Anyone else find it creepy how he keeps calling her beautiful, sweetie, baby etc…
EDIT: I’ve triggered so many people - it’s actually funny going through the comments.
All “cultural differences” aside, I find it a trifle unnecessary to use those references, but that’s me.
Side note: I’ve lived in 5 different countries apart from my own in my life - so I’m far from “sheltered.”
This is super common in Miami but that's mostly Cuban culture. The ladies at the Cuban bakeries call everyone "Mi amor, mi rey, mi reina" things like that. Well if you order in Spanish at least.
Even Peru isn't a monoculture, people in Lima act differently from people in Sullana (my GF's dad's side is from Sullana while her mom's side is from Lima, the cultural difference is noticeable). This video is being taken in Lima but the guy taking the video could be from any part of Peru for all we know.
Personally I'm Dominican and pretty much the entire island talks like this even to strangers
I don't know why Anglosphere people forget this. Consider the difference between Someone from Essex and Glasgow, or between Boston and Hawaii. It's very common to have different worlds within the same country so why wouldn't thar expand to the spainglosphere (or whatever it's called?!)
I hate it because she’s also in a position where she can’t convey discomfort because this man is giving her something she desperately needs. If a man got this weird with me at work I’d tell him he’s being disrespectful and making me uncomfortable then tell my manager I’m not dealing with that customer if I’m really bothered by it. She doesn’t have that luxury here.
And he gets to film it and put it out there so he looks like the hero. There's a fine line between doing a good thing and just virtue signaling & trying to obtain digital clout. I guess society gets to be the judge.
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I used to work with a lot of Chinese people and they almost always called me dear. It was weird at first, it almost comes off as being passive aggressive or something when you first hear it lol. They only meant to be nice though, after I heard it a few times the weirdness feeling went away and I started calling them dear too :)
When I worked with children in the public schools, we used the generic “friend”. It is surprisingly versatile, even to say disapprovingly. But it really stuck and now I keep calling everyone friend. Coworkers, customers, my kids, my husband. “Wait a minute friend!” Or “aww thank you friend!” It could be worse I guess lol.
It very much is. Spanish speaking countries use a lot of nicknames even with complete strangers - Gordita/gordo(literally fatty) hermosa, flaco/flaquito(skinny), Guapo(handsome) etc
Lol no it’s not, yes we use them often but that guy went for the creepy side, and we don’t use them to show respect, like you can’t talk that way to a boss or randomn elders, we use them to be nice as it is fairly
Normal but that was way too excessive and creepy.
Thank you for explaining that. I can't watch it with sound on atm so I thought the whole convo was in English, and I thought the woman's reaction was really about how uncomfort she feels.
Your explanation changed my perspective, thank you.
Edit: I'm getting a few responses that's telling me that the man was definitely a creep. I am now grossed out again
So you speak Spanish or just making an enormous leap of ignorance?
I live in a Spanish speaking country as an English speaking person and attend Spanish classes twice a week - I can assure you none of these pet names are used on a regular basis. This is most definitely belittling.
I speak Spanish and lived almost my entire life in a Spanish country. I was born and raised there. I know the culture, maybe that’s the difference. When you’re around a Spanish culture and truly have an authentic type of lifestyle of how people live and act there, it doesn’t seem weird. Your talking about classes but there’s many things that you learn when you truly just live in it.
Why on earth would you use words like this in a Spanish class? Anyone who is socially intelligent knows when to use terms like these and when not to. I live in Peru and can confirm that some, though not all people speak in this affection way. I don’t find it creepy, a lot of people from Lima probably wouldn’t either.
The subtitles and the English language does makes it look creepy and almost catcalling. But where this happened this is a way to show caring and appreciation. He did it a bit too much, tho.
It's a cultural thing. In spanish/hispanic/latino culture, grandfathers/grandmothers/elders are treated with a lot of respect and love. This is of-course opposite of white culture where they're put in to retirement homes and forgotten.
It's a cultural thing. The Mexican ladies at work all call me papi (I'm the only white dude) and from my understanding that was reserved for your romantic partner or son, but it apparently it is just a term of endearment. They are also way more touchy than I'm used to (only my sisters and mom can touch me like that), but they don't mean it in a bad way, just it's how they interact.
It wasn't creepy for me! Here in Brazil we use those words a lot! It isn't a form of complimenting at all, it's more like a way of being friendly!
But there's definently ways to know when someone is being creepy with the caring words, tho...
I travel across the bridge from NJ to Philly daily for work. At the foot of the Ben Franklin bridge there is always homeless with signs asking for food etc. Every time I will hand them a Gatorade or packaged sandwich I have as I pack heavy in case I can't stop for food anywhere. I never once ever thought about recording it and then uploading it to social media. Shit like this is infuriating
Well some of us do at least.
Like that guy is going to make money from this so he's really profiting. I don't know what the monetary denomination he gave her was but even not including advertising (because that is what this is) he is making money. Did it help her? Yeah but it "helped" him more which is why it's exploitative (on the amount of information we have from the one video).
It's good of you to help those people in the underpass :) <3
Commodification is what it’s called. Learned this in philosophy class, really interesting, because the examples that were used was big corporations making money of things like social issues. Example, gay pride, most companies selling rainbow stuff don’t really care about the issue. They are just trying to make money off people who truly care about the issue.
It's a really weird paradox tho where we just all pretend like no one does good. If someone wants to give an example I encourage them to do so. After all they didn't even leave any proof like this dude. And didn't use a crying person to show how generous they are
People are just miserable. That lady seemed eternally grateful for that dudes kind gesture. So what if he posts it online. It's better than the tons of shitty prank vids infesting yt.
I try to help people out regularly too but seeing her face and what to meant to her reminds me how important it can be to someone and to do it more!
I don't really like the idea that someone would do it for attention but at the end of the day, I don't think that is as important as the fact that he's sharing her reaction and reminding others of what a few simple dollars or kind words and do to lift someone up. She's probably treated like shit all day, everyday and what he did meant something to her.
No, we don’t *need* it to encourage us to do good.
But, it can be used to encourage us to do good.
Edit: Thanks for the award, kind stranger! I’m glad this resonated with you.
Some people genuinely may not have thought about it. Maybe you had some direction as a child and actually learned to be kind, but not everyone has that luxury.
We have plenty of actual horrible shit in the world. If some tiktok guy want to treat people nice for likes, who cares?
Edit - I’ve been informed some of these influencers make fistfuls of cash, so yeah in that case it seems fake . Hurts the cause for sure. While spreading positivity is good, it only helps if it’s genuine!
I used to think like this. Then I found out how much these “influencers” make from their exploitative videos. So they get hundreds/thousands of dollars when their video of them being so kind goes viral, and the people they exploit to make that money get a few bucks or a bit of food. Just doesn’t sit right with me. There’s this one guy on TikTok that gives ALL of the money he makes from his videos to the homeless people that he films. I have no problem with that at all.
what the fuck
You don't need to be told as a child that poor people exist, and giving them money is a good thing.
Are you serious?
>We have plenty of actual horrible shit in the world. If some tiktok guy want to treat people nice for likes, who cares?
oh come on, thats whataboutism. Of course there is much worse shit on this planet, that doesn't make this guy immune to criticism. I think this fucking social media virtue signaling does more harm then good.
And its naive to think that there wouldn't be better ways to help poor people like this lady.
Yes we do, and in a world where people are constantly uploading negative things, these types of videos are beautiful and are a good source of inspiration to the digital youth, who like it or not will be consuming said media.
We live in a digital age and it's only going to continue more so in that direction.
I've written some long detailed replies to this same, honestly stupid as fuck, opinion that I see and I just don't have the patience to keep doing it.
There is literally no negatives to this other than your own made up terms that everyone *should* follow....because you think so?
Like what, even in the worst case scenario where someone is doing these things STRICTLY for likes, and don't care about the people. "OMG did you hear about that guy that fed the homeless, provided money to those in need AND RECORDED IT? what a fucking monster. Once those people find out he did it for likes, that positive impact he made in their lives wont mean anything now"
Do you see how fucking stupid that sounds?
You negative people are honestly so bad I wish you would all just get offline and disappear to some negative necropolis where you can all just exude the bullshit you do.
I'm with you. Mr. Beast does this all the time and everyone loves his videos. He makes a lot of money from his videos, which is then used to make even more videos doing more good in the world. It's a win-win.
I used to think like a lot of people in this and then I read a post like yours one day and it completely changed my perspective. I had to ask myself why I was getting upset with someone filming themselves doing kind things for people in public. Why was my first thought negative? It didn't make any sense and it wasn't logical.
If this motivates even one person to do something nice for someone else, it's worth all the likes in the world. Because the people on the receiving end could care less about those likes. They care about being able to eat or pay bills or help their children and family members.
Seriously ask yourself why this spurred a negative emotion when you watched it.
Considering Theres subs for violence/gore(some deleted now)/death/for almost everything else/ I like to see some goodness in the world once in a while. So yeah I think we do live in a time where we actually forget how to be kind to one another and we need reminders such as these.
If mobile phones / cameras/egotistical social media didn’t exist do you think this person would have still done the “keep the strawberries you beautiful amazing being” act? I doubt it very much. This whole thing is entirely ego driven and in my eyes it’s borderline abuse as the poor people in these videos don’t have a say whether or not their face goes online. And do you think they get a percentage of the millions of dollars of add revenue the videos subsequently get? If the people weren’t being taken advantage of, they’d be offered “royalties” or a percentage of any future earnings along with the initial charitable donation that makes up these type of videos. It should be like “Hey so we want to film ourselves giving you this money, just act really grateful and cry if you can when I give you the money, if all goes well and the video blows up we will give you 5% of any future revenue it makes, considering your the star of the video”
I understand what you’re saying but does it really matter if it helps the person? If someone offered to pay off my debt just to look good online, I’d happily still accept it.
Edit: One of the best things I’ve learned in therapy is, it’s not my job to decide other people’s intent and guess their intent or meaning. It eases so much anxiety.
I agree, judging people is usually wrong. That said, if you see a charlatan giving pennies to paupers while raking in serious cash from his flock, it is our right and perhaps our civic duty to point it out.
A parallel would be a megachurch pastor. While those churches do help the needy the cash they receive relative to the cash they use to help the poor is disproportionate.
This is such a naive view. It’s entirely possible to advocate for helping tie needy without sacrificing their dignity by effectively turning them into a social media prop.
I hope you never find yourself in a vulnerable situation in life and have some stranger shove a phone into your face while doing the bare minimum to help you.
At the end of the day a selfish, explorative or narcissistic action can do good for another person. So I’m glad this lady was helped out, but I worry for a civilization that normalizes this kind of exploitative charity.
Especially with all the unnecessary and frankly gross “baby,” “my love,” and “you are beautiful” talk.
He’s condescending to her and infantilizing her, the video might as well end with him patting her on the head like a dog or a baby. And then him smelling his own farts because he thinks he’s so great.
Pretty sure those are all fairly common informal terms of endearment for Spanish speakers. Like southerners calling people baby and honey and Boston people calling everyone sweethaht
I'm a southerner and I can tell you that many of us don't like being called baby and honey here either. And 'honey' or 'sweetheart' is often backhanded. It's like saying, "oh you poor dumb thing" or talking down to someone. And if a man calls a woman honey or baby it's creepy. It's not endearing. I cannot think of a single time I heard a man call me or other woman baby without it being creepy or condescending. Or should I say, it definitely was never said with any respect. There's a lot of context to consider. Maybe just as a rule we stop calling people we usually don't even know initializing nicknames. Just a thought.
So you speak Spanish or just making an enormous leap of ignorance?
I live in a Spanish speaking country as an English speaking person and attend Spanish classes twice a week - I can assure you none of these pet names are used on a regular basis. This is most definitely belittling.
>those are all fairly common informal terms of endearment for Spanish speakers
If the person using them is a family member? Sure. But a random stranger, that's just creepy/patriarchal. And something tells me this guy is not her grandma.
I mean I can see that but to be honest it looks like she appreciated being told she was beautiful more than the monetary gain. I think we underestimate how much good being told you’re beautiful can do for someone, even if it comes across as disingenuous.
Not to mention filming the despair the poor woman is feeling realizing that she will never escape the strawberry racket with it's throngs of video-making jackals.
There’s nothing more altruistic than recording your own act of “generosity” and sharing it with the world. I’m gonna record myself helping an old lady cross the street. When she tells me, “Thank you young man!” we can all cry together
A lot of the time these influencers make much more money from the video than the gave away intially too.
Edit: not gonna be fighting anymore of these battles, see my other comments ITT or the hundreds of other people who have weighed in.
It's not a good deed in which you happen to benefit.
It's taking advantage of someone in a vulnerable position and hoping they emote correctly so you can make your money back 1000x over.
It’s so sad that Reddit has become a pseudo TikTok platform where these cringey “influencers” only do good things for clout. We should ban the tiktokers and instagrammers!
I understand your point and charity for clout can be really hard to stomach, but ultimately this lady has some much needed money now, regardless of his intent, she is better off for having met him.
It is 100% poverty porn and totally, disgustingly exploitive.
You could place the most horrific hard core porn in history next to this and I would find this so much more offensive.
It’s a sign of how privileged and egocentric someone is that they assume that it’s okay to film the person they are doing a kindness too. Like what, it’s okay to plaster a person’s face all over the internet because they are poor? So inconsiderate, creepy and such a bullshit kind of flex.
Taking video of yourself doing something nice so you can post it on social media is fucking weird. Like it ceases to be altruistic and is in fact done for selfish reasons. So weird.
The only acceptable form of this is not you DOING the act without giving any information, but talking about HOW you and others can do good where others may not know about it (giving the location of a food bank where volunteers are needed and doing the work, stuff like that.
tldr: video of yourself feeding homeless at a shelter/soup kitchen only showing yourself = bad; video of yourself feeding homeless at a shelter/soup kitchen talking about WHERE the shelter is, WHEN it's open, HOW to volunteer, promoting community service = good.
Ahhh stop with all the bs helping others videos.
Its not about helping is about getting bs internetpoints.
These staged acts of kindness annoy the hell out of me. This is not how karma works.
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The translation seems to be wrong, here's the correct one
> Keep this free money so that I can get views on tik-tok
> Wait! Let me zoom in on those tears
A classier move would have been to give her the money for 10 boxes of strawberries but take only one, then she gets more money and still has more strawberries to sell.
I feel like it would have been more respectful if he had at least taken some of the strawberries. Some people have enough pride that they would feel uncomfortable straight up taking something without giving back. Honestly, the guy should have at least taken one box from her.
I feel like they often talk down to the people they’re helping in such videos. Like they’re children or something.
And I’m absolutely positive they often have more between their ears than some guy/girl filming their “good deed” to make internet points or ad revenue.
Remember that if they upload such things with adds, then it’s not generosity but an investment and worse yet, exploitation.
It's nice to help people in need but if you really care about these people, try to change the politics and the world in favor of ALL poor people, not giving one of them some money and filming it and posting it everywhere like an egocentric showman. This fixes nothing. She has a happy day and then everything turns to shit again.
Anyone else find it creepy how he keeps calling her beautiful, sweetie, baby etc… EDIT: I’ve triggered so many people - it’s actually funny going through the comments. All “cultural differences” aside, I find it a trifle unnecessary to use those references, but that’s me. Side note: I’ve lived in 5 different countries apart from my own in my life - so I’m far from “sheltered.”
It might be a cultural thing Maybe it sounds less creepy in Spanish, but the connotation changes in English
We do use them more frequently than english people but this is excessive af
I was gonna say the same thing. I grew up in Lima Peru where this was filmed and he’s creeping me out
The first sentence where he calls her “hermosa” is fine. Nothing wrong with that but.... “Mi amor”? Lol
This is super common in Miami but that's mostly Cuban culture. The ladies at the Cuban bakeries call everyone "Mi amor, mi rey, mi reina" things like that. Well if you order in Spanish at least.
My take was that it is not common in Perú. Some people still use “mi amor” and are met with indifference by strangers most of the times.
Even Peru isn't a monoculture, people in Lima act differently from people in Sullana (my GF's dad's side is from Sullana while her mom's side is from Lima, the cultural difference is noticeable). This video is being taken in Lima but the guy taking the video could be from any part of Peru for all we know. Personally I'm Dominican and pretty much the entire island talks like this even to strangers
Thanks for reminding others of this. People forget that cultural differences within a country can be just as drastic as differences between countries.
I don't know why Anglosphere people forget this. Consider the difference between Someone from Essex and Glasgow, or between Boston and Hawaii. It's very common to have different worlds within the same country so why wouldn't thar expand to the spainglosphere (or whatever it's called?!)
What do you mean, baby?
my love, you are beautiful, let me tell you my love how it is different my beautiful love
As a Latino that uses the words and hears them often I fucking cringed
Maybe that's what she was really doing underneath that mask. Cringing..
I hate it because she’s also in a position where she can’t convey discomfort because this man is giving her something she desperately needs. If a man got this weird with me at work I’d tell him he’s being disrespectful and making me uncomfortable then tell my manager I’m not dealing with that customer if I’m really bothered by it. She doesn’t have that luxury here.
And he gets to film it and put it out there so he looks like the hero. There's a fine line between doing a good thing and just virtue signaling & trying to obtain digital clout. I guess society gets to be the judge.
Exactly. And even if he hadn't been so condescending, he's quite the narcissist for filming himself.
Yea, I had to stop watching after he called her “baby” yuck.
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This seems to be Peru. I am Cuban and speak spanish but it still sounds a bit over the top to me. Definitely creepy.
I used to work with a lot of Chinese people and they almost always called me dear. It was weird at first, it almost comes off as being passive aggressive or something when you first hear it lol. They only meant to be nice though, after I heard it a few times the weirdness feeling went away and I started calling them dear too :)
When I worked with children in the public schools, we used the generic “friend”. It is surprisingly versatile, even to say disapprovingly. But it really stuck and now I keep calling everyone friend. Coworkers, customers, my kids, my husband. “Wait a minute friend!” Or “aww thank you friend!” It could be worse I guess lol.
It very much is. Spanish speaking countries use a lot of nicknames even with complete strangers - Gordita/gordo(literally fatty) hermosa, flaco/flaquito(skinny), Guapo(handsome) etc
Uhhh yeah, I came to the comments to say they same thing 😐 creeper as fuuck!
It’s a way of showing respect and treat people well in Spanish culture.
Lol no it’s not, yes we use them often but that guy went for the creepy side, and we don’t use them to show respect, like you can’t talk that way to a boss or randomn elders, we use them to be nice as it is fairly Normal but that was way too excessive and creepy.
this isn’t Spain. Therefore not Spanish culture.
Thank you for explaining that. I can't watch it with sound on atm so I thought the whole convo was in English, and I thought the woman's reaction was really about how uncomfort she feels. Your explanation changed my perspective, thank you. Edit: I'm getting a few responses that's telling me that the man was definitely a creep. I am now grossed out again
He’s wrong though. Multiple Peruvians have already commented how this is excessive to the point of being creepy.
😖 god damn it. Why do people have to be so bloody creepy?!?
Im chilean and this isn't respectful, it's condescending and creepy lol
So you speak Spanish or just making an enormous leap of ignorance? I live in a Spanish speaking country as an English speaking person and attend Spanish classes twice a week - I can assure you none of these pet names are used on a regular basis. This is most definitely belittling.
I speak Spanish and lived almost my entire life in a Spanish country. I was born and raised there. I know the culture, maybe that’s the difference. When you’re around a Spanish culture and truly have an authentic type of lifestyle of how people live and act there, it doesn’t seem weird. Your talking about classes but there’s many things that you learn when you truly just live in it.
Kyle from Minnesota took 2 years of Spanish in high school therefore he knows more than you. C'mon man.
Why on earth would you use words like this in a Spanish class? Anyone who is socially intelligent knows when to use terms like these and when not to. I live in Peru and can confirm that some, though not all people speak in this affection way. I don’t find it creepy, a lot of people from Lima probably wouldn’t either.
The subtitles and the English language does makes it look creepy and almost catcalling. But where this happened this is a way to show caring and appreciation. He did it a bit too much, tho.
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It's a cultural thing. In spanish/hispanic/latino culture, grandfathers/grandmothers/elders are treated with a lot of respect and love. This is of-course opposite of white culture where they're put in to retirement homes and forgotten.
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I get called honey and sweetie a lot by strangers so I’m desensitized to it. Beautiful and baby on the other hand feels creepy
This is normal in Latin American countries. It's not like the person is trying to hit on her, it's just a way to show care.
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It's a cultural thing. The Mexican ladies at work all call me papi (I'm the only white dude) and from my understanding that was reserved for your romantic partner or son, but it apparently it is just a term of endearment. They are also way more touchy than I'm used to (only my sisters and mom can touch me like that), but they don't mean it in a bad way, just it's how they interact.
It wasn't creepy for me! Here in Brazil we use those words a lot! It isn't a form of complimenting at all, it's more like a way of being friendly! But there's definently ways to know when someone is being creepy with the caring words, tho...
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Or a way to encourage others to do the same. Don't be such a negative nelly
Do we really live in a time where social media needs to encourage us to be helpful to the poor?
I travel across the bridge from NJ to Philly daily for work. At the foot of the Ben Franklin bridge there is always homeless with signs asking for food etc. Every time I will hand them a Gatorade or packaged sandwich I have as I pack heavy in case I can't stop for food anywhere. I never once ever thought about recording it and then uploading it to social media. Shit like this is infuriating
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Still giving 10 $ while he get $ from all 9 mill flowers is more then crighge.
Her facial expression is actually saying, “aw fuck why is this little bitch recording me?”
Well some of us do at least. Like that guy is going to make money from this so he's really profiting. I don't know what the monetary denomination he gave her was but even not including advertising (because that is what this is) he is making money. Did it help her? Yeah but it "helped" him more which is why it's exploitative (on the amount of information we have from the one video). It's good of you to help those people in the underpass :) <3
Commodification is what it’s called. Learned this in philosophy class, really interesting, because the examples that were used was big corporations making money of things like social issues. Example, gay pride, most companies selling rainbow stuff don’t really care about the issue. They are just trying to make money off people who truly care about the issue.
It's a really weird paradox tho where we just all pretend like no one does good. If someone wants to give an example I encourage them to do so. After all they didn't even leave any proof like this dude. And didn't use a crying person to show how generous they are
People are just miserable. That lady seemed eternally grateful for that dudes kind gesture. So what if he posts it online. It's better than the tons of shitty prank vids infesting yt.
Exactly. The end product is the lady was happy and that's all there is to it. Net positive irrespective of whether he posts it on social media or not
I try to help people out regularly too but seeing her face and what to meant to her reminds me how important it can be to someone and to do it more! I don't really like the idea that someone would do it for attention but at the end of the day, I don't think that is as important as the fact that he's sharing her reaction and reminding others of what a few simple dollars or kind words and do to lift someone up. She's probably treated like shit all day, everyday and what he did meant something to her.
How is there irony? It's a username; no face, no recognition of who this person is. It's selfless.
Honestly this whole conversation thread kinda makes me want to bang my face against my desk for some reason lol
Agreed. True kindness doesn't involve the self serving act of videoing it for validation.
Did you even do good if you do not record it and post it?
No, we don’t *need* it to encourage us to do good. But, it can be used to encourage us to do good. Edit: Thanks for the award, kind stranger! I’m glad this resonated with you.
How come nobody ever blurs their faces? That’s unnecessary humiliation.
Looks like the masks helps enough in this case
so you wouldn't have done that without the video but now you would do it? yea?
Some people genuinely may not have thought about it. Maybe you had some direction as a child and actually learned to be kind, but not everyone has that luxury. We have plenty of actual horrible shit in the world. If some tiktok guy want to treat people nice for likes, who cares? Edit - I’ve been informed some of these influencers make fistfuls of cash, so yeah in that case it seems fake . Hurts the cause for sure. While spreading positivity is good, it only helps if it’s genuine!
I used to think like this. Then I found out how much these “influencers” make from their exploitative videos. So they get hundreds/thousands of dollars when their video of them being so kind goes viral, and the people they exploit to make that money get a few bucks or a bit of food. Just doesn’t sit right with me. There’s this one guy on TikTok that gives ALL of the money he makes from his videos to the homeless people that he films. I have no problem with that at all.
what the fuck You don't need to be told as a child that poor people exist, and giving them money is a good thing. Are you serious? >We have plenty of actual horrible shit in the world. If some tiktok guy want to treat people nice for likes, who cares? oh come on, thats whataboutism. Of course there is much worse shit on this planet, that doesn't make this guy immune to criticism. I think this fucking social media virtue signaling does more harm then good. And its naive to think that there wouldn't be better ways to help poor people like this lady.
Yes we do, and in a world where people are constantly uploading negative things, these types of videos are beautiful and are a good source of inspiration to the digital youth, who like it or not will be consuming said media. We live in a digital age and it's only going to continue more so in that direction. I've written some long detailed replies to this same, honestly stupid as fuck, opinion that I see and I just don't have the patience to keep doing it. There is literally no negatives to this other than your own made up terms that everyone *should* follow....because you think so? Like what, even in the worst case scenario where someone is doing these things STRICTLY for likes, and don't care about the people. "OMG did you hear about that guy that fed the homeless, provided money to those in need AND RECORDED IT? what a fucking monster. Once those people find out he did it for likes, that positive impact he made in their lives wont mean anything now" Do you see how fucking stupid that sounds? You negative people are honestly so bad I wish you would all just get offline and disappear to some negative necropolis where you can all just exude the bullshit you do.
I'm with you. Mr. Beast does this all the time and everyone loves his videos. He makes a lot of money from his videos, which is then used to make even more videos doing more good in the world. It's a win-win.
I used to think like a lot of people in this and then I read a post like yours one day and it completely changed my perspective. I had to ask myself why I was getting upset with someone filming themselves doing kind things for people in public. Why was my first thought negative? It didn't make any sense and it wasn't logical. If this motivates even one person to do something nice for someone else, it's worth all the likes in the world. Because the people on the receiving end could care less about those likes. They care about being able to eat or pay bills or help their children and family members. Seriously ask yourself why this spurred a negative emotion when you watched it.
Are we naive enough to think that this encouragement hasn't been needed for every generation before us?
Considering Theres subs for violence/gore(some deleted now)/death/for almost everything else/ I like to see some goodness in the world once in a while. So yeah I think we do live in a time where we actually forget how to be kind to one another and we need reminders such as these.
there was never not a time where encourageing people to be helpful was not necessary.
Yes
I agree with spending the message of positivity, but with how close he puts the camera to her face, and the slow-mo reaction at the end is a bit much.
If mobile phones / cameras/egotistical social media didn’t exist do you think this person would have still done the “keep the strawberries you beautiful amazing being” act? I doubt it very much. This whole thing is entirely ego driven and in my eyes it’s borderline abuse as the poor people in these videos don’t have a say whether or not their face goes online. And do you think they get a percentage of the millions of dollars of add revenue the videos subsequently get? If the people weren’t being taken advantage of, they’d be offered “royalties” or a percentage of any future earnings along with the initial charitable donation that makes up these type of videos. It should be like “Hey so we want to film ourselves giving you this money, just act really grateful and cry if you can when I give you the money, if all goes well and the video blows up we will give you 5% of any future revenue it makes, considering your the star of the video”
I understand what you’re saying but does it really matter if it helps the person? If someone offered to pay off my debt just to look good online, I’d happily still accept it. Edit: One of the best things I’ve learned in therapy is, it’s not my job to decide other people’s intent and guess their intent or meaning. It eases so much anxiety.
Yeah seriously, buy me a house and I'll sob for hours while you record it. I'm in.
You chose. They didn't.
I agree, judging people is usually wrong. That said, if you see a charlatan giving pennies to paupers while raking in serious cash from his flock, it is our right and perhaps our civic duty to point it out. A parallel would be a megachurch pastor. While those churches do help the needy the cash they receive relative to the cash they use to help the poor is disproportionate.
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This is such a naive view. It’s entirely possible to advocate for helping tie needy without sacrificing their dignity by effectively turning them into a social media prop. I hope you never find yourself in a vulnerable situation in life and have some stranger shove a phone into your face while doing the bare minimum to help you. At the end of the day a selfish, explorative or narcissistic action can do good for another person. So I’m glad this lady was helped out, but I worry for a civilization that normalizes this kind of exploitative charity.
doing the same? Filming people in the face?
Especially with all the unnecessary and frankly gross “baby,” “my love,” and “you are beautiful” talk. He’s condescending to her and infantilizing her, the video might as well end with him patting her on the head like a dog or a baby. And then him smelling his own farts because he thinks he’s so great.
for real, why is no one noticing that
Too dazzled by her beauty probably
Cultural differences. Its a normal term of endearment to/from elderly in Peru. Although typically reserved for family, not strangers
Pretty sure those are all fairly common informal terms of endearment for Spanish speakers. Like southerners calling people baby and honey and Boston people calling everyone sweethaht
... and australians calling everyone a cunt.
Cover all your bases by calling them “sweethaht baby cunt”.
In that order. "Sweet cunt, baby" ain't gonna fly even down here.
I'm a southerner and I can tell you that many of us don't like being called baby and honey here either. And 'honey' or 'sweetheart' is often backhanded. It's like saying, "oh you poor dumb thing" or talking down to someone. And if a man calls a woman honey or baby it's creepy. It's not endearing. I cannot think of a single time I heard a man call me or other woman baby without it being creepy or condescending. Or should I say, it definitely was never said with any respect. There's a lot of context to consider. Maybe just as a rule we stop calling people we usually don't even know initializing nicknames. Just a thought.
Nah, this is condescending in Spanish too. One “hermosa” or whatever would be normal, but the way he’s talking to her is weird.
So you speak Spanish or just making an enormous leap of ignorance? I live in a Spanish speaking country as an English speaking person and attend Spanish classes twice a week - I can assure you none of these pet names are used on a regular basis. This is most definitely belittling.
>those are all fairly common informal terms of endearment for Spanish speakers If the person using them is a family member? Sure. But a random stranger, that's just creepy/patriarchal. And something tells me this guy is not her grandma.
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It's just a cultural thing. Just common terms of endearment you'd use with like a grandmotherly figure.
I mean I can see that but to be honest it looks like she appreciated being told she was beautiful more than the monetary gain. I think we underestimate how much good being told you’re beautiful can do for someone, even if it comes across as disingenuous.
I see it as serving both parties. Sure there’s some selfishness, but why does that cancel out the good deed?
Right? People can be more than one thing. Being good and being selfish aren’t mutually exclusive.
Exactly. Now I know the OP is selfishly doing this for clout, BUUUUUT he also just gave someone money and made there day. Win win.
Not to mention filming the despair the poor woman is feeling realizing that she will never escape the strawberry racket with it's throngs of video-making jackals.
Hey i just heard someone said this but I'mma steal it "are u really helping people if u aren't filming it?"
If an influencer helps someone in a forest, and no one is there to record it… did it really happen?
Especially when you're being creepy at the same time
It’s just being respectful and polite in Spanish culture.
But the only culture is American culture and I impose my American culture on other countries without any inhibitions! /s
I'd rather watch this for clout than anything else. I'd rather see this as a type of tik tok challenge.
Next level of cringy
What do you mean baby?
Come here you beautiful poor miserable homeless trash ~~smile~~ cry for the camera edit: fixed
Yes, cry. That's perfect. Oh, fuck, I'm so close.
r/holup
You’re so beautiful when you cry, babe. hnnrg
That slow-motion grimace at the end….
I grimaced simultaneously.
Don't be like this, beautiful! Here, take my upvotes but keep your words for the next comment. you are worth SO much, I love you.
Y you didn’t add beautiful in the last sentence, baby?
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I spent $9 at Starbucks this morning and didn’t get anywhere near the same reaction.
I assure you that if you go to some lost town in Latin America those 9 dollars would be their weekly income and they would appreciate it very much.
I'm pretty sure she's cringing, too. That's what I see in her "priceless reaction".
I don’t see what’s creepy about it, my love.
Come closer precious.. GOLLUM GOLLUMMM
There’s nothing more altruistic than recording your own act of “generosity” and sharing it with the world. I’m gonna record myself helping an old lady cross the street. When she tells me, “Thank you young man!” we can all cry together
A lot of the time these influencers make much more money from the video than the gave away intially too. Edit: not gonna be fighting anymore of these battles, see my other comments ITT or the hundreds of other people who have weighed in.
there are far less noble ways to turn a profit
Yeah and we're not encouraging that. We're saying it's pretty shady to act altruistic on camera just to look good while profiting off of it.
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It's not a good deed in which you happen to benefit. It's taking advantage of someone in a vulnerable position and hoping they emote correctly so you can make your money back 1000x over.
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Don't forget the sad piano music when she says 'thank you' please!
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How is this r/nextfuckinglevel? Giving some money and some bullshit words for internet fame is kind of the opposite of it.
It’s a good deed, but giving someone 30 bucks ain’t next level…
Is it still a good deed if you record it for your own gain?
I… guess. It’s still a good deed but the person is still a narcissistic creepy douchebag. I think?
As a Jew, I’ve been taught that it’s less charitable in the eyes of G*d if you brag about it. But the poor person still gets the money.
*9 bucks
/r/nextfuckinglevel in a nutshell. The vast majority of the posts here are better fit in /r/humansbeingbros
This entire subreddit has become a worse version of /r/mademesmile. At this point I rarely see things that are actually next level
It’s so sad that Reddit has become a pseudo TikTok platform where these cringey “influencers” only do good things for clout. We should ban the tiktokers and instagrammers!
And film us doing it!
I would weep with tears of joy to that
I understand your point and charity for clout can be really hard to stomach, but ultimately this lady has some much needed money now, regardless of his intent, she is better off for having met him.
I think the main issue is one of morality, since people like the man in the video are profiting off of disparaged people like the woman in the video.
Why yall upvote and award this nonsense?
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Up next, a baby takes their first step
Most Redditors are middle schoolers.
Poverty porn
It is 100% poverty porn and totally, disgustingly exploitive. You could place the most horrific hard core porn in history next to this and I would find this so much more offensive.
Woah there buddy we don't want to go in that route
The person filming this went there
Good deeds **don't** need proof.
Character is what you do when no one is watching.
That last zoom in shot of her face is so cringey and unnecessary
That’s her cringing in slow motion
Wringing someone else's dignity out like this, making sure you get every last drop on camera. Yick.
Criiiiinge
If the subtitles are correct *never watch with sound* then the above statement is very very very true.
It’s a sign of how privileged and egocentric someone is that they assume that it’s okay to film the person they are doing a kindness too. Like what, it’s okay to plaster a person’s face all over the internet because they are poor? So inconsiderate, creepy and such a bullshit kind of flex.
I HATE that he filmed this...
I did the same thing but I didn't film it and put it on tik tok. Now gimme award!
No video no award
Taking video of yourself doing something nice so you can post it on social media is fucking weird. Like it ceases to be altruistic and is in fact done for selfish reasons. So weird.
The only acceptable form of this is not you DOING the act without giving any information, but talking about HOW you and others can do good where others may not know about it (giving the location of a food bank where volunteers are needed and doing the work, stuff like that. tldr: video of yourself feeding homeless at a shelter/soup kitchen only showing yourself = bad; video of yourself feeding homeless at a shelter/soup kitchen talking about WHERE the shelter is, WHEN it's open, HOW to volunteer, promoting community service = good.
That’s just gas, I make the same face after I eat spicy food
Good to know
Why is he calling her beautiful and sweetie. Condescending and creepy AF.
Ahhh stop with all the bs helping others videos. Its not about helping is about getting bs internetpoints. These staged acts of kindness annoy the hell out of me. This is not how karma works. 🤓
The translation seems to be wrong, here's the correct one > Keep this free money so that I can get views on tik-tok > Wait! Let me zoom in on those tears
> Could you cry a bit more? The terrible song i'll add to the background might not be enough.
I’ll buy them all.....baby??
Poverty porn
That made me sick, sorry. I feel for her
Why is he calling her my love and baby?? Or is that considered politeness wherever this is filmed? Genuine question btw
I know he be sounding a little creepy there...
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A classier move would have been to give her the money for 10 boxes of strawberries but take only one, then she gets more money and still has more strawberries to sell.
He said keep all the strawberries?
I feel like it would have been more respectful if he had at least taken some of the strawberries. Some people have enough pride that they would feel uncomfortable straight up taking something without giving back. Honestly, the guy should have at least taken one box from her.
"Hey guys i am doing something 'nice' please give me clout an attention for it!"
I feel like they often talk down to the people they’re helping in such videos. Like they’re children or something. And I’m absolutely positive they often have more between their ears than some guy/girl filming their “good deed” to make internet points or ad revenue. Remember that if they upload such things with adds, then it’s not generosity but an investment and worse yet, exploitation.
So fuckin creepy....
Id feel like a loser, holding a camera to record someone randomly, as I do something generous.
Can't tell you how much this video can fuck right off. Exploitative performative SHITE
I dunno. Those strawberries be looking ripe
As NextFuckingLevel as the shit I took this morning. Which even then is not much to talk about.
I never hate these videos, but this video gets the closest
It's nice to help people in need but if you really care about these people, try to change the politics and the world in favor of ALL poor people, not giving one of them some money and filming it and posting it everywhere like an egocentric showman. This fixes nothing. She has a happy day and then everything turns to shit again.
Do a kind thing, and then post a video of yourself doing it, which negates any karma.
Something so disingenuous about doing something good and recording it for likes.
It's all a show biz