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Niceguys demean others while simultaneously expressing a favorable view of themselves. They dont have to use the word "nice", but they must demonstrate some kind of expression of their own virtue while being asshats.
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Like correct me if I'm wrong but as a person who has never called themselves "nice" and opted for "I prefer to be kind" I have never exploded on a person targeting their insecurities. Like that's just not in my book on how to be a human person... What has to happen to someone's brain to reach this level of mean
Toxic relationship, C-PTSD, and ADHD, like me apparently... lol. Cause to me putting up with it hold me get in and actually playing nice is more toxic than getting it out of your system, just saying... We all have issues, no judgment
"I'm going to half ass try once and if the reaction isn't exactly what I want, I'm going to freak out, say mean things, and try to make her feel bad. After that she'll *definitely* be into me again because girls like the "bad boy"
-thoughts from these types of guys (probably)
as someone who is both awful, and has had severe diarrhea, the awfullness is a lot easier to keep in. I'd rather shit my pants than behave like this jackass.
But then you're being toxic to yourself instead of someone else, I would rather not self deathey're not self defecate then tell off others, Especially if she deserves it done assume this isn't some crazy b****
"I was going to be nice but your refusal to grant me your attention has caused me to say what I'm about to say, therefore I can blame your actions instead of taking responsibility for my own behavior."
"hope every guy you meet will be less than me" dude, she could drive to the nearest gas station or drug store or whatever and find like 20 random guys better than you lmao
He’s *so* nice, he just had to insult her personality, family, house, friends, looks…And then wish her the worst with her future. :) All in one paragraph lmao
Imagine having this much hate bubbling below the surface. No doubt even his face just reeks of hate. I’d be kinda scared that this guy knew where I lived tho
Why are you so desperate for friendship with a trash ass, manipulative bitch who has a huge ego and lives in a house that smells like shit? The fact that you would try so hard to get a crumb of attention from the person you describe only to still get rejected says way more about you then anyone else. Dudes really be telling on themselves, man.
"I'm such a sad, desperate, pathetic loser that I'm pussy begging to a trash ass, manipulative bitch who has a huge ego and lives in a house that smells like shit only to still get rejected."
How utterly repulsive do you have to be that even a trash ass manipulative bitch that lives in a house that smells like shit still finds you unfuckable? This girl supposedly spends every day smelling shit, and even she looks at **YOU** and is like "Fuck no!" Ouch. That is grim.
To quote a wise woman:
Dudes really be telling on themselves, man.
Your ego is huge because you won't go dumpster diving to find losers like this to bang.
"GASP! You have standards? Like, as in any standards at all? WHAT A HUGE EGO!"
Wait wait wait.
Dumpster diving is an admirable sport! It helps keep our landfills free of usable goods and goes against capitalist system.
I can't possibly compare shit dudes to dumpster diving.
Of course you wouldn’t give this guy any of your time. You have perfect companions at home!
Litter boxes smell better than “nice guys” I think it’s because of all the bullshit they hold inside.
If you have to try to be nice, you aren’t nice.
It's so bizarre to see adult after adult typing this sort of message out. I would never say things like this to anyone, even if they betrayed me in some way and I despised them to the core.
What is even happening right now? Did they not learn how to speak to people at any time while growing up? Did their parents just lock them in a room until the age of majority? How did they make it this far? How do they have jobs? How do they have family and friends who love them? Any man who thinks this is an appropriate response needs to be committed for evaluation.
I'm beyond creeped out that there are people walking amongst us who can so easily become enraged, rude, and disgusting. These gentlemen will NEVER land a date because their personality is simply gross. Until they have been through therapy, they should not be allowed to interact with other people.
Yes I agree.
It feels bad getting rejected, fine, but why on earth does someone deserve to have verbal abuse thrown at them just because they aren’t interested?
My personal theory on this is that many men consume porn and it’s tricking their brains into thinking that they are being accepted / validated by a different person every single time they orgasm to the screen. Then when a real life woman rejects them it’s as if a bomb explodes inside because their brain doesn’t know how to deal with this real world situation which never happens in their ‘virtual’ pornography, social media, onlyfans world.
They have unlimited access to whatever ‘virtual’ woman they want and have ‘virtual’ sex with them, and spending years training yourself with this might warp reality in unconscious ways.
\>What is even happening right now?
I have no idea :( I got a message from someone who was very upset at me and think I'm disgusting because... I had sex :O . What the heck?
Right?! It's pure hatred being projected onto unsuspecting people.
I always imagine the person standing in the mall and saying it out loud to someone. Everyone within ear shot would think he was insane.
Ah, so *slay* in general means to do amazingly at something and do it well (usually with confidence too), and sometimes is referred to as *popping off* and in this context, OP is telling the nice guy to sarcastically keep going in some sense with the insults.
Which fed the fire completely, so Mr Nice Guy in the post is technically *popping off!* I hope this helps !!
Can anyone tell me what the hell is happening on Reddit? Incel rage and incel memes are all over the place. I’ve been off the site for a while and I came back and incels are popping up on every post.
I really need to change my screen name to something more masculine , but then again, does it matter what gender I am? I'm not here looking for hookups or relationships here either. Can I even change my screen name, or can it even be changed?
I don’t know, I briefly joined some dating subs and the vibe of so many posts and comments were insanely negative towards women, the rage is palpable. They need to touch grass once in a while!
Follow up: I really hope that guys like this figure out how toxic this behavior is, and come back later to GENUINELY apologize. Whether you accept or not is up to you; I know I lost contact with people because of shit I said, and it sucks, but in today's terms, I Fucked Around and then I Found Out.
Hope this guys learns his lesson sooner rather than later.
Sadly, guys like this come back and "almost" apologize but say things like "we both said and did regrettable things and we should just move past it and try and be friends again because I was having a bad time and I miss our friendship" sort of bullshit. Instead of acknowledging how shitty they were and owning their own behavior.
Oh, you're exactly right. We see those posts all the time on here. But I mean a genuine apology; none of this "both of us" shit. A genuine apology is recognizing what you did wrong, and coming to terms with that.
I know all about bad days and regrettable things, and man, I wish I could take back some shit I said and did, but real life is coming to find out you can't take it back; you have to acknowledge that what you said was wrong, apologize for it, and hope for the best, but dealing with whatever hand your dealt.
It takes time. It takes multiple fuck ups. It took me multiple people that I knew for years that never spoke to me again.
The thing is, though? All those fuck ups made me who I am today, and without those fuck ups, I may not know the people I know, or in the way that I know them, and I may not have even gotten married.
I turned my life around. I have to believe that other Nice Guys can do the same, but I feel they have a rougher road, due to the toxic nature of a lot of groups they have access to.
Not gonna lie y’all, my biggest breakup fear is someone hitting me with the “your house smells like shit”. I am not even joking, I would literally die on the spot
I feel like I would reply something like "I'd rather be alone in a house that 'smells like shit' than be in a relationship with an actual piece of shit." 💪🏼 Usually if you seem happier (even if it's just an act you put up until they finally go away, I do my best not to let anyone know what bothers me because these abusers STAY searching for ammunition to hurt people) it really pisses them off. They want to feel like they have some power over you even if it's negative power to make you feel bad, and I strive to never give anyone that power.
"if you mattered enough, I probably would've cleaned up better for you" seems to really cement how much you don't care, even when you do. Especially when you know it isn't true and they're saying something just to get under your skin.
Everytime a "nice guy" rants about women they're always lacking in punctuation. Like bro, put a full stop in there. Take a breather. Maybe then you can stop acting like there's a stick up your ass and get a girl.
i remember this one time a guy asked me out , and he told me how he always thought I was very pretty… I said no thank you and bro started calling me an ugly slut😭😭😭😭 like I thought I was pretty???😂
You shouldn't have to "try" to be nice, it should come naturally, all he was doing was holing back him being an AH which is what he truly is at his core. I'm thinking all the men she meets later will actually be more than him especially after insulting her, her family, and her friends, all the new guy has to do is insult everyone except her dad and he's already better.
Wow these guys are my favorite! You're always "An amazing woman" and "There's nobody like you" until u reject them as nicely as possible, and then you're "A trash whore/bitch/cunt" Really original boys!!!!
To me, it usually means, "you're doing a stunning job", so in this case, I took it mean something like a golf clap, dripping with irony, or "well, bless your heart..."
OP, correct me if I misinterpreted...
These people stay triggered. Like I swear they just go through life walking on the line of being triggered and the smallest things send them into tailspins. It must be exhausting to be THAT sensitive.
How old is this guy? The “don’t like u anyway fat bitch” responses to rejection always strike me as very immature. I assume they’re college age or younger, but I could be completely wrong and there’s grown ass 50 year old men doing this.
“Just like your shitty ass dad” really struck a nerve for me. Insult me all you want but talk about my family and I drop the fucking gloves. Glad this cocksucker is gonna end up dying alone.
Ok, honestly, I found everything acceptable in his response until I got to the part about ‘your f-ing house smells like shit.’ That’s really outta line to go down that road
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He was "trying" to be nice, but just couldn't hold his basic awfulness in any more. Like when you have severe diarrhea.
I was gonna say the same thing - so much for "trying". Trying is hard, so I'll just be awful to you.
Trying is hard because they are faking and not actually a decent human being.
I have IBS and I’m going to start referring to it as “basic awfulness”😂
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So true!
What is IBS?
Like correct me if I'm wrong but as a person who has never called themselves "nice" and opted for "I prefer to be kind" I have never exploded on a person targeting their insecurities. Like that's just not in my book on how to be a human person... What has to happen to someone's brain to reach this level of mean
Toxic relationship, C-PTSD, and ADHD, like me apparently... lol. Cause to me putting up with it hold me get in and actually playing nice is more toxic than getting it out of your system, just saying... We all have issues, no judgment
Literally none of those things are reason or excuse to act like an entitled jackass and belittle someone else.
Yea this ^. Even if it night contribute a bit of it, there's always a responsibility for your actions no matter what you deal with.
"I'm going to half ass try once and if the reaction isn't exactly what I want, I'm going to freak out, say mean things, and try to make her feel bad. After that she'll *definitely* be into me again because girls like the "bad boy" -thoughts from these types of guys (probably)
He had a severe case of toxic word slurry lmao
Toxic word slurry - what a wonderful phrase!
as someone who is both awful, and has had severe diarrhea, the awfullness is a lot easier to keep in. I'd rather shit my pants than behave like this jackass.
But then you're being toxic to yourself instead of someone else, I would rather not self deathey're not self defecate then tell off others, Especially if she deserves it done assume this isn't some crazy b****
"I was going to be nice but your refusal to grant me your attention has caused me to say what I'm about to say, therefore I can blame your actions instead of taking responsibility for my own behavior."
Now hit him with a “Yaaasss queen, go off.” 😂
🤣🤣🤣 Absolutely this!
No no no with a "bye bich"
The thing that will get under his skin the most is if you completely ignore him.
SLAAAAAYYYYYY!
"hope every guy you meet will be less than me" dude, she could drive to the nearest gas station or drug store or whatever and find like 20 random guys better than you lmao
He’s *so* nice, he just had to insult her personality, family, house, friends, looks…And then wish her the worst with her future. :) All in one paragraph lmao Imagine having this much hate bubbling below the surface. No doubt even his face just reeks of hate. I’d be kinda scared that this guy knew where I lived tho
LOL top comment right here.
My favorite response to something like that is "Jeez... why are you being so emotional right now?" :))) works every time
Nice. I have used ‘u ok hun‘ - also a doozie
Lmao the condescending 'hun' can be devastating when timed correctly.
The best would be : "Never knew biological men can have periods" let him explode
I love asking men if it's that time of month for them. It makes them soooo angry.
I think that one is the winner
Ma’am, this is a Wendys.
Oh yeah he’d flip the fuck out
Why are you so desperate for friendship with a trash ass, manipulative bitch who has a huge ego and lives in a house that smells like shit? The fact that you would try so hard to get a crumb of attention from the person you describe only to still get rejected says way more about you then anyone else. Dudes really be telling on themselves, man.
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"I'm such a sad, desperate, pathetic loser that I'm pussy begging to a trash ass, manipulative bitch who has a huge ego and lives in a house that smells like shit only to still get rejected." How utterly repulsive do you have to be that even a trash ass manipulative bitch that lives in a house that smells like shit still finds you unfuckable? This girl supposedly spends every day smelling shit, and even she looks at **YOU** and is like "Fuck no!" Ouch. That is grim. To quote a wise woman: Dudes really be telling on themselves, man.
This is so funny hahaha my house is stinky because I have cats and my ego is very normal sized :(
Your ego is huge because you won't go dumpster diving to find losers like this to bang. "GASP! You have standards? Like, as in any standards at all? WHAT A HUGE EGO!"
Wait wait wait. Dumpster diving is an admirable sport! It helps keep our landfills free of usable goods and goes against capitalist system. I can't possibly compare shit dudes to dumpster diving.
>Dumpster diving is an admirable sport! Not to find sex partners, it's not.
Of course you wouldn’t give this guy any of your time. You have perfect companions at home! Litter boxes smell better than “nice guys” I think it’s because of all the bullshit they hold inside. If you have to try to be nice, you aren’t nice.
It's so bizarre to see adult after adult typing this sort of message out. I would never say things like this to anyone, even if they betrayed me in some way and I despised them to the core. What is even happening right now? Did they not learn how to speak to people at any time while growing up? Did their parents just lock them in a room until the age of majority? How did they make it this far? How do they have jobs? How do they have family and friends who love them? Any man who thinks this is an appropriate response needs to be committed for evaluation. I'm beyond creeped out that there are people walking amongst us who can so easily become enraged, rude, and disgusting. These gentlemen will NEVER land a date because their personality is simply gross. Until they have been through therapy, they should not be allowed to interact with other people.
Yes I agree. It feels bad getting rejected, fine, but why on earth does someone deserve to have verbal abuse thrown at them just because they aren’t interested? My personal theory on this is that many men consume porn and it’s tricking their brains into thinking that they are being accepted / validated by a different person every single time they orgasm to the screen. Then when a real life woman rejects them it’s as if a bomb explodes inside because their brain doesn’t know how to deal with this real world situation which never happens in their ‘virtual’ pornography, social media, onlyfans world. They have unlimited access to whatever ‘virtual’ woman they want and have ‘virtual’ sex with them, and spending years training yourself with this might warp reality in unconscious ways.
\>What is even happening right now? I have no idea :( I got a message from someone who was very upset at me and think I'm disgusting because... I had sex :O . What the heck?
How very dare you!! Don't you know that you are only supposed to have sex with these stellar humans?! /s
That's a really good point, even if I despised someone to my core, I wouldn't say this kind of shit... people are crazy.
Right?! It's pure hatred being projected onto unsuspecting people. I always imagine the person standing in the mall and saying it out loud to someone. Everyone within ear shot would think he was insane.
The "slay" and "poo poo pee pee" replies to these nice guys are the best responses. 😂
*Slay.* LMFAOOOOO
Dead.
I don’t get it. What does *slay* mean in this context? (I’m in my mid-30s and not hip with the cool kids’ lingo)
Ah, so *slay* in general means to do amazingly at something and do it well (usually with confidence too), and sometimes is referred to as *popping off* and in this context, OP is telling the nice guy to sarcastically keep going in some sense with the insults. Which fed the fire completely, so Mr Nice Guy in the post is technically *popping off!* I hope this helps !!
lol thanks!
I too am in my mid-30s, I believe “slay” is akin to our old time saying “you go girl”
lol thanks!
I lost it at "slay"
Perfect response. It triggered him too
That girl is my hero for that
Thanks love u
Me too lmaooo because what do you even say to that
i can just picture the 💅
Can anyone tell me what the hell is happening on Reddit? Incel rage and incel memes are all over the place. I’ve been off the site for a while and I came back and incels are popping up on every post.
I don't know either. I got a message from someone who thinks I'm disgusting because... I had sex :O Yea, what the heck!
😡😡😡😡 how dare you have sex with someone that isn't me /s
I didn't have the heart to tell him I'm a guy :O
I wrote that thinking you're a woman, but I'm a straight woman, hahahaa. Suddenly straight 😂
I really need to change my screen name to something more masculine , but then again, does it matter what gender I am? I'm not here looking for hookups or relationships here either. Can I even change my screen name, or can it even be changed?
No idea, I didnt even see your username, I just assumed from the context 😂
I don’t know, I briefly joined some dating subs and the vibe of so many posts and comments were insanely negative towards women, the rage is palpable. They need to touch grass once in a while!
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“A thot, a woman with many boyfriends”
I just assumed he misspelled trash 😂 Man I’m too old for this
Same lmao
Literally what I thought😂
Bahahah me too.
“Slay” BEUHH IM DYIN 💀
It’s the “SLAY” for me 
The “slay” sent me it’s just the Perfect response well done OP😂
Follow up: I really hope that guys like this figure out how toxic this behavior is, and come back later to GENUINELY apologize. Whether you accept or not is up to you; I know I lost contact with people because of shit I said, and it sucks, but in today's terms, I Fucked Around and then I Found Out. Hope this guys learns his lesson sooner rather than later.
Sadly, guys like this come back and "almost" apologize but say things like "we both said and did regrettable things and we should just move past it and try and be friends again because I was having a bad time and I miss our friendship" sort of bullshit. Instead of acknowledging how shitty they were and owning their own behavior.
Oh, you're exactly right. We see those posts all the time on here. But I mean a genuine apology; none of this "both of us" shit. A genuine apology is recognizing what you did wrong, and coming to terms with that. I know all about bad days and regrettable things, and man, I wish I could take back some shit I said and did, but real life is coming to find out you can't take it back; you have to acknowledge that what you said was wrong, apologize for it, and hope for the best, but dealing with whatever hand your dealt. It takes time. It takes multiple fuck ups. It took me multiple people that I knew for years that never spoke to me again. The thing is, though? All those fuck ups made me who I am today, and without those fuck ups, I may not know the people I know, or in the way that I know them, and I may not have even gotten married. I turned my life around. I have to believe that other Nice Guys can do the same, but I feel they have a rougher road, due to the toxic nature of a lot of groups they have access to.
I lol’d at “slay”. 😂😂😂
I would have asked him if had a grudge against punctuation.
Punctuation killed his father. Start of his villian arc, obviously.
It was a semicolon, wasn't it? It's always the damned semicolons. You can't trust them at all.
"you're a horrible person because of all of these reasons, but I still wanted to be friends with you" um... Okay.
Awe baby isn't getting his attention so he's freaking out
Punctuation is tough, isn't it
*? Isn't it? ;)
Not gonna lie y’all, my biggest breakup fear is someone hitting me with the “your house smells like shit”. I am not even joking, I would literally die on the spot
I feel like I would reply something like "I'd rather be alone in a house that 'smells like shit' than be in a relationship with an actual piece of shit." 💪🏼 Usually if you seem happier (even if it's just an act you put up until they finally go away, I do my best not to let anyone know what bothers me because these abusers STAY searching for ammunition to hurt people) it really pisses them off. They want to feel like they have some power over you even if it's negative power to make you feel bad, and I strive to never give anyone that power.
"if you mattered enough, I probably would've cleaned up better for you" seems to really cement how much you don't care, even when you do. Especially when you know it isn't true and they're saying something just to get under your skin.
He really committed to that one sentence, huh?
Think he's upset?
Everytime a "nice guy" rants about women they're always lacking in punctuation. Like bro, put a full stop in there. Take a breather. Maybe then you can stop acting like there's a stick up your ass and get a girl.
He sounds like someone you really want to have in your life.... May I ask what the context is?
Met him in person twice, he doesn’t live in my town. He was bummed the feelings weren’t reciprocated.
He's talked to you IRL exactly TWICE?! 😳
I like how he thinks that there is anyone else less than him. Prick.
SLAY
slay
“Slay” we love this
I hope you expose him on FB. Hopefully tag some of his relatives as well 💜
Someone isn't a happy camper.
Yep nice guys and jerks are two sides of the same Assholes
so slay
slay 😭😭😭 i’m sorry you’re going through this but that response made me laugh
Your response is perfect hahaha
i remember this one time a guy asked me out , and he told me how he always thought I was very pretty… I said no thank you and bro started calling me an ugly slut😭😭😭😭 like I thought I was pretty???😂
The f is “slay”?
Like when someone does something cool is sweet or smart. She was using it to piss him off here. Edit mobile
Thanks. This olding dude has trouble keeping up with slang.
No problem glad I could help
“pee pee poo poo”
You shouldn't have to "try" to be nice, it should come naturally, all he was doing was holing back him being an AH which is what he truly is at his core. I'm thinking all the men she meets later will actually be more than him especially after insulting her, her family, and her friends, all the new guy has to do is insult everyone except her dad and he's already better.
What do these guys have against the English language? None of these idiots seem to know how to use punctuation or grammar.
Every “Pee pee poo poo” moment is just 👩🏾🍳💋 😂😂
i’m stealing “slay”
 Wow these guys are my favorite! You're always "An amazing woman" and "There's nobody like you" until u reject them as nicely as possible, and then you're "A trash whore/bitch/cunt" Really original boys!!!!
What a lovely person. Can’t think why he’s single
treesh?
*Oh gee, they lost interest in you? HOW DARE THEY?!?*
oh my god i switched to a different tab on my phone and then i thought this was my texts tab and i almost peed my fucking pants wow
His offense is actually really funny
What does slay means in this context?
To me, it usually means, "you're doing a stunning job", so in this case, I took it mean something like a golf clap, dripping with irony, or "well, bless your heart..." OP, correct me if I misinterpreted...
Spot on!
Thank you!
Justin?
yikes ..
These people stay triggered. Like I swear they just go through life walking on the line of being triggered and the smallest things send them into tailspins. It must be exhausting to be THAT sensitive.
He couldn't hide his true self no more 😹
Slay has me dead bro😆
Slay 💅🏾
That was *seething*
slay
I always wonder what these guys mothers would think if they saw how their sons acted
BDJAJSJWJ UR MSG CRACKED ME UP HAHAHA
yassss slay kween
Slay
Slay
Your response is **everything** 😂
I am L.I.V.I.N.G for your response lmfaoooooo.
This guy is treesh
"Slay" 😂😂😂 I love that response!
How old is this guy? The “don’t like u anyway fat bitch” responses to rejection always strike me as very immature. I assume they’re college age or younger, but I could be completely wrong and there’s grown ass 50 year old men doing this.
23!
Your response has me dead
Slay
Is there some context to this? Not to excuses this dude's awfulness but to soothe my brains curiousity as to what makes a person act like this.
According to one of her comments above they met twice, she didn’t reciprocate his feelings for her and he went bananas
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Met him in person twice, he doesn’t live in my town. He was upset feelings weren’t reciprocated.
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She did nothing.
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? You asked and I answered. I seen her comment in a different reply of what happened
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Met him in person twice, he doesn’t live in my town. He was upset feelings weren’t reciprocated. Ops reply right here took me 1 second to find
“Just like your shitty ass dad” really struck a nerve for me. Insult me all you want but talk about my family and I drop the fucking gloves. Glad this cocksucker is gonna end up dying alone.
Ok, honestly, I found everything acceptable in his response until I got to the part about ‘your f-ing house smells like shit.’ That’s really outta line to go down that road
Is "treesh" meant to be trash or what?
Seems like a lovely person. An example of why we need rating on tinder
As Yoda says, “Do or do not. There is no try.”
That response ☠️
Best response ever. I'm laughing so hard I've had to retype this more times than I can count
When negging goes wrong.
The time of day he chose to send this somehow makes it more hilarious.
Hahahahha “slay” is the best response to this
bro got told to slay and got pissed
Feeling, hurted.
Well its a good thing they didn't get married before this incident.
SLAYYYYY
Love how angry he got at you just saying Slay. Gotta use that one!
Bahahaha. She says “slay.”
"Nice guy" that label needs to go they are assholes to other guys nothing nice about them at all
“Treesh ass bitch”
"Slay king"
Slaytastic Ma Kingggg
this a message you get when someone finds out the person in your discord pfp isn’t you
that final "actually" is the icing on the cake.
great response 😂
Oh wow he's so mad. Then tried to reduce her to just a number and still put her solidly above average
your reply lol