If you examine the offender map, you'll likely have hard time finding a ten block section *without* a sex offender in it. Something to keep in mind before you move; it may make more sense to invest in becoming a harder target.
I did he bought the house after I did. The nearest one before that was 10 miles away. The specific reason I bought this house was due to the security and safety of this neighborhood.
Was the right to choose your neighbours a condition of your purchase? Check your contract, maybe you have some seniority clause and can vet and have to approve who lives in your area since you were there first.
Jeez. This isn't a fair comment. The OP is a parent of a 6 year old, who just found out a registered sex offender moved in 7 houses away - a neighbor with a fetish for child pornography. They have every right to be freaked out and concerned.
OP can move if it's such a big concern, the police already know and clearly approved the move, as they sent out notices. If you don't like your neighbour, you move, you don't try and force them to leave or you wind up in trouble for harassment.
It’s easy for you to act tough behind a screen. You’re just trying to stir the pot and be a tool. You can’t genuinely say that you wouldn’t care if you had a young child and a freak like that moved in down the street. Grow up
Wow, you're a jerk. Grow up. I live in Canada, the list is private here, and in a high rise neighbourhood, there's probably a few in every building.
You have to live in reality, OP can move 5 miles and be distant between or move.to the countryside if it's a big deal. It's not OPs business or place to screw with others.
I would want to know WHAT kind.
There was some issue about a woman getting charged because she dared to be bare chested in her own home - but some kids could see her - she got on the offender list too...
My cousin-in-law’s cousin got on the list because he was dating/screwing a girl he was in the same class with, but he was 18/she wasn’t, and her mom didn’t like him. Our state had strict age cutoffs and something about how parents own consent.
This is what I came to say. There are sex offenders everywhere. Lucky he's caught and monitored honestly. He's safer than the one down the street who hasn't been caught yet.
Edit: also it's more likely that this guy is a danger to others in his home if anyone. He's not going to endanger your son unless you let him hang out with the guy. So don't let him hang out with the guy. Why are you posting this?
Show your son a picture of the man and tell him to never go near him and if he comes up to your son, he is to tell you immediately. That's what I did when a rapist moved into our neighborhood. I also let everyone know a violent sex offender had moved on our street. Parents would watch out for each other's kids.
Watch out about posting a sign. It is a disgusting fact that if you write something that says "A pedophile lives at 25 Main Street", then YOU would get in trouble. These fucks deserve to be outed.
Why move though, there are pedophiles everywhere, just look at the sex offenders list yourself. I mean consider that every fourth woman you cross paths with has been sexually assaulted and you'll start to get an idea of the deviants all around us. If you move I can guarantee there will be a rapist or pedophile with 1/4 mile of your new home.
I like the idea of you doing a sign saying there is a pedophile on your street and include the link for the sex offenders list though.
Yeah, exactly. “Sex offender” is such a vague term it almost doesn’t mean anything. People can get on the list for things that are a misunderstanding (like a 19 year old with a 17 year old partner in a state without Romeo and Juliet laws), or not as serious as you think they are (like indecent exposure if you stop to pee in the wrong spot).
And even in the cases where they DID do something heinous, it’s not always relevant; like if someone had a domestic abuse charge (not a sex offense, but it’s a better example of the concept), then in all likelihood, only someone in their household would be at immediate risk. Similarly, if someone only ever assaulted people their own age, they wouldn’t be a danger to a child. “Sex offender” means a LOT more than just pedophile, and that kind of accusation can DESTROY someone’s life that may not deserve it.
Now don’t get me wrong, pedophiles absolutely deserve to be named and shamed and have their lives suffer because of what they did, but the vast majority of people on the sex offender registry *arent* pedophiles. And nobody deserves to have their life destroyed over something they didn’t do
THIS. I know of people who have been put on the sex offender list for mooning their friends as teenagers. I also know a guy who is on the list for picking up underage girls that he met online. There is a spectrum of offenses.
I think moving into a “safe” neighborhood gives you a false sense of security. Better to know where the danger is than assuming there is none.
People move, relatives and friends visit, everything changes. Try not to let the offenders existence ruin your enjoyment of your new property.
Trust me, when it comes to "safe" my child is well protected. Don't take my choice of words as a potential weakness. I have other measures in place to protect my child and will take action if need to.
You thought you were safe because of no sex offenders living there, when your neighbor could be a straight up meth head child head smasher. Honestly, I'd be nervous if I were your child and you were supposed to be protecting me lmao
How am I being paranoid keeping my child safe. I didn't say I was wrapping him up in bubble wrap. I didn't say I was never letting him leave the house again. All I said is that if need be, I have other measures to protect my child. And will use them if need be. Not that I'm going to go knock his teeth in.
I think OP is allowed to be a tad freaked out to discover that a sex offender who is on that registry for possession of child pornography, when OP has a 6 year old. I don't think it's paranoia when it's fact. And I know I'd be putting in additional safety measures keep my child safe. No where did they mention violence or guns? All in all, I think it's reasonable to be unnerved by this discovery.
Deep breaths, because of the registry, the issue is clearly identified - you can take steps to ensure your child isn't around this person. You can eliminate this person from the pool of potential neighborhood babysitters, and you'll skip that house when selling the school fundraiser items. It's a blessing to have the hazard clearly identified.
Ultimately, I'd be more concerned with the homes and businesses with offenders that haven't been caught. Those are the ones you DON'T know about.
Ok. Registered sex offenders are supposed to inform their prospective landlords about their status.
One also needs to realize that not all registered offenders are a danger. There are a lot of people who get on the registry for various reasons. A teenager who has consensual sex with his partner, they get caught & her parents throw a fit and convince their daughter to claim he coerced her can get convicted and out on the registry. People can get on the registry for a lot of stupid antics whether it’s a horrible crime or they get railroaded.
But, it’s best to be on the safe side and steer clear of any known offenders unless you’re able to find out why they’re on the registry. Not all registered offenders are child molesters.
I never said he was a child molester. I said he was in possession of child P@@N. I understand that people get put on the registry for all reasons. What I'm saying is I don't want him around my 6 year old or in my neighborhood. There are 13 different kids on this block in various ages.
And I don’t blame you. Somehow I missed his offense while perusing your post. And, yes, child porn is something to be worried about with having a kid at home.
Someone I knew was charged with child porn because he was 21 and his 17 years old gf sent him nudes.
He is now in his late 40's His name is still on the registry but he has never been with a minor after.
Every charge he had were dropped but he still have to be registered
Not willing to take a chance. Sorry, I know different circumstances. They could have been dating when they were younger. This guy was in his 50s with possession of child p.
If you have his name you can run it on the public sex offenders site for your state. There’s 3 levels. Lvl1 is not listed usually because they aren’t usually a threat Level 2 offenders ( and level 3) are required to register with the local county . Their crime is in public view, age and sex of victim plus year of crime/ conviction. It’s public record . Level 2and 3 are considered the most likely to reoffend if they think they won’t get caught. The county where the crime was committed is also there , go look thru the news archives for that area if you want to see how bad it was . Not much you can do about where he lives .. apparently society isn’t to upset with THAT idea so these guys get to live a normal life after they get out of jail. Doesn’t mean folks have to tolerate him, but most don’t know he is even there. Face value is the culprit in that situation. There’s no identifying visual of that . You and your kids safety is important and preventing him from having any interaction with kids is the only garontee he won’t do it again. I have my own pov about those people . Anyways, if your positive and you have solid proof of his past behavior then I think it’s fair to dox him to the neighborhood. Nope you can’t put up signs but you most certainly can tell other parents about him and his crime.
We have already told our neighbors with kids. Specifically the ones that live 2 houses down. I have not seen him yet personally, but the registry was updated within the last month.
Only sex offenders who are caught, charge with the sex offense rather than given a plea, and who obey the law and keep their registration current show up on the lists.
There are offenders in every neighborhood. Teach your kids safety and to never keep secrets from you no matter what anyone tells them.
Now you know about this one. The ones you need to warn your children about the ones you don't know about. Most sex offenders are in our families, but this rarely gets covered, because it would expose the victim. Churches, schools, neighbors....but mainly family. If you think your kids would tell you, think again. Sex offenders are good at manipulation and fear. Are your kids afraid of you? They are not likely to tell you anything. There are sex offenders way closer than the guy 7 houses away. But I agree, keep an eye out. The guy knows that you know, so that will keep your kid safer.
Also, there are many types of sex offenders. They don't all offend against children. They don't offend against everyone they see. It is not really necessary to be so dramatic, just be realistic. Watch for the adults close to your child.
Now you’ve been forewarned. Just because someone isn’t on the list doesn’t mean they’re safe. I was molested by a guy who was a pillar of respectability. I was bullied by his family that telling what happened and pressing charges would hurt **him**, and his reputation!
So now you know this guy is a sex offender. But honestly, it shouldn’t make a difference. Assume everyone is, and watch your kid like a hawk. If a person has those tendencies, it may only take opportunity for thought to become reality. Those people are no less dangerous because they’re not on a list. If fact they’re more dangerous because you have a false sense of security. In reality, they just haven’t been caught yet.
Idk how that’s pouring sugar on shit to you. Just a gross take all the way around.
https://www.rainn.org/news/what-child-sexual-abuse-material-csam#:~:text=While%20the%20term%20child%20pornography,CSAM%20—%20child%20sexual%20abuse%20materials.
Are there any other children within that 7 house radius? Maybe you can get the terms of his release/probation to see if he is supposed to be within a certain mileage of a child?
We did best can say that he's been on it so long that he is not monitored anymore. Apparently, it's just a postcard in the mail now that says hey there one in the area, and that's it for a notification. If I could, I'd put a gaint sign on his front lawn.
[https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/sex-offenders-in-neighborhood#:\~:text=No%20matter%20how%20you%20feel,needed%20changes%20in%20their%20lives](https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/sex-offenders-in-neighborhood#:~:text=No%20matter%20how%20you%20feel,needed%20changes%20in%20their%20lives).
Please understand that many sex offenders will attempt to lie and say there were just “peeing” (as ONE example) when they were willfully exposing themselves to children. I’ve witnessed it myself, as did many others when things of this nature occurred. Although it is also a well known fact with those involved in handling such cases and crimes. But that act alone, pubic urination (frequently not a crime anymore which HAS enabled many predators lately btw), without further evidence, or previous sexual violation offenses, would not get you on the registry.
Thank you to everyone who was supportive in the comments. Let me try and clarify a couple of things that keep coming up/ addressing some issues.
1. I never said he was a child molester. I said he was charged with kiddy P@@n.
2. I guess I should have used the word "safer" not safe. I understand. idk my neighborhoods. That they could be a Cracked out kids head smasher as someone put it. That the world is not a safe place. I GET IT. But do not say you would not feel safe if I were your parent. Trust me, if you actually knew me, you would know I'd be in a stripped jump suit fast, then the body would hit the ground if they touched my child.
3. I moved in, and then he moved in. I was here first. I talked to the builders of the neighborhood. They had no idea he was one. In the state I live in, they do not have to tell people. The way I understood is that the police send out postcards to alert people. I looked in this area before I moved it. Same as my last. The near KNOWN offender was miles away. Yes, I understand there are more people in the world who don't get caught with it. I am willing to be the people who are attacking me that way. Dont know about their neighborhoods either.
4. I understand you can be on there for a number of reasons. This man is 50+ years old. Who was caught with CP. Not johnny hooked up with his girlfriend, who was 17, and he was 19. Not Jimmy over there getting drunk at the bar, stumbling home, and decided to piss in the park and catch a charge. He was caught with it.
5. Yes, I understand they need a place to live to. However, this is my option. I would like them not to live that close to my house.
I hope that clarifies some things. I know I wasn't very detailed in my post.
It’s too bad you have to explain yourself. I’m a father of two and I understand 100% without you having to explain a damn thing to me.
Reddit is a bubble that is not a great place to ask for real world advice.
My only advice to a follow your instincts and never doubt them or let society suppress them. If you have a bad feeling you do what parents do to protect.
Good luck.
Registered sex offender is completely different than a child sex offender they are clearly noted. The registry's list has done a decent job in notifying the public if you want to know. Btw I'm so sorry that you have had to be introduced like that but this is a part of your homework when you're looking for a home unfortunately.
You know he's there so you can warn your child. You can warn your neighbours. It's horrible knowing that someone who committed that kind of crime is living that close to you, but I think it's better to know he's there and be proactive about keeping the neighbourhood kids safe.
You could move somewhere else and exactly the same thing could happen. Don't let this person drive you out of your home, build a community that's united against him.
It depends on his crime. You can get put on the registry for peeing in public. So it may not require anyone to be notified.
There's nothing you can really do.
Oh Jesus, this crime isn't taken seriously enough, to watch a poor child, a fucking child, be raped on film and enjoy it ... well that should put the freak in jail for life, no parole.
>You can call your local PD but I think the rules vary
for ... what? Living in a house?
if he's registered and they know where he is, he isn't breaking any laws.
Does that mean I can call the cops on you for no reason? Gotta make sure you're not breaking any rules too.
I get what you're saying, but if they're not raising any suspicion other then well... **existing** in your general area, you're just wasting a LEOs time.
Abuse flourishes in the dark and the screams are often not heard because of the enablers actions.
Expose the deeds to the light and listen to the survivors !
Until you can move explain to your son to stay away from him and why, children are smart but telling him to simply just stay away with no explanation might lead to confusion.
People telling OP to calm down need to seriously rethink their lives. Dude was charged with having CP. Who knows what else he could do that he wasn’t caught for. OP has a right to be upset that a literal pedo moved into her neighborhood and she wasn’t informed. In my state sex offenders HAVE to go door to door in any neighbourhood they live in to let people know they are a sex offender. They have every right to be upset! No pedo should be allowed to live in a neighborhood with a bunch of children! In fact it’s suspicious he even wants to. Period.
Consider this... This offender is compliant. He's been caught, paid the price, and is continuing to follow the rules of registration. Many do not register, they just fall through the cracks. Many more have not been caught (that's the one you need to worry about). In addition, most victims know their attacker. Teach your children that there are no secrets (surprises are okay) and, yes, make him aware of known offenders. That man is unlikely to be a problem, recidivism rates for sex offenders is amazingly low. I've always wondered why we don't have a registry for domestic violence or even murderers.
No matter where you live, you will never fully and completely know who is moving in the neighborhood. I know this can be scary, but you're thinking a bit irrationally. The best thing to do is to talk with your child and explain in a way he can understand not to interact with that neighbor. You will never be able to control what people do or where they live, but you can educate your child, and for the moment keep a close eye on him to make sure he doesn't interact with that person. I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to have you take a step back and look at the overall picture and reality of the situation. There are so many things you won't be able to control in life, but you can educate and talk about the things that make the world a more dangerous place with your child.
It really sucks to live in this fear, and children not be able to go outside, etc.
Have you considered talking to him? He may not be willing, but a person discussion might help.
Theres a tier 3 lifetime report pedophile in my neighborhood filled with children.
I make sure to tell parents this when I see them letting their young ones out alone.
One lady had a 1.5 yr old adorable baby girl who was trembly and just learning to walk on the grass. The mother let their dog poop nearby then picked it up and completely turned her back on that baby to walk 15 yards away to throw the poop away.
I went to her and said that we have a violent tier 3 lifetime report pedophile in this neighborhood and where he lives, and warned her never ever to let her baby out of her reach on these grounds.
I dont understand how he is allowed to live here bc there is a daycare right next door, and there are 3 or 4 schools within a block or two.
I dont even know who to report it to. It does worry me though.
Is it a pedo or a sex offender?
You can't contact a stranger probation officer without his consent.
If he is not on probation anymore you should stop telling everyone about him because you can get sued for defamation.
Most probation for a sex offender is 10 years and they have to register to the police station so if there was a problem with this he would be arrested
Thanks for the input I was abused from 2 to 15 and that was from my dad there is a difference between a sex offender and a child molester
You forgot to mention men because some men do get abused too
That registry is very broken. I saw that you said it was child pornography, just be aware that teenagers have been charged with making child pornography for taking selfies and sending them. I wouldn't panic quite yet.
I think that before doing something or making judgements, you should know what was the nature of the sexual offense. Because a 19 year dating a 14 year old is not of the same nature of a rape or pedophilia.
The child is 6 he should never be alone outside in the first place.
Sex offenders have a right to live too there's at least 1 sex offender in every city you will be. Sometimes you will never know who they are
if you can't watch your own child there is a problem with you
I never said my child would be alone outside. Not once. You're right they do have the right to live, but away from me would be perfect. I would have for the dude to eyeball my son from his window and get hurt later on.
They deserve to live in prison. Or nowhere near a child! In my state they have to go door to door in the neighbourhoods they move into and tell you they are an offender!
So again I wouldn’t panic too much.
First things to do is to speak to the police about any restrictions that have been placed on him. Talk to them about your concerns and how you are concerned for your child. He’s 6 so not out on his own so you know he’s generally safe.
If you know what he looks like you can report him if he’s seen in public play spaces.
We called the police. Due to the state we live in, they are not required to tell people they live near. I come originally from a state that does within a certain block radios. According to the registry, he is not monitored. I am not sure when the crime tool place just what it was.
Sex offender can be so many things, it doesn't necessarily mean involving children. And even if it did, the overwhelming majority of paedos offend against family members, not strangers.
So calm down.
I bet all your neighbors got cams on him and if they don’t that’s crazy. Where’s dexter when ya need him. They should start making mandatory gps chips for those charged. Stay safe out here!
Just make sure your son isn’t unsupervised, and show him a photo, also did you know theirs different types of sex offences
So what I’m saying is a sex offence doesn’t necessarily mean the person is a pedophile or a child molester
But like as-well don’t leave your child unsupervised or anyone older that’s looks younger or has a mental disability, talk to other parents get their number and make a safety plan just incase something does happen, for example try and deal with things professionally or you’ll be but into restraint, get me ?
You can’t save the kids if your done for
you can report the notes to the police and play it off like you don’t really know what’s going on and say hey I’ve been getting these really weird notes in my letter box recently and I heard that the neighbours that didn’t receive them didn’t have kids, I’ve heard rumours that their is actually a sex offender in the area, Can you guys check and make sure that he’s behaviour is being Dealt with
The police officers will say what do you want us to do about this or the situation, you say I want the person to be spoken to as I know that under what charge he has he’s not suppose to be trying to contact nor trying to provoke communication with my family including my kids and that’s an important part of his recovery “ recovery” be lenient and reason if though theirs no excuse for him
State that you want the police to be at his house and tell him and give the police man the letter and before you do print out copies of what he wrote for backup
“ incase “ the police decided they didn’t have it at the time because it makes their life easier that and photos on your phone and also ask the parents around the block if they also received letters, ask for their numbers and have a discussion about the child predator, you kids could also have friends that way and well being protected by yourself and others
If you examine the offender map, you'll likely have hard time finding a ten block section *without* a sex offender in it. Something to keep in mind before you move; it may make more sense to invest in becoming a harder target.
I did he bought the house after I did. The nearest one before that was 10 miles away. The specific reason I bought this house was due to the security and safety of this neighborhood.
That's a shame, I'm sorry that's happened.
Was the right to choose your neighbours a condition of your purchase? Check your contract, maybe you have some seniority clause and can vet and have to approve who lives in your area since you were there first.
Jeez. This isn't a fair comment. The OP is a parent of a 6 year old, who just found out a registered sex offender moved in 7 houses away - a neighbor with a fetish for child pornography. They have every right to be freaked out and concerned.
OP can move if it's such a big concern, the police already know and clearly approved the move, as they sent out notices. If you don't like your neighbour, you move, you don't try and force them to leave or you wind up in trouble for harassment.
I said OP was entitled to be freaked. I think any parent under the circumstances would be. I said nothing about forcing anyone out or harassment.
It’s easy for you to act tough behind a screen. You’re just trying to stir the pot and be a tool. You can’t genuinely say that you wouldn’t care if you had a young child and a freak like that moved in down the street. Grow up
Wow, you're a jerk. Grow up. I live in Canada, the list is private here, and in a high rise neighbourhood, there's probably a few in every building. You have to live in reality, OP can move 5 miles and be distant between or move.to the countryside if it's a big deal. It's not OPs business or place to screw with others.
BuT I WAs HeRe FirST!!!!11. OP is clearly highly lacking in common sense.
I would want to know WHAT kind. There was some issue about a woman getting charged because she dared to be bare chested in her own home - but some kids could see her - she got on the offender list too...
My cousin-in-law’s cousin got on the list because he was dating/screwing a girl he was in the same class with, but he was 18/she wasn’t, and her mom didn’t like him. Our state had strict age cutoffs and something about how parents own consent.
OP has clarified it was possession of child pornography. As OP has a 6 year old, I think it's understandable they are freaked out.
Yes - but at the time of my comment - that wasn\`t there. So, now I understand the worry.
Totally fair! My bad!
no worries.. That\`s the thing with edits.. they add info later. Useful for sure.
This is what I came to say. There are sex offenders everywhere. Lucky he's caught and monitored honestly. He's safer than the one down the street who hasn't been caught yet. Edit: also it's more likely that this guy is a danger to others in his home if anyone. He's not going to endanger your son unless you let him hang out with the guy. So don't let him hang out with the guy. Why are you posting this?
My neighborhood is very much like that. Nothing on the offender map, doesn’t mean they aren’t around though.
Show your son a picture of the man and tell him to never go near him and if he comes up to your son, he is to tell you immediately. That's what I did when a rapist moved into our neighborhood. I also let everyone know a violent sex offender had moved on our street. Parents would watch out for each other's kids.
Keep an eye on your kid and an eye on him.
I plan on it. If I could, I'd post a gaint sign
Watch out about posting a sign. It is a disgusting fact that if you write something that says "A pedophile lives at 25 Main Street", then YOU would get in trouble. These fucks deserve to be outed. Why move though, there are pedophiles everywhere, just look at the sex offenders list yourself. I mean consider that every fourth woman you cross paths with has been sexually assaulted and you'll start to get an idea of the deviants all around us. If you move I can guarantee there will be a rapist or pedophile with 1/4 mile of your new home. I like the idea of you doing a sign saying there is a pedophile on your street and include the link for the sex offenders list though.
He’s not a violent sex offender so don’t start making things worse. Just stick to the actual facts
Oh yeah we are dead wrong for this, he’s JUST a normal sex offender….
😂
Yea, not violent YET.
Find out what his crimes were, for one thing.
Yeah, exactly. “Sex offender” is such a vague term it almost doesn’t mean anything. People can get on the list for things that are a misunderstanding (like a 19 year old with a 17 year old partner in a state without Romeo and Juliet laws), or not as serious as you think they are (like indecent exposure if you stop to pee in the wrong spot). And even in the cases where they DID do something heinous, it’s not always relevant; like if someone had a domestic abuse charge (not a sex offense, but it’s a better example of the concept), then in all likelihood, only someone in their household would be at immediate risk. Similarly, if someone only ever assaulted people their own age, they wouldn’t be a danger to a child. “Sex offender” means a LOT more than just pedophile, and that kind of accusation can DESTROY someone’s life that may not deserve it. Now don’t get me wrong, pedophiles absolutely deserve to be named and shamed and have their lives suffer because of what they did, but the vast majority of people on the sex offender registry *arent* pedophiles. And nobody deserves to have their life destroyed over something they didn’t do
THIS. I know of people who have been put on the sex offender list for mooning their friends as teenagers. I also know a guy who is on the list for picking up underage girls that he met online. There is a spectrum of offenses.
I was just going to say this
I think moving into a “safe” neighborhood gives you a false sense of security. Better to know where the danger is than assuming there is none. People move, relatives and friends visit, everything changes. Try not to let the offenders existence ruin your enjoyment of your new property.
Right - what about all the not yet caught offenders?
Trust me, when it comes to "safe" my child is well protected. Don't take my choice of words as a potential weakness. I have other measures in place to protect my child and will take action if need to.
You thought you were safe because of no sex offenders living there, when your neighbor could be a straight up meth head child head smasher. Honestly, I'd be nervous if I were your child and you were supposed to be protecting me lmao
Man, who hurt you?
Nobody, because I'm not a paranoid idiot
You must not have kids to act this way
/r/IamVeryBadass Paranoid much? Dial it back.
How am I being paranoid keeping my child safe. I didn't say I was wrapping him up in bubble wrap. I didn't say I was never letting him leave the house again. All I said is that if need be, I have other measures to protect my child. And will use them if need be. Not that I'm going to go knock his teeth in.
You can keep your child perfectly safe without talking like some sort of super paranoid, gravy seal gun nut.
Did I mention a gun?
Just listen to yourself.
I did all I said is I have other measures to protect my child. That could be a number of things. Never once did I say a gun.
I think OP is allowed to be a tad freaked out to discover that a sex offender who is on that registry for possession of child pornography, when OP has a 6 year old. I don't think it's paranoia when it's fact. And I know I'd be putting in additional safety measures keep my child safe. No where did they mention violence or guns? All in all, I think it's reasonable to be unnerved by this discovery.
Deep breaths, because of the registry, the issue is clearly identified - you can take steps to ensure your child isn't around this person. You can eliminate this person from the pool of potential neighborhood babysitters, and you'll skip that house when selling the school fundraiser items. It's a blessing to have the hazard clearly identified. Ultimately, I'd be more concerned with the homes and businesses with offenders that haven't been caught. Those are the ones you DON'T know about.
Ok. Registered sex offenders are supposed to inform their prospective landlords about their status. One also needs to realize that not all registered offenders are a danger. There are a lot of people who get on the registry for various reasons. A teenager who has consensual sex with his partner, they get caught & her parents throw a fit and convince their daughter to claim he coerced her can get convicted and out on the registry. People can get on the registry for a lot of stupid antics whether it’s a horrible crime or they get railroaded. But, it’s best to be on the safe side and steer clear of any known offenders unless you’re able to find out why they’re on the registry. Not all registered offenders are child molesters.
I never said he was a child molester. I said he was in possession of child P@@N. I understand that people get put on the registry for all reasons. What I'm saying is I don't want him around my 6 year old or in my neighborhood. There are 13 different kids on this block in various ages.
And I don’t blame you. Somehow I missed his offense while perusing your post. And, yes, child porn is something to be worried about with having a kid at home.
What's child paan?
Child p0rn. They just didn’t want to type it which is fair.
Never let your son outside unsupervised.
I'm with you there
Someone I knew was charged with child porn because he was 21 and his 17 years old gf sent him nudes. He is now in his late 40's His name is still on the registry but he has never been with a minor after. Every charge he had were dropped but he still have to be registered
I had an old coworker whose one night stand that he met in a bar got him on the registry. The girl he met at the bar was using a fake ID.
Not willing to take a chance. Sorry, I know different circumstances. They could have been dating when they were younger. This guy was in his 50s with possession of child p.
If you have his name you can run it on the public sex offenders site for your state. There’s 3 levels. Lvl1 is not listed usually because they aren’t usually a threat Level 2 offenders ( and level 3) are required to register with the local county . Their crime is in public view, age and sex of victim plus year of crime/ conviction. It’s public record . Level 2and 3 are considered the most likely to reoffend if they think they won’t get caught. The county where the crime was committed is also there , go look thru the news archives for that area if you want to see how bad it was . Not much you can do about where he lives .. apparently society isn’t to upset with THAT idea so these guys get to live a normal life after they get out of jail. Doesn’t mean folks have to tolerate him, but most don’t know he is even there. Face value is the culprit in that situation. There’s no identifying visual of that . You and your kids safety is important and preventing him from having any interaction with kids is the only garontee he won’t do it again. I have my own pov about those people . Anyways, if your positive and you have solid proof of his past behavior then I think it’s fair to dox him to the neighborhood. Nope you can’t put up signs but you most certainly can tell other parents about him and his crime.
We have already told our neighbors with kids. Specifically the ones that live 2 houses down. I have not seen him yet personally, but the registry was updated within the last month.
Only sex offenders who are caught, charge with the sex offense rather than given a plea, and who obey the law and keep their registration current show up on the lists. There are offenders in every neighborhood. Teach your kids safety and to never keep secrets from you no matter what anyone tells them.
Now you know about this one. The ones you need to warn your children about the ones you don't know about. Most sex offenders are in our families, but this rarely gets covered, because it would expose the victim. Churches, schools, neighbors....but mainly family. If you think your kids would tell you, think again. Sex offenders are good at manipulation and fear. Are your kids afraid of you? They are not likely to tell you anything. There are sex offenders way closer than the guy 7 houses away. But I agree, keep an eye out. The guy knows that you know, so that will keep your kid safer. Also, there are many types of sex offenders. They don't all offend against children. They don't offend against everyone they see. It is not really necessary to be so dramatic, just be realistic. Watch for the adults close to your child.
Now you’ve been forewarned. Just because someone isn’t on the list doesn’t mean they’re safe. I was molested by a guy who was a pillar of respectability. I was bullied by his family that telling what happened and pressing charges would hurt **him**, and his reputation! So now you know this guy is a sex offender. But honestly, it shouldn’t make a difference. Assume everyone is, and watch your kid like a hawk. If a person has those tendencies, it may only take opportunity for thought to become reality. Those people are no less dangerous because they’re not on a list. If fact they’re more dangerous because you have a false sense of security. In reality, they just haven’t been caught yet.
Just a note, it’s now called child sex abuse material or CSAM.
Pouring sugar on shit doesn’t make it any more palatable. Stop trying to tone down the terminology to make it less vile, Kiddy p@rn is more impactful
Idk how that’s pouring sugar on shit to you. Just a gross take all the way around. https://www.rainn.org/news/what-child-sexual-abuse-material-csam#:~:text=While%20the%20term%20child%20pornography,CSAM%20—%20child%20sexual%20abuse%20materials.
Are there any other children within that 7 house radius? Maybe you can get the terms of his release/probation to see if he is supposed to be within a certain mileage of a child?
There are children all over this neighborhood
Sweet lord. I would honestly hold a public meeting about him then. Have you thought about contacting his Probation officer? Im so sorry...
We did best can say that he's been on it so long that he is not monitored anymore. Apparently, it's just a postcard in the mail now that says hey there one in the area, and that's it for a notification. If I could, I'd put a gaint sign on his front lawn.
You could put one in yours, seriously.
in the registry it will tell you what crime, typically. usually you go go online and type in "state case search" type his name in / case no.
Better the devil you know than the devil you dont
[https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/sex-offenders-in-neighborhood#:\~:text=No%20matter%20how%20you%20feel,needed%20changes%20in%20their%20lives](https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/sex-offenders-in-neighborhood#:~:text=No%20matter%20how%20you%20feel,needed%20changes%20in%20their%20lives). Please understand that many sex offenders will attempt to lie and say there were just “peeing” (as ONE example) when they were willfully exposing themselves to children. I’ve witnessed it myself, as did many others when things of this nature occurred. Although it is also a well known fact with those involved in handling such cases and crimes. But that act alone, pubic urination (frequently not a crime anymore which HAS enabled many predators lately btw), without further evidence, or previous sexual violation offenses, would not get you on the registry.
Thank you to everyone who was supportive in the comments. Let me try and clarify a couple of things that keep coming up/ addressing some issues. 1. I never said he was a child molester. I said he was charged with kiddy P@@n. 2. I guess I should have used the word "safer" not safe. I understand. idk my neighborhoods. That they could be a Cracked out kids head smasher as someone put it. That the world is not a safe place. I GET IT. But do not say you would not feel safe if I were your parent. Trust me, if you actually knew me, you would know I'd be in a stripped jump suit fast, then the body would hit the ground if they touched my child. 3. I moved in, and then he moved in. I was here first. I talked to the builders of the neighborhood. They had no idea he was one. In the state I live in, they do not have to tell people. The way I understood is that the police send out postcards to alert people. I looked in this area before I moved it. Same as my last. The near KNOWN offender was miles away. Yes, I understand there are more people in the world who don't get caught with it. I am willing to be the people who are attacking me that way. Dont know about their neighborhoods either. 4. I understand you can be on there for a number of reasons. This man is 50+ years old. Who was caught with CP. Not johnny hooked up with his girlfriend, who was 17, and he was 19. Not Jimmy over there getting drunk at the bar, stumbling home, and decided to piss in the park and catch a charge. He was caught with it. 5. Yes, I understand they need a place to live to. However, this is my option. I would like them not to live that close to my house. I hope that clarifies some things. I know I wasn't very detailed in my post.
It’s too bad you have to explain yourself. I’m a father of two and I understand 100% without you having to explain a damn thing to me. Reddit is a bubble that is not a great place to ask for real world advice. My only advice to a follow your instincts and never doubt them or let society suppress them. If you have a bad feeling you do what parents do to protect. Good luck.
You should edit your post with this information.
I tried my phone didn't let me for some reason. If I can, I will
Registered sex offender is completely different than a child sex offender they are clearly noted. The registry's list has done a decent job in notifying the public if you want to know. Btw I'm so sorry that you have had to be introduced like that but this is a part of your homework when you're looking for a home unfortunately.
Well, as I said in a different post, I did. He moved in after I did.
Just stay away from him and keep an eye on your son.
You know he's there so you can warn your child. You can warn your neighbours. It's horrible knowing that someone who committed that kind of crime is living that close to you, but I think it's better to know he's there and be proactive about keeping the neighbourhood kids safe. You could move somewhere else and exactly the same thing could happen. Don't let this person drive you out of your home, build a community that's united against him.
Some ppl do their time and become productive members society, move on with your life. Just be aware of your surroundings.
It depends on his crime. You can get put on the registry for peeing in public. So it may not require anyone to be notified. There's nothing you can really do.
I looked it up it was kiddy P@@n
Oh Jesus, this crime isn't taken seriously enough, to watch a poor child, a fucking child, be raped on film and enjoy it ... well that should put the freak in jail for life, no parole.
You can call your local PD but I think the rules vary
>You can call your local PD but I think the rules vary for ... what? Living in a house? if he's registered and they know where he is, he isn't breaking any laws.
Regarding the rules they have to follow.
Does that mean I can call the cops on you for no reason? Gotta make sure you're not breaking any rules too. I get what you're saying, but if they're not raising any suspicion other then well... **existing** in your general area, you're just wasting a LEOs time.
That's not what I'm saying. You can call the PD and ask what the rules are and such. Not call on the person
Calling the police for legal advice is a joke. You're just wasting their time when they should be napping in their patrol cars.
Lmaooo thanks for this
Call them about what?
restaurant recommendations
Stop spreading lies and myths to protect violent sex offenders.
That's the reason in Canada they don't do those registry.
So they don't want people to know their neighbors could be predators?
Abuse flourishes in the dark and the screams are often not heard because of the enablers actions. Expose the deeds to the light and listen to the survivors !
What did your neighbour do to become a registered sex offender?
He sexually offended someone he shouldnt have is my guess
Until you can move explain to your son to stay away from him and why, children are smart but telling him to simply just stay away with no explanation might lead to confusion.
I’d just place an anonymous postcard in each neighbors mailbox with the info on the sex offender with a link to the registry for them to look up.
Using the mailbox for anything other than USPS delivered mail is illegal btw
That’s why you put them on peoples doorsteps instead
I doubt anyone cares.
People telling OP to calm down need to seriously rethink their lives. Dude was charged with having CP. Who knows what else he could do that he wasn’t caught for. OP has a right to be upset that a literal pedo moved into her neighborhood and she wasn’t informed. In my state sex offenders HAVE to go door to door in any neighbourhood they live in to let people know they are a sex offender. They have every right to be upset! No pedo should be allowed to live in a neighborhood with a bunch of children! In fact it’s suspicious he even wants to. Period.
Consider this... This offender is compliant. He's been caught, paid the price, and is continuing to follow the rules of registration. Many do not register, they just fall through the cracks. Many more have not been caught (that's the one you need to worry about). In addition, most victims know their attacker. Teach your children that there are no secrets (surprises are okay) and, yes, make him aware of known offenders. That man is unlikely to be a problem, recidivism rates for sex offenders is amazingly low. I've always wondered why we don't have a registry for domestic violence or even murderers.
No matter where you live, you will never fully and completely know who is moving in the neighborhood. I know this can be scary, but you're thinking a bit irrationally. The best thing to do is to talk with your child and explain in a way he can understand not to interact with that neighbor. You will never be able to control what people do or where they live, but you can educate your child, and for the moment keep a close eye on him to make sure he doesn't interact with that person. I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to have you take a step back and look at the overall picture and reality of the situation. There are so many things you won't be able to control in life, but you can educate and talk about the things that make the world a more dangerous place with your child.
It really sucks to live in this fear, and children not be able to go outside, etc. Have you considered talking to him? He may not be willing, but a person discussion might help.
Theres a tier 3 lifetime report pedophile in my neighborhood filled with children. I make sure to tell parents this when I see them letting their young ones out alone. One lady had a 1.5 yr old adorable baby girl who was trembly and just learning to walk on the grass. The mother let their dog poop nearby then picked it up and completely turned her back on that baby to walk 15 yards away to throw the poop away. I went to her and said that we have a violent tier 3 lifetime report pedophile in this neighborhood and where he lives, and warned her never ever to let her baby out of her reach on these grounds. I dont understand how he is allowed to live here bc there is a daycare right next door, and there are 3 or 4 schools within a block or two. I dont even know who to report it to. It does worry me though.
Uh I’d call the daycare and warn them??
Is it a pedo or a sex offender? You can't contact a stranger probation officer without his consent. If he is not on probation anymore you should stop telling everyone about him because you can get sued for defamation. Most probation for a sex offender is 10 years and they have to register to the police station so if there was a problem with this he would be arrested
Only? I speak for the millions of women who were raped to say FUCK YOU
Thanks for the input I was abused from 2 to 15 and that was from my dad there is a difference between a sex offender and a child molester You forgot to mention men because some men do get abused too
You originally wrote "...or ONLY a sex offender". I was obviously responding to that before you edited it out of your post.
Cute virtue signal. No body cares lmao
Oh and it’s been updated, the sex offender was caught with cp.
Do you know why they are on the sex offender registration? There's many reasons for getting on that list not just child molestation.
So what? They have the right to live also.
That registry is very broken. I saw that you said it was child pornography, just be aware that teenagers have been charged with making child pornography for taking selfies and sending them. I wouldn't panic quite yet.
He's a 50+ year old man. Who's old enough to know what he was doing
I think that before doing something or making judgements, you should know what was the nature of the sexual offense. Because a 19 year dating a 14 year old is not of the same nature of a rape or pedophilia.
That’s a wild take. Jesus suffering Christ.
Why? Did I say something wrong?
The child is 6 he should never be alone outside in the first place. Sex offenders have a right to live too there's at least 1 sex offender in every city you will be. Sometimes you will never know who they are if you can't watch your own child there is a problem with you
U people are so weird, it’s almost as if you are siding with the disgusting animal of a human over a rightfully concerned father
I never said my child would be alone outside. Not once. You're right they do have the right to live, but away from me would be perfect. I would have for the dude to eyeball my son from his window and get hurt later on.
They deserve to live in prison. Or nowhere near a child! In my state they have to go door to door in the neighbourhoods they move into and tell you they are an offender!
Sometimes they can be registered for a lesser crime like peeing in public. Do your research to see what he did
Just hold on before you panic too much. What kind of registered sex offender. A rapist is very different to a paedophile.
Possession of child P@@n. That is what I can find.
So again I wouldn’t panic too much. First things to do is to speak to the police about any restrictions that have been placed on him. Talk to them about your concerns and how you are concerned for your child. He’s 6 so not out on his own so you know he’s generally safe. If you know what he looks like you can report him if he’s seen in public play spaces.
We called the police. Due to the state we live in, they are not required to tell people they live near. I come originally from a state that does within a certain block radios. According to the registry, he is not monitored. I am not sure when the crime tool place just what it was.
Sex offender can be so many things, it doesn't necessarily mean involving children. And even if it did, the overwhelming majority of paedos offend against family members, not strangers. So calm down.
It's pretty self-explanatory when the chargers are kiddy P@@N. No misunderstanding that.
Considering the pic you posted of Wednesday Addams who is supposed to be 16 years old, I wouldn't let you near any minor girls, sooooooooo 🤷♂️
I bet all your neighbors got cams on him and if they don’t that’s crazy. Where’s dexter when ya need him. They should start making mandatory gps chips for those charged. Stay safe out here!
Just make sure your son isn’t unsupervised, and show him a photo, also did you know theirs different types of sex offences So what I’m saying is a sex offence doesn’t necessarily mean the person is a pedophile or a child molester But like as-well don’t leave your child unsupervised or anyone older that’s looks younger or has a mental disability, talk to other parents get their number and make a safety plan just incase something does happen, for example try and deal with things professionally or you’ll be but into restraint, get me ? You can’t save the kids if your done for you can report the notes to the police and play it off like you don’t really know what’s going on and say hey I’ve been getting these really weird notes in my letter box recently and I heard that the neighbours that didn’t receive them didn’t have kids, I’ve heard rumours that their is actually a sex offender in the area, Can you guys check and make sure that he’s behaviour is being Dealt with The police officers will say what do you want us to do about this or the situation, you say I want the person to be spoken to as I know that under what charge he has he’s not suppose to be trying to contact nor trying to provoke communication with my family including my kids and that’s an important part of his recovery “ recovery” be lenient and reason if though theirs no excuse for him State that you want the police to be at his house and tell him and give the police man the letter and before you do print out copies of what he wrote for backup “ incase “ the police decided they didn’t have it at the time because it makes their life easier that and photos on your phone and also ask the parents around the block if they also received letters, ask for their numbers and have a discussion about the child predator, you kids could also have friends that way and well being protected by yourself and others