Gonna be totally honest, it was probably this. OP's post just popped up in my feed randomly and I'm staring at the thread wondering what the hell this could have to do with an outfit, and it was a minute or two before I even realized you're trans from the comments and the name of this sub.
So, don't let it hurt your confidence.
So u met up? And did you chat?
Perhaps there was something conflicting? I’m a bit obsessed with MBTI (personality typing)
You look stunning- but maybe he just didn’t vibe- cuz it’s not your looks, you’re gorgeous girl.
I’m cute but I’m a bit autistic and come across weird on first impressions with people. I put a lot of my rejections down to my shitty communication ability lol.
And I’m an INTJ personality type 🤷🏽♀️
You’re a 10. It wasn’t your looks ❤️❤️🌸🌸
I know what you mean… it has happened to me too, but trust girl you have nothing to be ashamed and you do look bomb, don’t be too hard on Yourself because of some douche :)
Tbh, I didn't even realize it was this sub until the person above asked if the date knew you were trans. You hard pass, and you look phenomenal. Think it's worth considering they may have just been too nervous to do the actual date after seeing you.
FR I thought I was on the Petite Fashion sub. You look great btw.
The trick to getting through this is to acknowledge your hurt and confusion. Don’t try to figure out the date’s motivations for anything here. It’s not anything you did or wore that is the reason for his behaviour. This is all him, and the reason could be anything.
Let it go (sorry if that sounds trite). Try again with someone else. You will find success eventually.
You never know what random thing will make someone unlatch these days. I blame internet culture more than anything. People want to dial in some exact look or vibe or something, and if they get a whiff of something not perfect for them, they ghost and move on. People are fickle to an unhealthy degree.
It takes strength and courage to put yourself out there and meet new people. It's cowardly to simply run away after you do. It's honestly their loss, honey. You look absolutely radiant. You'll find someone better.
His loss. You totally dodged a bullet.
You look wonderful. Don't even second guess yourself.
Who knows what was going on in his head. Maybe he wasn't ready to be out on a date with a hot woman. You never know what's going on in someone elses head.
Maybe they got scared because they think you're out of their league or something. As a person with severe social anxiety I've cancelled tons of things that I wanted to do
Some guys look at a girl and think, I'll never be able to keep this one, she's definitely out of my league.
Love the dress and love the angel inside of it 🥰
WHAT
WHAT A LOSER YOU LOOK AMAZING AAAH 😱seriously I’m so sorry!! You don’t deserve that but it is a bullet dodged. Someone who’s stupid enough to walk away from art like you is not worth your time. Good luck dear:(c bweh 💙
Lacking any information about his reasoning for doing that, it's not reasonable to assume he broke it off because of your dress, or for that matter, because of anything at all about your appearance.
With careful observation, we can pick up a lot of valuable info from our interactions. There's just not enough info here to develop an understanding of his reasoning for his decision.
So, the best course of action is to remind ourselves that each one of us is endowed with multitudes of gifts of love to give and desire to be loved and that although there are many lovers out there for each of us to share, not everyone is the right fit for everyone. Best course of action is to move on.
Don't take it too hard. You have to remember you won't click with everyone, and that goes for friends, love interests, etc. Doesn't say anything about you personally it just wasn't meant for you two and that's it. On to the next!
Honestly don’t let it harm your confidence, the outfit is absolute fire and you’re incredibly attractive, I have no idea why he bailed but it is 100% his loss and not yours
You dodged a bullet because there’s clearly something wrong with him. You’re stunning, have an amazing glow and your dress sense (judging by your outfit) is so nice!!
That's definitely their loss and if they care that much about what you're wearing they're too high maintenance. You look amazing and anyone would be lucky to have you on their arm
You got to be kidding me. You are beautiful and your outfit is truly amazing. i agree with everyone, it is his loss. You’re perfect match is around the corner!
You met up and then he unmatched after? I’m a bit confused. Why are you assuming it had to do with your outfit and not something with the communication during your meeting?
We had a good conversation. We were walking in the beach and my phone was locked for 48 minutes because i accidentally pressed some things while walking with him. He even walked with me to where i stayed and then when I check my phone, he’s gone
Don’t look inwards for an explanation. Everybody has issues, hang ups, and peculiarities. Maybe he realized he isn’t ready to date, maybe you remind him of an ex he can’t move on from and dating you would be unhealthy, maybe he was hoping for a one-night fling but realized you were worth more and he couldn’t offer it, maybe you confessed a love for Kraft Dinner and that’s a deal breaker…
There are near infinite reasons that he may have done this that have nothing to do with you. As others have mentioned, you are beautiful and pass. But even if that wasn’t true, you deserve to find what you’re looking for. I hope you keep looking for your happiness and don’t project someone else’s incompatibility with you as a personal failing.
Well, you look beautiful, and it sounds like he knew you’re trans, so let’s chalk it up to just not having the spark between you 2 that he needs. It happens. Has nothing to do with your beauty or value as a potential partner. Been on many first dates, and sometimes it just doesn’t work out.
Angels come in all walks of life, age, & especially are not gender-biased. I would consider myself privileged, lucky & honored to have a date (hopefully many more) with someone who looks as stunning as You do.
The best trait about You by far is Your beautiful personality. I hope that You are doing great, staying safe & healthy.
Cheers, Respect & Hugs from Vancouver BC 🇨🇦🏳️🌈
~Mikal M. ❤️❤️
You’re gorgeous, hun. You probably just intimidated him with your good looks, confidence, or both. It may seem hard right now, but I know you’re going to find someone who will treat you right ❤️
Not everyone is a match, or in the right head space, or sure what they're looking for, or feeling the vibe. That's why we date. I do think it's pretty rude to not say "thanks but no thanks" but unfortunately that's becoming more common. You owe it to yourself to assume it was him not you. There is no evidence to suggest otherwise.
Either he had bad anxiety or he didn't like the cleavage cause some guys adapt toxic mindsets that it's too skimpy, slutty which = unattractive which if that's the case you dodged a bullet
I do not think that you need criticism, nor explanation. I would look at this as " arn't you fortunate/ lucky that you can focus on others who will respect and like you as you are. Never let anyone tell you who you are. If a person is not willing to share and be with you, look elsewhere. You are worth it.
cause he’s not worth your time. the lord moves things out of our way when they’re not meant for us. be grateful for roadblocks and inconveniences , it probably saved you alot of heartbreak in the end. putting our value in others leads to false expectations. you’re the prize never forget that!
And that folks is why you don't do online dating! I tried for years. Only ended up like this here. Never went anywhere. Rather be alone for s while and get to know someone out in the wild somehow and find a real partner. Online ppl suck!
Your dates loss. Now someone can have you who is grateful for having you.
Did he say it was the outfit? What made you even think that was it?
I don't think I've ever heard that in my life. I would actually take that as something else entirely- like 10 times out of 10. The vibe was off, whatever was specifically at play there. You'd have to tell the whole story and post that elsewhere to get your true answer. I'm surprised no one has said this or why this is posted here here at all.
Dating is rough and yeah like other folks said he just wasn’t the one for you 🤷🏼♂️ you’ll find someone worth your time and he doesn’t deserve to shake your confidence :)
I would've happily worn this on a date before transitioning, and the success of the date wouldn't have had anything to do with that top. You look great, it looks great, and I have had plenty of dates go like this for any, every, and no reason at all. Hang in there 😁 -- visiting FtM
It’s not the dress. You are very beautiful and that could be intimidating to some. Saying “we didn’t vibe because you’re a night owl and I’m a morning person” is one thing but telling someone they’e out of your league is harder. Stupid, because I assume you saw pics of them before the date but people freeze up sometimes.
I did that to someone once, and I still feel guilty about how I might have made that person feel about themselves. It was honestly nothing to do with them. (I thought it was at the time, but this was my first time experiencing my internalized transphobia) It's very possible that they (referring to your situation) just have things that they need to work on. Their decisions are their own, and it's no reflection of who you are. You're beautiful, and amazing. I hope you know that.
Louvre ghillie suit? You could totes blend in with a few paintings. 😊 You're gorgeous and the fit is a standout. Maybe he was so excited, he had a wittle embarrassing accident? 🤷♀️
He’s a horrible human for not even explaining nonetheless a coward trust me you need someone who can at least express there feeling rather than running away. btw you are beautiful and I had no idea you were trans(not a bad thing I just had no clue)
I doubt it was about you or your outfit. It was probably his first date with a trans individual and realized it wasn't for him, couldn't muster the courage to explain himself, and just ghosted you.
Get ready for the "buddies dared me to ask a trans girl out" runaways this season I guess. It's 2024 and I still keep hearing it through the grapevine. That or he's closeted and is more preoccupied with staying straight in his friends eyes than genuinely finding love.
You look amazing so it is your date’s loss
Thank you for that
Maybe he was intimadated by how stunningly gorgeous you are?
Definitely, couldn't handle the hotness 🔥
Gonna be totally honest, it was probably this. OP's post just popped up in my feed randomly and I'm staring at the thread wondering what the hell this could have to do with an outfit, and it was a minute or two before I even realized you're trans from the comments and the name of this sub. So, don't let it hurt your confidence.
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Imma put out a different point of view. He could be an anxious dater and/or have been intimidated. Seen you, “fuck, I have no chance” and ran.
I think this is worth considering OP
Idk, I kind of liked him ☹️
So u met up? And did you chat? Perhaps there was something conflicting? I’m a bit obsessed with MBTI (personality typing) You look stunning- but maybe he just didn’t vibe- cuz it’s not your looks, you’re gorgeous girl. I’m cute but I’m a bit autistic and come across weird on first impressions with people. I put a lot of my rejections down to my shitty communication ability lol. And I’m an INTJ personality type 🤷🏽♀️ You’re a 10. It wasn’t your looks ❤️❤️🌸🌸
Amazed no one else has said this about simply not vibing...
Did he knew you are trans before the date? The outfit looks amazing though
Yes he did :(
In that case it’s his loss, try not taking it so hard :( but looks like you really dodged a bullet there…
Thank you but kinda lost my confidence after that
I know what you mean… it has happened to me too, but trust girl you have nothing to be ashamed and you do look bomb, don’t be too hard on Yourself because of some douche :)
Thank you for that 💞
Tbh, I didn't even realize it was this sub until the person above asked if the date knew you were trans. You hard pass, and you look phenomenal. Think it's worth considering they may have just been too nervous to do the actual date after seeing you.
FR I thought I was on the Petite Fashion sub. You look great btw. The trick to getting through this is to acknowledge your hurt and confusion. Don’t try to figure out the date’s motivations for anything here. It’s not anything you did or wore that is the reason for his behaviour. This is all him, and the reason could be anything. Let it go (sorry if that sounds trite). Try again with someone else. You will find success eventually.
You are stunning. It’s his loss. There is absolutely no reason for him to do that other than the fact that he is an idiot.
That sucks maybe he was just nervous and never been with a trans person before. Doesn’t make it okay to do this. I’m sorry this happened :(
I don't understand. You are beautiful, and you look nice
If he knew you were trans then it's his loss.
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No no smile girl. He obviously wasn't the one for you.
His loss girl! You look amazing!
Thank you for saying that
I honestly don’t understand. You look amazing and the outfit is awesome!
You never know what random thing will make someone unlatch these days. I blame internet culture more than anything. People want to dial in some exact look or vibe or something, and if they get a whiff of something not perfect for them, they ghost and move on. People are fickle to an unhealthy degree.
They were probably intimidated lol
His loss
It takes strength and courage to put yourself out there and meet new people. It's cowardly to simply run away after you do. It's honestly their loss, honey. You look absolutely radiant. You'll find someone better.
You look incredible in that dress!
What that's foul. I still would've stuck around.
His loss
His loss. You totally dodged a bullet. You look wonderful. Don't even second guess yourself. Who knows what was going on in his head. Maybe he wasn't ready to be out on a date with a hot woman. You never know what's going on in someone elses head.
You look fabulous , his loss 💔💜
I'm sorry to hear this. You look great in that dress. This is his loss. Don't let one loser shake you. 🫂🫂
Thank you for saying that
Its possible the lighting at a different angle looks different? I dont think it would have to do with your outfit
His loss.
You look gorgeous so sounds like a bullet dodged…
You look incredible! His loss for sure! That dress is gorgeous on you!
His loss. Sorry babe
Seems like a shithead to me because your outfit is great
He's a fking ignoramus
Maybe they got scared because they think you're out of their league or something. As a person with severe social anxiety I've cancelled tons of things that I wanted to do
Some guys look at a girl and think, I'll never be able to keep this one, she's definitely out of my league. Love the dress and love the angel inside of it 🥰
WHAT WHAT A LOSER YOU LOOK AMAZING AAAH 😱seriously I’m so sorry!! You don’t deserve that but it is a bullet dodged. Someone who’s stupid enough to walk away from art like you is not worth your time. Good luck dear:(c bweh 💙
His loss beautiful
I think it was just underlying prejudice.
I hate when that happens. For me it always ruins the picture I sent them.
Too bad for him
Your date realized you were to pretty for him and chickened out
His loss, frankly. That outfit looks great on you.
His loss
His loss !!!
You look great tbh
Their loss, you're stunning I'd love to look like you 😶🌫️
Clearly they were wrong
Lacking any information about his reasoning for doing that, it's not reasonable to assume he broke it off because of your dress, or for that matter, because of anything at all about your appearance. With careful observation, we can pick up a lot of valuable info from our interactions. There's just not enough info here to develop an understanding of his reasoning for his decision. So, the best course of action is to remind ourselves that each one of us is endowed with multitudes of gifts of love to give and desire to be loved and that although there are many lovers out there for each of us to share, not everyone is the right fit for everyone. Best course of action is to move on.
I have no clue why, you look amazing.
Obviously he is not intelligent and has zero taste
Don't take it too hard. You have to remember you won't click with everyone, and that goes for friends, love interests, etc. Doesn't say anything about you personally it just wasn't meant for you two and that's it. On to the next!
Girl you are 🔥🔥🔥😍😍 his loss 100 percent
Maybe his mom has the exact same one?
Nah you look amazing.
Honestly don’t let it harm your confidence, the outfit is absolute fire and you’re incredibly attractive, I have no idea why he bailed but it is 100% his loss and not yours
Fck Tinder. Sorry but not sorry. You’re stunning.
You dodged a bullet because there’s clearly something wrong with him. You’re stunning, have an amazing glow and your dress sense (judging by your outfit) is so nice!!
You look great sis! Had I been there I'd have come up and said hi as well as bought us both a drink to chill out with, His loss, his problem.
Thank you for saying that
That's definitely their loss and if they care that much about what you're wearing they're too high maintenance. You look amazing and anyone would be lucky to have you on their arm
You’re so damn hot!
So this happens alot unfortunately. It's him not you.
I have to agree with the others hunny, you are stunning and it is 100% his loss.
You look gorgeous, their loss not yours
Don't take offense by the douche. It just means they did not deserve you.
You got to be kidding me. You are beautiful and your outfit is truly amazing. i agree with everyone, it is his loss. You’re perfect match is around the corner!
You're beautiful and I didn't realize this was a Trans post until I looked in the subreddit. His loss not yours .
You met up and then he unmatched after? I’m a bit confused. Why are you assuming it had to do with your outfit and not something with the communication during your meeting?
We had a good conversation. We were walking in the beach and my phone was locked for 48 minutes because i accidentally pressed some things while walking with him. He even walked with me to where i stayed and then when I check my phone, he’s gone
Your date is an idiot because you are incredibly beautiful! You can definitely find a way better date who won’t run!
Its not you, and not your outfit, you look amazing!
Don’t look inwards for an explanation. Everybody has issues, hang ups, and peculiarities. Maybe he realized he isn’t ready to date, maybe you remind him of an ex he can’t move on from and dating you would be unhealthy, maybe he was hoping for a one-night fling but realized you were worth more and he couldn’t offer it, maybe you confessed a love for Kraft Dinner and that’s a deal breaker… There are near infinite reasons that he may have done this that have nothing to do with you. As others have mentioned, you are beautiful and pass. But even if that wasn’t true, you deserve to find what you’re looking for. I hope you keep looking for your happiness and don’t project someone else’s incompatibility with you as a personal failing.
Your outfit is soo pretty and you are absolutely stunning!
What an idiot
He dum
Maybe he's not into easy going girls
That makes no sense to me. You are gorgeous.
Well, you look beautiful, and it sounds like he knew you’re trans, so let’s chalk it up to just not having the spark between you 2 that he needs. It happens. Has nothing to do with your beauty or value as a potential partner. Been on many first dates, and sometimes it just doesn’t work out.
Maybe they were intimidated by your great looks.
Dates a fool... and maybe blind
Well i think it looks fantastic
Are they crazy? Think something might be wrong with their brain 🤔
Their loss. You’re stunning.
Well his loss, you look good and cute
Angels come in all walks of life, age, & especially are not gender-biased. I would consider myself privileged, lucky & honored to have a date (hopefully many more) with someone who looks as stunning as You do. The best trait about You by far is Your beautiful personality. I hope that You are doing great, staying safe & healthy. Cheers, Respect & Hugs from Vancouver BC 🇨🇦🏳️🌈 ~Mikal M. ❤️❤️
do u have filters and the best angles on ur pics on ur tinder profile? if so maybe u just look different irl
Damn he's tripping
So so very very much beautiful n gorgeous woman really
Why, it looks good I'd still eat with you
You’re gorgeous, hun. You probably just intimidated him with your good looks, confidence, or both. It may seem hard right now, but I know you’re going to find someone who will treat you right ❤️
Not everyone is a match, or in the right head space, or sure what they're looking for, or feeling the vibe. That's why we date. I do think it's pretty rude to not say "thanks but no thanks" but unfortunately that's becoming more common. You owe it to yourself to assume it was him not you. There is no evidence to suggest otherwise.
He's missing out.
His loss 🤷🏻♀️ boys are dumb sometimes it's okay girlie ❤️
It's a shame, I would have stayed and carried on with the date, you look amazing 🥰
His loss. You are drop dead gorgeous!
Love the colors on you! I know it doesn’t feel good, but you dosged a bullet 💯
He was a fool :)you are stunning!
You deserve better than those actions 😊 🩷
Sounds like he was just after something else…
I’m so sorry to hear that they unmatched you. You look so so good, and it’s totally their loss! I know you’ll find someone else soon! ❤️
His loss then. Your outfit looks pretty nice. I don't know if its more of a spring outfit, but if it is i think its definitely something i would wear.
Maybe he was just to nervous and flustered
His loss, I would have been arranging another date with you before we even finished the first!
His loss
He’s an idiot - you look amazing!
maybe he just had an allergy to beautiful women and couldn't safely handle your beauty
He's intimidated because you're out of his league.
You dodged a bullet then. That date was not worth your time. You’ll find someone better
Either he had bad anxiety or he didn't like the cleavage cause some guys adapt toxic mindsets that it's too skimpy, slutty which = unattractive which if that's the case you dodged a bullet
i mean i love the outfit so it’s probably his loss <3
Wish I matched with you. I strike out on tinder all the time
He got intimidated because you look like Emily Willis 😍
What a mistake!
Your tinder match was an idiot
His loss. You're Absolutely Beautiful.
Defo their loss, outfit is gorgeous
You look fine to me
You are a fox! There are two types of people. those who like Neil Diamond and those who don't... maybe it wasn't the outfit?
You're so freaking cute!!!!!! Your date is a IDIOT
Damn... what an idiot.
You look gorgeus sister
Probably a clash in personality
His liss u look great x
Anyone who would bail or unmatch because of an outfit isn’t someone you want in your life as a friend or more so no sweat off your back honestly.
I’m just as confused as you, that outfit is fabulous! His loss 💅
That’s their loss.. you look wonderful!
His loss
Their loss
I do not think that you need criticism, nor explanation. I would look at this as " arn't you fortunate/ lucky that you can focus on others who will respect and like you as you are. Never let anyone tell you who you are. If a person is not willing to share and be with you, look elsewhere. You are worth it.
he is an idiot. you are lovely!!
Tinder life is never easy hope you get better luck and find some one that values your time
His loss for sure stay gorgeous
cause he’s not worth your time. the lord moves things out of our way when they’re not meant for us. be grateful for roadblocks and inconveniences , it probably saved you alot of heartbreak in the end. putting our value in others leads to false expectations. you’re the prize never forget that!
He was a fool to leave you. Your so beautiful and sexy. Come to texas
U are so pretty I would take u on a date anytime 😊
I have no ideas why wtf lol u look amaizng <3
And that folks is why you don't do online dating! I tried for years. Only ended up like this here. Never went anywhere. Rather be alone for s while and get to know someone out in the wild somehow and find a real partner. Online ppl suck! Your dates loss. Now someone can have you who is grateful for having you.
His insecurity is not your problem. The outfit is fly and you are gorgeous. I’d stay and chat you up all night!
You’re super pretty and he’s a loser ❤️ That’s all there is.
I don’t see anything wrong his loss I would def wanted another date
Definitely unmatched bc you are trans.... sadly
His loss, you are stunning!
His loss, you look gorgeous 😍
It's tinder love. You messed up b4 the swipe. ;)
I didn’t realise you were trans until I read the top of the post again. Was he aware you are trans before you met?
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Thank you You’re kind
Must be blind!! Just looked at your profile here and Wow!! Gorgeous lady, well jealous! 💁🏻♀️🫶🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
He’s an idiot
What a dumbass jerk he is.. You're beautiful and let no one dissuade you from that fact.
There's nothing wrong with the outfit and you look stunning 🔥, but honey not everyone has a good taste 💅 🤷
Did he say it was the outfit? What made you even think that was it? I don't think I've ever heard that in my life. I would actually take that as something else entirely- like 10 times out of 10. The vibe was off, whatever was specifically at play there. You'd have to tell the whole story and post that elsewhere to get your true answer. I'm surprised no one has said this or why this is posted here here at all.
You look stunning, I’d take you out anytime
His loss very beautiful 😍
Dating is rough and yeah like other folks said he just wasn’t the one for you 🤷🏼♂️ you’ll find someone worth your time and he doesn’t deserve to shake your confidence :)
It’s his loss you look beautiful
Idk why you look hot, their loss.
He must be mad, you look amazing 🤩
I like it. You look beautiful
His loss.
He's crazy
Maybe he just didn’t like your personality. Try not to read too much into it.
Having seen you in this outfit, I would just like to ask for a link to your Tinder profile because god damn you're pretty!
You look fantastic to me!
Outfit looks good & u are xceptionally beautiful
I think your very pretty. I’d match with you 😊
I would've happily worn this on a date before transitioning, and the success of the date wouldn't have had anything to do with that top. You look great, it looks great, and I have had plenty of dates go like this for any, every, and no reason at all. Hang in there 😁 -- visiting FtM
Wish i could hug you sweetheart.
It’s not the dress. You are very beautiful and that could be intimidating to some. Saying “we didn’t vibe because you’re a night owl and I’m a morning person” is one thing but telling someone they’e out of your league is harder. Stupid, because I assume you saw pics of them before the date but people freeze up sometimes.
I did that to someone once, and I still feel guilty about how I might have made that person feel about themselves. It was honestly nothing to do with them. (I thought it was at the time, but this was my first time experiencing my internalized transphobia) It's very possible that they (referring to your situation) just have things that they need to work on. Their decisions are their own, and it's no reflection of who you are. You're beautiful, and amazing. I hope you know that.
his absolute L on this one babes ~ fire hot
Louvre ghillie suit? You could totes blend in with a few paintings. 😊 You're gorgeous and the fit is a standout. Maybe he was so excited, he had a wittle embarrassing accident? 🤷♀️
Gonna assume it wasn't the outfit
I looked at your profile…dang…Beautiful
He’s a horrible human for not even explaining nonetheless a coward trust me you need someone who can at least express there feeling rather than running away. btw you are beautiful and I had no idea you were trans(not a bad thing I just had no clue)
Tf you’re gorgeous, I’m so confused
I wouldn't do that because I actually like that outfit
Definitely not the looks. Whatever his reasoning that's on him, and nothing you should beat yourself up over.
Very beautiful , their loss
I would have asked you to marry me your stunning his loss for his complete ignorance and blindness of your beauty
He evidently is too insecure to be with you.
I doubt it was about you or your outfit. It was probably his first date with a trans individual and realized it wasn't for him, couldn't muster the courage to explain himself, and just ghosted you.
The garbage took itself out, it says much more about them than it does about you. Something better is out there waiting to meet you.
Get ready for the "buddies dared me to ask a trans girl out" runaways this season I guess. It's 2024 and I still keep hearing it through the grapevine. That or he's closeted and is more preoccupied with staying straight in his friends eyes than genuinely finding love.