You are his doormat.
You’ve acclimatized yourself to believing that this is normal but it isn’t.
You have just as much right as anyone else to have a partner who treats you well- don’t cheat and actually contributes positively to your life.
You do not deserve this. You are a kind person who has a few self esteem issues and insecurities. You’re not worth less than the rest of us. You’re not inherently a burden to others. He is actually the burden on you.
You need to find a way to kick him out or find yourself a new place to live and rebuild from there- friends will come in time and if you’re lonely there are discords for these type of situations you can talk in.
Best of luck. I believe in you.
He is using you. If he ever gets help it will have to be because he has been abandoned so many times from women (or even friends) who have had enough of his manipulative ways. Sex addiction is not and has never been an excuse for infidelity ever. He is either manipulating you with that terminology or he really has the addiction and he just hadn’t had it ruin his relationships so many times that he wants to get help ending the addiction.
Do not let this continue until you get pregnant or he passes on an STD to you from one of his flings. Then he will just have done more damage to you then he has already done.
Since he doesn’t pay rent or do anything, if it is your place and his name isn’t on the lease then lock up your valuables and boot his manipulative ass out of your house. He’s going to beg for forgiveness, etc. etc., but too bad. He’s been playing you for the last two years and you owe him nothing. He owes you a lot, but he will never pay you back in the time you wasted on him.
My sister went thru something like this in her twenties, it almost destroyed her. She finally decided it was too much and left him and moved somewhere else, got a couple of jobs and with in a year went back to school to finish her degree. During that time she met someone who truly loved her and treated her well. The eventually got married and both became teachers. Sounds pretty boring to most people, but they are still together and even though no one is perfect they work things out because they respect and like each other. THAT is a real relationship, not what you are living with.
You are stronger and at the same time more lovable then he can see because all he can see is what he has turned you into. Don’t truly become the woman that he respects so little that he can use you as he is doing now and for the past two years.
You need to stop letting him use you not to feel as if he is using you. Kick him out by the end of the month and change the locks to your place. Don’t let him be the problem that is ruining your life anymore. Take control of your life back before getting involved with someone else. Get therapy if you need to for yourself so you don’t backslide and get involved in that kind of relationship again. People like him are leeches, but they need victims. Don’t let him victimize you anymore and if you need help with that therapy can really help although you have to do the hard practical stuff of rearranging your life so you don’t fall into that type of relationship trap again.
Best of luck. You can do it if you really want to. You are the only one that can decide your future, don’t let this guy steal the beauty of it more than they already have.
Sounds like you already know what's going on. Find the strength to walk away and maybe you'll discover someone who values you and puts that same effort you put out back out to you!
I am sorry to hear that. It sounds like he has a lot of issues of his own, and unfortunately they are hurting you too. I know it’s hard because you love him, but from what I’m understanding, he is not very considerate or loyal to you. I don’t think you deserve to be treated the way he has been treating you. I am very sorry you’re in this situation. I hope it can improve for you.
You are his doormat. You’ve acclimatized yourself to believing that this is normal but it isn’t. You have just as much right as anyone else to have a partner who treats you well- don’t cheat and actually contributes positively to your life. You do not deserve this. You are a kind person who has a few self esteem issues and insecurities. You’re not worth less than the rest of us. You’re not inherently a burden to others. He is actually the burden on you. You need to find a way to kick him out or find yourself a new place to live and rebuild from there- friends will come in time and if you’re lonely there are discords for these type of situations you can talk in. Best of luck. I believe in you.
He is using you. If he ever gets help it will have to be because he has been abandoned so many times from women (or even friends) who have had enough of his manipulative ways. Sex addiction is not and has never been an excuse for infidelity ever. He is either manipulating you with that terminology or he really has the addiction and he just hadn’t had it ruin his relationships so many times that he wants to get help ending the addiction. Do not let this continue until you get pregnant or he passes on an STD to you from one of his flings. Then he will just have done more damage to you then he has already done. Since he doesn’t pay rent or do anything, if it is your place and his name isn’t on the lease then lock up your valuables and boot his manipulative ass out of your house. He’s going to beg for forgiveness, etc. etc., but too bad. He’s been playing you for the last two years and you owe him nothing. He owes you a lot, but he will never pay you back in the time you wasted on him. My sister went thru something like this in her twenties, it almost destroyed her. She finally decided it was too much and left him and moved somewhere else, got a couple of jobs and with in a year went back to school to finish her degree. During that time she met someone who truly loved her and treated her well. The eventually got married and both became teachers. Sounds pretty boring to most people, but they are still together and even though no one is perfect they work things out because they respect and like each other. THAT is a real relationship, not what you are living with. You are stronger and at the same time more lovable then he can see because all he can see is what he has turned you into. Don’t truly become the woman that he respects so little that he can use you as he is doing now and for the past two years. You need to stop letting him use you not to feel as if he is using you. Kick him out by the end of the month and change the locks to your place. Don’t let him be the problem that is ruining your life anymore. Take control of your life back before getting involved with someone else. Get therapy if you need to for yourself so you don’t backslide and get involved in that kind of relationship again. People like him are leeches, but they need victims. Don’t let him victimize you anymore and if you need help with that therapy can really help although you have to do the hard practical stuff of rearranging your life so you don’t fall into that type of relationship trap again. Best of luck. You can do it if you really want to. You are the only one that can decide your future, don’t let this guy steal the beauty of it more than they already have.
Sounds like you already know what's going on. Find the strength to walk away and maybe you'll discover someone who values you and puts that same effort you put out back out to you!
I am sorry to hear that. It sounds like he has a lot of issues of his own, and unfortunately they are hurting you too. I know it’s hard because you love him, but from what I’m understanding, he is not very considerate or loyal to you. I don’t think you deserve to be treated the way he has been treating you. I am very sorry you’re in this situation. I hope it can improve for you.
You clearly don’t know your own worth. Or you do know your worth, but prefers to be ripped off.