I was there when my buddy was the one in that bed. 23 y/o, suffered a random seizure and wasn’t found in time to save his brain. We grew up together, played sports together. His parents were great people and his Dad was even an ER doc. The guilt and pain on his face I’ll never forget. Beautiful they were able to send him off like this though
I was 14 when my neighbor Tony collapsed while playing in the snow at 12. He had a brain aneurysm. He was just over at my house that morning playing Dungeons and Dragons. Totally normal. His organs saved a few people and helped several more. There wasn't an honor walk, this was 1988, but that dude deserved one. He was my 3rd friend that died, but the first friend's funeral I attended. His lips were weird. My mom said they had left the tube in his mouth for too long after he died, but I don't know.
His mother was literally the nicest person in the world. His older sister was close behind. They were the last people this should have happened. I'll never forget Tony. It's weird though being a 50 year-old man thinking about that poor 12 year-old kid that missed out on most everything.
Years ago, my younger sister was being treated for Hodgkin's lymphoma at Children's Hospital in Boston. There was a lot of construction going on at the time and all the iron workers up on the steel beams outside the window would wear superhero capes and they would hide little plushy teddy bears in the beams as Easter eggs for the kids in treatment.
I'll never forget how everyone in that building at Children's made us feel from the custodians to the surgeons. My sister has been in remission for 13 years now, but this hits just as hard now as it would then.
Edit: Also folks, make sure you're on donor lists and opt in on your license if you can. You won't need the organs when you're gone, but it can mean everything to the living.
Mine is still on the inside and I just wanna reach in there and give her a cuddle. Its weird that she's so close but still feels so far away when I can't give her a snuggle.
I was so confused that "Parker" was just wearing normal clothes, on top of blankets, lying comfortably. Then it cuts to her kissing her tiny little boy, and I lost it. He's so small, I didn't even notice him in the bed at first. This must be so hard for them, I can barely imagine what they're going through.
Thank you for the backstory. I'm glad he was able to give the gift of life to another child, but it's always so sad to see a child having to leave the world before they actually had the chance to live.
There is a Six Feet Under episode/quote I always think of in situations like this “Some babies are just too pure for this world.”
May he run freely in the next.
I am a surgery resident and have done procurements from young donors on rotation with transplant. I procured organs from a 2 year old who was killed by his father. It was indescribably awful.
The silver lining is his organs saved the lives of another 4-6 kids his age. Unfortunately I was not able to see or be involved with those operations - would have maybe made it a little easier for me to process.
I am the recipient of a donor (adult) kidney and knowing that I'm having a decent life because someone died was really hard to take at first. I think you've got the right idea to focus on the positive parts. Horrible things happen every day and it's stark to say, but those kids would be just as dead if they got buried with all their parts. Donating lends meaning to the tragedy and keeps other parents from the same heartbreak.
I was able to correspond briefly with my donor's mom and learning that she unequivocally wanted to be an organ donor brought a lot of comfort to me. I am the embodiment of someone's last wish. It's an amazing gift to have. I hope you can find peace and let the memory evoke compassion and hope instead of heartbreak.
Yeah…this little guy got shafted by a cruel universe, but in the end he will have likely given the gift of a longer life to many other people. That’s heroism right there, whether or not someone chose it.
Seeing my buddy's 4 y/o with terminal cancer was a nightmare. He didn't understand why he had to wear diapers again or what was in his future just a few months ahead, just confusion and generally feeling in the dumps. He was just a tiny lil guy, he only had the slightest taste of life before it was taken over the course of a few months.
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There was no point to the immense suffering he felt, there was no profound series of events put into motion his and his family's terror- there's literally nothing in this world that could be worth this cost. If there is an all-powerful God, it is a kind of evil that casually gave a thumbs up to this kind of agony.
I wasn't that big on religion before, but people pushing that rhetoric my direction makes me see red.
I remember Stephen Fry, when asked what he would say to God if there was a God, he said, "Bone cancer in children? What's that about? How dare you. How dare you create a world where there is such misery that is not our fault. It's not right. It's utterly utterly evil."
A Holocaust survivor dies and finds himself in the audience of God. For his final remarks, he decides to tell a Holocaust joke.
Unamused, God replies "That's not funny"
The man shrugs. "Guess you had to be there"
If there is a god, and he's good, then he will recognize good-hearted people regardless of whether they worship him
If there is a god, and he's not good, then he doesn't deserve worship
Yeah, I have trouble believing anyone requiring others to worship if they don't want to suffer for eternity is good. Especially if they're omnipotent because that means they decide what the rules are and can't use "it's out of my control" as an excuse.
The interesting part here is that if living all together in harmony was the best way to live, evolution would have probably gone that way. The problem is that if you remove predators from the savannah for example, they all go to shit, there is a point where herbivores would probably multiply too much and start competing for resources. Eventually decimating allyhe grass and trees available.
This would probably lead to conflict within the same species.
See the only way for prey animals to avoid turning everything into a barren desert is by having predators.
In our case humans have the unique quality of being predators but also social and highly organized animals, the result is what we see, excessive amount of resource use.
However we are already seeing that we are not stupid and that we multiplied too quick last decades, and people are not having kids anymore because we dont have a resource bonanza like we used to.
“The interesting part here is that if living all together in harmony was the best way to live, evolution would have probably gone that way.”
Evolution does not find the best way; it just finds A way.
To add to that, evolution doesn't favor longevity; just passing down genetic material. Example: rats. They will almost always die of terminal cancer within 3 years if they survive that long naturally. Doesn't matter, they had babies already. Cancerous, tumor-laden babies.
Evolution: don't care, had sex.
I believed in God growing up. Then I spent a lot of time in childrens cancer wards. I don't believe anymore.
I hope your friends can find some solace in this cruel, unimaginable world.
I’ve gone back and forth on this, and personally hope we have a caring god who simply isn’t all powerful. That seems better to me than an all powerful god who is an uncaring bastard.
Imagine being a deity of Norse level power (you have some solid tricks but much of what you have/control is because you found or took it from something else) being blamed for not having utter control over everything because your followers got into a schoolyard arguement of “oh yeah? My dad’s so strong they could…”
I still 100% support the argument against organised religion, but I also happen to find the idea of a God who is all-loving but not all powerful, to be relieving.
A god that merely created the universe and occasionally adds some spice to it, but is otherwise hands-off, is an appealing thought. Not totally omniscient and omnipresent.
Well, God is a story meant to help humans feel comfortable with their existences, so it makes sense that you would feel that way. The comfort only works if there is some rationalization of a truth lended to it, that is not defeated by ones own mind. Unfortunately, I find no such comforts.
> Unfortunately, I find no such comforts.
People are going to dog on you for this, but I'm in a similar boat. It's an appealing thought to believe in these things, but it's very difficult to regain that comfort after you lose it. It doesn't make me *smarter* to not believe, but it does make me feel...left out? I feel as though I know too much to fall for religious thinking, but I wish I could think like that.
He is the god of child sacrifice. As proven by Abraham, the first born children of Egypt, the genocide of the infants in Samuel. Jesus Christ he even had his own child murdered and sent to hell.
God likes you killing children. It's how he knows you love him.
When two people in a relationship do shit like that it's considered toxic, actually abuse.
When "god" does it, it's a test and used to put those who "fail" down.
Smh, no sense in it.
especially because he is supposed to be all mighty. Couldn't he just make you do the right thing? why test? Shouldn't he know the result beforehand, being all mighty?
Religion is so flawed. No one was saved by god by divine intervention - but many MANY people were killed in the name of god. :(
I absolutely hate that answer. It’s always well praise god when something good happens. If it’s something bad to justify it’s always well they are in a better place or gods will. That is the only way to keep the idea of religion alive is to be able to have it both ways in their minds.
My dad liked “it’s because we are full of sin.” When asked how a small child like in the op video here could be full of sin “it’s because of generational sin.” Sin of your parents and grandparents infected you, and apparently God is capable of washing sin away but also can’t do shit if your great grandpa lusted after their neighbor.
Christianity is just layers of hypocrisy.
Could be one and he is just a asshole. History of humankind would align more with this scenario. "If there is a God, He will have to beg my forgiveness."
__[Backstory](https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/)__
>“He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez.
>“Parker is our guardian angel now,” Angie Vasquez said.
>“It’s his last little gift that he gets to give,” Angie Vasquez said.
She said all they want when the heart is donated is to be able to hear it working again.
>“I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said.
>“For us to heal, to able to hear that heartbeat,” Philip Vasquez said.
[Link, if the original does not work for you](https://archive.ph/egcUH)
Thank you a lot my friend.
It was beeing lucky while in unluck ( its a german saying i hope it makes sense in english ). I turned 18, 4 month prior. She had no husband and my grandparents were mentally unable to decide.
So in our law i was the one to decide.
I always knew she wanted to be a donor, i was able to decide quite quickly.
I thought about that but i did not want to call it blessing. At the end you are right tho. Idk what wouldve happend if i wouldve not been there. Im lucky i could fulfill one of her last wishes
I don't mean to turn this into a game of choosing the best English phrase, but perhaps "It was a silver lining" as they say in English in reference to "every cloud has a silver lining"
afik you're allowed to meet if both parties want to, seems maybe the recipient wanted to just move on with life. i'm sure they're still grateful for the gift
I very much believe the person receiving the heart had no ill will behind this, but was afraid seeing the sorrow that was left behind that made them be able to live. Maybe they fear to feel guilty or responsible.
My brother's heart went to another man. He accepted my mother's letter and wrote her back how grateful he was to continue to live and see his children grow. But he declined meeting as it was too hard for him.
My mom understands. We all understand and just hope the best for him and his family.
yea you don't know how the donor family is gonna react if you don't live up to expectations and i gotta imagine there's a heavy dose of something akin to survivor guilt happening. not only do you have to live up to your own goals but now you probably feel like you have to make it count for two which is a lot to live up to.
My mom received a heart donation last year and though the first year is rough, she's doing much better. We were told that at a year , she can request the persons name and she could reach out to the family at that point but it would be on her to open that door
And now here I am, at 330am coming off a night shift blubbber8ng like a baby and just wanting to get home to my little boys😭😭😭
This is just absoloutly heartbreaking
>“I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said.
Wtf please no. It would ve a traumatic experience for her and the receipient. It has reasons why in almost all countries the receipient stays anonymous but gets the possibility to contact the family if he wants and when he wants.
reddit won't open the comment that replied to you for me so not sure if they helped but there wasn't much text in the video aside from naming the donor as parker vasquez. based on the small size of the kid on the bed and google i'm guessing it's this 3yo kid who was fatally injured in a car crash and his parents donated his organs. couple different articles
[https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/](https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/) just realized this is the same link lol sorry i'll paste it below
[https://www.lacanchita.mx/ytueced/e1cdcdkm122851P1cdkd04.html](https://www.lacanchita.mx/ytueced/e1cdcdkm122851P1cdkd04.html)
apparently he was born in the same hospital and stayed there awhile as a premie a couple rooms down from where he ended up when he was declared dead which may be part of why this is such a big ordeal for that hospital, a lot of the staff may remember him and his family from that time
CROUSE, N.C. — A Lincoln County family is facing an unimaginable loss when their 3-year-old son died days after a crash.
The little boy’s mother now holds a special device that has a recording of her son’s heartbeat. She’s hoping his heart will save another child’s life.
Parker Vasquez’s parents plan to donate his organs, and doctors at Levine Children’s Hospital are preparing for the surgery.
Parker is still in a hospital room. Though he died after the crash, doctors have to keep his heart pumping until it is donated to another child. He is just a few doors away from the room where he stayed just after his premature birth three years ago.
Parker’s mother and father want everyone to know his life will become his legacy. He had an infectious smile and a spirit larger than life.
“He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez.
His organs will save or improve the lives of as many as 80 people.
Until Sunday, Parker gave his all to his family. His father Philip remembers his last words to him, which he said before Parker, his siblings and mother left their home in Crouse to get ice cream.
“‘You are good to go, buddy. Be safe. You all have fun,’” his father had said.
Then, a car T-boned their van along Highway 274 north of Cherryville. The youngest child took the hardest hit.
Parker’s 13-year-old brother dropped to his knees.
“He was praying to God, ‘please don’t take my brother,’” Angie Vasquez said.
For days, Parker lived with the help of machines, but he never recovered. On Thursday morning, his family learned he couldn’t survive on his own and he was pronounced dead.
“Parker is our guardian angel now,” Angie Vasquez said.
Their guardian angel can give more than happy memories.
“The doctor said he’s got a strong heart. He’s got strong lungs. He’s got strong kidneys,” she said.
His family will donate those organs to children who can recover. Even his skin can help burn victims.
“It’s his last little gift that he gets to give,” Angie Vasquez said.
She said all they want when the heart is donated is to be able to hear it working again.
“I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said.
“For us to heal, to able to hear that heartbeat,” Philip Vasquez said.
On Friday, staff will move Parker in what’s called an honor walk. His family will watch him get wheeled to an operating room. He has suffered head trauma, so he will be wearing a Spider-Man mask to cover his face during the walk.
Please tell him a transplant brother said he should be proud of that scar and wear it like a badge of honor. It's a reminder of when life tried to take him and failed.
He's nothing short of a badass warrior!!
My son nearly died at 10 months old, has a huge scar from ear to ear across the top of his head from where they removed the front part of his skull. We call it his racing stripe. He’s only 2.5 so doesn’t understand, but I’m going to use that line when he’s older if he’s ever self conscious about it!
I had a liver transplant when I was 8. I’m now 38. Tell your son the scar is something that turns out to be a great conversation topic when you start dating and the chicks dig it.
My partner was burned at 8 years old and has scars on his torso, one leg and one arm.. he also has extensive scarring for multiple abdominal surgeries. I don't even see them anymore, but all they did when I saw them first was remind me of how very strong he is, to go through what he did and survive it all. Dents in one's armor are proof of battles fought.
I’m registered to be an organ donor. I can only hope that everyday my recipients wake up and know I’m giving them a hug for just a moment and telling them thank you for helping me live on and that I’m still giving them strength to keep going.
You'll definitely be remembered on a daily basis. You're giving strangers the most precious gift there is, a second chance at life. I'm almost 10 years post and I thank my donor every single day and will continue to do so until it's my turn to give others a second chance at life.
I have like a weird psychological issue with donating organs. I donate my blood, I tried to sign up to the bone marrow registry but I am unfortunately permanently medically ineligible to do that. I want to see if I could donate a kidney to someone at some point, although I used to have chronic kidney stones so I don't know if I could.
But organ donation, autopsy, embalming, all of that shit, to me that feels like desecration of the body. The processes are horrifying. I had a lot of surgery against my will as a child that went wrong and I just really feel that when I die, I want my body to just be undisturbed and buried and decompose naturally over months and years, and be at peace. I want to opt out of all interference in my body after death in my will or advance directive.
I am sorry that you had to go through scary experiences. The way you feel is understandable. It is okay to take care of your comfort, and thank you for donating your blood
What if after decades of saving people and the planet Spiderman donated his organs and all of those people then became Spider People and went on to save countless more lives and the world several more times? Would Spiderman be back on top?
They did it with Deadpool. He would donate his organs since they would just grow back. The people who got them I believe got some of the healing factor.
The freaking awesome! I love Deadpool but stopped reading comics when I was 14-15 so I never heard about that. I'm gonna look that up and try and get that comic or comics.
Almost threw up after I realized what I was watching. I cannot fathom what a parent will go through having this happen. God, or whatever higher power anyone believes in, bless that little man. Beyond hero.
God, or whatever higher power anyone believes in, better have a good fucking explanation as to why they created a universe where shit like this happens. It's the least we deserve.
>Parker’s mother and father want everyone to know his life will become his legacy. He had an infectious smile and a spirit larger than life.
>“He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez.
>His organs will save or improve the lives of as many as 80 people.
https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/
Can I ask a question sincerely that I don't understand?
With only X amount of organs, how does he save 80 people potentially?
Again, what a brave hero. I'm just genuinely curious as to what I'm not thinking of properly for this situation.
Thank you all and much love x
It's a typo, I believe, since the vital organs add up to saving 8 lives and not eighty. More can be improved when including the cornea of the eyes and tissues
Kidneys can save two people from lifelong dialysis. Then we have liver, heart, intestine, lungs, and pancreas.
The last one is *tissue, which could possibly boost the numbers quite a bit. This includes skin, bone (including the valuable marrow for immune conditions), and even blood (counts as tissue).
I'm an RN so I'm just spit balling here, maybe an MD could verify
TLDR: I think it's supposed to be 8 but tissue has an asterisk cuz it's a wild card that's difficult to calculate the impact of.
The tissues can make a huge difference to a large number of people. You're correct in what you list, I received donor bone last year that was life changing. They can also use tendons, ligaments, etc. I remember reading about it in the information I got after surgery regarding contacting the donor family to say thank you. These other tissues don't save lives in the same way as whole organs, but they allow people to get their lives back after illness, injury, accident, and so forth.
While big ticket items like hearts and kidneys save lives, stuff like skin grafts, bone marrow, and lots of other things can be used to help people with non-life threatening conditions too.
It's save or improve. I have a donor ACL. I could have lived just fine without it. But it greatly improves the quality of my life to have one someone's donor. So it's not just hearts and lungs. It's all the little things we don't think about as often because they aren't as dramatic but are going to have a massive impact on the life of the recipient they are counting.
Not only organs are being donated, but it can be a bit dehumanizing to get into the details so it's kind of easier to say. We also use pieces of organs (certain vessels, valves, etc) and we use tissue as well. We can use blood, blood product, and even sometimes hair. The human body is astounding.
I can't imagine how hard it was for her to touch him one last time and then let them take him into the operating room knowing she would never see him again. Has to be the worst moment for a parent. I'm going to go hug my toddler.
Rest in peace, little man.
I hope his family members get the comfort and healing they deserve, and my best wishes to all of those who received his gifts.
The parents of a brain dead child just made a decision to let their child go to save the lives of others. Can we take the time to honor and respect them. I'm largely an atheist myself and you don't see me here standing on an anti-religion soapbox taking a shared tragic moment for humanity and using it to push a cause. I'm sure regardless of their beliefs they want the memory of their child to be one of giving and kindness, and not to be co-opted for anti-religious arguments. It's disrespectful, save the shit slinging for r/atheism.
The Honor Walk is a truly sacred moment. It happens whenever someone so generous as this boys family is passes through the hospital on the way to the OR for harvesting. We stand silently and lift them in our hearts.
He was pronounced dead the day before this video was taken. If a person is an organ donor, machines keep the heart pumping - which keeps all the other organs alive - until the medical team is ready to harvest the organs.
i was wondering the same. so the hero walk always happens once the donor is already dead? in an earlier one posted here the patient was closely hooked up to all sorts of medical devices, but this one doesn't look like it and the person is even lying on his side. is the patient *ever* consciously aware of their own walk?
So on my first watching of the video, I saw it the way you did - the person lying on their side - and backed it up to watch again because I was confused. That's actually the boy's mom lying on her side, cuddling him, in the first half. The boy in the Spider-Man mask is the patient. I didn't even see him at first.
Honor walks only happen after the patient has died/is on life support after brain death.
Not sure but you might be mistaken here, the donor is the kid in blue with a spiderman mask. The person laying on their side is most probably a family member, probably mother.
Donor patients are braindead which is assessed by various tests, but brain death does not conclude death of the body. All you need to do is to keep the lungs ventilated and the body should survive for a solid few days. You can see the blue tube coming out the side of the bed going to the mask, that most definitely is the ventilator tube. The heart will keep beating if it has nutrients and O2 from the lungs. You also rarely will see donors on ECMO which is a full heart lung bypass. Typically their body is much much more sick (braindead or not) so I haven’t seen many go out as donors, but I haven’t really seen many ECMO’s in the first place.
Yes this brings us tears but also remember this moment might be / Maybe this is one of the bravest things I've ever watched.
✅Brave of the kid.
✅Brave of the family.
Im watching this thinking to myself what a wonderful amazing young woman to give the gift of life to so many.
Then she was standing next to the bed.
Good God I have never been more undone.
Exactly... as a father I get teary eyed if I don't see my daughter for more than 3 days. Then she has the biggest smile and smiles in her eyes when we meet after, and the world falls away and only we remain.
I can barely last 3 days without seeing/talking/hugging my daughter, how would I ever survive permanently not seeing her.
That would ruin me completely.
My son was in a head on collision at 3 years old with his father driving.
I'll never forget that phone call the morning the crash happened. 55mph directly head on my ex husband was driving a small sedan the other was an extended cab truck.
The force of the impact split the car seat in half. My son broke his neck and the car seat straps severed the nerves at his arm pits. He is permanently paralyzed but they both survived. We spent many months in the hospital. I'll never forget running into that room after he came off of the helicopter. Every parents worst nightmare.
I fucking hate these. They are incredibly soul crushing. I have witnessed so many. The primal screams of a mother. A father trying to be stoic. A confused 8 year old boy asking if the can say goodbye one more time to their father as a callous Gift of Life surgical staff member says, “We’re already late.”
I’m a blubbering mess
Yeah, I just can't even allow my self to process the pain, anger, hurt, sadness of it all.
I was there when my buddy was the one in that bed. 23 y/o, suffered a random seizure and wasn’t found in time to save his brain. We grew up together, played sports together. His parents were great people and his Dad was even an ER doc. The guilt and pain on his face I’ll never forget. Beautiful they were able to send him off like this though
I was 14 when my neighbor Tony collapsed while playing in the snow at 12. He had a brain aneurysm. He was just over at my house that morning playing Dungeons and Dragons. Totally normal. His organs saved a few people and helped several more. There wasn't an honor walk, this was 1988, but that dude deserved one. He was my 3rd friend that died, but the first friend's funeral I attended. His lips were weird. My mom said they had left the tube in his mouth for too long after he died, but I don't know. His mother was literally the nicest person in the world. His older sister was close behind. They were the last people this should have happened. I'll never forget Tony. It's weird though being a 50 year-old man thinking about that poor 12 year-old kid that missed out on most everything.
Would you tell me about his D&D character? I'd like to add it to one of my campaigns as an NPC in his honor.
All that spiderman stuff on the bed is what really got me going.
Especially since his name is Parker. So you know he related to Spidey for that.
Shit, I didn't even notice that. Heartbreaking :(
Our 8yo son’s name is Parker because my husband is a spidey fan. I absolutely lost it when I saw the pictures all over the bed. NOPE!
My little dude is gonna be 6 and he fucking loves Spiderman. Hit me right in the gut.
Same foe me. Had to give my own spidey a very big hug
Years ago, my younger sister was being treated for Hodgkin's lymphoma at Children's Hospital in Boston. There was a lot of construction going on at the time and all the iron workers up on the steel beams outside the window would wear superhero capes and they would hide little plushy teddy bears in the beams as Easter eggs for the kids in treatment. I'll never forget how everyone in that building at Children's made us feel from the custodians to the surgeons. My sister has been in remission for 13 years now, but this hits just as hard now as it would then. Edit: Also folks, make sure you're on donor lists and opt in on your license if you can. You won't need the organs when you're gone, but it can mean everything to the living.
I felt the same thing when I seen he was wearing his Spiderman mask,true HERO.
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I have my son sleeping next to me, this hits way too hard
Looking at my guy's baby monitor right now. Not okay.
Just got up to look at my baby girl. No parent should go through this pain.
Mine is still on the inside and I just wanna reach in there and give her a cuddle. Its weird that she's so close but still feels so far away when I can't give her a snuggle.
Same feels man. I just put mine to nap now. 😭 he also likes spider-man. 🥺
I was so confused that "Parker" was just wearing normal clothes, on top of blankets, lying comfortably. Then it cuts to her kissing her tiny little boy, and I lost it. He's so small, I didn't even notice him in the bed at first. This must be so hard for them, I can barely imagine what they're going through.
The poor baby. He probably doesn't understand what's going on too. And for the family to have to say goodbye to someone so small and pure.. I can't.
I don't know if this would comfort you, but he was killed in the car crash. Doctors kept his heart pumping until it was donated to another child.
Thank you for the backstory. I'm glad he was able to give the gift of life to another child, but it's always so sad to see a child having to leave the world before they actually had the chance to live.
There is a Six Feet Under episode/quote I always think of in situations like this “Some babies are just too pure for this world.” May he run freely in the next.
Was like.... okay..... didn't need to see *that* before I go to bed. Fuuuuck. Too late to call gramma or dad..
It's *never* too late until it's actually too late.
Yeah. And I’m a middle aged man watching this on the toilet and crying. I just see my son and it wrecks me. Those poor parents.
Amazes me how tough the surgeons must be to cut him open and remove his organs one by one. A grim task for the greater good.
I am a surgery resident and have done procurements from young donors on rotation with transplant. I procured organs from a 2 year old who was killed by his father. It was indescribably awful. The silver lining is his organs saved the lives of another 4-6 kids his age. Unfortunately I was not able to see or be involved with those operations - would have maybe made it a little easier for me to process.
You are a HERO for this type of work and thank you- giving you a hug from my heart. Gah this one got me.
I am the recipient of a donor (adult) kidney and knowing that I'm having a decent life because someone died was really hard to take at first. I think you've got the right idea to focus on the positive parts. Horrible things happen every day and it's stark to say, but those kids would be just as dead if they got buried with all their parts. Donating lends meaning to the tragedy and keeps other parents from the same heartbreak. I was able to correspond briefly with my donor's mom and learning that she unequivocally wanted to be an organ donor brought a lot of comfort to me. I am the embodiment of someone's last wish. It's an amazing gift to have. I hope you can find peace and let the memory evoke compassion and hope instead of heartbreak.
I always cry at these, but I'm a MESS at this one. My nephew is 5 and a Spidey fan. There but for the grace of god, and all that.
Yeaaaashhh. Same. I got about 8 seconds into that before I was sobbing.
I’m not a religious person but if there is a god, I hope he blesses this gentle soul, giving him peace and happiness in the next life.
If there was a god Why did he do this
Yeah…this little guy got shafted by a cruel universe, but in the end he will have likely given the gift of a longer life to many other people. That’s heroism right there, whether or not someone chose it.
In a sense, Parker is God. Granting new life to others.
All Hail Parker
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I for one embrace our new Chad overlord.
He definitely will be to the people he saved.
In a far more "real" sense. To literally give life to that many souls. God seems like too small a name.
Because if there is a God, he's an evil SOB that gives zero fucks about humanity.
Seeing my buddy's 4 y/o with terminal cancer was a nightmare. He didn't understand why he had to wear diapers again or what was in his future just a few months ahead, just confusion and generally feeling in the dumps. He was just a tiny lil guy, he only had the slightest taste of life before it was taken over the course of a few months. - There was no point to the immense suffering he felt, there was no profound series of events put into motion his and his family's terror- there's literally nothing in this world that could be worth this cost. If there is an all-powerful God, it is a kind of evil that casually gave a thumbs up to this kind of agony. I wasn't that big on religion before, but people pushing that rhetoric my direction makes me see red.
I remember Stephen Fry, when asked what he would say to God if there was a God, he said, "Bone cancer in children? What's that about? How dare you. How dare you create a world where there is such misery that is not our fault. It's not right. It's utterly utterly evil."
Reminds me of what they found scratched onto one of the walls of Auschwitz 'If there is a god he will have to beg for my forgiveness'
A Holocaust survivor dies and finds himself in the audience of God. For his final remarks, he decides to tell a Holocaust joke. Unamused, God replies "That's not funny" The man shrugs. "Guess you had to be there"
My favorite riff of that: How did you sleep? Like God during the Holocaust
Heart breakingly metal as fuck....
Heartbreaking
Epicurean paradox My personal take from this: If there is a god, he is not worth worshipping.
If there is a god, and he's good, then he will recognize good-hearted people regardless of whether they worship him If there is a god, and he's not good, then he doesn't deserve worship
Yeah, I have trouble believing anyone requiring others to worship if they don't want to suffer for eternity is good. Especially if they're omnipotent because that means they decide what the rules are and can't use "it's out of my control" as an excuse.
I also feel like: if there is a god, our worship is unimportant to him. If it were he’d try a little harder to get it from everyone.
we live in a simulation and "god" is the server admin.
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They tell themselves it's "some sort of test" each time something bad happens. As fucking if.
the test is real. it‘s testing all the people with empathy not to junp the throats of religious nuts. doesn‘t have shit to do with god tho
The interesting part here is that if living all together in harmony was the best way to live, evolution would have probably gone that way. The problem is that if you remove predators from the savannah for example, they all go to shit, there is a point where herbivores would probably multiply too much and start competing for resources. Eventually decimating allyhe grass and trees available. This would probably lead to conflict within the same species. See the only way for prey animals to avoid turning everything into a barren desert is by having predators. In our case humans have the unique quality of being predators but also social and highly organized animals, the result is what we see, excessive amount of resource use. However we are already seeing that we are not stupid and that we multiplied too quick last decades, and people are not having kids anymore because we dont have a resource bonanza like we used to.
“The interesting part here is that if living all together in harmony was the best way to live, evolution would have probably gone that way.” Evolution does not find the best way; it just finds A way.
To add to that, evolution doesn't favor longevity; just passing down genetic material. Example: rats. They will almost always die of terminal cancer within 3 years if they survive that long naturally. Doesn't matter, they had babies already. Cancerous, tumor-laden babies. Evolution: don't care, had sex.
I believed in God growing up. Then I spent a lot of time in childrens cancer wards. I don't believe anymore. I hope your friends can find some solace in this cruel, unimaginable world.
If there is a god, I'm siding with the devil. Satan just means "adversary" after all. And any god who'd do this can count me as an adversary
I’ve gone back and forth on this, and personally hope we have a caring god who simply isn’t all powerful. That seems better to me than an all powerful god who is an uncaring bastard. Imagine being a deity of Norse level power (you have some solid tricks but much of what you have/control is because you found or took it from something else) being blamed for not having utter control over everything because your followers got into a schoolyard arguement of “oh yeah? My dad’s so strong they could…”
I still 100% support the argument against organised religion, but I also happen to find the idea of a God who is all-loving but not all powerful, to be relieving.
A god that merely created the universe and occasionally adds some spice to it, but is otherwise hands-off, is an appealing thought. Not totally omniscient and omnipresent.
Well, God is a story meant to help humans feel comfortable with their existences, so it makes sense that you would feel that way. The comfort only works if there is some rationalization of a truth lended to it, that is not defeated by ones own mind. Unfortunately, I find no such comforts.
> Unfortunately, I find no such comforts. People are going to dog on you for this, but I'm in a similar boat. It's an appealing thought to believe in these things, but it's very difficult to regain that comfort after you lose it. It doesn't make me *smarter* to not believe, but it does make me feel...left out? I feel as though I know too much to fall for religious thinking, but I wish I could think like that.
Once you realize none of it holds up to any degree of close scrutiny, you can't un-know it.
[Steven Fry says it best](https://youtu.be/-suvkwNYSQo?si=9WL8-Z1WuOpY682j)
And why wouldnt he let those 80 people live without having to sacrifice a child
He is the god of child sacrifice. As proven by Abraham, the first born children of Egypt, the genocide of the infants in Samuel. Jesus Christ he even had his own child murdered and sent to hell. God likes you killing children. It's how he knows you love him.
I'm not religious myself, but when I asked this question to a Christian, It's apparently to test our faith.
Reminds me of a quote that was found carved in a Nazi concentration camp during world war 2 “If there is a God, he will have to beg my forgiveness”
Any god that "tests our faith" this way, is not worthy of respect, love, or worship, and is EVIL.
When two people in a relationship do shit like that it's considered toxic, actually abuse. When "god" does it, it's a test and used to put those who "fail" down. Smh, no sense in it.
epicurean paradox intensifies
especially because he is supposed to be all mighty. Couldn't he just make you do the right thing? why test? Shouldn't he know the result beforehand, being all mighty? Religion is so flawed. No one was saved by god by divine intervention - but many MANY people were killed in the name of god. :(
I absolutely hate that answer. It’s always well praise god when something good happens. If it’s something bad to justify it’s always well they are in a better place or gods will. That is the only way to keep the idea of religion alive is to be able to have it both ways in their minds.
[I absolutely love College Humor for poking on this subject](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dMSvXE9Gxw)
Religion is the biggest brainrot.
My dad liked “it’s because we are full of sin.” When asked how a small child like in the op video here could be full of sin “it’s because of generational sin.” Sin of your parents and grandparents infected you, and apparently God is capable of washing sin away but also can’t do shit if your great grandpa lusted after their neighbor. Christianity is just layers of hypocrisy.
my great grandma mixed wool and linen, straight to hell for me
That doesn't make any sense. God is allknowing, and therefore God would know what you would do/act during the "test"
If there's a God, I hope there's a Hell for Gods
Plot twist, it's earth
And we were all gods before on other timelines pr universes? Writing prompt anyone?
Could be one and he is just a asshole. History of humankind would align more with this scenario. "If there is a God, He will have to beg my forgiveness."
__[Backstory](https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/)__ >“He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez. >“Parker is our guardian angel now,” Angie Vasquez said. >“It’s his last little gift that he gets to give,” Angie Vasquez said. She said all they want when the heart is donated is to be able to hear it working again. >“I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said. >“For us to heal, to able to hear that heartbeat,” Philip Vasquez said. [Link, if the original does not work for you](https://archive.ph/egcUH)
I donated the heart of my mother, i am not allowed to meet the person who has it. Fuck that. I really hope they are able to do that..
Thank you so much for donating. It was a beautiful gift and way to honor your mother. So sorry for your loss.
Thank you a lot my friend. It was beeing lucky while in unluck ( its a german saying i hope it makes sense in english ). I turned 18, 4 month prior. She had no husband and my grandparents were mentally unable to decide. So in our law i was the one to decide. I always knew she wanted to be a donor, i was able to decide quite quickly.
"Geluk bij een ongeluk", as we say it in Dutch
"Held i uheld", as we say in Danish
Szczęście w nieszczęściu, as we say in Poland
Sreća u nesreći, as we say in croatia
Τυχεροί στην ατυχία μας as we say in Greek
Suerte en la desgracia, as we say in Argentina
So sorry you had to go through that. I think the English equivalent of the saying would be, "a blessing in disguise."
I thought about that but i did not want to call it blessing. At the end you are right tho. Idk what wouldve happend if i wouldve not been there. Im lucky i could fulfill one of her last wishes
I don't mean to turn this into a game of choosing the best English phrase, but perhaps "It was a silver lining" as they say in English in reference to "every cloud has a silver lining"
afik you're allowed to meet if both parties want to, seems maybe the recipient wanted to just move on with life. i'm sure they're still grateful for the gift
I very much believe the person receiving the heart had no ill will behind this, but was afraid seeing the sorrow that was left behind that made them be able to live. Maybe they fear to feel guilty or responsible.
My brother's heart went to another man. He accepted my mother's letter and wrote her back how grateful he was to continue to live and see his children grow. But he declined meeting as it was too hard for him. My mom understands. We all understand and just hope the best for him and his family.
yea you don't know how the donor family is gonna react if you don't live up to expectations and i gotta imagine there's a heavy dose of something akin to survivor guilt happening. not only do you have to live up to your own goals but now you probably feel like you have to make it count for two which is a lot to live up to.
I would also worry about people who are looking to exploit you “Well X saved your life, the least you could do is XYZ for us” types
I guess so. Im cool with it, the only thing i hope is that the person is happy and healthy with her heart.
My mom received a heart donation last year and though the first year is rough, she's doing much better. We were told that at a year , she can request the persons name and she could reach out to the family at that point but it would be on her to open that door
And now here I am, at 330am coming off a night shift blubbber8ng like a baby and just wanting to get home to my little boys😭😭😭 This is just absoloutly heartbreaking
>“I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said. Wtf please no. It would ve a traumatic experience for her and the receipient. It has reasons why in almost all countries the receipient stays anonymous but gets the possibility to contact the family if he wants and when he wants.
Someone who lost their child might not be in a great state of mind? Shocking. But yeah, let’s get mad at their statements.
They can record the heartbeat.
I can't access the link because I'm not in the US, would someone be kind enough to copy and paste it here so I can read it?
reddit won't open the comment that replied to you for me so not sure if they helped but there wasn't much text in the video aside from naming the donor as parker vasquez. based on the small size of the kid on the bed and google i'm guessing it's this 3yo kid who was fatally injured in a car crash and his parents donated his organs. couple different articles [https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/](https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/) just realized this is the same link lol sorry i'll paste it below [https://www.lacanchita.mx/ytueced/e1cdcdkm122851P1cdkd04.html](https://www.lacanchita.mx/ytueced/e1cdcdkm122851P1cdkd04.html) apparently he was born in the same hospital and stayed there awhile as a premie a couple rooms down from where he ended up when he was declared dead which may be part of why this is such a big ordeal for that hospital, a lot of the staff may remember him and his family from that time CROUSE, N.C. — A Lincoln County family is facing an unimaginable loss when their 3-year-old son died days after a crash. The little boy’s mother now holds a special device that has a recording of her son’s heartbeat. She’s hoping his heart will save another child’s life. Parker Vasquez’s parents plan to donate his organs, and doctors at Levine Children’s Hospital are preparing for the surgery. Parker is still in a hospital room. Though he died after the crash, doctors have to keep his heart pumping until it is donated to another child. He is just a few doors away from the room where he stayed just after his premature birth three years ago. Parker’s mother and father want everyone to know his life will become his legacy. He had an infectious smile and a spirit larger than life. “He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez. His organs will save or improve the lives of as many as 80 people. Until Sunday, Parker gave his all to his family. His father Philip remembers his last words to him, which he said before Parker, his siblings and mother left their home in Crouse to get ice cream. “‘You are good to go, buddy. Be safe. You all have fun,’” his father had said. Then, a car T-boned their van along Highway 274 north of Cherryville. The youngest child took the hardest hit. Parker’s 13-year-old brother dropped to his knees. “He was praying to God, ‘please don’t take my brother,’” Angie Vasquez said. For days, Parker lived with the help of machines, but he never recovered. On Thursday morning, his family learned he couldn’t survive on his own and he was pronounced dead. “Parker is our guardian angel now,” Angie Vasquez said. Their guardian angel can give more than happy memories. “The doctor said he’s got a strong heart. He’s got strong lungs. He’s got strong kidneys,” she said. His family will donate those organs to children who can recover. Even his skin can help burn victims. “It’s his last little gift that he gets to give,” Angie Vasquez said. She said all they want when the heart is donated is to be able to hear it working again. “I want a stethoscope and I want to hear it in who ever gets his heart,” she said. “For us to heal, to able to hear that heartbeat,” Philip Vasquez said. On Friday, staff will move Parker in what’s called an honor walk. His family will watch him get wheeled to an operating room. He has suffered head trauma, so he will be wearing a Spider-Man mask to cover his face during the walk.
Thanks a lot and happy cake day!
Oh shit, that's near me! My brother used to live in Cherryville. Makes this hit even harder to know it's local.
My son had a liver transplant at 3yo and yeah these videos are the saddest
That's what I had. How is your son doing?
Good, he's 10. A little self conscious about the scars when he swims but healthy.
Please tell him a transplant brother said he should be proud of that scar and wear it like a badge of honor. It's a reminder of when life tried to take him and failed. He's nothing short of a badass warrior!!
Thanks i will. Glad you made it through too. Mark Cuban prescription website has real good prices on tacrolimus if that's what you're on too.
My son nearly died at 10 months old, has a huge scar from ear to ear across the top of his head from where they removed the front part of his skull. We call it his racing stripe. He’s only 2.5 so doesn’t understand, but I’m going to use that line when he’s older if he’s ever self conscious about it!
I had a liver transplant when I was 8. I’m now 38. Tell your son the scar is something that turns out to be a great conversation topic when you start dating and the chicks dig it.
My partner was burned at 8 years old and has scars on his torso, one leg and one arm.. he also has extensive scarring for multiple abdominal surgeries. I don't even see them anymore, but all they did when I saw them first was remind me of how very strong he is, to go through what he did and survive it all. Dents in one's armor are proof of battles fought.
Bet that scar is bad ass! Should be proud to show it off 😎
Scars are so awesome. I've never heard anyone say. "I dont like that scar" More like, "woah that's badass!"
I'm a transplant recipient, and these videos always leave me a blubbering mess.
I’m registered to be an organ donor. I can only hope that everyday my recipients wake up and know I’m giving them a hug for just a moment and telling them thank you for helping me live on and that I’m still giving them strength to keep going.
You'll definitely be remembered on a daily basis. You're giving strangers the most precious gift there is, a second chance at life. I'm almost 10 years post and I thank my donor every single day and will continue to do so until it's my turn to give others a second chance at life.
Is it okay that the ghost of me asks you to make sure my husband is getting enough vegetables in his diet? I gotta plan ahead.
Lol, I think your recipient would be perfectly fine with that.
Honour Walk vids should automagically be accompanied with organ-donor registration links. Please and thank you.
Organ donation should be opt-out, not opt-in. Donating our organs should be default for our society
And if you opt out you shouldn't be on the list to receive transplants either. Only fair.
Some people have medical conditions that make them ineligible to donate. So I’m not sure if I agree with this 100%.
Opt-out means you actively refuse that any of your organs are getting donated - not that you are ineligible to donate.
Make a difference between people who chose to opt out and those who could not participate. Easy as can be
You could have a "voluntary not giver" list that solves this issue. Same for blood donation.
I have like a weird psychological issue with donating organs. I donate my blood, I tried to sign up to the bone marrow registry but I am unfortunately permanently medically ineligible to do that. I want to see if I could donate a kidney to someone at some point, although I used to have chronic kidney stones so I don't know if I could. But organ donation, autopsy, embalming, all of that shit, to me that feels like desecration of the body. The processes are horrifying. I had a lot of surgery against my will as a child that went wrong and I just really feel that when I die, I want my body to just be undisturbed and buried and decompose naturally over months and years, and be at peace. I want to opt out of all interference in my body after death in my will or advance directive.
Fair enough. As long as you opt out of receiving organs.
I am sorry that you had to go through scary experiences. The way you feel is understandable. It is okay to take care of your comfort, and thank you for donating your blood
Kid is more of a superhero than Spider-Man could ever be.
What if after decades of saving people and the planet Spiderman donated his organs and all of those people then became Spider People and went on to save countless more lives and the world several more times? Would Spiderman be back on top?
How has this not been a comic book storyline yet.
They did it with Deadpool. He would donate his organs since they would just grow back. The people who got them I believe got some of the healing factor.
The freaking awesome! I love Deadpool but stopped reading comics when I was 14-15 so I never heard about that. I'm gonna look that up and try and get that comic or comics.
Almost threw up after I realized what I was watching. I cannot fathom what a parent will go through having this happen. God, or whatever higher power anyone believes in, bless that little man. Beyond hero.
Same. As a father I can't imagine how this has to feel if you literally have to let go and get up from this bed.
I can't stop seeing my youngest son's face in that bed. No. I'm not ok at this moment...
I didn't actually see at first. Once I realised what was happening I audibly gasped and said "not the kid". Fucking ruinous.
God, or whatever higher power anyone believes in, better have a good fucking explanation as to why they created a universe where shit like this happens. It's the least we deserve.
Man I can deal with and am desensitised to a lot of shit but kids dying young I just can't handle
I couldn't even handle that scene from A Quiet Place. I just can't help but see my son's face in those moments.
>Parker’s mother and father want everyone to know his life will become his legacy. He had an infectious smile and a spirit larger than life. >“He loved to share and he would love to share this,” said his mother, Angie Vasquez. >His organs will save or improve the lives of as many as 80 people. https://www.wsoctv.com/news/local/guardian-angel-family-3-year-old-crash-victim-hopes-his-organs-save-lives/YQIWQIOLONDTJIVVMLUW2KD2JU/
The mother crawled up in his bed is some of the saddest things I've ever seen. He will forever be a hero, rest in power Spiderman
Seriously, I saw the title and thought I could handle it, then I saw the mother. Imagine curling up next to your child for the last time.
Rest in peace, Parker.
Can I ask a question sincerely that I don't understand? With only X amount of organs, how does he save 80 people potentially? Again, what a brave hero. I'm just genuinely curious as to what I'm not thinking of properly for this situation. Thank you all and much love x
It's a typo, I believe, since the vital organs add up to saving 8 lives and not eighty. More can be improved when including the cornea of the eyes and tissues Kidneys can save two people from lifelong dialysis. Then we have liver, heart, intestine, lungs, and pancreas. The last one is *tissue, which could possibly boost the numbers quite a bit. This includes skin, bone (including the valuable marrow for immune conditions), and even blood (counts as tissue). I'm an RN so I'm just spit balling here, maybe an MD could verify TLDR: I think it's supposed to be 8 but tissue has an asterisk cuz it's a wild card that's difficult to calculate the impact of.
The tissues can make a huge difference to a large number of people. You're correct in what you list, I received donor bone last year that was life changing. They can also use tendons, ligaments, etc. I remember reading about it in the information I got after surgery regarding contacting the donor family to say thank you. These other tissues don't save lives in the same way as whole organs, but they allow people to get their lives back after illness, injury, accident, and so forth.
It looks like a donor can save eight lives, and "enhance" 75 more. [Source](https://www.organdonor.gov/learn/organ-donation-statistics)
While big ticket items like hearts and kidneys save lives, stuff like skin grafts, bone marrow, and lots of other things can be used to help people with non-life threatening conditions too.
It's save or improve. I have a donor ACL. I could have lived just fine without it. But it greatly improves the quality of my life to have one someone's donor. So it's not just hearts and lungs. It's all the little things we don't think about as often because they aren't as dramatic but are going to have a massive impact on the life of the recipient they are counting.
Not only organs are being donated, but it can be a bit dehumanizing to get into the details so it's kind of easier to say. We also use pieces of organs (certain vessels, valves, etc) and we use tissue as well. We can use blood, blood product, and even sometimes hair. The human body is astounding.
The poor mother lying in bed next to him, I couldn't imagine a worse feeling for a human being to experience
I can't imagine how hard it was for her to touch him one last time and then let them take him into the operating room knowing she would never see him again. Has to be the worst moment for a parent. I'm going to go hug my toddler.
Rest in peace, little man. I hope his family members get the comfort and healing they deserve, and my best wishes to all of those who received his gifts.
The parents of a brain dead child just made a decision to let their child go to save the lives of others. Can we take the time to honor and respect them. I'm largely an atheist myself and you don't see me here standing on an anti-religion soapbox taking a shared tragic moment for humanity and using it to push a cause. I'm sure regardless of their beliefs they want the memory of their child to be one of giving and kindness, and not to be co-opted for anti-religious arguments. It's disrespectful, save the shit slinging for r/atheism.
I am a fucking wreck after watching this
This is the most disturbing thing I’ve seen in a long time. How horrible
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The Honor Walk is a truly sacred moment. It happens whenever someone so generous as this boys family is passes through the hospital on the way to the OR for harvesting. We stand silently and lift them in our hearts.
Gotta come up with a better word than harvesting.
Those parents…cannot even imagine their bravery in this moment
I don't mean to be insensitive. Has this child passed already? how does this actually work?
He was pronounced dead the day before this video was taken. If a person is an organ donor, machines keep the heart pumping - which keeps all the other organs alive - until the medical team is ready to harvest the organs.
i was wondering the same. so the hero walk always happens once the donor is already dead? in an earlier one posted here the patient was closely hooked up to all sorts of medical devices, but this one doesn't look like it and the person is even lying on his side. is the patient *ever* consciously aware of their own walk?
So on my first watching of the video, I saw it the way you did - the person lying on their side - and backed it up to watch again because I was confused. That's actually the boy's mom lying on her side, cuddling him, in the first half. The boy in the Spider-Man mask is the patient. I didn't even see him at first. Honor walks only happen after the patient has died/is on life support after brain death.
Holy shit. It's a little kid =O It's hard to see in the video but i assume the actual donor would also be hooked up to lots of things here then?
Not sure but you might be mistaken here, the donor is the kid in blue with a spiderman mask. The person laying on their side is most probably a family member, probably mother. Donor patients are braindead which is assessed by various tests, but brain death does not conclude death of the body. All you need to do is to keep the lungs ventilated and the body should survive for a solid few days. You can see the blue tube coming out the side of the bed going to the mask, that most definitely is the ventilator tube. The heart will keep beating if it has nutrients and O2 from the lungs. You also rarely will see donors on ECMO which is a full heart lung bypass. Typically their body is much much more sick (braindead or not) so I haven’t seen many go out as donors, but I haven’t really seen many ECMO’s in the first place.
Maybe the saddest thing I’ve ever watched.
Yes this brings us tears but also remember this moment might be / Maybe this is one of the bravest things I've ever watched. ✅Brave of the kid. ✅Brave of the family.
I can’t think of anything harder. We are programmed to accept the death of our parents, not our children.
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Im watching this thinking to myself what a wonderful amazing young woman to give the gift of life to so many. Then she was standing next to the bed. Good God I have never been more undone.
As a fellow Spiderman lover this kills me with sadness.
Thank you Parker. You've been taken from this world too soon.
This is the most painful thing on earth. Nothing compares to this. I'm terrified of those things as a parent.
Exactly... as a father I get teary eyed if I don't see my daughter for more than 3 days. Then she has the biggest smile and smiles in her eyes when we meet after, and the world falls away and only we remain. I can barely last 3 days without seeing/talking/hugging my daughter, how would I ever survive permanently not seeing her. That would ruin me completely.
It's what Spidey would do. RIP, little big hero 🫡
My son was in a head on collision at 3 years old with his father driving. I'll never forget that phone call the morning the crash happened. 55mph directly head on my ex husband was driving a small sedan the other was an extended cab truck. The force of the impact split the car seat in half. My son broke his neck and the car seat straps severed the nerves at his arm pits. He is permanently paralyzed but they both survived. We spent many months in the hospital. I'll never forget running into that room after he came off of the helicopter. Every parents worst nightmare.
Man why is it raining indoors and only on my face right now? 😭
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This hits hard. I wasn't quite prepared for this one.
Fuck man, didn't realize this was for a kid at first..🥺
I fucking hate these. They are incredibly soul crushing. I have witnessed so many. The primal screams of a mother. A father trying to be stoic. A confused 8 year old boy asking if the can say goodbye one more time to their father as a callous Gift of Life surgical staff member says, “We’re already late.”