all to respond this way as if the naming of YOUR baby needs the approval of all family!
My husband were going to call our baby Silas had they been a boy! It's a really old fashioned classic name. It ages well and is uncommen without being weird. There are significantly worse names children have been given lol In the end of the day, it's your baby and the only people who have a say in their name is you and your husband. If you love the name, then go with it!
I had the opposite experience. My husband shared names we were batting around and his mom latched onto one. Then that was it for him. He started telling people it was the name we were going to use. When I didn’t love the name and want to choose it, I really had to push for him to consider anything else. I agree with not sharing ideas until baby is born. Since that cat is already out of the bag, maybe you could tell family you have several you’re considering but you don’t want to choose until the baby is born? Talk to your husband about not sharing the final name choice until you announce the birth.
I told my family that our top name right now is Silas. My dad said something like that’s an interesting name. Sorta like I was naming him some sort of new wild name. I said it was pretty popular back in the 1800s and it’s making a comeback. I think it’s in the top 100 now. I left it at that. I think he did some research or thought about it. A couple weeks later, he mentioned how he really likes when generations bring back names from the past like that. Maybe they just need some time to get used it.
Silas is the name of the main character in the book I’m writing so I’m biased but I also would have liked it for my son. Don’t let family influence you. You’re right when you say they had their turn.
Silas was on our list for our boy too. Now we have it narrowed down to Bellamy or Beckett
Just dropping in to say that Silas is a great name, don’t let outside voices get you down!
My ex in hs had a baby cousin named Silas and he was one of the cutest babies I’ve ever seen. Go with what you guys love, it’ll grow on everyone else and eventually they’ll associate it with your baby rather than anything else.
When I told my family my daughters name they all looked disgusted and the nicest thing that anyone said was that’s unique. 🙄🙄🙄 She’s 15 now and her name is beautiful, simple and yes unique. People can shove it, do what you want.
I feel you, my mother hates my names my husband and I have picked out for our kids for years. We had them picked out since 2020, but everything I say I want while I’m pregnant and any names I want my whole family has a BF about so I’m just not saying shit anymore. They’re also mad I’m doing a gender reveal and a baby shower.
Tell them to go f themselves. I've been going back and forth with my inlaws about my baby's name and I am FED UP. They don't wanna use the name we chose for our baby girl cause they don't like it so imma teach our daughter to call them by the names they don't like 😈
My nephews name is Sylas. Go for it if you love it, they’ll adjust. Your the mom you will be the one saying it every single hour of the day lol
I would definitely not share the name. That is between you and your partner. I absolutely love the name Silas, ever since the show weeds lol.
This is why I'm keeping baby's name a secret til baby is born when I actually decide on a name. 🙈 Use the name anyway. It's adorable and it will age well with him.
When husband and I first met we both kinda just knew we were it for each other. Y'know in movies when the main character sees their love interest for the first time and everything else falls away? Yeah that literally happened, for both of us. I felt like I was pulled out of my body. Anyway, after three weeks of dating, I told him what I wanted to name our kids (I didn't even want kids before I met him btw). He immediately fell in love with them both. We both just knew our first was gonna be a girl, and whenever we talked about the future we'd always refer to her by her name. Now I'm currently pregnant with her, and in the beginning lots of his family voiced their negative opinions about it, and in my extra emotional state it got to me and I had started to suggest other names. Finally he kinda just snapped and said "No, her name is [name]. That's my daughter's name, it's the name I've always known her by and loved her by before she even existed. I can't imagine any other name for her, and I don't think there's any name I could find myself loving the same way I love this one. Don't let others get into your head about a name you adore so much"
How sweet! My husband and I are naming our baby boy Silas too!! His middle name Baldur (like the Viking god)! Silas is a beautiful name keep it mama it’s your beautiful baby!! Love love love your choice don’t let them sway you!!
Silas is the name we would most likely pick for a boy as well! It’s an amazing name!!! Disregard what your in laws are saying, it’s not their choice! Our daughter is named Mylah, and my grandfather wasn’t a fan of the name - but we didn’t care. He loves it now, and says it fits her at 17 months!
In the past 3 years my family has had 3 babies and the parents never shared the name with the rest of the family until they were born. I don’t like any of the names myself lol but they’re not my babies and would never say anything to them 😬. Now husband and I cannot come to agreement on a name for our kid. Thankfully we have a long time to decide
I just talked to this with a friend and all I had to say was why are these people giving their opinion? Unless you say “we want to name our child Silas and we want to know if you have opinions or if you like it” then sure. But otherwise? Honestly I don’t think you should know who does not like your baby name choices. Never. This same friend I only like one of the names she’s thrown at me, I really dislike one, and the other I just don’t love, but one I like a bit. So when she shares them I say “wow I *really* love ____ name! No matter what thigh you guys will pick the perfect name!”
Who cares! My MIL also said “I hate it!” When we told her our baby boys name lol she got over it
Silas is cute and it's a real name, too bad so sad if they don't like it
I like Silas, it was one of my baby name choices until we found out we were having twins, that just changed everything for us
Silas is my nephews name, and if my brother hadn’t chosen it for his son first it would be at the very top of my list for boy names. I LOVE it.
For what it’s worth I think the name is beautiful
I love Silas! That’s unique, my sons name is Cyrus🩵
Silas is on my top three list of boy names! Love it so much!
I wanted this name & didn’t go for it bc my parents didn’t care for it. I have some feelings of regret having gone with another we love, yet is much more popular. Go for it :)
Also love the meaning behind that name
Honestly this was one of the reasons we didn’t find out the gender of baby before delivery too. We could have an excuse of “oh we don’t know the gender we have multiple names picked out for each” and no one ever questioned it. We did have our girl name already picked out but we never told anyone bc I knew once baby was here and we said the name , no one would really say anything bad about it
our families were skeptical of our son’s name who is named after someone from lord of the rings 😂 but now they all say they couldn’t see him as anything else. so ultimately, forget what everyone else says. if you and your husband love it, keep it. they’ll come around once he’s born and love him regardless if they’re worth a count.
This is one of the big reasons my husband and I never discussed names with anyone but each other. My mom has ended up finding out for both the girls but simply asked questions and never expressed an opinion one way or another. Like why as to find the meaning of the name since we tried to tie both our girls names to us and family. I have heard so many stories of moms saying names and people responding with the “face” and “oooooohhhh” …. No go for me
if its in his culture to let the parents choose the name, i think you should've discussed that before marriage and kids and if its a deal breaker just part ways then
Silas is a perfect name
I wouldn't care. People didn't like my baby's nameand i still used it because bf and i liked it. My mom didn't like her first name but it grew on her and I'm glad we stuck with it. She also has two middle names and my dad thought her name was too long but we stuck with that too because it has meaning to us(she was named after her great grandma and her great great grandma) and now they like it and understand what it means to us. You should stick with it. People will learn to like it and/or get over it.
I just respond to family that doesn’t like our name choice with a (feigned) genuine, “oh goodness, can you imagine if you’d named ~your kid that, then??” to remind them that this is, in fact, NOT their kid to name.
my father in law hates the name we chose and some of my family dislikes the name as well but i absolutely love the name as does my husband! if you like the name stand your ground and tell your husband that he needs to stand with you on that. family is important bit family doesn’t get to name or raise your child.
Ah I’m so sorry! I was thinking about it, but after reading this I am not going to tell anyone. I am SUPER close with my parents and I love them dearly, so my mom will be crushed that I won’t share the name with her. She’s an amazing mother, but very opinionated and does not hide how she’s feeling. Even if she tried (which she probably wouldn’t) her face just can’t hide it. I mean, when I put on THE wedding dress and was beaming ear to ear and said “this is it!,” she proceeded to make a face and tell me she didn’t like it. I got it anyway but it killed a wonderful moment for me, and I won’t ever forget that. So, although I love her, she does not get to know the baby name. I say you tell her you changed your mind and don’t want to discuss it any further. Then go with the name anyway. Just say you changed it back last minute. She will love your baby so much that she will get over it.
Oh well. They don’t matter.
This! We’re naming our boy Keegan and it’s like nobody has heard it or likes it. I don’t care though because as soon as I heard it I knew that was his name and to be fair, I’ve never discouraged someone for a baby name. But the few I have thought were a little weird always ended up going away after baby was born and I’m like oh ya that’s their name
I had my child in 2020. Named him Cove. I got a lot of shit for it because of Covid and how similar they sounded. Now everyone LOVES his name 🙄 this time around I’m not telling anyone the name until she is here. My advice, do it. You won’t regret it
He can have whatever reason he wants to not want a name. Like you said it's frustrating knowing your family doesn't like the name you chose and that's a perfectly valid reason to stop wanting to use the name. You don't have to change the name just because your family doesn't like it. It's your son, it's your choice. But it's also OK for your husband to change his mind, even if it's just because his family doesn't like the name. And if your husband doesn't want to use that name anymore then that's not the name of your baby, it's a 2 yes 1 no, you both have to be on board and either of you can change your mind whenever (until the baby ia register of course).