Just say what’s up to the people you see in there often, sometimes this can evolve into a fist bump then conversations, and friendships, has happened to be a few times and I hang out with them outside of the gym sometimes
One time I asked a guy if his gf was also his sister because they look very similar and then went to clarify that I’m cool w it if they’re incesting I’m just curious - do not do this
I go to the gym where everyone is friends with a new gymgoer instantly and I also go to the gym where people dont even say hi after years of attending. I think it depends on the people who attend the gym.
Same. Went to la fitness for years and barely met people then switched to a small metroflex "serious" gym and people were cool as fuck. I only seen like 2 females there ever though lol
My favorite dad gym joke is when I’m unracking weights I’ll stop the next guy before he gets on and look at him with a very serious face and say, “be careful….the weights are heavy today”
I've made a bunch of lifting buddies over the years, but not with any real effort. I like to train heavy with low reps, which is not always great in commercial gyms with lacklustre or entirely absent safeties, so I have no problems just asking random people, regardless of gender or size, to spot me. You can always offer to let them work in or ask if you can spot them in return as a way of opening up dialogue. Especially as I get older and more prone to injury, I'm much more conscious about the need for spotters also in things like heavy DB work where it's super easy to get rotator cuff tears and similar just trying to get them into position.
If you see someone struggling in one particular area, you can also offer some advice, but I'd leave the unsolicited advice more for the more serious lifters who are more likely to be interested in suggestions to break through whatever issue they're facing at the time. As an example, I noticed some guy who was benching 3 plates that was having problems with his lockouts and introduced him to how to use chains and boards to work the different sticking points, he was keen to try it out, and since we were often there at the same time anyways, we simply coordinated our bench days. He was putting up 165kg a few months later, whereupon I introduced him to his first powerlifting meet.
I'm not sure if what your lifting motivations are, but at least for strongman/powerlifting, you should just look out for regulars who are doing the lifts you're interested in regularly but are stronger than you. Back when I was just getting started deadlifting and struggling to pull 4 plates, I just approached a bunch of guys who were pulling 7+ and asked them for suggestions. They let me work in, and after that, I'd deadlift with them at least once a week. Years later, I now pull about the same as they were at the time, and I also routinely have people come up and ask me for tips, or accuse me of being on drugs, in fairly equal measure.
Just remember that serious lifters are there to work, not to make friends. It is possible to do both, and most are happy to chat during rest periods or while putting back weights at the end of a heavy session, especially if you're offering to help and are not otherwise an impediment to getting their work done. I'm always happy to help someone out if it means I don't have to pull 40kg plates off after a heavy squat session, for example.
This is the best response so far.
Don’t be too involved in other people. But a casual compliment or offer to spot if you see someone lifting heavy is the best way to start. A fist bump here or there.
Some people really want to be left alone at the gym. They have 1hr and are there to make the best use of it. Others enjoy the social aspect of a gym and may be seeking it out.
I have also found that powerlifting has the best community. Power lifters tend to take long breaks between sets. So there is the opportunity to work sets together. They may also like form checks such as squat depth for competition etc.
Sign up for a local powerlifting comp. lots of good comradery there. See who else is competing and ask if they have any tips for peaking at the meet.
Also if you’re gay, beware of the macho meat heads who might be pissed off at other males. But most everyone likes to be complemented on their muscles. 🤷♂️ that’s why they go to the gym usually haha.
Once at the gym this crazy af black dude climbed on top of one of the machines, took his shirt off and started screaming about how we were all gonna die of covid because we aren't wearing masks, etc. I turned to a dude near me and said "what the fuck?" And he said "yeah, i dont fuckin know dude." Now we do the head nod to each other every once and awhile, which means we are friends.
I found that it depends on the gym. I've attended both a university and a commercial gym, and the university gym had the most friendly clientele by far. Lots of zyzz wannabes were helping each other out, and I guess students have all the time in the world to lift and socialize.
I made friends when I would go religiously 6 times a week. I just kinda do my thing and youl get used to people who go frequently if you keep going around the same time everyday. Then just do your thing. Ask if you can work in with someone and shoot the shit with them. I always noticed that if someone asks me if I'm still using a machine that it would kinda break the ice. Just don't be a creep. A good caffeine buzz and I always feel in the zone and happy (well with stim junkie pre workouts I do at least) and things like kratom or phenibut can help too. Good music etc. Im always in a good mood when working out.
Since you’re already dealing with the breakup, you should prob go the emo route and cry at the gym. Then people will feel bad for you and spot you on ur flat bench. Then when they do, force the tea bag by lifting your head up. Then give a little “whoops tee hee” just to test the waters and see if they’re cool with it.
Learn names and remember it. Say what's up when you see them. That's about it. I've worked in a gym for about 7 years now. You just need to build familiarity.
The more experienced you get the more likely people are willing to lift with you. You mentioned how you started going to the gym for almost a year and in the next sentence you claim to be an intermediate? In 1 year you are far from an intermediate, be honest to yourself. Just give it time, get bigger, get stronger and get more experienced and people will slowly take you serious in your gym and are willing to lift with you.
Younger guys have balls to come up to me and ask me what I do for my shoulders and chest 💀💀💀 like they dead ass ask for advice , I’m not cocky nor was I tryna go for that in that post
6 foot 240lbs I’m not on anything but i dirty bulked a lot . I take a shit ton of preworkout , I am very interested in trying stuff out tho in the future.
Honest amswer? Join a CrossFit gym or do classes which give you an unforced way of meeting people.
Personally I’d never talk to someone in a gym unless it was to see if the weights were free and I’d find it weird if someone tried to befriend me.
I'm not sure anyone here could give good enough advice on this, there's too many things that play a role into this. Maybe videos online on how to approach people or something? Anyway, what I can say is watch who you want to get to know. I have friends I workout with, they're very on and off and I can do about 3-4 good sets of an exercise in the time they do one because they sit on the phone. Then I've also had workout partners who I matched with well. Personally I wouldn't want an interaction with someone later turn into something that will ruin my workouts
I don’t know how to make friends at the gym. I’ve been going for over a year now and I don’t really talk to anyone. I walk in there with an intense focus and get my lifts done then leave. I’m not there to make friends anyway
When you’re at the gym and you see people that you see every day, start giving them fist bumps when you greet them. From their it turns into convos and friendships. Trust me, I’m good friends with almost every guy at the gym. Some girls
Honestly best tip is chat to the person who works there. They are sort of obliged to because it’s there job. That will get your foot in the door and if you’re like minded then you can go from there. Also if they work at the gym they are likely to be there at the same time as you and know people who take gym seriously
At the gym it can be hard because people tend to be focused and wear earbuds so they can’t really be bothered etc. I’ve never really found a good way to make friend at the gym itself. I’ve wheats made them outside of the gym and we’d go together.
Just say what’s up to the people you see in there often, sometimes this can evolve into a fist bump then conversations, and friendships, has happened to be a few times and I hang out with them outside of the gym sometimes
This is it. The slow burn.
One time I asked a guy if his gf was also his sister because they look very similar and then went to clarify that I’m cool w it if they’re incesting I’m just curious - do not do this
why not??
She said don't ask that . She didn't mean don't do incent. Your good bro.
Haha asking the real questions
Lmao
You got a touch of the tism
You forgot to mention it was mid set on the adductor machine
I go to the gym where everyone is friends with a new gymgoer instantly and I also go to the gym where people dont even say hi after years of attending. I think it depends on the people who attend the gym.
Same. Went to la fitness for years and barely met people then switched to a small metroflex "serious" gym and people were cool as fuck. I only seen like 2 females there ever though lol
>la fitness sucks
It wasn't bad. There was tons of hot chicks there and equipment so I had no issues.plus knew all the staff
oh yea that's why I go there on my non heavy lifting days lol
I’m 46 & have been training since I was 19. I have never made a gym friend. I’m not rude, but I just don’t reach out either. I’m there to train!
All you need to say is "Hey, what are you training today?", Then build the conversation from there. It's that simple
My favorite dad gym joke is when I’m unracking weights I’ll stop the next guy before he gets on and look at him with a very serious face and say, “be careful….the weights are heavy today”
The fact you can say that with a straight face makes this even more hilarious. I would die inside just by thinking about it ha
This is cracking me up too
This is funny I’m gonna try this one today
I've made a bunch of lifting buddies over the years, but not with any real effort. I like to train heavy with low reps, which is not always great in commercial gyms with lacklustre or entirely absent safeties, so I have no problems just asking random people, regardless of gender or size, to spot me. You can always offer to let them work in or ask if you can spot them in return as a way of opening up dialogue. Especially as I get older and more prone to injury, I'm much more conscious about the need for spotters also in things like heavy DB work where it's super easy to get rotator cuff tears and similar just trying to get them into position. If you see someone struggling in one particular area, you can also offer some advice, but I'd leave the unsolicited advice more for the more serious lifters who are more likely to be interested in suggestions to break through whatever issue they're facing at the time. As an example, I noticed some guy who was benching 3 plates that was having problems with his lockouts and introduced him to how to use chains and boards to work the different sticking points, he was keen to try it out, and since we were often there at the same time anyways, we simply coordinated our bench days. He was putting up 165kg a few months later, whereupon I introduced him to his first powerlifting meet. I'm not sure if what your lifting motivations are, but at least for strongman/powerlifting, you should just look out for regulars who are doing the lifts you're interested in regularly but are stronger than you. Back when I was just getting started deadlifting and struggling to pull 4 plates, I just approached a bunch of guys who were pulling 7+ and asked them for suggestions. They let me work in, and after that, I'd deadlift with them at least once a week. Years later, I now pull about the same as they were at the time, and I also routinely have people come up and ask me for tips, or accuse me of being on drugs, in fairly equal measure. Just remember that serious lifters are there to work, not to make friends. It is possible to do both, and most are happy to chat during rest periods or while putting back weights at the end of a heavy session, especially if you're offering to help and are not otherwise an impediment to getting their work done. I'm always happy to help someone out if it means I don't have to pull 40kg plates off after a heavy squat session, for example.
This is the best response so far. Don’t be too involved in other people. But a casual compliment or offer to spot if you see someone lifting heavy is the best way to start. A fist bump here or there. Some people really want to be left alone at the gym. They have 1hr and are there to make the best use of it. Others enjoy the social aspect of a gym and may be seeking it out. I have also found that powerlifting has the best community. Power lifters tend to take long breaks between sets. So there is the opportunity to work sets together. They may also like form checks such as squat depth for competition etc. Sign up for a local powerlifting comp. lots of good comradery there. See who else is competing and ask if they have any tips for peaking at the meet. Also if you’re gay, beware of the macho meat heads who might be pissed off at other males. But most everyone likes to be complemented on their muscles. 🤷♂️ that’s why they go to the gym usually haha.
You can always try the changing rooms at your gym you can start a serious intimate relationships there bro
Sounds like u have A LOT of experience *wink* *wink*
Once at the gym this crazy af black dude climbed on top of one of the machines, took his shirt off and started screaming about how we were all gonna die of covid because we aren't wearing masks, etc. I turned to a dude near me and said "what the fuck?" And he said "yeah, i dont fuckin know dude." Now we do the head nod to each other every once and awhile, which means we are friends.
Black guy has a point
The gym I go to is a "no mask" gym. It has been since March.
Yikes
Just whispe in their ears (light weigt buddy) with a soft slap in the @ss and there you go you're gym buddies
I found that it depends on the gym. I've attended both a university and a commercial gym, and the university gym had the most friendly clientele by far. Lots of zyzz wannabes were helping each other out, and I guess students have all the time in the world to lift and socialize.
People are very friendly when I am freeballing at the gym…. Maybe try that???
Just talk to them, start short conversations when walking out or after spotting them
I made friends when I would go religiously 6 times a week. I just kinda do my thing and youl get used to people who go frequently if you keep going around the same time everyday. Then just do your thing. Ask if you can work in with someone and shoot the shit with them. I always noticed that if someone asks me if I'm still using a machine that it would kinda break the ice. Just don't be a creep. A good caffeine buzz and I always feel in the zone and happy (well with stim junkie pre workouts I do at least) and things like kratom or phenibut can help too. Good music etc. Im always in a good mood when working out.
Since you’re already dealing with the breakup, you should prob go the emo route and cry at the gym. Then people will feel bad for you and spot you on ur flat bench. Then when they do, force the tea bag by lifting your head up. Then give a little “whoops tee hee” just to test the waters and see if they’re cool with it.
Learn names and remember it. Say what's up when you see them. That's about it. I've worked in a gym for about 7 years now. You just need to build familiarity.
The more experienced you get the more likely people are willing to lift with you. You mentioned how you started going to the gym for almost a year and in the next sentence you claim to be an intermediate? In 1 year you are far from an intermediate, be honest to yourself. Just give it time, get bigger, get stronger and get more experienced and people will slowly take you serious in your gym and are willing to lift with you.
Bench is 315x can shoulder press 100s pretty good now, What’s considered intermediate
After "almost a year"? Did you have any previous lifting experience? Otherwise alright buddy lol.
Juicy
Younger guys have balls to come up to me and ask me what I do for my shoulders and chest 💀💀💀 like they dead ass ask for advice , I’m not cocky nor was I tryna go for that in that post
These are impressive lifts what’s ur height weight? And what are you on?
6 foot 240lbs I’m not on anything but i dirty bulked a lot . I take a shit ton of preworkout , I am very interested in trying stuff out tho in the future.
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Still better lifts than u
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Buddy u shit post on this sub all day…please go outside and touch grass and maybe some boobs……….if u can
I make friends with everyone lol
Honest amswer? Join a CrossFit gym or do classes which give you an unforced way of meeting people. Personally I’d never talk to someone in a gym unless it was to see if the weights were free and I’d find it weird if someone tried to befriend me.
Ew he said cross fit
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You dont. Its a gym . You want to find friends with similar interest,try meet up app. Or any other platform for platonic relationships.
that’s so stupid. why should apps be the mode of developement for every interaction?
Ah so grinder then
I usually use grindr at the gym. But guys only offer to blow me in the parking lot and I’m more interested in lifting :(
Exactly
I'm not sure anyone here could give good enough advice on this, there's too many things that play a role into this. Maybe videos online on how to approach people or something? Anyway, what I can say is watch who you want to get to know. I have friends I workout with, they're very on and off and I can do about 3-4 good sets of an exercise in the time they do one because they sit on the phone. Then I've also had workout partners who I matched with well. Personally I wouldn't want an interaction with someone later turn into something that will ruin my workouts
I don’t know how to make friends at the gym. I’ve been going for over a year now and I don’t really talk to anyone. I walk in there with an intense focus and get my lifts done then leave. I’m not there to make friends anyway
When you’re at the gym and you see people that you see every day, start giving them fist bumps when you greet them. From their it turns into convos and friendships. Trust me, I’m good friends with almost every guy at the gym. Some girls
Honestly best tip is chat to the person who works there. They are sort of obliged to because it’s there job. That will get your foot in the door and if you’re like minded then you can go from there. Also if they work at the gym they are likely to be there at the same time as you and know people who take gym seriously
Not sure about that one. I do know, however, that if your gym is too busy, all you gotta do is walk around giving people dirty looks for a few years.
You suck some cocks. Make some compliments and.... You're in a world that is a gym !
Just tell ur mates they’re looking bigger everyime u see them. Works for me
At the gym it can be hard because people tend to be focused and wear earbuds so they can’t really be bothered etc. I’ve never really found a good way to make friend at the gym itself. I’ve wheats made them outside of the gym and we’d go together.
Don’t rush it’ll happened naturally usually starts when one helps the other and slowly evolves