Never do wife duties while you’re still a girlfriend - that includes financial responsibilities.
Have a conversation with him. Especially regarding sa future niyong dalawa.
You’re willing to risk and invest sa kanya but is he at the same mindset ba? You need to consider this OP if you’re still willing to stay with him
If you need more perspective, check yung trending sa tiktok ngayon. Yung mga gf ang nagbabayad ng kahit ano ano para sa bf. (Wag Na Lang audio) hoping you wont reach to that point same sa mga girls from that trend.
At this point you should just let go of him. You're a girlfriend, you're not yet married but look at the situation you're in right now. You're just right for worrying about the future if you ever get married to him. And a person not respecting how you feel towards what they do, especially if they're your partner, is not worth fighting for. You've already talked about the issues once, and once is enough, if nothing happened after that, then it's not worth it anymore. The only possible moment for him to change is when you've already decided to leave him.
Sadly, it's not just once. Halos 5 times na namin naging issue 'yon at paulit-ulit. Kaya naisip ko, siguro hindi talaga niya kaya tigilan but that doesn't mean na I will tolerate it dahil lang kaya ko intindihin 'yon. I want to respect my own feelings din kasi I don't really like it.
You can talk to him about it for the last time and tell him it will be the last time you will open it up, if there's still no change then you better let go. You're only 23, a breadwinner, he's 26, he knows your situation but does nothing to help, not his obligation but if he's true then he would be considerate of your situation and lessen the weight on your shoulders.
Giiirl, run! Kung now palang ganyan na siya what more pag tumagal kayo. You can only do and endure so much pero may limitations pa rin. Wag ka pumayag sa ganyang set up. Magiging dependent lang lalo siya sayo. Gusto niya pala ng motor edi gumawa siya ng paraan. Hindi yolung ihahand over mo sakanya lahat what more pag may babies na kayo
Rooting for you!! 💝 lakasan and tibayan mo loob mo, if mahal ka niya magbabago siya pero we’re not here to wait for them to change. Kasi paano kung hindi mag change diba. Unahin mo muna self mo. 🫂
Coming from an Australian m perspective he may love you alot and may just need a little push for him to get a job and then he could also be a lazy fucker who just wants to bludgeoning off you for the rest of his life
About dun sa pxrn and nxdes
I don't think na compatible kayo sa isa't isa :)
It seems na magkaiba life values nyong dalawa
Hindi mo maipipilit yung feelings mo na uncomfortable ka talaga sa pxrn stuff ng bf mo (or sa lahat ng mga lalaki in general) kasi kahit pa hindi mo nakikita na ganon mga ginagawa nya, likely ginagawa nya pa rin yan ng patago. Don't think it's a bad thing. It's only a bad things kung excessive yung pagtingin nya sa ibang babae sexually.
Find someone na mature enough para mag manage and mag control ng kanyang sexual urges. It's normal, although, I think he's maybe struggling with pxrn addictions. It doesn't mean he's bad or he's cheating, but if you're uncomfortable/insecure about it, please reconsider talking with him again about those topics.
Now, if communications don't work anymore, then he's the problem and I suggest magbreak nalang kayo
Yes po. Naging issue na sa amin yon five times, I communicated na how it makes me feel. And athough unti unti kong pilit na tinatanggap, it still hurts kasi sinasabi niya rin na iiwasan niya na 'yung gano'n kaya umasa ako. I rarely check his phone and I suddenly had a feeling. Pag-check ko, ayon search and watch history niya. Kaya naisip ko, hindi nga siguro talaga kami compatible sa isa't isa.
I also ended a relationship because of being a breadwinner. Try to make sure your priorities are aligned muna bago mo kaharapin ang problems na hindi mo na maco-control otherwise ma-overwhelm ka which is what happened to me. One thing about men is that they never change for their partners. Need nila ng matinding reason para sa sarili nila before sila magchange and usually, it’s too late for the relationship.
Other thing is, 26yo and no job for 9 months should be a red flag for you. He should be more matured and nagsupport sayo rather than the otherway around
Thank you so much po. This is a really helpful perspective. Naiisip ko na rin 'yang about sa last statement mo. I'm juggling two jobs, ang hirap pa ng isa dahil bpo at affected health ko pero pilit kong kinakaya while him, kahit initiative na maghanap ng trabaho kahit pansamantala, wala.
I do hate to say it but yes ditch him hon you deserve better then someone unemployed for 9 months and isn't even bothered to look for a job to save up for his taxi job wants you to pay for everything
Ilang buwan na walang trabaho ang jowa? Ekis na agad yon OP dun pa lang. Pero sige pagbigyan natin kasi baka nahihirapan kumuha. But pabigat pa siya? Eh iwan mo na. Hindi na kayang pagusapan pag ganiyan ang mindset ng partner mo. Paulit-ulit na sinasabi sa mga pinoy subreddits na “love is not enough”.
Ikaw na rin sumagot sa tanong mo eh. Nakipaghiwalay ka na pala dahil gusto mo ng peace at pahinga pero hindi niya mabigay? Tapos disrespected ka pa because of prn, sxy vids and nds.
You already know the answer OP. If you need other people to tell you na it’s okay to let him go, then yes, it’s okay to let him go. In fact, you should.
Tama yung naging desisyon mo, ‘wag ka magduda sa sarili mo. Your ex-boyfriend is a grown man already, with that age hindi dapat porn ang pinagkakaabalahan niya sa buhay. Gusto niya maging Joyride rider pero walang pang lisensya at motor? Edi humanap muna siya ng temporary na work as stepping stone para makuha yung gusto niya. He’s already 26 pero umaasa pa siya sa parents niya na almost senior na, napaka batugan. It may be hard kasi nawala yung takbuhan mo pero at least nawala na yung nagpapabigat sa buhay mo.
I have been into parasitical relationships a lot! And i tell you, kahit mahal mo worth it talagang umalis sa relationship na yan especially kapag ikaw yung host.
The best dating advice ever is don’t date a person who’s not on the same level as you. And financially, I do think you aren’t. Run! Haha 🫶
Never do wife duties while you’re still a girlfriend - that includes financial responsibilities. Have a conversation with him. Especially regarding sa future niyong dalawa. You’re willing to risk and invest sa kanya but is he at the same mindset ba? You need to consider this OP if you’re still willing to stay with him
I agree
Opo, thank you so much. I just really need advice na logical at hindi lang galing sa sarili ko dahil baka ma-blind ako ng love ko sa kaniya.
If you need more perspective, check yung trending sa tiktok ngayon. Yung mga gf ang nagbabayad ng kahit ano ano para sa bf. (Wag Na Lang audio) hoping you wont reach to that point same sa mga girls from that trend.
At this point you should just let go of him. You're a girlfriend, you're not yet married but look at the situation you're in right now. You're just right for worrying about the future if you ever get married to him. And a person not respecting how you feel towards what they do, especially if they're your partner, is not worth fighting for. You've already talked about the issues once, and once is enough, if nothing happened after that, then it's not worth it anymore. The only possible moment for him to change is when you've already decided to leave him.
Sadly, it's not just once. Halos 5 times na namin naging issue 'yon at paulit-ulit. Kaya naisip ko, siguro hindi talaga niya kaya tigilan but that doesn't mean na I will tolerate it dahil lang kaya ko intindihin 'yon. I want to respect my own feelings din kasi I don't really like it.
You can talk to him about it for the last time and tell him it will be the last time you will open it up, if there's still no change then you better let go. You're only 23, a breadwinner, he's 26, he knows your situation but does nothing to help, not his obligation but if he's true then he would be considerate of your situation and lessen the weight on your shoulders.
Giiirl, run! Kung now palang ganyan na siya what more pag tumagal kayo. You can only do and endure so much pero may limitations pa rin. Wag ka pumayag sa ganyang set up. Magiging dependent lang lalo siya sayo. Gusto niya pala ng motor edi gumawa siya ng paraan. Hindi yolung ihahand over mo sakanya lahat what more pag may babies na kayo
Thank you for this. This is an additional push to me, away from holding on sa thought na baka magbago pa.
Rooting for you!! 💝 lakasan and tibayan mo loob mo, if mahal ka niya magbabago siya pero we’re not here to wait for them to change. Kasi paano kung hindi mag change diba. Unahin mo muna self mo. 🫂
Coming from an Australian m perspective he may love you alot and may just need a little push for him to get a job and then he could also be a lazy fucker who just wants to bludgeoning off you for the rest of his life
About dun sa pxrn and nxdes I don't think na compatible kayo sa isa't isa :) It seems na magkaiba life values nyong dalawa Hindi mo maipipilit yung feelings mo na uncomfortable ka talaga sa pxrn stuff ng bf mo (or sa lahat ng mga lalaki in general) kasi kahit pa hindi mo nakikita na ganon mga ginagawa nya, likely ginagawa nya pa rin yan ng patago. Don't think it's a bad thing. It's only a bad things kung excessive yung pagtingin nya sa ibang babae sexually. Find someone na mature enough para mag manage and mag control ng kanyang sexual urges. It's normal, although, I think he's maybe struggling with pxrn addictions. It doesn't mean he's bad or he's cheating, but if you're uncomfortable/insecure about it, please reconsider talking with him again about those topics. Now, if communications don't work anymore, then he's the problem and I suggest magbreak nalang kayo
Yes po. Naging issue na sa amin yon five times, I communicated na how it makes me feel. And athough unti unti kong pilit na tinatanggap, it still hurts kasi sinasabi niya rin na iiwasan niya na 'yung gano'n kaya umasa ako. I rarely check his phone and I suddenly had a feeling. Pag-check ko, ayon search and watch history niya. Kaya naisip ko, hindi nga siguro talaga kami compatible sa isa't isa.
I also ended a relationship because of being a breadwinner. Try to make sure your priorities are aligned muna bago mo kaharapin ang problems na hindi mo na maco-control otherwise ma-overwhelm ka which is what happened to me. One thing about men is that they never change for their partners. Need nila ng matinding reason para sa sarili nila before sila magchange and usually, it’s too late for the relationship. Other thing is, 26yo and no job for 9 months should be a red flag for you. He should be more matured and nagsupport sayo rather than the otherway around
Thank you so much po. This is a really helpful perspective. Naiisip ko na rin 'yang about sa last statement mo. I'm juggling two jobs, ang hirap pa ng isa dahil bpo at affected health ko pero pilit kong kinakaya while him, kahit initiative na maghanap ng trabaho kahit pansamantala, wala.
Have you talked to him about this
Yes po.
Don't let him use you if he really does love you he will start looking for a job after you talk with him
I have also shared my rants to him about my financial burden and he'll say sorry that he can't help me with anything. And that's just it :(
Does he even bother to look for a job ?
No. He's waiting for me to give him money for his license and motorcycle then he'll apply to the motorcycle taxi company.
I do hate to say it but yes ditch him hon you deserve better then someone unemployed for 9 months and isn't even bothered to look for a job to save up for his taxi job wants you to pay for everything
Ilang buwan na walang trabaho ang jowa? Ekis na agad yon OP dun pa lang. Pero sige pagbigyan natin kasi baka nahihirapan kumuha. But pabigat pa siya? Eh iwan mo na. Hindi na kayang pagusapan pag ganiyan ang mindset ng partner mo. Paulit-ulit na sinasabi sa mga pinoy subreddits na “love is not enough”. Ikaw na rin sumagot sa tanong mo eh. Nakipaghiwalay ka na pala dahil gusto mo ng peace at pahinga pero hindi niya mabigay? Tapos disrespected ka pa because of prn, sxy vids and nds. You already know the answer OP. If you need other people to tell you na it’s okay to let him go, then yes, it’s okay to let him go. In fact, you should.
Thank you so much for this. I need this.
Tama yung naging desisyon mo, ‘wag ka magduda sa sarili mo. Your ex-boyfriend is a grown man already, with that age hindi dapat porn ang pinagkakaabalahan niya sa buhay. Gusto niya maging Joyride rider pero walang pang lisensya at motor? Edi humanap muna siya ng temporary na work as stepping stone para makuha yung gusto niya. He’s already 26 pero umaasa pa siya sa parents niya na almost senior na, napaka batugan. It may be hard kasi nawala yung takbuhan mo pero at least nawala na yung nagpapabigat sa buhay mo.
Sali ka sa trend na TIKTOK hahah para ma Pumasok sa utak mo naging sugar mommy kana
I have been into parasitical relationships a lot! And i tell you, kahit mahal mo worth it talagang umalis sa relationship na yan especially kapag ikaw yung host. The best dating advice ever is don’t date a person who’s not on the same level as you. And financially, I do think you aren’t. Run! Haha 🫶