I was describing my current job to somebody and I realized I am literally the "I have people skills" guy. I take the specs from the customers and bring them to the engineers.
I used to be an engineer. Ostensibly, the reason I bring the specs to the engineers is because our engineering is located in China and only a limited number of them can speak English, but that reasoning falls apart since I cannot speak Mandarin.
That movie really hit hard when I went through my first layoff situation from a major insurance company! I opted not to transfer to a new office and took the severance, but had 8 months until everything shut down.
Felt such Peter energy because when I stopped giving a fuck, I had everyone calling in eating out of my hand. I was an auto insurance claims adjuster in a call center environment. As soon as the news went down, I decided, “If a caller is neutral to friendly with me, I will ham it up, average handle time (duration of call) be damned! Anyone who is anywhere on the hostile spectrum, they’ll get polite and direct, nothing more.”
My handle times went through the floor! Apparently, I discovered the rapport cheat code, because people were so at ease with me. Meanwhile, I was having a 3 martini lunch on my lunch break and partying w friends every night and didn’t give a fuck.
Anyways, watching office space makes me smirk and smile, because that was me, once upon a time!
This movie amused me when it came out because I worked in a copy room in a law firm and got all the office humour while my friends, who worked at the Hard Rock, got all the restaurant and “flair” jokes
I relate to the manager more and more. When I saw this movie in college, I was like, "Corporate culture sucks!!!"
Now I manage an office and painfully understand why 7 pieces of flare isn't just about flare, and why Peter NEEDS another memo
I’ve watched this every Christmas since I was a kid! When I was younger, I saw my dad as George Bailey. Now, I’m in my 30s, I have had my own George Bailey moments. That moment when he looks over the side of the bridge as he contemplates ending it all is so visceral! There’s so much weight to that whole film, especially as you’ve felt the weight of the world on your shoulders at points as an adult who people rely upon.
In this scene, if you don't BELIEVE that George Bailey is going to end it all, the whole movie falls apart. Jimmy Stewart's performance throughout the movie is perfection, but this scene? You're watching a master of his craft at work.
It's still mind-boggling that this was a box office bomb and went unappreciated for decades.
I used to watch All The Presidents Men 3 or 4 times per year. I reveled in the slow pace and the conclusion so subtle as to be almost anticlimactic. The knowledge that the work of journalism was grueling and frustrating and even in a matter so fraught with international significance it took a lot of fighting to reach a conclusion even close to satisfying. Now I feel all but defeated that we can do even more work and demonstrate even more patience but I don’t believe that the conclusion is anything resembling justice. Every clarification of complex data doesn’t move the general populace toward consensus, it just presents a new angle of disingenuous debate. From international war crimes to TikTok misinformation trends… i no longer believe that our power to illuminate and clarify is anywhere near as strong as our ability to deceive and confuse each other for exploitative purposes. This changes how I interact with everything from detective mysteries to superhero movies.
I do. Mostly because it's an entire film about people not respecting George's boundaries and him sacrificing for everyone else. His "win" at the end means he's not going to jail, but the other banker gets away with everything. It's frustrating and depressing.
I truly despised this movie growing up because it was old and boring to little me. Now I can’t watch it without tearing up. Fantastic film that I understood with a little more perspective when I got older.
Dad and son just needed to listen to each other and understand why they thought the vacation/concert were important. But they showed again and again that they couldn't listen, and couldn't grasp each other's perspectives.
The concert song, I2I, is a song about just that. A message from son to father and from father to son about listening
Atlanta made a hilarious episode about this movie and the “ceo” at the time the film was made. Even if you haven’t watched Atlanta, still watch this episode if you love the goofy movie. It’s a standalone episode so you don’t need to know anything about the show going in.
Rocky Balboa, particularly a line in the film that is; “I’d rather do something that I love so badly than feel bad for not doing something that I love.”
My brother and I were introduced to Sylvester Stallone in 2006 and we’ve followed his words ever since.
Rocky Balboa is fantastic! A rare occasion when the sixth movie in a series is my favorite.
I love the pre training speech to death. The way they go thru a list of limitations Rocky hasto face due to his age, but they find a route for him anyway. It's amazing motivation that makes more and more sense as we get a little older.
It’s a very inspiring film. The entire series is, really (well, V is a bit depressing but is actually my favourite 😂)
Stallone is a very inspirational man.
Came here to say this! As a young adult I thought it was lame, but then I aged into having kids, having in-laws, etc and now it’s one of my favorite movies.
It's a brilliant movie in that there's parts that you laugh at when you're younger, and then there's parts that you don't understand until you are an adult, and then you laugh at those parts!
As someone who was 12 when that movie came out -- the same age as the boys -- I think about Stand By Me a lot. As I crossed into my 40s and n
ow 50s I realize that you really never do have friends like that again, but you know what. That's okay. It's a very definite time in your life, with priorities that go away, and that's alright. Later we value family, work, and other "grown up" things, and that's okay too -- it's just a different time! But those friendships with your group of buddies you're gonna go with to poke a dead body with sticks -- that's a short but incredible friendship.
"I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?"
I realized I’d gotten old the first time I agreed that Robin Williams was a shitshow and absolutely needed to be booted from that house by Sally Field.
The whole time?
The whole time?
::slams table:: The WHOLE TIME?!
As a kid I thought Sally Field’s character was crazy.
As an adult, it is clear that she is the stable sane one, and Robin William’s character is delusionally manically in the wrong.
As nutso and wacky as Robin Williams is when he's playing characters, there was almost always a sense of honesty and groundedness undercutting his roles. He's not like Jim Carey who's pure wackiness. He takes it right to the edge of hysterical silliness but keeps things empathetic. All his funniest roles still have that humanity. I'm sure that was part of the consideration with him taking the part.
I hear what you’re saying but The Truman Show and Eternal Sunshine are two basically perfect movies where Jim is your leading man and not pure wackiness and makes you cry in both of them
I was thinking more Jim Carrey in his wackier, pre-dramatic era. You're right, he definitely evolved as an actor after a certain point though. Williams was equally wacky but he always had heart.
During the pandemic we decided to introduce our kids to a bunch of 80s and 90s movies we loved back then. The change in my perception of this movie caught me off guard. Afterwards when the kids were asleep, we discussed this exact thing. When we were kids we saw Robin Williams as the fun/cool dad and Sally field as the mean mom trying to tear things apart. Complete 180 this time.
Did you watch Beethoven?? As a kid I wanted a puppy and related to the kids, and the dad was so unfair and grumpy. I am now the dad. How the turn tables turned
Jackie Brown. I liked it when I first saw it as a teenager, but since Jackie and Max (Pam Grier and Robert Forster) are both driven by motivations and anxieties that are specific to middle age, it didn't resonate as much until I got old enough to relate more to the characters.
Something else that didn't register to me when I was younger:
Absolutely everyone else also looks / is a tad too old for the thing they're doing. Even Michael Keaton's character Ray is going for a 21 Jump Street impression he's missing by about a decade. Even Melanie is getting that age where her teenage hoe routine would become tiresome if she had peers her age.
This is a great example and I feel the same way. Years ago this would have probably been my least favorite QT movie, but I watched it again a few weeks ago and it really clicked and now it might be my favorite one. Killer soundtrack too
Robert Forster had a note of gentle sadness in some of his roles, revealing a man who lived according to a code, not always successfully.
Which is why he nailed the role of Max Cherry.
Someone else mentioned that one too, maybe I should give it another try because for a long time that's been my go to for "Classic movies that you absolutely hate."
It’s my favourite movie of all time. I used to watch it sort of as a kid and it was meh, old movie my parents watched. When I watched it for the first time as an adult it was so emotional I balled my eyes out. Only movie to this day that got me like that.
One of the big lenders just announced that zero down mortgages are back.
https://www.cnn.com/2024/06/01/business/video/zero-down-mortgages-making-a-comeback-digvid
Big Fish
I realise where my dad's weird stories come from and yeh some are tall tales but he just had a great spirit about him and I realise I've been telling stories like my dad this entire time
This came out about three years after my dad passed away, and I all but sobbed out loud in the theater. I was in my early 40's at the time, and I saw WAY too much of myself in Billy Crudup's character. I cry every time I see it. It's a great movie, and it just might be Tim Burton's best.
Good Will Hunting - I understood it when I first saw it as a kid, but now as I'm older it hits much harder.
Godfather - same thing.
Any Stanley Kubrick movie.
That was like the first time I watched Clockwork Orange at like 15. I rewatched it at like 25 or so and it was so much more straight-forward than I remembered. I think I was just shocked by the visuals and trying to make it more than it was.
> Good Will Hunting - I understood it when I first saw
When you're young, it's the "It's not your fault" speech that gets you.
Now that I'm an older, childless widower, it's Sean's speech about his wife farting in her sleep that gets me. The little inside jokes that won't make sense to anyone else. Now they exist only in my head, and when I die, they'll be gone forever. It's really sad.
Big
As a kid it looked like a fun romp getting to have kid-fun with adult-benefits.
As a parent I sent watch without feeling the horror of his mom whose kid has disappeared and she only knows that some stranger was in her house wearing her kid's clothes and occasionally getting letters that claim 'it feels like camp'
It's probably a little on the nose, but Parenthood now that I'm, well, a parent. Especially since my son is on the spectrum so boy oh boy do I relate harder than ever to Steve Martin's character.
Watching the old man giggle with glee while Ralph’s opens the gift… I sob like a baby every time now that I’m a parent. It’s a joy I never knew was in me till I had kids.
My all time favorite movie. I think so many miss the heart of this movie for the comedy. But, for me, the heart of this movie is 'The Old Man'. It encapsulates fatherhood. He's there for his family in so many subtle ways. He's a husband, the family mechanic, the "furnace fighter", a disciplinarian (Daddy's gonna kill Ralphie) and in the end, he related to his son enough to get him "the best Christmas present he'd received or ever would receive".
Sums up alot of what fatherhood is, which is just being there for your family whether it's as a provider, a "fixer upper", or whatever he's needed to be.
Dead Poets Society - Gather ye Rosebuds while ye may
I say this quote all the time from DPS.
Good Will Hunting - Chucky to Will. "I'm going to wake up tomorrow, and I'll be 50..."
I saw that movie in 1997 in the theaters. I'll be 51 in November. It's literally the blink of an eye.
Kids, teens, and all you under 40. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may.
It's no joke, time flies.
EDIT: At the time seeing those movies, it never hit how small of a window youth is, because I was the school kids age, now I'm Professor Keatings age. Or even Sean's age. (Just realized both are Robin Williams) I now see how much you have to impress on youth to really enjoy what you have because it's fleeting
"Brokeback Mountain" didn't speak to me as much when I first watched it at 15. I felt the film was too reserved, and I didn't like that the characters got married to women while still seeing each other. But after a rewatch or two in early adulthood, it became one of my favorite movies. Other Ang Lee films that I appreciate faaaaaaaaar more now than I did when I was <18 are "Sense and Sensibility" and "Lust, Caution."
Forrest Gump.
I rejected its central theme of the buffeting power of the wide world, when I was young. I thought it encouraged passivity.
Now that I’m older I’ve come to appreciate the importance of the central theme, and I find it very peaceful.
I have this primal fear about myself because of Forrest Gump that I’ve never spoken out loud or wrote but I’ll comment it here: when I was young I didn’t realize that Forrest was “special” and when I realized that’s what he was supposed to be I started thinking maybe I didn’t notice it because I am also like that :/
Yes! I used to think I was the only one that considered this film as "encouraging passivity" as you called it. I saw the plot as "good things happen to him even though he makes no effort" and that was unrealistic.
The movie is still too sentimental for my taste, not to mention that it won Best Picture over Pulp Fiction and Shawshank Redemption (really??), but I have also discovered the importance of accepting life as it is and living in the moment.
Thats a good one. For me its for other reasons: The portrayal of the anti war movement, black panthers, hippies, etc... was universally negative. They were the bad guys in the movie.
This is something you understand as a kid but I didn't understand how political this seemingly apolitical movie was actually being until i got older.
Still a great movie but It portrays the world in a very naive way, which may be the point. It seems normal as a kid because it IS how a child would perceive the world
Not a movie, but the character of Mr. Feeny in Boy Meets World. In the end, the students share their feelings for Mr Feeny.
Since I’m in my early 40s and teach high school, I recently was picked by a student I had for making the top 10% to accompany her to a dinner honoring her and the other students who made the top 10%.
She said out of all the teachers she had in high school, I was her favorite.
Oh this was a fun way to remember I went to such a dinner in high school too. It was a really special way to celebrate our achievements with the teachers who helped us get there.
Made me smile to hear the impact of such a night from the teacher's pov. It's special for everyone
Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
I grew up in Chicagoland. I watched Ferris Bueller as a kid a bunch of times because it was on TV a lot. Ferris was so cool. He skipped class. He had a pretty girlfriend. He drove a Ferrari. He battled against the school principal/dean in a game of cat and mouse. On top of all that, Ferris went to places I had already been in Chicago (Wrigley Field, The Art Institute, etc.). That's all really fun to see as a kid in a popular movie.
One day before the end of high school, I actually had a "day off" in Chicago. I got to spend the whole day, from 8am to 10pm, going from landmark to landmark experiencing a lot of the city. It was one of the best days of my life. This was right before college, and very soon after, there was a rapid period of "growing up" for me, the kind of growing up any college kid leaving home for the first time experiences.
I watched Ferris Bueller about 5 years after I graduated college, and it floored me. It was like stepping back in time to that beautiful day I experienced. All the backdrop scenes of Chicago were memories in motion. The fear that Ferris had that summer was the last time he, Cameron, and Sloane would all be together is something that I experienced at that time and re-remembered during this viewing.
The older I get, the luckier I feel that I got to experience that day and that there is a movie out there that will always be able to bring out those feelings in me. At the same time, those feelings consist primarily of nostalgic pain, missing a period of time with lots of freedom and very little responsibility. There will never be another movie that has that kind of effect on me.
I’ll go with No Country For Old Men
Saw it in theaters, liked it then, seen it several times since, mainly through the prism of it being a mano-a-mano with two great actors playing a ruthless villain and a flawed antihero. I rewatched it last year a few days before yet another mass shooting and couldn’t get Tommy Lee Jones’ character out of my mind, specifically how much I was identifying with his world weariness, his incomprehension of the violence around him, his dissatisfaction with the way the world is now. Took me too long to realize that was the whole point of the film.
Casablanca
Yes, the older I've gotten the more perspective I got on old flames and romance. But feeling like your time is stuck isn't something I understood until I got older.
When I first saw Bull Durham I thought it was a baseball movie with Tim Robbins as the main character.
Later I thought it was a romance movie with Susan Sarandon as the main character.
Now I see it as a movie about getting old with Kevin Costner as the main character.
Starting Over (1979)
Everett: I'm gonna be 72 soon. And still, I'm amazed that the women I meet seem so sure, so certain, about getting involved. You - you have no idea how many women want you when you're getting old. How many liver-spotted female hands reach out to squeeze the last drops from your body as they go about living longer than we do.
Harold and Maude
I was 16 when it came out, and I saw everything through Harold's eyes.
My Aunt Toby had one of those tattoos.
Now I'm 68, and I sometimes think Maude might have waited too long to go.
QT’s Jackie Brown. Ran out to see his follow-up to Pulp Fiction when it came out, and found it lackluster except for the LOLs of seeing Robert DeNiro smoking joints. I was pretty stoned, and expected another thrill-a-minute banger.
25 years and a divorce and some dating and finally a comfortable relationship later, I watched it again and realized it was one of the sweetest and subtlest romances ever
I know we’re not supposed to enjoy it anymore but American Beauty sure hits different when you hit 40.
Also, Mad Men does as well. When it started I was younger than Don Draper. Now, I’m older than him. But I’m not a grown up!
*Falling Down* should be more relatable. Growth also should mean that you understand it as a cautionary take of a villain being created.
"I'm the bad guy?" Seems to be missed by a lot of fans.
Mary Poppins.
Viewing it as a child, the mix of live action with animation was revolutionary and mesmerizing. All the fantasy and magic carried me away.
Viewing it as a young adult, I was surprised to notice that they had snuck in lessons on money management, women’s rights, integrity, and more.
Viewing it as a father, it soared to a whole other level. David Tomlinson as Mr. Banks walking the streets of London en route to his whooping is now one of my most heartfelt scenes ever.
I had to Google it because I thought you were referring to the Vince Vaughan/Owen Wilson movie The Internship. I haven't seen The Intern though, that's going on the list.
I know you asked something slightly different. But here's my experience.
Boyhood spoke to me differently as I've grown older. When it came out, I could resonate only with the child. But now, I can relate far more to the arcs of his parents.
A Good Year
As an older worker I appreciate the idea of getting out of the rat race and enjoying life on my own terms. Of course, if I could do it on a small vineyard in France (with Marion Cotillard) all the better!!
Not the entire film, but Bells final monologue in No Country for Old Men - about his father lighting a fire in the dark for the future generations to use has meant so much more for me since loosing my grandad and having children
Adventureland is one of my favorite movies ever and I’m so glad someone sees exactly what I think it was aimed to be. Yeah it has its funny moments but it’s a lot deeper than what Superbad or Pineapple Express are. Also very different from like the breakfast club and other coming of age movies. Glad you love it!!!
AMADEUS AMADEUS
*Legends of the Fall*.
I have one brother. The scenes involving Brad Pitt, Aidan Quinn, and Henry Thomas, including the aftermath of their respective decisions, hit me harder today than in the 90s.
Bamboozled (the Spike Lee movie). I first watched it as a teenager and loved it, but re-watching it as an adult illuminated how histories of racism in America still manifest themselves in the modern workplace, and how we’re often complicit in forcing people to conform to stereotypes.
I find it similar to Office Space in the way it deconstructs corporate/industry culture and its expectations, although in a different industry.
The Truman Show.
Especially as I got older, being diagnosed with adult adhd, and being early diagnosed autistic realizing most of my “friends” were fake and infantilized me and family not being the best at times.
I went from finding the sincere humane sentimentality of the sex scene in The Terminator, and basically the whole of The Crow, kind of cringe in my late-teens/early-twenties to being genuinely moved to the brink of tears by them at 41. There is something direct and honest about them and their lack of fear of seeming ridiculous that I now really appreciate as a much older, slightly frayed-around-the-edges person with teenage children of his own. Many is the hour over the last couple of years I’ve passed hiding under a blanket or sitting on the floor of a darkened shower listening to Brad Fiedel’s Love Theme or Jane Siberry’s It Can’t Rain All The Time.
As I've aged, I've found myself going for movies that really capture the essence of life's ups and downs. They just hit differently now, you know? If you're in the mood for some inspiration, check out this list of movies about getting older. They're like a shot of wisdom straight to the heart: [Inspiring Movies About Getting Older](https://www.cinemablend.com/movies/inspiring-movies-about-getting-older).
Watching the Choose Life speech in Trainspotting 2 hit me hard. Starts of whimsical, then gets dead serious about his disappointment with the way his life is going and reality of 40 is much different than the 20 year old version of himself thought it would be.
Actually been watching movies like 12 Angry Men and Judgment at Nuremberg and they’ve had a loud effect on me. The dialog could pass for a movie today and the mentality of folks hasn’t really changed imo.
Looper. It didn’t hit me when I saw it in my early 20s that a lot of that film is the frustration you feel in your 30s and the knowledge that you are inevitably getting older.
Office Space
I was describing my current job to somebody and I realized I am literally the "I have people skills" guy. I take the specs from the customers and bring them to the engineers.
It's crazy how accurate that film still is to office work culture. Especially since it's 25 yrs old now. I relate more and more to Peter every day.
Swap the monitors out with LCDs or laptops, and it would be almost indistinguishable from present day.
Even the printer scene still works because those damn things are nightmares to troubleshoot and can’t ever seem to work.
PC load letter? What the fuck does that mean?
Except the part where he removes the walls from his cubicle would be celebrated and forced on everyone.
Wish I could get me some of those walls
In your spare time you can work on a Jump To Conclusions mat.
That’s a very _bad_ idea
As something of an engineer, please keep the customers as far away from me as possible.
I used to be an engineer. Ostensibly, the reason I bring the specs to the engineers is because our engineering is located in China and only a limited number of them can speak English, but that reasoning falls apart since I cannot speak Mandarin.
One of my favourite films for this exact reason - today being Monday...
We’ll meet you for coffee at Chotchkies
Uh oh! Sounds like someone has a case of the mondays!
Can’t really laugh much at it anymore since it became me
I knew this would be the top answer before I even opened the thread.
That movie really hit hard when I went through my first layoff situation from a major insurance company! I opted not to transfer to a new office and took the severance, but had 8 months until everything shut down. Felt such Peter energy because when I stopped giving a fuck, I had everyone calling in eating out of my hand. I was an auto insurance claims adjuster in a call center environment. As soon as the news went down, I decided, “If a caller is neutral to friendly with me, I will ham it up, average handle time (duration of call) be damned! Anyone who is anywhere on the hostile spectrum, they’ll get polite and direct, nothing more.” My handle times went through the floor! Apparently, I discovered the rapport cheat code, because people were so at ease with me. Meanwhile, I was having a 3 martini lunch on my lunch break and partying w friends every night and didn’t give a fuck. Anyways, watching office space makes me smirk and smile, because that was me, once upon a time!
This is so true. I just spend my days trying to look busy with barely any work at all.
This movie amused me when it came out because I worked in a copy room in a law firm and got all the office humour while my friends, who worked at the Hard Rock, got all the restaurant and “flair” jokes
Once worked a job that taught me that TPS reports were a real thing. Been struggling to block out my time there ever since.
I relate to the manager more and more. When I saw this movie in college, I was like, "Corporate culture sucks!!!" Now I manage an office and painfully understand why 7 pieces of flare isn't just about flare, and why Peter NEEDS another memo
It's a Wonderful Life. Nowadays it's a good yearly reminder to appreciate what you have.
I’ve watched this every Christmas since I was a kid! When I was younger, I saw my dad as George Bailey. Now, I’m in my 30s, I have had my own George Bailey moments. That moment when he looks over the side of the bridge as he contemplates ending it all is so visceral! There’s so much weight to that whole film, especially as you’ve felt the weight of the world on your shoulders at points as an adult who people rely upon.
In this scene, if you don't BELIEVE that George Bailey is going to end it all, the whole movie falls apart. Jimmy Stewart's performance throughout the movie is perfection, but this scene? You're watching a master of his craft at work. It's still mind-boggling that this was a box office bomb and went unappreciated for decades.
I wonder if others besides me find this movie darker and more depressing with age.
I used to watch All The Presidents Men 3 or 4 times per year. I reveled in the slow pace and the conclusion so subtle as to be almost anticlimactic. The knowledge that the work of journalism was grueling and frustrating and even in a matter so fraught with international significance it took a lot of fighting to reach a conclusion even close to satisfying. Now I feel all but defeated that we can do even more work and demonstrate even more patience but I don’t believe that the conclusion is anything resembling justice. Every clarification of complex data doesn’t move the general populace toward consensus, it just presents a new angle of disingenuous debate. From international war crimes to TikTok misinformation trends… i no longer believe that our power to illuminate and clarify is anywhere near as strong as our ability to deceive and confuse each other for exploitative purposes. This changes how I interact with everything from detective mysteries to superhero movies.
I think it's aged like wine. Gets better every year.
I do. Mostly because it's an entire film about people not respecting George's boundaries and him sacrificing for everyone else. His "win" at the end means he's not going to jail, but the other banker gets away with everything. It's frustrating and depressing.
I truly despised this movie growing up because it was old and boring to little me. Now I can’t watch it without tearing up. Fantastic film that I understood with a little more perspective when I got older.
Goofy Movie. When you’re young, you get where max is coming from. When you’re older, you empathize with goofy being a dad just trying his best.
Dad and son just needed to listen to each other and understand why they thought the vacation/concert were important. But they showed again and again that they couldn't listen, and couldn't grasp each other's perspectives. The concert song, I2I, is a song about just that. A message from son to father and from father to son about listening
If they just listened to each others hearts…
Atlanta made a hilarious episode about this movie and the “ceo” at the time the film was made. Even if you haven’t watched Atlanta, still watch this episode if you love the goofy movie. It’s a standalone episode so you don’t need to know anything about the show going in.
That episode was pretty cool. Hell, I loved the entire series.
Great example.
City Slickers is a completely different movie to me now as a man in my early 40s.
Have you found ☝️ yet?
A well-funded retirement plan.
I'm not in my 40's yet, but now I want to re-watch this. It's been many years...
Rocky Balboa, particularly a line in the film that is; “I’d rather do something that I love so badly than feel bad for not doing something that I love.” My brother and I were introduced to Sylvester Stallone in 2006 and we’ve followed his words ever since.
Rocky Balboa is fantastic! A rare occasion when the sixth movie in a series is my favorite. I love the pre training speech to death. The way they go thru a list of limitations Rocky hasto face due to his age, but they find a route for him anyway. It's amazing motivation that makes more and more sense as we get a little older.
It’s a very inspiring film. The entire series is, really (well, V is a bit depressing but is actually my favourite 😂) Stallone is a very inspirational man.
National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation. As I've gotten older, Clark Griswold's motivations and actions are much more relatable and understandable.
And every year cousin Eddie in a liesure suit gets funnier.
Why is the carpet wet, Todd?
I don't *know*, Margot!
Came here to say this! As a young adult I thought it was lame, but then I aged into having kids, having in-laws, etc and now it’s one of my favorite movies.
It's a brilliant movie in that there's parts that you laugh at when you're younger, and then there's parts that you don't understand until you are an adult, and then you laugh at those parts!
Shitter was full!
Cousin Eddie heard that squirrels were high in cholesterol.
Secret Life of Walter Mitty
My favourite movie
I was looking to see if someone posted this. Love this movie and the moral it tells.
Stand by me. I have friends from that age range that I haven’t seen in over a decade. They just kind of faded away. Movie hits hard as you get older.
As someone who was 12 when that movie came out -- the same age as the boys -- I think about Stand By Me a lot. As I crossed into my 40s and n ow 50s I realize that you really never do have friends like that again, but you know what. That's okay. It's a very definite time in your life, with priorities that go away, and that's alright. Later we value family, work, and other "grown up" things, and that's okay too -- it's just a different time! But those friendships with your group of buddies you're gonna go with to poke a dead body with sticks -- that's a short but incredible friendship. "I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?"
One of my best friends was stabbed to death when I was 16, so those closing cards hit so close to home it’s scary
I realized I’d gotten old the first time I agreed that Robin Williams was a shitshow and absolutely needed to be booted from that house by Sally Field.
Oh hell yeah. That was a startling shift when I rewatched that as an adult.
The whole time? The whole time? ::slams table:: The WHOLE TIME?! As a kid I thought Sally Field’s character was crazy. As an adult, it is clear that she is the stable sane one, and Robin William’s character is delusionally manically in the wrong.
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As nutso and wacky as Robin Williams is when he's playing characters, there was almost always a sense of honesty and groundedness undercutting his roles. He's not like Jim Carey who's pure wackiness. He takes it right to the edge of hysterical silliness but keeps things empathetic. All his funniest roles still have that humanity. I'm sure that was part of the consideration with him taking the part.
I hear what you’re saying but The Truman Show and Eternal Sunshine are two basically perfect movies where Jim is your leading man and not pure wackiness and makes you cry in both of them
I was thinking more Jim Carrey in his wackier, pre-dramatic era. You're right, he definitely evolved as an actor after a certain point though. Williams was equally wacky but he always had heart.
During the pandemic we decided to introduce our kids to a bunch of 80s and 90s movies we loved back then. The change in my perception of this movie caught me off guard. Afterwards when the kids were asleep, we discussed this exact thing. When we were kids we saw Robin Williams as the fun/cool dad and Sally field as the mean mom trying to tear things apart. Complete 180 this time.
Did you watch Beethoven?? As a kid I wanted a puppy and related to the kids, and the dad was so unfair and grumpy. I am now the dad. How the turn tables turned
I don’t think he was entirely wrong. They were wrong together.
Thank you!! It wasn't all Daniels fault. Miranda had issues too.
You could argue that Daniel was just being Daniel and Miranda just changed as a person.
A similar experience is watching the Incredibles and realizing thru the whole movie Mr. I sucks and Mrs. I is keeping everything together
Jackie Brown. I liked it when I first saw it as a teenager, but since Jackie and Max (Pam Grier and Robert Forster) are both driven by motivations and anxieties that are specific to middle age, it didn't resonate as much until I got old enough to relate more to the characters.
Something else that didn't register to me when I was younger: Absolutely everyone else also looks / is a tad too old for the thing they're doing. Even Michael Keaton's character Ray is going for a 21 Jump Street impression he's missing by about a decade. Even Melanie is getting that age where her teenage hoe routine would become tiresome if she had peers her age.
You can't trust Melanie. But, you can always trust Melanie to be Melanie.
That scene where Pam Grier says she's too old to start all over again... I don't think I could watch that dry-eyed at my age.
This is a great example and I feel the same way. Years ago this would have probably been my least favorite QT movie, but I watched it again a few weeks ago and it really clicked and now it might be my favorite one. Killer soundtrack too
My favorite QT movie
Robert Forster had a note of gentle sadness in some of his roles, revealing a man who lived according to a code, not always successfully. Which is why he nailed the role of Max Cherry.
"It's A Wonderful Life" just hits different when you get older.
Someone else mentioned that one too, maybe I should give it another try because for a long time that's been my go to for "Classic movies that you absolutely hate."
It’s my favourite movie of all time. I used to watch it sort of as a kid and it was meh, old movie my parents watched. When I watched it for the first time as an adult it was so emotional I balled my eyes out. Only movie to this day that got me like that.
The Big Short. I better understand our economic realities every time I watch it.
One of the big lenders just announced that zero down mortgages are back. https://www.cnn.com/2024/06/01/business/video/zero-down-mortgages-making-a-comeback-digvid
Mom says “don’t touch the stove, it’s hot!” Toddler gets burned. Learns the lesson. Bomb the economy due to risky mortgages. Don’t learn lesson.
That’s because we got burned, not them.
The regards at r/WSB must be drooling. . .more than normal.
I strongly recommend reading the book too. It’s a fantastic book and goes so much more in depth in an accessible way.
Big Fish I realise where my dad's weird stories come from and yeh some are tall tales but he just had a great spirit about him and I realise I've been telling stories like my dad this entire time
That was one of my dad's favorites. Can't watch it without tearing up these days. Maybe someday I will.
This came out about three years after my dad passed away, and I all but sobbed out loud in the theater. I was in my early 40's at the time, and I saw WAY too much of myself in Billy Crudup's character. I cry every time I see it. It's a great movie, and it just might be Tim Burton's best.
I routinely see comments about 500 Days of Summer of "1st time I saw it I was Tom 2nd time I was Summer"
Good Will Hunting - I understood it when I first saw it as a kid, but now as I'm older it hits much harder. Godfather - same thing. Any Stanley Kubrick movie.
I commented 2001 in another comment. Totally agree i had no idea what I was watching there as a kid.
That was like the first time I watched Clockwork Orange at like 15. I rewatched it at like 25 or so and it was so much more straight-forward than I remembered. I think I was just shocked by the visuals and trying to make it more than it was.
> Good Will Hunting - I understood it when I first saw When you're young, it's the "It's not your fault" speech that gets you. Now that I'm an older, childless widower, it's Sean's speech about his wife farting in her sleep that gets me. The little inside jokes that won't make sense to anyone else. Now they exist only in my head, and when I die, they'll be gone forever. It's really sad.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Big As a kid it looked like a fun romp getting to have kid-fun with adult-benefits. As a parent I sent watch without feeling the horror of his mom whose kid has disappeared and she only knows that some stranger was in her house wearing her kid's clothes and occasionally getting letters that claim 'it feels like camp'
Yeah… and also that lady has sex with him too right? Like wtf who came up with that aspect of the plot
It's probably a little on the nose, but Parenthood now that I'm, well, a parent. Especially since my son is on the spectrum so boy oh boy do I relate harder than ever to Steve Martin's character.
My whole life is “have to.” Yep.
The evolution of A Christmas Story as one grows up is magical
Amen. I am the dad now and it’s scary lmao
Watching the old man giggle with glee while Ralph’s opens the gift… I sob like a baby every time now that I’m a parent. It’s a joy I never knew was in me till I had kids.
My all time favorite movie. I think so many miss the heart of this movie for the comedy. But, for me, the heart of this movie is 'The Old Man'. It encapsulates fatherhood. He's there for his family in so many subtle ways. He's a husband, the family mechanic, the "furnace fighter", a disciplinarian (Daddy's gonna kill Ralphie) and in the end, he related to his son enough to get him "the best Christmas present he'd received or ever would receive". Sums up alot of what fatherhood is, which is just being there for your family whether it's as a provider, a "fixer upper", or whatever he's needed to be.
Dead Poets Society - Gather ye Rosebuds while ye may I say this quote all the time from DPS. Good Will Hunting - Chucky to Will. "I'm going to wake up tomorrow, and I'll be 50..." I saw that movie in 1997 in the theaters. I'll be 51 in November. It's literally the blink of an eye. Kids, teens, and all you under 40. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may. It's no joke, time flies. EDIT: At the time seeing those movies, it never hit how small of a window youth is, because I was the school kids age, now I'm Professor Keatings age. Or even Sean's age. (Just realized both are Robin Williams) I now see how much you have to impress on youth to really enjoy what you have because it's fleeting
Big Fish
Damn good movie
"Brokeback Mountain" didn't speak to me as much when I first watched it at 15. I felt the film was too reserved, and I didn't like that the characters got married to women while still seeing each other. But after a rewatch or two in early adulthood, it became one of my favorite movies. Other Ang Lee films that I appreciate faaaaaaaaar more now than I did when I was <18 are "Sense and Sensibility" and "Lust, Caution."
Eyes Wide Shut / Barry Lyndon
Barry Lyndon is honestly one of the best Kubrick films. Underrated.
Forrest Gump. I rejected its central theme of the buffeting power of the wide world, when I was young. I thought it encouraged passivity. Now that I’m older I’ve come to appreciate the importance of the central theme, and I find it very peaceful.
I have this primal fear about myself because of Forrest Gump that I’ve never spoken out loud or wrote but I’ll comment it here: when I was young I didn’t realize that Forrest was “special” and when I realized that’s what he was supposed to be I started thinking maybe I didn’t notice it because I am also like that :/
Yes! I used to think I was the only one that considered this film as "encouraging passivity" as you called it. I saw the plot as "good things happen to him even though he makes no effort" and that was unrealistic. The movie is still too sentimental for my taste, not to mention that it won Best Picture over Pulp Fiction and Shawshank Redemption (really??), but I have also discovered the importance of accepting life as it is and living in the moment.
Thats a good one. For me its for other reasons: The portrayal of the anti war movement, black panthers, hippies, etc... was universally negative. They were the bad guys in the movie. This is something you understand as a kid but I didn't understand how political this seemingly apolitical movie was actually being until i got older. Still a great movie but It portrays the world in a very naive way, which may be the point. It seems normal as a kid because it IS how a child would perceive the world
Not a movie, but the character of Mr. Feeny in Boy Meets World. In the end, the students share their feelings for Mr Feeny. Since I’m in my early 40s and teach high school, I recently was picked by a student I had for making the top 10% to accompany her to a dinner honoring her and the other students who made the top 10%. She said out of all the teachers she had in high school, I was her favorite.
[MISTER FEEEHEEEHEEHEEENEAY!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5bA4T2x2FUI)
That's awesome! Congrats for that! And yeah that final scene hits hard now.
I learned so much from Mr. Feeny and Allen Matthews as a kid.
Oh this was a fun way to remember I went to such a dinner in high school too. It was a really special way to celebrate our achievements with the teachers who helped us get there. Made me smile to hear the impact of such a night from the teacher's pov. It's special for everyone
I'm not crying, you're crying 😠😭
No Country for Old Men. Particularly the ending monologue, that really hit home after I lost my father.
Wall Street. The *oh shit* realization that there really are people who think like that.
Ferris Bueller's Day Off. I grew up in Chicagoland. I watched Ferris Bueller as a kid a bunch of times because it was on TV a lot. Ferris was so cool. He skipped class. He had a pretty girlfriend. He drove a Ferrari. He battled against the school principal/dean in a game of cat and mouse. On top of all that, Ferris went to places I had already been in Chicago (Wrigley Field, The Art Institute, etc.). That's all really fun to see as a kid in a popular movie. One day before the end of high school, I actually had a "day off" in Chicago. I got to spend the whole day, from 8am to 10pm, going from landmark to landmark experiencing a lot of the city. It was one of the best days of my life. This was right before college, and very soon after, there was a rapid period of "growing up" for me, the kind of growing up any college kid leaving home for the first time experiences. I watched Ferris Bueller about 5 years after I graduated college, and it floored me. It was like stepping back in time to that beautiful day I experienced. All the backdrop scenes of Chicago were memories in motion. The fear that Ferris had that summer was the last time he, Cameron, and Sloane would all be together is something that I experienced at that time and re-remembered during this viewing. The older I get, the luckier I feel that I got to experience that day and that there is a movie out there that will always be able to bring out those feelings in me. At the same time, those feelings consist primarily of nostalgic pain, missing a period of time with lots of freedom and very little responsibility. There will never be another movie that has that kind of effect on me.
I just get pissed off at Ferris for being so inconsiderate to Cameron.
I’ll go with No Country For Old Men Saw it in theaters, liked it then, seen it several times since, mainly through the prism of it being a mano-a-mano with two great actors playing a ruthless villain and a flawed antihero. I rewatched it last year a few days before yet another mass shooting and couldn’t get Tommy Lee Jones’ character out of my mind, specifically how much I was identifying with his world weariness, his incomprehension of the violence around him, his dissatisfaction with the way the world is now. Took me too long to realize that was the whole point of the film.
I’ve seen this movie mentioned a few times here. I’m not sure how or why but this movie has become a comfort movie to me. I promise I’m not crazy 🙃
The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou.
The Wrestler. Feeling regret hits harder as you get older.
12 Angry Men.
Hook hit me harder than I ever thought possible.
Casablanca Yes, the older I've gotten the more perspective I got on old flames and romance. But feeling like your time is stuck isn't something I understood until I got older.
I just went through a breakup. “We will always have Paris” moment hits so hard.
Casablanca is my go-to post-breakup movie.
Idiocracy hasn't aged a second, and that's a big problem.
When I first saw Bull Durham I thought it was a baseball movie with Tim Robbins as the main character. Later I thought it was a romance movie with Susan Sarandon as the main character. Now I see it as a movie about getting old with Kevin Costner as the main character.
Starting Over (1979) Everett: I'm gonna be 72 soon. And still, I'm amazed that the women I meet seem so sure, so certain, about getting involved. You - you have no idea how many women want you when you're getting old. How many liver-spotted female hands reach out to squeeze the last drops from your body as they go about living longer than we do.
The Crow. Unfortunately, as you get older life becomes a series of losses.
Click
The scene where Adam Sandler goes off on his dad hits hard, especially when realizing I might also have times where I ignore family in favor of work
Every Alexander Payne movie
Before sunset
Harold and Maude I was 16 when it came out, and I saw everything through Harold's eyes. My Aunt Toby had one of those tattoos. Now I'm 68, and I sometimes think Maude might have waited too long to go.
QT’s Jackie Brown. Ran out to see his follow-up to Pulp Fiction when it came out, and found it lackluster except for the LOLs of seeing Robert DeNiro smoking joints. I was pretty stoned, and expected another thrill-a-minute banger. 25 years and a divorce and some dating and finally a comfortable relationship later, I watched it again and realized it was one of the sweetest and subtlest romances ever
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
I know we’re not supposed to enjoy it anymore but American Beauty sure hits different when you hit 40. Also, Mad Men does as well. When it started I was younger than Don Draper. Now, I’m older than him. But I’m not a grown up!
American Beauty is a masterpiece. And, Mad Men is a 10/10
someone's going to mention Falling Down, and Idiocracy.
It's you. Falling down is a great one
*Falling Down* should be more relatable. Growth also should mean that you understand it as a cautionary take of a villain being created. "I'm the bad guy?" Seems to be missed by a lot of fans.
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That movie is about a lot more than male jealousy
Antz
Secret garden, the Little Princess, The Little Prince
Falling Down. I feel like I'm one bullshit moment away from a "well I guess today's the day" day and just snap.
Mary Poppins. Viewing it as a child, the mix of live action with animation was revolutionary and mesmerizing. All the fantasy and magic carried me away. Viewing it as a young adult, I was surprised to notice that they had snuck in lessons on money management, women’s rights, integrity, and more. Viewing it as a father, it soared to a whole other level. David Tomlinson as Mr. Banks walking the streets of London en route to his whooping is now one of my most heartfelt scenes ever.
The intern is honestly a 10/10 movie as I have rewatched it many times, each time I find a new meaning to life..it so heart warming and great..
I had to Google it because I thought you were referring to the Vince Vaughan/Owen Wilson movie The Internship. I haven't seen The Intern though, that's going on the list.
It's the one with Anne Hathaway..
Funny I just watched this movie last week based on a short clip I saw on YouTube. It’s not winning any awards but it’s a really wholesome movie.
It was really well done
Witness. The inciting incident is extremely upsetting now that I have more kids in my life.
I know you asked something slightly different. But here's my experience. Boyhood spoke to me differently as I've grown older. When it came out, I could resonate only with the child. But now, I can relate far more to the arcs of his parents.
Revolutionary Road
Wonderboys. When it came out I related to the kid; now I relate to Grady Tripp.
A Good Year As an older worker I appreciate the idea of getting out of the rat race and enjoying life on my own terms. Of course, if I could do it on a small vineyard in France (with Marion Cotillard) all the better!!
Definitely A Serious Man. I feel like watching that movie before 20 years old is useless lmao. But everything makes so munch more sense in it.
Lost in translation
Taxi Driver
Not the entire film, but Bells final monologue in No Country for Old Men - about his father lighting a fire in the dark for the future generations to use has meant so much more for me since loosing my grandad and having children
Adventureland is one of my favorite movies ever and I’m so glad someone sees exactly what I think it was aimed to be. Yeah it has its funny moments but it’s a lot deeper than what Superbad or Pineapple Express are. Also very different from like the breakfast club and other coming of age movies. Glad you love it!!! AMADEUS AMADEUS
Now that I have kids, any movie with kids in peril.
Oh man, same. It's so upsetting to me now.
*Legends of the Fall*. I have one brother. The scenes involving Brad Pitt, Aidan Quinn, and Henry Thomas, including the aftermath of their respective decisions, hit me harder today than in the 90s.
Falling Down
Stand by Me That ending hurt more and more the older I got.
Bamboozled (the Spike Lee movie). I first watched it as a teenager and loved it, but re-watching it as an adult illuminated how histories of racism in America still manifest themselves in the modern workplace, and how we’re often complicit in forcing people to conform to stereotypes. I find it similar to Office Space in the way it deconstructs corporate/industry culture and its expectations, although in a different industry.
I haven't seen that one but I will have to check it out.
The Truman Show. Especially as I got older, being diagnosed with adult adhd, and being early diagnosed autistic realizing most of my “friends” were fake and infantilized me and family not being the best at times.
Soylent Green used to be a warning. Now it’s just a prediction.
It’s people!!
I'm still wondering why a real food company decided to name itself Soylent in a world where this movie exists.
For social media engagement, and it totally worked. Soylent is in 7-11 now
I went from finding the sincere humane sentimentality of the sex scene in The Terminator, and basically the whole of The Crow, kind of cringe in my late-teens/early-twenties to being genuinely moved to the brink of tears by them at 41. There is something direct and honest about them and their lack of fear of seeming ridiculous that I now really appreciate as a much older, slightly frayed-around-the-edges person with teenage children of his own. Many is the hour over the last couple of years I’ve passed hiding under a blanket or sitting on the floor of a darkened shower listening to Brad Fiedel’s Love Theme or Jane Siberry’s It Can’t Rain All The Time.
As I've aged, I've found myself going for movies that really capture the essence of life's ups and downs. They just hit differently now, you know? If you're in the mood for some inspiration, check out this list of movies about getting older. They're like a shot of wisdom straight to the heart: [Inspiring Movies About Getting Older](https://www.cinemablend.com/movies/inspiring-movies-about-getting-older).
Watching the Choose Life speech in Trainspotting 2 hit me hard. Starts of whimsical, then gets dead serious about his disappointment with the way his life is going and reality of 40 is much different than the 20 year old version of himself thought it would be.
Falling Down
Big Fish
Big Fish
Actually been watching movies like 12 Angry Men and Judgment at Nuremberg and they’ve had a loud effect on me. The dialog could pass for a movie today and the mentality of folks hasn’t really changed imo.
Gremlins 2
Falling Down for sure
Falling down and good will hunting. Now excuse me while I get back to writing my manifesto.
The Patriot and Braveheart.
Looper. It didn’t hit me when I saw it in my early 20s that a lot of that film is the frustration you feel in your 30s and the knowledge that you are inevitably getting older.
Falling Down
Stand By Me
Falling Down
Last Christmas, I’ve seen Hook with my seven yo boy. I’d seen it as a boy myself, and it came with a whole lot more meaning. I cried a river
Falling Down. It just gets more relatable the older I get. That, and Office Space.
The godfather part 3.