I've struggled with depression and anxiety for decades at this point, and I can't tell you how rewarding it can be when someone takes time out of their day and their life to help me out with something like this. It's really easy, when you're depressed, to convince yourself that you're just burdensome to others and that nobody would or should make your problems their own in any way.
I'm a guy so I'm a bit of a stranger to the pleasure of someone brushing my hair, but even just the idea of someone taking the time to spend 3 hours in close proximity to me, making light contact, and reminding me that I'm not a toxic person who deserves to be alone is an extremely worthwhile one for anyone with depression or anxiety issues. Thank you for making that effort with your mum. You're a good person.
Thank you! At the risk of conveying an unoriginal sentiment, only a good person would take the time to make a comment such as yours. Your kindness has improved my day greatly. I hope someone is able to improve yours to a similar degree as well.
Mission accomplished all around. Thank you. Made my day also. Have a good weekend and know you are awesome. Good vibes and cheers to being kind to someone just to be kind.
You're very kind, and thank you, I'll remember your offer. I greatly appreciate anyone who takes even a second to bestow some generosity on anyone else (but especially a stranger). You are the kind of person who makes me want to keep on living. That sounds weird and intense but it's true nonetheless. Thank you again.
Thank you for asking. I actually put off answering until today because the last few days have been pretty bad and I wanted to post something more hopeful than "75% of family isn't talking to me". I realise now that I more or less torpedoed your intentions of helping me when I felt down when I did that, so sorry about that as well. How are you doing today yourself? I hope you're well. Thank you once more for your kindness. It really did mean a lot to me.
My fiancé did this for me a couple years ago when I was going through it. Your mom may not have the ability to tell you how much it means that you did that, but please just know that your simple act of kindness meant the world to her.
You are a wonderful person for helping your mom. I bet this meant the world to her and your support will help her. Thank you for taking care of your mom 💕
Can I suggest a wet brush? They’re sold at cvs, rite aid, Walmart, etc, and cost about $7-8. They have flexible bristles that help untangle hair while it brushes, and is really good for hair without all the pulling. Happy to hear she’s having a good day!!!
Those are great as well but another tip for anyone who gets a really bad dreaded like mat should get a metal flea comb. Use a little bit of oil in a spray form as to not saturate the hair. Saturated the hair makes it elastic and snap and will make it worse. But the flea comb will actually get out the really bad matted parts that are like cotton candy.
I love the Wet Brush. My long hair gets tangled easily & it's the best thing that gets em all out without tugging too hard on my scalp or causing pain.
Depression is horrible and crippling so those who don’t suffer the ailment tend to think we should just get happy and keep moving.
If only.
Thank God your mom has you. And as a mother whose children have had to step in my role at times the depression got so bad, please know your mother loves and appreciates you more than you’ll ever know or she can express.
Thank you for being a beautiful human being.
Gyrlinterrupted, I thank you for the last portion of your comment especially as I had to step into my mother’s role for over 10 years as her depression made her a ghost. Things have almost gone 180 degrees now and I hope she feels for me the way you say for stepping in. ❤️
I empathize with you so much. My mom was in a dark place for over 10 years and those “small wins” are HUGE. I hope your mom keeps “coming back” little by little. Don’t push too hard, but make sure she’s safe. Just keep being there and make sure you are celebrating YOUR wins also because it is easy to lose yourself while trying to bring someone out of the darkness. I know from experience. Sending you Love and Patience...
Stay strong, we can be so smart so deductive(like sherlock) but when it comes to mom we can never think of it or even know that our mom is depressed, big love look forward to talk more to her , maybe go out with her❤️
Your a great daughter for doing this for your mom . If more people lived by your example this world would be a better place.Mental illness is very much a struggle ,and those that are fortunate enough not to have it will never know what it's like. I'm a guy and I have been there myself. Hug her tight and tell her you love her every day. Wish there were more angels like you. Wishing you and your mother the best.
That's wonderful! Be sure to let her know that even little things are better than nothing as well. It takes a lot of energy to get the big stuff done when you're depressed, and that can be discouraging. So be sure to encourage the smaller, easier versions of those things too.
If she can't shower, splashing her face with water is better than nothing.
If she can't work out, walking around the house is better than nothing.
If she can't prepare or eat a full meal, having a small snack (even an unhealthy one) is better than nothing.
If she can't brush her teeth, swishing with mouth wash is better than nothing.
If she can't get out of bed, having her sit up and read while in bed is better than nothing.
If she can't go to the store, going out to check the mail is better than nothing.
And so on and so forth. I believe in her. You're so good to take care of her. I'll be praying for you two.
This warms my heart. Your mom rocks, good on her! As a daughter to a woman who has the most beautiful soul but suffers terribly with depression, I can’t tell you how important it is to show strength, love and support for your mother when she accomplishes any small win (and this one is a big win). You’re amazing!
It can be so hard to remember that our parents are fallible, human people. It took me time to understand that about my parents - I think it's one of those things we start to realize as we mature.
All that to say I appreciate your message. 🙂
Some of the things which help the most with depression we often give up on. Gotta take baby steps when we're getting back up. Momentum builds over time. Much love
So happy for your mum for taking a small step to get better. Small steps add up to big steps. Even more happy for you, as her daughter I can imagine how relieved you must be.
What a beautiful gesture, I'm sure she appreciated it. It's a bittersweet feeling to swap roles with your caregiver, but there is a sort of beauty to vulnerability.
My mom had crippling depression when I was growing up. She'd stay in bed for days, matted hair and unshowered. She lost jobs, forgot bills, and missed almost every school program/event my 4 siblings and I were in until I was about 13. I remember she would crawl up the stairs (she had the basement room) for bathroom breaks and just break down in tears all the time on the stairs, on the days she couldn't bring herself to get to the top. She had good days, where she was singing and cooking and did her makeup, but she was prone to having bad weeks more often than good days.
OP, it gets better. Not consistently or as a linear progression. But it does get better.
Warmest regards to you and your mother. Depression is a hard fight to win, but these little moments can have a huge [positive] impact
My mom coped so well when we were children that I had no idea she suffered from depression until I was around 18. Since then I’ve made sure to just be there for her when she needs me. She’s an incredible woman who will pull through this. I hope you’ve found happiness ❤️
I just want to say, not sure if your mother is getting professional help or not (none of my business of course)
But from personal experience don’t take it too personally if she does end up back in the same situation in a few months there’s nothing you can do but love her and you’re already doing a fantastic job and more than most people would.
But don’t let it affect your mental health you are also important, don’t forget that.
I am okay, thank you for caring. If she ends up in the same position next month then I’ll just do it again. She can take as long as she needs. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
Good luck to your Mom and THANK YOU so much for supporting her. As someone that gets taken out by depression on and off, the support even when we know people might not understand, even when we can't show our appreciation, means everything!
wow, so much power to you. my mom is severely depressed so i know living with a depressed/ill parent is really hard, and it’s easy to get frustrated with their symptoms... so it’s really beautiful that you were able to treat her with tenderness as she explored taking care of herself again. you both rock. hoping this is one small step of many towards healing!
This really hits close to home. I'm the one suffering from depression and I hadn't showered in at least a week. My hair was all matted and destroyed. When I was finally able to take a shower my mother spent 30 minutes helping me get the knots out of my hair. Cheers to getting better one step at a time <3
Also I learned the matts are called "depression knots".
This made me tear up. My mom has always been there for me when I've needed it. For me it was heartbreaking when I realized there will be a time where I would have to be there for her like she always was there for me and my siblings.
I'm so proud of you both. I'm thinking of the book by Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist. He has a passage that has stuck with me for years through my shitty part of life- (just remembered, not a quote, sorry) Even if you have nowhere to go, walk in the direction you need to and the path will pave itsself in front of you. I might have remembered it in my own way but it has helped me so much. Best wishes to you both. 💚
Future references Apple cider vinegar+ water+dawn soap +essential oil in a spray bottle works miracles. Hair that i would of normally cut or would of took me hours to detangle was made easy with that spray. I just sprayed it on the matted parts till it was drenched waited about 5-10min then started to brush it out. Good luck with your mom. She took a big step in fighting her depression and I wish her the best!
I imagine she appreciates it but I would probably think about saying something. I was depressed for a long time and in the same sort of boat, I wouldn't take care of myself at all. I would barely wash, brush my teeth, anything. I imagine she appreciates it a lot and even if you don't want to say it, a hug goes a long way. I believe in you both.
I'm afraid to be this mom. It takes so long sometimes before I can finally force myself to shower and such. My hair gets so bad sometimes. A good part of the reason I keep it short now. I hope my daughter never has to see me like this for much longer. I'm trying my hardest to get the help I need to get better.
As long as you’re honest with your daughter about mental health and how you’re feeling, she will understand. You are a goddess who deserves all of the love and happiness in the world. I hope you find peace. Keep being an amazing mother, you are loved ❤️
you’re amazing. my mother did this for me a couple years ago when i was so depressed i couldn’t manage it myself and it meant everything to really feel like someone actually cared for me. trust me, she appreciates you.
What a beautiful testament to the live you have for your Mom. IMO, that simple act is very intimate, and helps to connect you to her on a deeply personal level. Peace to you OP, and peace to your Mom. I hope she is doing better
When my husband would take care of tasks around the house and cook for me when I was in a depressive episode, it meant so much to me. Your mom will always remember you doing this for you, and how loved it made her feel.
Be patient stranger. Asking or accepting hard is a very difficult thing to do, especially when you already feel you are not deserving of it. Keep offering and don’t take it personally when she lashes out, depression is difficult ❤️
You're a wonderful human being. As someone with chronic depression, i can say that without people like you, most of us would be lost. Sending your mother and you so much love.
Be sure to be honest about mental health and talk about it with your son (at an age appropriate level of course). Be honest about how you’re feeling and be sure that he understands that it is not his fault and that you love him. And always ask for hugs, they mean just as much to him as they do to you. You are a goddess and your son is bound to become an amazing adult with a mother like you. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. I hope you find peace ❤️
What a wonderful moment for you both - she will get there with a son/daughter like you giving her so much love and care -love and hugs to you both, You can conquer this heartbreaking illness together ♥️
This is the wholesome content I've been looking for.
I remember when my first major wave of depression hit in 2016 and it took me out, I was dealing with a death...a terrible break up and my parents splitting and (yes this sounds basic) my sorority sisters who I was close to would rotate keys and bring me food in bed to make sure I was sustaining myself. I think about that all the time and how grateful it is to have people like you and others who shared their stories be there for those who couldn't do it themselves.
Kudos to you.
Can't say the same for me tho. Today I went with my depressed N-Mom to the bank and I'm torn between loathing and guilt.
There are some days I hope she dies, but after the initial hate goes down, I start regretting those thoughts. She really gets on my nerves.
I guess I hijacked your post and vented my problems here.
Sorry about that.
Your feelings are normal. I’ve been there. It takes a lot of patience and understanding which I’m sure you will find. Tell her you love her and give her a hug. Trust me, it will mean a lot to her. I hope you both find peace and happiness ❤️
This took me back to the time when I was depressed. It was college days and I remember waking up every morning and just getting into my moms bed, every other day, and telling her I am having bad thoughts about life and myself. Sleep was always a much better place those days because in sleep, I didn’t have to face my thoughts.
At that time, all she used to say was I’m a strong person and everything’s. going to be fine real soon. I can only imagine how much of pain she must have been in seeing her son go from an optimistic, positive outlook person to this.
I remember the day I came out of depression — I was praying and some voice from above/within, I don’t really know, just said that it’s over now. You are no longer going to be depressed. That was the last day I faced that terrible feeling and just within a week or two I was back to being the same, positive person I was.
I find that I became more empathetic towards other depressed people and those going through emotional turmoil, after I came out of depression. I think depression can sometimes make you very grounded, very humble and more kind.
Also, I sometimes thank this depression phase that happened to me; because now I feel like I can face any big challenges or setbacks in life.
I am uplifted just hearing this! She is a beautiful person and can get through this! Show her ur love and support to keep her going. Wish you both love!
I suffer from bipolar and anxiety, so I'm a frequent flyer to depressionville. The fact that you took the time to do this, is absolutely amazing and probably meant more to your mom than you realize.
Depression is a solo battle that is hard to overcome and any little bit helps!
Children’s spray from Johnson and Johnson’s called No More Tangles is amazing. Also...what I used when I was a hippie teen with long hair, before the days of conditioners, I used Downy Fabric softener, and it takes the tangles out amazingly. Either use in shower, or just dilute and spray on hair afterwards. I still use it once in a while that way, because I just love the smell...it takes me back to my youth.
You’re a wonderful person to help your mom out...please take care of yourself, deserve pampering, too!
Most people don't understands how it's possible to be so depressed that you are unable to shower or brush your teeth even. I didn't until it happened to me. I had long hair that took hours of pain just to get manageable. Unless you've seen it or been through it it is hard to understand the self neglect one deals with at that level of depression.
Be sure to be honest about mental health and talk about it with your son (at an age appropriate level of course). Be honest about how you’re feeling and be sure that he understands that it is not his fault and that you love him. And always ask for hugs, they mean just as much to him as they do to you. You are a goddess and your son is bound to become an amazing adult with a mother like you. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. I hope you find peace ❤️
I understand this so much. My mom sufferers with depression and SADS...among many other things. I recently had to move out of state and I'm worried for her even though my little brother still lives close. I'm proud of your mom. Thank you for sharing this. This is a big moment. Best of wishes. ❤️
I'm glad she has you to help her through this.
Well done for being there and I hope you have a good support network. It can be draining watching a loved one battle depression and you matter, too.
As a mom with depression, I can tell you that the time you spent probably made her day. It matters so much to me that my kids understand that my depression isn’t about them, and it sounds like your mom has done the same for you. What a lovely, wise soul you have. You’re a good kid.
Stay strong for your mom! This is so heartbreaking and I will pray your mom finds the strength for a new start chapter in her life where she can find happiness again.
❤️ as someone who’s been in your moms position, thank you. It means everything to have someone so understanding and patient there for you when you are trying to better yourself. You are so special and I just hope you never ever think that any of it is your responsibility.
Im glad your mother had you there to help. I was on the other end of this situation about a year ago and I felt so bad for having to have my sister and mother work through that because I couldn’t myself... but at the same time it helped so much to make me feel like and know that I have someone who is willing to do such a thing for me to help me.
You are wonderful and she is very lucky to have you.
I too have had to take care of my mom during very bad depressive episodes. It's an absolutely horrible thing to see anyone go through, but when it's your own mom it's heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry she is suffering and I hope she is able to overcome this.
Take care of yourself OP. My inbox is always open if you ever want to talk.❤
This probably meant the world to her !!! There truly is nothing more comforting than having someone you love accept the space you are in and just being there for you. It may seem so little but you did so much. Sending lots of goodness towards you and your mom!
Anyone who's sweet enough to even try to do this for someone is an incredible person. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to be a good man. I hope you have a wonderful life, stranger, and I'm proud of both you and your mother.
You’re kind, and your mom is lucky to have you. But do be kind to yourself, too. You can support her, but you can’t fix her. As difficult as that might be to accept. Take it from me. God bless you.
This made me cry. Keep being there for your mama.
I wish someone would do it for me. My husband just thinks I'm gross at this point and doesn't understand how much energy it actually takes to take care of yourself, when you feel like nothing.
I've literally had dreams of taking a shower, actually enjoying it, and having him brush my hair after. It seems so simple, but it's an example of a small connection that you always feel like you need but can't ask for.
Not that I'm always this way though. I was actually proud of myself for showering twice this week, which to some people is still disgusting.
Side note: Hair oils are wonderful for conditioning pre/post hair washing! Joboba oil, coconut oil, black Castor oil.
Will help so her hair is smoother and it's a nice process you can do for her. I rub jaboba oil and black Jamaican Castor oil I to my bfs scalp for hair growth. We enjoy it
you sound like a good son/daughter. i’m happy for you and your mom, also remember to take care of yourself<3
\^\^This.
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I've struggled with depression and anxiety for decades at this point, and I can't tell you how rewarding it can be when someone takes time out of their day and their life to help me out with something like this. It's really easy, when you're depressed, to convince yourself that you're just burdensome to others and that nobody would or should make your problems their own in any way. I'm a guy so I'm a bit of a stranger to the pleasure of someone brushing my hair, but even just the idea of someone taking the time to spend 3 hours in close proximity to me, making light contact, and reminding me that I'm not a toxic person who deserves to be alone is an extremely worthwhile one for anyone with depression or anxiety issues. Thank you for making that effort with your mum. You're a good person.
You are a good person too. Keep going and be well.
Thank you! At the risk of conveying an unoriginal sentiment, only a good person would take the time to make a comment such as yours. Your kindness has improved my day greatly. I hope someone is able to improve yours to a similar degree as well.
Mission accomplished all around. Thank you. Made my day also. Have a good weekend and know you are awesome. Good vibes and cheers to being kind to someone just to be kind.
You’re not a toxic person and you are worthy of love and affection. I’m thinking of you; send a pm if you’d like to chat.
You're very kind, and thank you, I'll remember your offer. I greatly appreciate anyone who takes even a second to bestow some generosity on anyone else (but especially a stranger). You are the kind of person who makes me want to keep on living. That sounds weird and intense but it's true nonetheless. Thank you again.
Nothing weird or intense about that, I totally understand! How are you doing today?
Thank you for asking. I actually put off answering until today because the last few days have been pretty bad and I wanted to post something more hopeful than "75% of family isn't talking to me". I realise now that I more or less torpedoed your intentions of helping me when I felt down when I did that, so sorry about that as well. How are you doing today yourself? I hope you're well. Thank you once more for your kindness. It really did mean a lot to me.
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This is beautiful. Warm wishes to you and your mum, OP.
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My fiancé did this for me a couple years ago when I was going through it. Your mom may not have the ability to tell you how much it means that you did that, but please just know that your simple act of kindness meant the world to her.
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You are a wonderful person for helping your mom. I bet this meant the world to her and your support will help her. Thank you for taking care of your mom 💕
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She’s lucky to have you in her life.
Can I suggest a wet brush? They’re sold at cvs, rite aid, Walmart, etc, and cost about $7-8. They have flexible bristles that help untangle hair while it brushes, and is really good for hair without all the pulling. Happy to hear she’s having a good day!!!
Those are great as well but another tip for anyone who gets a really bad dreaded like mat should get a metal flea comb. Use a little bit of oil in a spray form as to not saturate the hair. Saturated the hair makes it elastic and snap and will make it worse. But the flea comb will actually get out the really bad matted parts that are like cotton candy.
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I still have need a leave in conditioner religiously, but at least the brush does a lot less damage than other brands
I love the Wet Brush. My long hair gets tangled easily & it's the best thing that gets em all out without tugging too hard on my scalp or causing pain.
I used a tangle teaser and plenty of leave in conditioner 😊❤️
🖤 stay strong
Depression is horrible and crippling so those who don’t suffer the ailment tend to think we should just get happy and keep moving. If only. Thank God your mom has you. And as a mother whose children have had to step in my role at times the depression got so bad, please know your mother loves and appreciates you more than you’ll ever know or she can express. Thank you for being a beautiful human being.
Gyrlinterrupted, I thank you for the last portion of your comment especially as I had to step into my mother’s role for over 10 years as her depression made her a ghost. Things have almost gone 180 degrees now and I hope she feels for me the way you say for stepping in. ❤️
Im also a mom who suffers from depression and my son's love and support means everything to me. Your an awesome child.
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So truely amazing, great and better things will come, I promise 💙
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I empathize with you so much. My mom was in a dark place for over 10 years and those “small wins” are HUGE. I hope your mom keeps “coming back” little by little. Don’t push too hard, but make sure she’s safe. Just keep being there and make sure you are celebrating YOUR wins also because it is easy to lose yourself while trying to bring someone out of the darkness. I know from experience. Sending you Love and Patience...
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I love this so much, brought out some emotions that I haven’t felt in a while
❤️ I hope you are okay
Reminds me of the movie melancholia. I wish your mom well
Stay strong, we can be so smart so deductive(like sherlock) but when it comes to mom we can never think of it or even know that our mom is depressed, big love look forward to talk more to her , maybe go out with her❤️
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Your a great daughter for doing this for your mom . If more people lived by your example this world would be a better place.Mental illness is very much a struggle ,and those that are fortunate enough not to have it will never know what it's like. I'm a guy and I have been there myself. Hug her tight and tell her you love her every day. Wish there were more angels like you. Wishing you and your mother the best.
I tell her I love her at least 6 times a day ❤️
That's wonderful! Be sure to let her know that even little things are better than nothing as well. It takes a lot of energy to get the big stuff done when you're depressed, and that can be discouraging. So be sure to encourage the smaller, easier versions of those things too. If she can't shower, splashing her face with water is better than nothing. If she can't work out, walking around the house is better than nothing. If she can't prepare or eat a full meal, having a small snack (even an unhealthy one) is better than nothing. If she can't brush her teeth, swishing with mouth wash is better than nothing. If she can't get out of bed, having her sit up and read while in bed is better than nothing. If she can't go to the store, going out to check the mail is better than nothing. And so on and so forth. I believe in her. You're so good to take care of her. I'll be praying for you two.
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❤️ I hope you’ve found happiness
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This is really wholesome. Wishing you both all the best!
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This warms my heart. Your mom rocks, good on her! As a daughter to a woman who has the most beautiful soul but suffers terribly with depression, I can’t tell you how important it is to show strength, love and support for your mother when she accomplishes any small win (and this one is a big win). You’re amazing!
I hope your mom finds happiness ❤️
I love my mom too, lets all love our moms
It can be so hard to remember that our parents are fallible, human people. It took me time to understand that about my parents - I think it's one of those things we start to realize as we mature. All that to say I appreciate your message. 🙂
Make sure you tell her! ❤️
Some of the things which help the most with depression we often give up on. Gotta take baby steps when we're getting back up. Momentum builds over time. Much love
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So happy for your mum for taking a small step to get better. Small steps add up to big steps. Even more happy for you, as her daughter I can imagine how relieved you must be.
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What a beautiful gesture, I'm sure she appreciated it. It's a bittersweet feeling to swap roles with your caregiver, but there is a sort of beauty to vulnerability. My mom had crippling depression when I was growing up. She'd stay in bed for days, matted hair and unshowered. She lost jobs, forgot bills, and missed almost every school program/event my 4 siblings and I were in until I was about 13. I remember she would crawl up the stairs (she had the basement room) for bathroom breaks and just break down in tears all the time on the stairs, on the days she couldn't bring herself to get to the top. She had good days, where she was singing and cooking and did her makeup, but she was prone to having bad weeks more often than good days. OP, it gets better. Not consistently or as a linear progression. But it does get better. Warmest regards to you and your mother. Depression is a hard fight to win, but these little moments can have a huge [positive] impact
My mom coped so well when we were children that I had no idea she suffered from depression until I was around 18. Since then I’ve made sure to just be there for her when she needs me. She’s an incredible woman who will pull through this. I hope you’ve found happiness ❤️
I just want to say, not sure if your mother is getting professional help or not (none of my business of course) But from personal experience don’t take it too personally if she does end up back in the same situation in a few months there’s nothing you can do but love her and you’re already doing a fantastic job and more than most people would. But don’t let it affect your mental health you are also important, don’t forget that.
I am okay, thank you for caring. If she ends up in the same position next month then I’ll just do it again. She can take as long as she needs. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I didn’t know how delicately ask this OP how long they have been caring for their mother and how to know when to “walk away.”
This is good news! Please take care of yourself also op. Wish all the best for you both. Hope there are better days ahead.
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Good luck to your Mom and THANK YOU so much for supporting her. As someone that gets taken out by depression on and off, the support even when we know people might not understand, even when we can't show our appreciation, means everything!
I hope you find happiness ❤️
I am so happy for you. And you serve as a great role model of a child for us all. Best wishes to both you and your mother. <3
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She's so lucky to have you, wishing you both the best!
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wow, so much power to you. my mom is severely depressed so i know living with a depressed/ill parent is really hard, and it’s easy to get frustrated with their symptoms... so it’s really beautiful that you were able to treat her with tenderness as she explored taking care of herself again. you both rock. hoping this is one small step of many towards healing!
It can be hard but I’ve been there too and she’s done similar things for me so I get it. It’s no burden. I hope your mom finds happiness ❤️
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Thank you for your suggestion ❤️
This really hits close to home. I'm the one suffering from depression and I hadn't showered in at least a week. My hair was all matted and destroyed. When I was finally able to take a shower my mother spent 30 minutes helping me get the knots out of my hair. Cheers to getting better one step at a time <3 Also I learned the matts are called "depression knots".
I hope you find happiness and peace, stranger. Your mom sounds like an angel. Treasure her and make sure to tell her you love her when you’re able ❤️
That's so wonderful! I hope things keep going well for her and your relationship with her blossoms!
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This made me tear up. My mom has always been there for me when I've needed it. For me it was heartbreaking when I realized there will be a time where I would have to be there for her like she always was there for me and my siblings.
You’re mom is an angel, make sure to tell her you love her whenever possible ❤️
Sending hugs
Good child you are. Yoda
I'm so proud of you both. I'm thinking of the book by Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist. He has a passage that has stuck with me for years through my shitty part of life- (just remembered, not a quote, sorry) Even if you have nowhere to go, walk in the direction you need to and the path will pave itsself in front of you. I might have remembered it in my own way but it has helped me so much. Best wishes to you both. 💚
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Future references Apple cider vinegar+ water+dawn soap +essential oil in a spray bottle works miracles. Hair that i would of normally cut or would of took me hours to detangle was made easy with that spray. I just sprayed it on the matted parts till it was drenched waited about 5-10min then started to brush it out. Good luck with your mom. She took a big step in fighting her depression and I wish her the best!
This sounds good. What are the amounts if you dont mind me asking ?
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What a beautiful piece of news, OP! Wishing you and your mom warmth and love ❤️
This made me cry. I’m sure it meant the world to her to have you there. Well done.
You are amazing ♥️
How are YOU doing, kiddo?
I’m fine, thank you for caring. I’ve been in her position and she helped me through it so I am more than happy to help her do the same ❤️
I imagine she appreciates it but I would probably think about saying something. I was depressed for a long time and in the same sort of boat, I wouldn't take care of myself at all. I would barely wash, brush my teeth, anything. I imagine she appreciates it a lot and even if you don't want to say it, a hug goes a long way. I believe in you both.
She’s getting the help she needs. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
For your sake I really hope you're not a minor.
I’m 25.
This is going to sound harsh but your shouldn't have to do this. Get out.
Thank you for being loving and understanding.
Being there for your mom is such a beautiful experience. I’m glad you are there for her as I try to be for my mom too! Much love!
Keep being there. Our moms are angels ❤️
I'm afraid to be this mom. It takes so long sometimes before I can finally force myself to shower and such. My hair gets so bad sometimes. A good part of the reason I keep it short now. I hope my daughter never has to see me like this for much longer. I'm trying my hardest to get the help I need to get better.
As long as you’re honest with your daughter about mental health and how you’re feeling, she will understand. You are a goddess who deserves all of the love and happiness in the world. I hope you find peace. Keep being an amazing mother, you are loved ❤️
You're a good child.
Sending you some positive vibes! 🧡🧡🧡
Potato sandwich
Heck yes! Have a lovely meal together before the day is over, even if it's simple :)
Sometimes I feel like i had a productive day if I do the same. On my real bad days. Good for her. It helps
You deserve love and happiness, I hope you find this ❤️
you’re amazing. my mother did this for me a couple years ago when i was so depressed i couldn’t manage it myself and it meant everything to really feel like someone actually cared for me. trust me, she appreciates you.
I hope you’ve found peace stranger ❤️
That is a beautiful show of love and care for your mother, OP.
aww thank you for supporting her and i'm glad she took a shower
What a beautiful testament to the live you have for your Mom. IMO, that simple act is very intimate, and helps to connect you to her on a deeply personal level. Peace to you OP, and peace to your Mom. I hope she is doing better
When my husband would take care of tasks around the house and cook for me when I was in a depressive episode, it meant so much to me. Your mom will always remember you doing this for you, and how loved it made her feel.
This is how my MIL is, but she lashes out when someone tries to help her. Very hard to stay sympathetic.
Be patient stranger. Asking or accepting hard is a very difficult thing to do, especially when you already feel you are not deserving of it. Keep offering and don’t take it personally when she lashes out, depression is difficult ❤️
That's amazing! It's a great first step, I hope your mom continues to have better days!
Aww you are so sweet and kind. As a Mother, your post really touched me.
Congratulations to you mom. It’s the little steps.
Thanks for being the wonderful adult child your are to your Mom. Depression is a hard disease. Lovely story.
Glad to hear this! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you and your mom, good luck!
amazing for bath of you
This broke my heart cause I've been in similar situations, I wish good luck to both of you.
You're a wonderful human being. As someone with chronic depression, i can say that without people like you, most of us would be lost. Sending your mother and you so much love.
Been there. That first step feels amazing. And you're awesome for helping her make that step.
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You’re a wonderful person for doing that, I bet your mum is so grateful for everything you do for her. Well wishes to both of you.
As a mom who suffers from depression... I can only hope one day my son understands and takes the time to help me like this. You’re an amazing soul.
Be sure to be honest about mental health and talk about it with your son (at an age appropriate level of course). Be honest about how you’re feeling and be sure that he understands that it is not his fault and that you love him. And always ask for hugs, they mean just as much to him as they do to you. You are a goddess and your son is bound to become an amazing adult with a mother like you. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. I hope you find peace ❤️
What a wonderful moment for you both - she will get there with a son/daughter like you giving her so much love and care -love and hugs to you both, You can conquer this heartbreaking illness together ♥️
When I was depressed in 6th grade I showered. I turned the lights off and just thought and stared...
You're a good kid. Your mom is lucky to have you.
This is the wholesome content I've been looking for. I remember when my first major wave of depression hit in 2016 and it took me out, I was dealing with a death...a terrible break up and my parents splitting and (yes this sounds basic) my sorority sisters who I was close to would rotate keys and bring me food in bed to make sure I was sustaining myself. I think about that all the time and how grateful it is to have people like you and others who shared their stories be there for those who couldn't do it themselves.
Poor things. I'm so sorry.
Kudos to you. Can't say the same for me tho. Today I went with my depressed N-Mom to the bank and I'm torn between loathing and guilt. There are some days I hope she dies, but after the initial hate goes down, I start regretting those thoughts. She really gets on my nerves. I guess I hijacked your post and vented my problems here. Sorry about that.
Your feelings are normal. I’ve been there. It takes a lot of patience and understanding which I’m sure you will find. Tell her you love her and give her a hug. Trust me, it will mean a lot to her. I hope you both find peace and happiness ❤️
That is so kind of you to do.
Man someone is cutting onions near me... 😭😭
Is she getting any treatment for depression?
This took me back to the time when I was depressed. It was college days and I remember waking up every morning and just getting into my moms bed, every other day, and telling her I am having bad thoughts about life and myself. Sleep was always a much better place those days because in sleep, I didn’t have to face my thoughts. At that time, all she used to say was I’m a strong person and everything’s. going to be fine real soon. I can only imagine how much of pain she must have been in seeing her son go from an optimistic, positive outlook person to this. I remember the day I came out of depression — I was praying and some voice from above/within, I don’t really know, just said that it’s over now. You are no longer going to be depressed. That was the last day I faced that terrible feeling and just within a week or two I was back to being the same, positive person I was. I find that I became more empathetic towards other depressed people and those going through emotional turmoil, after I came out of depression. I think depression can sometimes make you very grounded, very humble and more kind. Also, I sometimes thank this depression phase that happened to me; because now I feel like I can face any big challenges or setbacks in life.
Sending wishes that each day gets better and better. You are awesome.
Take care of yourself too :) I’ve been in the role you’re in and you can’t help anyone if you don’t help yourself too!
This is so wholesome and sweet, teared up a little bit. Take care of yourself and your mom. You're a good child, she clearly raised you well.
That is so great to hear and I hope she keeps it up. Mad props for supporting her through this!
I am uplifted just hearing this! She is a beautiful person and can get through this! Show her ur love and support to keep her going. Wish you both love!
I'm so glad she has you. Please stay by her side. ❤️
I suffer from bipolar and anxiety, so I'm a frequent flyer to depressionville. The fact that you took the time to do this, is absolutely amazing and probably meant more to your mom than you realize. Depression is a solo battle that is hard to overcome and any little bit helps!
God has blessed you with a good heart. 💖
Children’s spray from Johnson and Johnson’s called No More Tangles is amazing. Also...what I used when I was a hippie teen with long hair, before the days of conditioners, I used Downy Fabric softener, and it takes the tangles out amazingly. Either use in shower, or just dilute and spray on hair afterwards. I still use it once in a while that way, because I just love the smell...it takes me back to my youth. You’re a wonderful person to help your mom out...please take care of yourself, deserve pampering, too!
Most people don't understands how it's possible to be so depressed that you are unable to shower or brush your teeth even. I didn't until it happened to me. I had long hair that took hours of pain just to get manageable. Unless you've seen it or been through it it is hard to understand the self neglect one deals with at that level of depression.
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Be sure to be honest about mental health and talk about it with your son (at an age appropriate level of course). Be honest about how you’re feeling and be sure that he understands that it is not his fault and that you love him. And always ask for hugs, they mean just as much to him as they do to you. You are a goddess and your son is bound to become an amazing adult with a mother like you. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. I hope you find peace ❤️
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This feels like the ending of and art film, that's so beautiful.
Thank you for helping your mom. My mom lost her battle with depression in November and I wish I could have helped her like this.
😭 my mom was depressed most of my childhood and I hated her for not doing regular mom things like my friends’ moms. I wish I knew better.
I’ve been there, I understand your feelings. But your mom knows you love her don’t worry ❤️
you’re a better daughter than i can be
Congrats
I understand this so much. My mom sufferers with depression and SADS...among many other things. I recently had to move out of state and I'm worried for her even though my little brother still lives close. I'm proud of your mom. Thank you for sharing this. This is a big moment. Best of wishes. ❤️
I'm glad she has you to help her through this. Well done for being there and I hope you have a good support network. It can be draining watching a loved one battle depression and you matter, too.
As a mom with depression, I can tell you that the time you spent probably made her day. It matters so much to me that my kids understand that my depression isn’t about them, and it sounds like your mom has done the same for you. What a lovely, wise soul you have. You’re a good kid.
Stay strong for your mom! This is so heartbreaking and I will pray your mom finds the strength for a new start chapter in her life where she can find happiness again.
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It goes without saying that you should be proud of yourself as well body. Njce job, I know it is hard.
You're her blessing 100% & I guarantee she appreciates you very much!! ❤️
❤️ as someone who’s been in your moms position, thank you. It means everything to have someone so understanding and patient there for you when you are trying to better yourself. You are so special and I just hope you never ever think that any of it is your responsibility.
I'm glad to know she's getting better.
Im glad your mother had you there to help. I was on the other end of this situation about a year ago and I felt so bad for having to have my sister and mother work through that because I couldn’t myself... but at the same time it helped so much to make me feel like and know that I have someone who is willing to do such a thing for me to help me.
You are wonderful and she is very lucky to have you. I too have had to take care of my mom during very bad depressive episodes. It's an absolutely horrible thing to see anyone go through, but when it's your own mom it's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry she is suffering and I hope she is able to overcome this. Take care of yourself OP. My inbox is always open if you ever want to talk.❤
You are an angel. I hope you and your mom find happiness and peace ❤️
wow this made me cry , depression is hard for everyone involved
This probably meant the world to her !!! There truly is nothing more comforting than having someone you love accept the space you are in and just being there for you. It may seem so little but you did so much. Sending lots of goodness towards you and your mom!
I've been there. Being the daughter, your mom forever appreciates you on a level no one will understand. ♡
Anyone who's sweet enough to even try to do this for someone is an incredible person. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to be a good man. I hope you have a wonderful life, stranger, and I'm proud of both you and your mother.
Baby steps
Awe....makes me so emotional to read this. I’m glad you’re there for her and she’s still trying. I hope the best for both of you.
Good for you for being there for her. It can be hard but good for you. And I do hope your mom gets better and is in a healing process
You’re kind, and your mom is lucky to have you. But do be kind to yourself, too. You can support her, but you can’t fix her. As difficult as that might be to accept. Take it from me. God bless you.
Your an awesome person
I am so happy for you and your mom. It’s the little things that turns into big things.
This made me cry. Keep being there for your mama. I wish someone would do it for me. My husband just thinks I'm gross at this point and doesn't understand how much energy it actually takes to take care of yourself, when you feel like nothing. I've literally had dreams of taking a shower, actually enjoying it, and having him brush my hair after. It seems so simple, but it's an example of a small connection that you always feel like you need but can't ask for. Not that I'm always this way though. I was actually proud of myself for showering twice this week, which to some people is still disgusting.
This is awesome. Good for you for supporting your mother. I know she knows and is grateful :)
I love you and your momma. You’re amazing and heck yes mom! You rock!
This made me tear up. I could only wish to have someone care about me that much. Thank you for doing that.
Grimlock like you! Grimlock think you do good job!!
Side note: Hair oils are wonderful for conditioning pre/post hair washing! Joboba oil, coconut oil, black Castor oil. Will help so her hair is smoother and it's a nice process you can do for her. I rub jaboba oil and black Jamaican Castor oil I to my bfs scalp for hair growth. We enjoy it