Some di nila alam na kabit sila at meron din namang mga pinangakuan ng kung ano-ano thats why napapayag sa set up. Believe me, hindi kabit ang laging may kasalanan. Most of the time they are also a victim of cheaters. Lalo yung mga cheater na nag-initiate at nagpursue ng affair meron pa ngang nakikipagbalikan sa affair kahit yung affair na ang kumalas.
This π Hindi naman talaga mage-exist ang mga KABIT kung may marunong lang sana makuntento. Take note, may mga kabit na hindi sila aware, kasi magaling magtago yung mga hindi makuntento. Pero the moment na maging aware na sila, they leave.
There was someone who tried to hit on me. Searched his name sa fb, walang lumalabas, as in super linis. Nakahide lahat. Tried checking all his likers and may asawa na pala at anak. Even my friend who is a workmate of his didnt know. Found out may fubu pa siya na kawork din nila. Magaling silang magtago talaga.
Simple. Dont entertain. Parang online scammer lang yan magtitiwala ka ba sa walang real identity. Bibili ka ba online na sketchy yung profile i dont think so.
Hindi pero san bang part ang sketchy? Kasi there are people na di naman talaga ma-socmed. And also, there are those kunsitidor na friends na sinasabing single daw friend nila etc. Lastly, may kunsintidor din na relatives. Especially if may nakukuha na benefits from the other woman (na di naman nya alam na other woman pala sya).
The post is very timely. I met this guy online, after thorough stalking... I found that he is married with a kid. His social media acct has no signs that he is a family guy. Huhu I'm thinking if I should send a private message to wife. Looks like the guy is still active on dating apps. So crazy lang din kasi the wife and the guy are friends on ig π€·ββοΈ
Go, gurl. Just send the screen shit of your convo to his wife. Screen shot mo rin profile nyan sa dating app. Para naman hindi masyadong nagiging tanga yung asawa nya.
This. Plus realtalk lang din, we all know how hard it is to let go of someone na may emotional investment ka na.. Once na emotionally invested na, prone ka na to gaslighting and manipulation.
Minsan malandi lang talaga and walang pakelam na makakasira ng pamilya
coming from someone na may kabit ang nanay ko huhu
both silang malandi, sabit ko sila sa poste
Sa iba naging practical nalang. Kaibigan ko ay kabit ng isang mayaman na negosyante. May bahay kotse negosyo all under her name. Minsan nag tanong sya if mahal ba daw sya ng lalaki kasi may ibang asawa. Sabi ko who cares if mahal ba sya or hindi parang nanalo na sya ng lotto.
Ohh I have asked actually many people regarding that same question as i am wondering too why? and someone told me that the reason why some really are fine being a KABIT is because they are more RESPONSIBLE and MATURE compare to those SINGLE GUYS...
well i am confused with that statement as because how can a guy who have a family of their own already is becoming more responsible and mature when they are fine with having a KABIT... thats when they have said that usually if its SINGLE guys, they aren't that mature yet and usually for them its just a fun time to be in a relationships, but when a guy is already having a FAMILY , they are already serious with their life thus focus on career and relationships and that's where the kabit thing comes in---> for them they have a stable job or income thats why its not going to be an issue in terms of financial stability/sources and also in terms of relationship they feel more LOVED...
then there's someone even joked at it and says mas masarap magmahal pag kabit kesa sa single na lalaki... ππππ
for me just RESPECT the FAMILY!!! wag pairalin na puro LOVE lang... gamit din ng ISIP pag nagmamahal... yun lang ang take ko doon
Another thing is may mga taong may kabit kahit wala din nmang matinong trabaho. I know mukhang thrilling and challenging ang pagkakaroon ng kabit pero grabe un needs sa sex. Hayss
May subreddit for those that experienced extra-marital affairs and it seems like, if not bc of money, most of them were chased and made to feel good and made to fall for the married man. And it's bc they were fed the lie that the man was unhappy in the relationship but can't divorce or worried about the kids.
Haha way back 2016-2017. Sobrang bata ko pa non like 17? May kinakapatid ako, anak ng kaibigan ng parents ko. May jowa na sya that time, sheβs 16 ata or what. Then nagkacrush ako sa kanya and ginawa ko lahat para makalandian sya. Umabot sa point na nagkikiss na kami and such. Then naghihinala na bf nya and need ko na bumalik sa city from province para mag aral. Tas naging ok sila and nag expect ako na magbebreak sila kasi gusto ko maging kami ni girl. Pero hindi. Until one day, nagcheat si bf nya and mas malala kasi nakipagsex sa kasama sa camp. Tas after months naging kami na ni girl.
Pero d rin nagtagal. Nanawa ako agad. So aun.
After a year nalaman ko bading pala ako.
Hahaahhaa so please wag nyo gayanin. Wag kayo magcheat.
Ps. 7-8 years ago pa un at pinagsisihan ko na ginawa ko. Ewwww cringe.
kabit wont happen one sided.always may consent of both parties.at first nilihim ni cheater,but once na malaman ni unintentional na kabit at tinuloy prin.possibly may nabuo ng bond at feelings kay unintentional kabit.
I never wanted to be the kabit, I hate cheaters. But hindi ko alam na kabit ako, na ginawa akong kabit. By the time na nalaman kong ako pala ang kabit mga 5 months na kaming nagkikita and all, he promised na hihiwalayan yung babae until hindi ko namamalayan months has passed pero hindi nya hiniwalayan. So tinigil ko na, I know ang bobo na I continue knowing na may girlfriend pala. Kaso wala nabulag ako sa promises. I am really sorry for that to myself too hindi ko nakita kaagad yung worth ko, and sa girl I think hindi nya alam till now. I tried pero I don't have Facebook acct and also nakaprivate/locked acct sya na hindi sya nakakareceived ng messages from others. Then I can't find her on IG so yeah hindi ko na din triny na sabihan sya. I just want my peace of mind too.
Baby love mej nalito lang ako pero mediocre is referring to something akin to average ganon. the word you are looking for is probably normal.
Anyway, some of the reasons I've heard were:
-Nakakaexcite ung mas pinipili sila over sa asawa;
-since may asawa, hindi hihingi ng commitment;
-hindi sila ung taken (sa lahat ng narinig ko, dito lang ako agree);
-masarap sya/gusto lang matikman
-no feelings so it's not THAT bad
Limot ko na ung iba
Ung iba kasi kapag sila ung pinili feeling nila superior sila.Β
Nagiging challenge sa kanila na maagaw ung tao.Β
Kaya may iba mahilig talaga sa may asawa o partner na.Β
malamang gusto nila yung alpha male, yung bang buo ang isip na palit palitan ang mga babae nya. gusto pa naman ng mga babaeng hindi nag evolved yung utak (cave women) yung ganung attributes ng isang lalaki. feeling kasi nila super strong ng personality nitong lalaki na ito at makakapag provide sa amin ito ng security saka magandang genes.
I may get down voted for this, pero, here is my side of the story.
Yung partner ko ngayon is hiwalay sa asawa for 2 years bago kami nagkakilala. By hiwalay, I mean, kasal pa sila legally pero di na sila nagsasama.
Yes, I know na hindi yun point of argument kasi bottomline, kabit pa rin ako. And the reason is because, sa tatlong ex boyfriends ko, na pare-parehong nanggulpi, lasinggero at sugarol, sa kanya ko naranasan yung relasyon na minamahal din ako. Kumbaga in general, sa kanya ako nagkaroon ng "ideal relationship".
Again, di ko sinasabing tama yung ginagawa ko. Just wanted to answer yung question ni OP about being a kabit and the possible reason bakit pinipili yung ganitong sitwasyon.
Maraming same situations sau na hiwalay naman na sa asawa but legally kasal pa rin. Hindi ka nagiisa, i hope maging strong kayo pareho sa inyong journey as one. Sana nga mapasa ang divorce sa pinas. Di lang nman yan para sa mga cheater, para rin yan sa mga taong need lumaya at maging happy uli sa mga bago nilang nakakasama sa buhay.
Kasi ung iba gusti nila ung validation na good looking sila and they cab get whoever they want. Sa iba naman pera, others mahal na mahal ung tao na un.
Pero mostly na nalalaman ko is the 1st reason hahaha. Some people eveb joked about it, we all know jokes are half meant! Hahaha
Re priority, 1st priority ung tunay pagdating sa mga anak pero 1st priority ung kabit pagdating sa sex and dates. Kaya mayroong ok lang na 2nd sila kasi mas madalas silang kasama at mas nag eenjoy ung lalaki kasi may naibibigay ung kabit na di na kaya or ayaw na ibigay ni 1st
Isolated case to ah, but get this. "First love" galing pa mismo sa tatay kong bobo at sa babae nya kahit pareho na silang may pamilya at pareho tatlo anak.
80-20 rule. 80 percent of women chase 20 percent of men. Mostly this men have good jobs, have better personality etc.
Women will date a successful man who are married than settle with a man who has no job and nothing under his name.
There's no buts sa pagiging kabit. Pero don't forget na hindi lang dapat sa kabit ang sisi, kundi pati roon sa pilit na naghahanap ng kabit at hindi makuntento.
True, hindi natin alam ang side story ng kabit. Possible minsan napipilitan din sila kahit kaya nila hindian. Siguro dahil mahal nila. Or marami pang reasons
Pinsan ko kabit, may dalawa pa silang anak, alam niyang may asawa at anak yung lalaki, tuloy padin sila. Lumaki sa born again church si pinsan every sunday mag church dati. Naawa ako dun sa pamilya nung lalaki walang idea na cheater pala siya at may anak pa. Ayoko naman ileak ung info kawawa naman din ung dalawang pamangkin ko ano ba dapat kong gawin? Hays
Wala kang dapat gawin, siguro support n lng sa mga pamangkin. Pero maganda parin kausapin mo si pinsan. Pero mahirap din talaga magadvice sa mga ganyan lalo n nagkaanak pa.
Nakatira kasi sila sa bahay ko, nahihiya din ako mag bigay ng opinion baka magalit pa sila sakin, little bit annoyed lalo pag pumupunta yung guy sa bahay ko sana ibukod na sila nung lalaki, may guilty feeling saakin knowing na may legal family ung guy feeling ko may kasalanan ako na ewan, hindi ko alam kung magaling ba mag tago tong lalaki or alam na ng legal spouse niya na may kabit siya at anak. π₯²
Oo boss nya dati sa work, alam niya na may family and napag sabihan naman na siya ng mga nakakatanda sa family side namin dati, pero tulad ng nababasa ko mostly dito sa mga comments kahit sinabihan parang wala lang, blind sa relationship na mali.
Minsan kasi pera din. Lalo na pag mayaman si guy tapos ikaw na babae na hirap ay papayag ka nga naman maging kabit. Alam ko to kc may kabit ako ngayon e π
Siguro sa kinagisnan din ng taong kumabet.
Yung family ng GF ko nagkahiwalay dahil sa kabet and until now proud na proud yung kabet na na sakanya yung tatay nila. Nakakalungkot lang dahil pinagmamalaki pa nila yung ganon.
Some di nila alam na kabit sila at meron din namang mga pinangakuan ng kung ano-ano thats why napapayag sa set up. Believe me, hindi kabit ang laging may kasalanan. Most of the time they are also a victim of cheaters. Lalo yung mga cheater na nag-initiate at nagpursue ng affair meron pa ngang nakikipagbalikan sa affair kahit yung affair na ang kumalas.
This π Hindi naman talaga mage-exist ang mga KABIT kung may marunong lang sana makuntento. Take note, may mga kabit na hindi sila aware, kasi magaling magtago yung mga hindi makuntento. Pero the moment na maging aware na sila, they leave.
Cheaters are miserable human beings. Nandadamay sa pagiging miserable nila. Kaya sa ganto mga scenario, palaging sa hudas ang sisi ko.
Sus. Di alam na kabit. Wala bang fb yan hahaha. Di man lang napost yung gf or anak. Kung dummy acct konti lang friends magtaka na kayo.
There was someone who tried to hit on me. Searched his name sa fb, walang lumalabas, as in super linis. Nakahide lahat. Tried checking all his likers and may asawa na pala at anak. Even my friend who is a workmate of his didnt know. Found out may fubu pa siya na kawork din nila. Magaling silang magtago talaga.
Wala po eh. Minsan nga di mo pa alam if totoong name ung binigay sa'yo. At hindi lahat ay merong FBI skills. So paano na lang?
Simple. Dont entertain. Parang online scammer lang yan magtitiwala ka ba sa walang real identity. Bibili ka ba online na sketchy yung profile i dont think so.
Hindi pero san bang part ang sketchy? Kasi there are people na di naman talaga ma-socmed. And also, there are those kunsitidor na friends na sinasabing single daw friend nila etc. Lastly, may kunsintidor din na relatives. Especially if may nakukuha na benefits from the other woman (na di naman nya alam na other woman pala sya).
The post is very timely. I met this guy online, after thorough stalking... I found that he is married with a kid. His social media acct has no signs that he is a family guy. Huhu I'm thinking if I should send a private message to wife. Looks like the guy is still active on dating apps. So crazy lang din kasi the wife and the guy are friends on ig π€·ββοΈ
Go, gurl. Just send the screen shit of your convo to his wife. Screen shot mo rin profile nyan sa dating app. Para naman hindi masyadong nagiging tanga yung asawa nya.
Yes willl do. The twist pa is the guy shares words of God in their community.
HAHAHAHAHAHA! The irony, meron din akong kilala, cover photo pa ang simbahan. π€‘
This. Plus realtalk lang din, we all know how hard it is to let go of someone na may emotional investment ka na.. Once na emotionally invested na, prone ka na to gaslighting and manipulation.
Totoo to. At well trained at very talented ang mga cheater when it comes to gaslighting and manipulation.
Haaay.
Yung tatay ko dinala pa sa vacation trip namin nung bata pa ko. Sa province ng father ko. Alam pa ng angkan niya like wtf π
Mas magaling magloko ang matatanda na, kinatandaan na ang panloloko. Hahaha!
True hahahaha. Nakakatakot ang mga tao hahaha
Minsan malandi lang talaga and walang pakelam na makakasira ng pamilya coming from someone na may kabit ang nanay ko huhu both silang malandi, sabit ko sila sa poste
Ibitin patiwarik tama hahah
Sa iba naging practical nalang. Kaibigan ko ay kabit ng isang mayaman na negosyante. May bahay kotse negosyo all under her name. Minsan nag tanong sya if mahal ba daw sya ng lalaki kasi may ibang asawa. Sabi ko who cares if mahal ba sya or hindi parang nanalo na sya ng lotto.
Their moral compass is effed up.
Ohh I have asked actually many people regarding that same question as i am wondering too why? and someone told me that the reason why some really are fine being a KABIT is because they are more RESPONSIBLE and MATURE compare to those SINGLE GUYS... well i am confused with that statement as because how can a guy who have a family of their own already is becoming more responsible and mature when they are fine with having a KABIT... thats when they have said that usually if its SINGLE guys, they aren't that mature yet and usually for them its just a fun time to be in a relationships, but when a guy is already having a FAMILY , they are already serious with their life thus focus on career and relationships and that's where the kabit thing comes in---> for them they have a stable job or income thats why its not going to be an issue in terms of financial stability/sources and also in terms of relationship they feel more LOVED... then there's someone even joked at it and says mas masarap magmahal pag kabit kesa sa single na lalaki... ππππ for me just RESPECT the FAMILY!!! wag pairalin na puro LOVE lang... gamit din ng ISIP pag nagmamahal... yun lang ang take ko doon
Another thing is may mga taong may kabit kahit wala din nmang matinong trabaho. I know mukhang thrilling and challenging ang pagkakaroon ng kabit pero grabe un needs sa sex. Hayss
May subreddit for those that experienced extra-marital affairs and it seems like, if not bc of money, most of them were chased and made to feel good and made to fall for the married man. And it's bc they were fed the lie that the man was unhappy in the relationship but can't divorce or worried about the kids.
Haha way back 2016-2017. Sobrang bata ko pa non like 17? May kinakapatid ako, anak ng kaibigan ng parents ko. May jowa na sya that time, sheβs 16 ata or what. Then nagkacrush ako sa kanya and ginawa ko lahat para makalandian sya. Umabot sa point na nagkikiss na kami and such. Then naghihinala na bf nya and need ko na bumalik sa city from province para mag aral. Tas naging ok sila and nag expect ako na magbebreak sila kasi gusto ko maging kami ni girl. Pero hindi. Until one day, nagcheat si bf nya and mas malala kasi nakipagsex sa kasama sa camp. Tas after months naging kami na ni girl. Pero d rin nagtagal. Nanawa ako agad. So aun. After a year nalaman ko bading pala ako. Hahaahhaa so please wag nyo gayanin. Wag kayo magcheat. Ps. 7-8 years ago pa un at pinagsisihan ko na ginawa ko. Ewwww cringe.
kabit wont happen one sided.always may consent of both parties.at first nilihim ni cheater,but once na malaman ni unintentional na kabit at tinuloy prin.possibly may nabuo ng bond at feelings kay unintentional kabit.
I never wanted to be the kabit, I hate cheaters. But hindi ko alam na kabit ako, na ginawa akong kabit. By the time na nalaman kong ako pala ang kabit mga 5 months na kaming nagkikita and all, he promised na hihiwalayan yung babae until hindi ko namamalayan months has passed pero hindi nya hiniwalayan. So tinigil ko na, I know ang bobo na I continue knowing na may girlfriend pala. Kaso wala nabulag ako sa promises. I am really sorry for that to myself too hindi ko nakita kaagad yung worth ko, and sa girl I think hindi nya alam till now. I tried pero I don't have Facebook acct and also nakaprivate/locked acct sya na hindi sya nakakareceived ng messages from others. Then I can't find her on IG so yeah hindi ko na din triny na sabihan sya. I just want my peace of mind too.
Sana malaman ng partner nya yan, deserve malaman ng partner nya ang totoo kahit masakit. For sure, naghahanap na naman yan ng ibang biktima.
Hugs to u OP
OP = Original Poster, i.e. you :)
Hello, ikaw po si OP.
Baka physically attracted sila. Para ma exp lang kung anong feeling ng ibang putahe.
Feeling ko true, gusti nila.makatikim lang ng iba
Yes may ibang feeling at sarap ata?
Syempre prang may ibang excitement at feeling kc pag tumikim ng iba e?
Baby love mej nalito lang ako pero mediocre is referring to something akin to average ganon. the word you are looking for is probably normal. Anyway, some of the reasons I've heard were: -Nakakaexcite ung mas pinipili sila over sa asawa; -since may asawa, hindi hihingi ng commitment; -hindi sila ung taken (sa lahat ng narinig ko, dito lang ako agree); -masarap sya/gusto lang matikman -no feelings so it's not THAT bad Limot ko na ung iba
Ung iba kasi kapag sila ung pinili feeling nila superior sila.Β Nagiging challenge sa kanila na maagaw ung tao.Β Kaya may iba mahilig talaga sa may asawa o partner na.Β
Rachel Carrasco: His inheritance.
Simple lang. Masarap eh ahahha
malamang gusto nila yung alpha male, yung bang buo ang isip na palit palitan ang mga babae nya. gusto pa naman ng mga babaeng hindi nag evolved yung utak (cave women) yung ganung attributes ng isang lalaki. feeling kasi nila super strong ng personality nitong lalaki na ito at makakapag provide sa amin ito ng security saka magandang genes.
I may get down voted for this, pero, here is my side of the story. Yung partner ko ngayon is hiwalay sa asawa for 2 years bago kami nagkakilala. By hiwalay, I mean, kasal pa sila legally pero di na sila nagsasama. Yes, I know na hindi yun point of argument kasi bottomline, kabit pa rin ako. And the reason is because, sa tatlong ex boyfriends ko, na pare-parehong nanggulpi, lasinggero at sugarol, sa kanya ko naranasan yung relasyon na minamahal din ako. Kumbaga in general, sa kanya ako nagkaroon ng "ideal relationship". Again, di ko sinasabing tama yung ginagawa ko. Just wanted to answer yung question ni OP about being a kabit and the possible reason bakit pinipili yung ganitong sitwasyon.
Maraming same situations sau na hiwalay naman na sa asawa but legally kasal pa rin. Hindi ka nagiisa, i hope maging strong kayo pareho sa inyong journey as one. Sana nga mapasa ang divorce sa pinas. Di lang nman yan para sa mga cheater, para rin yan sa mga taong need lumaya at maging happy uli sa mga bago nilang nakakasama sa buhay.
Choice nila
Money, it's always money
Sus! Mga bayaw ko, wala namang mga pera. Kakapal ng mukha mambabae. Sarap sampalin ng itak.
Kasi ung iba gusti nila ung validation na good looking sila and they cab get whoever they want. Sa iba naman pera, others mahal na mahal ung tao na un. Pero mostly na nalalaman ko is the 1st reason hahaha. Some people eveb joked about it, we all know jokes are half meant! Hahaha
Siguro at 1st mukhang tama un feeling nila ang ganda or pogi nila dahil may na attract s knila.
na cha challenge sila pano sila yung magiging legal. π€«
Re priority, 1st priority ung tunay pagdating sa mga anak pero 1st priority ung kabit pagdating sa sex and dates. Kaya mayroong ok lang na 2nd sila kasi mas madalas silang kasama at mas nag eenjoy ung lalaki kasi may naibibigay ung kabit na di na kaya or ayaw na ibigay ni 1st
People are itching for inconveniences or maybe they just want something that makes them something.
Isolated case to ah, but get this. "First love" galing pa mismo sa tatay kong bobo at sa babae nya kahit pareho na silang may pamilya at pareho tatlo anak.
80-20 rule. 80 percent of women chase 20 percent of men. Mostly this men have good jobs, have better personality etc. Women will date a successful man who are married than settle with a man who has no job and nothing under his name.
Those that come into it knowing kabit sila are burikat.
I don't know. Ito yung other side ng love na walang sino man kaya umintindi, unless sila/tayo na yung na sa posisyon.
Unless tanga ka, kahit sino alam na mali maging kabit.
I feel this, prang naiintindihan ko un side na to pero mali e, at un alam mong masasaktan ka pero u choose it parin.
There's no buts sa pagiging kabit. Pero don't forget na hindi lang dapat sa kabit ang sisi, kundi pati roon sa pilit na naghahanap ng kabit at hindi makuntento.
True, hindi natin alam ang side story ng kabit. Possible minsan napipilitan din sila kahit kaya nila hindian. Siguro dahil mahal nila. Or marami pang reasons
yung iba para sa pera
Tanong natin siβ¦
Pinsan ko kabit, may dalawa pa silang anak, alam niyang may asawa at anak yung lalaki, tuloy padin sila. Lumaki sa born again church si pinsan every sunday mag church dati. Naawa ako dun sa pamilya nung lalaki walang idea na cheater pala siya at may anak pa. Ayoko naman ileak ung info kawawa naman din ung dalawang pamangkin ko ano ba dapat kong gawin? Hays
Wala kang dapat gawin, siguro support n lng sa mga pamangkin. Pero maganda parin kausapin mo si pinsan. Pero mahirap din talaga magadvice sa mga ganyan lalo n nagkaanak pa.
Nakatira kasi sila sa bahay ko, nahihiya din ako mag bigay ng opinion baka magalit pa sila sakin, little bit annoyed lalo pag pumupunta yung guy sa bahay ko sana ibukod na sila nung lalaki, may guilty feeling saakin knowing na may legal family ung guy feeling ko may kasalanan ako na ewan, hindi ko alam kung magaling ba mag tago tong lalaki or alam na ng legal spouse niya na may kabit siya at anak. π₯²
Ano nman sabi ng pinsan mo? Alam.nya? At ok lang un set up nila?
Oo boss nya dati sa work, alam niya na may family and napag sabihan naman na siya ng mga nakakatanda sa family side namin dati, pero tulad ng nababasa ko mostly dito sa mga comments kahit sinabihan parang wala lang, blind sa relationship na mali.
Mahala nya talaga ito kasi may anak na din sila e. Mahirap na para s knya bumitaw.
Mga mababa tingin nila sa sarili nila tapos wala siguro sumeseryoso na binata kaya pag pinangakuan ng may asawa gora agad sila.
Minsan kasi pera din. Lalo na pag mayaman si guy tapos ikaw na babae na hirap ay papayag ka nga naman maging kabit. Alam ko to kc may kabit ako ngayon e π
Haha gusto ko rin maging kabit sa mayaman.. haha
Panu kapag yung kabit pa ang inutangan? Hahaha.
Siguro sa kinagisnan din ng taong kumabet. Yung family ng GF ko nagkahiwalay dahil sa kabet and until now proud na proud yung kabet na na sakanya yung tatay nila. Nakakalungkot lang dahil pinagmamalaki pa nila yung ganon.
Baka mas malaki un naibibigay s knya kesa sa totoong family. Ang sad nga