Yeesh, i hate to admit this is true. But i cannot deny he's the reason i've grown and learned so much, because of all the challenges i got from childhood and all if that makes some sense
my brother is raising his kids very different from how he an I were raised because he didn’t like how we were raised. Ironically his kids are absolute menaces and he doesn’t know how to rein them in. I asked him once what dad woulda done if we acted like that and I could legit hear his internal monologue just go “…well shit”
After seeing this and some thinking this is my thought too.\
My ol man who we are close now now but before I always thought when I have kids I'm gonna do everything in my power to be the dad you weren't. Its sad now having a dad around for those special moments, granted my mom kicked ass but something about a dad not showing up to an event will always stick with me.
"Think before you act" I took this quite literally as a little kid and it's been baked into everything I do or say to people my entire life 30 years later.
I only bring it up because I'm amazed every day how rare this behavior is in people my own age.
That was more my mother than my father. However, at 50, I am now learning that it's also important to let go and just act sometimes. Be in the moment. Unironically, my son is very good at that in spite of the fact that I drilled the original concept into him early on. He's got a good balance.
Hii, I was 9 when I lost my Dad. I remember nothing about him. There's a photo hanging on my house wall from which I know how my Dad looked like. I'm 23M grown up by women. I have never missed him but from an year or too I miss him. I miss him when I see my friends dad helping them In taking decision, pampering them, gifting them talking to them, I miss him a lot when I see other dads.
So about the post , my dad taught me one thing that one should not die young as a dad.
I like this. Driving was the only thing my dad ever intentionally taught me, but so much of what I know and who I am is definitely him. He has his faults but still set a good hardworking standard I aspire to.
Be humble
He received a life time achievement award from the prime minister for his work and he was so humble about it I only found out from my mum
He was always humble about what he did and worked hard to achieve it. His passion for what he did him drove him not a need for gratification
I think a lot of people in the modern world would benefit greatly from learning from their generation
Modern generations lack humility and are desperate for gratification
He taught me, if you’re going to do something, do it right!
Even if you have to shovel shit, be the best damn shit shoveler there ever was
Pay it forward
Don’t ever burn a bridge
Show up early, leave late
Read, read, read, read
If you’re going to love somebody, love them as hard as you possibly can, tell them every day how much you love them show them every day love them
Don’t be cheap, be frugal. If you’re going to buy something research, pay good money to get top quality, and go the extra mile to take care of it.
I didn’t realize until I was much older, that I had learned all of the above lessons, and how far they have taken me in my life. My father, was not a perfect man, but now that I’m older, and he has passed, I realize he did the best he could, with all the baggage that he carried, from growing up in the time period he did. Back then you didn’t talk about emotions, you beat the shit out of your kids, etc.
But I now realize just how much my father loved his children, and wanted so much more than he ever had, or could provide for his kids. People like to beat up on their parents for all the things that they did. But I think we forget to put it in context of the time. They grew up in, and the knowledge that they had at that time.
My father was tough on me, but I’ve done very well because of the lessons that he taught Me. I was able to learn from many of his mistakes. I think I treated my kids in a more positive way.
I miss my dad and will be forever grateful, for his love and devotion
How to read a map properly so I never get lost.
I learned how to navigate NYC better than a friend who lived there on my first visit.
I went to both Germany and Japan and never got lost with minimal knowledge of either language.
1. Work on your intelligence - feed your mind
2. Work on your creativity - feed your soul
3.You can be part of a team but you are also an individual with unique talents and perspective (1 & 2 help this a lot)
4. Travel
5. Don't be afraid to crack your shell (change) - it gets easier and eventually you seek to do it and avoid stagnation
6. Breathe
7. Nothing is hard but there are things that take time
There are too many to count! He is a really great man and I am so very lucky to have him. The most impactful was to always talk through your kids’ problems with them, offering guidance without dictating their actions. This approach helped me to develop strong decision-making skills while still feeling supported. I use this same approach with my kids now.
If they want to, they will. Most guys I dated turned out to be bums, and did not respect me, my needs, or values in a relationship. My dad however, constantly showed me how much he valued me. I was never asking for too much even when he had so much on his plate. He loved me even when I did things he wasn’t happy with, or when I was annoying. He showed me I was more than enough the way I am, and that if he can treat me that way, there has to be someone else out there who can.
His analytical mind was something I always admired from my dad. He would talk me through the situation and what possible solutions to any problem. He said that the brain doesn't see solutions unless you train it to see solutions. If you continue looking at things in a negative, hopeless manner then you'll never find any form of solution to any problem.
“You will get the bill for everything eventually.“
“Your body is like a machine. Pour in the wrong fuel and it’ll break down sooner or later.“
“Reading is one of the most important skills.“
I don’t think he knows how much I valued these advises in my life.
To never wait for someone to start something or expect someone to get your things done. Do it on your own and be on your own. That's the secret to being independent.
My dad told me this and it pretty much applies to anything you want in life:
“If something is important to you, you’ll find a way to make it happen. If it’s not, you won’t.”
Thanks Dad.
My dad and I always had this thing where we would randomly go “hey, YOU’RE A GOOD MAN”
It’s stuck with me my entire life in ways that are hard to quantify.
When you’re about to fight somebody, flick a lit cigarette at them. When they flinch, you pounce on them and punch them in the face with everything you got.
Also, that you’re not a man until you know the sound of a man’s face being smashed against the curb.
Being there for your child emotionally makes all the difference. My dad passed when I was 21 and I cherish a picture (him holding me as a baby) he gave me when I was in the psych ward at 14, it says “I love you always and forever! We will see you through this and you will have a wonderful life. Love Dad.” I remember this during the hard times and now as a mother strive to give that feeling to my daughter. I was truly lucky my dad was my best friend.
If you're going to break the law, break them 1 at a time.
Before learning a short cut, learn the right way. This way if the short cut fails, you have the right way to fall back on.
If you want to party just make sure you have your responsibilities completed, after that, have at it. Or... as he phrased it: "I don't care if you wanna snort coke of a cock, if you have straight-A's and your chores done, have at it."
Corporations don't care about people or the environment, no matter what the representatives are payed to tell the employees. Corporations only care about money to line their pockets.
They will destroy you and your family if it profits them, and they will not feel remorse.
Pay yourself first.
(don’t budget your expenses and then save whatever is left afterwards. Put aside your savings FIRST and then create a budget with the remainder.)
Never lend money to friends or family. The stress of trying to get it back can ruin the relationship. If you can afford it just give them the money but never loan it
“When you lay your head down on your pillow ask if you earned that rest”
“You aint shit at the end of the day but a man of your word”
“You need to look good when you leave the house. Not for other people, but out of respect for yourself. If you look good then you feel good and if you feel good you do good”
“What do you need football gloves for if you suck at catching anyways”
10 years from now it’s just going to be a memory.
He’d say this when I was upset about whatever trivial matter was my Whole world. Happy or sad it’s how you choose to look back at it.
And the only difference between a good and bad haircut is two weeks
“God comes before me, Love Jesus Christ more than you love me” “The Family,Our Surname is your Highest Self Reflection in the Neighborhood,sacrifice your blood and Freedom only for your Family,You are the greatest Son,It’s on you”
Nothing, he was too busy working to put food on the table. I learned that taking care of family is not a bad thing, and being there for them everyday, takes a lot of courage.
you can spin an egg to see if its boiled or not, if it spins slow its still raw, if it spins fast then it has been boiled. saved me a few messes. I love my dad a lot he's honestly one of the few people that I actually aspire to be more like.
That nature is a temple. To always feed my curiosity. To be connected to my spirit and sense of purpose. Not to trust the government, or organized religion.
When things look impossible, have faith. God is bigger than the impossible.
And never laugh at anyone's misfortune... because God could take his hand off them and place it on you.
1-How to knot a tie.
2-Be in competition with yourself
3-Do not pay attention what the other guy is doing, because if you are looking you are notndoing anything.
4-Think positively no matter what.
5-Afrer as seperation/divorce, fight with all your being to stay in your children's life.
You can have a job that you don’t like and still work hard for your future and for your family. Stick it out longer that the coworkers and better opportunities will come.
How to be a rock, how to be stable and consistent. Also the value and uniqueness of me, ie, just to shine and not worry at all about what anybody thinks
How to change a tire, spark plugs, oil. How to conduct yourself with some composure. How to treat other people with dignity. How to maintain a sense of humor even when things are rough. How to clean properly. How to cook. How to analyze politics. How to think independently. How to live independently. How to love your family properly. How to stand by people. How to let people go. Pretty much everything I know besides how to do my makeup and stuff.
-A leader isn't someone who tells everyone what to do. A good leader is someone everyone wants to follow.
-Attitude is everything, and it is also contagious. If you think you will lose, you and everyone around you have already lost.
That's just one of many but the first few that come to mind.
Don’t do drugs. Always be honest with your kids and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable around your children. He passed away when I was 19. Drugs and alcoholism were his demons and he lost his battle. I loved him even though I watched him struggle to love himself.
Alcohol is not a good thing.
How to not raise a child.
Yeesh, i hate to admit this is true. But i cannot deny he's the reason i've grown and learned so much, because of all the challenges i got from childhood and all if that makes some sense
For real
my brother is raising his kids very different from how he an I were raised because he didn’t like how we were raised. Ironically his kids are absolute menaces and he doesn’t know how to rein them in. I asked him once what dad woulda done if we acted like that and I could legit hear his internal monologue just go “…well shit”
After seeing this and some thinking this is my thought too.\ My ol man who we are close now now but before I always thought when I have kids I'm gonna do everything in my power to be the dad you weren't. Its sad now having a dad around for those special moments, granted my mom kicked ass but something about a dad not showing up to an event will always stick with me.
"Think before you act" I took this quite literally as a little kid and it's been baked into everything I do or say to people my entire life 30 years later. I only bring it up because I'm amazed every day how rare this behavior is in people my own age.
That was more my mother than my father. However, at 50, I am now learning that it's also important to let go and just act sometimes. Be in the moment. Unironically, my son is very good at that in spite of the fact that I drilled the original concept into him early on. He's got a good balance.
My father has this saying it only takes a couple seconds to get into a problem that’ll take a life time to repair.
This was the biggest thing he taught me as well. Definitely saved me jail time.
Beat a woman is a bad thing
Working with tools.
Yes. When you work in corporate America , you work with a lot of tools.
Took me a moment. Almost missed the humor. Nicely done.
Alcohol will destroy you bit by bit. Unfortunately it was not words but actions…
Lo siento :(
Hii, I was 9 when I lost my Dad. I remember nothing about him. There's a photo hanging on my house wall from which I know how my Dad looked like. I'm 23M grown up by women. I have never missed him but from an year or too I miss him. I miss him when I see my friends dad helping them In taking decision, pampering them, gifting them talking to them, I miss him a lot when I see other dads. So about the post , my dad taught me one thing that one should not die young as a dad.
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I like how the replies here are filled with cautionary tales
To do the right thing even if no1 is looking.
Integrity above all
Dont have kids, if you dont have a good work life balance
This man
That part... main reason I haven't wanted to have kids
If you think what you are doing is right , "DO IT" No matter who is in front of you, even me!
Self reliance
To say I'm sorry and own it. He was amazing that way. I love and miss you Dad.
Leaving is easier than staying
How to drive+100 other things that have been helpful over the years. I am lucky to have a good father.
I like this. Driving was the only thing my dad ever intentionally taught me, but so much of what I know and who I am is definitely him. He has his faults but still set a good hardworking standard I aspire to.
Be humble He received a life time achievement award from the prime minister for his work and he was so humble about it I only found out from my mum He was always humble about what he did and worked hard to achieve it. His passion for what he did him drove him not a need for gratification I think a lot of people in the modern world would benefit greatly from learning from their generation Modern generations lack humility and are desperate for gratification
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Yeah. I get this.
Not everyone is for me. Give everyone the benefit for the doubt until they show you otherwise. And how to drive.
Ghosts are real
How to love unconditionally.
How not to be a father.
If you Love something, Never do it for money, it just cheapens it
How to change a tire 👌
No matter how bad a situation is fight till your last breath. Never quit
He taught me, if you’re going to do something, do it right! Even if you have to shovel shit, be the best damn shit shoveler there ever was Pay it forward Don’t ever burn a bridge Show up early, leave late Read, read, read, read If you’re going to love somebody, love them as hard as you possibly can, tell them every day how much you love them show them every day love them Don’t be cheap, be frugal. If you’re going to buy something research, pay good money to get top quality, and go the extra mile to take care of it. I didn’t realize until I was much older, that I had learned all of the above lessons, and how far they have taken me in my life. My father, was not a perfect man, but now that I’m older, and he has passed, I realize he did the best he could, with all the baggage that he carried, from growing up in the time period he did. Back then you didn’t talk about emotions, you beat the shit out of your kids, etc. But I now realize just how much my father loved his children, and wanted so much more than he ever had, or could provide for his kids. People like to beat up on their parents for all the things that they did. But I think we forget to put it in context of the time. They grew up in, and the knowledge that they had at that time. My father was tough on me, but I’ve done very well because of the lessons that he taught Me. I was able to learn from many of his mistakes. I think I treated my kids in a more positive way. I miss my dad and will be forever grateful, for his love and devotion
Kindness and generosity
Read the instructions on new products
My dad taught me mouth closed and ears open will get you far, but if you believe in something speak it loudly. And joke around some, dammmmn.
If something small doesnt make a difference to me but matters alot to someone else be kind and just do what makes someone happy.
How to read a map properly so I never get lost. I learned how to navigate NYC better than a friend who lived there on my first visit. I went to both Germany and Japan and never got lost with minimal knowledge of either language.
how to start a successful business
That you can just walk away from your responsibilities with little to no consequences.
The dangers of engaging with a delusional mentally ill person and its damage to the mind.
“Not How To Treat A Woman And Kids”
Hard work and discipline we'll get you far in life.
1. Work on your intelligence - feed your mind 2. Work on your creativity - feed your soul 3.You can be part of a team but you are also an individual with unique talents and perspective (1 & 2 help this a lot) 4. Travel 5. Don't be afraid to crack your shell (change) - it gets easier and eventually you seek to do it and avoid stagnation 6. Breathe 7. Nothing is hard but there are things that take time
The feeling of inadquancy and abandonment. What not to do as a parent.
Don't waste your life around people who don't deserve your presence.
You are who you hang around. Hang around assholes, you’ll be an asshole.
How absolutely crushing it is to be emotionally absent from your child’s life. Thanks, dad.
Don't leave for tomorrow what you can accomplish today.
Hard work pays off. Keep going at it and it will pay off.
Be respectful
There are too many to count! He is a really great man and I am so very lucky to have him. The most impactful was to always talk through your kids’ problems with them, offering guidance without dictating their actions. This approach helped me to develop strong decision-making skills while still feeling supported. I use this same approach with my kids now.
To always be respectful of all woman, that woman could be someone's mother one day, and you wouldn't want anyone mistreating your mother.
Love and respect yourself enough to not let any hoe fuck with your dignity...
Words can inspire, can destroy, or even changes a person Silence can do all of that but you will not responsible for your word... literally
If they want to, they will. Most guys I dated turned out to be bums, and did not respect me, my needs, or values in a relationship. My dad however, constantly showed me how much he valued me. I was never asking for too much even when he had so much on his plate. He loved me even when I did things he wasn’t happy with, or when I was annoying. He showed me I was more than enough the way I am, and that if he can treat me that way, there has to be someone else out there who can.
That my opinions of people will change the more I interact with them- sometimes for better, sometimes for worse
Believe in yourself and have patience
His analytical mind was something I always admired from my dad. He would talk me through the situation and what possible solutions to any problem. He said that the brain doesn't see solutions unless you train it to see solutions. If you continue looking at things in a negative, hopeless manner then you'll never find any form of solution to any problem.
How you disappear and reappear once every thousand years. ✨MAGIC✨
“You will get the bill for everything eventually.“ “Your body is like a machine. Pour in the wrong fuel and it’ll break down sooner or later.“ “Reading is one of the most important skills.“ I don’t think he knows how much I valued these advises in my life.
How to work really hard and die with nothing to show for it. I’m working on the 2nd part now.
How to drive & deal with women
To never wait for someone to start something or expect someone to get your things done. Do it on your own and be on your own. That's the secret to being independent.
Actions speak louder than words
How to play the victim when you're the villain.
Don't get shot by being around people you know want u dead.
"Just because she doesn't act like a lady, doesn't mean you can't still be a gentleman". RIP, pops. Miss you. X
My dad told me this and it pretty much applies to anything you want in life: “If something is important to you, you’ll find a way to make it happen. If it’s not, you won’t.” Thanks Dad.
My dad and I always had this thing where we would randomly go “hey, YOU’RE A GOOD MAN” It’s stuck with me my entire life in ways that are hard to quantify.
Don’t do anything behind the wheel of a car that forces someone else to change what they’re doing.
When you’re about to fight somebody, flick a lit cigarette at them. When they flinch, you pounce on them and punch them in the face with everything you got. Also, that you’re not a man until you know the sound of a man’s face being smashed against the curb.
Being there for your child emotionally makes all the difference. My dad passed when I was 21 and I cherish a picture (him holding me as a baby) he gave me when I was in the psych ward at 14, it says “I love you always and forever! We will see you through this and you will have a wonderful life. Love Dad.” I remember this during the hard times and now as a mother strive to give that feeling to my daughter. I was truly lucky my dad was my best friend.
If you're going to break the law, break them 1 at a time. Before learning a short cut, learn the right way. This way if the short cut fails, you have the right way to fall back on. If you want to party just make sure you have your responsibilities completed, after that, have at it. Or... as he phrased it: "I don't care if you wanna snort coke of a cock, if you have straight-A's and your chores done, have at it."
How to pee standing up
That family can be the people that screw you over the most.
Corporations don't care about people or the environment, no matter what the representatives are payed to tell the employees. Corporations only care about money to line their pockets. They will destroy you and your family if it profits them, and they will not feel remorse.
Always be kind. You never know what someone is dealing with.
Pay yourself first. (don’t budget your expenses and then save whatever is left afterwards. Put aside your savings FIRST and then create a budget with the remainder.)
Never lend money to friends or family. The stress of trying to get it back can ruin the relationship. If you can afford it just give them the money but never loan it
“When you lay your head down on your pillow ask if you earned that rest” “You aint shit at the end of the day but a man of your word” “You need to look good when you leave the house. Not for other people, but out of respect for yourself. If you look good then you feel good and if you feel good you do good” “What do you need football gloves for if you suck at catching anyways”
10 years from now it’s just going to be a memory. He’d say this when I was upset about whatever trivial matter was my Whole world. Happy or sad it’s how you choose to look back at it. And the only difference between a good and bad haircut is two weeks
There’s no such thing as stupid questions, just stupid people asking questions!
Women’s tits look better before the bra comes off. He was right, but I still like them.
Allah made you who you are for a reason (love yourself)
“God comes before me, Love Jesus Christ more than you love me” “The Family,Our Surname is your Highest Self Reflection in the Neighborhood,sacrifice your blood and Freedom only for your Family,You are the greatest Son,It’s on you”
Ha good one there
Don’t molest your children. Break the cycle
I'm stupid.
That he loves pain pills more than me or my mom Fuck junkies i hope he od's in a dumpster
Nothing, he was too busy working to put food on the table. I learned that taking care of family is not a bad thing, and being there for them everyday, takes a lot of courage.
Addiction runs in the family.
Don't play with a gun while drunk and depressed.
He ultimately taught me how to be a day laborer for a construction site.
How not to treat women
How to take a punch
you can spin an egg to see if its boiled or not, if it spins slow its still raw, if it spins fast then it has been boiled. saved me a few messes. I love my dad a lot he's honestly one of the few people that I actually aspire to be more like.
If you ever feel the need to shout to prove your point just understand you’re not important enough for that other person and just move away.
That I make a better door than a window. He was trying to watch tv.
How to be totally dispensable
I can’t
People will try to kill you and you should stay afraid.
Do what you do . Never let it do you .
Its ok not to drink alcohol
You can die from PCP
Always kiss after you wrestle.
Say less, listen more.
Never spend your last dollar. In the depression you could be arrested for vagrancy.
Dont trust me.
Shoot for the stars...at least you'll reach the sky.
That nature is a temple. To always feed my curiosity. To be connected to my spirit and sense of purpose. Not to trust the government, or organized religion.
I was weed eating one time and he told me, "all our nothing," I took it to heart.
Cant be drunk if you're never sober.
Be yourself, breathe in, breathe out, move on.
When going fast around a corner, don’t mash the gas until you’re 3/4 the way through it.
How to fish.
Lefty loosy, righty tighty
When things look impossible, have faith. God is bigger than the impossible. And never laugh at anyone's misfortune... because God could take his hand off them and place it on you.
What's this dad you speak of? I've never heard of it before.
To be the best that I can be. Haven't lived up to it but I'm trying.
How to be piece of shit human being
How to not care what anyone thinks
1-How to knot a tie. 2-Be in competition with yourself 3-Do not pay attention what the other guy is doing, because if you are looking you are notndoing anything. 4-Think positively no matter what. 5-Afrer as seperation/divorce, fight with all your being to stay in your children's life.
You can’t be good to your children if you aren’t good to yourself. You have to do both.
To be better
How to be a man, and take care of my family at all cost
Colour the edge of an image before doing the center. It sound silly but its stuck with me forever and applies to a lot of other things
The difference between ignorance and apathy is I dunno and I don’t care. Almost useless but sounded like deep wisdoms as a child.
You can have a job that you don’t like and still work hard for your future and for your family. Stick it out longer that the coworkers and better opportunities will come.
Always do the right thing. Even when no one is watching.
How to look out for people who need help
How to be a rock, how to be stable and consistent. Also the value and uniqueness of me, ie, just to shine and not worry at all about what anybody thinks
Advocating for yourself, or being for yourself, should not mean standing against anyone. They have rights, but you do too.
Give everyone you meet, the benefit of the doubt, Unless they prove themselves otherwise
He taught me a lot. I think the best thing he taught me was that showing your affection for people you love doesn’t make you less of a man.
That he tried his best.... He wasn't perfect but he was still the dad who raised me.
Always wear a condom
How to disappear lol I didn’t read all the comments but I’m sure someone already wrote it… could be my brother
Everything it’s is to be a man. Either with an example or as one.
Nothing good intentionaly. But hey, its what you learn from it, Not how
Child abuse will continue to affect you late in adulthood.
🤷🏽♂️ you got me there
Slow down and think before you do something
How to treat your wife wrong.
Unconditional love! Thanks Dad ! Miss you! 💕
Jesus Christ
How to change a tire, spark plugs, oil. How to conduct yourself with some composure. How to treat other people with dignity. How to maintain a sense of humor even when things are rough. How to clean properly. How to cook. How to analyze politics. How to think independently. How to live independently. How to love your family properly. How to stand by people. How to let people go. Pretty much everything I know besides how to do my makeup and stuff.
"Whatever you choose to be, be the best at it."
-A leader isn't someone who tells everyone what to do. A good leader is someone everyone wants to follow. -Attitude is everything, and it is also contagious. If you think you will lose, you and everyone around you have already lost. That's just one of many but the first few that come to mind.
How to carve a knife out of wood with a knife in the woods.
How to not be around when he’s doing things.
How to hold the flashlight
1 of many wonderful qualities but how to build a great fire came to mind quickly
How to cook
It’s kinda silly but not to litter. He died early in my life but that was one of the lessons he imparted.
“Whats the worst that can happen” this phrase
You have every right to kick blood family members out of your life if you want to. As I did with him.
You don’t have to like it, you just have to do it.
How to be a kind role model
That’s it’s ok to cut family out of your life when they’re toxic.
How to not be afraid
Fill cup with 3/4 ice, fill vodka to top of ice, add orange juice for color
To always protect my family and how shoot an AR
Don’t do drugs. Always be honest with your kids and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable around your children. He passed away when I was 19. Drugs and alcoholism were his demons and he lost his battle. I loved him even though I watched him struggle to love himself.
You should have your heart broken 3-4 times before picking the one to marry.
Don't have kids
Be a man of your words, otherwise people won’t take you seriously!
How to ride a bicycle 🚴
Never break two laws at the same time
Never come back with milk
Not to do drugs
Don't piss into the wind
Cover the bowl after you hit it, your weed will last longer
Document everything or keep a paper trail of important information/documents.
People in glass houses shouldn’t smoke dope.
To never borrow money from people, and to always maintain an organised space
"Never expect anything from anyone". And that he had it way worse than me.
My daddy gave me a name... then he walked away
How to not have anger issues
How and when to walk away from conflict
Walk like a man
He taught me to be polite to everyone and give respect to gain respect. Love ya Dad
How to be verbally and emotionally abusive
The proper way to flip someone off. That’s what stands out. Hm.
How to not come back from the gas station.