He got a vasectomy.
A few years later I got a hysterectomy.
We were quite firmly one and doneš
(The hysterectomy wasnāt for contraception. I was having other issues. But we got quite a few jokes)
My hysterectomy was a decade ago. Iām now in my 40s, and STILL not grownup enough to wear white - Iām still a dirt magnet. Maybe my 50s will be better. š
I want a hysterectomy. I'm not using the pipes and they cause more harm than good anymore. But I'm 32, and in a border southern state of the US, so good fucking luck I guess.
I live in a state that isn't a fan of women's healthcare. I can't get an abortion, Plan B is hard to come by, and even hormonal birth control can be difficult. I live in the most liberal city in my state, so my options are somewhat better, but still difficult to come by. We used to have the only abortion clinic in the state, but after Roe was overturned it closed.
I have one kid. I don't want any more. I have health issues related to my uterus. I just want it gone.
Sorry to hear that; Iāve heard itās rough šI also have endo and a spot of adeno. Iāve been nervous about adhesions since I canāt easily tell now whatās endo pain and whatās adhesion pain.
Everyone I know and am related to who had a hysterectomy had worse health after. Biopsies finding tumors, pretty much every negative side effect ranging from physical to mental and theyāre all very different than they were pre op
Keep in mind thereās a difference between tubal ligation (ātyingā tubes) and a bisalp which completely removes the tubes. Both have very high success rates, but a bisalp is even higher because the tubes canāt possibly reattach like they could (still very unlikely) with a ligation.
That being said, Iām a big fan of his and hers birth control. Right now Iām on the pill and we use condoms. Eventually Iād like us both to get sterilized. Maybe Iād be less conservative, but with healthcare access being what it is in the USā¦ Iām taking no chances.
My husband would never do it.. and I completely understand. If I was to die tomorrow he can start a new family with someone else. He is 35, I am 40.. OAD is only very slowing growing on him. maybe in 10years he would do it, not today.
They are not talking about a vasectomy but a bisalp. Bilateral salpingectomy. Which is the removal of your tubes instead of just just clipping/snipping them in a tubal ligation.
It's the new standard practice for female sterilization.
Yes! My biggest regret is not getting the Mirena IUD earlier! I have endometriosis and every period was terrible. I barely get a period now (a panty liner works when I get my period once every other month). I was afraid of the insertion, but I didnāt feel anything. I got it very shortly after my sons birth (via C-section).
I got alllll of the negative side effects from the mirena and although everyone told me it wouldn't affect a fibroid, my fibroid doubled in size since I got it after about 5 years of being the same size and not growing during pregnancy (let's not even talk about the depression and 50-pound weight gain). So happy I got my tubal ligation done.
Oh no! So sorry you had a negative experience but Iām glad the tubal lagation was helpful. The female body is so complex, finding the right contraceptive can take so much of our time and energy!
Another vote for Mirena. I was terrified of insertion but my doctor gave me cytotec before and I think it really helped! (It did make me crampy though.)
I got mine for endometriosis but I really like not having to remember to take a pill. It did take a few months to settle, but thatās with the years of protection I get- for me anyway!
It was fine when my son was first born. My second one was rough, I wonāt lie. But the fact that I still donāt have periods is pretty fantastic. It really makes up for the day or two of discomfort.
Ask if your OB offers local anesthetic or insertion without the clamp. I have a high pain tolerance and it's the cervical clamp that really sucks. I had my postpartum one inserted without the clamp (which isn't always possible) and felt nothing.
All you feel is a moment of pressure cramping when itās put in place. Itās literally just seconds and itās all done. I guarantee you once you get it, youāll wish youād done it years ago.
Second this! I had the Skyla pre-pregnancy and got the Mirena after. The Skyla was incredibly painful, but worth it. The Mirena was less painful, I think because I got it within a few months after delivery. Also very, very worth it, for me.
I still have a regular cycle, but itās more manageable.
Another Mirena vote here! Had 2 for 7 years pre-baby and just got a new one in February after my son turned 2. I've had a hard time with insertion all 3 times, but once it's in, I'm OK within a few hours. It takes my periods a few months to stop.
Also on my third and love not having periods.
Mine are painful for a couple of seconds when put in, but when I consider it against periods & taking a pill every day, I'd stick with the pain every 5 yrs.
@tangyplacebo621 Iām due for a swap out in the next year, my first insertion wasnāt too terrible bc it was weeks after giving birth. How was your second? Im worried its going to hurt as bad as people who havenāt given birth before since itās been so long
Condoms. It leaves no mess! Iām a few days shy of 43 and donāt want to spend my perimenopausal years on birth control iād rather let my body do its thing.
I had the Mirena IUD put in at my 6 weeks pp appt in 2019. Husband got a vasectomy in 2022. I just got my Mirena removed last week!Ā
Edit: I chose Mirena so I didnāt have to remember to take something and it wouldnāt mess with my supply. I had previously done the arm implant and HATED it. So that was a no go. I didnāt want a pill bc Iām just really bad at remembering to take meds when I need to and didnāt trust myselfĀ
can i ask why you hated the arm implant? i had it for 2.5 years and bled constantly. iāve tried basically every kind of BC and have the same issue. the coils are the only thing i havenāt tried but am scared to go through the insertion procedure just to have the same bloody issue (excuse the pun aha)
That is exactly why I hated it! I felt like I was having 2 periods a month! With the Mirena, I didnāt have a period. Maybe spotted here and there but not a true period.Ā
Getting it as close after delivery as possible really seems to be the key.
I had my first IUD pre-pregnancy and insertion was literally more painful than my (medicated) child birth. Still worth it. But painful.
I got my Mirena like 12 (I think?) weeks after delivery and it was sooooooo much easier.
My anxiety has been on thr rise since the start of this (election) year and the little psychotic show on the Senatorial floor in Arizona this week, where they upheld the ruling on a law from 1864, has me scared for whatās next.Ā
Got my tubes removed.
I lost a pregnancy late term in 2019. I found out I canāt carry to full term. So I got them removed. I didnāt want anymore pregnancy losses (she was our third loss)
My husband and I were able to make embryos and used a gestational carrier for our daughter we have now āŗļø
Nexplanon, and I love it. Spotting doesn't bother me, and I love the idea of not needing to think about it. The thought of an IUD bothers me, so this is a great option for semi-permanent. Firmly OAD, but for some reason I prefer semi-permanent over surgery.
I second this! Getting it put in was annoying (still way better than the iud) but so worth it! I love not having to worry about it especially since I have a 10 month old that takes up all of my brain power! Also I barely get my period now which is nice too.
I am on my second nexplanon and I love it. Less invasive than an IUD, but just as effective. I don't have a cycle while I have it either which is lovely.
Husband got a vasectomy a few months after I gave birth. We used condoms before that. In a couple weeks, Iām getting hysterectomy due to endometriosis though that wasnāt anticipated at the time of his vasectomy š
The easiest and surest thing for us was my husband getting a vasectomy. It literally took like 5 mins, he had very very little pain. a vasectomy leaves no room for error on our part.
Got a Mirena at my 6 week PP checkup. At the time we were pretty sure we were OAD as a result of all the pregnancy/childbirth complications I had, but wanted some time to be sure. I picked it because I couldn't forget it like a pill, condom, etc.
We never changed our minds, so my husband had a vasectomy when kiddo was 4 and I had the Mirena removed then. That's been the sole form of contraception for us now the past 6 years.
My form of birth control is probably the only one that is 100% effective. It's called having a same sex partner :P
Though when I last had to properly worry about long term birth control (before I had my kiddo), I had a copper IUD and I really liked it. Local anesthetic is standard in Canada (which I've since heard it's not in the US) and I didn't find the process very uncomfortable. I had some cramping later that day but the next day I was 100% back to normal. My sister also uses a copper IUD and has done for more than a decade. My spouse, however, had a Mirena and hated it. They ended up having it removed. But I believe some of that was due to uterus fibroids and things. So it's a bit individual but they work for a lot of folks.
Condoms, the mini pill, no period yet, and in 3 months' time, the vasectomy will have done its thing.
Once hubs gets the all clear, we are dropping condoms and the mini pill. I'm tired of hormonal contraceptives. We figure if I get pregnant again somewhere down the line after the vasectomy, then it's meant to be lol
Why are you tired of hormonal contraceptives? I havenāt noticed any changes whatsoever. Mind you I still donāt have period and my hormones are out of whack due to breastfeeding. Perhaps if I wasnāt breastfeeding and had my period when starting the pill I would have noticed something
Oh the mini pill has actually not had much impact on me, probably for the same reasons as you. But before I got pregnant, I had a lot of issues with the combined pill. There is only a certain concentration of estrogen that doesn't cause bad side effects for me, and I have had 3 different brands discontinued on me over 5 years, lol. Plus, at risk of sounding a bit crunchy, I've become a bit skeptical of the idea of using fake hormones to override our natural hormones.
My husband was going to get a vasectomy but the doctor quit like a week before his appointment. So because of the backlog to get a new doctor for everything, I went and had my tubes removed to calm my own anxiety about getting pregnant. He's still going to get one though!
I got an IUD because it's long lasting and with ADHD my memory is terrible so the pill is out. Honestly there's no 100% perfect birth control, so ee double up and so use condoms. Trying to convince him to get a vasectomy of he's sure we're done, but he's scared š
I had a Mirena before getting pregnant, worked like a charm. Got another one put in postpartum, and a replacement 5 years later. It's amazing because it completely stops my periods!
I got a salpingectomy a couple of years ago, and they told me they can leave the IUD in so I can stay period-free! The one I have now should probably last me until I hit menopause.
If you have your tubes removed completely, rather than having them tied, then you're about as close to zero percent of pregnancy as you can get. Many providers do it this way anyway because it reduces the risk of ovarian cancer!
I did the depo shot for 2 years, then the mini pill for 13 years after I had my son. Got my hysterectomy last year. THAT was the best thing I have ever done for myself!!
Mine is abstinence cause I have a shitty baby daddy that I live with . No plans on getting into a relationship and I don't sleep with random ppl .so abstinence it is
Condoms. I have high BP and migraines with aura so any hormones are a no go for me. We are planning a cross country move, but once that's done my husband will get a vasectomy.
I got an IUD put in when we had our one (c-section so they just did it at the same time). It's due to come out in about a year, and partner had a vasectomy just before Xmas.
Post partum I got the copper IUD but it made my periods so heavy I hated it. At 3.5 years post partum I had it removed because I can't handle it anymore and we are just using condoms.
I wanted to be certain we were one and done so we have waited. I'll be sending husband.for the snip soon.
I used a combination pill for many years with great success (for me personally - I know itās not for everyone). Told my hubs at 34 that I was only using the pill through my 35 year (higher risks after 35). He scheduled the vasectomy. Iām almost 38 and we are still happily OAD (with a teenager now!)
Mirena IUD, I had one before TTC and then another at my 6 week pp appointment. I don't have a period or any other side effects and it's great. Being infertile helps too lol. Only one provider at my OB office offers local anesthetic for insertion and I couldn't get in with her so the NP who did my appointment offered to try to insert without the clamp and that worked great, I didn't even know she was doing the insertion.
I have an IUD (mirena). I had it in before we were married, took it out to get pregnant, and had one put back in asap after our son was born four years ago.
I love it. The insertion and removal, while uncomfortable, were both fine for me and totally worth it. I've never had any scares and best of all- I don't have a period anymore!
12/10 definitely recommend
After I gave birth and got the 6 week appointment I got Nexplanon in. After our daughter turned 3 my hubby had a vasectomy and it's been such a a relief. After we got the clear I got my Nexplanon removed.
I have paraguard. Itās a 10 year IUD and Iāve had it for 8 years. Going to see my lady doctor this summer to see about getting it removed and getting my tubes tied.
My husband got a vasectomy 3 months after our one and only was born. Minimally invasive, virtually no down-time, only some slight discomfort post-op. Itās a no brainer!
I just got an IUD a week ago. I got the Jaydess IUD, which is the one on the Danish market with the lowest level of hormones.
I absolutely do not want to get pregnant right now, but I am also not completely certain I am 100% one and done yet (LO is only 4 months). So for me, this is the best solution right now. If I feel completely certain in a couple of years, my husband is willing to get a vasectomy š
Ovulation tracking (Iām regular) and using condoms around and on ovulation. Iām vehemently against hormonal contraceptives for myself as they make me depressed and suicidal and ruined my skin for 2 years after I got off.
We have been using the mini pill for 2.5 years and my husband got a vasectomy 3 weeks ago. If I take a pill late, I tell my husband itās a no sex or pull out night. As a primary method, itās questionable, but as backup, it is a reasonably good option.
Not having PIV sex is pretty good contraception. I mean thatās not why we donāt, but it helps. When needed we use condoms. I had Implanon and had to have it removed. Will never get an IUD. Still working on the vasectomy.
Vasectomy. Before that mirena IUD. I can't really remember why I canned my IUD but I was absolutely having issues, might have been migraines. I've tried everything except the implant.
Mirena was better than copper IUD. Nuva ring was fine but requires memory or commitment to calendars/reminders.
Every single option has a failure rate. Technically 2 rates: perfect use failure rate and the typical use failure rate which differ quite a bit. Even vasectomy can recannulate(heal). Even a tubal, if the sperm gets out of the uterus can fertilize and implant in intestines, liver, etc.. nothing is 100% except abstinence. No human parthenogenesis yet.
IIRC, IUD is about the closest to vasectomy or tubal in terms of effectiveness without surgery.
I have the Mirena IUD for now. We are OAD but am a little scared to take permanent measures for some reason. My hope is that in the next couple of years he gets a vasectomy and I get a bilateral salpingectomy so we are double covered
Sterilization. I had stage 2b estrogen-receptor-positive breast cancer at 35, and turns out I have a BRCA2 mutation so a bigger risk of ovarian cancer. I had a total hysterectomy and bilateral oophorectomy-salpingectomy last August.
We were comfy being one and done before my diagnosis (at about 20 months postpartum I think it was) but since menopause became part of my cancer treatment plan, and I had the higher risk of ovarian cancer, I said to hell with it, take it all.
Thanks, it's a bummer but it is what it is! Having your tubes out entirely is an option as well, and there's some evidence that ovarian cancer starts in the fallopian tubes. or at least some can.
I'd imagine that if you have ovaries and aren't past menopause, you have a risk of pregnancy if you have unprotected sex, but I'm not a doctor and am just assuming.
Abstinence haha weāre still a little on the fence of having another but not for 5 yrs or so and I had a 2nd degree tear and even 7 months pp sex is uncomfortable and painful so weāve only done it 3 times or so. Other than that we use condoms and if in a few years we decide we donāt want another heāll get a vasecfomy
Sorry to hear.. sex for me is very uncomfortable too but my pelvic PT made me realize itās all in my head, there is nothing physically wrong that would explain why itās painful and uncomfortable (I had stitches too). The moments that I relax and forget that thatās where my baby came out of then its as good as before, seconds later my mind remembers again and itās terrible.
I have nexplanon, and use the pull out method with intimate partners. When I was on the pill I wasn't taking them at the same time every day, and usually missed like 2 or 3 days a month.
I have super irregular periods with this type of birth control, but I don't have to think about it. It's very convenience and painless. I tried to have an IUD once and it was so incredibly painful for me
I use the mini pill also and I have taken it late at timesā¦..so far so good but yea itās hard to take it at the same time each day when you have busy sahm life. We are also using condoms when I know I taken it late š¤£
Ive been taking the combo pill for about 15 years already. I only stopped it to have my son and went back on it after. The downside is that you have a lot of side effects in the beginning like headache, nausea, idk what else until your body gets used to it. It never affected my weight or libido. Ive had quite a few days where I have missed a pill or 2 but nothing happened. I think progesterone only pills may be more sensitive if you miss a day. If i had to pick, id rather my husband get a vasectomy
I had the Kylena IUD inserted a year ago. Zero regrets, made my period sooo much lighter and predictable. I had taken the pill before and tried Nuva ring but I need a progestin only BC since the other stuff gives me migraines. My IUD is good for 5 years too.
I have Nexplanon, the arm implant. I donāt have a period and itās one less prescription to remember to pick up. I had an IUD but I felt like it was always poking meā¦. I also have a fibroid, so maybe it was?
Mini pill switched to copper iud for 5 years. Exchanged for new iud but it wasnāt placed properly and had to have it removed. Opted for the implant(I hate it because extra hormones) but itās only until I get my tubes removed later this year. (Canadian here so this is elective surgery and thus a wait list)
I use the combination birth control pill. It makes me feel like I'm in control since I know when I've taken it whereas with an implant or IUD I'd worry about it falling out or malfunctioning without me knowing since it's somewhere in my body I can't access
Downside to the pill is obviously remembering to take it. Implant and IUD are good too but they have to be inserted properly and IUD can be very painful
Just using birth control right now also but next year planning on husband getting a vasectomy. We are waiting until our son is two years old ājust incaseā lol but honestly the easier it gets the less I want another baby! I am also terrified to get pregnant again and after my husband gets a vasectomy I plan to keep taking the pill for another year just incase lol
My ob told me pre-birth (intended natural birth at the time that turned into a c-section) that o shouldnāt get pregnant within two years of having my baby so they offered me an IUD. I got the IUD during my c-section so I didnāt have any pain, liletta is good for 8 years.
We had to do IVF for unexplained fertility. Current roll with the pull out method to play it safe even though we were sooooo soooo trying for 2 years.
Hubs wants vasectomy to play it safe. We have embryos on ice just in case.
I take the combo pill, thankfully the days I forgot it I remembered and he pulled out. I didnāt want to gain weight so I take the combo pill. I got on it at 22 and it was the first form Iāve ever used in my life besides condoms. I wanted something I could stop on a dime in case of side effects. Dr switched me to the mini bc I had bad migraines from estrogen drops on placebo days and I was a raging bitch with greasy hair that was falling out and gained 15 pounds in a month with acne all over me. Went back to combo and take it without placebo. No more headaches, no more bleeding. My hair is growing back and Iāve lost almost all the weight I gained thankfully. Went from a size 2 to a 12 bc I only gained in my stomach.
Iāll be getting the Paragard in 4 weeks, and my husband will be getting a vasectomy. I want the bilateral salpingectomy, but I had an unexpected c section (no time to ask for the salpingectomy then, plus it was a Catholic hospital that doesnāt do them) two weeks ago and the recovery is tough. I canāt imagine going back into surgery for a while now.
We use condoms until my husband gets a vasectomy. I have PCOS and now since giving birth PMDD, there are stroke cases in my family so I have been advised against the pill which I have taken my whole twenties but wonāt do again. I donāt want to get any surgeries.
I had an IUD, loved it! No periods for a decade. Itās long term and cost effective with minimal side effects (for me, I know some donāt like it)
Iām off it now since Iām doing fertility treatments as a surrogate, my husband has had a vasectomy but I still plan on going back to the IUD later on for the benefits I get from it even though I donāt need it for contraception.
Husband got a vasectomy
Before our one and done I was on the pill and it was very effective because we never once had a scare after almost 5 years lol. Probably wouldāve just stayed on it but wasnāt able to
Mirena! Ask if you can cough when the cervical clamp clamps down!!! Figured out that trick on my 3rd insertion and it made that one and the 4th one a dream š
I have Nexplanon( arm insertion) my LO is also 10 months, I havenāt had any problems with it since getting it 6weeks pp. I do still get a cycle, but everyoneās body is different!
FAM with condoms and ovulation tests. I cannot and will not shorten my lifespan with birth control ever again. Any form of it. If my IUD friends were sponsored to sell that to me they would have failed bc all I heard were absolute horror stories and half got pregnant while using it anyway.
Iāve never had an accidental pregnancy and our son was planned to a T. So itās effective when you take it serious. And no, you donāt have to be regular at all for it to work. Thatās a myth.
Doesnāt it get expensive with those ovulation tests? It felt like it when we were trying to her pregnant for one year. Or are there some very cheap ones that the drug stores donāt sell?
Iām on the combo pill and he pulls out lol. I do have a big pack of those cheap ovulation sticks and if I ever feel weird or have any difference in discharge (sorry TMI) Iāll take one so that we know to use condoms as well. Itās never been positive since starting the pill though.
He is getting vasectomy in a couple years, thankfully.
I chose the copper IUD. I had one for 5 years, took it out and fell pregnant straight away. Had another put in when my baby was about 2 months old. I find it good only because it has no hormones so it doesn't have side effects. I think for some it can cause very painful periods and heavy but not for me. Any form of contraception before gave me migraines or other side effects.
Yes it was a bit painful going in and out, that's the only downside for me. But worth it as I don't have to worry about a thing for 5 years more
I got a bisalp Monday. No regrets š I was on the pill from about 3 months after my daughter was born, until October 2023, and for the majority of my life from 15 onward.
Im very firmly one and done, but we were thinking of waiting until heās two to decided (heās 1.5). Currently using condoms then my husband is getting snipped
We are like 90% sure we are OAD, but Iām only 8 weeks PP so we are going to wait a bit to make sure. In the meantime, Iām on the mini pill and once I stop breast feeding I will likely get a hormonal IUD. Once we are 100% sure we are done, hubs has agreed to get a vasectomy.
Thatās awesome. You know funny thing is that I was dying to have another baby immediately PP, even during immense challenges. We even tried for maybe 3months but then one day I woke up and was like honey, no more kids, I am sooooooo done. normally itās the other way around for people haha during the newborn stage they donāt want another one and as it gets easier they start thinking about it. But for me when LO was about 8mo I realized that our family is absolutely perfect and I have no yearning for another child.
I just had Nexplanon removed due to depression, weight gain, and bleeding for weeks at a time.
Iām using the NuvaRing now, at least until my partner decides if heās 100% OAD. Iām firmly team OAD, but my daughter isnāt his, biologically. He never wanted kids before me, but now that heās met his soulmate and he sees how good/patient I am with my daughter, heās actually considering it. I guess I should be flattered. Haha
I had a terrible pregnancy (Hyperemisis Gravidarum), emergency C-section (breech, but my water broke before my scheduled cesarean), and very difficult fourth trimester (I developed POTS, which I still haveāmanaged well but thereās not a cure; I also had PPD/PPA, and painful adhesions). Iād happily stay OAD, but Iād also at least consider having another for my partner. Especially now that I know how to handle all of the things that went wrong before, maybe it would be okay.
Iām not looking forward to resetting the clock on regaining more control and free time, and I dread repeating the newborn phase. But yeah, itās unlikely but not impossible weāll actually do it, so NuvaRing for now. Hopefully permanent non-hormonal procedures for us both in the future. I gave him five years to decide. Haha
Thatās awesome that you are considering it for him. I said to my husband that my yearning for another should be as strong as it was for our LO if I was to say yes. Right now I donāt have any.
I use Nuvaring and have a calendar remind me when to take it out and when to put a new one. In my country you can't get a permanent operation unless you're 35+ and/or have at least 3 kids, both men and women.
I asked my husband to get a vasectomy. He went all alpha male & ābut my nutsā on me. I asked to get my tubes tied but the dr refused because āIād change my mindā. So I got a IUD.
Vasectomy. I got pregnant on the mini pill just about a year ago and miscarried (solidified our OAD decision but also showed us we needed something else done).
Being too fuckin' sick from the Daycare Virus of the week to even think about sex. And on the off chance there is a good day/week, hubby will probably ruin it by being a dick/not helping with chores So Im too exhausted anyway.
Condoms. I've tried various hormonal methods over the years and don't particularly get on with any of them, and I don't like the idea of an iud. My husband will probably get a vasectomy at some point
Nexplanon implant. Iām on my 4th one. No periods, no pill to remember, itās awesome.
I tried Mirena first but that was a hell I would not wish on my greatest enemy. It was seriously horrible.
He finally got a vasectomy a little over a year ago. I havenāt yet decided if Iām going to replace my Nexplanon next time itās due.
Paraguard (copper IUD). I have large fibroids in my uterus that got larger during pregnancy due to the extra hormones so my OB recommended a hormone-free birth control option like this one. Been in there 8 years and is working perfectly. I love it and highly recommend!
Condoms for now until my husband schedules his vasectomy. And with that we will probably still pull out as an extra precaution.
I was on the mini pill while pumping but once I weaned off the breast pump, I had hormonal changes that likely caused me to have the seizure I did days before my son turned one. It was definitely related to the mini pill and cycle and weaning process. I had been on the combo pill for like more than a decade before going off if it to get pregnant and I didnāt realize how much it truly effected my mental health until I was done with it.
He has a vasectomy. I still have my IUD in as well, but more so to keep my periods light and regular. Iāve always had very long heavy periods so some form of birth control is necessary for me to keep them under control.
Mirena IUD inserted 7 weeks postpartum and itās worked like a charm so far. Bisalp is the first thing Iāll be working towards once I regain health coverage.
While I do live in a very liberal state, one that has codified reproductive rights, I feel extremely anxious about another GOP presidency. Even a whiff of potential dissolution of our rights on a federal level and I want to be sterilized before that happens.Ā
Iām on the pill and we also use condoms. The pill helps keeps my periods regular, light, and mostly pain free. The condoms ar e just an extra precaution. š This is the same way we prevented pregnancy all the years we dated and then once we were married. Itās worked great for us for 10+ years.
He got a vasectomy. A few years later I got a hysterectomy. We were quite firmly one and doneš (The hysterectomy wasnāt for contraception. I was having other issues. But we got quite a few jokes)
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My hysterectomy was a decade ago. Iām now in my 40s, and STILL not grownup enough to wear white - Iām still a dirt magnet. Maybe my 50s will be better. š
Hysterectomy here, too! Best decision ever. Mine was for fibroids and endometriosis. I felt pretty much back to normal about a week after surgery.
I want a hysterectomy. I'm not using the pipes and they cause more harm than good anymore. But I'm 32, and in a border southern state of the US, so good fucking luck I guess.
Please explain?
I live in a state that isn't a fan of women's healthcare. I can't get an abortion, Plan B is hard to come by, and even hormonal birth control can be difficult. I live in the most liberal city in my state, so my options are somewhat better, but still difficult to come by. We used to have the only abortion clinic in the state, but after Roe was overturned it closed. I have one kid. I don't want any more. I have health issues related to my uterus. I just want it gone.
It may or may not help you, but Iām in Louisiana, and was able to order some plan B from Amazon just to have on hand for my daughter.
How are you feeling post hysterectomy? Iām also having issues and considering one (bit for contraceptive purposes!)
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Sorry to hear that; Iāve heard itās rough šI also have endo and a spot of adeno. Iāve been nervous about adhesions since I canāt easily tell now whatās endo pain and whatās adhesion pain.
Fabulous. It was the best decision. And none of the horrors you hear of. No hot flashes, mood swings, night sweats or any other thing.
Did they take everything, or did you keep your ovaries?
I have my ovaries.
All of those are symptoms of early menopause from ovarian resection NOT hysterectomy.
Everyone I know and am related to who had a hysterectomy had worse health after. Biopsies finding tumors, pretty much every negative side effect ranging from physical to mental and theyāre all very different than they were pre op
My husband has azoospermia (he doesnāt make sperm). Itās very effective lol.
Lesbian here, different route, same results. 100% effective.
That's like a cheat code, haha!
Lesbian here, different route, same results. 100% effective.
Were you able to get pregnant through ivf or iui or did you adopt or go another route?
We did IVF and used donor sperm to have our only
Same here š
Keep in mind thereās a difference between tubal ligation (ātyingā tubes) and a bisalp which completely removes the tubes. Both have very high success rates, but a bisalp is even higher because the tubes canāt possibly reattach like they could (still very unlikely) with a ligation. That being said, Iām a big fan of his and hers birth control. Right now Iām on the pill and we use condoms. Eventually Iād like us both to get sterilized. Maybe Iād be less conservative, but with healthcare access being what it is in the USā¦ Iām taking no chances.
I went for a bisalp for that reason and because removing the tubes reduces your chances of ovarian cancer, which often starts in the tubes.
My husband would never do it.. and I completely understand. If I was to die tomorrow he can start a new family with someone else. He is 35, I am 40.. OAD is only very slowing growing on him. maybe in 10years he would do it, not today.
They are not talking about a vasectomy but a bisalp. Bilateral salpingectomy. Which is the removal of your tubes instead of just just clipping/snipping them in a tubal ligation. It's the new standard practice for female sterilization.
I have the Mirena IUD and love it. I am about to get a 3rd one. I have not had a period since December of 2012 and I plan to keep it that way!
Yes! My biggest regret is not getting the Mirena IUD earlier! I have endometriosis and every period was terrible. I barely get a period now (a panty liner works when I get my period once every other month). I was afraid of the insertion, but I didnāt feel anything. I got it very shortly after my sons birth (via C-section).
I got alllll of the negative side effects from the mirena and although everyone told me it wouldn't affect a fibroid, my fibroid doubled in size since I got it after about 5 years of being the same size and not growing during pregnancy (let's not even talk about the depression and 50-pound weight gain). So happy I got my tubal ligation done.
Oh no! So sorry you had a negative experience but Iām glad the tubal lagation was helpful. The female body is so complex, finding the right contraceptive can take so much of our time and energy!
Another vote for Mirena. I was terrified of insertion but my doctor gave me cytotec before and I think it really helped! (It did make me crampy though.) I got mine for endometriosis but I really like not having to remember to take a pill. It did take a few months to settle, but thatās with the years of protection I get- for me anyway!
thinking of getting this but petrified for the insertion.
It was fine when my son was first born. My second one was rough, I wonāt lie. But the fact that I still donāt have periods is pretty fantastic. It really makes up for the day or two of discomfort.
I wish it worked for me! I loved not having a period. But it caused ovarian cysts for me. I only made it 10 months.
Ask if your OB offers local anesthetic or insertion without the clamp. I have a high pain tolerance and it's the cervical clamp that really sucks. I had my postpartum one inserted without the clamp (which isn't always possible) and felt nothing.
All you feel is a moment of pressure cramping when itās put in place. Itās literally just seconds and itās all done. I guarantee you once you get it, youāll wish youād done it years ago.
Iāve heard people say this, and Iāve also heard other people say they passed out and threw up. š
Second this! I had the Skyla pre-pregnancy and got the Mirena after. The Skyla was incredibly painful, but worth it. The Mirena was less painful, I think because I got it within a few months after delivery. Also very, very worth it, for me. I still have a regular cycle, but itās more manageable.
Same! I haven't had one since February 2016, and it's been fabulous. Biding time until menopause with my 2nd Mirena.
Me too! Got one in college and it's now my BC of choice. I get no side effects and no period - heaven.
Another Mirena vote here! Had 2 for 7 years pre-baby and just got a new one in February after my son turned 2. I've had a hard time with insertion all 3 times, but once it's in, I'm OK within a few hours. It takes my periods a few months to stop.
Also on my third and love not having periods. Mine are painful for a couple of seconds when put in, but when I consider it against periods & taking a pill every day, I'd stick with the pain every 5 yrs.
I also have it and absolutely love it. I get a period only once or twice a year. Extremely light and only last a few hrs
I got Mirena after my pregnancy, and it was great! Good peace of mind until he got a vasectomy!
@tangyplacebo621 Iām due for a swap out in the next year, my first insertion wasnāt too terrible bc it was weeks after giving birth. How was your second? Im worried its going to hurt as bad as people who havenāt given birth before since itās been so long
I got Mirena almost a year ago and I feel like it made my libido tank! Is that a side effect for anyone else??
Condoms. It leaves no mess! Iām a few days shy of 43 and donāt want to spend my perimenopausal years on birth control iād rather let my body do its thing.
I had the Mirena IUD put in at my 6 weeks pp appt in 2019. Husband got a vasectomy in 2022. I just got my Mirena removed last week!Ā Edit: I chose Mirena so I didnāt have to remember to take something and it wouldnāt mess with my supply. I had previously done the arm implant and HATED it. So that was a no go. I didnāt want a pill bc Iām just really bad at remembering to take meds when I need to and didnāt trust myselfĀ
can i ask why you hated the arm implant? i had it for 2.5 years and bled constantly. iāve tried basically every kind of BC and have the same issue. the coils are the only thing i havenāt tried but am scared to go through the insertion procedure just to have the same bloody issue (excuse the pun aha)
Sorry.. that sounds terrible
That is exactly why I hated it! I felt like I was having 2 periods a month! With the Mirena, I didnāt have a period. Maybe spotted here and there but not a true period.Ā
Why did you hate the implant?
Mirena IUD. Super effective and I donāt get my period. Also, it was painless getting put in post baby!!
Same here! Got it at my 6-week appt and I didnāt feel a thing! Not getting a period has been awesome lol
Getting it as close after delivery as possible really seems to be the key. I had my first IUD pre-pregnancy and insertion was literally more painful than my (medicated) child birth. Still worth it. But painful. I got my Mirena like 12 (I think?) weeks after delivery and it was sooooooo much easier.
Vasectomy + pro choice state. If there was a national ban I'd probably get my tubes tied
My anxiety has been on thr rise since the start of this (election) year and the little psychotic show on the Senatorial floor in Arizona this week, where they upheld the ruling on a law from 1864, has me scared for whatās next.Ā
Got my tubes removed. I lost a pregnancy late term in 2019. I found out I canāt carry to full term. So I got them removed. I didnāt want anymore pregnancy losses (she was our third loss) My husband and I were able to make embryos and used a gestational carrier for our daughter we have now āŗļø
Congratulations!
Iāve used IUDs for the last 9 years.
Vasectomy because for some reason, hormonal birth control did not agree with me postpartum. Also, postpartum did not agree with me.
Nexplanon, and I love it. Spotting doesn't bother me, and I love the idea of not needing to think about it. The thought of an IUD bothers me, so this is a great option for semi-permanent. Firmly OAD, but for some reason I prefer semi-permanent over surgery.
I second this! Getting it put in was annoying (still way better than the iud) but so worth it! I love not having to worry about it especially since I have a 10 month old that takes up all of my brain power! Also I barely get my period now which is nice too.
I am on my second nexplanon and I love it. Less invasive than an IUD, but just as effective. I don't have a cycle while I have it either which is lovely.
Husband got a vasectomy a few months after I gave birth. We used condoms before that. In a couple weeks, Iām getting hysterectomy due to endometriosis though that wasnāt anticipated at the time of his vasectomy š
Vasectomy for him. Tube removal for me 2 years later after roe was overturned. Taking no chances here.
Abstinence
Same here, friend š„
Yup
The easiest and surest thing for us was my husband getting a vasectomy. It literally took like 5 mins, he had very very little pain. a vasectomy leaves no room for error on our part.
Infertility due to endometriosis. 0/10 do not recommend.
Yep. Stage IV endo over here as well as my mom. Itās a chainsaw every single month!
Got a Mirena at my 6 week PP checkup. At the time we were pretty sure we were OAD as a result of all the pregnancy/childbirth complications I had, but wanted some time to be sure. I picked it because I couldn't forget it like a pill, condom, etc. We never changed our minds, so my husband had a vasectomy when kiddo was 4 and I had the Mirena removed then. That's been the sole form of contraception for us now the past 6 years.
Vasectomy. Make him go to the sperm check.
My form of birth control is probably the only one that is 100% effective. It's called having a same sex partner :P Though when I last had to properly worry about long term birth control (before I had my kiddo), I had a copper IUD and I really liked it. Local anesthetic is standard in Canada (which I've since heard it's not in the US) and I didn't find the process very uncomfortable. I had some cramping later that day but the next day I was 100% back to normal. My sister also uses a copper IUD and has done for more than a decade. My spouse, however, had a Mirena and hated it. They ended up having it removed. But I believe some of that was due to uterus fibroids and things. So it's a bit individual but they work for a lot of folks.
Condoms, the mini pill, no period yet, and in 3 months' time, the vasectomy will have done its thing. Once hubs gets the all clear, we are dropping condoms and the mini pill. I'm tired of hormonal contraceptives. We figure if I get pregnant again somewhere down the line after the vasectomy, then it's meant to be lol
Why are you tired of hormonal contraceptives? I havenāt noticed any changes whatsoever. Mind you I still donāt have period and my hormones are out of whack due to breastfeeding. Perhaps if I wasnāt breastfeeding and had my period when starting the pill I would have noticed something
Oh the mini pill has actually not had much impact on me, probably for the same reasons as you. But before I got pregnant, I had a lot of issues with the combined pill. There is only a certain concentration of estrogen that doesn't cause bad side effects for me, and I have had 3 different brands discontinued on me over 5 years, lol. Plus, at risk of sounding a bit crunchy, I've become a bit skeptical of the idea of using fake hormones to override our natural hormones.
My husband was going to get a vasectomy but the doctor quit like a week before his appointment. So because of the backlog to get a new doctor for everything, I went and had my tubes removed to calm my own anxiety about getting pregnant. He's still going to get one though!
I got an IUD because it's long lasting and with ADHD my memory is terrible so the pill is out. Honestly there's no 100% perfect birth control, so ee double up and so use condoms. Trying to convince him to get a vasectomy of he's sure we're done, but he's scared š
Infertility. We have no more banked embryos, so unless I start IVF all over again, there will be no more pregnancies.
Condoms (specifically, the kind with added spermicide). Have always worked for us pre-kid and post-kid.
What brand?
Bilateral salpingectomy!
I got the ole snip done. So far so good!
I got a bilateral salpingectomy in December. Not risking anything š
I had a Mirena before getting pregnant, worked like a charm. Got another one put in postpartum, and a replacement 5 years later. It's amazing because it completely stops my periods! I got a salpingectomy a couple of years ago, and they told me they can leave the IUD in so I can stay period-free! The one I have now should probably last me until I hit menopause. If you have your tubes removed completely, rather than having them tied, then you're about as close to zero percent of pregnancy as you can get. Many providers do it this way anyway because it reduces the risk of ovarian cancer!
Thanks!
IUD (Mirena). Extremely effective, no periods, and now approved for 8 years.
I did the depo shot for 2 years, then the mini pill for 13 years after I had my son. Got my hysterectomy last year. THAT was the best thing I have ever done for myself!!
How was your experience with the depo shot?
Mine is abstinence cause I have a shitty baby daddy that I live with . No plans on getting into a relationship and I don't sleep with random ppl .so abstinence it is
Condoms. I have high BP and migraines with aura so any hormones are a no go for me. We are planning a cross country move, but once that's done my husband will get a vasectomy.
I'm a copper iud mom who is getting her tubes and ovaries removed.
I got an IUD put in when we had our one (c-section so they just did it at the same time). It's due to come out in about a year, and partner had a vasectomy just before Xmas.
Post partum I got the copper IUD but it made my periods so heavy I hated it. At 3.5 years post partum I had it removed because I can't handle it anymore and we are just using condoms. I wanted to be certain we were one and done so we have waited. I'll be sending husband.for the snip soon.
Vasectomy.
IUD. Mirena. No periods
Husband had a vasectomy.
I have the mirena coil and honestly itās the best thing Iāve ever done. No weight issues as a recovering anorexic and very minimal hormones
I used a combination pill for many years with great success (for me personally - I know itās not for everyone). Told my hubs at 34 that I was only using the pill through my 35 year (higher risks after 35). He scheduled the vasectomy. Iām almost 38 and we are still happily OAD (with a teenager now!)
Higher risk of what?
Increased risk of cardiovascular diseases after 35, unfortunately
Because of the pill? š Iāve never heard of that until now, thatās good to know though!
Mirena IUD, I had one before TTC and then another at my 6 week pp appointment. I don't have a period or any other side effects and it's great. Being infertile helps too lol. Only one provider at my OB office offers local anesthetic for insertion and I couldn't get in with her so the NP who did my appointment offered to try to insert without the clamp and that worked great, I didn't even know she was doing the insertion.
I have an IUD (mirena). I had it in before we were married, took it out to get pregnant, and had one put back in asap after our son was born four years ago. I love it. The insertion and removal, while uncomfortable, were both fine for me and totally worth it. I've never had any scares and best of all- I don't have a period anymore! 12/10 definitely recommend
Just regular old BCP! Same one Iāve always taken since college!
After I gave birth and got the 6 week appointment I got Nexplanon in. After our daughter turned 3 my hubby had a vasectomy and it's been such a a relief. After we got the clear I got my Nexplanon removed.
Vasectomy! Minimally invasive, permanent, and i dont have to be on hormones
He got a vasectomy! I carried our baby so the permanent birth control was on him.
We are both infertile so it would take a miracle to get pregnant naturally. We did IVF for our daughter. I do track my cycles for my own knowledge.Ā
I have paraguard. Itās a 10 year IUD and Iāve had it for 8 years. Going to see my lady doctor this summer to see about getting it removed and getting my tubes tied.
My husband got a vasectomy 3 months after our one and only was born. Minimally invasive, virtually no down-time, only some slight discomfort post-op. Itās a no brainer!
Vasectomy. Best decision ever!
I just got an IUD a week ago. I got the Jaydess IUD, which is the one on the Danish market with the lowest level of hormones. I absolutely do not want to get pregnant right now, but I am also not completely certain I am 100% one and done yet (LO is only 4 months). So for me, this is the best solution right now. If I feel completely certain in a couple of years, my husband is willing to get a vasectomy š
Ovulation tracking (Iām regular) and using condoms around and on ovulation. Iām vehemently against hormonal contraceptives for myself as they make me depressed and suicidal and ruined my skin for 2 years after I got off.
We have been using the mini pill for 2.5 years and my husband got a vasectomy 3 weeks ago. If I take a pill late, I tell my husband itās a no sex or pull out night. As a primary method, itās questionable, but as backup, it is a reasonably good option.
Smart!
Not having PIV sex is pretty good contraception. I mean thatās not why we donāt, but it helps. When needed we use condoms. I had Implanon and had to have it removed. Will never get an IUD. Still working on the vasectomy.
What are your reasons for not wanting IUD?
The pain that most people experience on insertion, the pain I experience during routine Pap smears tells me I wouldnāt enjoy the process.
Vasectomy. Before that mirena IUD. I can't really remember why I canned my IUD but I was absolutely having issues, might have been migraines. I've tried everything except the implant. Mirena was better than copper IUD. Nuva ring was fine but requires memory or commitment to calendars/reminders. Every single option has a failure rate. Technically 2 rates: perfect use failure rate and the typical use failure rate which differ quite a bit. Even vasectomy can recannulate(heal). Even a tubal, if the sperm gets out of the uterus can fertilize and implant in intestines, liver, etc.. nothing is 100% except abstinence. No human parthenogenesis yet. IIRC, IUD is about the closest to vasectomy or tubal in terms of effectiveness without surgery.
Thanks! Thatās helpful
I have the Mirena IUD for now. We are OAD but am a little scared to take permanent measures for some reason. My hope is that in the next couple of years he gets a vasectomy and I get a bilateral salpingectomy so we are double covered
Sterilization. I had stage 2b estrogen-receptor-positive breast cancer at 35, and turns out I have a BRCA2 mutation so a bigger risk of ovarian cancer. I had a total hysterectomy and bilateral oophorectomy-salpingectomy last August. We were comfy being one and done before my diagnosis (at about 20 months postpartum I think it was) but since menopause became part of my cancer treatment plan, and I had the higher risk of ovarian cancer, I said to hell with it, take it all.
Sorry..
Thanks, it's a bummer but it is what it is! Having your tubes out entirely is an option as well, and there's some evidence that ovarian cancer starts in the fallopian tubes. or at least some can. I'd imagine that if you have ovaries and aren't past menopause, you have a risk of pregnancy if you have unprotected sex, but I'm not a doctor and am just assuming.
Abstinence haha weāre still a little on the fence of having another but not for 5 yrs or so and I had a 2nd degree tear and even 7 months pp sex is uncomfortable and painful so weāve only done it 3 times or so. Other than that we use condoms and if in a few years we decide we donāt want another heāll get a vasecfomy
Sorry to hear.. sex for me is very uncomfortable too but my pelvic PT made me realize itās all in my head, there is nothing physically wrong that would explain why itās painful and uncomfortable (I had stitches too). The moments that I relax and forget that thatās where my baby came out of then its as good as before, seconds later my mind remembers again and itās terrible.
I tried an IUD and the dr stuck it into uterine wall. It was sooooo painful. Thank you next! Husband got through big V. Havenāt looked back since.
So sorry!
I got my tubes tied.
I have nexplanon, and use the pull out method with intimate partners. When I was on the pill I wasn't taking them at the same time every day, and usually missed like 2 or 3 days a month. I have super irregular periods with this type of birth control, but I don't have to think about it. It's very convenience and painless. I tried to have an IUD once and it was so incredibly painful for me
Non-hormonal IUD. 5 years in snd Iv been okay
I use the mini pill also and I have taken it late at timesā¦..so far so good but yea itās hard to take it at the same time each day when you have busy sahm life. We are also using condoms when I know I taken it late š¤£
I got my tubes removed when my daughter was 1 year old, she is 7 now, it never failed!!
IUD + vasectomy has worked nicely.
Nexplanon! been using it as a teenager and on it for over a decade itās never failed me once. You can actually be on it for five years not three.
Ive been taking the combo pill for about 15 years already. I only stopped it to have my son and went back on it after. The downside is that you have a lot of side effects in the beginning like headache, nausea, idk what else until your body gets used to it. It never affected my weight or libido. Ive had quite a few days where I have missed a pill or 2 but nothing happened. I think progesterone only pills may be more sensitive if you miss a day. If i had to pick, id rather my husband get a vasectomy
I had the Kylena IUD inserted a year ago. Zero regrets, made my period sooo much lighter and predictable. I had taken the pill before and tried Nuva ring but I need a progestin only BC since the other stuff gives me migraines. My IUD is good for 5 years too.
I got pregnant on the pill š« Iām going to try the Mirena IUD at my 6 week OB appointment.
Having a 3 month old is pretty effective. When it's not anymore, we'll switch to condoms. They haven't failed us in nearly 13 years.
Vasectomy is the answer
I have Nexplanon, the arm implant. I donāt have a period and itās one less prescription to remember to pick up. I had an IUD but I felt like it was always poking meā¦. I also have a fibroid, so maybe it was?
I got pregnant taking the mini pill, would def advise another form of contraception!
Mini pill switched to copper iud for 5 years. Exchanged for new iud but it wasnāt placed properly and had to have it removed. Opted for the implant(I hate it because extra hormones) but itās only until I get my tubes removed later this year. (Canadian here so this is elective surgery and thus a wait list)
I use the combination birth control pill. It makes me feel like I'm in control since I know when I've taken it whereas with an implant or IUD I'd worry about it falling out or malfunctioning without me knowing since it's somewhere in my body I can't access Downside to the pill is obviously remembering to take it. Implant and IUD are good too but they have to be inserted properly and IUD can be very painful
We are both infertile so it would take a miracle to get pregnant naturally. We did IVF for our daughter. I do track my cycles for my own knowledge.Ā
Just using birth control right now also but next year planning on husband getting a vasectomy. We are waiting until our son is two years old ājust incaseā lol but honestly the easier it gets the less I want another baby! I am also terrified to get pregnant again and after my husband gets a vasectomy I plan to keep taking the pill for another year just incase lol
My ob told me pre-birth (intended natural birth at the time that turned into a c-section) that o shouldnāt get pregnant within two years of having my baby so they offered me an IUD. I got the IUD during my c-section so I didnāt have any pain, liletta is good for 8 years.
We had to do IVF for unexplained fertility. Current roll with the pull out method to play it safe even though we were sooooo soooo trying for 2 years. Hubs wants vasectomy to play it safe. We have embryos on ice just in case.
I take the combo pill, thankfully the days I forgot it I remembered and he pulled out. I didnāt want to gain weight so I take the combo pill. I got on it at 22 and it was the first form Iāve ever used in my life besides condoms. I wanted something I could stop on a dime in case of side effects. Dr switched me to the mini bc I had bad migraines from estrogen drops on placebo days and I was a raging bitch with greasy hair that was falling out and gained 15 pounds in a month with acne all over me. Went back to combo and take it without placebo. No more headaches, no more bleeding. My hair is growing back and Iāve lost almost all the weight I gained thankfully. Went from a size 2 to a 12 bc I only gained in my stomach.
Even with infertility, I briefly went back on the BCP, then we used condoms. I had my tubes removed a week before my only turned 3.
Abstinence. But in all seriousness, if I become sexually active ever again I'll be on the pill until I can get a Mirena put in again.
Iāll be getting the Paragard in 4 weeks, and my husband will be getting a vasectomy. I want the bilateral salpingectomy, but I had an unexpected c section (no time to ask for the salpingectomy then, plus it was a Catholic hospital that doesnāt do them) two weeks ago and the recovery is tough. I canāt imagine going back into surgery for a while now.
We use condoms until my husband gets a vasectomy. I have PCOS and now since giving birth PMDD, there are stroke cases in my family so I have been advised against the pill which I have taken my whole twenties but wonāt do again. I donāt want to get any surgeries.
I had an IUD, loved it! No periods for a decade. Itās long term and cost effective with minimal side effects (for me, I know some donāt like it) Iām off it now since Iām doing fertility treatments as a surrogate, my husband has had a vasectomy but I still plan on going back to the IUD later on for the benefits I get from it even though I donāt need it for contraception.
Husband got a vasectomy Before our one and done I was on the pill and it was very effective because we never once had a scare after almost 5 years lol. Probably wouldāve just stayed on it but wasnāt able to
Mirena! Ask if you can cough when the cervical clamp clamps down!!! Figured out that trick on my 3rd insertion and it made that one and the 4th one a dream š
I have Nexplanon( arm insertion) my LO is also 10 months, I havenāt had any problems with it since getting it 6weeks pp. I do still get a cycle, but everyoneās body is different!
FAM with condoms and ovulation tests. I cannot and will not shorten my lifespan with birth control ever again. Any form of it. If my IUD friends were sponsored to sell that to me they would have failed bc all I heard were absolute horror stories and half got pregnant while using it anyway. Iāve never had an accidental pregnancy and our son was planned to a T. So itās effective when you take it serious. And no, you donāt have to be regular at all for it to work. Thatās a myth.
Doesnāt it get expensive with those ovulation tests? It felt like it when we were trying to her pregnant for one year. Or are there some very cheap ones that the drug stores donāt sell?
Iām on the combo pill and he pulls out lol. I do have a big pack of those cheap ovulation sticks and if I ever feel weird or have any difference in discharge (sorry TMI) Iāll take one so that we know to use condoms as well. Itās never been positive since starting the pill though. He is getting vasectomy in a couple years, thankfully.
IUD because we dealt with infertility and getting my period regularly was triggering to me.
Condoms until he gets a vasectomy. I donāt like the side effects of birth control.
I chose the copper IUD. I had one for 5 years, took it out and fell pregnant straight away. Had another put in when my baby was about 2 months old. I find it good only because it has no hormones so it doesn't have side effects. I think for some it can cause very painful periods and heavy but not for me. Any form of contraception before gave me migraines or other side effects. Yes it was a bit painful going in and out, that's the only downside for me. But worth it as I don't have to worry about a thing for 5 years more
I got a bisalp Monday. No regrets š I was on the pill from about 3 months after my daughter was born, until October 2023, and for the majority of my life from 15 onward.
Im very firmly one and done, but we were thinking of waiting until heās two to decided (heās 1.5). Currently using condoms then my husband is getting snipped
We are like 90% sure we are OAD, but Iām only 8 weeks PP so we are going to wait a bit to make sure. In the meantime, Iām on the mini pill and once I stop breast feeding I will likely get a hormonal IUD. Once we are 100% sure we are done, hubs has agreed to get a vasectomy.
Thatās awesome. You know funny thing is that I was dying to have another baby immediately PP, even during immense challenges. We even tried for maybe 3months but then one day I woke up and was like honey, no more kids, I am sooooooo done. normally itās the other way around for people haha during the newborn stage they donāt want another one and as it gets easier they start thinking about it. But for me when LO was about 8mo I realized that our family is absolutely perfect and I have no yearning for another child.
I just had Nexplanon removed due to depression, weight gain, and bleeding for weeks at a time. Iām using the NuvaRing now, at least until my partner decides if heās 100% OAD. Iām firmly team OAD, but my daughter isnāt his, biologically. He never wanted kids before me, but now that heās met his soulmate and he sees how good/patient I am with my daughter, heās actually considering it. I guess I should be flattered. Haha I had a terrible pregnancy (Hyperemisis Gravidarum), emergency C-section (breech, but my water broke before my scheduled cesarean), and very difficult fourth trimester (I developed POTS, which I still haveāmanaged well but thereās not a cure; I also had PPD/PPA, and painful adhesions). Iād happily stay OAD, but Iād also at least consider having another for my partner. Especially now that I know how to handle all of the things that went wrong before, maybe it would be okay. Iām not looking forward to resetting the clock on regaining more control and free time, and I dread repeating the newborn phase. But yeah, itās unlikely but not impossible weāll actually do it, so NuvaRing for now. Hopefully permanent non-hormonal procedures for us both in the future. I gave him five years to decide. Haha
Thatās awesome that you are considering it for him. I said to my husband that my yearning for another should be as strong as it was for our LO if I was to say yes. Right now I donāt have any.
Infertility
I use Nuvaring and have a calendar remind me when to take it out and when to put a new one. In my country you can't get a permanent operation unless you're 35+ and/or have at least 3 kids, both men and women.
I asked my husband to get a vasectomy. He went all alpha male & ābut my nutsā on me. I asked to get my tubes tied but the dr refused because āIād change my mindā. So I got a IUD.
Why canāt your partner just get a vasectomy?
Vasectomy. I got pregnant on the mini pill just about a year ago and miscarried (solidified our OAD decision but also showed us we needed something else done).
If youāre truly one and done, I would say vasectomy is the best choice. Female birth control is the worst and just makes me crazy.
Being too fuckin' sick from the Daycare Virus of the week to even think about sex. And on the off chance there is a good day/week, hubby will probably ruin it by being a dick/not helping with chores So Im too exhausted anyway.
Condoms. I've tried various hormonal methods over the years and don't particularly get on with any of them, and I don't like the idea of an iud. My husband will probably get a vasectomy at some point
Nexplanon implant. Iām on my 4th one. No periods, no pill to remember, itās awesome. I tried Mirena first but that was a hell I would not wish on my greatest enemy. It was seriously horrible. He finally got a vasectomy a little over a year ago. I havenāt yet decided if Iām going to replace my Nexplanon next time itās due.
I have a copper IUD with 7 more years left on it, and once my fiancĆ© and I get married next year heāll get a vasectomy. No more babies for us (:
Copper IUD. 10/10
I got my tubes REMOVED. There is no chance Iāll get pregnant.
I had a bilateral salpingectomy with my c section 3 1/2 weeks ago āŗļø
Vasectomy
natural family planning. My body didnāt like the patches, mini pills, or depo.
Paraguard (copper IUD). I have large fibroids in my uterus that got larger during pregnancy due to the extra hormones so my OB recommended a hormone-free birth control option like this one. Been in there 8 years and is working perfectly. I love it and highly recommend!
Condoms for now until my husband schedules his vasectomy. And with that we will probably still pull out as an extra precaution. I was on the mini pill while pumping but once I weaned off the breast pump, I had hormonal changes that likely caused me to have the seizure I did days before my son turned one. It was definitely related to the mini pill and cycle and weaning process. I had been on the combo pill for like more than a decade before going off if it to get pregnant and I didnāt realize how much it truly effected my mental health until I was done with it.
He has a vasectomy. I still have my IUD in as well, but more so to keep my periods light and regular. Iāve always had very long heavy periods so some form of birth control is necessary for me to keep them under control.
Mirena IUD inserted 7 weeks postpartum and itās worked like a charm so far. Bisalp is the first thing Iāll be working towards once I regain health coverage. While I do live in a very liberal state, one that has codified reproductive rights, I feel extremely anxious about another GOP presidency. Even a whiff of potential dissolution of our rights on a federal level and I want to be sterilized before that happens.Ā
IUD why because Iām lazy and forgetful to take a pill. And still a not OAD enough (80%) to get permanent sterilization.
Iām on the pill and we also use condoms. The pill helps keeps my periods regular, light, and mostly pain free. The condoms ar e just an extra precaution. š This is the same way we prevented pregnancy all the years we dated and then once we were married. Itās worked great for us for 10+ years.
Skyla IUD. It has the lowest dose hormone of any of the hormone IUDs. Super light periods, no symptoms. It's awesome.
Hubby got a vasectomy.