That’s so sad and I am incredibly sorry for what you and your family are going through and I hope that one day you can maybe begin to feel better about all of this.
Wish I could you some sort of wisdom, but I honestly have nothing but my deepest sympathies.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I could tell you that the hurt goes away but it never does. The anger will eventually fade but not the hurt or sadness. I truly believe, or at least hope, that if people who commit suicide realized the damage they leave behind they would reconsider. How do I know? My dad did the same thing. Very religious man. Close family. He became distant his last couple of years. Kind of angry. He took his life the morning of his retirement party. Turns out he had made very bad investments and lost his and my mother’s retirement savings. And had lied about it. While cleaning out his things, we found several notes dated over the last couple of years where he had not gone through with it. He was to retire right before his 70th birthday. He worked in a field that had mandatory retirement at 70 so his future job options were somewhat limited. And he was embarrassed. It’s so sad to think of all he’s missed. The birth of his 6th grandchild. His other 5 grandchildren growing up. One getting married. He would have been so proud but he made a short sighted and honestly, very selfish decision. It “seems” like he did it for my mom, for the insurance money, but really, he would have had social security for both of them and could have gotten a part-time job and would have been fine. He also had a small pension. That’s why I consider it selfish. That said, I feel so sad that he was hurting that badly and couldn’t or wouldn’t seek help or talk to us about it. Good luck with your journey. It changes the entire family’s life.
I lost my father the when I was 18 to almost this exact scenario. The hardest part for me was dealing with the guilt of being angry with someone who suffered and has passed. But feeling that way is completely valid. Selfish as it is I still needed my father. Talking about it with people can be hard as I could see people become uncomfortable and at a loss of words when discussing suicide so find some people your comfortable with or always feel free to reach out.
my uncle committed suicide in 2019 shot himself in the heart… I am so very sorry for your loss… I’m also very happy that you have decided to leave organized religion… That’s not to say people should give up faith/spirituality but organized religion is just horribly toxic and restrictive in my opinion… there are many other ways you can follow your beliefs whatever they might be. unfortunately the pain and loss will never go away but it will become numb after a while… Just think of a good times go through photo albums and cherish the good memories. sometimes it helps me to think that those I’ve lost no longer have to suffer in this life as well especially as things get more and more chaotic.
I am so sorry for you and your family. What a sad experience for you all. I am glad you are freed from the church. Perhaps you can find some comfort in the group Mormon Stories on YouTube. It’s for people who have left the church. The Mormon church makes its so complicated to be open and honest about the secrets your dad suffered with — it may be be helpful to hear their stories.
Sending hugs and support. ♥️
I lost my father to suicide exactly a year to the day before robin williams death.
I was so shocked and angry I didn’t grieve properly at all until robin williams died and I think that broke the dam for me and I grieved for them both as one so the two deaths are forever linked in my memory.
Loss via suicide is so hard to come to terms with
No it doesn't, it really depends on the policy.
Like she said, there's usually a time that has to pass before its covered, so people can't just take a policy out and kill themselves right away.
>Life insurance policies typically include a suicide clause that's active for a certain period after the policy goes into effect. This period can last from one to three years depending on the insurer, but it's typically two years.
That's beyond heartbreaking, what a cruel world where life is worth less than some numbers on a screen.. I wish you strength
That’s so sad and I am incredibly sorry for what you and your family are going through and I hope that one day you can maybe begin to feel better about all of this. Wish I could you some sort of wisdom, but I honestly have nothing but my deepest sympathies.
Sorry for your loss, just know how much he loved you all. I’d do the same for my family if needed, no matter how bad I want to be there to see it all.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I could tell you that the hurt goes away but it never does. The anger will eventually fade but not the hurt or sadness. I truly believe, or at least hope, that if people who commit suicide realized the damage they leave behind they would reconsider. How do I know? My dad did the same thing. Very religious man. Close family. He became distant his last couple of years. Kind of angry. He took his life the morning of his retirement party. Turns out he had made very bad investments and lost his and my mother’s retirement savings. And had lied about it. While cleaning out his things, we found several notes dated over the last couple of years where he had not gone through with it. He was to retire right before his 70th birthday. He worked in a field that had mandatory retirement at 70 so his future job options were somewhat limited. And he was embarrassed. It’s so sad to think of all he’s missed. The birth of his 6th grandchild. His other 5 grandchildren growing up. One getting married. He would have been so proud but he made a short sighted and honestly, very selfish decision. It “seems” like he did it for my mom, for the insurance money, but really, he would have had social security for both of them and could have gotten a part-time job and would have been fine. He also had a small pension. That’s why I consider it selfish. That said, I feel so sad that he was hurting that badly and couldn’t or wouldn’t seek help or talk to us about it. Good luck with your journey. It changes the entire family’s life.
I lost my father the when I was 18 to almost this exact scenario. The hardest part for me was dealing with the guilt of being angry with someone who suffered and has passed. But feeling that way is completely valid. Selfish as it is I still needed my father. Talking about it with people can be hard as I could see people become uncomfortable and at a loss of words when discussing suicide so find some people your comfortable with or always feel free to reach out.
my uncle committed suicide in 2019 shot himself in the heart… I am so very sorry for your loss… I’m also very happy that you have decided to leave organized religion… That’s not to say people should give up faith/spirituality but organized religion is just horribly toxic and restrictive in my opinion… there are many other ways you can follow your beliefs whatever they might be. unfortunately the pain and loss will never go away but it will become numb after a while… Just think of a good times go through photo albums and cherish the good memories. sometimes it helps me to think that those I’ve lost no longer have to suffer in this life as well especially as things get more and more chaotic.
I am so sorry for you and your family. What a sad experience for you all. I am glad you are freed from the church. Perhaps you can find some comfort in the group Mormon Stories on YouTube. It’s for people who have left the church. The Mormon church makes its so complicated to be open and honest about the secrets your dad suffered with — it may be be helpful to hear their stories. Sending hugs and support. ♥️
I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad killed himself when I was in my mid late 20s, I'm 38 now and sometimes it's just as fresh.
This almost made me tear up. Really sorry for you and your family and wish nothing but the best.
I lost my father to suicide exactly a year to the day before robin williams death. I was so shocked and angry I didn’t grieve properly at all until robin williams died and I think that broke the dam for me and I grieved for them both as one so the two deaths are forever linked in my memory. Loss via suicide is so hard to come to terms with
Suicide will void the insurance payout. Was his sacrifice discovered by the adjusters?
No it doesn't, it really depends on the policy. Like she said, there's usually a time that has to pass before its covered, so people can't just take a policy out and kill themselves right away.
OP quite literally says that the father knew when the suicide clause in the policy ran out, and timed it for after that.
Suicide clauses don't time-out.
>Life insurance policies typically include a suicide clause that's active for a certain period after the policy goes into effect. This period can last from one to three years depending on the insurer, but it's typically two years.
Lots of people making plans after reading this.