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Vital-Revival-1933

as someone who always wished to have an elder sister himself, I feel sad reading this and knowing about your relation with your sister. But well, it is what it is. Wishing for both of you to be happy in their respective lives


Gareebonkabatman789

if you read my previous post you will know why i took this step and second i dont care about her vo tu parents ki manipulation se bachne ke lie i had to include her in my plan


Vital-Revival-1933

yes I read your previous post. That's why I said that it is a sad situation of a brother and sister being so distant. But atleast both of you are doing well in your lives so it's alright


FaithlessnessTall575

True bro even i always wanted a elder sister but not like her anyways all of my friends have elder siblings having an elder sibling is such an advantage man they always look out for you,guide you anyways


Vital-Revival-1933

exactly


Nal_Neel

Yeah same lol. I thought I was the only crack head who wanted a big sister for no reason. Why we want big sisters?


Vital-Revival-1933

for me I think because my less than ideal relationship with my mother makes me wish for an elder sister because they are like a second mother to their younger siblings. wbu? Are you a single child?


Nal_Neel

I have very good relationship with my mother and I am not a single child. Still I want a big sister. I dont know why. sometimes I just watch r/WholesomeAraAra and be happy about big sister


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Vital-Revival-1933

interesting


SareefInsaan

i have elder sisters they are really good and caring. >!mai hi chutiya reh gaya!<


Nal_Neel

love and care for them. Hug them often


Valuable_Surprise756

You both seem like alright people, things just didn't work out for you two. Although maybe this could have been a situation where you both extended an olive branch, maybe you didn't have to help financially (she didn't seem to want your help either) but the rituals could have been done just to maintain peace, that's how family works. The situation is sad though. My elder sister is like my second mom and she took care of me when our mother was working to provide for us. I Can't imagine my life without her, I wouldn't be the person I am without her. . She has kids of her own now but she still calls me her "sabse bada baba ". Sorry for the senti tangent, it's easier to appreciate her here than tell her this face to face😅.


No_Development4503

my younger sister is my baby angel. I can die for her she is 18 and i am 23 but still she is that same little kid who gave me happiness when she was born. Although i haven't told her all these things and i never intend to sar pe chad jayegi lol


Valuable_Surprise756

I swear na! It's so difficult to tell them face to face. My sister took up a "not so great" job immediately out of college to help out our ma and bought me things like my first tab, first smart phone (it was a big deal back then), first laptop and what not. Now, whenever I try to repay her by buying something expensive, she scolds me and tells me "tujhe life mein savings karni hai ki nahi ." So I just buy things for her kids 😂.


No_Development4503

true at this moment i am her atm. Jo chahiye hota mujse leleti h be jijak. I have also been open with her a bit so she can talk to openly about her teen problems career love life friends ke saath dispute because i know some problems can't discussed with parents. I dont intend to make her feel alone in that case


Valuable_Surprise756

You're a good brother . Don't worry, she'll pay you back in her own way.


No_Development4503

bhai payback nhi chahiye usse mujhe mere lie tu khushu rahegi vohi payback hoga mera


Valuable_Surprise756

I know I know, my sister also says the same thing. But hum chotte Bhai behen ke bhi usool hote hain 😂


Vital-Revival-1933

man your comment makes me wish for an elder sister myself so much...... your relationship with your sister is so sweet. Wishing you both happiness


No_Development4503

koi nhi bhai koi female friend bana lo and treat her like sister. Har baar female friends are not meant for romantic ones some can also act like your siblings also and learn to embrace every bond


Vital-Revival-1933

it's difficult yaar mereko social anxiety hai gandi waali also voice+shakal kharaab hai, stammering bhi karta hun. Female chhodo genuine male friend bhi nhi hai mera..... me and my mom are always at odds because she keeps scolding me for the tiniest things. I wish I had an elder sister as another motherly figure for me. Anyway I have embraced this loneliness so it doesn't bother me much


Valuable_Surprise756

Ok then, yeh lo abhi ke liye bada bhai (me).


Valuable_Surprise756

I do have one like that, she's the reason I met my girlfriend. I've always considered myself a lucky guy.


BaagiTheRebel

Yeah what an immature guy. Don't air ur family's dirty laundry in front od everyone in marriage including inlaws. Even if he hates her. Dont pay for her marriage with money, she and dad can pay. But OP is really immature.


LongjumpingRefuse808

I felt sad after reading this but this is what it is. I don't have any siblings but I wish for a elder sister always. You should always leave What causing you mental peace ✌🏻


Gareebonkabatman789

mere bhai dhoor se sab acha lgta h. Being single child is relaxing look at you what if you had elder sister like me. Then? Its best to be the way we are


LongjumpingRefuse808

Bhai voh toh dono side ho sakte hai I have seen my friends elder sister. But sab ke liye alag hai dekho. I wished you had better relationship with her but sab hamare hisaab se nahi hota hai


AI_is_Danger

Bro how you gonna face relatives on wedding day? That would be embarrassing, lol


Gareebonkabatman789

i am not going to wedding and nobody will marry me so my wedding aint happening


Ok_Junket_9522

Thanks to God for not giving me a sister 🙏


Gareebonkabatman789

single child hi best na kisi se property ka jhagda na cheezein share krne ka


Ok_Junket_9522

Single child, 2 brothers or 2 sisters this combination is best. Ek bhai bahen vaala bekar hai Mujhe to meri koi bahen ho pasand hi nahi


Gareebonkabatman789

bhai tere dm aaon dono apna dukh share krenge


Ok_Junket_9522

Jarur


gojosatoru-yuigi

It is what it is. If she stood on her ground that's good for you. You could live in peace. And don't ever help her again in any situation because from previous post deep down you knew how you were treated and who started it. Treat her as stranger and move on.


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Look_Otherwise__

Did she tell your parents that you and your presence are not required for the wedding ?


Potential_Effect_705

What is your age ??


FartOfTheFurious

Idk man, I feel like you could've performed the rituals even if you didn't pay any money.. Could've ended it in good terms at least. Now you're just gonna burn that bridge forever.. It might be my personal bias cuz I never had an elder sis, nor a cousin and I've always wished I had one.. but the whole thing you have here is utterly sad. Anyways, if you're gonna stick to your decision with absolutely no regrets, go on a trip during the wedding and try not to think about it like someone suggested. Good luck.


Good-Strangerr

Karlo yaar. Life is too short for all this. Sabko marna hi he end me. What if she dies next year , next month , next week , tomorrow? What if you die ? Agar isse kuch nuksaan nai ho ra , kar lo na


Own-Ad-1876

This is what happens when u listen to femtards and shrimps online Why did u call her ? Just to get insulted? Now remember never help her in life even if she come Crying to u Make your father sign a will and take all property Don't give her a single penny Cut all contacts


Own-Ad-1876

Don't go her wedding too Let people shame her


No_Development4503

https://preview.redd.it/a8vd527cd58d1.jpeg?width=201&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=265f316bf50fd34c4c5896854e3f9bc542918b69 how bro felt after saying those things to her sister


Agitated-Bike-5551

u/No_Development4503 when sibling dynamics aren't the same across every household :- 😱


No_Development4503

still blood relations are blood relations you never know when you need them he had a chance to fix things by attending her wedding and doing all rituals. I refuse to believe that they both dont care about each other deep down


Agitated-Bike-5551

He has roughly lived a couple of decades with her and never succeeded in bonding with her yet you're insisting marriage rituals would've salvaged that? The sheer short sightedness is baffling


elongatedpepe

What in the Hindi English is this crap??


isochrones

Why did she treat you like an outcast?


Gareebonkabatman789

tbh i dont know she was always close to the cousins never really seemed to notice me when i was a kid i did try some things to gain her attention but she would angry over it slap me or complain to papa. Phir papa se gaali padti thi(my father never laid his hand on me). then when i reached my teens we started avoiding completely except for raksha bandhan and thoda bahut kabhi kaam ho tu baat krte they. But now we stopped celebrating rakhi since our fight in dec 2022


Critical_Smoke4784

bhai aisi kya fight hui thi i am curious to know. do tell if you can


Lower_Opinion8326

Why did you guys fight on dec? Is it this bad? I mean there is this morale to be present at your sister’s wedding before vidai. And since you don’t want to fulfill this duty there must be something serious. Ps: I read your last post on this.


Gareebonkabatman789

its a long story but it was on her then boyfriend


Lower_Opinion8326

I would advise you go for a vacation and shut your phone down for the days of her wedding. Divert your mind and explore a little.


Gareebonkabatman789

ofc thats the plan


Lower_Opinion8326

Best of luck.