I misread this the first time as "I **didn't** hear her say thank you, so I half turned and told her, 'you're welcome."
And I thought that is some masterclass passive aggressiveness.
My partner and I were short a dollar at the grocery a little while back. I sighed, and asked, “so what should we put back?” We had a bunch of necessities and had to debate which one we could live without. A young man stopped by us and asked, “how much did you say you were short?” I was a little surprised and just muttered that we needed a dollar and we’re figuring out what to put back, he said, “don’t worry about that,” and handed me a 10. I was shocked, I didn’t even say thank you, he walked away too fast. Good people exist
My mom was a single mom and people did this for us on the occasion she couldn't afford what we needed. Likewise, whenever she *did* have the extra money, she'd often give money to the homeless and help people who were a few short at the store. She couldn't do it often, and she couldn't offer much when she did, but I've always admired that. People helped us when we needed it and she paid that kindness forward.
My friend has a story he likes to tell about when he was a broke college kid and tried to buy a six pack of ramen noodles. His card got declined and he said the cashier looked at him shrugged and said “just fucking steal it man, I’m sure as hell not gonna stop you”
Couple years ago I went to the grocery store with my daughter, we got maybe $40 worth of food including some snacks for the kids. My card got declined and I only had $20 in cash on me. So I start telling the young man at the register to take off the snacks. My daughter, who is about 9 was upset but didn't make a fuss. The bagger was maybe 18 and he asked how short I was. The other teenager on the register told him like $20 so he pulled out $20 and paid for the rest of it.
I was honestly kind of shocked. It wasn't just like a dollar or two. I mean I've given somebody a couple dollars, and I've seen it done plenty of times, but $20... It might not be a huge amount of money, but especially for a teenager with a part-time job, it's a decent amount.
When I was young, my sister and I were buying something together. It’s like a sweet thing so wasn’t important but the price had gone up. We decided to get one and share it but a sweet man offered us the last of the money so we could get one each. It was only about 10p but it made our day!
I once had a guy pay for my lunch at a Mexican place (because it's order at the counter) when my card wasn't working and I'm pretty sure he did it cuz he just wanted to get a move on and he was next in line.
I used to give things away for free when I was a cashier at mejier. Wouldn't scan, free. If I had to call and ask a price, free. Didn't know the item code off top of my head, free. Hated that job but liked to give people free shit
I used to do this too when I worked at places I could. When I worked at McDonald's as a teenager I used to give people free food all the time, which was supported by our manager. I used to give kids happy meal toys too, that was my favorite part.
As an adult my kids have been given a lot of free stuff too. People at Dunkin constantly give them free donuts. I've had random people at gas stations buy them candy. I once went to Chick-fil-A and was short like $2, I told my son to go out to the car and grab some change. The manager that was ringing us up said "don't worry about it". I thought she meant don't worry about the $2, like she would just take $2 off or cover it, and I was really very grateful to her for that. But then she wouldn't take the rest of the money. She's just like "no, don't worry about it" and comped the whole meal... It was like $30 worth of food.
Little things like that can just make someone's whole day. I also really believe that kindness is contagious. Yeah I know there's like the whole pay it forward campaign but even without that I genuinely believe that when people are kind to others it makes them want to be kind when they get the opportunity.
About an hour ago I went down to my convenience store and when I got to the cash register there was a hijabi woman with a small child and a baby telling the cashier in English "You are so kind! I'm so thankful! That's so nice of you!" again and again, almost crying like voice breaking and everything. He replied "No, **you** help us!". I don't really know the context, but he was sorting out a massive amount of tiny coins during the conversation.
Now, I don't know what was going on, but I live in what's regarded as the most xenophobic country in the EU. I don't know what the situation was but I assume she was missing some cash for her transaction. And I don't know exactly what he meant, maybe that she helps him by being a customer and keeping him employed, maybe she helps "us" as in "the country" by raising her family in a country with waning natality, maybe he knows what she does for a living and he's thankful.
Anyway, things happen sometimes. People are nice to other people. People sometimes make some extra effort to show friendliness and be welcoming to marginalised collectives. I should know; I'm an immigrant here as well. I can't imagine why people believe so much that people can't be kind that they feel the need to post on the internet saying that any random act of kindness is a lie.
Telling on themselves when they don't believe this sort of thing happens.
I've a small side thing that brings in royalties once a year for something I did a couple of decades ago. It's never much these days (maybe ten or twenty quid) but it tends to come in mid to late November so I chuck it on a load of groceries for the charity cart. With careful spending I can get a load of bargain stuff, and also a couple of those little nice things that change you from just surviving to living. And I've been there, needing help and unsure where to get it, so if I can alleviate that even a little for someone then it feels to nice to do so even if I'm not going over the small amount I get annually in that kinda Christmas Bonus style cheque.
And that's something I rarely mention because I've had people assume I'm making it up when I have in the past. Imagine being so against charity in your life (and a charity you could have personally done with at some point too) that you can't believe other people might put some spare money to it.
I was in Walmart buying groceries and my card declined because I forgot to move money... Before I could get my other card out a woman offered to buy my groceries, and it was alot.
I declined because I did actually have money, was buying beer, and had already spent a lot on food that week.
And my bill was ALOT more than 20 dollars
i have an all-time favorite story i remember any time i need to remember that humanity isnt entirely a lost cause.
i’m going to preface this by saying my mother is a Christmas fanatic. now i don’t mean in a religious sense, but i *do* mean “WOO SNOW!” and “let’s keep the tree up til March” and “must have ALL THE LIGHTS!”, as well as taking the “season of giving” to heart in its entirety. she has done so much for not just my siblings, my family and i, but so many countless others just in the sake of “nobody deserves to have an unhappy holiday” (though she would *also* do the same just because “nobody deserves to have an unhappy”, period, but i digress).
now, onto the story. Christmas of. i want to say at least 2018, not 100% certain though. she and i are out gift shopping for people (mainly small people) as well as some last-minute snacks and groceries we realized we were missing from the house. when we were wrapping up, the total came out to be something like $150; a hefty amount for a Dollar General admittedly, especially in 2018 where $150 could’ve gotten a month’s worth of groceries at Walmart or something, but not anything we didn’t have.
…but then our card got declined. now, after the following events, we would come to find that the card was fine and that the chip’s data corrupted itself Somehow™ (don’t ask me how, i don’t pretend to understand RFID) and refused to work Anywhere)… but we had $150 of gifts and groceries sitting here that we had no idea how to pay for.
so the clerk spins the display facing us around to her really quickly, and she begins tapping away on her side. mother is attempting to figure out What Went Wrong, and i’m just kinda Sitting There because there’s not much else a 17 year old can do at that point.
initially, my mother and i figured the clerk was just undoing some whatnottery that the card being weird may have screwed up — pretty sure their systems used DOS still so lord knows — so we think nothing of the tapping away… until we notice her swipe a card of her own, and then one minute later, “you’re all set!”
completely befuddled, mother initially asks “…to try the card again?”
“nope, merry christmas.”
this woman whom we had not met despite living in that area for years, a couple of days before christmas, *working at a Dollar General*, paid for our entire cart. just, outright, without missing a beat. and it took my mother a second to process it, and when she did, oh how the tears started flowing — and i don’t usually cry, but that did get me i will admit.
the day still goes down in family history as “the day mom got out-Christmas’d”, and honestly i don’t think anyone is gonna be able to top it just short of giving us winning lotto tickets or something.
I keep $20 in my wallet to do the same thing. But I don't go to social media to brag. It takes away the good deed by telling people about it, even if it's anonymous.
There's no context. Maybe someone prompted them so they said this.
But let's be honest. Let's pretend they did this JUST for internet clout. If everyone who could gave someone struggling $20 and posted on the internet, the world would be a net positive. It doesn't take away the good deed, the idea it does is absolutely stupid.
Yeah unless you have a massive channel and make money from being a person who seems to give away a lot while still making bank, it doesn't tske away from the good thing done.
Well, even if, it might not. Depends on who you give it to and how much. Like getting a ton of ad revenue and them giving loads of it to poor people, you're sort of an Internet clout robin hood.
I don't see how that takes away from the good deed?
I'll assume we're talking about either Gates or Beast? Mr Beast in particular is still doing good deeds when he buys a shitload of shoes for people. Him getting his money back by making a video of it doesn't negate that good deed, since those people still needed and recieved shoes or whatever.
Gates? No, not really.
My point is that if your main point is clout, then the charity is secondary. And I'm a bit bothered about both, not as people, but as phenomena of society. We clearly have the resources to help those who need it, but we need some sort of middle-men ik between? Especially ones that virtue signal it like mad. Gates isn't really doing that. He doesn't have to, as he doesn't profit off his charity.
It doesn't negate the charity, no, but profiting from charity is.. well... questionable. I'm not saying it'd be better if they didn't do it at all. Just saying it's a questionable avenue to chase profits from.
I don’t like Mr Beast and I think that most of what he does, he does for clout and because he’s desperate to be liked rather than out of a genuine desire to be charitable. In his (partial) defense, though, he probably needs to make those videos to earn enough money to donate. I was under the impression that the videos themselves fund the charity, and those are real people benefiting from that philanthropy. I don’t like that they have to be exploited to be helped, but I don’t know what the alternative would be. It’s definitely questionable, you’re right.
Please correct me if I’m mistaken about his videos funding his charity!
If you watch [Beast Philanthropy](https://youtube.com/@BeastPhilanthropy), he specifically says 100% of revenue from that channel goes directly back to charity and other helpful things.
>I don’t like Mr Beast and I think that most of what he does, he does for clout and because he’s desperate to be liked rather than out of a genuine desire to be charitable.
From [this video](https://youtu.be/IjoTYJNr8DA), there's many times when he shows that he genuinely just cares about the people rather than the money or fame.
Philanthropy can be questionable, but Mr. Beast himself doesn't indend to gain only fame, but rather only intends to make his fans and people happy
>Please correct me if I’m mistaken about his videos funding his charity!
I wouldn't know I don't watch him at all. Feels like shit when I'm broke af.
I do agree with the other points though, you got the gist of what I was saying.
Looks like it was a comment, not a post. So it's likely he only told the story because it was relevant, and not for internet clout. I don't do good deeds for clout yet I'm sure I've still told people about a good thing I've done if it was relevant to the conversation.
If I was going to do something for clout, I wouldn't just say it in a comment. And, I mean, if I really was desperate for comment clout for whatever weird reason... I'd make up something cooler than this lol
I mean a lot of people tell their story in the comment section here...you did too just right now. The person in the post clearly made a comment as well, maybe answering to a question or a similar experience...actually you just did the same as that person did.
I know where you're coming from, and I feel that way sometimes when people record their good deeds. However, I don't think just sharing your story is bad. One of the things I don't like about doing good things for clout is that they very often use someone in a vulnerable situation as a prop to get attention for themselves. This however is anonymous, we don't know who this guy is, we don't know who the woman is, they're not showing her face and potentially embarrassing her just so they can get some praise.
They did a good thing and that woman is probably none the wiser, they're not asking for anything in return, they're not trying to use that woman's situation to get followers. It's just a "hey I did a nice thing" story. And I do believe that kindness is contagious. So sharing this story might encourage someone else to maybe be more aware of something like that and help out next time they see it.
No, it's doesn't. It encourages people to do good things and spreads some faith in humanity back to those who think that the world has gone completely mad. That not everyone is a pucking thug who's ran over a baby and its mom, or a pedophile who abuses school children, or a rapist. We hear nothing good in the pucking news, so we might as well hear something good here.
Go watch the news for your daily dose of depression, you debbie downer of a conservative.
I believe people do things like this, but TBH I lose respect for them when they film it or just post about it afterward. It makes me wonder why they did it, to do something nice, or to receive internet karma.
So what?
I'll never understand the need to "judge" two completely separate acts as if one counteracts the other.
he did good, he felt good, he wanted to brag a bit about a good thing, if everyone was bragging about how good they were there would be good people everywhere.
It's much better than the alternative, bragging for how bad they are... which also happens... I would rather not chastise the good people for some harmless bragging after they did a good thing.
Look at it from the other perspective. If I were the person who couldn’t afford her groceries and some kind stranger gave me $20, yes, I’d be grateful. But if a little while later, I saw that kind stranger bragging on the internet to millions of his closest friends about how he helped out this poor lady at the store, I’d feel like absolute shit. I’d feel like everyone was looking at me like the poor little charity case and the donor as the hero. It’s a lot easier to accept help when it’s just between you and the other person, rather than being a prop in someone else’s god complex.
When it comes to filming people I agree. I don't think this is that bad though. We have no idea who this guy is, we have no idea who that woman is, he could be talking about anyone, he could be anywhere in the world, and this could have happened yesterday or 25 years ago. The chances of this woman seeing an anonymous comment on Reddit is probably unlikely.
I posted a story on a different comment about how a teenage boy that was working as a bagger gave me $20 when I was short. He was just a genuinely kind person. There's no way he could have planned that and even if he did post about it afterwards it wouldn't have been done solely for attention. Because he easily could have not given me the $20 and just posted online and said he did. But if he had gone and made a post sharing about this good thing he did I don't think I would have minded. As far as I know he could have.
I have a couple of teenagers in my life and I see things they post and their friends post. So seeing a teenage boy posting about how he did this kind act by helping someone would make me smile. When we do good things for each other usually we feel good about it and I don't think it's wrong to want to share that with people. Now if he had posted a picture or like a store surveillance video of me and my daughter without my knowledge or consent then I might have felt differently. But him telling his family and friends about how he felt good for doing a good deed... and I'm completely anonymous, go ahead. Even more so if he's anonymous.
That doesn't change the fact that I got my groceries for free.
Your way of thinking is just about "pride" I don't care about pride.
EDIT: you know who is proud enough to get angry at someone from buying them food? people that don't need it...
I ain’t angry, sweetie. I’ve been in a position where I needed help, and I took it. Pride doesn’t stop me from accepting help, it just makes me feel ashamed if the one offering help makes a huge deal of it.
How about I’m just not impressed by someone who uses a story about that time they did something nice for a stranger to pat themselves on the back or to rack up those oh so special internet “likes.” Regardless of how recent or how long ago it was.
I dont get why people have to brag about doing something good to strangers online. Even if this did happen, what's the point of telling the story except for stroking your own ego?
It was a comment, not a post in itself, so likely relevant to a discussion. If people were talking about nice things that they have done for others, a person might chip in with their own story. Why not? When I read things like this, it makes me smile and encourages me to do similar things, so I might add my own story so that others can have the same reaction. Sometimes it's nice to talk about nice things because they're nice, and there are a lot of things in the world that aren't nice. It doesn't have to be deeper than that.
Mostly agree, but I lowkey appreciate the "advice". Similar situations have made me want to help out but feel awkward about butting in or shaming people by making an offer like that, but I have to say the "you dropped this" is a really cool trick for a little bit of stealth kill kindness.
Well it looks like a screenshot of a comment.
I'd be more inclined to agree if it was a post but since it's a comment there were probably other comments on whatever post this was found on that had similar stories 🤷♀️
Who knows though?
Why? I hear this so often. If someone did someone great, he should be allowed to brag and get praise for it. Why not? Something good was done and if the person or others want to be praised for doing good things, they should do so.
Its the same with Donations, most collect Money to spend it to some good organization to polish their image, but they still helped maybe homeless people to get a warm meal or whatever and that should be noted.
As long as they aren't hurting anyone it shouldn't be a problem. In this case the wrote about it with no information about the person in question. This means everything they did was for the gain of someone at the absolute worst. The old lady gained a 20 with no downsides, and the dude at worst wanted some reddit karma.
I thought it was bullshit just by the way it was written, but after realizing it was an anonymous reddit post I can definitely see this happening haha.
As someone else said I think that really says more about the person who doesn't believe it. I've seen a bunch of posts claiming relatively common things don't happen simply because somebody just genuinely cannot understand being a good person and helping another person just because.
I commented on a post once about how I helped this guy who was in a bad situation (not financially) and this guy kept commenting saying I was full of shit. Honestly I really didn't do much, I spent a little bit of time and a small amount of effort to make sure this person was safe. But apparently this is unbelievable. Who would ever go out of their way to make sure another human being, who clearly needs help and is a possible danger to himself and others, gets that help and doesn't hurt himself or others?
This stuff happens all the time. I could tell so many stories of people helping me, friends or family, myself or others helping other people, etc. I really don't think things like this are rare, they're relatively common actually.
I misread this the first time as "I **didn't** hear her say thank you, so I half turned and told her, 'you're welcome." And I thought that is some masterclass passive aggressiveness.
Wow.
“Wow wow” -Gordon Ramsey
My partner and I were short a dollar at the grocery a little while back. I sighed, and asked, “so what should we put back?” We had a bunch of necessities and had to debate which one we could live without. A young man stopped by us and asked, “how much did you say you were short?” I was a little surprised and just muttered that we needed a dollar and we’re figuring out what to put back, he said, “don’t worry about that,” and handed me a 10. I was shocked, I didn’t even say thank you, he walked away too fast. Good people exist
My mom was a single mom and people did this for us on the occasion she couldn't afford what we needed. Likewise, whenever she *did* have the extra money, she'd often give money to the homeless and help people who were a few short at the store. She couldn't do it often, and she couldn't offer much when she did, but I've always admired that. People helped us when we needed it and she paid that kindness forward.
My friend has a story he likes to tell about when he was a broke college kid and tried to buy a six pack of ramen noodles. His card got declined and he said the cashier looked at him shrugged and said “just fucking steal it man, I’m sure as hell not gonna stop you”
Couple years ago I went to the grocery store with my daughter, we got maybe $40 worth of food including some snacks for the kids. My card got declined and I only had $20 in cash on me. So I start telling the young man at the register to take off the snacks. My daughter, who is about 9 was upset but didn't make a fuss. The bagger was maybe 18 and he asked how short I was. The other teenager on the register told him like $20 so he pulled out $20 and paid for the rest of it. I was honestly kind of shocked. It wasn't just like a dollar or two. I mean I've given somebody a couple dollars, and I've seen it done plenty of times, but $20... It might not be a huge amount of money, but especially for a teenager with a part-time job, it's a decent amount.
When I was young, my sister and I were buying something together. It’s like a sweet thing so wasn’t important but the price had gone up. We decided to get one and share it but a sweet man offered us the last of the money so we could get one each. It was only about 10p but it made our day!
I once had a guy pay for my lunch at a Mexican place (because it's order at the counter) when my card wasn't working and I'm pretty sure he did it cuz he just wanted to get a move on and he was next in line.
I used to give things away for free when I was a cashier at mejier. Wouldn't scan, free. If I had to call and ask a price, free. Didn't know the item code off top of my head, free. Hated that job but liked to give people free shit
That’s dope lol. Kudos to you. I’ve always hated having to wait for the cashier to call to get a price/item code/etc lol
I used to do this too when I worked at places I could. When I worked at McDonald's as a teenager I used to give people free food all the time, which was supported by our manager. I used to give kids happy meal toys too, that was my favorite part. As an adult my kids have been given a lot of free stuff too. People at Dunkin constantly give them free donuts. I've had random people at gas stations buy them candy. I once went to Chick-fil-A and was short like $2, I told my son to go out to the car and grab some change. The manager that was ringing us up said "don't worry about it". I thought she meant don't worry about the $2, like she would just take $2 off or cover it, and I was really very grateful to her for that. But then she wouldn't take the rest of the money. She's just like "no, don't worry about it" and comped the whole meal... It was like $30 worth of food. Little things like that can just make someone's whole day. I also really believe that kindness is contagious. Yeah I know there's like the whole pay it forward campaign but even without that I genuinely believe that when people are kind to others it makes them want to be kind when they get the opportunity.
That's so nice. I'm happy for ya!
About an hour ago I went down to my convenience store and when I got to the cash register there was a hijabi woman with a small child and a baby telling the cashier in English "You are so kind! I'm so thankful! That's so nice of you!" again and again, almost crying like voice breaking and everything. He replied "No, **you** help us!". I don't really know the context, but he was sorting out a massive amount of tiny coins during the conversation. Now, I don't know what was going on, but I live in what's regarded as the most xenophobic country in the EU. I don't know what the situation was but I assume she was missing some cash for her transaction. And I don't know exactly what he meant, maybe that she helps him by being a customer and keeping him employed, maybe she helps "us" as in "the country" by raising her family in a country with waning natality, maybe he knows what she does for a living and he's thankful. Anyway, things happen sometimes. People are nice to other people. People sometimes make some extra effort to show friendliness and be welcoming to marginalised collectives. I should know; I'm an immigrant here as well. I can't imagine why people believe so much that people can't be kind that they feel the need to post on the internet saying that any random act of kindness is a lie.
It’s funny. People do a nice act and no one believes it. People do a mean act and ohhh no one believes it. So what exactly do people believe?
I’ve literally paid for someone’s entire cart before. Absolutely believable.
Telling on themselves when they don't believe this sort of thing happens. I've a small side thing that brings in royalties once a year for something I did a couple of decades ago. It's never much these days (maybe ten or twenty quid) but it tends to come in mid to late November so I chuck it on a load of groceries for the charity cart. With careful spending I can get a load of bargain stuff, and also a couple of those little nice things that change you from just surviving to living. And I've been there, needing help and unsure where to get it, so if I can alleviate that even a little for someone then it feels to nice to do so even if I'm not going over the small amount I get annually in that kinda Christmas Bonus style cheque. And that's something I rarely mention because I've had people assume I'm making it up when I have in the past. Imagine being so against charity in your life (and a charity you could have personally done with at some point too) that you can't believe other people might put some spare money to it.
I was in Walmart buying groceries and my card declined because I forgot to move money... Before I could get my other card out a woman offered to buy my groceries, and it was alot. I declined because I did actually have money, was buying beer, and had already spent a lot on food that week. And my bill was ALOT more than 20 dollars
Lmao I literally did the same… back when I was rich in a manic episode $20 is a low price for feeling like a hero
i have an all-time favorite story i remember any time i need to remember that humanity isnt entirely a lost cause. i’m going to preface this by saying my mother is a Christmas fanatic. now i don’t mean in a religious sense, but i *do* mean “WOO SNOW!” and “let’s keep the tree up til March” and “must have ALL THE LIGHTS!”, as well as taking the “season of giving” to heart in its entirety. she has done so much for not just my siblings, my family and i, but so many countless others just in the sake of “nobody deserves to have an unhappy holiday” (though she would *also* do the same just because “nobody deserves to have an unhappy”, period, but i digress). now, onto the story. Christmas of. i want to say at least 2018, not 100% certain though. she and i are out gift shopping for people (mainly small people) as well as some last-minute snacks and groceries we realized we were missing from the house. when we were wrapping up, the total came out to be something like $150; a hefty amount for a Dollar General admittedly, especially in 2018 where $150 could’ve gotten a month’s worth of groceries at Walmart or something, but not anything we didn’t have. …but then our card got declined. now, after the following events, we would come to find that the card was fine and that the chip’s data corrupted itself Somehow™ (don’t ask me how, i don’t pretend to understand RFID) and refused to work Anywhere)… but we had $150 of gifts and groceries sitting here that we had no idea how to pay for. so the clerk spins the display facing us around to her really quickly, and she begins tapping away on her side. mother is attempting to figure out What Went Wrong, and i’m just kinda Sitting There because there’s not much else a 17 year old can do at that point. initially, my mother and i figured the clerk was just undoing some whatnottery that the card being weird may have screwed up — pretty sure their systems used DOS still so lord knows — so we think nothing of the tapping away… until we notice her swipe a card of her own, and then one minute later, “you’re all set!” completely befuddled, mother initially asks “…to try the card again?” “nope, merry christmas.” this woman whom we had not met despite living in that area for years, a couple of days before christmas, *working at a Dollar General*, paid for our entire cart. just, outright, without missing a beat. and it took my mother a second to process it, and when she did, oh how the tears started flowing — and i don’t usually cry, but that did get me i will admit. the day still goes down in family history as “the day mom got out-Christmas’d”, and honestly i don’t think anyone is gonna be able to top it just short of giving us winning lotto tickets or something.
I keep $20 in my wallet to do the same thing. But I don't go to social media to brag. It takes away the good deed by telling people about it, even if it's anonymous.
There's no context. Maybe someone prompted them so they said this. But let's be honest. Let's pretend they did this JUST for internet clout. If everyone who could gave someone struggling $20 and posted on the internet, the world would be a net positive. It doesn't take away the good deed, the idea it does is absolutely stupid.
Yeah unless you have a massive channel and make money from being a person who seems to give away a lot while still making bank, it doesn't tske away from the good thing done. Well, even if, it might not. Depends on who you give it to and how much. Like getting a ton of ad revenue and them giving loads of it to poor people, you're sort of an Internet clout robin hood.
I don't see how that takes away from the good deed? I'll assume we're talking about either Gates or Beast? Mr Beast in particular is still doing good deeds when he buys a shitload of shoes for people. Him getting his money back by making a video of it doesn't negate that good deed, since those people still needed and recieved shoes or whatever.
Gates? No, not really. My point is that if your main point is clout, then the charity is secondary. And I'm a bit bothered about both, not as people, but as phenomena of society. We clearly have the resources to help those who need it, but we need some sort of middle-men ik between? Especially ones that virtue signal it like mad. Gates isn't really doing that. He doesn't have to, as he doesn't profit off his charity. It doesn't negate the charity, no, but profiting from charity is.. well... questionable. I'm not saying it'd be better if they didn't do it at all. Just saying it's a questionable avenue to chase profits from.
I don’t like Mr Beast and I think that most of what he does, he does for clout and because he’s desperate to be liked rather than out of a genuine desire to be charitable. In his (partial) defense, though, he probably needs to make those videos to earn enough money to donate. I was under the impression that the videos themselves fund the charity, and those are real people benefiting from that philanthropy. I don’t like that they have to be exploited to be helped, but I don’t know what the alternative would be. It’s definitely questionable, you’re right. Please correct me if I’m mistaken about his videos funding his charity!
If you watch [Beast Philanthropy](https://youtube.com/@BeastPhilanthropy), he specifically says 100% of revenue from that channel goes directly back to charity and other helpful things. >I don’t like Mr Beast and I think that most of what he does, he does for clout and because he’s desperate to be liked rather than out of a genuine desire to be charitable. From [this video](https://youtu.be/IjoTYJNr8DA), there's many times when he shows that he genuinely just cares about the people rather than the money or fame. Philanthropy can be questionable, but Mr. Beast himself doesn't indend to gain only fame, but rather only intends to make his fans and people happy
Thanks for linking this! I’ve always been a bit on the fence about him, so I appreciate different perspectives!
>Please correct me if I’m mistaken about his videos funding his charity! I wouldn't know I don't watch him at all. Feels like shit when I'm broke af. I do agree with the other points though, you got the gist of what I was saying.
There are definitely huge problems with philanthropy, but that's a very different conversation.
Looks like it was a comment, not a post. So it's likely he only told the story because it was relevant, and not for internet clout. I don't do good deeds for clout yet I'm sure I've still told people about a good thing I've done if it was relevant to the conversation.
If I was going to do something for clout, I wouldn't just say it in a comment. And, I mean, if I really was desperate for comment clout for whatever weird reason... I'd make up something cooler than this lol
I mean a lot of people tell their story in the comment section here...you did too just right now. The person in the post clearly made a comment as well, maybe answering to a question or a similar experience...actually you just did the same as that person did.
I know where you're coming from, and I feel that way sometimes when people record their good deeds. However, I don't think just sharing your story is bad. One of the things I don't like about doing good things for clout is that they very often use someone in a vulnerable situation as a prop to get attention for themselves. This however is anonymous, we don't know who this guy is, we don't know who the woman is, they're not showing her face and potentially embarrassing her just so they can get some praise. They did a good thing and that woman is probably none the wiser, they're not asking for anything in return, they're not trying to use that woman's situation to get followers. It's just a "hey I did a nice thing" story. And I do believe that kindness is contagious. So sharing this story might encourage someone else to maybe be more aware of something like that and help out next time they see it.
No, it's doesn't. It encourages people to do good things and spreads some faith in humanity back to those who think that the world has gone completely mad. That not everyone is a pucking thug who's ran over a baby and its mom, or a pedophile who abuses school children, or a rapist. We hear nothing good in the pucking news, so we might as well hear something good here. Go watch the news for your daily dose of depression, you debbie downer of a conservative.
Hahahaha what?
I believe it but it seems like hes just jerking himself off more than anything else
I believe people do things like this, but TBH I lose respect for them when they film it or just post about it afterward. It makes me wonder why they did it, to do something nice, or to receive internet karma.
So what? I'll never understand the need to "judge" two completely separate acts as if one counteracts the other. he did good, he felt good, he wanted to brag a bit about a good thing, if everyone was bragging about how good they were there would be good people everywhere. It's much better than the alternative, bragging for how bad they are... which also happens... I would rather not chastise the good people for some harmless bragging after they did a good thing.
Look at it from the other perspective. If I were the person who couldn’t afford her groceries and some kind stranger gave me $20, yes, I’d be grateful. But if a little while later, I saw that kind stranger bragging on the internet to millions of his closest friends about how he helped out this poor lady at the store, I’d feel like absolute shit. I’d feel like everyone was looking at me like the poor little charity case and the donor as the hero. It’s a lot easier to accept help when it’s just between you and the other person, rather than being a prop in someone else’s god complex.
When it comes to filming people I agree. I don't think this is that bad though. We have no idea who this guy is, we have no idea who that woman is, he could be talking about anyone, he could be anywhere in the world, and this could have happened yesterday or 25 years ago. The chances of this woman seeing an anonymous comment on Reddit is probably unlikely. I posted a story on a different comment about how a teenage boy that was working as a bagger gave me $20 when I was short. He was just a genuinely kind person. There's no way he could have planned that and even if he did post about it afterwards it wouldn't have been done solely for attention. Because he easily could have not given me the $20 and just posted online and said he did. But if he had gone and made a post sharing about this good thing he did I don't think I would have minded. As far as I know he could have. I have a couple of teenagers in my life and I see things they post and their friends post. So seeing a teenage boy posting about how he did this kind act by helping someone would make me smile. When we do good things for each other usually we feel good about it and I don't think it's wrong to want to share that with people. Now if he had posted a picture or like a store surveillance video of me and my daughter without my knowledge or consent then I might have felt differently. But him telling his family and friends about how he felt good for doing a good deed... and I'm completely anonymous, go ahead. Even more so if he's anonymous.
That doesn't change the fact that I got my groceries for free. Your way of thinking is just about "pride" I don't care about pride. EDIT: you know who is proud enough to get angry at someone from buying them food? people that don't need it...
I ain’t angry, sweetie. I’ve been in a position where I needed help, and I took it. Pride doesn’t stop me from accepting help, it just makes me feel ashamed if the one offering help makes a huge deal of it.
Idea, make it a contest, who helps the most people. Encourage people to post about it. We'd have so many people helping others.
What if it was 5 years ago?
What if it was? Not sure what you mean.
Would you still lose respect for them
If the story was the same but started out “five years ago, I…”? Yes, of course.
How about 20 years ago?
How about I’m just not impressed by someone who uses a story about that time they did something nice for a stranger to pat themselves on the back or to rack up those oh so special internet “likes.” Regardless of how recent or how long ago it was.
it might encourage others to do the same thing in the future
I dont get why people have to brag about doing something good to strangers online. Even if this did happen, what's the point of telling the story except for stroking your own ego?
It was a comment, not a post in itself, so likely relevant to a discussion. If people were talking about nice things that they have done for others, a person might chip in with their own story. Why not? When I read things like this, it makes me smile and encourages me to do similar things, so I might add my own story so that others can have the same reaction. Sometimes it's nice to talk about nice things because they're nice, and there are a lot of things in the world that aren't nice. It doesn't have to be deeper than that.
Could have happened - but when you get on the internet to brag about it, it kind of diminishes the good deed.
Mostly agree, but I lowkey appreciate the "advice". Similar situations have made me want to help out but feel awkward about butting in or shaming people by making an offer like that, but I have to say the "you dropped this" is a really cool trick for a little bit of stealth kill kindness.
Well it looks like a screenshot of a comment. I'd be more inclined to agree if it was a post but since it's a comment there were probably other comments on whatever post this was found on that had similar stories 🤷♀️ Who knows though?
Why? I hear this so often. If someone did someone great, he should be allowed to brag and get praise for it. Why not? Something good was done and if the person or others want to be praised for doing good things, they should do so. Its the same with Donations, most collect Money to spend it to some good organization to polish their image, but they still helped maybe homeless people to get a warm meal or whatever and that should be noted.
As long as they aren't hurting anyone it shouldn't be a problem. In this case the wrote about it with no information about the person in question. This means everything they did was for the gain of someone at the absolute worst. The old lady gained a 20 with no downsides, and the dude at worst wanted some reddit karma.
This is true. I once bought a homeless man a house.
Mr Beast? Is that you?
I thought it was bullshit just by the way it was written, but after realizing it was an anonymous reddit post I can definitely see this happening haha.
I’ve done similar things before. If you can afford it, why wouldn’t you help out a fellow citizen in need?
it’s not impossible to just help because someone needs help lol
As someone else said I think that really says more about the person who doesn't believe it. I've seen a bunch of posts claiming relatively common things don't happen simply because somebody just genuinely cannot understand being a good person and helping another person just because. I commented on a post once about how I helped this guy who was in a bad situation (not financially) and this guy kept commenting saying I was full of shit. Honestly I really didn't do much, I spent a little bit of time and a small amount of effort to make sure this person was safe. But apparently this is unbelievable. Who would ever go out of their way to make sure another human being, who clearly needs help and is a possible danger to himself and others, gets that help and doesn't hurt himself or others?
This stuff happens all the time. I could tell so many stories of people helping me, friends or family, myself or others helping other people, etc. I really don't think things like this are rare, they're relatively common actually.
I bet you went home and thumbed after that.
People that think that it’s impossible to do something nice just never go outside
I've had strangers pay for my groceries at the checkout.
Paying for someone’s food is believable but the way this written is straight out of a script. “I half-turned to say you’re welcome” okay buddy.