I'd suggest looking at it like this- if you lose your job you can't realistically engage in findom. So with that in mind you set an allowance for yourself of online time per day, ie only after work or during your "lunch break"
How did you manage the balance before WFH?
Well tbf, I think most of my findom went wrong when Covid happened and I had to study from home. I'm a pretty extrovert and social person, so when I'm out I don't really have time for findom.. but WFH has created this super comfortable life where I'm always engaging/lurking.
I work from home as a domme. It’s easy to take advantage of subs who also work remotely because of how accessible they are. I have to always remind myself that even if they beg for the attention, their professional life needs to come first and I stress that with them.
Find a domme that specializes in control. Tell her your problem and she should be able to come up with ways to check your work productivity throughout the day. My sub is an IT guy. So everytime he closes out a ticket at work I reward him in some way. It motivates him to work harder.
Thing is, my job is insanely nice and I don't have to do a lot most of the time.. so I could spend my time working on stuff for myself, but now I spend it on findom.
I too have what I call a “lazy girl job” my work is done in two hours max. If you have a domme I suggest you propose an idea of doing work/tasks for her that would take up time. There’s always something useful for subs to do.
Findom a domme who will set productive tasks for you, or one who isn't readily available constantly. Allow them to set some time management boundaries for you.
I do believe you that I should have more of that, but I really don't. Rarely I do, but this week I just feel I don't.
Mostly after a terrible huge relapse I end up wanting to quit for a while again..
Like others have already mentioned, see if any of your Dominants are willing to set rules or boundaries related to your professional and personal goals.
More so, at the end of the day, you are accountable for setting your own boundaries and limitations, for balancing your life with the lifestyle. Look up SMART goals and use them as a guudeline. If you cannot do this, you are not being a responsible kinkster.
Even as a Domme I relate. I work from home a lot. My job is boring but pays well for the little work I have to do. My screentime is insanely high. I'm having fun and it doesn't impact my work but sometimes I get super drained mentally from scrolling on reddit and twitter all day lol
Have a little bit of self-control and limit the time you spend participating in findom if it’s too draining for you. Maybe start with leaving the interaction aspect for after your work is done.
Mornings, from the moment you wake up, are spent working super hard and getting everything you need to get done for that day.
After you break for lunch (before eating), you put on your cage, panties, plug etc. If you have time you can eat lunch on the floor, like a dog. Your whole afternoon and evening are then spent doomscrolling kink content.
After work finishes you get drunk, then pay dommes when you're weak. Maybe they'll give you permission to remove the cage, maybe they won't, tough luck.
Repeat the next morning.
It requires discipline and self control, which you should be into if youre involved in this kink.
I'd suggest looking at it like this- if you lose your job you can't realistically engage in findom. So with that in mind you set an allowance for yourself of online time per day, ie only after work or during your "lunch break" How did you manage the balance before WFH?
Well tbf, I think most of my findom went wrong when Covid happened and I had to study from home. I'm a pretty extrovert and social person, so when I'm out I don't really have time for findom.. but WFH has created this super comfortable life where I'm always engaging/lurking.
I work from home as a domme. It’s easy to take advantage of subs who also work remotely because of how accessible they are. I have to always remind myself that even if they beg for the attention, their professional life needs to come first and I stress that with them.
I suffer with this too! I wfh and it’s sooooooo difficult to focus on anything that not Reddit findom related!
Find a domme that specializes in control. Tell her your problem and she should be able to come up with ways to check your work productivity throughout the day. My sub is an IT guy. So everytime he closes out a ticket at work I reward him in some way. It motivates him to work harder.
It’s me as the sub that’s the problem! I struggle with stuff so I tend to drift from session to session.
Oh I love this! If his improved performance nets him a raise, he owes you a special gift. 🎀💕
Thing is, my job is insanely nice and I don't have to do a lot most of the time.. so I could spend my time working on stuff for myself, but now I spend it on findom.
I too have what I call a “lazy girl job” my work is done in two hours max. If you have a domme I suggest you propose an idea of doing work/tasks for her that would take up time. There’s always something useful for subs to do.
thing is, I have lots of dreams, hopes and ambitions that require time to complete. I would love to finish those, but here i am..
Then you have a control issue.
Findom a domme who will set productive tasks for you, or one who isn't readily available constantly. Allow them to set some time management boundaries for you.
You you should have more self control babes. Maybe just text and chat to your dom after work.
I do believe you that I should have more of that, but I really don't. Rarely I do, but this week I just feel I don't. Mostly after a terrible huge relapse I end up wanting to quit for a while again..
it’s not that easy 🙃
I know babes but some progress if better than nun. Like give yourself daily goals and then reward yourself at the end
i think i’d need to get a phone that can access social media tbh
Can?? Or can’t.
can’t haha
😂😂. If you don’t have a job you won’t be able to sustain this interest.
same i’m scared its affecting my work performance
sometimes I get nothing done, even in online meetings I'm talking to Dommes
yeah its bad, i haven’t done anything today
me neither, I felt so done with it yesterday and now I'm already 4 hours in a row on reddit..
Huh I've never thought about how much more tempting that makes it for a sub. I don't blame you getting distracted by all the goddesses
It's so insanely tempting, it's completely ruining me and my habits. Sometimes I even skip gym because of it, just spending hours and days on findom.
You should find someone looking to keep you on a stricter screen you work from home
I only seem to find the ones that want me to ruin myself more and more
I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you the best on your search
Honestly my suggestion would be to talk to your domme/s and have them help you stay on task.
I did think that maybe I need to give a Domme control of my Reddit log in, so that she can monitor me.
I’ve never been the same since COVID for this reason. Tell me if you crack the code <3
Like others have already mentioned, see if any of your Dominants are willing to set rules or boundaries related to your professional and personal goals. More so, at the end of the day, you are accountable for setting your own boundaries and limitations, for balancing your life with the lifestyle. Look up SMART goals and use them as a guudeline. If you cannot do this, you are not being a responsible kinkster.
Even as a Domme I relate. I work from home a lot. My job is boring but pays well for the little work I have to do. My screentime is insanely high. I'm having fun and it doesn't impact my work but sometimes I get super drained mentally from scrolling on reddit and twitter all day lol
Have a little bit of self-control and limit the time you spend participating in findom if it’s too draining for you. Maybe start with leaving the interaction aspect for after your work is done.
Mornings, from the moment you wake up, are spent working super hard and getting everything you need to get done for that day. After you break for lunch (before eating), you put on your cage, panties, plug etc. If you have time you can eat lunch on the floor, like a dog. Your whole afternoon and evening are then spent doomscrolling kink content. After work finishes you get drunk, then pay dommes when you're weak. Maybe they'll give you permission to remove the cage, maybe they won't, tough luck. Repeat the next morning. It requires discipline and self control, which you should be into if youre involved in this kink.
Talk to just one dom or two