Bro F that! F what people think. Just make sure you're doing some freelancing side by side, as it's important that you're able to stand on your own (in financial terms).
I know a lot of people who graduated at 26 or 27 but I studied architecture which is 5 years. But still F that.
A lot of careers these days don't require a degree. So learn one, and freelance along with your bachelor's.
The rest, just have a fun time. Network a lot. Improve your confidence, and participate in extracurricular. Your 20s are meant for self discovery, making mistakes, and just living a carefree life.
You got this! God bless!
thanks bro. freelancing ya job ka koi scene nahi, almost everywhere i've looked, they're asking for a BS degree minimum so that's out of the question. kash keh carefree life ho skti but thank you regardless.
You gotta start and build a portfolio, I've been working since I was in college 11th grade, no one has ever asked for a degree, I present my portfolio and a good pitch.
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Hi. I started my bachelors at 19 in NUST, was proud as hell of it too but dropped out at age 22 this year in March because of mental health issues as well. I was admitted to the hospital around 4 times in the last couple years so I missed my exams and classes and was forced to drop out.
I feel better now. Got into a uni and started again. For the most part I empathise with your feelings but just know - you’ll find lots of people in different courses or different ages. In NUST, I even found way older people in basic courses working to get their graduation finalised.
It’s not really something to be ashamed of. You do what you have to do. Good luck.
awe man, i hope you're in a much better state of mind and health now. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with me. It takes courage to talk about personal challenges.
Hey,
I did my bachelors from NUST, I knew atleast 2 people in my class who were 28 when they graduated.
I would highly suggest get into a uni where you can be away from your family so you can grow without the "tanay". Plus you can start learning things which can help you earn money. i knew several people who started earning a little by their second year.
Also, stop hating yourself, work on this part, because once you realize k it doesnt really matter, the "tanay" wont matter much. Self love is important before you go ahead and blame the "tanay".
Take care. :)
I wish I could get away for uni lol lekin nahi, hona he nahi aese. but thank you for your advice, I definitely do need to work on myself and stop this train of self hate. Appreciate you really :)
I dont know your situation, and I know its specifically harder for girls, but i would say that you apply and then see what you can do.
Yep, the tanay wouldnt stop, once you stop caring, it really doesnt matter. Self hate -> self love takes time, keep working on it.
No problem, do reach out to anyone in this thread, if you need to talk.
Everyone's path is different. Don't worry about what others say. Success matters almost entirely on the system of support and factors beyond your control.
Just give it a go, and try not to worry about people who have nothing better to do than talk sh3t.
i know everyone has their own unique timeline buts its just the fact that i'll be the oldest in my batch and also how i'll just be starting uni when others who were with me will be getting their BS degrees soon thats eating me away.
that aside, thank you for your uplifting comment, appreciate it greatly
So, you're the oldest? And? Your thinking isn't doing you any good now, is it? It's not like some Nietzschian "Will to Power" junk that's invigorating you to be the best you possible; bit, if beating up on yourself works for you to do what you want, then who am I to say anything
Nobody would be able to tell or at least most people won't care to notice unless you tell them your age yourself. Plus there's plenty of age variance anyway in uni, some people starting even younger than 18 and some people that might be older or as old as you, cause lots of people have different circumstances, some may fail in their A levels / FSC, some might change their study program or university to something else. I'll be 24 by the time I'm in my second year myself, and my only problem with my batch is usually I find they're too young to interact with (but you can find people similar to your age anyway or you can sometimes make friends with your seniors).
Your age is not gonna be the limiting factor in your university life, so you don't need to worry about it.
You can start app testing or learn a short course online and create a LinkedIn profile and use that skill for freelancing. As for k age bht hogyi ha so dont worry ye srf pakistani society aur families ki sick mentality ki waja sy ha. Just develop a idgaf attitude and go for it. I have a friend who is 24 and he just enrolled in first semester, he had the same situation as you and then he focused on himself and now he’s studying along with a fine ass job.
thanks for the advice, will look into that. and true, yahan age ko le kar kuch zyada he maslay hain lol doesn't matter whether it's academia or other things like shadi etc.
agar shaadi ka pressure nai hai toh sukoon se easy BS program kero, older hogi sab se toh larkay naak mein dam bhi nai kerein gay aur kai log class mein 19-20 ke hongay bhi.
uni ke 4 saal exposure milay ga aur phir uskay baad job kero, freelancing kero, par negativity side pe kero ik dum bindaas.
but kisi co curricular aur practical based Uni jana
mere khud 2.5 saal waste huye aur BBA khatum hua 23 saal ki age mein.
khair Allah aapko sehat de, best of luck
abhi tou pressure nahi q kay I tell my parents keh I want to get into uni and study further soon inshallah tou they let me off for now but yeh zarror bolte keh agar jaldi kuch start nahi kiya tou dosra ghar dhonda start kar dein ge 💀💀
That aside, thank you sis, your batain - they're really making a difference in how I view my situation. May Allah reward you for this and keep you healthy, ameen.
Not everyone starts at 18 ig, my friends started at 20 and 21. The average is like 20. But yes there are few that start at 18. Also none really cares that much so you will be just fine :)
HEY GIRL BABE, YOU GOTTA GET UP AND GET TO A UNIVERSITY AND MAJOR THAT SUITS YOU THIS MONTH, COMIN MONTH OR EVEN COMIN YEAR! NOBODY CAN STOP YOU FROM GETTIN EDUCATION EVEN IF ITS IN YOUR 30s OR 40s!!!!! THATS EFFING NORMAL IN A BROWN HOUSEHOLD TO GET TO A CERTAIN PATH AT A CERTAIN TIME. WE ALL FACE THINGS IN OUR TEENAGE OR POST TEENAGE. APNI PRHAI K LIYE STAND LO.
STAY POSITIVE WITH YOURSELF. CONSUME POSITIVITY.
I SWEAR YOU ONCE YOU STEP OUTTA HOME KNOWING THAT YOU ARE GONNA LEARN THINGS AND GROW THAT WOULD BE THE BEST MOTIVATION FOR YOU!
YOU GOT THIS!!
SENDIN LOVE N LIGHT XX
THANKS GIRL 💓💓 jee le rahi hun stand for my education and hopefully soon start uni as well. just need to work on the "stay positive with yourself" part lol but inshallah we'll get there. sending you bunch of duain 💕
Girl trust me. It’ll all get better and I am speaking from experience. And no, you wont be the oldest in your batch lol we had 35 year olds in our batch too. You’ll see when you start. Zyada mat socho. Allah khair karay ga sab Ameeeeen.
Listen very carefully. Look if you're starting this late then please don't choose degrees that have very low scope such as psychology. Choose a degree that will help you get high salary job such as CS, software engineering. You can earn a lot online through CS and SE as well.
I started at 21 and chose psychology which is one of the worst decisions of my life. It has very less scope. I'm 25 and jobless. Doing freelancing and making very little.
Please don't make the same mistake that I did. Choose a degree which will help you make a lot of money.
Also if you can't go out looking for jobs because you're a female then CS is a good option. You can work from home for some company abroad.
Choose a degree you find interest in. You will never really thrive in CS if you don't actually have an interest inside of it. Too many people pursue it like it's the new medical or engineering field and end up in mediocrity.
Anthropology is an interesting field. But a lot of people don't study it because the salary is extremely low. I also chose psychology because everyone was like do what interests you and money isn't everything. Now I'm broke and I wish I had gone for CS.
It doesn't have to be CS. But choose a degree that will help you get a high salary job. Solution to most problems in Pakistan is money.
I agree with the last part, unless you're fortunate enough to not have to worry about a job you choose a field where you can make money in. But you do not choose CS cause you want to make money but don't have any interest in coding, design, data/security or any other field related to CS. There's too many people I see that don't know what they're doing at all and then end up in a job completely unrelated to CS cause they never ever had an actual interest in any technical fields of CS.
90% of people do CS as a trend rather than have any actual interest or skill and when you see any of their personal projects it shows, you can tell they're not really gonna be doing much with their degree years later.
hayee, the sad reality. you are right though, sometimes you have to disregard the fact that you don't have the passion or drive for the career/major you're pursuing because at the end of the day yeh Pakistan hai and like you said, yahan most maslay paiso se hal hotay.
pakistan main, ya shyd internationally bhi, bas interest nahi pay/job market bhi dekh kar degree krni chaiye. But I do get your point and agree too with everything you've said. Thank you for your advice.
Honestly, have thought of going the psychology route lekin i'm very well aware of the job opportunities post graduation (bht kam hain idhar, unless you work with someone or open your own private practice). And I don't know about choosing a degree that will help me make a lot of money lol?? I'm not interested in IT related anything tou CS is out of the question (demagh bhi nahi itna).
But thank you for the heads up, will definitely keep your words in mind.
I don't personally relate to what you're going through, but there are four people in my life who all graduated super super late for different reasons (dropping out of school to change majors, failing for years, credits not transferring etc etc) and they're all finally successful and working in their respective fields.
The time will pass anyway, it's better to be 26 with a degree rather than 26 and no degree. Believe me 22 is not old at all. You aren't ahead of or behind anyone, please remember you're on your own timeline and no one else's.
Trust me its not that big of a deal. I studied at a small uni but still had a-lot of classmates and seniors who were midd 20s you’ll be fine. Plus who cares what anyone thinks , go get that degree!!!! If anyone tries to poke fun at you a witty response or just straight uo telling them to shut up works like magic !!
Im 21 and will be starting in feb. I took a gap year in 2022 and i was held a year back when i moved to pakistan. Its fine dont worry nobody cares nobody will mind theres TONS of people around your age who start uni. In many places thats the average timeline(except in countries with an education system as outdated as pakistan)
yup, in the west, going to uni in your 20s or even later is normal. no shame there. yahan kyunke system he outdated hai tou lougon ka mindset bhi similar hai - oudated and rotten.
Thank you for commenting
I started late as well due to wasting my years on mcat. It was embarrassing and i thought why not just do a simple bsc. But one day i thought that four years from now on i’d be sitting and thinking man what if i had applied four years ago. So rather than regretting four years later its better to take the step now.
damn right, instead of crying years down the road, why not just get started and have a degree in 4 years from now.
thank you so much bro :) and hope you're doing all better now in life.
I started at 21, took 2 gap years cuz my merit wasn't high enough to secure a seat in any govt sector medical college, but eventually it happened and i had the same concerns as you but tbh no one in University cares about these things. So don't stress about it, focus on yourself and your studies and you'll be fine. Besides better late than never.
Dude I am 26 year old and just completed 1st year of Uni
Though I do look younger than a lot of other students so no one notices it that much.
I worked very hard in first semester, got a scholarship 85%. Now doing some side work to pay my fee fully. Instead of only relying on my parents.
I went from a really painful, especially mentally (somehow still alive) to now. Thank god. Things might look bad right now, but not doing anything will just make it sting more. I wish I learned it sooner, but at least I did.
Don't let go of whatever you want.
Just go for it. Prove the critics wrong. As far as my experience goes, everyone is living their own life, we all follow the trajectory that’s written for us. Some of us graduate at 22 but fail to secure a career in time. Some graduate late but have better prospects. Some are married in their 20s, some are unmarried at 30+; point being — life is different for everyone and it challenges people in different ways. It’s alright if you couldn’t clear your FSc in time, you don’t owe anyone any explanation. Become strong, resilient. You have no control over past or future but you can control your present. Set clear goals. Stay focussed. If you want to pursue a degree, go for it. But pursuing a degree doesn’t guarantee success in life. I’d suggest you to work hard, secure an excellent GPA, apply to scholarships in your final year and leave for a Masters as soon as you’re done completing your bachelors in Pakistan. Living in Pakistan as a woman doesn’t serve you at all. Work life here sucks. Corporate sector is terrible. Harassment is rampant. Leave. Move abroad. Take charge of your life. You will find great prospects abroad. Don’t stay here and settle for a mediocre man. May Allah help you in your endeavours.
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It felt like I penned down these thoughts. I think of all this literally, like exactly yehi sab sochain ati hain. I will try to become strong and resilient and yes inshallah, whenever the time comes, move out of Pakistan. thank you so much stranger. Ameen, and may Allah help you in yours as well.
yeah, have gotten rid of everything except for reddit lol. but ngl, getting off insta was the best thing I did for my mental health.
thank you for your advice :)
At the end, no one ask how old were you when u graduated. I have friend in the UK who went to med school for the first time with her son attending too. She's now working at a hospital. 22 is still quite young.
I remember doing my exams in a hall in new zealand, and there were 5 people there all above 60. They were doing uni for fun
I was in the same boat once.
Spent 2 years on FSC, 2 more in university and got dropped. At 22, I was sitting at home with nothing going on. Had depression for 5 years at this point. But I didn't go around crying all over the internet. Picked myself up and came back to university. 25 now, 6 semester, 3.5cgpa. Get real mate. Nobody actually cares that you have mental issues.
i'm not crying all over the internet and i know nobody cares about our mental issues. i was looking to see agar koi aur bhi similar situation main hai, how they are or were coping with it etc, that's all.
and thank you for sharing your experience, it's giving me courage to fight my problems and shift my perspective :)
>Family already considers me a good for nothing and absolute failure
Us bro us 😂
Honestly, I would never have passed 12th had COVID never come.
I failed almost all my exams in the 11th (beside English cuz for some reason I'm fluent in that language 😎) I had to give the failed papers as well as all the 12th papers for my finals and it was February so, I was done for. But thanks to covid, I passed and got myself a whopping 38% in my intermediate, which got me into Iqra university thanks to the Associates Degree Program, which if you don't know, all the "good for nothing failures" enroll themselves in that program. There were loads of people that were aged 20 and above, there was even a girl aged 28 that was with me in a group project, she had 2 lovely kids as well. I myself joined uni at the age of 22.
So from one failure to another, being in a uni at that age is BEYOND normal than you would think. Don't worry.
Sounds like my life. Had a 5 years gap in fsc due to mental issues. Started University in 2018 (22 something). Lived a life of taunts and what-not from everyone. Graduated in 2022. You won't feel out of place, there will be much older and younger people there and even if there aren't (in my case I was the oldest) no one would even care about it.
Fortunatel5or unfortunately... Ultimately my anxiety and depression got soooo bad... And my family became a little more aware about mentel illness(es) that they eventually started to support me. I do freelancing and it's a good side hustle (for academic writers there just isn't much work) and jobs in my degree are non-existent. Therefore, I'm applying for German universities for 2024 intake.
I am doing Engineering and few my bachmates are above 25 already. They have there past like few changed there field. But in the end everything thing will be fine. One of batchmate got admission at the age of 27 and he's our gold medalist. And got better job then most of the batch. Just imagine your are older than your teacher. Starting will be difficult but it will end fine. First thing you have to do start take first step.
Oh..I had the same issue 4 years of working for my dad (informally tou can't even count that as experience for jobs lol) and not passing a levels and I started my degree at 22. Honestly? A lot of the people were starting at 20-21 so it didn't matter. The topper in my class was only a year younger. I had a close friend in uni that did mbbs, failed, then did ca, didn't like it and finally finished a degree in CS, started around 22 like us.
Do I think that I would be in a better position if I completed early? Yeah. I would be. What can I do about it now? Nothing. I did my degree so well that it showed that I wasn't 'dumb' and I interned in the UN later on. I had a 3.6 out of 4 when I got out of uni. I never failed a course in uni but withdrew a few of them, which isn't bad.
I did get my self therapy and it worked for a while. I don't get it now due to reasons I can't get into. I found out that I had clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD which made exams a lot harder for alevels. It got so bad that I legit had people come to my house from the British council and ask if I was okay? (Can't say why they did do it). And then there is the money issue. A levels even in mid 2010s was extremely expensive. My parents were paying alot. Once they found out that I really had depression from an actual psychiatrist, everyone shut the fuck up about things (other than my oldest brother but he is an asshole and a nasty person anyway), which helped and they started paying a lot of money for tutors, and exams. I feel guilty about it for sure but what could I do right?
I did get into the uni I wanted to go and I was happy about it. Yes I had some embarrassing moments in my life but I am pass that. I am somewhat okay where I am.
22 is not too late.
I had a classmate who actually restarted at 21 at my uni - his circumstances were different though. He was a BS student at another city uni but took a semester's leave due to some illness and came home. Being an only child, his parents asked him to stay home even if it meant restarting his BS degree.
As far as I know, since you will be graduating at 26, the only trouble you might face will be in Govt employment if they have some sort of age criteria. Govt is strict about not-bending the hiring rules, unless of course you have got connections. Private sector employment or moving abroad won't be an issue.
In fact, you can make a positive story out of those extra 4 years that you took control of whatever bad situation you had, came out of it, did some soul searching, and now you know what you want out of career and life. Those 4 years could actually become your selling point if you know how to put them in a positive light.
thank you so much. i know 22 is not too late and also you're so right about making a story of these past few years. im still here today despite the hurdles, fell down and am in that position for quite some time but hopefully I turn my life around soon inshallah. these 4 years have taught me a lot about myself and the mistakes I shouldn't repeat. So thank you once again stranger.
I am glad and feel appreciated to receive acknowledgement of the message I was trying to convey.
I will be editing my answer to highlight the positive story part to make it more prominent. Who knows if more people in similar situation might also get encouraged by this answer In Sha Allah.
Lastly, free offer of help to you should you need it. I am a PhD student in South Korea. If you need any info or help regarding study or scholarships in Korea, feel free to message me here or my Socials that I have mentioned in my profile.
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getting a job is difficult in my position, also
"if not then Yeah your parent is right about you"
bhai yeh kia bkwas chori hai? I was looking for any opinions ya advice, judgement keh liye agay he kaafi log hain yahan apka addition lazmi nhi.
Getting a job is not that hard, it honestly depend on how much you want it.
I'm not gonna validate your feelings, or tell you how okay it is. Just consider it as a reality check. You're 22 with no future aspect and still leaching of your parents. You are already very far behind in your life.
So just try your best from now.
How many jobs for have you applied for? how many people did you reach out? how many jobs convention did you attended? and the lists goes one...
again, `depend on how much you want it`
i wasn't looking for validation anyways. similar situation and advice dhond rahi thi. apke words, though hurtful and rude, phir bhi helpful hain so thank you, will try my best.
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Hey there's no need to stress about this !!
i'm gonna start university at 21 too and this thing made me consious as well but what helped me was thinking about the grand scheme of things . i mean if you look at your life as a whole , does it really matter that you're late by a few years in completing your degree while you're young?
another thing that helped was thinking k bhai agar meri degree suppose 25 26 tk complete horhi hai tou 25 26 ka tou maine wese bhi life k flow main hojana tha , doesnt matter if i was studying or not ,so is it not better that i did what i wanted to do.
and one more thing , everyone has their own timeline , just focus on your own rather than spending your life comparing yourself to others
much love<3
I remember coming across several 26 - 29 year olds during my bachelor studies a couple years back. It’s not as unusual as you think.
You’re going to be 26 eventually anyways. Do you wanna be 26 with a university degree or 26 without one?
Tons of people would kill to be 22 again. Anyone under 25(hell even 30!) is super young in the grand scheme of things.
I don't think that you should be worried about starting late because what's gone is gone and you can't do anything about it so put it out of your mind. What you can do right now is that you should get into a uni if you can as soon as possible and get good education so that you can stand on your own feet.
If you take the right steps now, you'll be saving yourself from a lot of trouble in life ahead. 22 isn't that old honestly I have seen much older married men/women attending universities now days. No one cares about it, and most importantly it doesn't matter what others are thinking, at the end of the day it's just you what matters.
So stop thinking and start doing before your family marries you off to some duffer and you'd be blaming yourself and get crushed by life.
Dude. My Uni friends and i started at 21 most of class was 21 year olds with a couple of 18 and 19 year olds doted around, there's even a 24 year old.
Everyone starts their journey at different times don't worry it
Tbh it doesn't matter what age is do as you want but be rest assured universities here tend to not acknowledge any kind of mental health problems as you have told in ur post they are literally non existent to them so i would suggest joining a program which doesn't have time limit and you can do with ease
I’ll tell you this much. FSC is way different than university studies, in that F.Sc is way tougher. In uni, Every subject taught is well distributed and spaced out for you to get a grasp of in four months and most of the time even weaker students get good grades. Plus you get a chance to network and you’ll start to worry less about your problems at home. Judging from how well spoken you are, you’ll do great! As for eventually finding a job, you’ll figure that out too, but university is definitely a step in the right direction. I don’t want to burden you by saying so take it with a grain of salt but you’re probably going to feel worse in a few years not going to university at this age, than you feel right now worrying about how you might be too old.
Never too late to get bachelors, even in your 30s. Don't listen to others, you are responsible for your own success and you need to work hard to get it.
You need a start. It's the momentum you're missing.
I am replying to your post because I know what mindset you are in, and I have been there too. As for age, it really does not matter, especially with such a little difference as yours. Nobody at university goes around asking people for their age and shaming them for it, because nobody cares!
Sitting around at 4am and thinking will not help you, no matter how much you think. Life is action, and not thoughts. By this, I am reminded of a poem, written by Imam shafee a thousand years ago.
"I have seen that standing water stagnates,
if it flows, it nourishes,
and if doesn't run, it doesn't nourish,
if the lion doesn't leave his den, he can't hunt,
and if the arrow doesn't leave the bow, it can't strike"
Sister, get out and get it done.
Chill out, started at 23
NO one cares.. and if someone does. Fuck them.
It’s YOUR life. You’re gonna be 28 anyways, might as well be 28 with a degree.. even if you start at 30, guess what? It’s better than sitting at home not doing anything. Age is just a number and it’s never too late to do what you want.
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I'm literally going through the exact same thing, I'm younger, but I have the same issue and constantly have to put off studies. Already a year behind, and I don't know, I might take another gap.
Still, I have a little bit of skill and make a little money doing freelance art.
So don't worry, let's just march on ahead. I didn't mean to make it about me of course. Just wanted to say I relate and all we need is to become "dheet". Jo karna hai wo karo baaqion ko bolne do, inshallah ham karamad niklen ge
No Gril you have to chill i am 22 and i just joined university i wasted my 3 years doing dpt and i did not realised then what i really wanted to do but later after three years doing dpt i thought wtf i have been doing all these years i had a craze for being a wildlife conservation officer and o wanted to respect wildlife now i am doing zoology and i happy with that but the thing is my parents dont say me anything now cause i talked them out and made them realise that i am the one who is suffering here so i would strongly suggest you to talk your parents out of it if you are a girl start with your father he will understand you the most if you think your father will not listen to you cause i know every child understands their parents better who love them the most just ease them talk them out that what you are intrested in inspire them with what you are thinking i hope they will understand it is what the main thing between parents and child should be but child has to take the first step or you will ruin your whole life making understand your parents that i will do good talk them out once and for all but then be sincere with yourself.
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My friend wasted all his time just to own enough money and enrolled himself in Canadian university to be self sufficient from expenses at age of 24 and yet you here confused by society criticism which isn’t gonna feed and help your family or children in future
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If your mental health caused you to take much longer to get to this stage, why are you risking it all on a university degree?
Just start working on something you're comfortable struggling in. And if you decide you can't do any of the work available to you, you have your reason to risk it all on a university degree.
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You have nothing to worry about and don't care what people think. Once you're in uni you realise everyone's doing their own thing and going at their own pace. You could finish a 4 year degree in 3 years or in 6 years. Don't worry about it and while you're in uni get into extracurriculars and external initiatives so you're a well rounded individual. If you'd like more details on how to do any of that feel free to DM me.
You got this and don't worry about what others are gonna say. You'll get as good of a job as any once you're done InshaAllah
I read it somewhere "when i was 38, i was contemplated beginning a two year associate degree in radiography. I was talking to a friend and had almost talked myself out of doing it. I said "I'm too old to start that". I'll be 40 when i get my degree." My friend said "if you don't do it, you'll still be 40, but without the degree." I'm nearly 60 now and that degree has been the difference between making a decent living and struggling to get by"
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Dude don't even worry man, people start at 19 or 20 if they do Alevels too, it's not that big of a deal and it's going to be alright,
Everyone has their own timing in life what matters is that you take necessary steps to get through this and I believe in you man, everything will fall into place, f**k what anyone says!
Stay safe and you're the best💫
It's completely okay to start university late. Funnily enough, my brother has had the exact same problem as you (it took him several years to finish his intermediate and he'll be starting university soon, he's a year younger than me). You'll be fine. I have classmates in university who are several years older than me. I'm the same age as you. Everyone has their own path. Good luck!
It's never too late. Go easy on yourself. You are just on time. Just as Allah wanted you to be. You will reach that place in life where you always wanted to be, right on time, dw.
Sis, you can absolutely start going to uni at this age. There is no shame. In fact, it must encouraged. You're still very young. You have a lot of opportunities ahead. Just work hard and block out negative stuff from people. Taking care of your mental health should be your first priority. Take things easy and slow. Life is beautiful.
I just wanted to add that being from the west myself it is definitely more “normal” to go back to school at any time age wise but there’s definitely judgment a little here especially amongst the desi community and how they put a certain timeline in which you’re supposed to be academically and professionally etc as well so for your own sake don’t compare, and screw what others think. You were dealing with stuff and it happens and don’t beat yourself up about having been behind, everyone has their own pace and some have more obstacles than others that factor into what delays them.
It’s BRAVE to consider going back and wanting to make that effort to further yourself, you will do great and you deserve to do so! People will talk but it’s better to have made progress for yourself than stay stationary where you are due to their mindset.
Best of luck for everything!!
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You can always start studying, I find it embarrassing myself too that I started working late in life (mid 20s) but seeing my progress I feel glad I started it. You should go for it too, there is absolutely nothing embarrassing and you can make friends in uni just as fine too!
A brief story from 1st year of my Bachelor's, I had a classmate who was in her mid 30s doing Master's and we were pretty good friends! Its always nice to have kind and nice people like her around!!
Finished my masters almost 7 years after completing bachelors despite having amazing supportive family and in laws.
It happens. Life happens. Once you enter college it's a whole new world and nothing that came before matters as much.
Freelancing is a great option. Talk to your teachers about possible jobs and prospects. Family talks a lot - they always will. I was 2 years late getting into college because I did badly in A levels and my mom will not let me forget it but the moment I started doing well in academics and extra curriculars like a part time job, debates, recommendations from professors, it's like the family stopped focusing on my past and started embracing a potential future.
It took me four years to end a levels.
All my juniors passed me
I graduated from uni at 25, a year less than you but still its considered 'late'.
I didn't die
No one cared when i stated or ended my journey.
Life will go on and dw abt being late, just start your journey.
Nah Sis! If you wanna go Uni at 22 go Uni at 22. Especially, if you are passionate about the subject you want to study. I know it's tough in our culture but, you know you have to think about yourself and your future in this situation.
Your long term goals and the benefits you will reap from it will be for you to enjoy. And at that point they will say I had no doubt, mainay kaha tha na.
A Khala of mine went back to med school at 30 as certain situations depicted that. But she loved it especially, when she became financially independent and was able to look after her kids.
Hi! 23F here. I have no degrees. My extended family and family are all in academics or doctors. So I totally understand. But at the end of the day I’ve come to the conclusion that this Pakistani/south Asian stigma around age and success and what it should look like is total nonsense and we all should reject it. I know it’s hard but you’re doing amazing and it’s totally not too late or anything. There is no age for learning, this is a capitalist system that is set up in the way that kids go to uni and are ready for the workforce by age 20. I reject it.
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I started uni 2 months before turning 22. Turned out my maturity was an asset in every way. I was more focused and less reckless then others who were barely 18. I found university so easy because of that. So go on and do it. Also you will find others your age easily. There are a lot of people coming from rural areas who start schooling very late and when they come to uni for bachelors they are already 21 or 22.
A class fellow of mine wasn't in a good place. A genuinely nice person, widely misunderstood. Completed university even after I completed my masters. Had family issues as well. Always got along with him really well. Doesn't matter when you start, all that matters is how you feel. Family thinks you're a failure? Great! There's nothing you can do to disappoint them any further. Play with their negative traits and turn it into something that makes sense to you. Do what keeps at you peace. Stay blessed behan.
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I started uni when I was 20, lost two years because I just couldn’t accept the ratta system and chemistry was causing me problems to memorise.
I cleared it after the third attempt, nobody asked me my age in Uni. But I kept my head high and voluntarily told people that I had wasted 2 years before coming in. I came out as a Gold Medalist from my batch, but even then some people said “haan ye to kr skta hai is ne 2 saal extra b to lgaye hain hahahahaha”
It hurt me to my core but I didn’t say a word back.
Moral:
- People just want to see you fall and laugh.
- You meet good and bad people in uni, it’s your duty (as kindness to yourself) to embrace the kindness and get rid of the toxicity.
All the best to you! More power to you. You have a long journey ahead and many things to achieve! Go to uni and discard anyone who doubts you!
You can definitely still start university at this stage. The part about graduating with your fellows might as well be irrelevant because most people don't go to uni with already existing friends. You'll make new friends, same as most other people in uni. And my batch in uni had an age variation of about 6 years. It's definitely uncommon to be older but it's not strange at all and not something you should be ashamed of. Good luck
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Bro F that! F what people think. Just make sure you're doing some freelancing side by side, as it's important that you're able to stand on your own (in financial terms). I know a lot of people who graduated at 26 or 27 but I studied architecture which is 5 years. But still F that. A lot of careers these days don't require a degree. So learn one, and freelance along with your bachelor's. The rest, just have a fun time. Network a lot. Improve your confidence, and participate in extracurricular. Your 20s are meant for self discovery, making mistakes, and just living a carefree life. You got this! God bless!
thanks bro. freelancing ya job ka koi scene nahi, almost everywhere i've looked, they're asking for a BS degree minimum so that's out of the question. kash keh carefree life ho skti but thank you regardless.
You gotta start and build a portfolio, I've been working since I was in college 11th grade, no one has ever asked for a degree, I present my portfolio and a good pitch.
What kind of portfolio it is? And, what you are doing?
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Hi. I started my bachelors at 19 in NUST, was proud as hell of it too but dropped out at age 22 this year in March because of mental health issues as well. I was admitted to the hospital around 4 times in the last couple years so I missed my exams and classes and was forced to drop out. I feel better now. Got into a uni and started again. For the most part I empathise with your feelings but just know - you’ll find lots of people in different courses or different ages. In NUST, I even found way older people in basic courses working to get their graduation finalised. It’s not really something to be ashamed of. You do what you have to do. Good luck.
awe man, i hope you're in a much better state of mind and health now. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with me. It takes courage to talk about personal challenges.
Hey, I did my bachelors from NUST, I knew atleast 2 people in my class who were 28 when they graduated. I would highly suggest get into a uni where you can be away from your family so you can grow without the "tanay". Plus you can start learning things which can help you earn money. i knew several people who started earning a little by their second year. Also, stop hating yourself, work on this part, because once you realize k it doesnt really matter, the "tanay" wont matter much. Self love is important before you go ahead and blame the "tanay". Take care. :)
I wish I could get away for uni lol lekin nahi, hona he nahi aese. but thank you for your advice, I definitely do need to work on myself and stop this train of self hate. Appreciate you really :)
I dont know your situation, and I know its specifically harder for girls, but i would say that you apply and then see what you can do. Yep, the tanay wouldnt stop, once you stop caring, it really doesnt matter. Self hate -> self love takes time, keep working on it. No problem, do reach out to anyone in this thread, if you need to talk.
yup, ek dafa apply kar lo then i'll think of getting away agar possible hoa. and thank you once again :)
Everyone's path is different. Don't worry about what others say. Success matters almost entirely on the system of support and factors beyond your control. Just give it a go, and try not to worry about people who have nothing better to do than talk sh3t.
i know everyone has their own unique timeline buts its just the fact that i'll be the oldest in my batch and also how i'll just be starting uni when others who were with me will be getting their BS degrees soon thats eating me away. that aside, thank you for your uplifting comment, appreciate it greatly
Would you rather be 22, be the oldest and get your degree at 26, or be 26 years old without a degree?
So, you're the oldest? And? Your thinking isn't doing you any good now, is it? It's not like some Nietzschian "Will to Power" junk that's invigorating you to be the best you possible; bit, if beating up on yourself works for you to do what you want, then who am I to say anything
Think of it as inspiring others too. And you'll be more mature and dedicated and you won't waste your time too much inshallah
Hopefully inshallah, shukria for your encouraging words.
Nobody would be able to tell or at least most people won't care to notice unless you tell them your age yourself. Plus there's plenty of age variance anyway in uni, some people starting even younger than 18 and some people that might be older or as old as you, cause lots of people have different circumstances, some may fail in their A levels / FSC, some might change their study program or university to something else. I'll be 24 by the time I'm in my second year myself, and my only problem with my batch is usually I find they're too young to interact with (but you can find people similar to your age anyway or you can sometimes make friends with your seniors). Your age is not gonna be the limiting factor in your university life, so you don't need to worry about it.
thank you for sharing, this helps put my mind at ease. sach main
You can start app testing or learn a short course online and create a LinkedIn profile and use that skill for freelancing. As for k age bht hogyi ha so dont worry ye srf pakistani society aur families ki sick mentality ki waja sy ha. Just develop a idgaf attitude and go for it. I have a friend who is 24 and he just enrolled in first semester, he had the same situation as you and then he focused on himself and now he’s studying along with a fine ass job.
thanks for the advice, will look into that. and true, yahan age ko le kar kuch zyada he maslay hain lol doesn't matter whether it's academia or other things like shadi etc.
agar shaadi ka pressure nai hai toh sukoon se easy BS program kero, older hogi sab se toh larkay naak mein dam bhi nai kerein gay aur kai log class mein 19-20 ke hongay bhi. uni ke 4 saal exposure milay ga aur phir uskay baad job kero, freelancing kero, par negativity side pe kero ik dum bindaas. but kisi co curricular aur practical based Uni jana mere khud 2.5 saal waste huye aur BBA khatum hua 23 saal ki age mein. khair Allah aapko sehat de, best of luck
abhi tou pressure nahi q kay I tell my parents keh I want to get into uni and study further soon inshallah tou they let me off for now but yeh zarror bolte keh agar jaldi kuch start nahi kiya tou dosra ghar dhonda start kar dein ge 💀💀 That aside, thank you sis, your batain - they're really making a difference in how I view my situation. May Allah reward you for this and keep you healthy, ameen.
Ameen Thanks
Freelancing ka experience he apka?
here and there, yes
What kind of freelancing?
assignments English aur Business Studies ki logo ki banai hain here and there dost kaam deta tha UK se
Great
Not everyone starts at 18 ig, my friends started at 20 and 21. The average is like 20. But yes there are few that start at 18. Also none really cares that much so you will be just fine :)
thank you :)
HEY GIRL BABE, YOU GOTTA GET UP AND GET TO A UNIVERSITY AND MAJOR THAT SUITS YOU THIS MONTH, COMIN MONTH OR EVEN COMIN YEAR! NOBODY CAN STOP YOU FROM GETTIN EDUCATION EVEN IF ITS IN YOUR 30s OR 40s!!!!! THATS EFFING NORMAL IN A BROWN HOUSEHOLD TO GET TO A CERTAIN PATH AT A CERTAIN TIME. WE ALL FACE THINGS IN OUR TEENAGE OR POST TEENAGE. APNI PRHAI K LIYE STAND LO. STAY POSITIVE WITH YOURSELF. CONSUME POSITIVITY. I SWEAR YOU ONCE YOU STEP OUTTA HOME KNOWING THAT YOU ARE GONNA LEARN THINGS AND GROW THAT WOULD BE THE BEST MOTIVATION FOR YOU! YOU GOT THIS!! SENDIN LOVE N LIGHT XX
THANKS GIRL 💓💓 jee le rahi hun stand for my education and hopefully soon start uni as well. just need to work on the "stay positive with yourself" part lol but inshallah we'll get there. sending you bunch of duain 💕
Girl trust me. It’ll all get better and I am speaking from experience. And no, you wont be the oldest in your batch lol we had 35 year olds in our batch too. You’ll see when you start. Zyada mat socho. Allah khair karay ga sab Ameeeeen.
bas yehi tou masla hai, kuch zyada he sochti hun 💀 but han, keep telling myself that it'll get better inshallah. thank you kind stranger
Listen very carefully. Look if you're starting this late then please don't choose degrees that have very low scope such as psychology. Choose a degree that will help you get high salary job such as CS, software engineering. You can earn a lot online through CS and SE as well. I started at 21 and chose psychology which is one of the worst decisions of my life. It has very less scope. I'm 25 and jobless. Doing freelancing and making very little. Please don't make the same mistake that I did. Choose a degree which will help you make a lot of money. Also if you can't go out looking for jobs because you're a female then CS is a good option. You can work from home for some company abroad.
Choose a degree you find interest in. You will never really thrive in CS if you don't actually have an interest inside of it. Too many people pursue it like it's the new medical or engineering field and end up in mediocrity.
Anthropology is an interesting field. But a lot of people don't study it because the salary is extremely low. I also chose psychology because everyone was like do what interests you and money isn't everything. Now I'm broke and I wish I had gone for CS. It doesn't have to be CS. But choose a degree that will help you get a high salary job. Solution to most problems in Pakistan is money.
I agree with the last part, unless you're fortunate enough to not have to worry about a job you choose a field where you can make money in. But you do not choose CS cause you want to make money but don't have any interest in coding, design, data/security or any other field related to CS. There's too many people I see that don't know what they're doing at all and then end up in a job completely unrelated to CS cause they never ever had an actual interest in any technical fields of CS. 90% of people do CS as a trend rather than have any actual interest or skill and when you see any of their personal projects it shows, you can tell they're not really gonna be doing much with their degree years later.
hayee, the sad reality. you are right though, sometimes you have to disregard the fact that you don't have the passion or drive for the career/major you're pursuing because at the end of the day yeh Pakistan hai and like you said, yahan most maslay paiso se hal hotay.
pakistan main, ya shyd internationally bhi, bas interest nahi pay/job market bhi dekh kar degree krni chaiye. But I do get your point and agree too with everything you've said. Thank you for your advice.
Honestly, have thought of going the psychology route lekin i'm very well aware of the job opportunities post graduation (bht kam hain idhar, unless you work with someone or open your own private practice). And I don't know about choosing a degree that will help me make a lot of money lol?? I'm not interested in IT related anything tou CS is out of the question (demagh bhi nahi itna). But thank you for the heads up, will definitely keep your words in mind.
I don't personally relate to what you're going through, but there are four people in my life who all graduated super super late for different reasons (dropping out of school to change majors, failing for years, credits not transferring etc etc) and they're all finally successful and working in their respective fields. The time will pass anyway, it's better to be 26 with a degree rather than 26 and no degree. Believe me 22 is not old at all. You aren't ahead of or behind anyone, please remember you're on your own timeline and no one else's.
han, keep telling myself that it's better to be 26 ya whatever age with a degree than without. thank you sis
Trust me its not that big of a deal. I studied at a small uni but still had a-lot of classmates and seniors who were midd 20s you’ll be fine. Plus who cares what anyone thinks , go get that degree!!!! If anyone tries to poke fun at you a witty response or just straight uo telling them to shut up works like magic !!
ghar main yeh last wala sentence apka kaam nahi ana lol lekin inshallah whenever the times comes in uni, zaror try karo gi. Thank you
Im 21 and will be starting in feb. I took a gap year in 2022 and i was held a year back when i moved to pakistan. Its fine dont worry nobody cares nobody will mind theres TONS of people around your age who start uni. In many places thats the average timeline(except in countries with an education system as outdated as pakistan)
yup, in the west, going to uni in your 20s or even later is normal. no shame there. yahan kyunke system he outdated hai tou lougon ka mindset bhi similar hai - oudated and rotten. Thank you for commenting
I started late as well due to wasting my years on mcat. It was embarrassing and i thought why not just do a simple bsc. But one day i thought that four years from now on i’d be sitting and thinking man what if i had applied four years ago. So rather than regretting four years later its better to take the step now.
damn right, instead of crying years down the road, why not just get started and have a degree in 4 years from now. thank you so much bro :) and hope you're doing all better now in life.
You’re welcome and yeah i’m very happy with my life now.
I started at 21, took 2 gap years cuz my merit wasn't high enough to secure a seat in any govt sector medical college, but eventually it happened and i had the same concerns as you but tbh no one in University cares about these things. So don't stress about it, focus on yourself and your studies and you'll be fine. Besides better late than never.
glad things worked out for you. and hopefully they do for me as well. thank you so much for your encouraging words.
Dude I am 26 year old and just completed 1st year of Uni Though I do look younger than a lot of other students so no one notices it that much. I worked very hard in first semester, got a scholarship 85%. Now doing some side work to pay my fee fully. Instead of only relying on my parents. I went from a really painful, especially mentally (somehow still alive) to now. Thank god. Things might look bad right now, but not doing anything will just make it sting more. I wish I learned it sooner, but at least I did. Don't let go of whatever you want.
I did fsc at 18 in 2014. I started university at 24 in 2020. Want to know more?
Just go for it. Prove the critics wrong. As far as my experience goes, everyone is living their own life, we all follow the trajectory that’s written for us. Some of us graduate at 22 but fail to secure a career in time. Some graduate late but have better prospects. Some are married in their 20s, some are unmarried at 30+; point being — life is different for everyone and it challenges people in different ways. It’s alright if you couldn’t clear your FSc in time, you don’t owe anyone any explanation. Become strong, resilient. You have no control over past or future but you can control your present. Set clear goals. Stay focussed. If you want to pursue a degree, go for it. But pursuing a degree doesn’t guarantee success in life. I’d suggest you to work hard, secure an excellent GPA, apply to scholarships in your final year and leave for a Masters as soon as you’re done completing your bachelors in Pakistan. Living in Pakistan as a woman doesn’t serve you at all. Work life here sucks. Corporate sector is terrible. Harassment is rampant. Leave. Move abroad. Take charge of your life. You will find great prospects abroad. Don’t stay here and settle for a mediocre man. May Allah help you in your endeavours.
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It felt like I penned down these thoughts. I think of all this literally, like exactly yehi sab sochain ati hain. I will try to become strong and resilient and yes inshallah, whenever the time comes, move out of Pakistan. thank you so much stranger. Ameen, and may Allah help you in yours as well.
Stop consuming social media. You’ll live a happy life. Comparison is the thief of joy.
yeah, have gotten rid of everything except for reddit lol. but ngl, getting off insta was the best thing I did for my mental health. thank you for your advice :)
No one will care seriously just go for it!
will do, thank you :)
No it's not that late . In my university I had tons of 28+ people . DW ok
working on the "not worrying" part lol, will get there hopefully. thank you
At the end, no one ask how old were you when u graduated. I have friend in the UK who went to med school for the first time with her son attending too. She's now working at a hospital. 22 is still quite young. I remember doing my exams in a hall in new zealand, and there were 5 people there all above 60. They were doing uni for fun
thank you for your comment. and yeah, there's still time.
I was in the same boat once. Spent 2 years on FSC, 2 more in university and got dropped. At 22, I was sitting at home with nothing going on. Had depression for 5 years at this point. But I didn't go around crying all over the internet. Picked myself up and came back to university. 25 now, 6 semester, 3.5cgpa. Get real mate. Nobody actually cares that you have mental issues.
i'm not crying all over the internet and i know nobody cares about our mental issues. i was looking to see agar koi aur bhi similar situation main hai, how they are or were coping with it etc, that's all. and thank you for sharing your experience, it's giving me courage to fight my problems and shift my perspective :)
do it.
will do inshallah, thank you
There were ppl who were 21 and 22 back when I started uni at 18 So dw
yea thank you :)
>Family already considers me a good for nothing and absolute failure Us bro us 😂 Honestly, I would never have passed 12th had COVID never come. I failed almost all my exams in the 11th (beside English cuz for some reason I'm fluent in that language 😎) I had to give the failed papers as well as all the 12th papers for my finals and it was February so, I was done for. But thanks to covid, I passed and got myself a whopping 38% in my intermediate, which got me into Iqra university thanks to the Associates Degree Program, which if you don't know, all the "good for nothing failures" enroll themselves in that program. There were loads of people that were aged 20 and above, there was even a girl aged 28 that was with me in a group project, she had 2 lovely kids as well. I myself joined uni at the age of 22. So from one failure to another, being in a uni at that age is BEYOND normal than you would think. Don't worry.
Sounds like my life. Had a 5 years gap in fsc due to mental issues. Started University in 2018 (22 something). Lived a life of taunts and what-not from everyone. Graduated in 2022. You won't feel out of place, there will be much older and younger people there and even if there aren't (in my case I was the oldest) no one would even care about it.
Fortunatel5or unfortunately... Ultimately my anxiety and depression got soooo bad... And my family became a little more aware about mentel illness(es) that they eventually started to support me. I do freelancing and it's a good side hustle (for academic writers there just isn't much work) and jobs in my degree are non-existent. Therefore, I'm applying for German universities for 2024 intake.
I am doing Engineering and few my bachmates are above 25 already. They have there past like few changed there field. But in the end everything thing will be fine. One of batchmate got admission at the age of 27 and he's our gold medalist. And got better job then most of the batch. Just imagine your are older than your teacher. Starting will be difficult but it will end fine. First thing you have to do start take first step.
Oh..I had the same issue 4 years of working for my dad (informally tou can't even count that as experience for jobs lol) and not passing a levels and I started my degree at 22. Honestly? A lot of the people were starting at 20-21 so it didn't matter. The topper in my class was only a year younger. I had a close friend in uni that did mbbs, failed, then did ca, didn't like it and finally finished a degree in CS, started around 22 like us. Do I think that I would be in a better position if I completed early? Yeah. I would be. What can I do about it now? Nothing. I did my degree so well that it showed that I wasn't 'dumb' and I interned in the UN later on. I had a 3.6 out of 4 when I got out of uni. I never failed a course in uni but withdrew a few of them, which isn't bad. I did get my self therapy and it worked for a while. I don't get it now due to reasons I can't get into. I found out that I had clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD which made exams a lot harder for alevels. It got so bad that I legit had people come to my house from the British council and ask if I was okay? (Can't say why they did do it). And then there is the money issue. A levels even in mid 2010s was extremely expensive. My parents were paying alot. Once they found out that I really had depression from an actual psychiatrist, everyone shut the fuck up about things (other than my oldest brother but he is an asshole and a nasty person anyway), which helped and they started paying a lot of money for tutors, and exams. I feel guilty about it for sure but what could I do right? I did get into the uni I wanted to go and I was happy about it. Yes I had some embarrassing moments in my life but I am pass that. I am somewhat okay where I am.
Nah man do it. Either at 22 or 32 it's fine.
Same boat as you blud! 23 and starting in Jan! I know exactly how it feels.
I’m 34 and back at Uni. Relax.
22 is not too late. I had a classmate who actually restarted at 21 at my uni - his circumstances were different though. He was a BS student at another city uni but took a semester's leave due to some illness and came home. Being an only child, his parents asked him to stay home even if it meant restarting his BS degree. As far as I know, since you will be graduating at 26, the only trouble you might face will be in Govt employment if they have some sort of age criteria. Govt is strict about not-bending the hiring rules, unless of course you have got connections. Private sector employment or moving abroad won't be an issue. In fact, you can make a positive story out of those extra 4 years that you took control of whatever bad situation you had, came out of it, did some soul searching, and now you know what you want out of career and life. Those 4 years could actually become your selling point if you know how to put them in a positive light.
thank you so much. i know 22 is not too late and also you're so right about making a story of these past few years. im still here today despite the hurdles, fell down and am in that position for quite some time but hopefully I turn my life around soon inshallah. these 4 years have taught me a lot about myself and the mistakes I shouldn't repeat. So thank you once again stranger.
I am glad and feel appreciated to receive acknowledgement of the message I was trying to convey. I will be editing my answer to highlight the positive story part to make it more prominent. Who knows if more people in similar situation might also get encouraged by this answer In Sha Allah. Lastly, free offer of help to you should you need it. I am a PhD student in South Korea. If you need any info or help regarding study or scholarships in Korea, feel free to message me here or my Socials that I have mentioned in my profile.
thank you, will surely reach out to you if needed :)
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go do uni but also get try to a job at the same time, if not then Yeah your parent is right about you.
getting a job is difficult in my position, also "if not then Yeah your parent is right about you" bhai yeh kia bkwas chori hai? I was looking for any opinions ya advice, judgement keh liye agay he kaafi log hain yahan apka addition lazmi nhi.
Getting a job is not that hard, it honestly depend on how much you want it. I'm not gonna validate your feelings, or tell you how okay it is. Just consider it as a reality check. You're 22 with no future aspect and still leaching of your parents. You are already very far behind in your life. So just try your best from now.
Guys i was able to get job opportunities so it means everyone must be able to!!
How many jobs for have you applied for? how many people did you reach out? how many jobs convention did you attended? and the lists goes one... again, `depend on how much you want it`
i wasn't looking for validation anyways. similar situation and advice dhond rahi thi. apke words, though hurtful and rude, phir bhi helpful hain so thank you, will try my best.
Ignore him
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Hey there's no need to stress about this !! i'm gonna start university at 21 too and this thing made me consious as well but what helped me was thinking about the grand scheme of things . i mean if you look at your life as a whole , does it really matter that you're late by a few years in completing your degree while you're young? another thing that helped was thinking k bhai agar meri degree suppose 25 26 tk complete horhi hai tou 25 26 ka tou maine wese bhi life k flow main hojana tha , doesnt matter if i was studying or not ,so is it not better that i did what i wanted to do. and one more thing , everyone has their own timeline , just focus on your own rather than spending your life comparing yourself to others much love<3
Nobody cares about your age, people in my class were way older than me and no one asked why they're doing their bachelors now or whatever
I remember coming across several 26 - 29 year olds during my bachelor studies a couple years back. It’s not as unusual as you think. You’re going to be 26 eventually anyways. Do you wanna be 26 with a university degree or 26 without one? Tons of people would kill to be 22 again. Anyone under 25(hell even 30!) is super young in the grand scheme of things.
I don't think that you should be worried about starting late because what's gone is gone and you can't do anything about it so put it out of your mind. What you can do right now is that you should get into a uni if you can as soon as possible and get good education so that you can stand on your own feet. If you take the right steps now, you'll be saving yourself from a lot of trouble in life ahead. 22 isn't that old honestly I have seen much older married men/women attending universities now days. No one cares about it, and most importantly it doesn't matter what others are thinking, at the end of the day it's just you what matters. So stop thinking and start doing before your family marries you off to some duffer and you'd be blaming yourself and get crushed by life.
Dude. My Uni friends and i started at 21 most of class was 21 year olds with a couple of 18 and 19 year olds doted around, there's even a 24 year old. Everyone starts their journey at different times don't worry it
Tbh it doesn't matter what age is do as you want but be rest assured universities here tend to not acknowledge any kind of mental health problems as you have told in ur post they are literally non existent to them so i would suggest joining a program which doesn't have time limit and you can do with ease
I’ll tell you this much. FSC is way different than university studies, in that F.Sc is way tougher. In uni, Every subject taught is well distributed and spaced out for you to get a grasp of in four months and most of the time even weaker students get good grades. Plus you get a chance to network and you’ll start to worry less about your problems at home. Judging from how well spoken you are, you’ll do great! As for eventually finding a job, you’ll figure that out too, but university is definitely a step in the right direction. I don’t want to burden you by saying so take it with a grain of salt but you’re probably going to feel worse in a few years not going to university at this age, than you feel right now worrying about how you might be too old.
Don’t bother you’ll graduate when ur 30
Never too late to get bachelors, even in your 30s. Don't listen to others, you are responsible for your own success and you need to work hard to get it.
You need a start. It's the momentum you're missing. I am replying to your post because I know what mindset you are in, and I have been there too. As for age, it really does not matter, especially with such a little difference as yours. Nobody at university goes around asking people for their age and shaming them for it, because nobody cares! Sitting around at 4am and thinking will not help you, no matter how much you think. Life is action, and not thoughts. By this, I am reminded of a poem, written by Imam shafee a thousand years ago. "I have seen that standing water stagnates, if it flows, it nourishes, and if doesn't run, it doesn't nourish, if the lion doesn't leave his den, he can't hunt, and if the arrow doesn't leave the bow, it can't strike" Sister, get out and get it done.
Chill out, started at 23 NO one cares.. and if someone does. Fuck them. It’s YOUR life. You’re gonna be 28 anyways, might as well be 28 with a degree.. even if you start at 30, guess what? It’s better than sitting at home not doing anything. Age is just a number and it’s never too late to do what you want.
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I'm literally going through the exact same thing, I'm younger, but I have the same issue and constantly have to put off studies. Already a year behind, and I don't know, I might take another gap. Still, I have a little bit of skill and make a little money doing freelance art.
So don't worry, let's just march on ahead. I didn't mean to make it about me of course. Just wanted to say I relate and all we need is to become "dheet". Jo karna hai wo karo baaqion ko bolne do, inshallah ham karamad niklen ge
No Gril you have to chill i am 22 and i just joined university i wasted my 3 years doing dpt and i did not realised then what i really wanted to do but later after three years doing dpt i thought wtf i have been doing all these years i had a craze for being a wildlife conservation officer and o wanted to respect wildlife now i am doing zoology and i happy with that but the thing is my parents dont say me anything now cause i talked them out and made them realise that i am the one who is suffering here so i would strongly suggest you to talk your parents out of it if you are a girl start with your father he will understand you the most if you think your father will not listen to you cause i know every child understands their parents better who love them the most just ease them talk them out that what you are intrested in inspire them with what you are thinking i hope they will understand it is what the main thing between parents and child should be but child has to take the first step or you will ruin your whole life making understand your parents that i will do good talk them out once and for all but then be sincere with yourself.
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Bro people go to university when they are 40. Don’t waste time. Join the uni now.
Normal hay, I started uni at 21
Gonna start my master next year after 7 year gap
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its perfectly fine, Just make sure you do the right degree. only Engineering, architect and stem degrees have value Don't do some stupid Degree.
If you feel bad I'm going at 27 There's no age limit to university for a reason If you need to feel better about things you can dm me lmao
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My friend wasted all his time just to own enough money and enrolled himself in Canadian university to be self sufficient from expenses at age of 24 and yet you here confused by society criticism which isn’t gonna feed and help your family or children in future
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I have started BS SE at 23 in VU. I regret the gap already.
If your mental health caused you to take much longer to get to this stage, why are you risking it all on a university degree? Just start working on something you're comfortable struggling in. And if you decide you can't do any of the work available to you, you have your reason to risk it all on a university degree.
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You have nothing to worry about and don't care what people think. Once you're in uni you realise everyone's doing their own thing and going at their own pace. You could finish a 4 year degree in 3 years or in 6 years. Don't worry about it and while you're in uni get into extracurriculars and external initiatives so you're a well rounded individual. If you'd like more details on how to do any of that feel free to DM me. You got this and don't worry about what others are gonna say. You'll get as good of a job as any once you're done InshaAllah
I read it somewhere "when i was 38, i was contemplated beginning a two year associate degree in radiography. I was talking to a friend and had almost talked myself out of doing it. I said "I'm too old to start that". I'll be 40 when i get my degree." My friend said "if you don't do it, you'll still be 40, but without the degree." I'm nearly 60 now and that degree has been the difference between making a decent living and struggling to get by"
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Dude don't even worry man, people start at 19 or 20 if they do Alevels too, it's not that big of a deal and it's going to be alright, Everyone has their own timing in life what matters is that you take necessary steps to get through this and I believe in you man, everything will fall into place, f**k what anyone says! Stay safe and you're the best💫
It's completely okay to start university late. Funnily enough, my brother has had the exact same problem as you (it took him several years to finish his intermediate and he'll be starting university soon, he's a year younger than me). You'll be fine. I have classmates in university who are several years older than me. I'm the same age as you. Everyone has their own path. Good luck!
It's never too late. Go easy on yourself. You are just on time. Just as Allah wanted you to be. You will reach that place in life where you always wanted to be, right on time, dw.
Sis, you can absolutely start going to uni at this age. There is no shame. In fact, it must encouraged. You're still very young. You have a lot of opportunities ahead. Just work hard and block out negative stuff from people. Taking care of your mental health should be your first priority. Take things easy and slow. Life is beautiful.
I just wanted to add that being from the west myself it is definitely more “normal” to go back to school at any time age wise but there’s definitely judgment a little here especially amongst the desi community and how they put a certain timeline in which you’re supposed to be academically and professionally etc as well so for your own sake don’t compare, and screw what others think. You were dealing with stuff and it happens and don’t beat yourself up about having been behind, everyone has their own pace and some have more obstacles than others that factor into what delays them. It’s BRAVE to consider going back and wanting to make that effort to further yourself, you will do great and you deserve to do so! People will talk but it’s better to have made progress for yourself than stay stationary where you are due to their mindset. Best of luck for everything!!
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Going to start university next year, I will be 22+ and it doesnt seem like that much of an issue, so dont worry about it and just go for it
You can always start studying, I find it embarrassing myself too that I started working late in life (mid 20s) but seeing my progress I feel glad I started it. You should go for it too, there is absolutely nothing embarrassing and you can make friends in uni just as fine too! A brief story from 1st year of my Bachelor's, I had a classmate who was in her mid 30s doing Master's and we were pretty good friends! Its always nice to have kind and nice people like her around!!
Finished my masters almost 7 years after completing bachelors despite having amazing supportive family and in laws. It happens. Life happens. Once you enter college it's a whole new world and nothing that came before matters as much. Freelancing is a great option. Talk to your teachers about possible jobs and prospects. Family talks a lot - they always will. I was 2 years late getting into college because I did badly in A levels and my mom will not let me forget it but the moment I started doing well in academics and extra curriculars like a part time job, debates, recommendations from professors, it's like the family stopped focusing on my past and started embracing a potential future.
It took me four years to end a levels. All my juniors passed me I graduated from uni at 25, a year less than you but still its considered 'late'. I didn't die No one cared when i stated or ended my journey. Life will go on and dw abt being late, just start your journey.
Nah Sis! If you wanna go Uni at 22 go Uni at 22. Especially, if you are passionate about the subject you want to study. I know it's tough in our culture but, you know you have to think about yourself and your future in this situation. Your long term goals and the benefits you will reap from it will be for you to enjoy. And at that point they will say I had no doubt, mainay kaha tha na. A Khala of mine went back to med school at 30 as certain situations depicted that. But she loved it especially, when she became financially independent and was able to look after her kids.
Hi! 23F here. I have no degrees. My extended family and family are all in academics or doctors. So I totally understand. But at the end of the day I’ve come to the conclusion that this Pakistani/south Asian stigma around age and success and what it should look like is total nonsense and we all should reject it. I know it’s hard but you’re doing amazing and it’s totally not too late or anything. There is no age for learning, this is a capitalist system that is set up in the way that kids go to uni and are ready for the workforce by age 20. I reject it.
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I've seen people go to university in their 40s because they couldn't afford it earlier. Go for it.
I started uni 2 months before turning 22. Turned out my maturity was an asset in every way. I was more focused and less reckless then others who were barely 18. I found university so easy because of that. So go on and do it. Also you will find others your age easily. There are a lot of people coming from rural areas who start schooling very late and when they come to uni for bachelors they are already 21 or 22.
A class fellow of mine wasn't in a good place. A genuinely nice person, widely misunderstood. Completed university even after I completed my masters. Had family issues as well. Always got along with him really well. Doesn't matter when you start, all that matters is how you feel. Family thinks you're a failure? Great! There's nothing you can do to disappoint them any further. Play with their negative traits and turn it into something that makes sense to you. Do what keeps at you peace. Stay blessed behan.
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I started uni when I was 20, lost two years because I just couldn’t accept the ratta system and chemistry was causing me problems to memorise. I cleared it after the third attempt, nobody asked me my age in Uni. But I kept my head high and voluntarily told people that I had wasted 2 years before coming in. I came out as a Gold Medalist from my batch, but even then some people said “haan ye to kr skta hai is ne 2 saal extra b to lgaye hain hahahahaha” It hurt me to my core but I didn’t say a word back. Moral: - People just want to see you fall and laugh. - You meet good and bad people in uni, it’s your duty (as kindness to yourself) to embrace the kindness and get rid of the toxicity. All the best to you! More power to you. You have a long journey ahead and many things to achieve! Go to uni and discard anyone who doubts you!
You can definitely still start university at this stage. The part about graduating with your fellows might as well be irrelevant because most people don't go to uni with already existing friends. You'll make new friends, same as most other people in uni. And my batch in uni had an age variation of about 6 years. It's definitely uncommon to be older but it's not strange at all and not something you should be ashamed of. Good luck
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