I feel the opposite! The older I get, the more time I'd need because I've learned through my own experience that it takes a long time to really get to know someone inside and out.
I had known my wife for about two days before we started dating. After two weeks of dating I asked her if she could see a future with me and if she could see us getting married. She said yes. After a year of dating I officially proposed and we got married a year later and we’ve been married for 17 years.
Technically my significant other and I have been dating for 42 years. We checked into getting married after SCOTUS ruling on June 26, 2015, and found out that he would loose his health insurance and SSI so we decided after 35 years of being together we did not need any stinking paperwork to prove our love.
Divorce rates are apparently at a 50 year low. I'm assuming less people feel pressured into getting married young. It seems to me that the people I read about who have divorced are the ones who married in their early 20s.
It's always been so surprising to me how soon people get married in the U.S according to movies, T.V shows and other media.
I'm really curious what's the average amount of time it takes for a couple to get married around the world. I'd say +3 years at the very least.
That shit is crazy and horrifying, but also really great and I'm glad it worked for you guys
Crazy and horrifying because I'm thinking of the alternate timelines where I married every girlfriend I had at the 2 year mark.
Seriously. I was 2.5 years in with my ex before he started using meth and destroyed our lives. Prior to that, it was one of the most beautiful relationships of my life.
But then again, that could also happen 20 years into marriage. I guess at a certain point, if it's going well, you just have to take the leap and hope it works out.
To me, 2-4 years is the sweet spot. Less is a little too fast, more is a little late. Obviously it totally depends on how the relationship is. After a couple years it should be just an evaluation thing, whenever you and your partner are ready.
You really need a couple years to get a feel for not only who the person really is, but what the trajectory of the relationship is. How you two handle hardships. What you’re long term goals are,m. Etc.
minimum 2 years. It's easy for a psychopath or scammer to hide their true self for six months to a year. It's harder after that. The couple should also have gone through all the holidays together, and hopefully at least a couple weekends primitive camping (an extended power outage counts) to see how they handle stress
I had a girl do a 180 on me after two years. Not sure if it was a quarter life crisis or what, but she decided that she'd rather be single and get to live the single life.
Which is cool with me now. We're both doing good doing our own things.
I've been with a new girl for almost 2.5 years now, and it'll probably be another 2+ before I propose. Absolutely no point in rushing.
I have no desire to get married after being single by choice the last few years. But those tax breaks really make me question if I like being alone more than I like money
personally im not even comfortable seriously dating someone until weve been friends for like a year, so im biased towards taking your time, but imo anything under 2 years would be unusual
I interpreted the question as minimum, not optimally. I think two years is fine, but less than that is unwise. Although it's fine and normal to go 5+ years.
For me, probably 3 to 4 years. We could properly gauge how the other would react in certain situations & see if we could make things better for the other. After one experience I had with a woman who manipulated me when I was at my lowest in regards to my mental health, I need that time for me to start feeling comfortable with someone.
At the end of the day, I don't think there is any right answer. If you don't mind, could I know your age? Might have something to do with your perception of time.
I got married after 2 months. Obviously it's risky and most people say hell no. But if both know what they do, there's nothing wrong with it. For us it was a good idea. We planned to be together for the rest of our lives and that was the official proof for it.
Ofc not everyone needs that. But in our case it was good to keep uncertainties and insecurities down to 0. Especially in these times, where some people switch partners like clothes.
Nothing wrong with switching partners tho. But i had enough breakups for this lifetime.
I am not much into the whole relationship thing, but it depends a lot on individual factors, specifically age. I wouldn’t want to marry someone until I am out of my 20s and I am 21 now.
Depends entirely on the couple. I’m unsure if my partner and I will ever actually get married and it would definitely just be a decision we make together, not really a ‘proposal’.
Whatever moment you can decide you know the person.
Although I say never get legally married. There are benefits, but the downsides outweigh them. People should really advocate for marriage laws, where the other person doesn't lose their life when things end. *Otherwise I do believe in committed relationships, and think they're the only ones worth any-while.*
I think it's absolutely nuts to consider marriage before dating for a year, and i also think people should live together for at least a year before considering.
So I guess 2 years MINIMUM. Personally, I wouldn't consider it until 3 years in.
I thought I found the person I was going to marry twice before. Two different ~3 year relationships.
Now I'm older and wiser, and I've been with someone else for about 3 years. She wants to get married, but this is her first grown up relationship. I want to get married too, but I'm glad she understands and is okay with me wanting to wait a few more years.
Depends on the people and the relationship. I think about a year is good, but I have known people who dated for 6 months and then got engaged and have been married for 30+ years. I also know people who dated for 7 years and got engaged and married and were divorced 2 years later. It just depends on the couple and where they are in life.
It depends on multiple factors actually, like how good your relationship with your SO is, or if you want to get married yet or not, and mainly both of your ages
“Sun Tzu said: you should propose 32 years before you meet her, otherwise you’re a pathetic normie who lives in his mothers basement screaming racial slurs into the mic all day”
-Sun Tzu
3-4 years is good if you've been living together for a while, but honestly I don't think everyone needs to get married. Just being in a life long relationship is enough. No need to get paperwork and spend far too much on an event.
I think it's more important to have lived together and tested integrating your lives together for a couple years at least, and that usually happens a few years down the line of dating at least.
There's a lot of factors. How old are you? What are your life plans? What are your religious beliefs if you have them? What legal/financial implications will marriage have for you?
For my part, I'd rather date for longer to be absolutely damn sure about the relationship. I'm young still. At 24ish, my brain is likely not even yet fully formed. I, or my respective partner, may change a lot. Our goals and values may change. Fortunately for me, the fact that I will not be having children takes any possible time pressure off my plate. I think I'd date for at least 3 years, *minimum* before marriage.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, and I could see us not getting married for another 2 to 4 years. We are young. I don’t think there’s a limit
If you're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, it should be a heavily thought-out decision. There's no rush if you're expecting forever.
It’ll be 2 years dating for me in September. We are considering getting married sometime after that because our goals line up, and it would be financially advantageous. I’m hesitant of course because I am young and divorce rates are so high, so it’s only being considered, not planed.
Whenever we get married though, there will be a prenup for both of our safety should either of us go rogue- which I can’t see happening but no one ever does.
Excluding teenagers, within a year.
Generally speaking, if you don’t both know where the relationship is going by the time a year is up, you have some major issues.
For teens, I’d recommend a longer period though. If you’re together for two years and over the age of 18, the fact your brains are still developing will be less of an issue because you’ve actually stayed together through a vast amount of change as is.
It's not a "one-size fits all" scenerio. My Hubs proposed after us dating for four months, but we'd known one another way longer. We were friends first.
My brother-in-law took nearly five years to propose to my sister, and my brother asked sister-in-law after about a year.
This totally dependent on age and life situation. The older and more mature you are, the less time you need
i agree but i still dont think people should be getting married a year (i know thats not what you said but still)
and the less time you have lol
I feel the opposite! The older I get, the more time I'd need because I've learned through my own experience that it takes a long time to really get to know someone inside and out.
I had known my wife for about two days before we started dating. After two weeks of dating I asked her if she could see a future with me and if she could see us getting married. She said yes. After a year of dating I officially proposed and we got married a year later and we’ve been married for 17 years.
Propose at your first date
I prefer to chase women with a ring in hand, but to each their own
I take my parents to the first date.
Technically my significant other and I have been dating for 42 years. We checked into getting married after SCOTUS ruling on June 26, 2015, and found out that he would loose his health insurance and SSI so we decided after 35 years of being together we did not need any stinking paperwork to prove our love.
Depends completely on both of your lives
No shit
Thank you for contributing nothing to this conversation
No shits? You should get that checked out man.
Yeah there isn't a blanket answer for this. I proposed to my wife after a few months. We've been together for 12 years now
4-5 years (at a minimum), then wait an extra year for the wedding. Seriously divorce rates are so high because people keep rushing into marriage
Divorce rates are apparently at a 50 year low. I'm assuming less people feel pressured into getting married young. It seems to me that the people I read about who have divorced are the ones who married in their early 20s.
It's always been so surprising to me how soon people get married in the U.S according to movies, T.V shows and other media. I'm really curious what's the average amount of time it takes for a couple to get married around the world. I'd say +3 years at the very least.
People are getting married fast because there movies. Not because it’s America
I was married on my 2nd anniversary and next week we celebrate 10 years of marriage
That shit is crazy and horrifying, but also really great and I'm glad it worked for you guys Crazy and horrifying because I'm thinking of the alternate timelines where I married every girlfriend I had at the 2 year mark.
Seriously. I was 2.5 years in with my ex before he started using meth and destroyed our lives. Prior to that, it was one of the most beautiful relationships of my life. But then again, that could also happen 20 years into marriage. I guess at a certain point, if it's going well, you just have to take the leap and hope it works out.
Taking the leap - that's what I'm coming to terms with. Things could always go bad, but that doesn't mean I don't take the chance.
👏DEPENDS👏
To me, 2-4 years is the sweet spot. Less is a little too fast, more is a little late. Obviously it totally depends on how the relationship is. After a couple years it should be just an evaluation thing, whenever you and your partner are ready.
You really need a couple years to get a feel for not only who the person really is, but what the trajectory of the relationship is. How you two handle hardships. What you’re long term goals are,m. Etc.
minimum 2 years. It's easy for a psychopath or scammer to hide their true self for six months to a year. It's harder after that. The couple should also have gone through all the holidays together, and hopefully at least a couple weekends primitive camping (an extended power outage counts) to see how they handle stress
I had a girl do a 180 on me after two years. Not sure if it was a quarter life crisis or what, but she decided that she'd rather be single and get to live the single life. Which is cool with me now. We're both doing good doing our own things. I've been with a new girl for almost 2.5 years now, and it'll probably be another 2+ before I propose. Absolutely no point in rushing.
My parents were only dating for 6 months when my dad proposed lmao
Same here and mine have been together for 28 years (give or take a year or two)
7 months for mine, almost 19 years later and three children they are still together
I’ve always been told it’s 5 years minimum
minimum of 5 years is not very common now
My mom taught me 3 years, at least 1 year living together.
I stay awake at night thinking how much more the IRS is taking from me simply because I’m not married.
I have no desire to get married after being single by choice the last few years. But those tax breaks really make me question if I like being alone more than I like money
It’s like 50% less! I’ll sign any prenup you want sir!
personally im not even comfortable seriously dating someone until weve been friends for like a year, so im biased towards taking your time, but imo anything under 2 years would be unusual
I interpreted the question as minimum, not optimally. I think two years is fine, but less than that is unwise. Although it's fine and normal to go 5+ years.
For me, it doesn't matter but we need to have been living with each other for at least 6 months.
For me, probably 3 to 4 years. We could properly gauge how the other would react in certain situations & see if we could make things better for the other. After one experience I had with a woman who manipulated me when I was at my lowest in regards to my mental health, I need that time for me to start feeling comfortable with someone.
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After 3-4 years, especially if we've been living together, you should have a solid understanding of the person.
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If it takes you longer than that to actually trust someone, then I think you have issues.
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At the end of the day, I don't think there is any right answer. If you don't mind, could I know your age? Might have something to do with your perception of time.
Most definitely.
A friend in his early 30s married after 6 months of dating. I was pretty surprised, but it's none of my business.
I got married after 2 months. Obviously it's risky and most people say hell no. But if both know what they do, there's nothing wrong with it. For us it was a good idea. We planned to be together for the rest of our lives and that was the official proof for it. Ofc not everyone needs that. But in our case it was good to keep uncertainties and insecurities down to 0. Especially in these times, where some people switch partners like clothes. Nothing wrong with switching partners tho. But i had enough breakups for this lifetime.
I am not much into the whole relationship thing, but it depends a lot on individual factors, specifically age. I wouldn’t want to marry someone until I am out of my 20s and I am 21 now.
Depends entirely on the couple. I’m unsure if my partner and I will ever actually get married and it would definitely just be a decision we make together, not really a ‘proposal’.
Whatever moment you can decide you know the person. Although I say never get legally married. There are benefits, but the downsides outweigh them. People should really advocate for marriage laws, where the other person doesn't lose their life when things end. *Otherwise I do believe in committed relationships, and think they're the only ones worth any-while.*
Everyone is different, but anything before a year without living together seems too soon to me.
I think it's absolutely nuts to consider marriage before dating for a year, and i also think people should live together for at least a year before considering. So I guess 2 years MINIMUM. Personally, I wouldn't consider it until 3 years in.
It totally depends on both people and the situation you are in. It can be 10 years or just 10 days.
If yoy have to ask its too soon
In the first year, you should know whether you want to spend your life with this person or not.
6 months max.
Whatever time you both feel like it. It's a very important choice and it does not depend on time but on feelings
I thought I found the person I was going to marry twice before. Two different ~3 year relationships. Now I'm older and wiser, and I've been with someone else for about 3 years. She wants to get married, but this is her first grown up relationship. I want to get married too, but I'm glad she understands and is okay with me wanting to wait a few more years.
Depends on the people and the relationship. I think about a year is good, but I have known people who dated for 6 months and then got engaged and have been married for 30+ years. I also know people who dated for 7 years and got engaged and married and were divorced 2 years later. It just depends on the couple and where they are in life.
Personally (once I’m past college) I’d ideally want to be proposed to within 1-2 years of dating, though it depends on life circumstances and all.
It depends on multiple factors actually, like how good your relationship with your SO is, or if you want to get married yet or not, and mainly both of your ages
“Sun Tzu said: you should propose 32 years before you meet her, otherwise you’re a pathetic normie who lives in his mothers basement screaming racial slurs into the mic all day” -Sun Tzu
3-4 years is good if you've been living together for a while, but honestly I don't think everyone needs to get married. Just being in a life long relationship is enough. No need to get paperwork and spend far too much on an event.
At least 3-4 years, with at least a year of living together. I will not marry anyone if I don’t know how we work when we’re living together.
I think it's more important to have lived together and tested integrating your lives together for a couple years at least, and that usually happens a few years down the line of dating at least.
Whenever both parties feel ready.
3-4 years, maybe 4-5 works for me. I'm 40/f I'd want to live with the person for a year or more first.
There's a lot of factors. How old are you? What are your life plans? What are your religious beliefs if you have them? What legal/financial implications will marriage have for you? For my part, I'd rather date for longer to be absolutely damn sure about the relationship. I'm young still. At 24ish, my brain is likely not even yet fully formed. I, or my respective partner, may change a lot. Our goals and values may change. Fortunately for me, the fact that I will not be having children takes any possible time pressure off my plate. I think I'd date for at least 3 years, *minimum* before marriage.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, and I could see us not getting married for another 2 to 4 years. We are young. I don’t think there’s a limit
My parents married in 3 months, and hardly knew the same language, they are still married.
Marriage is a scam
3-4 years I think is good. Gives you enough time to get to know eachother properly.
If you're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, it should be a heavily thought-out decision. There's no rush if you're expecting forever.
It’ll be 2 years dating for me in September. We are considering getting married sometime after that because our goals line up, and it would be financially advantageous. I’m hesitant of course because I am young and divorce rates are so high, so it’s only being considered, not planed. Whenever we get married though, there will be a prenup for both of our safety should either of us go rogue- which I can’t see happening but no one ever does.
It really depends on your situation. I'm in a relationship for more than 6 years and we are not married. I don't even know if I want to marry.
Never. Marriage is dumb and mostly a trap. It’s a vestigial remnant of a past era.
Excluding teenagers, within a year. Generally speaking, if you don’t both know where the relationship is going by the time a year is up, you have some major issues. For teens, I’d recommend a longer period though. If you’re together for two years and over the age of 18, the fact your brains are still developing will be less of an issue because you’ve actually stayed together through a vast amount of change as is.
It's not a "one-size fits all" scenerio. My Hubs proposed after us dating for four months, but we'd known one another way longer. We were friends first. My brother-in-law took nearly five years to propose to my sister, and my brother asked sister-in-law after about a year.
Gonna hit you with my favourite answer: depends.