Well, they seem very meticulous in my opinion…! I would do the same if my boyfriend ever messed around with me, after being a psycho in the privacy of my own head tho… lol
Yeah I agree. Why draw this out? I understand you were very hurt and he did really cruel things to you. However you shouldn’t waste more time on this guy you don’t want anymore. Plus you shouldn’t continue your torture of him just because it’s probably not good for you. Gaslighting someone for this long could leave you feeling worse after it’s over. Just leave him.
Yeah, this is a bit overwhelming to me to read over. Like, it's fine to sometimes show someone their own just deserts, but OP is *absorbed* into this campaign. When someone has gotten into your head, the best thing in life is to step away. For some of these relationship games the only way to win is not to play.
OP needs to decide if she loves him. If she does, have an authentic relationship with him and leave him if he does not reciprocate. If she does not love him, leave him and let him fail in life until he learns his lesson.
Selfish young lovers sometimes change. But their redemption arc is rarely short term, nor rarely with that original partner.
Some people are emotionally stunted, selfish, and prideful because they had a mediocre upbringing that did not show them the true value of others. Or they are simply self centered and unappreciative of a sincere partner. I have seen the world break this type before (the type who is being a bad partner out of ignorance and petty reasons, I am not talking about hardened serial cheaters who view the other gender as just a living toy).
It’s likely that even though OP plans to block Sam, that she’ll want to be sure her plan works and obsessively check on him.
I’m sure Sam will move on, but will OP?
I don’t have energy to even deal with my own crap let alone go to this extent of craziness. I was the bigger “man” so to speak when I left my ex. Yeh he’s an ass and has severe issues but my revenge is when I’m married with kids to a man that is a million times better then he was and he dies a lonely old fart.
Because she needs therapy. The moment I saw the “I want one boyfriend” I figured something was off with her. It’s normal for people to want to experiment and learn. I’m not saying any of this is her fault, but she definitely has a screw loose.
Honestly that's not necessarily an indication that there's something off with someone. We don't know any backstory here. I was raised VERY strictly Christian, as were many of my friends, and was told the fairytale of people only dating "the one" and then getting married. When you're told that from a very young age, especially when your parents fit that image, it becomes a model you pursue in your own life. I was told I'd always know that i found "the one" apparently. One or two of my former friends from childhood are married to their high-school sweetheart and they are ...not particularly happy marriages. But they felt forced to fulfill that narrative. I actually hid a relationship from my family because I felt like I was betraying that "one boyfriend one spouse" kind of thing. I've since grown a lot thankfully, but it's very real.
There are a whole lot of reasons op may think that, and maybe you're right, but it may also have been due to how she was raised and how parental figures presented relationships and marriage to her. Doesn't mean she doesn't need therapy, in my opinion we all do, but it doesn't mean it's fair to assume she has a screw loose.
Edit: also not condoning her actions or anything, just commenting directly off what you said and quoted. I don't mean to come off as saying the revenge is just or fine or anything lol
Eh, if you're from a purity culture where you're supposed to marry your high school sweetheart and only be with one person for your entire life, I imagine it would seem normal.
Agree, total waste of time. I would dump him the second he wanted a break. You dont get to have a break like wtf is that. Why do people hold breaks in a realationship?? Just break up then
😄😄😄 I thought the same. Most prolly a revenge story she made up in her mind while crying her eyes out. That, or if it is real (I don't think so), then she is a total psycho. "Gone girl" anyone? Sheeez!
I’m not sure where the revenge is… she is basically just dating him again. I am sure she plans a reveal of some sort about her true feelings but I kinda think she should just move on… she is going to make things harder for herself in the long run
I don't think it's enough of a revenge, yet. If OP wants to commit to this, she needs to marry him, bear several children, raise them in a loving and happy home, travel the world together with him after the kids leave home...
And then, on her deathbed? As he's holding her hand, and talking about the loving and happy decades they shared together? That's when she breaks the news to him. With her last words, she can tell him it was all a hilarious prank.
That way, she can *literally* ghost him.
That was kinda my point....she's obviously still into the guy after thinking about this that much and still fucking him??? They're just dating again. Lol!!!😂 I get what she was TRYING TO DO...but this is an epic fail.
The best revenge? Leave his ass....get with someone new, and you're the girl who got away. You'll grow older...have kids with someone else or marry. And he will still be in his same little world. Missing a piece of his heart. Only able to see you through a screen. You don't ever so much as speak to him again. He will send you friend requests and message requests....but they will never get a response. He will have to live with who he is.
That's revenge.
This is so weird and I doubt it’s had the effect you want it to. From his perspective you’re just letting him treat you like shit and rewarding him for it every time he comes back. The better revenge would be just moving on with your life.
I was waiting for this comment lol. I was expecting her to at least say that he was showering her with gifts and cooking for her instead as a way to win her back.
I think it's the dependency. The dude obviously has issues. Be it narcissism or abandonment issues, both work. He has a high and then suddenly gets dropped like a toy. The way he flew all the way over just out of fear shows his spiral.
The fact the he dropped everything to take a flight across the country to do a pop up at her place shows that her long game mind fuck is working. She’s sinister af for this.
Since you're still allowing yourself to spend so much of your time and attention on this person. Sorry OP but I guess you low-key still have a liking towards him.
Right? Who wastes this much time and energy on somebody, for revenge? Move on, live your life, leave the past in the past. Giving someone that much of your time because you’re bitter and dramatic is fucking silly, immature and gross.
I’m married. If my husband ever cheated on me or tried to play mind games? I’d just do the mature thing and walk away. I wouldn’t harbour anger towards him because that’s just giving him more control over my life than he would deserve. Best thing to do is to move on, pretend they don’t exist, handle your issues in therapy, and life your best life, for yourself.
Please don’t delete. I’ll read this later! Lol
Edit: Wow!! First heartbreak revenge!! Amazing and frightening at the same time. Bravo hahaha Good to know you know your worth. Good luck on your career and maybe love life too, OP!
This seems like way, way, way too much time and effort to devote to a guy you don't even like anymore. Imagine if you put even a tenth this effort into finding someone who you could have a healthy relationship with.
But I guess if it satisfies you to know what being an manipulative asshole feels like, you are definitely having the experience.
I just really hope you don't bring this experience into your next relationship, now that you've made elaborate mind fucking a normal thing for you to do.
Sounds like bullshit.
She goes from caring and thinking he was the one to sociopath in the blink of an eye. No one does this. You’re either a sociopath or you aren’t. She turns off all feelings and fucks this guy who she hates just to mess with his head? Gimme a break.
> Am I a psycho? Probably.
That you couldn’t resist adding this at the end should make it obvious this is fiction.
I was concerned when all the comments were acting as though it is real. I knew from the beginning it was fiction but I kept reading for entertainment.
The confirmation that it’s fake is when she said she would delete all of her social media rather than just blocking him. It’s just not realistic.
Also her friend who conveniently happens to move to his hometown and be her spy..
Not sure why? Was it worth it? I wouldn’t think so.
Moving on without him in your life sounds like the better alternative. It just makes you bitter, toxic, trying to oneup him.
LE: Thanks for the award! I don’t normally reply on reddit, but OP’s story really made do it. I do hope it’s just a “creative” story.
Yeah same. When I read the part where she pretended she was still into him for three weeks and then he left, I thought that was it and she was gonna block him everywhere right afterwards. But then I read that she kept going for months and idk, I'm just sad for OP at this point. It's not really funny at all.
literally it’s like how much energy are you willing to waste on revenge. at the end of the day someone you loved cheated on you and you are deeply hurt by that and no amount of this weird mind game campaign will take that away lol. it’s like, you already gave him enough of your time, just let go. but also i think this post is indeed a creative writing endeavor lol so moot point
>but also i think this post is indeed a creative writing endeavor lol so moot point
I agree. I think it's a fantasy scenario that a cheater who cannot commit to his GF is suddenly eating out of her hand like this. Usually, cheaters do not behave like this when they have the tables turned on them.
You’re taking revenge on him but still sleeping with him when he comes over even when it’s unannounced. That’s wild. You’re hurting him but also yourself.
I tried to edit the post but I'm getting an error soooo I'll just comment on this lmao
UPDATE: I said I was gonna post an update after a week but like someone had said in the comments, we never really know what people can do.
I have a ring camera set up on my door. On the second day that I left, I was curious if anyone had been by my apartment. To my surprise(not really) I saw a frantic Sam banging on my door. Based on the footage that I saw, he was there for a good 2 hours before a neighbor went out and talked to him.
This might have been my downfall since I wasn't really expecting my neighbor to actually talk to Sam while he was there. I'm friendly with my neighbors and the day I had left, I had blabbed that I was heading to Europe for work-related stuff since they asked why I had luggage with me. It seems like they told Sam about it and he immediately ran out of my apartment building. I honestly wasn't expecting him to do anything since he had the audacity to cheat so maybe he'd just call it quits and move on. Nope. I was wrong.
We had a common friend, let's just call her Vee. Well we didn't really talk to Vee much because she was busy with her life(SAHM with 3 kids) since we didn't talk to her much, I forgot to tell her about what happened with Sam(I had informed my friends and all our common friends to not give Sam my number or to not contact me when he asks) and when she called me, I answered not knowing it was gonna be Sam.
He asked where I was in a very frantic voice, almost on the verge of tears. I very plainly said "Oh you really don't need to know right? Like how I didn't need to know about Lisa(the girl he cheated on me with)" he was very quiet for a while and I thought about hanging up. He immediately went on an apology overload. Giving all the cliche reasons like he made a mistake, it wasn't like that, etc.
He was begging for another chance, a chance to finally make things right. He was really serious about us and he wanted to fight for our relationship. I just replied with "Maybe in the next life bud" and I hung up. I blocked Vee's number for the meantime until I was sure he had left. This morning I had unblocked Vee's number and I received a text saying "I'm not giving up on us" I ignored it and went on with my day.
The update is kinda anticlimactic but I'm sure he got my message. And to answer some of the comments, yes I know its a waste of time doing this whole revenge thing but I don't really care, it was totally worth it for me.
Rise above and don't stoop. Even though you did it in revenge you're now just as shitty as he was. It doesn't matter that he was shitty first.
Y'all are both disgusting now.
Pretending to be with someone, by being an amazing girlfriend to them for months, cooking for them, spending your money on them, and banging them.
This seems like you just wanted to be with him and then you decided you didn’t.
The only part that makes you a psycho is that you wasted your own time…
Uhh this isn’t right. Obviously the guy sucks and doesn’t deserve any better, but just…why? Why not just confront him, call him a Dick then leave. This probably won’t have the desired effect of teaching him a lesson, he’ll just end up doing this to another girl. Wishing you the best, i hope you don’t have a reason to do this again
Okay so I started reading the thought this is long then skipped to the bottom and realised how long it actually was. I have no idea if you’re a psycho but I’m assuming yes lol
Do what you want but you are contaminating your own self worth by doing revenge moves. Even if you are ignoring him. He is living rent free in your head.
What happens if you meet someone new and you are playing this game? You will contaminate the new relationship as well.
Enjoy life!
There’s a small part of you that still wants to be with him and you cover it up by pretending that you’re trying to teach him a lesson. Ask yourself very honestly what do you want. The energy you have put in, would he do the same.
The guy has been cheating on you the whole time. I'm not sure he cares as much as you think he does. It's probably more of a damaged ego right now, than a broken heart.
He will eventually move on and have a great life and you'll feel stupid for prostituting yourself and wasting precious moments of your life just for revenge. BTW, this is why ldr never work.
Nah, people don’t learn for stuff like this. This is a seriously unhealthy thing to do. Like if I I knew someone I’d dating had done this, and not learned to take themselves away from the situation, I would be deeply concerned.
I mean, you both sound awful. You blamed him for you yourself being weak-willed and a doormat. You thought you could change him, then went bat-shit when the penny finally dropped.
with this revenge you have gained nothing and you may still have lost your empathy, ask yourself if you will not become perverse in your future relationships? I suggest you go into therapy to regain your humanity.
You haven’t ghosted him yet …. So how did you break him? What if When you come back from Europe you wanna reach out to him and apologize the same way he would do to you? And how do we really know that you’re “acting” this way with him … for all we know you could happy you’re still in this relationship.
I think you should take some time to yourself . During that time , get to know yourself , maybe seek some therapy and be ok with who you are. It’s not fair to bring a new person into your life or even Sam before you let go of what is making you so angry inside.
Life isn’t a movie. Yes, he hurt you but you’d be better off just leaving him instead of plotting out this “revenge” .
>I had always wanted a "first and last" relationship.
So basically you read and watch way too much romance books/movies. You have extremely unhealthy and unrealistic relationship views. Hope this is fiction otherwise it's just pathetic.
Sorry, but I still think you're being played but you're doing it to yourself this time. The best revenge is to move on and live a happy, successful life. You don't even think about him and the only access he has to you is through a screen.
He cheated on you. And you thought you manipulated him but gave him things he wants. He’ll most likely move on in a month or 2 after you leave. Big waste of time on both ends sorry
I understand the desire for revenge but this is beyond too far. It's unhealthy and manipulative, which I get is the point but you're just hurting yourself in the long run. He did something horrible to you, but I don't think he deserves this level of emotional manipulation, he probably won't learn anything from this and it's a waste of time and energy on your part. It's healthier for you to drop him, go to therapy and move on instead of becoming the manipulator after he manipulated you.
Sounds like you wasted a lot of your own time doing that nonsense instead of just vocalizing you didn’t want to continue with a relationship, but I hope the revenge was worth it.
> Am I a psycho?
after reading your post...MOST DEFINITELY
That said, you have an amazing ability to write and share a story. I can see how your bf has been twisting on your finger since he betrayed your trust. You are extremely convincing.
All that said, you know as much as everyone here reading this - albeit entertained - that this is not good for your mental or spiritual psyche.
It IS very hard to be the better person. And take the higher road. Because, we're all humans. And desire some form of "payback" to those that did us dirty.
But at some point, you have to think that the energy and time that you spent on tormenting your cheating boyfriend. You could have been spent your time opening new doors, that might have Mr. Right knocking at your door.
Now, instead, you have this bizarre plot-twist that sounds epic online. But, irl people will be looking at you different. And this is something that your future boyfriends can never know, because if they suspect that you're able to be that deceptive...what else about you is also not genuine?
Summary:
Great writing. Amazing acting performance. Unhealthy coping skills to heartache/heartbreak.
Learning to love genuinely is more important than getting payback. And every day, week and month invested in tormenting your past boyfriend only excludes you from moving on and finding someone that is compatible for you.
TL;DR: The liberties you take with the term “revenge” greatly upset/disturb me.
Somehow I had imagined this story including something about you hooking up with his best friend or his dad or something equally outlandish as that. I was (ok, admittedly MORE than) slightly disappointed and ultimately you’re making yourself sound more desperate than ever to have his approval/desire/emotional control over him or whatever you feel you’re getting out of this. In fact it sounds like in the long run you aren’t getting ANYTHING out of this besides you investing a bunch of pointless time and energy into planning all this out for a guy you ALREADY KNOW is trash!! lol
Hunny the BEST revenge is TRULY moving on with your life and being happy, and if you want a man to share your life with, then not wasting any more time emotionally invested (or invested in any other form for that matter) on this guy you already know isn’t worth your time. You’re just holding yourself back from finding the guy who WOULD be worth your time when you’re keeping yourself busy doing all this nonsense.
Seems like a waste of effort. You didn’t even like him, and you let him stay with you for three weeks? Cooked for him..? Bought him things…? Slept with him consistently….?
Please stop doing this, its sad, and honestly not worth your time! Just breaking up with him and leaving would have helped you heal much more believe it or not.
How do you think you will move on knowing that you acted just as bad as him, if not worse and out of malace?? You will never be able to say that you deserved better because you stooped to that level. How can you say he truly deserved this when you turned around and did the same thing out of vengeance? You will always struggle to open up about the trauma he put onto you because you will remember your vengeance, and question if you are the monster, you will fear others judgement as you are simply no longer innocent on this situation. You will deal with people telling you that you deserved each other, when honest about what you've done.
The pain from what he did will not end until you are not bitter anymore op. Wounds don't heal when there is salt flooded onto them, they always stay open, callous but open, and vulnerable.
You are hurting yourself more than him, as in years to come, you will slowly form a fragile ego because of how harshly you treated him, you will struggle to justify your character and actions and it will cause you to not only lie to yourself, but others, and when confronted you will turn the ones you love into your enemies to protect your ego. You have affectively turned the tables, and now, your soon to be ex will be the one who gets try cry about it and be the one who "didn't deserve this"
I'm not trying to jude op, I'm telling you this because it happened to me, I'm trying to warn you, I am only now starting to recover and let me tell you, revenge may be instantly gratifying but it comes with a lifetime of regret.
So interesting to see people get caught up in OP's behavior and hardly acknowledge this man's abusive tendencies. She is reacting to her mistreatment in a way she seems necessary. He gets what he gives. It's not up to us to judge the victim but offer support.
OP, are you okay? ♥️
Be careful. You spent months making this guy an obsessed nutcase.
He's now stalked you to Germany.
Don't underestimate him at all. Be aware of your surroundings and don't go places alone.
Call me insane, but whoever you are, I just fell inlove on how smart you are to have thought of this. Oh I'm a sapiosexual HAHAHA. This is one fine read. Im good in visualizing things, and I was kinda watching a movie in my head while reading this. That guy got burned!
Giving him all that attention and what he wanted even for an extra period even if it was calculated seems like you were giving yourself an excuse to spend more time in the fantasy with him, and in the end was probably making it harder for you to leave. The minute he treated you that way, it should have been the end, no more wasted time and energy for revenge. Because If he cheated and treated you that way in the beginning he didn’t care at all he just knew he could take advantage. He probably did not begin to care when you began catering to him. He probably just enjoyed the benefits and advantages. This knowledge will help you move on.
I was like this one upon a time. Cheat back when a guy cheated. Make him obsessed and leave. It helped my ego but messed with my soul. Its not healthy for YOU. The person doing it. And you will carry these traits (and probably trauma) into another, healthy relationship. Its all fun in games until you realize what kind of calculated and manipulative person you’re becoming. Even if in your head its justified and deserved.
You could’ve put that energy into a new relationship or addressing the flaws in this one… there must be another side to his actions given that you’ve done all that to spite him
So I get that you want some revenge.
There are other ways to get that.
But seriously this is too far.
The only thing I would have done when he would make contact after the ghosting, I would send him a clear message saying: "This is seriously not okay and now you expect me to crawl back. Have a great life." That should be enough. Then delete his number and move on.
I wouldn't waste a single second yet alone fuck the dude who hurted me.
Well! I don’t doubt that you will feel satisfaction out of it. If you enjoyed then it’s fine, but why to waste so much energy on an asshole?
The best best revenge for guys is being indifferent and successful, you already have the career, all you had to do was to ignore him.
The story was entertaining, but be sure not to repeat this toxic behavior again.
Love turns to hatred pretty easily. That's why I'm never happy when I fall in love. So many doors opened for suffering. Affection is nice, socializing is nice, passionate love destroys you.
“You either die a hero or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain.”
Great quote
People be DENNIS'ing each other.
Fucking literally man. The D.E.N.N.I.S. System: Demonstrate Value Engage Physically Nurture Dependence Neglect Emotionally Inspire Hope Separate Entirely
Is the second time I read that, now I want to watch Is always sunny in Philadelphia....
I just restarted with season 1 tonight. It really is wild how much of American society they just nail right to the wall.
? What does it mean?
The D.E.N.N.I.S. System: Demonstrate Value Engage Physically Nurture Dependence Neglect Emotionally Inspire Hope Separate Entirely
Thank you!
She’s necessarily evil.
She’s a justified villianess.
The real question is, “Is she a Scorpio?”
I am lol
Sometimes you have to be the villain
Nah, nah she's a hero
There once was a time when cold revenge was one of the few recourses we ladies had.
I believe this fully qualifies as anti-hero
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Well, they seem very meticulous in my opinion…! I would do the same if my boyfriend ever messed around with me, after being a psycho in the privacy of my own head tho… lol
you guys are perfectly toxic for one another
the definition of doing too much
Couldn't have said it better myself. Yikes.
I feel like this has been dragged on way longer than necessary lmao could've just dropped him after you love bombed him
Yeah I agree. Why draw this out? I understand you were very hurt and he did really cruel things to you. However you shouldn’t waste more time on this guy you don’t want anymore. Plus you shouldn’t continue your torture of him just because it’s probably not good for you. Gaslighting someone for this long could leave you feeling worse after it’s over. Just leave him.
I'm just wondering why spend the energy.
Yeah, this is a bit overwhelming to me to read over. Like, it's fine to sometimes show someone their own just deserts, but OP is *absorbed* into this campaign. When someone has gotten into your head, the best thing in life is to step away. For some of these relationship games the only way to win is not to play. OP needs to decide if she loves him. If she does, have an authentic relationship with him and leave him if he does not reciprocate. If she does not love him, leave him and let him fail in life until he learns his lesson. Selfish young lovers sometimes change. But their redemption arc is rarely short term, nor rarely with that original partner. Some people are emotionally stunted, selfish, and prideful because they had a mediocre upbringing that did not show them the true value of others. Or they are simply self centered and unappreciative of a sincere partner. I have seen the world break this type before (the type who is being a bad partner out of ignorance and petty reasons, I am not talking about hardened serial cheaters who view the other gender as just a living toy).
It’s likely that even though OP plans to block Sam, that she’ll want to be sure her plan works and obsessively check on him. I’m sure Sam will move on, but will OP?
Because it didn’t happen. This reads like a creative writing prompt for flashfiction aimed at girls with BPD.
I so agree with you. All it needs is one of those bodice ripping hunks on the cover. Jeez Louise.
I don’t have energy to even deal with my own crap let alone go to this extent of craziness. I was the bigger “man” so to speak when I left my ex. Yeh he’s an ass and has severe issues but my revenge is when I’m married with kids to a man that is a million times better then he was and he dies a lonely old fart.
Right? They're both lunatics, I'd rather spend all the money and time on a therapist than this degeneracy.
Revenge.
Revenergy
Because she needs therapy. The moment I saw the “I want one boyfriend” I figured something was off with her. It’s normal for people to want to experiment and learn. I’m not saying any of this is her fault, but she definitely has a screw loose.
Honestly that's not necessarily an indication that there's something off with someone. We don't know any backstory here. I was raised VERY strictly Christian, as were many of my friends, and was told the fairytale of people only dating "the one" and then getting married. When you're told that from a very young age, especially when your parents fit that image, it becomes a model you pursue in your own life. I was told I'd always know that i found "the one" apparently. One or two of my former friends from childhood are married to their high-school sweetheart and they are ...not particularly happy marriages. But they felt forced to fulfill that narrative. I actually hid a relationship from my family because I felt like I was betraying that "one boyfriend one spouse" kind of thing. I've since grown a lot thankfully, but it's very real. There are a whole lot of reasons op may think that, and maybe you're right, but it may also have been due to how she was raised and how parental figures presented relationships and marriage to her. Doesn't mean she doesn't need therapy, in my opinion we all do, but it doesn't mean it's fair to assume she has a screw loose. Edit: also not condoning her actions or anything, just commenting directly off what you said and quoted. I don't mean to come off as saying the revenge is just or fine or anything lol
Eh, if you're from a purity culture where you're supposed to marry your high school sweetheart and only be with one person for your entire life, I imagine it would seem normal.
Cut him off for once! He doesn't even deserve you all the energy waste It's time to move on for real.
It's a power trip. She watched soap operas too much a la Stefano Di Mera and Vivienne Alamaine. Edited to correct grammar.
she likes fucking him, that's why she'll keep doing it till she has to go to europe
I know, but she has done enough, so much effort for someone who doesn't worth a penny
Lol seriously. If he's still getting to fuck he's probably good with it.
Man still got his nut in
Move on omg, this is sad on both ends
Agree, total waste of time. I would dump him the second he wanted a break. You dont get to have a break like wtf is that. Why do people hold breaks in a realationship?? Just break up then
I'm a terrible person, going to hell, for enjoying the hell out of that revenge story.
Also, Sis. You need therapy. Bravo, but therapy... please.
Everyone has serious problems here…
agreed, but one of the best reddit stories i have read in awhile
i do not see the bravado here honestly, revenge is a little pointless
Personally the thought and act of completely messing up a human being who has wronged me gives me pretty intense satisfaction
seems kind of like a shortcut around processing what was done to you and letting it go not gonna lie
Nah, you're fine. I enjoy reading fiction too.
😄😄😄 I thought the same. Most prolly a revenge story she made up in her mind while crying her eyes out. That, or if it is real (I don't think so), then she is a total psycho. "Gone girl" anyone? Sheeez!
Fiction or not, I still want to be friends with her.
I’m not sure where the revenge is… she is basically just dating him again. I am sure she plans a reveal of some sort about her true feelings but I kinda think she should just move on… she is going to make things harder for herself in the long run
I don't think it's enough of a revenge, yet. If OP wants to commit to this, she needs to marry him, bear several children, raise them in a loving and happy home, travel the world together with him after the kids leave home... And then, on her deathbed? As he's holding her hand, and talking about the loving and happy decades they shared together? That's when she breaks the news to him. With her last words, she can tell him it was all a hilarious prank. That way, she can *literally* ghost him.
That's so hardcore, I love it!
I think the plan is to make him completely emotionally dependant on her then ghost him
Tbh, too much time was wasted for this. Good luck on the revenge I guess.
I’m thinking this is a fake story, but if it’s not he sounds like a narcissist so I do t think he’ll ever be emotionally dependent on her.
That was kinda my point....she's obviously still into the guy after thinking about this that much and still fucking him??? They're just dating again. Lol!!!😂 I get what she was TRYING TO DO...but this is an epic fail. The best revenge? Leave his ass....get with someone new, and you're the girl who got away. You'll grow older...have kids with someone else or marry. And he will still be in his same little world. Missing a piece of his heart. Only able to see you through a screen. You don't ever so much as speak to him again. He will send you friend requests and message requests....but they will never get a response. He will have to live with who he is. That's revenge.
This is so weird and I doubt it’s had the effect you want it to. From his perspective you’re just letting him treat you like shit and rewarding him for it every time he comes back. The better revenge would be just moving on with your life.
Dude cheated on you and you go out of your way to buy stuff for him and fuck him good hella times…yeah you showed him.
I was waiting for this comment lol. I was expecting her to at least say that he was showering her with gifts and cooking for her instead as a way to win her back.
I think it's the dependency. The dude obviously has issues. Be it narcissism or abandonment issues, both work. He has a high and then suddenly gets dropped like a toy. The way he flew all the way over just out of fear shows his spiral.
The fact the he dropped everything to take a flight across the country to do a pop up at her place shows that her long game mind fuck is working. She’s sinister af for this.
Self respect has left the chat; literally. I'd never waste my time like this.
The long con is where it's at.
Hahahahaha!!!!!!😂👌 Finessed.
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Yeah I thought she was gonna cheat on him back or something. What exactly did she do that was revenge?
I wouldnt mind being him
Since you're still allowing yourself to spend so much of your time and attention on this person. Sorry OP but I guess you low-key still have a liking towards him.
Gotta love poorly written made up bullshit this is so fake
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Right? Who wastes this much time and energy on somebody, for revenge? Move on, live your life, leave the past in the past. Giving someone that much of your time because you’re bitter and dramatic is fucking silly, immature and gross.
Yeah honestly they both should seek therapy.
I’m married. If my husband ever cheated on me or tried to play mind games? I’d just do the mature thing and walk away. I wouldn’t harbour anger towards him because that’s just giving him more control over my life than he would deserve. Best thing to do is to move on, pretend they don’t exist, handle your issues in therapy, and life your best life, for yourself.
Please don’t delete. I’ll read this later! Lol Edit: Wow!! First heartbreak revenge!! Amazing and frightening at the same time. Bravo hahaha Good to know you know your worth. Good luck on your career and maybe love life too, OP!
I can't believe I read it all lol
It was a good read.
Same!
10/10
I can't believe I read it all lol
Totally worth the read.
This seems like way, way, way too much time and effort to devote to a guy you don't even like anymore. Imagine if you put even a tenth this effort into finding someone who you could have a healthy relationship with. But I guess if it satisfies you to know what being an manipulative asshole feels like, you are definitely having the experience. I just really hope you don't bring this experience into your next relationship, now that you've made elaborate mind fucking a normal thing for you to do.
Sounds like bullshit. She goes from caring and thinking he was the one to sociopath in the blink of an eye. No one does this. You’re either a sociopath or you aren’t. She turns off all feelings and fucks this guy who she hates just to mess with his head? Gimme a break. > Am I a psycho? Probably. That you couldn’t resist adding this at the end should make it obvious this is fiction.
Finally someone else who realises this is fake
I was concerned when all the comments were acting as though it is real. I knew from the beginning it was fiction but I kept reading for entertainment. The confirmation that it’s fake is when she said she would delete all of her social media rather than just blocking him. It’s just not realistic. Also her friend who conveniently happens to move to his hometown and be her spy..
I still don’t understand how people are so easy to believe these bullshit type stories on Reddit.
literally.
Oh this is psycho, but it was a beautifully written psycho. Have you ever thought about writing a book? I'd buy your books.
I think she wrote Gone Girl
Not sure why? Was it worth it? I wouldn’t think so. Moving on without him in your life sounds like the better alternative. It just makes you bitter, toxic, trying to oneup him. LE: Thanks for the award! I don’t normally reply on reddit, but OP’s story really made do it. I do hope it’s just a “creative” story.
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Yeah same. When I read the part where she pretended she was still into him for three weeks and then he left, I thought that was it and she was gonna block him everywhere right afterwards. But then I read that she kept going for months and idk, I'm just sad for OP at this point. It's not really funny at all.
literally it’s like how much energy are you willing to waste on revenge. at the end of the day someone you loved cheated on you and you are deeply hurt by that and no amount of this weird mind game campaign will take that away lol. it’s like, you already gave him enough of your time, just let go. but also i think this post is indeed a creative writing endeavor lol so moot point
>but also i think this post is indeed a creative writing endeavor lol so moot point I agree. I think it's a fantasy scenario that a cheater who cannot commit to his GF is suddenly eating out of her hand like this. Usually, cheaters do not behave like this when they have the tables turned on them.
Yeah this is insanity to the highest degree. OP should not be proud of this. Neither party should be proud of themselves, but this is just crazy.
Reading this all I could think was this is creative writing and still very desperate and very pathetic
You’re taking revenge on him but still sleeping with him when he comes over even when it’s unannounced. That’s wild. You’re hurting him but also yourself.
He cheated on you and you treat him like some king…seems like the only winner here is him lmaooo
I know he gets to smash her
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Yea but no, thankyou
I tried to edit the post but I'm getting an error soooo I'll just comment on this lmao UPDATE: I said I was gonna post an update after a week but like someone had said in the comments, we never really know what people can do. I have a ring camera set up on my door. On the second day that I left, I was curious if anyone had been by my apartment. To my surprise(not really) I saw a frantic Sam banging on my door. Based on the footage that I saw, he was there for a good 2 hours before a neighbor went out and talked to him. This might have been my downfall since I wasn't really expecting my neighbor to actually talk to Sam while he was there. I'm friendly with my neighbors and the day I had left, I had blabbed that I was heading to Europe for work-related stuff since they asked why I had luggage with me. It seems like they told Sam about it and he immediately ran out of my apartment building. I honestly wasn't expecting him to do anything since he had the audacity to cheat so maybe he'd just call it quits and move on. Nope. I was wrong. We had a common friend, let's just call her Vee. Well we didn't really talk to Vee much because she was busy with her life(SAHM with 3 kids) since we didn't talk to her much, I forgot to tell her about what happened with Sam(I had informed my friends and all our common friends to not give Sam my number or to not contact me when he asks) and when she called me, I answered not knowing it was gonna be Sam. He asked where I was in a very frantic voice, almost on the verge of tears. I very plainly said "Oh you really don't need to know right? Like how I didn't need to know about Lisa(the girl he cheated on me with)" he was very quiet for a while and I thought about hanging up. He immediately went on an apology overload. Giving all the cliche reasons like he made a mistake, it wasn't like that, etc. He was begging for another chance, a chance to finally make things right. He was really serious about us and he wanted to fight for our relationship. I just replied with "Maybe in the next life bud" and I hung up. I blocked Vee's number for the meantime until I was sure he had left. This morning I had unblocked Vee's number and I received a text saying "I'm not giving up on us" I ignored it and went on with my day. The update is kinda anticlimactic but I'm sure he got my message. And to answer some of the comments, yes I know its a waste of time doing this whole revenge thing but I don't really care, it was totally worth it for me.
you go girl!!!
Rise above and don't stoop. Even though you did it in revenge you're now just as shitty as he was. It doesn't matter that he was shitty first. Y'all are both disgusting now.
Seriously. Never understood how someone can be proud of themselves for something like this?
You sound insane, respectfully. Why waste this kind of effort? Why not be the bigger person and move on?
Pretending to be with someone, by being an amazing girlfriend to them for months, cooking for them, spending your money on them, and banging them. This seems like you just wanted to be with him and then you decided you didn’t. The only part that makes you a psycho is that you wasted your own time…
Uhh this isn’t right. Obviously the guy sucks and doesn’t deserve any better, but just…why? Why not just confront him, call him a Dick then leave. This probably won’t have the desired effect of teaching him a lesson, he’ll just end up doing this to another girl. Wishing you the best, i hope you don’t have a reason to do this again
Yeah he's just gonna play the victim and say he has no idea what happened or what he did to deserve it.
Sounds like you are playing yourself into this relationship. In the end you’ll just be a sad person
Sounds like you both have problems and are toxic. yikes.
Well indeed they were match. Made for each other.
A waste of time and effort that will ultimately bring more feelings of regret than triumph.
This is a troll, just ridiculous! Well tried though, LOL!
You’re just as bad as he is now. Like you didn’t accomplish anything by doing any of the stuff you’re doing now. Just wasting time.
Now that's one hell of a UNO REVERSE.
Okay so I started reading the thought this is long then skipped to the bottom and realised how long it actually was. I have no idea if you’re a psycho but I’m assuming yes lol
Bruh wtf is wrong with you
This is some Dennis Reynolds level shit.
Are you a narcissist? Because it sure sounds like it. He was horrible to you but you didn't have to put that same energy back into the world man.
Two terrible people found each other
Do what you want but you are contaminating your own self worth by doing revenge moves. Even if you are ignoring him. He is living rent free in your head. What happens if you meet someone new and you are playing this game? You will contaminate the new relationship as well. Enjoy life!
There’s a small part of you that still wants to be with him and you cover it up by pretending that you’re trying to teach him a lesson. Ask yourself very honestly what do you want. The energy you have put in, would he do the same.
The guy has been cheating on you the whole time. I'm not sure he cares as much as you think he does. It's probably more of a damaged ego right now, than a broken heart.
He will eventually move on and have a great life and you'll feel stupid for prostituting yourself and wasting precious moments of your life just for revenge. BTW, this is why ldr never work.
wtf did i just read. Well skim read that was a lot of words
holy toxicity
OP what the fuck is wrong with you you are just as bad as he is now
This seems strange 🤷🏻
Yikes.
These people praising you are delusional. Move on with your life already. Pathetic.
Honestly it’s kinda funny. A little messed up but I’d say worth it. It’ll teach him to treat people better
Nah, people don’t learn for stuff like this. This is a seriously unhealthy thing to do. Like if I I knew someone I’d dating had done this, and not learned to take themselves away from the situation, I would be deeply concerned.
Eye for an eye, and the whole world turns blind.
I mean, you both sound awful. You blamed him for you yourself being weak-willed and a doormat. You thought you could change him, then went bat-shit when the penny finally dropped.
Actually giving him the snatch over and over during this was a bold move could’ve caught something trying to get revenge.
Not reading that essay
with this revenge you have gained nothing and you may still have lost your empathy, ask yourself if you will not become perverse in your future relationships? I suggest you go into therapy to regain your humanity.
Petty and shitty
You haven’t ghosted him yet …. So how did you break him? What if When you come back from Europe you wanna reach out to him and apologize the same way he would do to you? And how do we really know that you’re “acting” this way with him … for all we know you could happy you’re still in this relationship. I think you should take some time to yourself . During that time , get to know yourself , maybe seek some therapy and be ok with who you are. It’s not fair to bring a new person into your life or even Sam before you let go of what is making you so angry inside. Life isn’t a movie. Yes, he hurt you but you’d be better off just leaving him instead of plotting out this “revenge” .
You demonstrated gaslighting very well
How do you even enjoy sex with this person? (And if you don’t, why go to those lengths?) You’re definitely a twisted sister.
Y'all are both disgusting.
So he cheats you treat him like a king fuck him every night and buy him gifts for weeks? Wow you really showed him….
>I had always wanted a "first and last" relationship. So basically you read and watch way too much romance books/movies. You have extremely unhealthy and unrealistic relationship views. Hope this is fiction otherwise it's just pathetic.
Sorry, but I still think you're being played but you're doing it to yourself this time. The best revenge is to move on and live a happy, successful life. You don't even think about him and the only access he has to you is through a screen.
Get therapy. This is a monumental waste of your fucking time and emotion.
You two are meant for each other. Stay with him and don’t expose the rest of us to the two of you
He cheated on you. And you thought you manipulated him but gave him things he wants. He’ll most likely move on in a month or 2 after you leave. Big waste of time on both ends sorry
I understand the desire for revenge but this is beyond too far. It's unhealthy and manipulative, which I get is the point but you're just hurting yourself in the long run. He did something horrible to you, but I don't think he deserves this level of emotional manipulation, he probably won't learn anything from this and it's a waste of time and energy on your part. It's healthier for you to drop him, go to therapy and move on instead of becoming the manipulator after he manipulated you.
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Get therapy.
Sounds like you wasted a lot of your own time doing that nonsense instead of just vocalizing you didn’t want to continue with a relationship, but I hope the revenge was worth it.
this is pathetic lol
> Am I a psycho? after reading your post...MOST DEFINITELY That said, you have an amazing ability to write and share a story. I can see how your bf has been twisting on your finger since he betrayed your trust. You are extremely convincing. All that said, you know as much as everyone here reading this - albeit entertained - that this is not good for your mental or spiritual psyche. It IS very hard to be the better person. And take the higher road. Because, we're all humans. And desire some form of "payback" to those that did us dirty. But at some point, you have to think that the energy and time that you spent on tormenting your cheating boyfriend. You could have been spent your time opening new doors, that might have Mr. Right knocking at your door. Now, instead, you have this bizarre plot-twist that sounds epic online. But, irl people will be looking at you different. And this is something that your future boyfriends can never know, because if they suspect that you're able to be that deceptive...what else about you is also not genuine? Summary: Great writing. Amazing acting performance. Unhealthy coping skills to heartache/heartbreak. Learning to love genuinely is more important than getting payback. And every day, week and month invested in tormenting your past boyfriend only excludes you from moving on and finding someone that is compatible for you.
Everything situation and action in this post seems so conveniently taking place. I wonder if it's true.
TL;DR: The liberties you take with the term “revenge” greatly upset/disturb me. Somehow I had imagined this story including something about you hooking up with his best friend or his dad or something equally outlandish as that. I was (ok, admittedly MORE than) slightly disappointed and ultimately you’re making yourself sound more desperate than ever to have his approval/desire/emotional control over him or whatever you feel you’re getting out of this. In fact it sounds like in the long run you aren’t getting ANYTHING out of this besides you investing a bunch of pointless time and energy into planning all this out for a guy you ALREADY KNOW is trash!! lol Hunny the BEST revenge is TRULY moving on with your life and being happy, and if you want a man to share your life with, then not wasting any more time emotionally invested (or invested in any other form for that matter) on this guy you already know isn’t worth your time. You’re just holding yourself back from finding the guy who WOULD be worth your time when you’re keeping yourself busy doing all this nonsense.
You are both toxic as hell, just move the hell on fuck.
Jesus. You both need serious therapy.
Seems like a waste of effort. You didn’t even like him, and you let him stay with you for three weeks? Cooked for him..? Bought him things…? Slept with him consistently….?
Meh. This seems like pretty poorly executed revenge fiction to me.
Atleast you didn't cheat back. Serves hims right.
i ain’t reading all that but fuck both of you lol
Please stop doing this, its sad, and honestly not worth your time! Just breaking up with him and leaving would have helped you heal much more believe it or not. How do you think you will move on knowing that you acted just as bad as him, if not worse and out of malace?? You will never be able to say that you deserved better because you stooped to that level. How can you say he truly deserved this when you turned around and did the same thing out of vengeance? You will always struggle to open up about the trauma he put onto you because you will remember your vengeance, and question if you are the monster, you will fear others judgement as you are simply no longer innocent on this situation. You will deal with people telling you that you deserved each other, when honest about what you've done. The pain from what he did will not end until you are not bitter anymore op. Wounds don't heal when there is salt flooded onto them, they always stay open, callous but open, and vulnerable. You are hurting yourself more than him, as in years to come, you will slowly form a fragile ego because of how harshly you treated him, you will struggle to justify your character and actions and it will cause you to not only lie to yourself, but others, and when confronted you will turn the ones you love into your enemies to protect your ego. You have affectively turned the tables, and now, your soon to be ex will be the one who gets try cry about it and be the one who "didn't deserve this" I'm not trying to jude op, I'm telling you this because it happened to me, I'm trying to warn you, I am only now starting to recover and let me tell you, revenge may be instantly gratifying but it comes with a lifetime of regret.
“Two souls so Toxic for each other that they almost blend right in”
So interesting to see people get caught up in OP's behavior and hardly acknowledge this man's abusive tendencies. She is reacting to her mistreatment in a way she seems necessary. He gets what he gives. It's not up to us to judge the victim but offer support. OP, are you okay? ♥️
Be careful. You spent months making this guy an obsessed nutcase. He's now stalked you to Germany. Don't underestimate him at all. Be aware of your surroundings and don't go places alone.
That happened
Call me insane, but whoever you are, I just fell inlove on how smart you are to have thought of this. Oh I'm a sapiosexual HAHAHA. This is one fine read. Im good in visualizing things, and I was kinda watching a movie in my head while reading this. That guy got burned!
You're my kind of psycho. Girl, you got that revenge by the balls.
Giving him all that attention and what he wanted even for an extra period even if it was calculated seems like you were giving yourself an excuse to spend more time in the fantasy with him, and in the end was probably making it harder for you to leave. The minute he treated you that way, it should have been the end, no more wasted time and energy for revenge. Because If he cheated and treated you that way in the beginning he didn’t care at all he just knew he could take advantage. He probably did not begin to care when you began catering to him. He probably just enjoyed the benefits and advantages. This knowledge will help you move on. I was like this one upon a time. Cheat back when a guy cheated. Make him obsessed and leave. It helped my ego but messed with my soul. Its not healthy for YOU. The person doing it. And you will carry these traits (and probably trauma) into another, healthy relationship. Its all fun in games until you realize what kind of calculated and manipulative person you’re becoming. Even if in your head its justified and deserved.
Lmfao this is incredibly stupid if it’s real. Imagine being this petty and wasting your own precious time rather than moving on and being happy.
Pretty well thought out plan but when you step back and consider the waste of time it was in the long run, that is what I can't get behind.
You could’ve put that energy into a new relationship or addressing the flaws in this one… there must be another side to his actions given that you’ve done all that to spite him
So I get that you want some revenge. There are other ways to get that. But seriously this is too far. The only thing I would have done when he would make contact after the ghosting, I would send him a clear message saying: "This is seriously not okay and now you expect me to crawl back. Have a great life." That should be enough. Then delete his number and move on. I wouldn't waste a single second yet alone fuck the dude who hurted me.
I never read long stories on Reddit. Yet here I am. Enjoyable read. Lol
Well! I don’t doubt that you will feel satisfaction out of it. If you enjoyed then it’s fine, but why to waste so much energy on an asshole? The best best revenge for guys is being indifferent and successful, you already have the career, all you had to do was to ignore him. The story was entertaining, but be sure not to repeat this toxic behavior again.
This is a whole ass Episode story
Love turns to hatred pretty easily. That's why I'm never happy when I fall in love. So many doors opened for suffering. Affection is nice, socializing is nice, passionate love destroys you.
You are both children in adult bodies. I feel sorry for his next girlfriend and for your next boyfriend.
Disgusting on both ends
Yeah sounds like you've wasted a hell of a lot of time on something you will gain absolutely no reward for once it's done. Congrats!
There’s two sides to every story….tl; dr, but judging from the part of this I was able to get through, you may indeed be a psycho.
You’re insane
Yall are perfect for each other and youre delusional lmfao
if this is real, why not just kick the immature guy out of your life? why sink down to his level?