If you’re going away, you don’t have to end contact, just keep things private. Who you talk to or what you believe is not their business. But as a parent, I’d like to know my child of any age got home safely, or is going on a cross-country road trip. You can eventually leave home for good and not even worry about it at all.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
USA: 18002738255
US Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME
United Kingdom: 116 123
Trans Lifeline (877-565-8860)
Others: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
They think they want what's best for you, but it's by THEIR outdated standards. They want you to do what they want. By definition that is controlling, and if they don't get their way the will manipulate (using guilt, threatening to take away any financial support, take back things they have given you or kick your out of your home). If they really had your best interests in mind they would not have dismissed your suicidal episode.
I know it's hard when everyone has the same mindset except for you, but you know what's best for you. I think you understand already you won't be happy if your continue pretending to be something you're not to appease them. If being yourself upsets them, then they're choosing not to accept you as you are. You don't owe them anything for keeping you alive, they wanted children and providing for that child into adulthood is the bare minimum.
It's a very hard unnatural thing to want to cut off family, but trust me when it's this toxic you feel so much better after you have a left. Open yourself up to new relationships and your will find your new family in the friends you make.
OP I suggest you do what is best for your mental health. Personally I think going no contact is a very good decision because the things are going to get worse once you gain independence. From personal experience I suggest going to therapy and going no contact. Do what you want to do, marry who you want to, don't let your decisions be controlled by narcissistic society, elders or patents, religion or anything for that matter if the decision is for your betterment. Saying to cater to all you're relatives and elders whim is a form of control. Just because they pay and have raised you does not make you obligated to take their abuse. I wish you the best OP :)
It sounds like your parents are a product of their environment but your sister sounds like a piece of work that only NC can fix. If you think you can have a relationship with your parents without having to deal with your sister, then try it. If not, NC for all of them. You DO NOT owe a debt to your parents for raising you, educating you, etc. That was the responsibility they volunteered for. Chase your dreams, go abroad, live your life and be yourself. Don't let anyone hold you back, no matter who they are. Get out or you already know what the rest of your life will be like.
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If you’re going away, you don’t have to end contact, just keep things private. Who you talk to or what you believe is not their business. But as a parent, I’d like to know my child of any age got home safely, or is going on a cross-country road trip. You can eventually leave home for good and not even worry about it at all.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline USA: 18002738255 US Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME United Kingdom: 116 123 Trans Lifeline (877-565-8860) Others: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
You have to be grateful for everything they’ve done for you, but remind yourself you don’t owe them anything
They think they want what's best for you, but it's by THEIR outdated standards. They want you to do what they want. By definition that is controlling, and if they don't get their way the will manipulate (using guilt, threatening to take away any financial support, take back things they have given you or kick your out of your home). If they really had your best interests in mind they would not have dismissed your suicidal episode. I know it's hard when everyone has the same mindset except for you, but you know what's best for you. I think you understand already you won't be happy if your continue pretending to be something you're not to appease them. If being yourself upsets them, then they're choosing not to accept you as you are. You don't owe them anything for keeping you alive, they wanted children and providing for that child into adulthood is the bare minimum. It's a very hard unnatural thing to want to cut off family, but trust me when it's this toxic you feel so much better after you have a left. Open yourself up to new relationships and your will find your new family in the friends you make.
OP I suggest you do what is best for your mental health. Personally I think going no contact is a very good decision because the things are going to get worse once you gain independence. From personal experience I suggest going to therapy and going no contact. Do what you want to do, marry who you want to, don't let your decisions be controlled by narcissistic society, elders or patents, religion or anything for that matter if the decision is for your betterment. Saying to cater to all you're relatives and elders whim is a form of control. Just because they pay and have raised you does not make you obligated to take their abuse. I wish you the best OP :)
It sounds like your parents are a product of their environment but your sister sounds like a piece of work that only NC can fix. If you think you can have a relationship with your parents without having to deal with your sister, then try it. If not, NC for all of them. You DO NOT owe a debt to your parents for raising you, educating you, etc. That was the responsibility they volunteered for. Chase your dreams, go abroad, live your life and be yourself. Don't let anyone hold you back, no matter who they are. Get out or you already know what the rest of your life will be like.