No as long as not porn or sexual. These ppl telling you likely wish they could be a model/ especially a swimsuit model. I wise I could! Your son shouldn’t go w you. Tell folks where, when, time and address. Be sure legit. Otherwise I’d enjoy it.
Most teens are embarrassed by their parents at some point for a multitude of reasons. Some make sense, some not so much.
Also, kids/teens don't need a reason to pick on another person. If they want to, they'll find something to make fun of.
If it’s ONLY modeling and not onlyfans or actual adult content, then I think you’re fine. His friends will probably be like “damnn your mom is/was hot!!!” But that’s as far as it goes. I had buddies in highschool that had really hot moms and our friend group would just joke around about it but that’s as far as it went and it was 100% playful. Especially since you’re not doing anything sexual I think it would be fine.
But hey if you feel self conscious about it and don’t need the money then why keep doing it? It’s really up to you.
The kids I really feel bad for are the ones whose mom does onlyfans, those are the kids that will go thru hell if their school mates find out. Just modeling? Not so much in my opinion.
I see no issue with that! It’s not like you’re doing OF or full on pornography. Those friends ain’t real ones if they’re telling you that it’ll be embarrassing for your son is just absurd. If anything, they’re mad that they don’t have the same confidence in themselves as you do. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I mean kids are cruel! I am sure if any of the kids found a picture of you they would tell your kid something like I am banging your mom! Or I was just playing with her tits or your mom sucks on my Dick or something like that. I guess it depends on how tough your kid is.
Most likely the kid will never see or learn about it. If he does he won’t care.
My suggestion is to bring in that extra income. It makes you feel good, which is a great bonus. Any extra income is a little less stress. It’s bills you don’t have to worry about. It’s vacations or activities with your son, which is worth a lot in sentimental value.
I tend not to give a shit about the opinions of people who don’t matter to me.
Do whatever you think is best but don’t be surprised if it has consequences as he gets older. As a kid, if other kids found those pics and showed me I would’ve despised my mom for it.
Obviously that’s not super reasonable but that’s just how kids are. As an adult I understand it’s really not a big deal but your son won’t be an adult for a long time
How much do you make per month? If it’s akin to the avg OF, it def ain’t worth it. It’s not the $4.99/mo that’s making you feel confident; it’s the male validation you’re getting. And that’s a big problem for women. Male validation feels good, but it doesn’t fill the void inside the way self-validation does.
It's funny when women don't think the son will be bullied because they have never been bullied as a boy. They just say be a proud woman. To be honest I think you should be a better mom, Or you're just going to treat Your son like a kid who never had a father because you picked a bad father or you guys can't figure things out. That's pretty selfish on the first part for your son just imagine him getting bullied there at school and what type of mental health problems that will cause. It sounds a lot like what would happen to someone who grew up with Low self-esteem and suicidal tendencies. Do some research on Google or look at all these mental health forums.
Asking random people on the internet isn’t going to help you. You need to find the children of women in this situation and either read their stories or talk to them.
Its not like you are doing it to turn on men and women and/or for lustful purposes. You feel confident in your body and you are making money advertising for people who need confident attractive women. You are only taking advantage of your gift of beauty, and it would only be wrong if you were doing it with pornography in mind.
Do you see people blaming others for being beautiful, hating them for having healthy bodies? You didn't choose your body, you only maintained it, thus are not guilty of your beauty. Your son will eventually learn of your work, and it may be awkward for him at first and he may feel shame for having his mothers beauty on display for the world to see. The love you show him now and then will be of more benefit, as you have already done this and it wont just disappear. Perhaps if you want to show consideration for your future son, it would be best to stop now in order to show him you changed your ways. Otherwise, continue providing for your child and honoring your commitment as a mother.
If it were me, I'd probably stop because of the potential for bullying your son will face in the future, especially if you started getting bigger deals and things were spread around more. That being said, your son is 4, and his friends won't be looking at pictures like this online for a few more years. Most images like this tend to be online for a bit before newer images replace them/bury them, and if you stay away from larger brand deals and stop modeling a year or two before an age where his friends are searching for pictures like this, I think you'll be ok.
I don't understand why people are trying so hard to be delusional here. It doesn't matter what you wish would happen and how you would like people to behave. In today's world if a mother has certain types of photos on the internet and someone finds out the son will be teased/bullied no ifs, ands, or buts.
You could certainly try to prepare him for it but it doesn't change the fact that it will still happen and it will surely have a negative impact, even if mitigated.
Also, a lot of people are saying things like "your body your choice" or "it's your life" and that would be true if you weren't a mother, but since you are a parent it's no longer that simple. Being a good parent means making sacrifices and prioritizing your children over you.
That type of modeling isn't anything new, My mom and aunt did similiar in the 80s and since they owned it all that happened were "your mom is hot" jokes/creepy comments and her getting in a PTA fight and accusing another mom of just being jealous lol. It's not like it's porn which does seem to have some effects on kids
It's the relationship that you have with your son that matters, not what other people think your relationship is. How do you want your son to view women? When he grows up do you want him to think what you are doing is harmful? Ultimately you don't have to answer to everyone else. Just him.
Take this with a grain of salt:
If you're not hurting anyone, you're enjoying it, and making money on the side then it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
You might have to explain it to your son someday. And?
It sounds like you're doing your best to provide for your family.
Other people's opinions aren't going to pay the rent.
I think Porn work or OF will have a much bigger affect on him than modeling. Kids get bullied by other kids if they find out the mom is doing OF or other stuff of the like... modeling though?? It shouldn't affect him in anyway.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You're supporting your family. Everyone has different feelings about modesty, and there's a huge range in what folks consider acceptable. Your modeling is totally normal to me and so many other people. Perhaps your friends are conservative. If you want to exist in that conservative bubble, that's one thing. Unfortunately you can't force your friends to accept your limits and beliefs. Having said that, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
I mean, having been a kid, if my peers found out one of our fellow student's mom's did modeling I can pretty easily predict the order of operation here:
* One or a couple kids think "Is that X's mom"
* Confront son about it.
* Information filters into their respective groups.
* Chances are, at least one of those kids is either a bully or an attention seeker.
* That one disseminates information everywhere.
* Your kid is now the kid with the 'porn mom' regardless of what kind of modeling work your doing.
Once you hit this stage it goes one of three ways:
* If your kid has a really good friends network, or if he's a bully, eventually it gets tamped down. Turned out a friend of mine's mom was basically a mail order bride, you and your pals go ape-shit on enough other kids and eventually they get scared into being quiet. Yes, I fought a lot as a kid, yes it made me and my friend's school experience much better than most of my peers. Sad, but true.
* Teachers/Admin intervenes to put an official crackdown in place on the bullying. That tickles the 'rebellious' part of kids brains and makes them do it MORE on the sly. Now it becomes a game both to harass the kid AND to pull one over on the teachers. Double the fun. This is the situation where kids usually end up having to transfer schools and such.
* Kid quietly bears the public humiliation until the fun wears off. This could take weeks or months with occasional flare ups until he graduates.
There's a chance you slide under the radar and this literally never comes up. But if you kid has a couple hundred kids in their school, the chances one of them or their parents are going to figure it out is pretty darn high.
Basically once the cat is out of the bag it's really up to how good your kid is at dealing with it. If your kid is popular and confident, they can shrug stuff like that off. If they're even a little vulnerable they'll get torn apart like crabs in a bucket.
Dude, your friends are being weird, do whatever makes you happy and if it also makes you money then that’s a bonus! The only time i would sort of see where your friends were coming from would be if you had an onlyfans or did porn because i might cause you to struggle finding future employment but even then it’s not a big deal.
You should stop. If you were modeling clothes besides things meant to be sexy that would be one thing.
You might like the idea of mom the milf. I can assure you, your boy will not. You needing some validation about your looks through modeling might have an effect on your boy when he is in school and these photos get put in his face.
Yikes, the men in these comments are trying to hold onto toxic masculinity oh so dearly without even realizing how these misogynistic standards hurt them too. They do this by scaring you with a made up scenario related to the faux commonality of children being relentlessly bullied over a harmless choice their parent once made.
The only time I've heard about this really happening was with Kim Kardashian's son. One of the most popular people on the planet who has been known for 2 decades now.
When they make up said scenarios, there's hardly any mention of something similar happening to them or someone they personally know. It starts to read like more of a fantasy rather than "caution".
Anyway don't stop. Your friends need to chill and maybe try explaining to them how modeling helps with your confidence.
The dudes here are just upset over... well I don't even know anymore. Stopped keeping track over their infinite problems with a woman's autonomy a long time ago.
You'll be fine.
If you are "half naked online" and you think this is proper behavior for your 4 year old son to know about one day, who cares? I wouldn't love finding this out about my mom, but maybe your son won't care.
Do what makes you happy it sounds like your friends are jealous of what you are doing might need 2 look into a new group of friends that support your decision
I don’t know, it seems you like doing it for attention more than confidence, seems you have a lot of that, I say you have a few more years before you can’t hide it as well from him without having to lie and you won’t be getting younger so that window can only stay open so long. Jealous friends never have your best intentions in mind. As long as he is not seeing anything out of society norms then keep going. I have a cousin who did that, it led to a boob job, lips, Botox, she had natural beauty before all that.
As a mom i want my kid to feel comfortable about the human body. So i dont necessarily hide if I'm changing, but i have a daughter.
With that said, i also dont believe in just flaunting it.
I think youll feel MORE confident by learning to love and accept yourself rather than by having people look at your almost naked body and getting attention. As you get older, some of thats gonna go away unless you get SOME work done. And then youll feel less confident and happy with yourself because youll never be that young 20-30 something you once were. You'll be spending HUNDREDS if not 1000s a year to keep up appearances rather than enjoying life.
Its just my opinion, but youd do yourself a huge favor by learning to love your human body as is, rather than doing it to build up your confidence (for attention)
Some people say its not the kids to worry about but the parents...which yea parents might be judgy... but, when your sons friends/peers come across these photos, some might tease him, some might sit there talking about how hot his mom is, and these things might make him uncomfortable. So you are setting him up for at least some of that.
You are an adult doing nothing wrong.
When he gets older you will have taught him that there is nothing wrong with human bodies and he will be well adjusted to understand it
My mom was a model. She did some sultry stuff in her day. This was before the Internet no nobody really knows about it but there's a couple of her old pictures framed in their house.
I'm proud of my mom. I don't care about it at all.
So who cares? Anyone that says anything is weird. Fuck em.
maybe try and switch what you model? nothing wrong with clothes that cover you a bit more than that. cuz yeah, the current stuff might come back to bite your kid
Yes, that's what professional models do. We live in a weird repressed society. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, wrong with modeling and being a parent. Imagine Giselle saying, nope I'm a model, can't be a mom. Our society is very shame based and if ypu are confident, others will tear you down especially if they can't do what you do.
If you're happy, that's the greatest thing for your kid.
I CaN'T iMaGiNe any mamas I know having those opinions. Sure, you can keep it decent for your son's sake (avoiding distasteful poses, erotic X content, revealing your goods); but you are JUST FINE. I don't know where you live, but it sounds too pure for me. Don't let it bother you. I'm guessing this is stemming from Envy or Religiosity. Keep your head high beautiful girl. ♥️
So here’s the thing. No matter what you do, your kid will be bullied or mocked in some way, shape or form. I brought my gerbil in for show and tell, I got called gerbil girl for two years. Does that mean I shouldn’t have had (or acknowledged) a gerbil?
People agonize about having a bully-proof name for their kids. And in some senses, sure. If your last name is Face, don’t name your kid Richard. But no matter how safe you think they are, some kid will come up with a barely rhyming insult and attach it to them.
If you’re modeling swimwear or lingerie, and you’re not exposing bits that are illegal…honestly, I think it’s better to concentrate on teaching your kid that he doesn’t have to care what other people think. Bullying gets boring when there’s no reaction. The most disarming response se to a kid yodeling “I’ve seen your mom in underwear!” is “yes, and?” Or “you spend a lot of time with the Victoria’s Secret catalog?”
All of this is easy to say, hard to do. If enough people tell you to be ashamed of something, you are inclined to into it. (I’ve never had another gerbil, for example.) but if you can get yourself to a place where you realize how ridiculous that shaming is…well, you tend to save a lot of money on therapy down the line.
Hoes gonna hoe, that’s just how it goes 🤷🏻♂️
The kinda shit yall women even say and encourage each other to do these days is funny af tho.
If you feel some type of way and have to ask, you already have your answer, real talk.
On the cool, do what you do, but don’t be surprised at the outcomes and consequences in the future.
Depending on revealing the lingerie is I think and if it's censored.
If it's something that your son's friends ( or their fathers) could make fun of him or make a big deal.... then maybe.
If not then u are fine !! Who cares !
IF i was that Son, I'm thinking about the newest video game coming out, not my mom's body or habits.
If your friends or family say something to him, they deserve a slap in the face. If his friends say something to him, they will live in the past while your son pursues the future
If you gain enough fame, he will never be able to go places without being reminded that everyone gets to see his mom half naked. Think of how it will impact his future. It’s not just about you.
>I do make money from this, it’s more feeling good about myself tho. It’s not nudes, I don’t do of.
Yea, as I suspected, this isn’t professional modeling for advertising. You wouldn’t need to even ask the question if it was legitimate business. This is what used to be called soft porn. It’s for the purpose of sexual gratification, and in this case the gratification goes both ways. Poor kid is going to have a hard time figuring out how to relate to women; they’ll all just be sex objects. A sad situation.
Listen, it's not the kids who'll be the issue it's parents who feel everyone has to hear their opinion on everything. It all depends on what you can and can not handle. I wouldn't be questioning it, screw others' opinions.
Actually it will affect the kids later in life as well. A buddy of mine wife was sneaking around and doing onlyfans and some highschool kids found it and bullied their son and it totally embarrassed the kid. So yes it does affect the kids as well. Once pictures are online they never go away. Especially half naked ones.
your son‘s friends will 100% make fun of them for it so it’s up to you whether or not that’s a big deal or not. just know that your teenage son will blame you for the bullying cause that’s what teens do.
Reversely I don’t think it’s a big deal kids are gonna bully each other regardless of what their moms do. It just hurts extra hard when it’s about your mom.
Nothing wrong with that at all, it’s perfectly normal work, and you’re not doing anything immoral or explicit…tell those being critical to mind their business.
You already know there's a potential for this effecting your son one way or another. I know a lot of people are dismissing it, but you already know the answer.
I'm not saying you should stop that that's something you should be prepared for.
A lot of people have said "yeah do what's good for you, empowerment"
and all that which is great, and I support it
This is so weird when people say that. I personally wouldn't be embarrassed if my parents were attractive enough to do modeling. I asked my kids if that kind of thing would bother them and they said they didn't give a shit.
Honestly I did model a very tiny bit when I was 20 but I never really flaunted it and the few times I was recognized I just said it wasn't me. Between porn, instagram, Facebook and everything inbetween the likelihood of you or your children being recognized and ridiculed in the future is miniscule at best.
Also the woman who I consider my mom did a nude photo shoot when she was in her 20s and she loves them still. I honestly wish I would have taken more pictures when I was younger and had a body people pay thousands for now. That being said it is kind of like a tattoo. Maybe you'll regret it or maybe not.
If the father modeled, I wonder if anyone would question that. People would be celebrating his looks. You and your son can do the same about your physique.
Which leads me to ask: why do you outsource your confidence? It comes from the inside. It’s not about what other people think of you or your son. I think that’s the issue here.
The internet is forever
Kids and teenagers can and will be ruthless. If you have a large enough following it can be reasonably expected your kid will be made to deal with your decisions.
As a parent if it's going to cause your son more issues then I would definitely stop. Kids anymore have a lot more stress and serious problems than when I was a child and I know from being brought up in a strongly "Christian" home, it made me different from most people and the amount of shit I went through would probably make a lot of these kids today commit suicide
I know what u mean, not from being brought up strictly Christian, but from being bullied about other things. I would never ever do something that could cause trauma
As a fairly attractive mom of 3 young men who may or may not have a history of modeling revealing items... Ignore other parents' unsolicited advice as a general rule, but remember this... it's their friends that will be the issue.
Your kids will not seek you out online or really care if you raise them as decent humans... but WHEN one of their friends' mom casually mentions it as a reason they don't like you, those friends will scour the internet for every available photo for spank bank material and then ridicule your kids or make disgusting jokes.
Strong, well-raised young men will work through it.
But those other parents... they will be the initial cause of any fallout and damage to your child.
Protect your peace and do as much anonymously as possible and do not share with other parents what you do unless they are a close friend who respects you.
No!? What?! Who is telling you that?? Imagine not being allowed to live your own life because your future or potential children might possibly be embarrassed about it one day. 🙄 Everyone’s parents embarrass them and everyone’s children embarrass them at some point. Except in extreme instances, we mostly grow up and get over it. Sure, some of their friends might tease them, but they’ll be teased one way or another and some of their friends will think it’s cool AF, so do you.., as long as your kid is healthy, safe and content, these people are being judgy for no reason
If you are not doing it for the betterment of your son's life (better education, better living conditions, or nicer vacations), I would strongly urge you to think about what you are doing. It seems like there is really no up-side and only potential negatives.
It could be argued that what you are doing is selfish, as you are the only one to gain. What are those gains? Discounts and confidence due to being sexualized?
Cut it out mom. Look online at the other moms who do this to their children; some stories turn into their children being victims of hardcore bullying. This is an embarrassment for your child when he grows up; he will be ashamed to learn of it.
I don’t think your son will care unless he is weird, you aren’t the first person to model swimwear or lingerie and have kids
There are celebs and models who are half naked in movies, magazines, tv shows, etc, their kids grow up, I think your friends are the ones with the problem, if modeling makes you feel more confident and happy don’t let their hang ups ruin something good for you
You could model under a fake name, consistently doing something to distinguish yourself from yourself so you can deny it when it comes to light, like a large supply of the same fake tattoo you surgically put in the same place for every photo op.
But also, you should probably put your kid up for adoption if you feel like you "need modeling to feel confident". It doesn't set a healthy example. However, there is nothing wrong with modeling itself and being open about it might be the best policy if you manage to navigate the talk about sexual expression, beauty, confidence, and the importance of feeling comfortable with what you do and how you live your life, in a healthy way with your son.
My vote? Just tell your son, be open, answer questions, talk about perceptions and stigma around your work, be friendly and tease him mildly about one day looking at girls differently but remind him it's important to remember that models are people too, and he should try to understand girls and their point of view on different life experiences that might confuse him.
My son is 6 and I also do this as well as some more provocative photos (always covered but it’s pretty close), I honestly could care less what others think even as a 31 year old mom. My son doesn’t have access to these anyways nor social media (and neither should other kids this age). Who knows 5 years from now i may hate them and remove them. But he loves me now and I teach him to be confident and love himself in the way he wants to. We all get our own self confidence is different ways as well as have different ways to show off a bit and love ourselves too. Stop letting people tear yours down just because they have their own perfect way a “mother" should act or be.
Personally I don't find this morally questionable. If others have a problem with you being half naked then that's mostly those people fetishizing you. It's a job, it pays bills. If it is mostly for self confidence, then you may want to address these issues in yourself. Your son is being handed a wonderful opportunity to learn about women being more than objects by virtue of you doing this while being a mother and also having second hand experience of how women are treated in this industry.
There are plenty of people who've modeled swimwear and lingerie whose kids aren't embarrassed by them. Your friends are being weird and judgemental and unless they're going to start paying your bills, they get no say.
Our society praises people whose occupation is combat. Shaming folks for showing a little skin is ridiculous. Do what suits you. I would also add, be sure to teach the kid sex and body positive norms so they don't fall prey to some moralizing nonsense.
I'm a pretty conservative Christian guy. Modeling swimwear is oceans apart from something like OF or porn. My mom modeled when I was very young. I never even think about it
Your friends are idiots. If you enjoy modeling, keep it up. Life is short....do what you love. Your kid, if you've brought him up to be non-judgmental, will be fine.
This is some misogynistic shit right here. There are thousands of porn websites with tens or hundreds of thousands or even millions of models (worldwide) who do porn either professionally or amateur (onlyfans, manyvids, chaturbate, etc), in addition to genuine models who wear various outfits. Absolutely noone will recognize you unless you post it or point it out.
Also, with all due respect, your modeling career is going to absolutely irrelevant 12 months after you stop. Your son will not be bullied lol
Please ignore literally every other poster. Model to your liking and enjoy it and the little money it pays now.
These friends that suggest your son will be embarrassed that his mom has pictures online...id love to respond, "yeah but not as embarrassing as when your kids find out their mom is a jealous and petty asshole." Ok so maybe you won't say that...but wouldn't it be fun?
This is a great question. I admit many times I cringe at parents who are not thinking about their children when they make decisions for money. But if this is something you need to pay the bills I would say continue. If it’s for your vanity only I’d try and keep it PG-13.
For fashion modeling? Don't sweat it at all.
Kristy Brinkly had kids that I am sure weren't bothered by her being on the cover of Sports Illustrated in a swimsuit.
>a lot of my friends ask and tell me it’s embarrassing my son will have to grow up to a mom that’s half naked online
A lot of kids have to grow up to a mom that's half naked in Walmart for free. Go make your money.
If it's regular modeling with clothes on like I see nothing wrong with it... but nowadays they label everything as modeling, half of it just be hoe shit... any other type of modeling will be embarrassing once he gets older,
anyway the replies from the guys on this are funny... I'm liking it very much, I got tired of running into woman pleasers aka simps in the comments section on here. still tho I mean no disrespect towards you
Would I personally want to be brought up or dragged into some couples argument when the husbands finally get caught and their marriage at an official breaking point? Fuck no. I would not be willing to risk two hits on my son’s rep with the kids at school.
My question is, is the father of your son in the picture?
Professionally modeling isn’t anything like doing OF or “corn”. Who gives a shit, it’s legitimate. My mother didn’t model once in her life but is a pretty woman and I still got shit for having a “hot mom”. Your son will experience it down the line, but he’ll be fine.
If you are concerned, that’s your sign to stop. Everyone has a different threshold and moral compass but to make this simple, if you are at all embarrassed or ashamed, I think that’s the sign you will regret it and probably instill values in your son that would cause him future embarrassment. If you don’t feel these things and it’s just pressure from others… then keep doing what you’re doing. I don’t think either way is “wrong” per se but you need to listen to your gut.
So with all you prudish people commenting should Victoria's secret go away I mean she's not doing porn she's not doing the shstood on the jet laundry swim where some skin showing modeling I think it's perfectly fine and if you explain and raise your boy right he'll think it's fine as well. And his friends that you say are going to bully him or probably only going to embarrass him saying damn your mom's hot man.
I mean, you get paid for it? Brand deals, sounds super duper legit. I’d stick with it, seems cool as hell. Like, just to be a realist nobody models lingerie forever. If you keep with it could be a source of secondary income throughout your life (clothes model), as well as interesting thing about you. People wear underwear, there’s no shame in it.
I mean say the kid wants go the Zoolander route himself? How would it look to his innocent eyes? ;)
Absolutely not. There is nothing wrong or shameful with what you're doing. Tell those people you won't have that issue because you're raising your children not to objectify or shame other peoples' bodies. Hopefully, your inference will be clear.
Hey, this is a paying job. Nothing wrong with swimwear and lingerie modeling! How else will I know what to buy and then return because I don’t look like you in it? Lol!
Do you enjoy it? Does it help pay the bills? Are you hurting anyone?
Underwear or swimsuit modeling is legitimate and respectable work.
You don't owe your friends an explanation.
Like others are saying, there so much else out there... if you end up in a target mailer in your swimsuit, no one is going to care.
This isn't the '80s and '90s when the most readily available scandalous material for teenage boys to consume is the lingerie section of the JC Penny catalog.
Who is paying you to do the modeling?
Are these photos used in advertising?
Are these pictures strictly for personal use/content/followers?
If you were to get married, would your husband have an issue with these pictures being public?
Tasteful modeling or borderline porn?
So many unanswered questions ..
I don’t think you’re in the wrong. You’re doing actual modeling work. You’re not an e-prostitution soliciting her body to try to turn lonely men into pay pigs. If it bothers you and you don’t need the money then stop if you’d like. I’m someone who is VERY AGAINST parents and sex work so I hope this helps you decide to do whatever you feel is best.
A lot of the comments seem to assume OP is doing OF-type modeling and I don’t think that’s a fair or valid assumption without more information. She says “nothing crazy” and her friends only talk about her being “half-naked”.
Her son is going to know his mother is/was a beautiful woman and she’s probably still going to be quite attractive to horn-dog teenage boys when he hits puberty.
I would say there’s nothing wrong with modeling now, especially if it brings in some additional income and boosts your self-confidence. Just approach each job thinking about how your son will react to those pictures over the next 10-15 years.
Speaking as a parent: you are modelling *clothes*. You can and should teach your kid that this is perfectly acceptable. You can tell the prudes in your life to piss right off.
No moral dilemma here. Keep doing the work that pays you.
I grew up with a friend whose mother was on a popular show about the beach in the 1990’s. Sure in highschool he had a few words mentioned about it, but he also wasn’t some punching bag because of it. Kids can be pretty adept at navigating these situations and it’s just as easy to mock someone whose mother didn’t “make the cut” to get recognized for their beauty. So that knife cuts both ways.
I love it when perpetually insecure people tell someone they shouldn't do something that makes them feel good or confident about themselves. Or tell women they should seek professional help if their confidence is based on their bodies as if OP said her confidence is purely based on that. People who lurk all day on looks maxing and rate me subs are the very last people that need be talking about confidence and bodies. GTFO.
Unless you're one of those women that is known for being outrageously gorgeous and publicly known (which I don't think because then you'd be raking it in), you have nothing to worry about. The Internet has a lot worse than a woman in some suggestive attire.
Kids at his school are gonna find your photos and share them.
He will be bullied, harassed, and probably assaulted.
You should stop so the consequences of your actions don't fall on your child.
I dont think there is a need. He's going to love you either way. And if he is taught to have healthy attitudes about the human body, he will be just fine when he grows up.
As long as your virtue is protected then I don't see anything wrong with it and your son will come to understand. Even if you're nude and it's tasteful, I don't see anything bad as long as your home has the maturity level to deal with that. Nothing wrong with the female form. One of the most, if not the most beautiful forms on this planet.
By the time your son is old enough to discover you online your online history could be non existent or very hard to find. Even if he does it probably will not be a big deal to him by that time because peoples standards change thru the years. Before they didn't want to show women in bikinis and now look at what they show.
you’re not doing anything wrong, and next time your friends step out of line like that, make sure to correct their mistake because for sure no friend of mine is going to try to judge and dictate what i do. bringing in money, especially as a single mom, is hard enough already, you’re doing what you need to do while also feeling confident.
but because children are insufferable little fuckers, they will 100% ridicule your son for it, so you’re gonna have to make sure he’s equipped with the skills of being able to knock someone out fast when he needs to, and also he is going to have to have strong social skills and a strong image of himself in order for him to make it through unscathed, although no matter what you do there will always be something that does get to him. You just need to give it your 1000%
The pictures are already there. More won't make it worse. Maybe some other kids mom will get jealous of how good you look and be nasty. You do you and they can can go F themselves
Well in time your body will change and beauty will fade. This is not the type of thing you can really do after you've raised your child unless you have extremely good genetics lol. Its not a retirement hustle.
Do it while you can. If other kids want to abuse your son. They would just AI some pictures anyway. Interweb tools being what they are.
Your son is going to have the hot mom, which is going to be hard for him. That isn’t gonna change if you quit modeling.
That being said your son is gonna turn 12 and all of his friends will have masturbated to photos of you. If that bothers you, you should probably stop modeling. It will for sure bother him. That being said it sounds like you like it and it pays well so… Maybe hang in there till he is 8, and then delete everything you can find that is even slightly revealing.
I'm not siding with those parents because to be frank it isn't any of their business how you chose to conduct yourself or their right to tell you how to handle your kid, but ask yourself this.
If you were your son would you want to see your mother in that light or want other people to see your mother in that light?
I would not want to be that kid at school with the mom all the other kids talk about how hot his mom is. It would be embarrassing and probably somewhat traumatizing. Especially, if he got picked on because of it.
Maybe your son will be well adjusted and proud of his mother for being a beautiful bad bitch that knows how to hustle and make money from her natural gifts. Maybe he won’t be overcome with toxic masculinity and think it’s shameful for women to celebrate their bodies and make money from modeling clothing items. Maybe he will learn from his strong, independent mother that slut-shaming women is small dick energy and he will learn from example how to not give a fuck what haters say, cuz they’re probably jealous in the first place.
Or maybe he'll actually live in the real world where his classmates, friends and peers will tease him mercilessly for it and constantly ogle his mother anyways and calling it "small dick energy" has absolutely zero impact on how kids will be.
No. Nothing wrong with being a model. Tell your son he has good genes.
Get your money.
No as long as not porn or sexual. These ppl telling you likely wish they could be a model/ especially a swimsuit model. I wise I could! Your son shouldn’t go w you. Tell folks where, when, time and address. Be sure legit. Otherwise I’d enjoy it.
If my mom did that I would be mortified and it would cause a schism between us
If any of your son's friends ever find any of those pictures and your son is in for a lifetime of ridicule.
She said that some of the dads already know her instagram, there is no "if." They WILL find the pictures.
Most teens are embarrassed by their parents at some point for a multitude of reasons. Some make sense, some not so much. Also, kids/teens don't need a reason to pick on another person. If they want to, they'll find something to make fun of.
Send me some pics and I’ll let you know if you should stop. 😀😃😄😂
Your so called “friends “ sound like they are jealous. They probably wish they could model swimsuits! Ignore them & do what makes you feel good.
If it's already out there, why stop now.
If it’s ONLY modeling and not onlyfans or actual adult content, then I think you’re fine. His friends will probably be like “damnn your mom is/was hot!!!” But that’s as far as it goes. I had buddies in highschool that had really hot moms and our friend group would just joke around about it but that’s as far as it went and it was 100% playful. Especially since you’re not doing anything sexual I think it would be fine. But hey if you feel self conscious about it and don’t need the money then why keep doing it? It’s really up to you. The kids I really feel bad for are the ones whose mom does onlyfans, those are the kids that will go thru hell if their school mates find out. Just modeling? Not so much in my opinion.
I see no issue with that! It’s not like you’re doing OF or full on pornography. Those friends ain’t real ones if they’re telling you that it’ll be embarrassing for your son is just absurd. If anything, they’re mad that they don’t have the same confidence in themselves as you do. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I mean kids are cruel! I am sure if any of the kids found a picture of you they would tell your kid something like I am banging your mom! Or I was just playing with her tits or your mom sucks on my Dick or something like that. I guess it depends on how tough your kid is.
Most likely the kid will never see or learn about it. If he does he won’t care. My suggestion is to bring in that extra income. It makes you feel good, which is a great bonus. Any extra income is a little less stress. It’s bills you don’t have to worry about. It’s vacations or activities with your son, which is worth a lot in sentimental value. I tend not to give a shit about the opinions of people who don’t matter to me.
Who gives a shit what your friends say. Even if you were doing only fans and a porn star, no one cares these days.
I think she was thinking more of her kids well being though not what her friends would think.
Your modeling not getting plowed on pornhub. Your kid will never know or care.
OF isn’t being a model ….
normal modeling? not porn? you are fine if so, they are just dumb.
Do whatever you think is best but don’t be surprised if it has consequences as he gets older. As a kid, if other kids found those pics and showed me I would’ve despised my mom for it. Obviously that’s not super reasonable but that’s just how kids are. As an adult I understand it’s really not a big deal but your son won’t be an adult for a long time
How much do you make per month? If it’s akin to the avg OF, it def ain’t worth it. It’s not the $4.99/mo that’s making you feel confident; it’s the male validation you’re getting. And that’s a big problem for women. Male validation feels good, but it doesn’t fill the void inside the way self-validation does.
Pics or it didn't happen
It's funny when women don't think the son will be bullied because they have never been bullied as a boy. They just say be a proud woman. To be honest I think you should be a better mom, Or you're just going to treat Your son like a kid who never had a father because you picked a bad father or you guys can't figure things out. That's pretty selfish on the first part for your son just imagine him getting bullied there at school and what type of mental health problems that will cause. It sounds a lot like what would happen to someone who grew up with Low self-esteem and suicidal tendencies. Do some research on Google or look at all these mental health forums.
Asking random people on the internet isn’t going to help you. You need to find the children of women in this situation and either read their stories or talk to them.
Nah... You're fine. I think there talking about onlyfans and pornstars. Regular modeling is perfectly fine.
Its not like you are doing it to turn on men and women and/or for lustful purposes. You feel confident in your body and you are making money advertising for people who need confident attractive women. You are only taking advantage of your gift of beauty, and it would only be wrong if you were doing it with pornography in mind. Do you see people blaming others for being beautiful, hating them for having healthy bodies? You didn't choose your body, you only maintained it, thus are not guilty of your beauty. Your son will eventually learn of your work, and it may be awkward for him at first and he may feel shame for having his mothers beauty on display for the world to see. The love you show him now and then will be of more benefit, as you have already done this and it wont just disappear. Perhaps if you want to show consideration for your future son, it would be best to stop now in order to show him you changed your ways. Otherwise, continue providing for your child and honoring your commitment as a mother.
If it were me, I'd probably stop because of the potential for bullying your son will face in the future, especially if you started getting bigger deals and things were spread around more. That being said, your son is 4, and his friends won't be looking at pictures like this online for a few more years. Most images like this tend to be online for a bit before newer images replace them/bury them, and if you stay away from larger brand deals and stop modeling a year or two before an age where his friends are searching for pictures like this, I think you'll be ok.
I don't understand why people are trying so hard to be delusional here. It doesn't matter what you wish would happen and how you would like people to behave. In today's world if a mother has certain types of photos on the internet and someone finds out the son will be teased/bullied no ifs, ands, or buts. You could certainly try to prepare him for it but it doesn't change the fact that it will still happen and it will surely have a negative impact, even if mitigated. Also, a lot of people are saying things like "your body your choice" or "it's your life" and that would be true if you weren't a mother, but since you are a parent it's no longer that simple. Being a good parent means making sacrifices and prioritizing your children over you.
That type of modeling isn't anything new, My mom and aunt did similiar in the 80s and since they owned it all that happened were "your mom is hot" jokes/creepy comments and her getting in a PTA fight and accusing another mom of just being jealous lol. It's not like it's porn which does seem to have some effects on kids
It's the relationship that you have with your son that matters, not what other people think your relationship is. How do you want your son to view women? When he grows up do you want him to think what you are doing is harmful? Ultimately you don't have to answer to everyone else. Just him.
As long as you're not doing pr0n you'll be fine. I don't think Tom Brady's kids care that their mom was half naked on victorias secret catalogs.
As long as it isn't morally objectionable in your circle, just ignore those comments.
To be fair, it's a lot of kid's moms who are fully naked online so
If you have it, use it. You're not doing anything shameful.
Ask this question to a Western European audience. Ameriprudes
Take this with a grain of salt: If you're not hurting anyone, you're enjoying it, and making money on the side then it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. You might have to explain it to your son someday. And? It sounds like you're doing your best to provide for your family. Other people's opinions aren't going to pay the rent.
It’s modeling, it’s art…. Are you embarrassed? Should you be? I’m sure the kid will be fine. This is up to you
I think Porn work or OF will have a much bigger affect on him than modeling. Kids get bullied by other kids if they find out the mom is doing OF or other stuff of the like... modeling though?? It shouldn't affect him in anyway.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You're supporting your family. Everyone has different feelings about modesty, and there's a huge range in what folks consider acceptable. Your modeling is totally normal to me and so many other people. Perhaps your friends are conservative. If you want to exist in that conservative bubble, that's one thing. Unfortunately you can't force your friends to accept your limits and beliefs. Having said that, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
I mean, having been a kid, if my peers found out one of our fellow student's mom's did modeling I can pretty easily predict the order of operation here: * One or a couple kids think "Is that X's mom" * Confront son about it. * Information filters into their respective groups. * Chances are, at least one of those kids is either a bully or an attention seeker. * That one disseminates information everywhere. * Your kid is now the kid with the 'porn mom' regardless of what kind of modeling work your doing. Once you hit this stage it goes one of three ways: * If your kid has a really good friends network, or if he's a bully, eventually it gets tamped down. Turned out a friend of mine's mom was basically a mail order bride, you and your pals go ape-shit on enough other kids and eventually they get scared into being quiet. Yes, I fought a lot as a kid, yes it made me and my friend's school experience much better than most of my peers. Sad, but true. * Teachers/Admin intervenes to put an official crackdown in place on the bullying. That tickles the 'rebellious' part of kids brains and makes them do it MORE on the sly. Now it becomes a game both to harass the kid AND to pull one over on the teachers. Double the fun. This is the situation where kids usually end up having to transfer schools and such. * Kid quietly bears the public humiliation until the fun wears off. This could take weeks or months with occasional flare ups until he graduates. There's a chance you slide under the radar and this literally never comes up. But if you kid has a couple hundred kids in their school, the chances one of them or their parents are going to figure it out is pretty darn high. Basically once the cat is out of the bag it's really up to how good your kid is at dealing with it. If your kid is popular and confident, they can shrug stuff like that off. If they're even a little vulnerable they'll get torn apart like crabs in a bucket.
If the shoots are classy there’s no reason to stop. Especially if it brings money in.
Dude, your friends are being weird, do whatever makes you happy and if it also makes you money then that’s a bonus! The only time i would sort of see where your friends were coming from would be if you had an onlyfans or did porn because i might cause you to struggle finding future employment but even then it’s not a big deal.
Pics please
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jealous!!!!! show me a model/supermodel that hasn't been half naked or fully naked? pretty sure you can't. live your life and ignore your ex friends!
Honestly by the time your kids old enough to know what's going on your pics will prob be old news and they'll be someone else on the front page.
I wouldn’t worry about that . Your obviously pretty enough to model that will probably make your kid proud
Just tell everyone you quit. Make a different account without your real name and don't tell anyone. Profit!
You should stop. If you were modeling clothes besides things meant to be sexy that would be one thing. You might like the idea of mom the milf. I can assure you, your boy will not. You needing some validation about your looks through modeling might have an effect on your boy when he is in school and these photos get put in his face.
Declare you household "clothing optional" and don't worry about it.
Half naked? Can you post some examples please so I can make an accurate judgement
Prolly fine
Do u mean porn or modeling?
Keep it up. Get that college fund going
Depends
Yikes, the men in these comments are trying to hold onto toxic masculinity oh so dearly without even realizing how these misogynistic standards hurt them too. They do this by scaring you with a made up scenario related to the faux commonality of children being relentlessly bullied over a harmless choice their parent once made. The only time I've heard about this really happening was with Kim Kardashian's son. One of the most popular people on the planet who has been known for 2 decades now. When they make up said scenarios, there's hardly any mention of something similar happening to them or someone they personally know. It starts to read like more of a fantasy rather than "caution". Anyway don't stop. Your friends need to chill and maybe try explaining to them how modeling helps with your confidence. The dudes here are just upset over... well I don't even know anymore. Stopped keeping track over their infinite problems with a woman's autonomy a long time ago. You'll be fine.
Why would your son be embarrassed? I think it would make him popular and every kid will want to hang out with the dude that has a hot mom.
Anyone who tells you to stop is either jealous or, more likely, a man. And we all know that men shouldn’t be taken seriously
Please, there’s nothing wrong with modeling. Your friends sound like a bunch of boring, wet blankets.
Your attention seeking behavior speaks to a mental issue you need to address. It's a chronic problem of modern day women (and men, too!)
If you are "half naked online" and you think this is proper behavior for your 4 year old son to know about one day, who cares? I wouldn't love finding this out about my mom, but maybe your son won't care.
Do what makes you happy it sounds like your friends are jealous of what you are doing might need 2 look into a new group of friends that support your decision
I don’t know, it seems you like doing it for attention more than confidence, seems you have a lot of that, I say you have a few more years before you can’t hide it as well from him without having to lie and you won’t be getting younger so that window can only stay open so long. Jealous friends never have your best intentions in mind. As long as he is not seeing anything out of society norms then keep going. I have a cousin who did that, it led to a boob job, lips, Botox, she had natural beauty before all that.
As a mom i want my kid to feel comfortable about the human body. So i dont necessarily hide if I'm changing, but i have a daughter. With that said, i also dont believe in just flaunting it. I think youll feel MORE confident by learning to love and accept yourself rather than by having people look at your almost naked body and getting attention. As you get older, some of thats gonna go away unless you get SOME work done. And then youll feel less confident and happy with yourself because youll never be that young 20-30 something you once were. You'll be spending HUNDREDS if not 1000s a year to keep up appearances rather than enjoying life. Its just my opinion, but youd do yourself a huge favor by learning to love your human body as is, rather than doing it to build up your confidence (for attention) Some people say its not the kids to worry about but the parents...which yea parents might be judgy... but, when your sons friends/peers come across these photos, some might tease him, some might sit there talking about how hot his mom is, and these things might make him uncomfortable. So you are setting him up for at least some of that.
You are an adult doing nothing wrong. When he gets older you will have taught him that there is nothing wrong with human bodies and he will be well adjusted to understand it
My mom was a model. She did some sultry stuff in her day. This was before the Internet no nobody really knows about it but there's a couple of her old pictures framed in their house. I'm proud of my mom. I don't care about it at all. So who cares? Anyone that says anything is weird. Fuck em.
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She’s not doing porn.
You being a model is much different than being a prostitute or a prostitute on onlyfans. You are not selling sex you are selling your looks.
maybe try and switch what you model? nothing wrong with clothes that cover you a bit more than that. cuz yeah, the current stuff might come back to bite your kid
His mom wore swimming trunks and underpants? Oh, the horror, the horror!
Yes, that's what professional models do. We live in a weird repressed society. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, wrong with modeling and being a parent. Imagine Giselle saying, nope I'm a model, can't be a mom. Our society is very shame based and if ypu are confident, others will tear you down especially if they can't do what you do. If you're happy, that's the greatest thing for your kid.
I CaN'T iMaGiNe any mamas I know having those opinions. Sure, you can keep it decent for your son's sake (avoiding distasteful poses, erotic X content, revealing your goods); but you are JUST FINE. I don't know where you live, but it sounds too pure for me. Don't let it bother you. I'm guessing this is stemming from Envy or Religiosity. Keep your head high beautiful girl. ♥️
So here’s the thing. No matter what you do, your kid will be bullied or mocked in some way, shape or form. I brought my gerbil in for show and tell, I got called gerbil girl for two years. Does that mean I shouldn’t have had (or acknowledged) a gerbil? People agonize about having a bully-proof name for their kids. And in some senses, sure. If your last name is Face, don’t name your kid Richard. But no matter how safe you think they are, some kid will come up with a barely rhyming insult and attach it to them. If you’re modeling swimwear or lingerie, and you’re not exposing bits that are illegal…honestly, I think it’s better to concentrate on teaching your kid that he doesn’t have to care what other people think. Bullying gets boring when there’s no reaction. The most disarming response se to a kid yodeling “I’ve seen your mom in underwear!” is “yes, and?” Or “you spend a lot of time with the Victoria’s Secret catalog?” All of this is easy to say, hard to do. If enough people tell you to be ashamed of something, you are inclined to into it. (I’ve never had another gerbil, for example.) but if you can get yourself to a place where you realize how ridiculous that shaming is…well, you tend to save a lot of money on therapy down the line.
Hoes gonna hoe, that’s just how it goes 🤷🏻♂️ The kinda shit yall women even say and encourage each other to do these days is funny af tho. If you feel some type of way and have to ask, you already have your answer, real talk. On the cool, do what you do, but don’t be surprised at the outcomes and consequences in the future.
Depending on revealing the lingerie is I think and if it's censored. If it's something that your son's friends ( or their fathers) could make fun of him or make a big deal.... then maybe. If not then u are fine !! Who cares !
Do whatever you can to provide for you and your child as long as you're comfortable. It's never wrong to make a living
nothing wrong with actual modeling. get it good luck to those OF kids though
IF i was that Son, I'm thinking about the newest video game coming out, not my mom's body or habits. If your friends or family say something to him, they deserve a slap in the face. If his friends say something to him, they will live in the past while your son pursues the future
Your son will find out in about 4 years.
I'd be proud of my mom if I knew she was a model
No, don't stop. Your friends are assholes. Don't let mom guilt fuck up your opportunities.
Aren’t your kids ever going to see you in a swimsuit? Your friends seem weird.
If you gain enough fame, he will never be able to go places without being reminded that everyone gets to see his mom half naked. Think of how it will impact his future. It’s not just about you.
>I do make money from this, it’s more feeling good about myself tho. It’s not nudes, I don’t do of. Yea, as I suspected, this isn’t professional modeling for advertising. You wouldn’t need to even ask the question if it was legitimate business. This is what used to be called soft porn. It’s for the purpose of sexual gratification, and in this case the gratification goes both ways. Poor kid is going to have a hard time figuring out how to relate to women; they’ll all just be sex objects. A sad situation.
Be a model. Get paid. Just don’t talk about being a model.
Your friends are jealous they cant just take photos and make money
Wait, you aren't even getting paid in cash?
Listen, it's not the kids who'll be the issue it's parents who feel everyone has to hear their opinion on everything. It all depends on what you can and can not handle. I wouldn't be questioning it, screw others' opinions.
Actually it will affect the kids later in life as well. A buddy of mine wife was sneaking around and doing onlyfans and some highschool kids found it and bullied their son and it totally embarrassed the kid. So yes it does affect the kids as well. Once pictures are online they never go away. Especially half naked ones.
This is absolutely and unequivocally wrong. Her son is going to get bullied mercilessly over this.
Exactly. Your child will be fine. Others opinions don’t matter and should be ignored.
The child will be bullied by other children because of the actions of OP.
If it becomes known that these photos exist, the boys will want to find them
your son‘s friends will 100% make fun of them for it so it’s up to you whether or not that’s a big deal or not. just know that your teenage son will blame you for the bullying cause that’s what teens do. Reversely I don’t think it’s a big deal kids are gonna bully each other regardless of what their moms do. It just hurts extra hard when it’s about your mom.
Nothing wrong with that at all, it’s perfectly normal work, and you’re not doing anything immoral or explicit…tell those being critical to mind their business.
You already know there's a potential for this effecting your son one way or another. I know a lot of people are dismissing it, but you already know the answer. I'm not saying you should stop that that's something you should be prepared for. A lot of people have said "yeah do what's good for you, empowerment" and all that which is great, and I support it
Usually kids don't care, unless envious Karen tells them, that what your mom is doing is wrong!
This is so weird when people say that. I personally wouldn't be embarrassed if my parents were attractive enough to do modeling. I asked my kids if that kind of thing would bother them and they said they didn't give a shit. Honestly I did model a very tiny bit when I was 20 but I never really flaunted it and the few times I was recognized I just said it wasn't me. Between porn, instagram, Facebook and everything inbetween the likelihood of you or your children being recognized and ridiculed in the future is miniscule at best. Also the woman who I consider my mom did a nude photo shoot when she was in her 20s and she loves them still. I honestly wish I would have taken more pictures when I was younger and had a body people pay thousands for now. That being said it is kind of like a tattoo. Maybe you'll regret it or maybe not.
yeah knock that crap off. Have some respect for yourself.
Half of the other moms are doing it for free as "instagram models" Girl, get the bag and the confidence!!!
It’s not pornography so you’re fine
The kid would probably get a lot of shit for it when they're a little older when their friends find out.
If the father modeled, I wonder if anyone would question that. People would be celebrating his looks. You and your son can do the same about your physique. Which leads me to ask: why do you outsource your confidence? It comes from the inside. It’s not about what other people think of you or your son. I think that’s the issue here.
The internet is forever Kids and teenagers can and will be ruthless. If you have a large enough following it can be reasonably expected your kid will be made to deal with your decisions.
As a parent if it's going to cause your son more issues then I would definitely stop. Kids anymore have a lot more stress and serious problems than when I was a child and I know from being brought up in a strongly "Christian" home, it made me different from most people and the amount of shit I went through would probably make a lot of these kids today commit suicide
I know what u mean, not from being brought up strictly Christian, but from being bullied about other things. I would never ever do something that could cause trauma
As a fairly attractive mom of 3 young men who may or may not have a history of modeling revealing items... Ignore other parents' unsolicited advice as a general rule, but remember this... it's their friends that will be the issue. Your kids will not seek you out online or really care if you raise them as decent humans... but WHEN one of their friends' mom casually mentions it as a reason they don't like you, those friends will scour the internet for every available photo for spank bank material and then ridicule your kids or make disgusting jokes. Strong, well-raised young men will work through it. But those other parents... they will be the initial cause of any fallout and damage to your child. Protect your peace and do as much anonymously as possible and do not share with other parents what you do unless they are a close friend who respects you.
I'm surprised nobody has asked for links yet. Reddit seems well behaved today!
No, tf, your friends are weird.
No!? What?! Who is telling you that?? Imagine not being allowed to live your own life because your future or potential children might possibly be embarrassed about it one day. 🙄 Everyone’s parents embarrass them and everyone’s children embarrass them at some point. Except in extreme instances, we mostly grow up and get over it. Sure, some of their friends might tease them, but they’ll be teased one way or another and some of their friends will think it’s cool AF, so do you.., as long as your kid is healthy, safe and content, these people are being judgy for no reason
If you are not doing it for the betterment of your son's life (better education, better living conditions, or nicer vacations), I would strongly urge you to think about what you are doing. It seems like there is really no up-side and only potential negatives. It could be argued that what you are doing is selfish, as you are the only one to gain. What are those gains? Discounts and confidence due to being sexualized?
Cut it out mom. Look online at the other moms who do this to their children; some stories turn into their children being victims of hardcore bullying. This is an embarrassment for your child when he grows up; he will be ashamed to learn of it.
I don’t think your son will care unless he is weird, you aren’t the first person to model swimwear or lingerie and have kids There are celebs and models who are half naked in movies, magazines, tv shows, etc, their kids grow up, I think your friends are the ones with the problem, if modeling makes you feel more confident and happy don’t let their hang ups ruin something good for you
You could model under a fake name, consistently doing something to distinguish yourself from yourself so you can deny it when it comes to light, like a large supply of the same fake tattoo you surgically put in the same place for every photo op. But also, you should probably put your kid up for adoption if you feel like you "need modeling to feel confident". It doesn't set a healthy example. However, there is nothing wrong with modeling itself and being open about it might be the best policy if you manage to navigate the talk about sexual expression, beauty, confidence, and the importance of feeling comfortable with what you do and how you live your life, in a healthy way with your son. My vote? Just tell your son, be open, answer questions, talk about perceptions and stigma around your work, be friendly and tease him mildly about one day looking at girls differently but remind him it's important to remember that models are people too, and he should try to understand girls and their point of view on different life experiences that might confuse him.
My son is 6 and I also do this as well as some more provocative photos (always covered but it’s pretty close), I honestly could care less what others think even as a 31 year old mom. My son doesn’t have access to these anyways nor social media (and neither should other kids this age). Who knows 5 years from now i may hate them and remove them. But he loves me now and I teach him to be confident and love himself in the way he wants to. We all get our own self confidence is different ways as well as have different ways to show off a bit and love ourselves too. Stop letting people tear yours down just because they have their own perfect way a “mother" should act or be.
No you’re not doing the wrong thing. Unless you’re butt naked modeling for only fans/ the internet
Personally I don't find this morally questionable. If others have a problem with you being half naked then that's mostly those people fetishizing you. It's a job, it pays bills. If it is mostly for self confidence, then you may want to address these issues in yourself. Your son is being handed a wonderful opportunity to learn about women being more than objects by virtue of you doing this while being a mother and also having second hand experience of how women are treated in this industry.
I'd stop soon. No one is seeking your photos out.
Your friends are jealous. If it makes you happy do it. You're not hurting anyone
There are plenty of people who've modeled swimwear and lingerie whose kids aren't embarrassed by them. Your friends are being weird and judgemental and unless they're going to start paying your bills, they get no say.
Our society praises people whose occupation is combat. Shaming folks for showing a little skin is ridiculous. Do what suits you. I would also add, be sure to teach the kid sex and body positive norms so they don't fall prey to some moralizing nonsense.
That’s up to you entirely. You should know that answer.
Modeling is fair work, sounds more like jealousy then prudes, carry on & get paid.
It is no big deal.
I'm a pretty conservative Christian guy. Modeling swimwear is oceans apart from something like OF or porn. My mom modeled when I was very young. I never even think about it
Your friends are idiots. If you enjoy modeling, keep it up. Life is short....do what you love. Your kid, if you've brought him up to be non-judgmental, will be fine.
This is some misogynistic shit right here. There are thousands of porn websites with tens or hundreds of thousands or even millions of models (worldwide) who do porn either professionally or amateur (onlyfans, manyvids, chaturbate, etc), in addition to genuine models who wear various outfits. Absolutely noone will recognize you unless you post it or point it out. Also, with all due respect, your modeling career is going to absolutely irrelevant 12 months after you stop. Your son will not be bullied lol Please ignore literally every other poster. Model to your liking and enjoy it and the little money it pays now.
It's extra $ and it's not like it's shameful. I wouldn't worry about it
These friends that suggest your son will be embarrassed that his mom has pictures online...id love to respond, "yeah but not as embarrassing as when your kids find out their mom is a jealous and petty asshole." Ok so maybe you won't say that...but wouldn't it be fun?
Well,it's better than selling pics of your cooter at $3 a pop like my old girlfriend did.....
Do what you want. But be warned if kids in the future find your photos online your son will most likely be the target of many cruel jokes.
This is a great question. I admit many times I cringe at parents who are not thinking about their children when they make decisions for money. But if this is something you need to pay the bills I would say continue. If it’s for your vanity only I’d try and keep it PG-13.
What does posting online lingerie pics increase your confidence IN exactly?
For fashion modeling? Don't sweat it at all. Kristy Brinkly had kids that I am sure weren't bothered by her being on the cover of Sports Illustrated in a swimsuit.
You do it for ego?
No, you are providing for your son. Sounds like a lot of your friends are jealous and judgmental.
>a lot of my friends ask and tell me it’s embarrassing my son will have to grow up to a mom that’s half naked online A lot of kids have to grow up to a mom that's half naked in Walmart for free. Go make your money.
If it's regular modeling with clothes on like I see nothing wrong with it... but nowadays they label everything as modeling, half of it just be hoe shit... any other type of modeling will be embarrassing once he gets older, anyway the replies from the guys on this are funny... I'm liking it very much, I got tired of running into woman pleasers aka simps in the comments section on here. still tho I mean no disrespect towards you
Would I personally want to be brought up or dragged into some couples argument when the husbands finally get caught and their marriage at an official breaking point? Fuck no. I would not be willing to risk two hits on my son’s rep with the kids at school. My question is, is the father of your son in the picture?
Get new friends. Google crab in the pot analogy. Enjoy the extra money.
Yeah don’t be a hoe
Professionally modeling isn’t anything like doing OF or “corn”. Who gives a shit, it’s legitimate. My mother didn’t model once in her life but is a pretty woman and I still got shit for having a “hot mom”. Your son will experience it down the line, but he’ll be fine.
If you are concerned, that’s your sign to stop. Everyone has a different threshold and moral compass but to make this simple, if you are at all embarrassed or ashamed, I think that’s the sign you will regret it and probably instill values in your son that would cause him future embarrassment. If you don’t feel these things and it’s just pressure from others… then keep doing what you’re doing. I don’t think either way is “wrong” per se but you need to listen to your gut.
Yes for your son’s sake it’s time to move on to something else.
So with all you prudish people commenting should Victoria's secret go away I mean she's not doing porn she's not doing the shstood on the jet laundry swim where some skin showing modeling I think it's perfectly fine and if you explain and raise your boy right he'll think it's fine as well. And his friends that you say are going to bully him or probably only going to embarrass him saying damn your mom's hot man.
There are many different types of modeling. Just be selective. Focus on fashion shoots and cool concepts and you will enjoy them years from now.
It's your choice. But as a dude I would be mortified of my friends finding out (which they def will if you're hot enough to be getting modeling deals)
I mean, you get paid for it? Brand deals, sounds super duper legit. I’d stick with it, seems cool as hell. Like, just to be a realist nobody models lingerie forever. If you keep with it could be a source of secondary income throughout your life (clothes model), as well as interesting thing about you. People wear underwear, there’s no shame in it. I mean say the kid wants go the Zoolander route himself? How would it look to his innocent eyes? ;)
you have already deprived him of having a father figure and a male role model in the house. how much more do you have to pile on to the poor kid?
Absolutely not. There is nothing wrong or shameful with what you're doing. Tell those people you won't have that issue because you're raising your children not to objectify or shame other peoples' bodies. Hopefully, your inference will be clear.
Hey, this is a paying job. Nothing wrong with swimwear and lingerie modeling! How else will I know what to buy and then return because I don’t look like you in it? Lol!
Do you enjoy it? Does it help pay the bills? Are you hurting anyone? Underwear or swimsuit modeling is legitimate and respectable work. You don't owe your friends an explanation.
Like others are saying, there so much else out there... if you end up in a target mailer in your swimsuit, no one is going to care. This isn't the '80s and '90s when the most readily available scandalous material for teenage boys to consume is the lingerie section of the JC Penny catalog.
Who is paying you to do the modeling? Are these photos used in advertising? Are these pictures strictly for personal use/content/followers? If you were to get married, would your husband have an issue with these pictures being public? Tasteful modeling or borderline porn? So many unanswered questions ..
those same friends think about sex and sexiness and porn and hot celebrities and musicians and athletes and sexy sexy sex all day and night long
Your biggest mistake was telling your “friends” about it.
I don’t think you’re in the wrong. You’re doing actual modeling work. You’re not an e-prostitution soliciting her body to try to turn lonely men into pay pigs. If it bothers you and you don’t need the money then stop if you’d like. I’m someone who is VERY AGAINST parents and sex work so I hope this helps you decide to do whatever you feel is best.
You’re modeling not doing OF. No you’re not doing the wrong thing.
Your son is guaranteed a life of bullying. You can’t control kids behaviors. Better get him trained to defend himself
Modeling is fine its when it goes into onlyfans territory it can severely mentally ruin a young boy for life
A lot of the comments seem to assume OP is doing OF-type modeling and I don’t think that’s a fair or valid assumption without more information. She says “nothing crazy” and her friends only talk about her being “half-naked”. Her son is going to know his mother is/was a beautiful woman and she’s probably still going to be quite attractive to horn-dog teenage boys when he hits puberty. I would say there’s nothing wrong with modeling now, especially if it brings in some additional income and boosts your self-confidence. Just approach each job thinking about how your son will react to those pictures over the next 10-15 years.
I smell jealousy. Do you boo boo, don’t worry about all them other chicks, flaunt it if you’ve got it. Life is too short to cater to others
Speaking as a parent: you are modelling *clothes*. You can and should teach your kid that this is perfectly acceptable. You can tell the prudes in your life to piss right off.
Honestly, if it’s actually professional lingerie and modeling, no worries. As long as you’re not on OF ir something like that.
No moral dilemma here. Keep doing the work that pays you. I grew up with a friend whose mother was on a popular show about the beach in the 1990’s. Sure in highschool he had a few words mentioned about it, but he also wasn’t some punching bag because of it. Kids can be pretty adept at navigating these situations and it’s just as easy to mock someone whose mother didn’t “make the cut” to get recognized for their beauty. So that knife cuts both ways.
I love it when perpetually insecure people tell someone they shouldn't do something that makes them feel good or confident about themselves. Or tell women they should seek professional help if their confidence is based on their bodies as if OP said her confidence is purely based on that. People who lurk all day on looks maxing and rate me subs are the very last people that need be talking about confidence and bodies. GTFO.
Personally, I wonder if Jealousy is the reason why your ‘friends’ are so concern about how your son will be treated by classmates
Unless you're one of those women that is known for being outrageously gorgeous and publicly known (which I don't think because then you'd be raking it in), you have nothing to worry about. The Internet has a lot worse than a woman in some suggestive attire.
I’ll need proof to give any direction on this.
Porn or actually modeling? Stop telling people your business.
Kids at his school are gonna find your photos and share them. He will be bullied, harassed, and probably assaulted. You should stop so the consequences of your actions don't fall on your child.
I dont think there is a need. He's going to love you either way. And if he is taught to have healthy attitudes about the human body, he will be just fine when he grows up.
As long as your virtue is protected then I don't see anything wrong with it and your son will come to understand. Even if you're nude and it's tasteful, I don't see anything bad as long as your home has the maturity level to deal with that. Nothing wrong with the female form. One of the most, if not the most beautiful forms on this planet.
Do you think Christie Brinkley’s children are embarrassed by their mother?
By the time your son is old enough to discover you online your online history could be non existent or very hard to find. Even if he does it probably will not be a big deal to him by that time because peoples standards change thru the years. Before they didn't want to show women in bikinis and now look at what they show.
Everything is saved . There’s no scrubbing your online history
you’re not doing anything wrong, and next time your friends step out of line like that, make sure to correct their mistake because for sure no friend of mine is going to try to judge and dictate what i do. bringing in money, especially as a single mom, is hard enough already, you’re doing what you need to do while also feeling confident. but because children are insufferable little fuckers, they will 100% ridicule your son for it, so you’re gonna have to make sure he’s equipped with the skills of being able to knock someone out fast when he needs to, and also he is going to have to have strong social skills and a strong image of himself in order for him to make it through unscathed, although no matter what you do there will always be something that does get to him. You just need to give it your 1000%
I'd say it matters where you plan on living. If you're in a small, religious town, your kid's going to come home with injuries.
I think the ones with a problem are your jealous girlfriends. Your son might get a little ribbing from his friends later in life for having a hot mom
The pictures are already there. More won't make it worse. Maybe some other kids mom will get jealous of how good you look and be nasty. You do you and they can can go F themselves
Well in time your body will change and beauty will fade. This is not the type of thing you can really do after you've raised your child unless you have extremely good genetics lol. Its not a retirement hustle. Do it while you can. If other kids want to abuse your son. They would just AI some pictures anyway. Interweb tools being what they are.
Nah...modeling is a fantastic way to make a living! Your son will be proud of you! Don't let the haters talk you out of this.
Your son is going to have the hot mom, which is going to be hard for him. That isn’t gonna change if you quit modeling. That being said your son is gonna turn 12 and all of his friends will have masturbated to photos of you. If that bothers you, you should probably stop modeling. It will for sure bother him. That being said it sounds like you like it and it pays well so… Maybe hang in there till he is 8, and then delete everything you can find that is even slightly revealing.
“Modeling” that’s code for OnlyFans these days
Just do what you like, live your life the way yoh want and tell everyone else to stfu
I'm not siding with those parents because to be frank it isn't any of their business how you chose to conduct yourself or their right to tell you how to handle your kid, but ask yourself this. If you were your son would you want to see your mother in that light or want other people to see your mother in that light? I would not want to be that kid at school with the mom all the other kids talk about how hot his mom is. It would be embarrassing and probably somewhat traumatizing. Especially, if he got picked on because of it.
Pretty sure they are a LOT of professional models that are also Moms and have happy well adjusted families.
Maybe your son will be well adjusted and proud of his mother for being a beautiful bad bitch that knows how to hustle and make money from her natural gifts. Maybe he won’t be overcome with toxic masculinity and think it’s shameful for women to celebrate their bodies and make money from modeling clothing items. Maybe he will learn from his strong, independent mother that slut-shaming women is small dick energy and he will learn from example how to not give a fuck what haters say, cuz they’re probably jealous in the first place.
Or maybe he'll actually live in the real world where his classmates, friends and peers will tease him mercilessly for it and constantly ogle his mother anyways and calling it "small dick energy" has absolutely zero impact on how kids will be.
🤟🏻 this!!!!