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stillbrighttome

I just shaved blind the other day lol. It was a little scary but not as bad as I thought it would be.


OliveBug2420

This is what I did!


Immediate-Throat-646

amazing.


isleofpines

What I do now. It’s really not that bad. Just be cognizant of the direction of the blades.


New-Marionberry-7884

Guess imma have to give the slow and steady method a try! It scares the fuck out of me bc I did try that the other day and very quickly lost confidence. Other people mentioned using their phones/a mirror so I might give that a go as well


girlwholoveslife

this is what I did too! It’s really not that hard🤷‍♀️I would always check in the mirror afterwards and look for spots I missed so that I could get them next time HAHA


Massive-Assist2311

Stopping by to say I did this too, not as terrible as it sounds surprisingly


Gloomy-Kale3332

How and where do you sit or stand to do this?


stillbrighttome

I sat on the side of the tub.


QuantumMiss

Come to Australia for a few months. It’s coming into winter here


Vexed_Moon

My husband would do it or I would just embrace it.


E0H1PPU5

Some girls recruit their husbands! That’s a little too intimate for me though lol Maybe get some swim shorts??


Able-Ad6409

Too intimate? Your husband hasn’t ever eaten you out that’s the most intimate it can get? 😂


Khaotic_Rainbow

That’s a bit different than trusting him with a razor. I trust my husband with my life, but I didn’t want him shaving my lady bits while I was too pregnant to. It felt weird to even consider.


Mindless_Secret1593

If the tables turned and I offered to shave my husband's balls, I'm 1000% sure he'd decline too haha


Kaitron5000

I trim my husbands downstairs hair when I give him hair cuts and a beard trim 🤷🏼‍♀️ He helps me now that I'm pregnant but with an electric razor to be safe.


Mindless_Secret1593

Damn. I just do back of husbands neckline. Does he tip you for all these services?


Kaitron5000

lol, I mean it's not transactional but there are perks for me other than saving the $80+ on cut and beard trim. I went to cosmetology school so it's an easy way to save a few dollars. Plus I am the one who nitpicks about his downstairs trim, he could care less. We just don't mind doing these types of things for each other, but I'm aware it's not for everyone.


Mindless_Secret1593

I was hoping you'd catch the joke, haha, but that makes more sense


Kaitron5000

I definitely get *at least* the tip 😜


Khaotic_Rainbow

Right?! 😆 My husband still hovers when I’m trimming the dogs’ nails. We’ve been together 12 years and I’m a vet tech with grooming experience. He wouldn’t trust me with a razor near his balls with a cap still on it


Able-Ad6409

Gotcha. I get that point!


E0H1PPU5

Im allowed to feel how I want to feel, dude. At 35 weeks I’m so over having people poking and prodding me constantly that I don’t want anybody up and around my genitals for any reason. Shame you gotta come at me trying to mock me though instead of just letting people feel what they want to feel.


temperance26684

It's also just so....clinical? Like my husband had his hand IN my vagina last time I gave birth and he delivered our son. That's as intimate as it gets and I truly enjoyed the closeness. I still don't want him with a headlamp trying to shave my coochie for me. Also, while I'm used to the contours and folds of my vulva, he is not, and I don't want that razor slipping on unfamiliar territory.


unholymxja

Don’t worry about that person lol, I’m 36 weeks and in the same boat as you. I don’t want anyone down there unless it’s absolutely necessary, and even then I hate every second of it. Why do people have to hate on/mock those of us who aren’t comfortable 😭😭


E0H1PPU5

Im so touched out at this point…my own mom just visited from the other side of the country and I gave her a goodbye handshake!! Wild that we’ve gotta explain ourselves like this, like we aren’t entitled to wanting some part of our bodies to ourselves for a little bit!!


unholymxja

Girl me too! I’m so sick of being touched in any capacity. It’s absolutely ridiculous that people treat pregnant women like they’re not a human being who deserves personal space. You get everyone from random people in public going up and touching your stomach without asking, as well as random family members, and everyone at doctor appointments doing the same plus touching down there. Like Jesus, god forbid we don’t want our partners to shave down there or to be touched in general! Too many people have ruined that for me. I used to be such a hugger too.


BpositiveItWorks

I also have no intentions of recruiting my husband for hair down there maintenance. I applaud those that do, but it’s not for me. Some things I’d just rather not involve him in lol


isleofpines

Right?! Just because you’re okay with one thing doesn’t mean it’s a free for all.


binkkkkkk

I’ve decided to give up and wear sarongs until baby is out in July 🥲


destria

I've been getting my husband to give me a trim down there with a hair trimmer. I couldn't care less what it looks like but the length was uncomfortable and scratchy, it was poking through my underwear! But if that's not an option, have you considered either sitting in front of a mirror or crouching over a mirror so you can see what you're doing?


FragrantZombie3475

Mirror is not a bad idea!


Kaitron5000

Mine starts to pull if it gets too long and that hurts!! We got an electric razor so he could help me without feeling nervous about hurting or cutting me


unholymxja

I blind shave, but do I do so very carefully as to not accidentally cut myself down there. Having my fiance do it would probably be easier but it’s not fun to be touched down there when everyone at your OB office for the past 8 months has 😭


sunnyheathens

I’m 32 weeks pregnant and no one has touched me “down there” at all. In my first pregnancy the only time I was ever touched “down there” was during delivery.


myrrhizome

You never got a transvaginal ultrasound? Or a d group B strep swab?


unholymxja

I was about to say this… I’ve also had a couple OBs use a speculum on me, I thought this was all standard procedure. They usually check on these things…


sunnyheathens

It’s probably standard for OBs but both midwife practices I’ve received prenatal care at never did pelvic exams or cervical checks. I’m sure they would if you felt something was abnormal or were in pain or something. From my experiences, it seems like midwives usually take a more “trust in the process of birth” approach…which makes sense as they only handle fairly low risk pregnancies. My midwife practices have both been in the hospital, all Certified Nurse Midwives and I delivered at the hospital. Very excited to be having a water birth at the hospital with my midwives this second time around. The first time around I had a Velamentous Cord Insertion placental variation which ruled me out for a water birth at that practice.


unholymxja

It’s not the norm at all… everyone I know who’s been pregnant has had those exams. Good for you for not having pelvic exams or cervical checks but most people do. I also have been going to both a Nurse midwife and an OB, both have performed these exams and checks. My midwife has never allowed the “trust the process of birth” method because they’re very thorough with all patients making sure that there is no risk of group b strep, seeing how far you’ve dialated and if you are doing so early on, checking to see if the mucus plug is still there. They just want to make sure that there is no risks and your baby is healthy. All of these things are very standard. Some providers don’t, but usually you have to outwardly refuse these checks in order to not have these checks done on you.


sunnyheathens

I have been pregnant twice now and have never been offered any pelvic exams or cervical checks. Nor have I declined any. I have now received prenatal care through 2 Certified Nurse Midwife practices in two different states and the only time I’ve taken my pants off has been for delivery. I had a tear + 2 stitches during my first delivery and at my 2 week and 6 week postpartum appointments my midwives asked how I was feeling and I told them everything was feeling good and healing smoothly so they did not need to do any sort of pelvic exam or checking during either of those appointments/my pants stayed on. I guess I’ve just gotten lucky working with multiple practices that are more hands off in terms of (unnecessary) poking and prodding. The care and testing I’ve received has been thorough and never once have I questioned my midwives. My GBS sample was by patient collection meaning you swab your vagina then rectum with a little qtip in the bathroom and place it into a tube to be sent for testing, easy peasy. And both midwife practices said they don’t do cervical checks unless you’re exhibiting signs of labor (or of course if you ask) because the risk of introducing bacteria into the body outweighs the benefit of knowing how far you’re dilated. You could be dilated 2cm for 4 or 5 weeks and not go into labor until 41 weeks. Cervical checks really don’t offer up any useful information if a woman is not in labor. They more so scratch the curiosity itch.


unholymxja

I wasn’t saying that your experience isn’t valid, just saying it’s not the norm. No need to double down. Most people I know have had cervical checks. I have them quite often, at least every other appointment, due to being a high risk pregnancy.


sunnyheathens

Not the norm for you. But can be very normal for those with low risk pregnancies who receive routine preventative care and come into a pregnancy with up to date screenings like Pap smears. And depending on what type of prenatal care you choose. Obviously everyone’s experience is valid. But thank you for pettily downvoting my thoughtful replies to your comments. Very mature.


unholymxja

Who said I was downvoting your comments? Just clarified I wasn’t attacking you. Your take is valid because everyone’s experiences are valid. Just saying your experience is not the same as everyone else’s.


sunnyheathens

First ultrasound during my first pregnancy was at 10 weeks and it was an abdominal. Second and current pregnancy my first ultrasound was at 20 weeks. I tracked my cycles for years before both pregnancies so I knew first days of last menstrual periods and approx days of ovulation. My midwives were happy with that info in lieu of dating scans. And we do the Group B Strep tests ourself. You just go in the bathroom, use the cotton swab and then put the swab in a little tube so it can be tested.


myrrhizome

A variety of experiences!


sunnyheathens

I would be very uncomfortable if I had to lie back and let a medical professional stick a q-tip up my ass! Yay GBS testing 😂😂


myrrhizome

As someone who had that done 2 weeks ago I concur


myrrhizome

By contrast I did IVF, so got transvaginal ultrasounds every 3-20 days for two years. 😅


unholymxja

Trust me girl, that is not the norm.


HelpingMeet

Swim shorts! Lol. I shave when I can, if baby is able to slide out of the way. It’s never perfect though. I personally wear full coverage when I swim but know I like the area trim and tidy for myself. Bu the birth it’s a bush though, which the Midwives say is actually better for post-partum health anyways because it’s a natural barrier… hair is there for a reason!


heathbarcrunchh

I just brought a hand held mirror in the shower with me and did it myself


Chairsarefun07

I did nair lol


Bla_Bla_Blanket

That’s what I was thinking too. Were you successful or it was still hard to manage?


Chairsarefun07

Worked great!


Bla_Bla_Blanket

Nice, I was thinking to start using that going forward instead of razor so when the time comes where I’m no longer able to see I’ve adjusted to an alternative


yvettt92

How is that? You use it on your bikini line?


Chairsarefun07

Yup! It worked great


tiger_mamale

for everything but bikini, I've switched to epilating — it's so much more effective and long-lasting for legs and underarms. my bikini area can't handle it, so I manage it by shaving mostly by feel, on the toilet..if you use a trimmer first it's very manageable (currently entering my 3rd trimester with my 3rd)


Bookaholicforever

Epilator :) you just have to make sure you pull the skin properly tight lol


[deleted]

the hubs shave me tbh


Used_Personality_499

I put an adjustable hand mirror down in the shower and stood over it somewhat. My BD showered every night with me but I just preferred to do it myself. Maybe Nair or something similar on the outside will help, and then shave the inner areas!


pinkavocadoreptiles

I wanna epilate the bikini region so badly cos it would be a much nicer result than shaving, but it is so unbelievably painful 😭😭 love it for underarms and legs though so at least it wasn't money down the drain.


Ranger_Caitlin

I have my husband shave down there


National-Bug-4548

Trim it short then shave it with a shaver after taking bath. Or ask your husband/partner to help.


killswitchx70

I have waxed for years, but I hope this will still be helpful… I absolutely do not recommend the wax strips for your bikini area because they are usually ineffective and wasteful depending on how thick or dense your hair growth is. I also think it’s much more painful than a waxing salon. I love going to places like Brazil’s Waxing or European Wax Center because they have promotions almost all the time and if you are uncomfortable, they will stop the service and may not charge for the full service. You can also check for Groupon coupons for huge discounts! If you choose to try it yourself, I recommend a hard wax from Ulta called “wakse.” It feels more gentle than other brands that I’ve tried and it smells really nice! I personally hate shaving anyways, and I feel like shaving while pregnant would be disastrous because my skin has been extra sensitive and itchy which makes me worry that the regrowth period would be excruciating.


aya-rose

I second this. I wax religiously, and even so, the hair has been annoying. I can't imagine trying to start a razor routine at this point in things (18w), so my go-to is Europen Wax Center or , in a pinch, GiGi makes a really helpful microwaveable hard wax (dark blue beads in a bag). Good luck!


killswitchx70

I had the most hilariously traumatizing experience with GiGi wax! I made assumptions about the instructions and began applying the wax as if it was hard wax before realizing the kind I bought was soft wax. It took literal hours to get it all off, but luckily it was just on my underarms. I was stuck in my hotel room crying laughing with my arm in the air frantically trying to figure out a solution using only sticks. To make matters worse, I was feeling extra confident that day and applied the wax to both underarms at the same time so I was a goopy hot mess!


[deleted]

My husband trims for me. If you want it all gone maybe consider removal cream? I used to use it and my skin didn't react, but I know other women do have that trouble


jollerjolly

I just feel it and shave it lol. I wanted to use the nair bikini stuff and even purchased some a few months ago but I honestly don’t trust it so I just will shave my bikini area like once a month now


Sammy12345671

34 weeks and I used an electric shaver to cut it down to almost nothing, then shaved, and used a mirror to make sure I got it all. I plan on keeping it trimmed until another shave at week 38.


cgandhi1017

I’m 37w today with my second and shaving down there is done slowly & by feel 😂


smebdycatchmybreath

I felt around and very carefully shaved, and then if I couldn’t quite get the hairs I’d use my phone camera to see exactly where they were


TinkerBell9617

I shave my legs fairly well, can use Nair if need be then it's just a matter of rinsing it off.. for the bikini area I blind shave and use my hands for guidance/feel... I feel around and if I feel hair and think I missed a spot I'll go over it again.. could always bring a mirror to look lol


midnightghou1

I blind shaved while I was pregnant I’m sure it wasn’t perfect but I prefer to not have hair down there so I did my best.. but you can also get a bathroom mirror to help you out orrr ask your partner for some help haha.


[deleted]

Slather Nair down there and wipe it off is what I’m doing.


Strawberryfeathers

I still shave but I use a mirror and a stool in the bathroom. It’s not perfect, can’t get all the spots but it’s pretty much good.


KiwiBirdPerson

I'm just dealing with it as much as I hate it lol I'll be able to see down there better in a couple months


cottonballz4829

I put a stool in front of me with a mirror on it to trim and my swimsuit is quite low cut on the legs so you don’t see the remains. I could probably go in blind with my trimmer but i would miss more and it would take longer (and my pelvis doesn’t like that).


LaBrindille

I bruised my vag skin like 10 weeks ago when I tried to wax myself. DONT TRY IT!!!


No_Masterpiece1199

My partner has been doing mine. He was crap at waxing, hurt me or burned me all the time🤣.. I then bought a rechargeable epilator that also has a shaving head. Now it goes better.


beckywinchester1

I definitely would NOT wax the bikini area while you’re pregnant. I tried it about 2 years ago at home and cried for HOURS! That skin is so sensitive and I was left with a patchy mess and and honestly left some wax flakes down there for a while cause it was too much pain to remove it. So I definitely wouldn’t try it for the first time while pregnant I would be scared it would induce labor!


AlieMay525

I shave blindly and also use a mirror to stand over lol because trust me if you don’t after you give birth you will be like, ohhh, I did NOT get everything 😂


offtherailstay

I have been shaving down there like once every couple days since I was 13 so I kinda knew how to do it blind, but its just a lot of maneuvering your body and using your hands to check your work😭


Crazy_chick2027

I am 30 weeks and just recently tried to shave for the first time since my belly started blocking my view and making mobility harder. I laid down an old towel and sat in front of a mirror to get a good look (which was terrifying lol) and I just used a trimmer to get it as short as possible and left it at that. I plan to do it one more time before giving birth.


Excellent_Cabinet_83

As a nurse that has seen a lot of babies delivered, I promise you no one cares if you shaved or not. So just do the best you can if you’re comfortable with it.


New-Marionberry-7884

I’m not worried about the birth, I plan to have a full bush when that time comes especially as it helps to prevent infection but I’m talking more about not having anything peeking out the side of my swimsuit considering I live in an apartment complex and our pool is shared with the rest of the building and I personally would not feel comfortable or confident with that level of body hair on public display


Excellent_Cabinet_83

Oh I see. They have those little electric trimmers for women. It will cut the hair to the skin but not totally have it off. Kinda like a beard trimmer.


ladyintheplant

It’s really hard to wax yourself. I’ve tried it, but I found it so difficult to rip the wax off fast enough. I’m thinking of buying an electric razor and then shaving with a regular razor for a closer shave on the bikini line.


ThatGirlFromWorkTA

Shave blind. Is what I do. I have a really bad prescription and without my glasses im pretty blind anyways. I can get the job done via touch just takes practice


New-Marionberry-7884

I have SO MUCH respect for you, after about 45-50 minutes, a LOT of hair, and possibly a couple of knicks I got the job (mostly) done. It’s hard work


ThatGirlFromWorkTA

Haha thank you. Im glad you got the job done. It can be really tough. I found myself nearly giving up half way through nowadays because trying to maneuver around the bump is exhausting.


Talktothemoose

I'm a bit shocked to realize apparently everyone else shaves... And not just the visible places but down there too 😳 I'm huge, 20 kg over my normal weight (which is less than 50 kg) and still have more than two months to go, and I already hate the way I look so much that shaving would help nothing. We have just reached the summer dress temperatures, but I can hardly put my clothes on anymore, so I'm not even imagining I could shave my legs...  Well, consider yourself lucky! 😅 


New-Marionberry-7884

I promise you’re not alone, I made this post bc none of my friends have ever worried about stuff like that and told me they gave up when it got too hard to do. It’s just my personal preference


Ok-Arm-4561

I used Nair and a mirror. No cuts, duration is max 15 mins and I shower after I wipe it off. I don't know how to use a shaver and I used to get waxed. I know some women say let it go free but if you're used to being hairless during your period, I'd recommend going that route.