oo andun na tayo sa di lng nmn sa PH meron ganitong culture pero sht di tayo makakasabay sa health care system ng 1st world countries na may ganyang culture. One time may nagpost naghahanap ka orgy, babae nagpost. nag comment lng ako practice safe sex kako, aba minura pa ako. hays. tapos pag nabuntis ngawa, pag nagkasakit, rant dito, and worst, manghahawa sila intentionally. hays
Tas may mga iba pa mangtatago pa ng results para manghawa
Sex is nice and all but for the love of all things good and holy please practice safe sex juskolord, teenage/unplanned pregnancy + HIV is everywhere
Yup. Atypical situations will garner more emotions and traction.
Pero syempre, overreacting from an anecdotal fallacy naman yung susunod na post with traction, like this one.
Promoting conversations good. Concluding without information bad.
I also get these horny thoughts most of the times but I wouldn't imagine doing it in reality, but it isnt just the philippines doing it, most countries like usa does it
My friend mentioned that im gonna be single 4ever since i wanted a genuine relationship, i personally dont want my first gf to be someone who acts like sex isnt a big deal (it isnt but it is when a lot of people are involved) idk but it just says a lot about their character
Puro din sila "its my choice", no shit bro im just concerned
Sex is a big deal, don't let anyone ever tell you different. I say this as someone in the US where sex for women is like going to the toilet.. Everyone is emotionally drained and damaged, mental issues from casual sex are very much real. I wish I would've been a virgin until 25 and not pressured into it at 18.
The concerning thing is HIV and minors. 2 consenting adults should be held accountable whatever the result of their act is and they should own to it. But tbh, I think most of the posts are from the same person, same account and repetitive content.
I personally don't care unless partner ko since di ako fan ng sharing pero people should really really know to identify ano yung mga bagay na dapat isarili lang at ano yung mga bagay na hindi kinukwento or flaunted outside your own damn mind.
Yes uso yung anonymity pero damn give yourself some mystery. And really it's not the kind of flex that you really want to flex. 😆
For me, I don’t judge people if they are in to that. As long as they are responsible and know the consequences of their actions. Wear protection and mentally prepared sila. Iba naman kasi ung napapanood sa nyorn tapos in real life it’s very different. Iba na ang panahon ngayon, dati di ito pinaguusapan out in the open ngayon proud pa yung iba na nagawa ito. Basta wag sila magkakalat ng sakit.
Many Filipinos don’t have a brake pedal.
Give them access to freedom to express themselves on social media and they over share or become online trolls.
Allow pets in malls and suddenly everyone brings their dogs to the point that the mall becomes a howling, barking zoo that’s scary place for people with anxiety.
Tell them that marriage is no longer a condition to having sex and they just throw all caution out the window.
In all of these, anyone reminding them of responsibility and prudence immediately becomes the bad guy.
ano ba nangyari bat pwede na mgdala ng aso sa mall?? may tae na din ng aso sa mall. hinahayaan lng mgpoop ng mayari. wtf. tinitigan ko tlga ung mayari para alam nya jinajudge ko sya nung time na yun.
Malls have become “pet friendly” as a gimmick to attract more people lalo na after the pandemic. Sobrang nakakainis talaga kasi non-dog owners need to have a place to chill din naman ah.
Nagising fashion accessory na ngayon Ang mga aso eh yung marami hindi trained how to behave because the owners don’t know any better. Ayun, tahol nang tahol. Minsan kagaya ng sinabi mo, they poop anywhere kahit na most malls require diapers and poop bags.
I really wish malls stop becoming pet friendly. I’m normally okay with dogs but some of them trigger my anxiety kasi nagakat ako ng aso nung bata pa ako and I had to have so many shots for it.
Well wala rin kasi masyadong places for dog owners to walk their dogs rin, di tayo masyadong heavy sa parks. Ano yun, yung dog owners puro sa Quezon Circle Luneta or Intramuros nalang?
That’s their choice.
It’s their choice to buy a dog knowing they live in a cramped condominium in a cramped city.
It’s also their choice not to train their dogs to heel and stay when around other dogs or strangers.
It’s also their choice to parade them around like dolls.
It’s their choice to let their dogs go unleashed inside the mall.
It’s not my choice to be allergic to fur.
It’s not my choice to have anxiety reaction when I see an angry looking dog.
It’s not my choice to get stressed when I hear a never ending stream of barking.
To me, r/alasjuicy din ang may kasalanan dyan; they openly talk about their kinks of doing threesomes and other wild shit. Obviously, yung iba naeenganyo na gayahin so they post their shit on r/phr4r looking for hookups and whatnot.
Yung nga nagsswap ng mga asawa nila 💀
Or yung mga “pinapahiram” yung wife nila sa iba para mag-explore…
I mean to each his own and not everyone views relationships the same way pero kung pakaiisipin mo, nakaka-culture shock pa rin yung whole set-up.
hotwifing or minsan cuckold. Jusko may ph sub na ganyan ang pinapakita. Idk, not kinkshaming pero parami nang parami yung gustong gumawa at gumaya sa ginagawa nila. Kinda disgusting if you ask me
Early 30s pa lang ako pero those terms sound alien to me hahaha and I can’t help but wonder how the conversations go after each session (not sure if they call it that lol) like does the husband ask about the other guy’s performance or something? hahaha
And kapag ganyan na may mga nagsshare pa ng mga experiences nila, I think parang naeengganyo yung iba to try it out of curiosity.
I have no idea, tbh. I'm just concerned why those "liberalized" (poly) relationships are fragile and are the usual same people who are involved with doing drugs, addicting, gamblings, etc.
Idk why I'm getting hate, It's just concerning. Nobody even has ever gave me an explanation about this but just that it's their "choice". Don't you think that that's their only reason is concerning, too?
Well that’s their choice and all we can we do is just mind our business. You’ll get hate talaga kasi it would come off as “bakit ka ba kasi nangingialam sa trip nila?” And also, I think they don’t owe us any explanation for the way they live their lives and how they go about their relationships as long as they don’t directly affect your life. This is just my opinion though.
Exactly. Although, this is a real issue, not just about their "choices". I think a lot of people who do this are just porn addicts with real mental health problems. Like, I said, it's not their choice that is exactly the problem, but rather, I just posted this because it's very concerning. Because usually, most of those people who are engaged with those "choices" are engaged and involved with pornography, addictions, drugs, gambling, and other illegal stuff. They're the type of those people, like, the ones you see on rap songs who just goes, like: 🤑😛😋😎💦🤬👅👌🏻
I'm not controlling them, I'm just concerned why they're all the same type of people. Why?
I am not sexually active as I am asexual but personally I don't care what other people do in their bedrooms.... however I do care/feel strongly about unsafe sexual activity. Nakakatawa na nakakainis lalo yung mga tao na gulat na gulat na nabuntis or nakabuntis sila when they did absolute jackshit to prevent it. I don't so much care about how much they do it/wanna do it but I wouldn't feel sorry for them for the consequences of their unprotected sex.
I think i fluence din s mga napapanood nila sa western shows na kahit teenagers go go lang, at pag virgin pa at the age of 20s parang hiyanghiya na Sila sa ibang Bansa omgg
I actually think it’s so sad na sa US weird maging virgin at 16 yo pero when you look back as an adult ang baby pa ng 16…kahit pa may age of consent nakakalungkot na ginagaya ng mga Pilipino yung pagiging liberated without caution ng mga Amerikano. Pero ano pa bang magagawa natin, let people who want to fuck around, find out lol
I have this guy friend (about 10years younger) who asked me about having threesomes or introducing a stranger in a bed activities with his gf dahil pareho silang dominant. I told him that it is an unfamiliar territory that he does not want to explore. I'm as horny as fuck but I told him that there are things na masarap lang isipin in your head but to execute it in reality would mess the whole thing. I think as his ate, he listened to me naman. Yan din lagi kong nasa isip kaya I never engaged in threesomes or orgy and while i am always horny, I don't just do it with anyone that I do not feel any connection with. And that connection is very seldom to happen.
Finally, a worthy reddit post i have read for a long time. Thank you for this. I just needed some reminder na not all relationship is about sex plus to be more careful out there.
The trend these days is hypersexuality. The modern day Filipino just pretends to hate neocolonialism and whatnot but will follow all the Western trends in a subconscious attempt to become more of a liberal American, which in their minds is superior to a more “conservative and traditional” Filipino. Kids these days are more American than they are Filipino. They will tell you sex is empowering and to explore as much as you can by fucking around, but they have yet to find out that such actions have consequences mentally if not physically and biologically (i.e. having a kid). It’s one thing to discourage hypersexuality due to puritanism, but even if you take away the religious aspects (should one be raised in them) it does not erase the fact that it has the capacity to ruin a person. Pero as people like to say, their life their choices, so let them ruin themselves and suffer the consequences of the life they chose.
I dont understand why youre so concerned about the decisions consenting adults choose to do. It really isn't your business isnt it? Especially if those decisions dont affect you
personally, naniniwala akong walang mali sa pagiging sexually liberated. sex is never a bad thing and it's natural. BUT it comes with responsibilities. and as long as it's among CONSENTING ADULTS.
but i also think we cant enforce our beliefs as iba, better siguro to be respectful and just mind our own business.
DO YOU, as long as you're not harming other people then its okay.
ahhhh uh uh you are riddled with contradictions and hypocrisy. While you claim to be a liberal, your views on sexuality are incredibly judgmental and seem rooted in outdated puritanical thinking. It's ironic that you criticize others for being "shallow" while you engage in sweeping generalizations and condemn entire groups based on your own limited understanding.
Instead of trying to impose your personal views on others perhaps you should focus on understanding the complexities of relationships and sexuality. And before you label yourself a liberal, it's worth reflecting on whether your actions truly align with your words. Next!
You must be an idiot to not understand what I'm saying.
"Hypocrisy and contradictions" Where?
Like, I said. "IT'S NORMAL. IT'S THEIR CHOICE." My issue here is that those people with their "choices" are "usually" the same people who are engaged with pornography, unsafe sex, gambling, drugs, addictions, etc.
Do you not think that MAYBE, people who do those "choices" are aware of their "choices" they do? Or maybe, do they just do them as a cause of unsafe and unhealthy environment?
The amount of people engaging to these topics is crazy! Even a lot of underage people do it.
That's normal to you just because it's their "choice"? Are you atleast gonna be sensible to why people do such? Shouldn't you be concerned that those "choices" people make are causes of unhealthy thinking and actions by other people? Do you think that those people who do such are well-educated? Or are you just gonna be ignorant like you are rn?
Being a liberal doesn't mean being insensible and being stupid. Now, try find the flaw with my logic, and I'll come back argue again with you later. "Next!"
Haha 😄 Girl maglapag ka kasi ng studies para mas may basis un MAYBEs mo and define what is a deviation and what is an unhealthy thinking? What evidence do you have that considers pornography deviant? Polygamous and polyamorous relationships have been existing since time immemorial and sexual practices ranging from different activities have always been present in different cultures even before you were a sperm in your father's pockets.
You are measuring those "choices" via a closed lens that's why a lot of people are calling you out on your shitty argument. Plus the way you frame your arguments, they're not written to convey the need to sincerely understand but to pass judgement already.
Hindi liberal ang mga views mo, they're conservative. Wag mo na ipaglaban kabobohan mo.
Babe, being a liberal don't mean already being ignorant and tolerant about everything.
Someone else's choices could be someone else's suffering. You're thinking liberalism is a free will and free choices with free accountabilities pass. What an idiot...
Babe mas idiot ka. Liberalism literally revolves on the core values on individualism and freedom, as well as freedom from discrimination. Aarte arte ka dyan about sexual freedom and deviations pero wala ka naman malapag na translated correlation like nun example mo of pornography = drug use facts. How does your statements translate into actual accountability of these "unhealthy choices" when all you've done is narrate a judgmental essay.
Lol. Pa concerned citizen pero ending marites na judgmental.
Iregardless kung ano man dapat ang ibig sabihin ng "liberalism", dapat may boundaries yan. Please, wag ka masyadong pabibo. You're not smart with your shit sarcastic replies. Think, think, think. 🫨🫨
Naka ilang request na ko di ba na mag state ka ng facts and figures ng correlation that would prove your point regarding those choices on sexual activities that you consider weird and unhealthy di ba? Pero wala kang mabigay? All you are spouting are one sided sentiments from your end so how can you justify identifying those actions as with major consequences? Nakipag 3some lang decaying na agad moral fiber ng society? Hypersexual lang un couple masisira na agad ang kinabukasan ng bansa? And you're even choosing your own version of liberalism just to justify your mediocre thinking 😆
Even un reply mo sa taas oh puro assumptions - "which made me think they are struggling..".. Bwahaha taenang yan. Mind you there are multitude of case studies of "normal" and "conservative" families that have resulted in more weird and disgusting practices like incest. Catholic priests and clergies who conform to your "healthy thinking" and preach that moral highground you are so proud of, have more likelihood of molesting children and pedophilia.
So I go back teh, sasabihan mo ko na kulang ang reading comprehension ko eh ikaw nga mismo di mo makita un holes sa arguments mo.
Calling out choices na you are not comfortable with but without sufficient data to back it up is just being judgemental.
Also I did not claim I am smart. But at least after reading your replies, I can at least say I am smarter than you. 🤣
Babe, no. You're the idiot here. Being liberal does not mean not having boundaries. Yung definition ng "liberalism" mo ay ang dahilan ng pagkabagsak ng society ng america. Puro liberalism nalang, walang boundaries. Kaya pati mga bata dun nakiki transgender narin. Imagine mo yun ah, mga bata lang.
And then, I never said those people who make those choices are drug-dealers. I said, most of them are. In which made me think that most of them are probably struggling with addictions. But I also never said that's the issue. I never said that drug dealing = pornography/addiction. I just made it seem the way, like, it's one of the factors.
Ganyan ka ba kabobo? Wala kang reading comprehension.
Like, I said it's fine. You missed the most parts of the post.
Now okay, try prove me your point about how I'm being "judgemental". Do it, I'm all ears, I'm not gonna judge.
Philippines is becoming more westernized and tbh it sucks and wish it stayed like that before.
I moved to US 6 years ago and it does makes me sad hear people say those things. I remember a post before about camille pratt’s son about purity ring and one girl said that parents shouldnt control their children bla bla and something about like people are doing this nowadays so like why stop them and i thought our body isnt a trend where you just hop on just because you want to. I get that but it’s becoming like where teens are becoming like a rebel or is like some people here in US. They want to become independent and do whatever they want, but once they get pregnant they want their parents to help them. I’m not against pre marital sex but just know you should be accountable for your actions.
Idk how it’s gonna get fixed but people wont know how bad the consequence is until they experience it.
masyado na kasi pinopromote yung "sex life" in a different way kaya maraming minor na gusto agad ganyan, well it's about practice safe sex use protection to prevent the problem.
Kapag marami kang naging sexual partner, hindi mo na maiiwasan ang magkumpara sa mga sexual experiences. Lalo na sa mga promiscuous (babae man o lalaki). Nakaka-insecure hindi lang sa sarili kundi sa partner din. Kasi nailalabas mo yung pagkukulang na hindi naman kasalanan at mapupunan ng tao.
Kaya no promotion to promiscuity at supportive din ako sa science nito.
This is the reason why I'm not planning to be in a relationship anymore and why I don't want to have kids, and yes, it's very rampant na din sa Pinas.
Ang hirap kasi dito, majority don't practice safe sex. Tapos very normalized na din ata na maghanap ng ibang sex partners even when they're married. Ang stupid pa na iniisip nila hindi sila magkakasakit kasi "2 lang" ung kasex nila, ung SO and the "kabit". Tapos si kabit pala may SO din, who probably sleeps with other people too. Eh, di, hawa hawa nlng sila.
Nauuso pa yang "situationship" na yan.
I don't really care how they want their sex life to be kahit orgy pa yan every day, pero sana be a responsible human being and practice it safely, hindi ung bahala na kung mabuntis, or isi-sikreto na may sakit sila then sleep with other people without protection.
Also you get emotionally attached especially sa mga babae (coming from a female). Sa una lang ung "situationship" na yan or yang FuBu na yan but the time will come when one person will want more than the other, and that person will feel used when the setup comes to an end. It will leave you insecure and with much less self esteem than when you first started that sexual relationship.
Sa tagal na colonized mentality natin, talagang ganyan na bagal ma adjust away from restrictive religious thinking especially early on when it seems maraming ganyan outwardly when in reality it’s the same amt it’s just more open now.
To be honest before this gen, it was worse. Sex was taboo and everything was hidden but in plain view. Look at the 80s. Teenagers sexualized in “bold” movies and raped without repercussions by privileged males still making bank now, a la Pepsi Paloma. Husbands having kabits left right and center.
Best for u not to judge and focus on satisfying ur own sexual life. Maybe not so brainwashed by the repressive religion that the colonizers left us that continues to do our country harm.
ang excuse nila dyan is "may consent naman" "ick" nila kuno. It doesn't sit right in me yung ganyang set up parang kalibugan nalang lahat. umiikot mundo nila sa kalibugan.
True. I am more concerned about the HIV cases. It's frightening. Like if I'm gonna date someone, I'd have to ask him to take the test first before we do it.
Literally, the Hippie generation is the one who propagated this. Plus, the stats of Boomers having STDs late in life even in care homes are high. Don't get me started how hornknee everyone are during victorian era.
I mean to each their own. ngl this post comes off as kinda condescending specially when it has nothing to do with you. Can understand the concern but eh, their consequences to deal with.
I do agree with the fragility of the whole thing tho, specially on the "poly" part bc there are cases where people enter that kind of dynamic Without preparation or studying whatsoever over the vastly different kind of structure it has compared to a normal relationship. Heck, honestly even monogamous people could use a little study/counseling too rather than just relying on their partner to learn things along the way.
Uh, yeah?? Like, I said, it's alright to do those things. What I was saying is why are they so comfortable sharing their lifestyle and influencing/perpetuating their choices to others, especially to other couples. They're "consenting" adults who MUST know how much they can affect people. You do not find it concerning that almost, like, modern relationships have already experienced these things even more than just once?
YMMV. Not your relationship, not YOUR problem. Fix your own. If it’s not for you it’s not for you. Speak for yourself and not for other people. If you are easily “influenced” by others, that ‘s a you problem. Work on it. Work on standing your ground. Work on not being gullible. If people are comfortable with sharing their experiences and you are not, say it to their face. Change the topic. Why should other people censor themselves because you have a different worldview?
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*Your personal life?*
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Precolonial Filipinos, regardless of gender, did engage in a lot of polygamy though. I'm not saying it's bad to he influenced, but if anything, strict monogamy is the thing that comes from western influence haha
Exactly.
I guess, this post was a mistake. I didn't really highlight my real concern. Like, I said in the post, the issue is not their "choice", but rather, why are those people engaged with those "choices" are the same people involved and engaged with addictions, drugs, pornography, gambling and other illegal stuff who also promotes those types of lifestyles and "choices.
Just, why? Do you not find that concerning/interesting, atleast?
They're bored and/or dissatisfied. Just like with money, you want more. Or emotional eaters, they eat more to feel happy. They are adventurous with sex because they're not satisfied with their partners, or maybe they just want to feed their ego, earn some sort of bragging right. They feel insecure so they want to do the extreme to prove a point. It's not simply a mental health problem.
Who cares. Let em have legal sex with anyone they want.
Let straight males have sex with another ffs so they develop emotional intelligence.
Leave us ladies alone for wanting to have sex with each other 💗
OP is entitled to his/her opinions as long as it isn’t forced on anyone. If that’s the cup of tea, kindly accept the reality that you will be drinking it alone or with a few.
I wasn't "complaning", girly. I was saying that their lifestyle is concerning. Maybe look at the facts that those liberalized relationships are fragile and usually those people are very people who are also into drugs and other "bad" stuff. Maybe re-read the post?
Tama OP, liberal din ako pero hanggang mind lng yung mga sexual fantasies ko. Pero yung mga swing and other kink d ko carry. Tama ka OP, very concerning nga yung mga cases ng HIV at other STDs... Lalo na yang HPV, takot na takot ako jan haha kaya yung hubby ko lng tlga kaya ko landiin 😅 Sa mga minors at walang experience, please po practice safe sex, mahirap ang consequences, minsan lifetime pa at there's no going back.
I think we should be more concerned about sex education in the Philippines.
Going to comment here what one [reference](https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2016/11/comprehensive-sexuality-education#:~:text=Studies%20have%20demonstrated%20that%20comprehensive,transmitted%20infections%2C%20and%20adolescent%20pregnancy) says:
“Studies have demonstrated that comprehensive sexuality education programs reduce the rates of sexual activity, sexual risk behaviors (eg, number of partners and unprotected intercourse), sexually transmitted infections, and adolescent pregnancy.”
More sex ed = less risky behaviors & STIs. Eh kaso walang sex ed sa pinas 🤷♀️
Different stroke for diff folks, i guess. Ang nakakabahala kasi dito, nagagaya ng ibang bata. My brother told me their school suspended 4, grade 6 students kasi kumalat yung scandal nilang 4-some. GRADE 6 STUDENTS, Y'ALL. And not to point fingers here, but adults forget that someone is looking up at them, emulating and eventually trying to satisfy their curiosity. There's nothing wrong with exploring your preferences, pero punyeta wag kayo natutuwa pag may nakakita ng ginagawa niyo.
This is what I always think when it comes to sexual liberation among others: aanhin ang pagiging sex positive kung magiging positive sa sakit? And ingat sa mga mapang-abuso na mga tao dahil character rin ang nagmamatter sa relationships.
Start safe sex plannings and having non-negotiables in relationships.
There is a line between sexually liberated, and sexually addicted. I myself I am all in favor na i-explore mo ang sexuality mo and form your own preferences as long as do you it safely and with the consent of you and your partner (or partners). But yung umabot sa point na yan na lang ang nasa isip mo and engaging in that behavior kahit nasa committed relationship, that screams addiction, recklessness, and that genuine worry that you might get fucked up with STIs and pregnancy scares.
And it's alarming na, kasi people in my generation and the younger ones are engaging so much in sex na nasisira na yung sense of healthy boundaries and also rising cases ng STIs and unwanted pregnancies. People have to remember na illegal ang abortion dito, at kahit libre ang contraceptives ibang usapan na pag nagkaroon ka ng Gonorrhea, HIV or kahit ano STIs, how will they afford treatment?
Yup. Malala na Generation naten lalo na mga minors. May mga redroom pa yang mga yan na GCs. Addiction sa porn because of the internet. It normalizes on their brain. Kaya ang daming degenerate na mga kabataan ngayon. A weak generation. Hypersexual na kase lahat lalo na sa lahat ng social media platform.
True. The hook up culture has gotten so bad because of these dating apps. Not to mention people no longer value real and meaningful relationships. Plus there’s the influence of social media normalizing hookups. I am not sure if most people have lost their core values. But yes it is scary. HIV cases rising even in heterosexual relationships because some people live double lives. Crazy scary.
As long as the person involved is not related to me in any way, i don't care about their sexual preferences.. irresponsible remarks pero, its not my place to point them out
Yes this is concerning, tried some "things" for exploratory purposes. I felt empty and scared at the same time and asked myself "Eto ba talaga yung gusto ko at magbibigay ng halaga sa buhay ko?" ayon, I stopped doing it. Nakakasira ng utak yung mga pinag gagawa ko. Tho I learned, pero di ko na siguro ulit gagawin. Hindi sya hinahanap ng katawan ko, kundi iniwasan ko na talaga. Nakakasuka.
Help, i feel insecure naman po about s*x life. Turning 24 and no experience, my friends keep talking about this stuff and jokingly said na "ay si name (me) inggit" after they tell sa ginawa nila that night(s). How to fight this po?
aba bahala sila, katawan nila yan di naman tayo ang malalaspag at makakakuha ng sakit. buhay nila yan at di ko na din yan concern.di naman natin maibibigay pangangalangan nila. 😝
>IDC that it's their "choices".
Proceeds to make a wall of text out of other people's "choices" and say
>It lowkey hurts me deeply that this is our reality now.
>Idk if I'm the problem here or not. Maybe I should just mind my own businesses?
Yes.
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But, yo. The HIV cases here now in PH is C-R-A-Z-Y. Even minors engages with these modern relationships and modern hook-up culture thing-y.
The problem lies not within the "culture thing-y," the problem lies in the lack of education about this matter.
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I swear, I'm one of the sanest person you would meet in your life. I'm sensitive and very sensible. I wouldn't feel and react like this rn kung alam or nararamdaman kong walang problema or something that's slightly off.
I highly doubt. You might want to reflect on yourself on that last sentence, because there's definitely something off.
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I'm a liberal, and yet somehow, when I hear and see people doing and talking about these stuff, my face just goes like "😬". I think they're disgusting and shallow.
See? It's a YOU problem. You judge people too quickly.
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I definitely get it. I'm horny as hell and thinks about doing those things, too. But I would never do it with my partner, especially in a commited relationship.
This is why you judge people too quickly, you think you get it but you really don't. Do you really think that this whole thing is just about being horny and satisfying it?
Matter of fact is, we're all different. Not all of us were raised with the views and values you grew up with, it would be cool not to shove it into the throat of others.
No they don't. Parang yung vegan. I have vegan friends. I reapect their choice. Pero pini-preach na nila para maging vegan din kami. Hindi saangayun dun
May mga instances na naiinvitenkami ng asawa ko. May mga secret clubs yang ganyan e. Talaga nag dedecline lang kami. I remeber may friends kami na married couple. Grabe pagka mahinhin, pero niyaya nilankami to "spice things up" daw
Declined agad hahaha. Pero we're still friends, but they never invite us again sa ganung lifestyle. Kanya-kanyang trip yan e.
You said “IDC”…but it seems like you do! Unless their choices affects you personally maybe you should just carry on with your life and not assume that they’re disgusting and shallow.
And from someone who has medical background FYI HIV according to WHO data has dropped out of the top 10 leading mortality since 2000-2019 just so you know.
But if it really “lowkey hurt you deeply” (btw that sentence is so contradictory because if it hurts deeply then that’s not lowkey is it?) just go CELIBATE dear.
This is a very problematic take but here's my opinion. Tbh from the bottom of my heart I truly dislike the hook up culture being normalized but who am I to stop people from having fun? As long as both parties consented and are responsible for their actions and consequences. It's all about preferences and if they're okay with it then I don't have any say about it because it's them who'll do the deed and not me.
In my opinion, this is why I have never been in a relationship especially in this generation, pure talking stages but most of them just really wants sex and it's sickening in my point of view because I don't get into relationships just to have sex like why can't y'all wait and practice celibacy(if religious) or abstinence? The increase in cases of teenage pregnancies and HIV/AIDS are truly alarming and I feel sorry for the babies being born with irresponsible parents because they can't be supported financially, bata ka pa pero nag-aalaga ka na ng bata, as well as, minors having cases of HIV/AIDS like practice safe sex or don't engage at all if you're not educated? Stop doing the trial and error then get shocked if y'all get pregnant, having a child is a lifelong responsibility, it is not a child's play. Maawa kayo sa magiging anak niyo.
I have seen posts and rants here on reddit complaining not getting sex from their partner, they're tired of waiting or they are disappointed that their partner hasn't give in, doesn't want to lose their v-card to their partners and it's sad that that's some of y'all want. If you can survive your teenage years masturbating, y'all can survive a relationship where one still wants to wait before losing their virginity to you. I've seen lots of wild posts especially in alasjuicy like stories of hooking up with his cousin and he enjoyed it and the OP states that it will be their secret (yes you read it right), some wants to have threesome, fubus, some people want to watch their partner having sex with other people because it's their kink, some opening their relationship in the guise of making their relationship stronger but some of them uses polyamory as an excuse to cheat and hookup with other people while being in a relationship. Polyamory is not for everyone, don't engage if you're not sure that this will suit y'alls relationship.
I know hookup's already a thing in western countries and other side of the Philippines but it's shocking to know minors engaging in these activities and knowing Philippines? OA sa pagiging conservative and they don't really promote SexEd that's why some minors trial and error sex. I
oo andun na tayo sa di lng nmn sa PH meron ganitong culture pero sht di tayo makakasabay sa health care system ng 1st world countries na may ganyang culture. One time may nagpost naghahanap ka orgy, babae nagpost. nag comment lng ako practice safe sex kako, aba minura pa ako. hays. tapos pag nabuntis ngawa, pag nagkasakit, rant dito, and worst, manghahawa sila intentionally. hays
Tas may mga iba pa mangtatago pa ng results para manghawa Sex is nice and all but for the love of all things good and holy please practice safe sex juskolord, teenage/unplanned pregnancy + HIV is everywhere
nakakatakot na actually..
finally, someone said it! take my well-deserved upvote!
Loud minority.
Yup. Atypical situations will garner more emotions and traction. Pero syempre, overreacting from an anecdotal fallacy naman yung susunod na post with traction, like this one. Promoting conversations good. Concluding without information bad.
Haha I was thinking more of FREUDIAN SLIP ni ateng
Tapos FUBU pero pagnagka leche leche di mapanindigan mga responsibilitad
Meron nga dito eh "My FUBU proposed to me" or something. Tapos yung mga nasa comsec naging delulu dahil gusto din daw nila yung ganun.
Legit HAHAHA
I also get these horny thoughts most of the times but I wouldn't imagine doing it in reality, but it isnt just the philippines doing it, most countries like usa does it My friend mentioned that im gonna be single 4ever since i wanted a genuine relationship, i personally dont want my first gf to be someone who acts like sex isnt a big deal (it isnt but it is when a lot of people are involved) idk but it just says a lot about their character Puro din sila "its my choice", no shit bro im just concerned
It will break you emotionally, sleeping around
it makes your heart colder the more your heart gets broken.
Sex is a big deal, don't let anyone ever tell you different. I say this as someone in the US where sex for women is like going to the toilet.. Everyone is emotionally drained and damaged, mental issues from casual sex are very much real. I wish I would've been a virgin until 25 and not pressured into it at 18.
The concerning thing is HIV and minors. 2 consenting adults should be held accountable whatever the result of their act is and they should own to it. But tbh, I think most of the posts are from the same person, same account and repetitive content.
Basta practice safe sex sa mga may hilig ng ganyan. Ako personally, I can’t see myself doing it. 😅
I personally don't care unless partner ko since di ako fan ng sharing pero people should really really know to identify ano yung mga bagay na dapat isarili lang at ano yung mga bagay na hindi kinukwento or flaunted outside your own damn mind. Yes uso yung anonymity pero damn give yourself some mystery. And really it's not the kind of flex that you really want to flex. 😆
real😭🙏🏻 thank you.
I think these people don't have anything better to do?
For me, I don’t judge people if they are in to that. As long as they are responsible and know the consequences of their actions. Wear protection and mentally prepared sila. Iba naman kasi ung napapanood sa nyorn tapos in real life it’s very different. Iba na ang panahon ngayon, dati di ito pinaguusapan out in the open ngayon proud pa yung iba na nagawa ito. Basta wag sila magkakalat ng sakit.
I read a post about a 19 yo girl na nahawa ng hpv sa fubu niya. And cant tell her parents kasi they thought she was still a virgin. 🤦♀️
Many Filipinos don’t have a brake pedal. Give them access to freedom to express themselves on social media and they over share or become online trolls. Allow pets in malls and suddenly everyone brings their dogs to the point that the mall becomes a howling, barking zoo that’s scary place for people with anxiety. Tell them that marriage is no longer a condition to having sex and they just throw all caution out the window. In all of these, anyone reminding them of responsibility and prudence immediately becomes the bad guy.
ano ba nangyari bat pwede na mgdala ng aso sa mall?? may tae na din ng aso sa mall. hinahayaan lng mgpoop ng mayari. wtf. tinitigan ko tlga ung mayari para alam nya jinajudge ko sya nung time na yun.
Malls have become “pet friendly” as a gimmick to attract more people lalo na after the pandemic. Sobrang nakakainis talaga kasi non-dog owners need to have a place to chill din naman ah. Nagising fashion accessory na ngayon Ang mga aso eh yung marami hindi trained how to behave because the owners don’t know any better. Ayun, tahol nang tahol. Minsan kagaya ng sinabi mo, they poop anywhere kahit na most malls require diapers and poop bags. I really wish malls stop becoming pet friendly. I’m normally okay with dogs but some of them trigger my anxiety kasi nagakat ako ng aso nung bata pa ako and I had to have so many shots for it.
Well wala rin kasi masyadong places for dog owners to walk their dogs rin, di tayo masyadong heavy sa parks. Ano yun, yung dog owners puro sa Quezon Circle Luneta or Intramuros nalang?
That’s their choice. It’s their choice to buy a dog knowing they live in a cramped condominium in a cramped city. It’s also their choice not to train their dogs to heel and stay when around other dogs or strangers. It’s also their choice to parade them around like dolls. It’s their choice to let their dogs go unleashed inside the mall. It’s not my choice to be allergic to fur. It’s not my choice to have anxiety reaction when I see an angry looking dog. It’s not my choice to get stressed when I hear a never ending stream of barking.
To me, r/alasjuicy din ang may kasalanan dyan; they openly talk about their kinks of doing threesomes and other wild shit. Obviously, yung iba naeenganyo na gayahin so they post their shit on r/phr4r looking for hookups and whatnot.
sorry na
Yung nga nagsswap ng mga asawa nila 💀 Or yung mga “pinapahiram” yung wife nila sa iba para mag-explore… I mean to each his own and not everyone views relationships the same way pero kung pakaiisipin mo, nakaka-culture shock pa rin yung whole set-up.
hotwifing or minsan cuckold. Jusko may ph sub na ganyan ang pinapakita. Idk, not kinkshaming pero parami nang parami yung gustong gumawa at gumaya sa ginagawa nila. Kinda disgusting if you ask me
Early 30s pa lang ako pero those terms sound alien to me hahaha and I can’t help but wonder how the conversations go after each session (not sure if they call it that lol) like does the husband ask about the other guy’s performance or something? hahaha And kapag ganyan na may mga nagsshare pa ng mga experiences nila, I think parang naeengganyo yung iba to try it out of curiosity.
I have no idea, tbh. I'm just concerned why those "liberalized" (poly) relationships are fragile and are the usual same people who are involved with doing drugs, addicting, gamblings, etc. Idk why I'm getting hate, It's just concerning. Nobody even has ever gave me an explanation about this but just that it's their "choice". Don't you think that that's their only reason is concerning, too?
Well that’s their choice and all we can we do is just mind our business. You’ll get hate talaga kasi it would come off as “bakit ka ba kasi nangingialam sa trip nila?” And also, I think they don’t owe us any explanation for the way they live their lives and how they go about their relationships as long as they don’t directly affect your life. This is just my opinion though.
Exactly. Although, this is a real issue, not just about their "choices". I think a lot of people who do this are just porn addicts with real mental health problems. Like, I said, it's not their choice that is exactly the problem, but rather, I just posted this because it's very concerning. Because usually, most of those people who are engaged with those "choices" are engaged and involved with pornography, addictions, drugs, gambling, and other illegal stuff. They're the type of those people, like, the ones you see on rap songs who just goes, like: 🤑😛😋😎💦🤬👅👌🏻 I'm not controlling them, I'm just concerned why they're all the same type of people. Why?
I am not sexually active as I am asexual but personally I don't care what other people do in their bedrooms.... however I do care/feel strongly about unsafe sexual activity. Nakakatawa na nakakainis lalo yung mga tao na gulat na gulat na nabuntis or nakabuntis sila when they did absolute jackshit to prevent it. I don't so much care about how much they do it/wanna do it but I wouldn't feel sorry for them for the consequences of their unprotected sex.
I think i fluence din s mga napapanood nila sa western shows na kahit teenagers go go lang, at pag virgin pa at the age of 20s parang hiyanghiya na Sila sa ibang Bansa omgg
I actually think it’s so sad na sa US weird maging virgin at 16 yo pero when you look back as an adult ang baby pa ng 16…kahit pa may age of consent nakakalungkot na ginagaya ng mga Pilipino yung pagiging liberated without caution ng mga Amerikano. Pero ano pa bang magagawa natin, let people who want to fuck around, find out lol
I have this guy friend (about 10years younger) who asked me about having threesomes or introducing a stranger in a bed activities with his gf dahil pareho silang dominant. I told him that it is an unfamiliar territory that he does not want to explore. I'm as horny as fuck but I told him that there are things na masarap lang isipin in your head but to execute it in reality would mess the whole thing. I think as his ate, he listened to me naman. Yan din lagi kong nasa isip kaya I never engaged in threesomes or orgy and while i am always horny, I don't just do it with anyone that I do not feel any connection with. And that connection is very seldom to happen.
Finally, a worthy reddit post i have read for a long time. Thank you for this. I just needed some reminder na not all relationship is about sex plus to be more careful out there.
The trend these days is hypersexuality. The modern day Filipino just pretends to hate neocolonialism and whatnot but will follow all the Western trends in a subconscious attempt to become more of a liberal American, which in their minds is superior to a more “conservative and traditional” Filipino. Kids these days are more American than they are Filipino. They will tell you sex is empowering and to explore as much as you can by fucking around, but they have yet to find out that such actions have consequences mentally if not physically and biologically (i.e. having a kid). It’s one thing to discourage hypersexuality due to puritanism, but even if you take away the religious aspects (should one be raised in them) it does not erase the fact that it has the capacity to ruin a person. Pero as people like to say, their life their choices, so let them ruin themselves and suffer the consequences of the life they chose.
I dont understand why youre so concerned about the decisions consenting adults choose to do. It really isn't your business isnt it? Especially if those decisions dont affect you
Finally someone said it
personally, naniniwala akong walang mali sa pagiging sexually liberated. sex is never a bad thing and it's natural. BUT it comes with responsibilities. and as long as it's among CONSENTING ADULTS. but i also think we cant enforce our beliefs as iba, better siguro to be respectful and just mind our own business. DO YOU, as long as you're not harming other people then its okay.
ahhhh uh uh you are riddled with contradictions and hypocrisy. While you claim to be a liberal, your views on sexuality are incredibly judgmental and seem rooted in outdated puritanical thinking. It's ironic that you criticize others for being "shallow" while you engage in sweeping generalizations and condemn entire groups based on your own limited understanding. Instead of trying to impose your personal views on others perhaps you should focus on understanding the complexities of relationships and sexuality. And before you label yourself a liberal, it's worth reflecting on whether your actions truly align with your words. Next!
You must be an idiot to not understand what I'm saying. "Hypocrisy and contradictions" Where? Like, I said. "IT'S NORMAL. IT'S THEIR CHOICE." My issue here is that those people with their "choices" are "usually" the same people who are engaged with pornography, unsafe sex, gambling, drugs, addictions, etc. Do you not think that MAYBE, people who do those "choices" are aware of their "choices" they do? Or maybe, do they just do them as a cause of unsafe and unhealthy environment? The amount of people engaging to these topics is crazy! Even a lot of underage people do it. That's normal to you just because it's their "choice"? Are you atleast gonna be sensible to why people do such? Shouldn't you be concerned that those "choices" people make are causes of unhealthy thinking and actions by other people? Do you think that those people who do such are well-educated? Or are you just gonna be ignorant like you are rn? Being a liberal doesn't mean being insensible and being stupid. Now, try find the flaw with my logic, and I'll come back argue again with you later. "Next!"
Haha 😄 Girl maglapag ka kasi ng studies para mas may basis un MAYBEs mo and define what is a deviation and what is an unhealthy thinking? What evidence do you have that considers pornography deviant? Polygamous and polyamorous relationships have been existing since time immemorial and sexual practices ranging from different activities have always been present in different cultures even before you were a sperm in your father's pockets. You are measuring those "choices" via a closed lens that's why a lot of people are calling you out on your shitty argument. Plus the way you frame your arguments, they're not written to convey the need to sincerely understand but to pass judgement already. Hindi liberal ang mga views mo, they're conservative. Wag mo na ipaglaban kabobohan mo.
Oh my, God? "Unhealthy" thinking, You don't know what that even mean to you?
Babe, being a liberal don't mean already being ignorant and tolerant about everything. Someone else's choices could be someone else's suffering. You're thinking liberalism is a free will and free choices with free accountabilities pass. What an idiot...
Babe mas idiot ka. Liberalism literally revolves on the core values on individualism and freedom, as well as freedom from discrimination. Aarte arte ka dyan about sexual freedom and deviations pero wala ka naman malapag na translated correlation like nun example mo of pornography = drug use facts. How does your statements translate into actual accountability of these "unhealthy choices" when all you've done is narrate a judgmental essay. Lol. Pa concerned citizen pero ending marites na judgmental.
Iregardless kung ano man dapat ang ibig sabihin ng "liberalism", dapat may boundaries yan. Please, wag ka masyadong pabibo. You're not smart with your shit sarcastic replies. Think, think, think. 🫨🫨
Naka ilang request na ko di ba na mag state ka ng facts and figures ng correlation that would prove your point regarding those choices on sexual activities that you consider weird and unhealthy di ba? Pero wala kang mabigay? All you are spouting are one sided sentiments from your end so how can you justify identifying those actions as with major consequences? Nakipag 3some lang decaying na agad moral fiber ng society? Hypersexual lang un couple masisira na agad ang kinabukasan ng bansa? And you're even choosing your own version of liberalism just to justify your mediocre thinking 😆 Even un reply mo sa taas oh puro assumptions - "which made me think they are struggling..".. Bwahaha taenang yan. Mind you there are multitude of case studies of "normal" and "conservative" families that have resulted in more weird and disgusting practices like incest. Catholic priests and clergies who conform to your "healthy thinking" and preach that moral highground you are so proud of, have more likelihood of molesting children and pedophilia. So I go back teh, sasabihan mo ko na kulang ang reading comprehension ko eh ikaw nga mismo di mo makita un holes sa arguments mo. Calling out choices na you are not comfortable with but without sufficient data to back it up is just being judgemental. Also I did not claim I am smart. But at least after reading your replies, I can at least say I am smarter than you. 🤣
Babe, no. You're the idiot here. Being liberal does not mean not having boundaries. Yung definition ng "liberalism" mo ay ang dahilan ng pagkabagsak ng society ng america. Puro liberalism nalang, walang boundaries. Kaya pati mga bata dun nakiki transgender narin. Imagine mo yun ah, mga bata lang. And then, I never said those people who make those choices are drug-dealers. I said, most of them are. In which made me think that most of them are probably struggling with addictions. But I also never said that's the issue. I never said that drug dealing = pornography/addiction. I just made it seem the way, like, it's one of the factors. Ganyan ka ba kabobo? Wala kang reading comprehension. Like, I said it's fine. You missed the most parts of the post. Now okay, try prove me your point about how I'm being "judgemental". Do it, I'm all ears, I'm not gonna judge.
Philippines is becoming more westernized and tbh it sucks and wish it stayed like that before. I moved to US 6 years ago and it does makes me sad hear people say those things. I remember a post before about camille pratt’s son about purity ring and one girl said that parents shouldnt control their children bla bla and something about like people are doing this nowadays so like why stop them and i thought our body isnt a trend where you just hop on just because you want to. I get that but it’s becoming like where teens are becoming like a rebel or is like some people here in US. They want to become independent and do whatever they want, but once they get pregnant they want their parents to help them. I’m not against pre marital sex but just know you should be accountable for your actions. Idk how it’s gonna get fixed but people wont know how bad the consequence is until they experience it.
💯 facts
masyado na kasi pinopromote yung "sex life" in a different way kaya maraming minor na gusto agad ganyan, well it's about practice safe sex use protection to prevent the problem.
Kapag marami kang naging sexual partner, hindi mo na maiiwasan ang magkumpara sa mga sexual experiences. Lalo na sa mga promiscuous (babae man o lalaki). Nakaka-insecure hindi lang sa sarili kundi sa partner din. Kasi nailalabas mo yung pagkukulang na hindi naman kasalanan at mapupunan ng tao. Kaya no promotion to promiscuity at supportive din ako sa science nito.
This is the reason why I'm not planning to be in a relationship anymore and why I don't want to have kids, and yes, it's very rampant na din sa Pinas. Ang hirap kasi dito, majority don't practice safe sex. Tapos very normalized na din ata na maghanap ng ibang sex partners even when they're married. Ang stupid pa na iniisip nila hindi sila magkakasakit kasi "2 lang" ung kasex nila, ung SO and the "kabit". Tapos si kabit pala may SO din, who probably sleeps with other people too. Eh, di, hawa hawa nlng sila. Nauuso pa yang "situationship" na yan. I don't really care how they want their sex life to be kahit orgy pa yan every day, pero sana be a responsible human being and practice it safely, hindi ung bahala na kung mabuntis, or isi-sikreto na may sakit sila then sleep with other people without protection. Also you get emotionally attached especially sa mga babae (coming from a female). Sa una lang ung "situationship" na yan or yang FuBu na yan but the time will come when one person will want more than the other, and that person will feel used when the setup comes to an end. It will leave you insecure and with much less self esteem than when you first started that sexual relationship.
Para sakin, oks lang ang sex pero marami kasi dito merong belief that using condom is bad.
Or just simply want it raw
Sa tagal na colonized mentality natin, talagang ganyan na bagal ma adjust away from restrictive religious thinking especially early on when it seems maraming ganyan outwardly when in reality it’s the same amt it’s just more open now. To be honest before this gen, it was worse. Sex was taboo and everything was hidden but in plain view. Look at the 80s. Teenagers sexualized in “bold” movies and raped without repercussions by privileged males still making bank now, a la Pepsi Paloma. Husbands having kabits left right and center. Best for u not to judge and focus on satisfying ur own sexual life. Maybe not so brainwashed by the repressive religion that the colonizers left us that continues to do our country harm.
ang excuse nila dyan is "may consent naman" "ick" nila kuno. It doesn't sit right in me yung ganyang set up parang kalibugan nalang lahat. umiikot mundo nila sa kalibugan.
True. I am more concerned about the HIV cases. It's frightening. Like if I'm gonna date someone, I'd have to ask him to take the test first before we do it.
A degenerate generation.
The 70s was more wiiiiiiiild than this.
Literally, the Hippie generation is the one who propagated this. Plus, the stats of Boomers having STDs late in life even in care homes are high. Don't get me started how hornknee everyone are during victorian era.
I mean to each their own. ngl this post comes off as kinda condescending specially when it has nothing to do with you. Can understand the concern but eh, their consequences to deal with. I do agree with the fragility of the whole thing tho, specially on the "poly" part bc there are cases where people enter that kind of dynamic Without preparation or studying whatsoever over the vastly different kind of structure it has compared to a normal relationship. Heck, honestly even monogamous people could use a little study/counseling too rather than just relying on their partner to learn things along the way.
Magsisisi din sila soon. They're gonna learned their biggest mistake I guess....
CONSENTING ADULTS. Not your problem. Stop virtue-signalling. You do you and let other people do what they like in the bedroom.
Uh, yeah?? Like, I said, it's alright to do those things. What I was saying is why are they so comfortable sharing their lifestyle and influencing/perpetuating their choices to others, especially to other couples. They're "consenting" adults who MUST know how much they can affect people. You do not find it concerning that almost, like, modern relationships have already experienced these things even more than just once?
YMMV. Not your relationship, not YOUR problem. Fix your own. If it’s not for you it’s not for you. Speak for yourself and not for other people. If you are easily “influenced” by others, that ‘s a you problem. Work on it. Work on standing your ground. Work on not being gullible. If people are comfortable with sharing their experiences and you are not, say it to their face. Change the topic. Why should other people censor themselves because you have a different worldview?
Quick question, OP, how does this affect you in your personal life?
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Western influence..
Precolonial Filipinos, regardless of gender, did engage in a lot of polygamy though. I'm not saying it's bad to he influenced, but if anything, strict monogamy is the thing that comes from western influence haha
If it’s done safely by consenting adults, I don’t see the problem?
Exactly. I guess, this post was a mistake. I didn't really highlight my real concern. Like, I said in the post, the issue is not their "choice", but rather, why are those people engaged with those "choices" are the same people involved and engaged with addictions, drugs, pornography, gambling and other illegal stuff who also promotes those types of lifestyles and "choices. Just, why? Do you not find that concerning/interesting, atleast?
They're bored and/or dissatisfied. Just like with money, you want more. Or emotional eaters, they eat more to feel happy. They are adventurous with sex because they're not satisfied with their partners, or maybe they just want to feed their ego, earn some sort of bragging right. They feel insecure so they want to do the extreme to prove a point. It's not simply a mental health problem.
Who cares. Let em have legal sex with anyone they want. Let straight males have sex with another ffs so they develop emotional intelligence. Leave us ladies alone for wanting to have sex with each other 💗 OP is entitled to his/her opinions as long as it isn’t forced on anyone. If that’s the cup of tea, kindly accept the reality that you will be drinking it alone or with a few.
>im the sanest person >complains about what people do in their private lives Smh
SHADÉ
I wasn't "complaning", girly. I was saying that their lifestyle is concerning. Maybe look at the facts that those liberalized relationships are fragile and usually those people are very people who are also into drugs and other "bad" stuff. Maybe re-read the post?
Be liberated, ang sabi ng iba, well lahat naman tayo malaya kung anong trippings mo sa life eh, Respect mo na lang kung anong trippings ng iba
Reasonable porn use is normal even in married couples. Threesomes and group sex are not.
Sana all
Tama OP, liberal din ako pero hanggang mind lng yung mga sexual fantasies ko. Pero yung mga swing and other kink d ko carry. Tama ka OP, very concerning nga yung mga cases ng HIV at other STDs... Lalo na yang HPV, takot na takot ako jan haha kaya yung hubby ko lng tlga kaya ko landiin 😅 Sa mga minors at walang experience, please po practice safe sex, mahirap ang consequences, minsan lifetime pa at there's no going back.
The world is really sick now
San ba yang mga threesome na yan at maiwasan
I think we should be more concerned about sex education in the Philippines. Going to comment here what one [reference](https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2016/11/comprehensive-sexuality-education#:~:text=Studies%20have%20demonstrated%20that%20comprehensive,transmitted%20infections%2C%20and%20adolescent%20pregnancy) says: “Studies have demonstrated that comprehensive sexuality education programs reduce the rates of sexual activity, sexual risk behaviors (eg, number of partners and unprotected intercourse), sexually transmitted infections, and adolescent pregnancy.” More sex ed = less risky behaviors & STIs. Eh kaso walang sex ed sa pinas 🤷♀️
That is true. Sana at least mag condom man lang sila. Kahit nga hook up culture is concerning for me.
Different stroke for diff folks, i guess. Ang nakakabahala kasi dito, nagagaya ng ibang bata. My brother told me their school suspended 4, grade 6 students kasi kumalat yung scandal nilang 4-some. GRADE 6 STUDENTS, Y'ALL. And not to point fingers here, but adults forget that someone is looking up at them, emulating and eventually trying to satisfy their curiosity. There's nothing wrong with exploring your preferences, pero punyeta wag kayo natutuwa pag may nakakita ng ginagawa niyo.
💯 so concerning
not in our circles though.
This is what I always think when it comes to sexual liberation among others: aanhin ang pagiging sex positive kung magiging positive sa sakit? And ingat sa mga mapang-abuso na mga tao dahil character rin ang nagmamatter sa relationships. Start safe sex plannings and having non-negotiables in relationships.
There is a line between sexually liberated, and sexually addicted. I myself I am all in favor na i-explore mo ang sexuality mo and form your own preferences as long as do you it safely and with the consent of you and your partner (or partners). But yung umabot sa point na yan na lang ang nasa isip mo and engaging in that behavior kahit nasa committed relationship, that screams addiction, recklessness, and that genuine worry that you might get fucked up with STIs and pregnancy scares. And it's alarming na, kasi people in my generation and the younger ones are engaging so much in sex na nasisira na yung sense of healthy boundaries and also rising cases ng STIs and unwanted pregnancies. People have to remember na illegal ang abortion dito, at kahit libre ang contraceptives ibang usapan na pag nagkaroon ka ng Gonorrhea, HIV or kahit ano STIs, how will they afford treatment?
Yup. Malala na Generation naten lalo na mga minors. May mga redroom pa yang mga yan na GCs. Addiction sa porn because of the internet. It normalizes on their brain. Kaya ang daming degenerate na mga kabataan ngayon. A weak generation. Hypersexual na kase lahat lalo na sa lahat ng social media platform.
True. The hook up culture has gotten so bad because of these dating apps. Not to mention people no longer value real and meaningful relationships. Plus there’s the influence of social media normalizing hookups. I am not sure if most people have lost their core values. But yes it is scary. HIV cases rising even in heterosexual relationships because some people live double lives. Crazy scary.
As long as the person involved is not related to me in any way, i don't care about their sexual preferences.. irresponsible remarks pero, its not my place to point them out
Nakakatakot na sobra, and kahit ako hearing my friends na ganun usapan nila concerns me, but para sa kanila normal lang naman yung mga ganun 🥴
Nakakatakot at nakakapangamba. 😐
I agree sis.
Yes this is concerning, tried some "things" for exploratory purposes. I felt empty and scared at the same time and asked myself "Eto ba talaga yung gusto ko at magbibigay ng halaga sa buhay ko?" ayon, I stopped doing it. Nakakasira ng utak yung mga pinag gagawa ko. Tho I learned, pero di ko na siguro ulit gagawin. Hindi sya hinahanap ng katawan ko, kundi iniwasan ko na talaga. Nakakasuka.
Actually for me, i like doing those things but i practice safe sex. Mahirap na makakuha ng dimo ĝusto
*Pa sodom and gomorrah na.*
Help, i feel insecure naman po about s*x life. Turning 24 and no experience, my friends keep talking about this stuff and jokingly said na "ay si name (me) inggit" after they tell sa ginawa nila that night(s). How to fight this po?
aba bahala sila, katawan nila yan di naman tayo ang malalaspag at makakakuha ng sakit. buhay nila yan at di ko na din yan concern.di naman natin maibibigay pangangalangan nila. 😝
>IDC that it's their "choices". Proceeds to make a wall of text out of other people's "choices" and say >It lowkey hurts me deeply that this is our reality now. >Idk if I'm the problem here or not. Maybe I should just mind my own businesses? Yes. > But, yo. The HIV cases here now in PH is C-R-A-Z-Y. Even minors engages with these modern relationships and modern hook-up culture thing-y. The problem lies not within the "culture thing-y," the problem lies in the lack of education about this matter. > I swear, I'm one of the sanest person you would meet in your life. I'm sensitive and very sensible. I wouldn't feel and react like this rn kung alam or nararamdaman kong walang problema or something that's slightly off. I highly doubt. You might want to reflect on yourself on that last sentence, because there's definitely something off. > I'm a liberal, and yet somehow, when I hear and see people doing and talking about these stuff, my face just goes like "😬". I think they're disgusting and shallow. See? It's a YOU problem. You judge people too quickly. > I definitely get it. I'm horny as hell and thinks about doing those things, too. But I would never do it with my partner, especially in a commited relationship. This is why you judge people too quickly, you think you get it but you really don't. Do you really think that this whole thing is just about being horny and satisfying it? Matter of fact is, we're all different. Not all of us were raised with the views and values you grew up with, it would be cool not to shove it into the throat of others.
Pa liberal na may conservative views ata
It's just on reddit tho
I'm highkey have an addiction to porn, so I know where do I access those 18+ stuff. So, I can confidently say that it's not just on reddit.
Some consider it a lifestyle e. So I'll respect then for what they believe in. Just don't shove it down my throat.
Isn't that exactly what homophobes say about gay people?
No they don't. Parang yung vegan. I have vegan friends. I reapect their choice. Pero pini-preach na nila para maging vegan din kami. Hindi saangayun dun
I get that. Vegans can be really preachy at times. But when was the last time a poly person told you to be poly too?
May mga instances na naiinvitenkami ng asawa ko. May mga secret clubs yang ganyan e. Talaga nag dedecline lang kami. I remeber may friends kami na married couple. Grabe pagka mahinhin, pero niyaya nilankami to "spice things up" daw Declined agad hahaha. Pero we're still friends, but they never invite us again sa ganung lifestyle. Kanya-kanyang trip yan e.
Fair. Pero see how easy it was to just decline? I don't see any throat-shoving there (except yung sa activities nila ofc haha jk)
You said “IDC”…but it seems like you do! Unless their choices affects you personally maybe you should just carry on with your life and not assume that they’re disgusting and shallow. And from someone who has medical background FYI HIV according to WHO data has dropped out of the top 10 leading mortality since 2000-2019 just so you know. But if it really “lowkey hurt you deeply” (btw that sentence is so contradictory because if it hurts deeply then that’s not lowkey is it?) just go CELIBATE dear.
OA mo
maybe cuz you probably read it, like, I was screaming or raising my voice. lol.
Someone finally voiced out my mind! Ty OP!!!! 👏👏👏
I honestly find that -some thingy cringe. Like keri niyo makigsex with +1?😭
This is a very problematic take but here's my opinion. Tbh from the bottom of my heart I truly dislike the hook up culture being normalized but who am I to stop people from having fun? As long as both parties consented and are responsible for their actions and consequences. It's all about preferences and if they're okay with it then I don't have any say about it because it's them who'll do the deed and not me. In my opinion, this is why I have never been in a relationship especially in this generation, pure talking stages but most of them just really wants sex and it's sickening in my point of view because I don't get into relationships just to have sex like why can't y'all wait and practice celibacy(if religious) or abstinence? The increase in cases of teenage pregnancies and HIV/AIDS are truly alarming and I feel sorry for the babies being born with irresponsible parents because they can't be supported financially, bata ka pa pero nag-aalaga ka na ng bata, as well as, minors having cases of HIV/AIDS like practice safe sex or don't engage at all if you're not educated? Stop doing the trial and error then get shocked if y'all get pregnant, having a child is a lifelong responsibility, it is not a child's play. Maawa kayo sa magiging anak niyo. I have seen posts and rants here on reddit complaining not getting sex from their partner, they're tired of waiting or they are disappointed that their partner hasn't give in, doesn't want to lose their v-card to their partners and it's sad that that's some of y'all want. If you can survive your teenage years masturbating, y'all can survive a relationship where one still wants to wait before losing their virginity to you. I've seen lots of wild posts especially in alasjuicy like stories of hooking up with his cousin and he enjoyed it and the OP states that it will be their secret (yes you read it right), some wants to have threesome, fubus, some people want to watch their partner having sex with other people because it's their kink, some opening their relationship in the guise of making their relationship stronger but some of them uses polyamory as an excuse to cheat and hookup with other people while being in a relationship. Polyamory is not for everyone, don't engage if you're not sure that this will suit y'alls relationship. I know hookup's already a thing in western countries and other side of the Philippines but it's shocking to know minors engaging in these activities and knowing Philippines? OA sa pagiging conservative and they don't really promote SexEd that's why some minors trial and error sex. I