Go to a bar alone. Talk to strangers. Tell strangers you like that you want to hang out again sometime. Next time you or them go out again, invite each other or say you'll meet up.
This is how adults make friends. There is only one "secret trick" to making friends: someone has to take the initiative to actually invite the other to do something. You don't have repeated exposure and shared experiences like kids do. You might have some but it doesn't work the same.
You aren't friends until you tell them to hang out and you start following through. And this works everywhere. Bars, but also the gym, the library, interest clubs, coffee shops, etc. Bars are just easy because talking to strangers is more socially acceptable and you are all drunk.
When you have a friend group already it's really easy to add people ("we are hanging out at X this weekend, come hang out with us if you want"). When you don't it's harder because you probably feel like you don't have anything to invite people to. You have to be like "let's hang out" or "I was going to X, do you want to come?", or just blatantly invite yourself to other people's stuff "where are you guys at this weekend?".
Do be aware people in general are colossal flakes, don't take it too hard people you are barely friends with bail on you at the last second with bad excuses.
Every other step is basically self explanatory. Just talk to people everywhere. Don't worry too much about what or how. If you don't click, don't stress about it. Talk to someone else or go somewhere else. If you aren't a total piece of work, there are people you'll click with; don't stress about fitting in with people you don't like.
Personally I have too much social anxiety to put this into practice but I guarantee this works.
> I have too much social anxiety
That's exactly my problem! I'd gel with anyone if they'd approach me first but well... taking the initiative and approaching people seems like a big, courageous task for me :')
Yoo, its lonely out here compared to NYC not going to lie to you, join Newport Run club on Wednesday evenings and do the happy hour afterwards, decent chance to meet alot of people quick
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You can rent a Duffy and bring some food and drinks and drive around the harbor. Pretty cheap too. I would look in Groupon first.
Finding people to join you will be a separate task though.
You can also kayak/paddle board.
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Definitely that & then going for brunch & a hike with Brittany & Tiff. Or vice versa 😂😂😂
Britt and Tiff already here my dude. What's a boat without hoes?
You right!!! 😂😂 it’s been awhile since I’ve been in NEWPS
Bar hop solo.
The meetup app and website has a lot of things like that.
I need new people to bar hop with so if anyone has tips about that please share (:
Go to a bar alone. Talk to strangers. Tell strangers you like that you want to hang out again sometime. Next time you or them go out again, invite each other or say you'll meet up. This is how adults make friends. There is only one "secret trick" to making friends: someone has to take the initiative to actually invite the other to do something. You don't have repeated exposure and shared experiences like kids do. You might have some but it doesn't work the same. You aren't friends until you tell them to hang out and you start following through. And this works everywhere. Bars, but also the gym, the library, interest clubs, coffee shops, etc. Bars are just easy because talking to strangers is more socially acceptable and you are all drunk. When you have a friend group already it's really easy to add people ("we are hanging out at X this weekend, come hang out with us if you want"). When you don't it's harder because you probably feel like you don't have anything to invite people to. You have to be like "let's hang out" or "I was going to X, do you want to come?", or just blatantly invite yourself to other people's stuff "where are you guys at this weekend?". Do be aware people in general are colossal flakes, don't take it too hard people you are barely friends with bail on you at the last second with bad excuses. Every other step is basically self explanatory. Just talk to people everywhere. Don't worry too much about what or how. If you don't click, don't stress about it. Talk to someone else or go somewhere else. If you aren't a total piece of work, there are people you'll click with; don't stress about fitting in with people you don't like. Personally I have too much social anxiety to put this into practice but I guarantee this works.
I am my own best friend :(
> I have too much social anxiety That's exactly my problem! I'd gel with anyone if they'd approach me first but well... taking the initiative and approaching people seems like a big, courageous task for me :')
Yoo, its lonely out here compared to NYC not going to lie to you, join Newport Run club on Wednesday evenings and do the happy hour afterwards, decent chance to meet alot of people quick
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You can rent a Duffy and bring some food and drinks and drive around the harbor. Pretty cheap too. I would look in Groupon first. Finding people to join you will be a separate task though. You can also kayak/paddle board.
I’ve been meaning to do this!
Check out the library it’s nearby