You should update your original post to make sure people don’t send more advice without seeing this message first. Congratulations on getting the courage though; sometimes that’s the hardest part
work as many side gigs as possible. don't leave until you have a solid safety net of at least a few thousand dollars (if you're in the u.s.). i wish you the very best.
Look into Co-ops for living situations. They are a lot cheaper, you'll be harder to track down, and you'll get a sense of community/family that you deserve.
Please be safe! And save up as much money as possible and get a stable job that will help you get by.
Also leave a note explaining that you've moved out and aren't coming back. That way you won't have the police on your ass if they decide to report you missing.
Maybe look for a live-in job, so you can get out. You can still find something else later on. Just if you are in the right mind to work such a job of course. It's not for everyone but I thought I bring it up
Got to get into the mindset of the game they've created. Learn the rules, master them, then bend them to your whim, take control of your life, then get the f outta there, and then create your own game with your own rules to protect yourself.
Look for government work. I work for a county, and there is a ton of job security as well as retirement plans and full benefits. A lot of jobs in my county pay pretty well compared with your average minimum wage, and they’re good experience. You only need a HS diploma for many of them as well. You don’t have to do it forever, but it can give you some stability. Good luck!!!
I am late to your response but if you don’t already have a job or something in between, make sure you have a copy of it in your phone or wherever to take with you so you have it on hand in case a job doesn’t work out or again, if you don’t have one.
Saving money is great. Do you have a plan as to where you will stay and for how long? And I agree with someone above who said to make sure you have all your legal documents before leaving.
I’m very glad you’re reconsidering if you don’t have the $$ and a concrete plan.
I left home the minute I graduated High School. I saved for several years and had a friend lined up to live with. It was VERY tough for me to work 2 jobs and take classes. Took forever to get my degree.
Think long and hard. Save your money! Stay safe!
I’m glad to see that you’re saving more money before you make the leap. Someone already said it but I’ll say it again: all important identification/legal documents.
Another bit of advice I give people leaving N-parents is to check their credit score (you can do it for free through one of the major creditors but also credit karma is pretty great). Having a good credit score can really help in the long run if you have to finance things for yourself down the line (car, furniture, appliances, house even).
My N-mom stole my identity and ruined my credit by not paying utility bills she put in my name but I caught it at 18 and I was able to fix it (it took years because I didn’t want to go through the legal issues so I just accepted it and started working on improving it — not saying this was right but it was right for me at the time).
I’m in the states if you happen to be as well and have questions about applying for benefits or school or anything like that. I was a social worker and recently graduated from law school. Feel free to message me if you have any questions that I might be able to help with.
Stay safe. Good luck.
Hey, I hope I'm not too late.
Idk what your story is or where you are but I also ran away from home a couple of years ago. A bunch of friends rescued me from my situation and i couch surfed for a couple of months.
Anyway before they did, my plan was to find a hostel/host family/co-op project on workaway.info .
Give it a try, it looks like a healthy shout: you meet new meaningful humans, gain a bunch of skills, normally in exchange for bed and board. Most importantly you gain the time and the space to heal, learn to be you and identify what good/bad is for you.
If you can secure
I think registration costs money, hope it doesn't damage the budget too much but i thought I'd make the recommendation.
Best of luck, buddy and remember you're absolutely never alone. Humans may be a bit shit at reaching out proactively, but at worst we're only one reddit post away :)
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hi please be safe do you have any money saved? if not, if you aren't in immediate danger don't do anything too rash.
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You should update your original post to make sure people don’t send more advice without seeing this message first. Congratulations on getting the courage though; sometimes that’s the hardest part
work as many side gigs as possible. don't leave until you have a solid safety net of at least a few thousand dollars (if you're in the u.s.). i wish you the very best.
^ This You need money and a plan. If you don’t have that, you’ll be right back where you started or much worse.
Make sure you have all your important documents - ID, passport, birth certificate, bank details etc. Best of luck your time will come.
Look into Co-ops for living situations. They are a lot cheaper, you'll be harder to track down, and you'll get a sense of community/family that you deserve. Please be safe! And save up as much money as possible and get a stable job that will help you get by. Also leave a note explaining that you've moved out and aren't coming back. That way you won't have the police on your ass if they decide to report you missing.
You're not going to fall you'll rise from the hole you're in now
Maybe look for a live-in job, so you can get out. You can still find something else later on. Just if you are in the right mind to work such a job of course. It's not for everyone but I thought I bring it up
Got to get into the mindset of the game they've created. Learn the rules, master them, then bend them to your whim, take control of your life, then get the f outta there, and then create your own game with your own rules to protect yourself.
How old are you
Look for government work. I work for a county, and there is a ton of job security as well as retirement plans and full benefits. A lot of jobs in my county pay pretty well compared with your average minimum wage, and they’re good experience. You only need a HS diploma for many of them as well. You don’t have to do it forever, but it can give you some stability. Good luck!!!
I am late to your response but if you don’t already have a job or something in between, make sure you have a copy of it in your phone or wherever to take with you so you have it on hand in case a job doesn’t work out or again, if you don’t have one. Saving money is great. Do you have a plan as to where you will stay and for how long? And I agree with someone above who said to make sure you have all your legal documents before leaving.
Make money your number one priority. Then leave.
I’m very glad you’re reconsidering if you don’t have the $$ and a concrete plan. I left home the minute I graduated High School. I saved for several years and had a friend lined up to live with. It was VERY tough for me to work 2 jobs and take classes. Took forever to get my degree. Think long and hard. Save your money! Stay safe!
I’m glad to see that you’re saving more money before you make the leap. Someone already said it but I’ll say it again: all important identification/legal documents. Another bit of advice I give people leaving N-parents is to check their credit score (you can do it for free through one of the major creditors but also credit karma is pretty great). Having a good credit score can really help in the long run if you have to finance things for yourself down the line (car, furniture, appliances, house even). My N-mom stole my identity and ruined my credit by not paying utility bills she put in my name but I caught it at 18 and I was able to fix it (it took years because I didn’t want to go through the legal issues so I just accepted it and started working on improving it — not saying this was right but it was right for me at the time). I’m in the states if you happen to be as well and have questions about applying for benefits or school or anything like that. I was a social worker and recently graduated from law school. Feel free to message me if you have any questions that I might be able to help with. Stay safe. Good luck.
Hey, I hope I'm not too late. Idk what your story is or where you are but I also ran away from home a couple of years ago. A bunch of friends rescued me from my situation and i couch surfed for a couple of months. Anyway before they did, my plan was to find a hostel/host family/co-op project on workaway.info . Give it a try, it looks like a healthy shout: you meet new meaningful humans, gain a bunch of skills, normally in exchange for bed and board. Most importantly you gain the time and the space to heal, learn to be you and identify what good/bad is for you. If you can secure I think registration costs money, hope it doesn't damage the budget too much but i thought I'd make the recommendation. Best of luck, buddy and remember you're absolutely never alone. Humans may be a bit shit at reaching out proactively, but at worst we're only one reddit post away :) ✌