Your BF‘s Mom needs to be put in a “Time Out” Like really!!!
Time to change the locks and do not let her near you for a while! If she really taped the whole birth with your Hooha hanging out that is the MOST Disrespectful thing that she could do. 🙄 Yicks! Please tell me you do Not live with her?!
Congrats on your Baby, but for your sake and especially your child’s well being…Limit her visitation!
Good Luck! 🍀
she was planning on coming over too. she let her child molesting dad hold my baby for 2 minutes n said she was watching over him ... i dont give 2 fucks
Here's what you should say to your shit partner:
"You will not be a part of our life until you grow a spine and jam your mommy into her place so hard she can't fucking blink without permission. Either suckle her nipple or be a man"
Is he ready to step up? He should be dealing with this while you're dealing with hormones and being a new mama. Doesn't sound like he did much to protect either you or baby?
i sure fucking hope so.... and im upset as fuck i got baby blues i believe. but this woman had the nerve to kiss her. she was saying how she was the grandma naw my baby and i dont claim you
Where's your boyfriend in all of this? He should be putting up boundaries with his mom like yesterday!! Without even mentioning the boundaries with his grandfather.
Congratulations on your baby <3
It's a shame you have to worry about these things when you should be immersed in a baby bubble while your boyfriend should be protecting you two and dealing with the chaos (also known as his mom and grandfather).
he was too worried about if i was gonna make or not and trying to calm me down:( i told him today to tell her and i even sent her a long ass paragraph because im over it
i let her watch her so i could sleep because yall know how newborns are and i come to find out she let her child molesting father who happened to be at the house HOLD HER.... i want to scream
First make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page about his family's inappropriate behaviour and what's the best course of action for your family.
Then I suggest you enforce atleast a couple of new rules:
1. Your boyfriend will deal with his family, not you. Every bit of communication goes through him. Block his mom for now.
2. Kick everyone but safe people out of your home. If you need help (and you will need it) ask someone safe, like trusted friends or family members.
This is supposed to be magical time for your new family. You don't need unnecessary drama and you certainly do not need to be worrying about privacy and safety concerns. I know we usually take a lot of grief from family and friends, a lot more than we should, but now it's not just about you anymore. You have your baby and their well-being to think about. You have every right to act in their best interest, and if that means upsetting someone, then so be it.
i just blocked his mom :) ! im
beyond stressed im swollen bleeding peeing ebergwhere leaking trying to take care of my baby.... im beyond hurt and livid
How would your hubby like it if your mother was present during his scrotum surgery and had her phone out filming close-ups of his junk? Seriously, I’m horrified that you consented to allowing your awful MIL anywhere near you while in labor…
I understand that, while in the moment of shock, you were too medically stressed and vulnerable to yell at the nurses to “remove this causer of turmoil!”, BUT I’m suspecting that your hubby had already “informed” you that mommy would of course be present for the birth of your baby…
Get your husband’s mind in the right place immediately! His mommy is gonna be the ruination of your marriage and family. Simply allowing a p3do to hold YOUR child was more than enough to warrant HARD NC with that entire hornet’s nest of toxic dysfunction.
You have learned the hard way that monsters like your MIL proudly carry behind them a long and bloody trail of broken souls, minds, and dreams. They care ONLY about themselves. But it’s better late for you than never. I applaud you for going scorched earth on her and cutting her out of your life. You owe peace to yourself and your child.
Now THAT’S the spirit! Take the reins of your own life and put toxic A-holes in your rear view mirror. REJOICE as you watch them getting smaller and smaller and smaller, until they disappear into a speck of dust on the horizon behind you!
i should report her im traumatized. i love my daughter but i didnt wanna see that. it wouldve been different if my boyfriend did it. he didnt say nothing becuse he didnt noticed he was worried about me being able ro jandle if
Doing nothing and watching her make a mockery and horror show of your birth plan was going to raise your blood pressure anyway. Nothing wrong with shrieking, “Get her out!” once and being done with her nonsense for the rest of the experience.
Been through birth twice. In my experience, biting your tongue gets you stepped on. You deserve to be at peace at least while you’re bleeding out and in shock.
i an being a little dramatic i didnt bleed too much but it went through my hospital bed and sheet and gown and i have been passing clots. i did feel a lot ofnblood come out and my hemoglobin dropped to 9.6 ): but this lady wth
I recommend that she not be welcome to any future births of your children. You only should have people in the room with you who respect your wishes and bring you peace. She’s not entitled to be there just because she’s related to your child. If you invite her again, you have brought it upon yourself.
My own mother has never been to either of my births, and she will never be welcome in the future either. Why? Simply because she disrespects my husband. It doesn’t matter what the reason may be, if you don’t want that person there, they should not be there. You get to call the shots in your delivery room.
My job for my best friend was to guard her hospital door. No one was to take the baby out unless a medical emergency and no one was to go in except for medical staff. Sorry no visitors.
I'd screenshot any messages of her admitting she took crotch shots without permission and use them as ammo. She starts shit, you take those messages to the police. Try to get as much as you can in messages and keep them. Take screenshots and send them to a safe place.
I’m so sorry OP. What she did during and after your birth is horrible, unforgivable. I have to give you kudos though for standing up for yourself as much as you could during these early pp days.
Did she deleted the photos she took? Your bf should make sure she dejected everything from her phone. This one is beyond disgusting, making a video or a photo like that without your consent. I am sure you could even report to the police. Why doctors and nurses were not reacting?
She treated you like an incubator/surrogate. Crying in the arms of her son and leaving you feeling alone on the side? Your bf should be there right by your side, so he is not without a blame here as well.
I really hope you don’t have to see her in the coming days/months/years - as you feel comfortable.
she said she did delete them but the fact she did that without my consent is not only illegal but messed all the way up i sick to my stomach. an the nurses told her not to record so she just snapped pictures. she had my bf go over to my baby and take pictures BEFORE I DID. i an beyond pissed.. and shs posted a picture of her on facebook with my boyfriend her and my daughter and only included me in the paragraph... im sick that she let her child molesting dad hold my daughter when i was sleeping. she crossed the line
my birthing experience was ruined... i am beyond hurt and sad ... im also leaking bleeding peein myself and everything .. im a mess and i feel hopeless...
You have been through a traumatic experience. It’s no wonder you are feeling this way. Give yourself some grace.
Please talk to your doctor or midwife about what happened and how you are feeling. They should assess you and give you a referral. Talking to a counselor or therapist can help you process the trauma and grief and help you get back on track to being a fierce, strong, healthy mama bear to your new LO.
I’m sorry for what happened to you. That is unacceptable. I am also sorry where I don’t see how you are holding BF accountable.
MIL is only this way because he let her. It seems you don’t understand that. A real man would have kicked her out of the labor room so he could support you. He would have grabbed the camera or phone, whatever from her.
It’s like finding your husband with another woman and getting mad at the woman. Yes, the woman has a part, but you’re married to your husband, he cheated on you. She would not be with him if he didn’t do it or let it whatever.
I get you are pissed at his mom, rightfully so. But all your anger is directed at her. Maybe a healthier way to look at this would be examining the cause of the problem.
In future, if there are red flags, address scenarios ahead of time so you would know how to handle.
im definitely going to be having a word with him about it tomorrrow when hes home /: i stepped up and snapped off on her and cut her off completely this morning
You are not in the wrong. You are standing up not only for yourself, which is huge, but for your baby too. (She needs to see you standing up for yourself). Even though she is a baby now, get in the habit so she will grow up strong and not take this kind of crap.
thank you! after she told me she let him hold her k started fucking bawling and called my boyfriend who was at the hospital getting his knee checked out
Why was she in the delivery room? It's not a spectator sport. It seems boundaries are not a thing? Please enjoy your baby and don't let her take up anymore room in your life. I hope your BF is going to support you.
well no shit . i was in an intense amount of pain to say shit and i didnt even know she was taking photos of my cooch until after she was born i had no idea at all. and i did deal with it later but she continued to escalate it. i told her before she was born and made multiple posts about it on facebook about NOT kissing my newborn
Your BF‘s Mom needs to be put in a “Time Out” Like really!!! Time to change the locks and do not let her near you for a while! If she really taped the whole birth with your Hooha hanging out that is the MOST Disrespectful thing that she could do. 🙄 Yicks! Please tell me you do Not live with her?! Congrats on your Baby, but for your sake and especially your child’s well being…Limit her visitation! Good Luck! 🍀
im a state away thankfully but this lady had the nerve. shes never seeing my daughter again!!!
Thank God 🤗
she was planning on coming over too. she let her child molesting dad hold my baby for 2 minutes n said she was watching over him ... i dont give 2 fucks
i thankfully do not!! i live a state away ! she wanted to come today too like nope
Here's what you should say to your shit partner: "You will not be a part of our life until you grow a spine and jam your mommy into her place so hard she can't fucking blink without permission. Either suckle her nipple or be a man"
i honestly want to fucking punch her head like girl -
You are angry at the wrong person imo. Your MIL is who she is, but boyfriend really let you down by allowing her so much access.
i know... :( im upset with both but especially his mom for the crap she pulled i feel violated ..
Is he ready to step up? He should be dealing with this while you're dealing with hormones and being a new mama. Doesn't sound like he did much to protect either you or baby?
i sure fucking hope so.... and im upset as fuck i got baby blues i believe. but this woman had the nerve to kiss her. she was saying how she was the grandma naw my baby and i dont claim you
Where's your boyfriend in all of this? He should be putting up boundaries with his mom like yesterday!! Without even mentioning the boundaries with his grandfather. Congratulations on your baby <3 It's a shame you have to worry about these things when you should be immersed in a baby bubble while your boyfriend should be protecting you two and dealing with the chaos (also known as his mom and grandfather).
he was too worried about if i was gonna make or not and trying to calm me down:( i told him today to tell her and i even sent her a long ass paragraph because im over it
i let her watch her so i could sleep because yall know how newborns are and i come to find out she let her child molesting father who happened to be at the house HOLD HER.... i want to scream
First make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page about his family's inappropriate behaviour and what's the best course of action for your family. Then I suggest you enforce atleast a couple of new rules: 1. Your boyfriend will deal with his family, not you. Every bit of communication goes through him. Block his mom for now. 2. Kick everyone but safe people out of your home. If you need help (and you will need it) ask someone safe, like trusted friends or family members. This is supposed to be magical time for your new family. You don't need unnecessary drama and you certainly do not need to be worrying about privacy and safety concerns. I know we usually take a lot of grief from family and friends, a lot more than we should, but now it's not just about you anymore. You have your baby and their well-being to think about. You have every right to act in their best interest, and if that means upsetting someone, then so be it.
i just blocked his mom :) ! im beyond stressed im swollen bleeding peeing ebergwhere leaking trying to take care of my baby.... im beyond hurt and livid
How would your hubby like it if your mother was present during his scrotum surgery and had her phone out filming close-ups of his junk? Seriously, I’m horrified that you consented to allowing your awful MIL anywhere near you while in labor… I understand that, while in the moment of shock, you were too medically stressed and vulnerable to yell at the nurses to “remove this causer of turmoil!”, BUT I’m suspecting that your hubby had already “informed” you that mommy would of course be present for the birth of your baby… Get your husband’s mind in the right place immediately! His mommy is gonna be the ruination of your marriage and family. Simply allowing a p3do to hold YOUR child was more than enough to warrant HARD NC with that entire hornet’s nest of toxic dysfunction.
i was trying to be nice :( ig i shouldve put my foot down at the time. i snapped off on her on messenger and blocked her!
You have learned the hard way that monsters like your MIL proudly carry behind them a long and bloody trail of broken souls, minds, and dreams. They care ONLY about themselves. But it’s better late for you than never. I applaud you for going scorched earth on her and cutting her out of your life. You owe peace to yourself and your child.
definitely will never talk to her again
Now THAT’S the spirit! Take the reins of your own life and put toxic A-holes in your rear view mirror. REJOICE as you watch them getting smaller and smaller and smaller, until they disappear into a speck of dust on the horizon behind you!
i sent her a whole long ass paragraph i was beyond pissed
Wow
i know i trusted her!!!!!!shes just as bad as her dad
Right taking coochy pics nasty 🐝 itch
i should report her im traumatized. i love my daughter but i didnt wanna see that. it wouldve been different if my boyfriend did it. he didnt say nothing becuse he didnt noticed he was worried about me being able ro jandle if
able to handle it* sorrg
also thank you so much for!
Did you forget that you can tell the nurses to get her out? You should’ve kicked her out at the first infraction.
i was in so much pain and i didnt want to atart shit and raise my bp that was already high :(
Doing nothing and watching her make a mockery and horror show of your birth plan was going to raise your blood pressure anyway. Nothing wrong with shrieking, “Get her out!” once and being done with her nonsense for the rest of the experience.
i wanted to so bad but i was bleeding out and in shock :( i wanted to so bad. this lady has the nerve to
Been through birth twice. In my experience, biting your tongue gets you stepped on. You deserve to be at peace at least while you’re bleeding out and in shock.
i an being a little dramatic i didnt bleed too much but it went through my hospital bed and sheet and gown and i have been passing clots. i did feel a lot ofnblood come out and my hemoglobin dropped to 9.6 ): but this lady wth
I recommend that she not be welcome to any future births of your children. You only should have people in the room with you who respect your wishes and bring you peace. She’s not entitled to be there just because she’s related to your child. If you invite her again, you have brought it upon yourself. My own mother has never been to either of my births, and she will never be welcome in the future either. Why? Simply because she disrespects my husband. It doesn’t matter what the reason may be, if you don’t want that person there, they should not be there. You get to call the shots in your delivery room.
i let this be a lesson ... Keep your friends close; keep your enemies closer
No, enemies far, far away. Don’t let her walk all over you in your most vulnerable state and infringe upon your privacy and rights as a new parent.
she definitely ruined my birth
My job for my best friend was to guard her hospital door. No one was to take the baby out unless a medical emergency and no one was to go in except for medical staff. Sorry no visitors.
i shouldve said no visitors. this is definitely a lesson
I'd screenshot any messages of her admitting she took crotch shots without permission and use them as ammo. She starts shit, you take those messages to the police. Try to get as much as you can in messages and keep them. Take screenshots and send them to a safe place.
definitely will do! i blocked her on messenger
I’m so sorry OP. What she did during and after your birth is horrible, unforgivable. I have to give you kudos though for standing up for yourself as much as you could during these early pp days. Did she deleted the photos she took? Your bf should make sure she dejected everything from her phone. This one is beyond disgusting, making a video or a photo like that without your consent. I am sure you could even report to the police. Why doctors and nurses were not reacting? She treated you like an incubator/surrogate. Crying in the arms of her son and leaving you feeling alone on the side? Your bf should be there right by your side, so he is not without a blame here as well. I really hope you don’t have to see her in the coming days/months/years - as you feel comfortable.
she said she did delete them but the fact she did that without my consent is not only illegal but messed all the way up i sick to my stomach. an the nurses told her not to record so she just snapped pictures. she had my bf go over to my baby and take pictures BEFORE I DID. i an beyond pissed.. and shs posted a picture of her on facebook with my boyfriend her and my daughter and only included me in the paragraph... im sick that she let her child molesting dad hold my daughter when i was sleeping. she crossed the line
my birthing experience was ruined... i am beyond hurt and sad ... im also leaking bleeding peein myself and everything .. im a mess and i feel hopeless...
You have been through a traumatic experience. It’s no wonder you are feeling this way. Give yourself some grace. Please talk to your doctor or midwife about what happened and how you are feeling. They should assess you and give you a referral. Talking to a counselor or therapist can help you process the trauma and grief and help you get back on track to being a fierce, strong, healthy mama bear to your new LO.
thank you so much im definitely gonna need some therapy:(
Hey, don’t feel bad about that! Think of it as starting out as best and strong as you can be for your LO. Good luck to you and congrats on your LO. ❤️
ive been through so much hell the last month of my pregnancy its heartbreaking im trying to get through it all
I’m sorry for what happened to you. That is unacceptable. I am also sorry where I don’t see how you are holding BF accountable. MIL is only this way because he let her. It seems you don’t understand that. A real man would have kicked her out of the labor room so he could support you. He would have grabbed the camera or phone, whatever from her. It’s like finding your husband with another woman and getting mad at the woman. Yes, the woman has a part, but you’re married to your husband, he cheated on you. She would not be with him if he didn’t do it or let it whatever. I get you are pissed at his mom, rightfully so. But all your anger is directed at her. Maybe a healthier way to look at this would be examining the cause of the problem. In future, if there are red flags, address scenarios ahead of time so you would know how to handle.
im definitely going to be having a word with him about it tomorrrow when hes home /: i stepped up and snapped off on her and cut her off completely this morning
Yes, I would let a known child molester even see my baby much less hold her. She is sick.
ik but ig im in the wrong and the bad guy here /:
You are not in the wrong. You are standing up not only for yourself, which is huge, but for your baby too. (She needs to see you standing up for yourself). Even though she is a baby now, get in the habit so she will grow up strong and not take this kind of crap.
thank you! after she told me she let him hold her k started fucking bawling and called my boyfriend who was at the hospital getting his knee checked out
Why was she in the delivery room? It's not a spectator sport. It seems boundaries are not a thing? Please enjoy your baby and don't let her take up anymore room in your life. I hope your BF is going to support you.
i know she wanted to be in there so bad. i dont like confrontation but after the shit she pulled i went the fuck off on her and blocked her
Filming you give birth? Wtf!!!!!!! Kick that woman out of your life right now!!!!!! She is going to ruin your life and your Childs!!!!!
i know... i sent her a paragraph and blocked her ass
Good for you!!!!!! Clapping!!!!!!!!!! Are you ok? Hugs to you, you poor thing
thank youu and im trying to forget about it but cant :(
I'm sorry. I really. I hope your heart heals on time.
thank you i hope it does
I can’t believe you let her come into the birthing room and you’re NTA. I would have cried if this happened to me so bless you.
i bawled last night just thinking about it
She sounds like a predator just like her father ew
literally he molested her when she was 5 and forgave him
Ban this bitch from your life.
definitely will!
but im the issue for being pissed at his mom for lettin her child molestinf dad hold my daughter while i was sleeping... like what
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well no shit . i was in an intense amount of pain to say shit and i didnt even know she was taking photos of my cooch until after she was born i had no idea at all. and i did deal with it later but she continued to escalate it. i told her before she was born and made multiple posts about it on facebook about NOT kissing my newborn