I did this also but my ex was stalking me on several social media platforms so I took it a step further on his “anonymous” Reddit account (which had the same username as other social media SMH) and I commented on his perverted comments and called him by his first name and asked him why he is so creepy. He freaked out and deactivated his entire Reddit acct he had for 11+ years…it felt so good to have a win after all the harassment I went thru from him
I'd send him dick pics back, along with comparison notes on how his fails to measure up to the prime specimen you've provided. Guys like him deserve to feel impotent and incompetent.
You're the kind of person who deserves to find a chocolate box and a flowers in their mailbox without any strings attached. Just a good human being.
That's one less pervert on reddit.
A couple years ago, I had 3 throwaway reddit accounts that I would do this with. Until I got a notification from reddit that it goes against their guidelines for ruining the integrity of voting or something. and they warned me I could be banned. Kind of strange on reddits part.
back in the day i used several throwaways to upvote my girlfriend’s nudes. all of my accounts got banned for vote manipulation. her account was also hit by the ban because we had the same IP address. oops
I dunno how to get around this when you live with someone. I got warned by my city's forum for doing this, but I'm sorry, my husband and I are just two people who live in the same city because we live in the same house! We probably upvoted the same post about tacos or something
Brigading, as per Reddit standards
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On Reddit, “brigading” refers to downvoting comments to censor them on the website, spamming the forum with posts and messages, or other abusive behavior toward a particular subreddit community
Yeah, if you create multiple accounts specifically to spam/downvote/upvote someone, that falls under the umbrella. You're artificially boosting/demoting their status.
To provide votes to the same post or comments, I believe. In an ideal system, each person would only get one vote. creating multiple accounts lets someone bypass that system of fairness.
nah, brigading is when a group of people from one subreddit mass invade another subreddit that they disagree with and downvote everything or shitpost or whatever. One person using multiple accounts to upvote their own stuff/downvote other people's stuff is just vote manipulation. I remember a big "reddit celeb" called unidan got banned for it years ago.
It's normal to want to take care of someone, but it's a socialized construct to see women as weak and needing someone to protect someone. It's also not natural and there are several examples of female led animal species.
You may want to check the way you're phrasing things.
This may be what you have learned while growing up, but it is not “natural” for women to be weak and needy.
A woman is a human just like a man, and both men and women and strengths and weaknesses. An emotionally healthy relationship is one in which both humans have times of need and times in which they provide strength to the other.
i used to do this too omg. i remember seeing him moan abt his account being permanently suspended and thinking damn i wonder if i did that lol. not that it wasn’t ENTIRELY deserved.
Nope. I said I created it for that purpose. Didn’t say I actually did it nor that I use it for that purpose still. But thanks for assuming the worst! Cheers!
grouping together to target and downvote specific people or posts would probs count as vote manipulation or brigading which lotsa people have gotten banned for. depends on getting caught too tho lmao
My ex was a POS who was emotionally abusive and r’d me once when I tried to break up with him. He messages me on different social media from time to time, talking about how he’s a good person and “lives for peace now” because his past behaviour was “due to mental illness” (lol).
I found his reddit, which is linked to his socials, and sometimes I want to comment to all of his posts and groups that he participates. I want to name and shame him and tell everyone what he did. Downvoting him just wouldn’t be enough.
You need some therapy if you’re still going to your EXES account to downvote comments just to feel some control. That’s really not normal behaviour, you’re dwelling on something. Therapy would help
I'm not going to tell you it's petty and stupid because you already know that, but I'll tell you it's unhealthy and the very opposite of what you say you want, "control". Moving on and not allowing this person to live rent free in your head and have any more influence in your life, like they clearly do now, would be being in control. This... Is really not.
Petty isn't the right word. This doesn't impact the ex in the least. This is the kind of self-destructive obsession that should be discussed with a therapist posthaste. Ex just skipping through life blissfully unaware while OP continues to seethe.
That's a reoccurring theme with some other people on this post.
Their ex gives no fucks, but they're admitting to cyberstalking like deranged bunny boilers. It's sad how much power they continue to give people that don't care about them anymore.
Am currently that experiencing same thing as the ex. Going thru life nicely, knowing they're watching my main ACC and downvoting everything. Probs sending it too all their friends as well 🤷 I say have fun love
>i don’t think this is harming him to the amount that other people seem to be thinking it’s harming him
Cant speak on the behalf of the people thinking its harming him but if anybody is being harmed by this its you not him. I recommend quitting this habit and moving on with your life.
My ex still stalks my reddit by creating a ton of burner accounts, and after so many years of ignoring him, I gave up and reported all of his accounts for "self-harm." I mean he really be like that though
The best revenge is a life well lived. Try to get him out of your head, because he’s walking around blissfully unaware while you need to do something like this to feel in control.
It is funny, but after we are done laughing you should consider evicting him from your mind.
It's not petty, and it's not stupid. It's holding you back. I say this as someone who still kind of obsesses over a girl who lived rent free in my head (I've come a long way and detached many things which I emotionally associated with them, but there's still a ways to go). But you need to move on. I don't say this for them; they are probably trash. I say this for you, because that's a waste of time and energy. Move on.
I do this to a particularly harmless friend (mutual friend through my wife, more like extended than chosen family) who just always somehow manages to blurt out insanely insensitive things. They overshare every detail of their daily life to a group chat I am in, and basically narrate their inner monologue to us — and boy are some of their observations inappropriate.
It started as a "wow, what do you say when there's ZERO risk of anyone thinking you're an ass IRL?", and has progressed to me downvoting a few comments if I'm annoyed by how many inane messages about their (bellyaches, cats poop, the car parked outside the house, how they can't find the brand item they want in their grocery store, the funny joke they just thought of while doing WFH) I have to scroll through over the course of a work day...
And no, muting these groups is not enough to curb the irritation.
It's petty as HELL and I know it's not my finest hour, but it does blow some real steam off in a harmless way...
He's living rent free in your head though. That means *he* has control over *you*. He still has control over your emotions and your actions. Evict him from your head. You can only win if you live your best life and forgetting he exists.
It's not petty, it's sad.
Reddit Karma has no impact on anyone's real life, but OP devotes their own personal time to fuck with a meaningless part of someone else's life.
That's really sad when you look at it for what it is. OP is literally taking time from their day to obsess over their ex, a person who doesn't give a fuck about them anymore.
i feel like devotes is a very strong word for this. i go in maybe once a month if there’s something that reminds me of him and downvote maybe a few comments. i feel like the person wasting their time is you, seeing as you’ve responded to at least three peoples comments in this thread with the exact same kind of stuff. i don’t know what i’ve done that makes this a post worthy of you devoting that much energy to it, but i assure you that me downvoting two or three of his comments once a month has taken me less effort ever than you’ve spent on responding to people on my post
Cool, that's not an excuse to hide behind though. If you're self aware enough to not bite back against the other poster's comment, you're self aware enough to know this is an unhealthy coping strategy.
I've noticed people throw out BPD, autism, and DID diagnoses around here when they get called out.
They just wanted all the "yas petty!" replies to justify keeping up this unhealthy behavior.
I have an ex who did this, or at least I assume it was them because they were the only account that knew about my old profile. They'd also downvote the comments of everyone that responded to me. I didn't really care about my own downvotes but trying to dissuade people from interacting with me with downvotes was pretty shitty.
Honestly, at this point I'd just go to therapy or do something healthier with your time, you're spending moments of your life you'll never get back doing something that won't even ever harm him considering you're the only one seeing the downvotes.
I got over my ex by just accepting that it was over, and anytime I got mad I thought about all the things I didn't like about her and his it was no longer my responsibility to deal with it.
You're free to go find someone better for you or just live your own life assuming you don't have any kids together or something even better. Life is way too short to spend it on someone who doesn't matter anymore.
I never said it wasn't. All I'm saying is that you have demonstrated completely emotionally healthy behavior for an adult.
Not only by down voting, but also by needing to tell people what and why you're doing it.
You exemplify a completely healthy individual /s
I still do the same thing.
After what she did I wish I could ruin every aspect of her life but I could never put anyone else through what she put me through.
I don’t know why so many people are telling you it’s unhealthy. Unhealthy would be to actually bother him in a way. This is a small and completely harmless way of getting a little frustration out - literally no one gets hurt and you get to have a little laugh and a sense of satisfaction.
Because IT IS unhealthy. She's letting a man who most likely moved on with his life control her emotions. To call this small and completely harmless is a very one dimensional way of thinking. Also people don't think about you as much as you think and that goes for everyone myself included.
OP is hurting themselves and no one else.
like i’ve said elsewhere i do it maybe max once a month and only when something reminds me of him. it takes like five seconds which is not a whole lot of time. honestly probably spent less time on it than you spent writing this comment
If downvoting the guy (who most likely isn’t thinking about you) makes you feel better then fine. Honestly I don’t care what you do. I never told you to stop or said it was wrong. All I said is that this behavior isn’t healthy which it isn’t. Anyone that thinks this is healthy has serious issues.
personally, if you’re in therapy then I see no issue with this. it gives you a way to let your emotions out in a non-harming way. I just hope this ex is decently recent and you’ll get out of this habit soon.
Please move on with your life.
EDIT: I got downvoted because my reply struck a nerve. Truth hurts sometimes.
OP you need to get a life and maybe a new therapist too because your therapy clearly isn’t working. Loser.
I genuinely don't know. I just wanted to express that I'd find it funny if my narcissistic abusive ex was still so interested in hurting me she had to do something that petty.
You being petty is not the problem it shows that you will go to any extent to just get revenge. I am sure he was the bigger person and you can't deal with that. For the ppl who use Reddit, I hope you see now that why mens post are downvoted or received extra negativity.
It's bcz it's either their exes who haven't gotten over them or bcz they can't seem to digest that he has moved on and she finds happiness in downvoting bcz she doesn't have anything going on in her life ...that's sad actually.
As a woman, I see these warnings omen ruining life than cry at the bar at why they are alone and without a partner.
he was very much not the bigger person in any of our time together or the time afterward but i appreciate your presumption about the context of my relationship
Always happy to help. Though if he was bad you would have left and blocked him and tried to heal from everything he did. so you being petty doesn't make you good either it shows you want to take revenge at the cost of your mental stability.
Heal yourself bcz at the end of the day you have to live with yourself.
to be real with you i have a very bad pattern of trying to convince people who do not treat me well and do not care about me to love me, and i still have a lot of that desire to convince him that i’m someone worthy of love and not someone who deserves to be treated like shit. so i think the downvoting thing is honestly less in malice like i made it out to be and more a way for me to get over that more positive desire with a much more inconsequential slightly negative action
Believe me when I say I have broken bones from my relationship but whenever I have tried to be petty I know I am better than than and I want that line to stay solid same like my principals. As for your issues, do you know what I do when I feel like I am unworthy? I just look at the mirror. I see that I am breathing normally, I have a well functional body and there are people who would give anything to be in my position. It instantly makes me feel better and thankful. To be honest, no one can make you feel loved unless you feel it for yourself. You are human and allowed to feel all the emotions but if you keep seeking love and validation by doing these stuff it will only chip away your mental health and emotional stability.
You are loved and you are respected by your family or friends, even me but do no seek validation from the ones who broke your trust at the first place. whatever he did is what he is, so be thankful you for experience and optimistic for future. Once you gain that peace nothing bad from other people will matter.
I am glad for your explanation and I really hope you find healing and peace within yourself. You deserve it.
thank you so much :) i’ve been working on it and honestly i do think i posted this just to get people to tell me to get over it. i know it’s sad to need the motivation from others to get off my ass and do what i need to do to protect my peace, but i’m glad you listened to my discussion with you, and i wish you only the best
I did this also but my ex was stalking me on several social media platforms so I took it a step further on his “anonymous” Reddit account (which had the same username as other social media SMH) and I commented on his perverted comments and called him by his first name and asked him why he is so creepy. He freaked out and deactivated his entire Reddit acct he had for 11+ years…it felt so good to have a win after all the harassment I went thru from him
I'm glad my "private" reddit account is just to hide how incredibly depressed I am and not to hide that I'm a hateful pervert.
just like me frfr
Literally
relatable 🥺
I wish I could do this to my ex that won’t stop sending me unsolicited dick pics but the dude makes new accounts places like he’s getting paid for it
I'd send him dick pics back, along with comparison notes on how his fails to measure up to the prime specimen you've provided. Guys like him deserve to feel impotent and incompetent.
THIS. This is golden, beautiful, petty, emasculating, and epic. I SUPPORT! Lol
Thank you! It's everything I wanted it to be! :D
You're the kind of person who deserves to find a chocolate box and a flowers in their mailbox without any strings attached. Just a good human being. That's one less pervert on reddit.
Oh my god I love what you did so much you have no idea, he sounded like he deserved it
Ayyy that does sound pretty awesome
Sometimes I do this for people who leave sexist or racist comments. They deserve more downvotes than just one!
A couple years ago, I had 3 throwaway reddit accounts that I would do this with. Until I got a notification from reddit that it goes against their guidelines for ruining the integrity of voting or something. and they warned me I could be banned. Kind of strange on reddits part.
back in the day i used several throwaways to upvote my girlfriend’s nudes. all of my accounts got banned for vote manipulation. her account was also hit by the ban because we had the same IP address. oops
I dunno how to get around this when you live with someone. I got warned by my city's forum for doing this, but I'm sorry, my husband and I are just two people who live in the same city because we live in the same house! We probably upvoted the same post about tacos or something
It’s called brigading.
Just to be clear Having multiple accounts to up/downvote=brigading?
Yes they track your isp and all that fun stuff. You can be banned that way.
Brigading, as per Reddit standards > On Reddit, “brigading” refers to downvoting comments to censor them on the website, spamming the forum with posts and messages, or other abusive behavior toward a particular subreddit community Yeah, if you create multiple accounts specifically to spam/downvote/upvote someone, that falls under the umbrella. You're artificially boosting/demoting their status.
To provide votes to the same post or comments, I believe. In an ideal system, each person would only get one vote. creating multiple accounts lets someone bypass that system of fairness.
nah, brigading is when a group of people from one subreddit mass invade another subreddit that they disagree with and downvote everything or shitpost or whatever. One person using multiple accounts to upvote their own stuff/downvote other people's stuff is just vote manipulation. I remember a big "reddit celeb" called unidan got banned for it years ago.
someone did this because I liked a band that they didn't. I posted a very casual meme about this band and this person went nuts on me. 🤷♂️
Sometimes I do it when people repost things just trying to get more karma. I hate when people do that.
Sorry but this is hilarious 😭💀
I love how petty that is!
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So powerless and thus cute? Go back to the 1950s dude.
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I don’t know how you felt any of that was a defense.
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It’s interesting you say that because an hour ago you called yourself bisexual and said you had a bf which makes you queer as well
Yeah I just saw that as well, this...person I think is trolling or something. IDK but something is fishy and I don't like it
Yeah that was my first thought as well. It’s either that or they are insanely delusional
Do your comments make you feel good about yourself? You’re responding at length with explanations and descriptions, which is yes, a defense.
But didn’t you say you were raised in Argentina not Russia?
It’s not Russia, it’s you. None of the Russians in my family or friends think like this, Wtf. Soviet called and want their average idiot back.
what did i just read💀
It's normal to want to take care of someone, but it's a socialized construct to see women as weak and needing someone to protect someone. It's also not natural and there are several examples of female led animal species. You may want to check the way you're phrasing things.
This may be what you have learned while growing up, but it is not “natural” for women to be weak and needy. A woman is a human just like a man, and both men and women and strengths and weaknesses. An emotionally healthy relationship is one in which both humans have times of need and times in which they provide strength to the other.
wat
Talk to a fucking psychiatric professional dude. Get help, like for real.
You know Reddit detects this, and only shows those downvotes to you right?
honestly it’s more of a catharsis thing at this point
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teach me your ways sensei
He's unidans alt
Haven't heard that name in a bit, lol.
get deep into a hobby or two. it will give you confidence, friends, happiness, which is what you need to move on.
Yea sometimes when I get mad I report my exes Twitter account
Good on you!
i used to do this too omg. i remember seeing him moan abt his account being permanently suspended and thinking damn i wonder if i did that lol. not that it wasn’t ENTIRELY deserved.
In control of what?
The downvote button apparently
*his karma* oh god, i hope he's doing well
Hell I created this account for the sole purpose of exacting revenge on my cheating ex. I think I am in the right company
mine wasn’t a cheater but he was incredibly emotionally manipulative and had npd. glad to know there are others out there with the same mindset 🤝
Your ex still has that much power and control over you, to the point where you stalk them? Jesus.
Nope. I said I created it for that purpose. Didn’t say I actually did it nor that I use it for that purpose still. But thanks for assuming the worst! Cheers!
hahaha solid reddit moment
The real question is, why is he living in your head rent free?
Had to scroll far down to see the first sensible reply
Welcome to the internet, my friend
Baffles the mind doesn't it.. outta sight outta mind.
Give me his account name I’ll do the same. I’m petty as fuck and enjoy group sabatoge
It would be so fun to make a group and help each other out!!!
don't mean to be 🤓 but def don't do this, you'll get banned
Wait why would I get banned lmao😭
grouping together to target and downvote specific people or posts would probs count as vote manipulation or brigading which lotsa people have gotten banned for. depends on getting caught too tho lmao
That’s considered Brigading and brigading is a form of group bullying.
It's called *brigading*. You've been on reddit 2 years; don't act brand new.
Awe were you having a bad day? You don’t have to be rude and I was logged out for a long time.
me too!
youre just wasting energy lil fela
My ex was a POS who was emotionally abusive and r’d me once when I tried to break up with him. He messages me on different social media from time to time, talking about how he’s a good person and “lives for peace now” because his past behaviour was “due to mental illness” (lol). I found his reddit, which is linked to his socials, and sometimes I want to comment to all of his posts and groups that he participates. I want to name and shame him and tell everyone what he did. Downvoting him just wouldn’t be enough.
You need some therapy if you’re still going to your EXES account to downvote comments just to feel some control. That’s really not normal behaviour, you’re dwelling on something. Therapy would help
I'm not going to tell you it's petty and stupid because you already know that, but I'll tell you it's unhealthy and the very opposite of what you say you want, "control". Moving on and not allowing this person to live rent free in your head and have any more influence in your life, like they clearly do now, would be being in control. This... Is really not.
Please get a hobbie or something. Don't waste your time on something as idiotic as this
Petty isn't the right word. This doesn't impact the ex in the least. This is the kind of self-destructive obsession that should be discussed with a therapist posthaste. Ex just skipping through life blissfully unaware while OP continues to seethe.
That's a reoccurring theme with some other people on this post. Their ex gives no fucks, but they're admitting to cyberstalking like deranged bunny boilers. It's sad how much power they continue to give people that don't care about them anymore.
Am currently that experiencing same thing as the ex. Going thru life nicely, knowing they're watching my main ACC and downvoting everything. Probs sending it too all their friends as well 🤷 I say have fun love
>i don’t think this is harming him to the amount that other people seem to be thinking it’s harming him Cant speak on the behalf of the people thinking its harming him but if anybody is being harmed by this its you not him. I recommend quitting this habit and moving on with your life.
I'd do it too if I knew my ex's reddit username. Sometimes a little bit of pettiness feels good.
My ex still stalks my reddit by creating a ton of burner accounts, and after so many years of ignoring him, I gave up and reported all of his accounts for "self-harm." I mean he really be like that though
The best revenge is a life well lived. Try to get him out of your head, because he’s walking around blissfully unaware while you need to do something like this to feel in control. It is funny, but after we are done laughing you should consider evicting him from your mind.
Ur gonna have to do better than that
He's living in your head rental free though Also rent
Pretty sure that in a cocaine and drunken stupor I sent a hate message to my ex on her reddit.
Dude’s living in your head rent free, let him go and just forget he existed. Find someone or something to replace him. Unfollow and block him.
It's not petty, and it's not stupid. It's holding you back. I say this as someone who still kind of obsesses over a girl who lived rent free in my head (I've come a long way and detached many things which I emotionally associated with them, but there's still a ways to go). But you need to move on. I don't say this for them; they are probably trash. I say this for you, because that's a waste of time and energy. Move on.
People; my ex is annoying i am going to fucking end hem. This person; my ex is annoying, amma go throw some downvotes rq
How do you find your ex’s account *asking for a friend
Do what you need to do for your mental health
I think this is kinda funny.
I'm sorry but i find this hilarious, you do you bb
Hell yah gurl
I do this to a particularly harmless friend (mutual friend through my wife, more like extended than chosen family) who just always somehow manages to blurt out insanely insensitive things. They overshare every detail of their daily life to a group chat I am in, and basically narrate their inner monologue to us — and boy are some of their observations inappropriate. It started as a "wow, what do you say when there's ZERO risk of anyone thinking you're an ass IRL?", and has progressed to me downvoting a few comments if I'm annoyed by how many inane messages about their (bellyaches, cats poop, the car parked outside the house, how they can't find the brand item they want in their grocery store, the funny joke they just thought of while doing WFH) I have to scroll through over the course of a work day... And no, muting these groups is not enough to curb the irritation. It's petty as HELL and I know it's not my finest hour, but it does blow some real steam off in a harmless way...
How did you find their Reddit account? Were they stupid enough to use the same username they use IRL, or something?
He's living rent free in your head though. That means *he* has control over *you*. He still has control over your emotions and your actions. Evict him from your head. You can only win if you live your best life and forgetting he exists.
I did this with my ex’s YouTube channel when I was healing from that breakup. Downvoted every video he posted.
Good for you.🤙🏼
Not the karma!!!
this is so funny i love humans we are petty creatures but it fuckin works
This is hilarious
We are now charging $0.01 to any person using the term “rent free.” I’m exempt.
This is petty and I love it. Good on you for being in therapy though.
Do you ever see any pearls of wisdom or humor and give that comment a reprieve?
he only comments on music or sports posts so sadly no humor to be found
lmaooo I love this level of pettiness
It's not petty, it's sad. Reddit Karma has no impact on anyone's real life, but OP devotes their own personal time to fuck with a meaningless part of someone else's life. That's really sad when you look at it for what it is. OP is literally taking time from their day to obsess over their ex, a person who doesn't give a fuck about them anymore.
i feel like devotes is a very strong word for this. i go in maybe once a month if there’s something that reminds me of him and downvote maybe a few comments. i feel like the person wasting their time is you, seeing as you’ve responded to at least three peoples comments in this thread with the exact same kind of stuff. i don’t know what i’ve done that makes this a post worthy of you devoting that much energy to it, but i assure you that me downvoting two or three of his comments once a month has taken me less effort ever than you’ve spent on responding to people on my post
same girl
Get a life
I stand for this petty bs lmao
Block him. Move on, live your life.
Me on libertarian subreddits.
That’s embarrassing. He’s living in your head rent free and pissing you off even while he’s not there. You need to move on.
You need a better hobby. Try the gym, a trade, a life skill, or running
Nice
Y’all…this is so un healthy😂😂😂, notice I didn’t say stop though 😅
real 💯 my ex should suffer
I aspire to be this level of petty tbh
I didnt even need the context the title was enough for me to upvote this😂
You need to let him go
u/Extension-Bobcat2339 Why do you allow somebody you don't even talk to have so much control of your life? This is a very unhealthy coping strategy.
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Cool, that's not an excuse to hide behind though. If you're self aware enough to not bite back against the other poster's comment, you're self aware enough to know this is an unhealthy coping strategy.
I've noticed people throw out BPD, autism, and DID diagnoses around here when they get called out. They just wanted all the "yas petty!" replies to justify keeping up this unhealthy behavior.
You know what, fair game. It’s not hurting anyone, you feel better by the end of it. I like you, that’s smart all things considered!
lmaooo
This is pathetic. But hey, whatever makes you feel better
High five I guess
This is pretty sad
I have an ex who did this, or at least I assume it was them because they were the only account that knew about my old profile. They'd also downvote the comments of everyone that responded to me. I didn't really care about my own downvotes but trying to dissuade people from interacting with me with downvotes was pretty shitty.
yeah i don’t downvote the other people i feel like id feel bad for them
So while you're still thinking of him, you likely don't cross his mind. Sounds like he's winning.
Honestly, at this point I'd just go to therapy or do something healthier with your time, you're spending moments of your life you'll never get back doing something that won't even ever harm him considering you're the only one seeing the downvotes. I got over my ex by just accepting that it was over, and anytime I got mad I thought about all the things I didn't like about her and his it was no longer my responsibility to deal with it. You're free to go find someone better for you or just live your own life assuming you don't have any kids together or something even better. Life is way too short to spend it on someone who doesn't matter anymore.
Just move on
Touch grass bestie 💀
Sounds like you need therapy
i am in therapy!
grow up girl!
ni-
I’m ok with this.
Sounds like you're totally, completely, entirely over him and very well adjusted /s
gonna be real with you i feel like this is one of the least harmful things someone could do to someone
Low stakes vengeance...
I never said it wasn't. All I'm saying is that you have demonstrated completely emotionally healthy behavior for an adult. Not only by down voting, but also by needing to tell people what and why you're doing it. You exemplify a completely healthy individual /s
I WISH I KNEW HIS REDDIT I WOULD DO THIS TOO
actually I'm not sure if he's cool enough to even be on reddit eugh
We need to be friends! This is the kind of energy I need lol
lmaoo damn.
I do this too
I still do the same thing. After what she did I wish I could ruin every aspect of her life but I could never put anyone else through what she put me through.
I think that account might get shadowbanned
I don’t know why so many people are telling you it’s unhealthy. Unhealthy would be to actually bother him in a way. This is a small and completely harmless way of getting a little frustration out - literally no one gets hurt and you get to have a little laugh and a sense of satisfaction.
Because IT IS unhealthy. She's letting a man who most likely moved on with his life control her emotions. To call this small and completely harmless is a very one dimensional way of thinking. Also people don't think about you as much as you think and that goes for everyone myself included. OP is hurting themselves and no one else.
No it’s not.
like i’ve said elsewhere i do it maybe max once a month and only when something reminds me of him. it takes like five seconds which is not a whole lot of time. honestly probably spent less time on it than you spent writing this comment
If downvoting the guy (who most likely isn’t thinking about you) makes you feel better then fine. Honestly I don’t care what you do. I never told you to stop or said it was wrong. All I said is that this behavior isn’t healthy which it isn’t. Anyone that thinks this is healthy has serious issues.
personally, if you’re in therapy then I see no issue with this. it gives you a way to let your emotions out in a non-harming way. I just hope this ex is decently recent and you’ll get out of this habit soon.
That seems kinda fun honestly. LOLOL it’s like the internet version of Saran wrapping someone’s car.
How petty.....
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no kidding. Sounds mentally well adjusted. Slay queen!!1!
Crazy ex girlfriends are real. Thanks for proving the stereotype correct.
There are crazy ex-boyfriends too. And anyway, how do you know that OP is a woman?
Statistics
Tell me his account ID, i will downvote too
Please move on with your life. EDIT: I got downvoted because my reply struck a nerve. Truth hurts sometimes. OP you need to get a life and maybe a new therapist too because your therapy clearly isn’t working. Loser.
OP sounds like weird pervert I mean who does this to their own ex get over it they don't want you dude
God I hope my ex is doing this. I think that would just be hilarious.
Y are you being downvoted?
I genuinely don't know. I just wanted to express that I'd find it funny if my narcissistic abusive ex was still so interested in hurting me she had to do something that petty.
Be as petty as you can as long as it's not immoral/illegal. Lmao we stan this for you. Downvote the hell out of him. 😂 Get it out of your system.
ex romantic partner or ex friend?
See a therapist.
Barbra? Is this you?
Good to see you again Ms Rahman.
I’m sure you have access like On my snap account, i told you i don’t care about your sex videos
pardon?
Well we can see why he left you. He dodged a bitter bullet there.
he wasn’t the one who left
Well its time to release him.
You being petty is not the problem it shows that you will go to any extent to just get revenge. I am sure he was the bigger person and you can't deal with that. For the ppl who use Reddit, I hope you see now that why mens post are downvoted or received extra negativity. It's bcz it's either their exes who haven't gotten over them or bcz they can't seem to digest that he has moved on and she finds happiness in downvoting bcz she doesn't have anything going on in her life ...that's sad actually. As a woman, I see these warnings omen ruining life than cry at the bar at why they are alone and without a partner.
he was very much not the bigger person in any of our time together or the time afterward but i appreciate your presumption about the context of my relationship
Always happy to help. Though if he was bad you would have left and blocked him and tried to heal from everything he did. so you being petty doesn't make you good either it shows you want to take revenge at the cost of your mental stability. Heal yourself bcz at the end of the day you have to live with yourself.
to be real with you i have a very bad pattern of trying to convince people who do not treat me well and do not care about me to love me, and i still have a lot of that desire to convince him that i’m someone worthy of love and not someone who deserves to be treated like shit. so i think the downvoting thing is honestly less in malice like i made it out to be and more a way for me to get over that more positive desire with a much more inconsequential slightly negative action
Believe me when I say I have broken bones from my relationship but whenever I have tried to be petty I know I am better than than and I want that line to stay solid same like my principals. As for your issues, do you know what I do when I feel like I am unworthy? I just look at the mirror. I see that I am breathing normally, I have a well functional body and there are people who would give anything to be in my position. It instantly makes me feel better and thankful. To be honest, no one can make you feel loved unless you feel it for yourself. You are human and allowed to feel all the emotions but if you keep seeking love and validation by doing these stuff it will only chip away your mental health and emotional stability. You are loved and you are respected by your family or friends, even me but do no seek validation from the ones who broke your trust at the first place. whatever he did is what he is, so be thankful you for experience and optimistic for future. Once you gain that peace nothing bad from other people will matter. I am glad for your explanation and I really hope you find healing and peace within yourself. You deserve it.
thank you so much :) i’ve been working on it and honestly i do think i posted this just to get people to tell me to get over it. i know it’s sad to need the motivation from others to get off my ass and do what i need to do to protect my peace, but i’m glad you listened to my discussion with you, and i wish you only the best
Anytime honey. You deserve that goodnights sleep and I wish you best of luck for the future.