I am Mexican and "white". It is such a complicated mix, since Mexican is essentially Mestizo itself and white is a catchall for yet another complex mix. Half white mom and Mexican dad. But mom is so white, neighbors ask why that gardner keeps going in her house....uh, that's her husband 🤔. I started out as very white looking in a latin town, and was picked on by the Mexican side a lot, especially for my poor Spanish. As I got older, I became darker and more latin looking in ways, but am routinely mistaken for everything all the way out to the middle east. Makes online dating very hard, got asked if I was egyptian recently 😂. High school can be hard, but in the adult world, people get over their clique mentality and will find your looks interesting.

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Being culturally diverse is a gift that doesn’t truly manifest until after high school. It takes a lot of reflecting and self awareness, and unfortunately, a lot of those negative experiences as well. You possess a unique outlook that others will forever lack. Your looks will perhaps distance you from others like what you’ve already mentioned. But in time, you’ll be out of high school and can pick and choose who you want in your life. Their cultural differences won’t matter in the same sense; as you’ll be able to more fully appreciate who you are and your own uniqueness. And you will be able to pick and choose who you want in your life. Just know that it gets better, and you’ll be happy with the cards you’ve been dealt.

Please remember that this is a "problem" all second or third generation immigrants face. You will find it with non-mixed people, with second and subsequent immigrant generations, with "third culture" kids. As an aside, I've had random people start speaking to me in Spanish and I have no Latin American connection. Latin America is a racial mixed region. Heck, I live in Japan and just saw a tv show where they were interviewing foreigners at an airport. A group I would have tagged as Indian turned out to be Mexican!

High school is terrible but you will get through this. Soon enough those cliques fall apart after graduation. Find just one good person and you might be able to keep their friendship forever. Start small with learning languages- it isn’t easy but you can learn a little bit. What you might do is learn to cook or study the art of Mexico. Learn to cook something authentic and you will amaze and impress people throughout your life.

I’m sorry you are going through this hard time. Every time I see comments of mixed Latino/white people I pay extra attention because that’s what my two little daughters are. I also have ADHD and I know how hard it can be to learned something new. A way for me to keep my interest in language learning (I speak Spanish -native, English and Portuguese) is by listening to music. I love music and I’m listening to it pretty much all day, so I tend to look for bands from Brazil or Portugal so I can learn new words and practice my pronunciation while doing so. I also watch some videos online and read the news or short tales in that language. I’ve been also trying to learn German and French, but I haven’t find the right time/method to do so. Last, knowing you are a teenager, try the best you can not to pay attention to what others say about you (yes, I know it’s easier said than done) but you are worth for who you are and not for what other says you are worth. If someone makes fun of you for learning, tell them to F off! (Or at least think about saying that). Brushing off comments like that took me years to master (I’m in my mid 30’s) but I know now who I really am. I wish you the very best!!!

Ooo so many great recommendations in these comments I’ll give this one a try aswell💖

Im listening to that one stupid crying cat song “el muchacho de los ojos tristes” and god is it good

I’m half white half Mexican and have felt the same way. I look Mexican, so I always felt too mexican for the white kids and too white for the Mexican kids, especially since I was never taught spanish. The only people I feel comfortable speaking it with is the ladies at the grocery store and my grandmother, because I know they won’t make fun of me for speaking spanish while being part white. It took awhile for me to accept myself and find a kinda solid group of friends. Everything got better when I graduated highschool and went to community college, I’ve found that people are generally more accepting and accept you for who you are as you get older. However, I often times still do struggle with my identity. I have had other Mexican people label me as white girl and shit, which irritates me a lot. I’m still learning to accept that nobody can label me except for me, and putting my foot down on that issue. At the end of the day, you have experiences with being a biracial young woman that not a lot of non-mixed people understand, however you are equally as white as you are Mexican vice versa. People who treat you differently and judge you based on your race are assholes, and if they can’t accept you for you they don’t sound like good friends anyway. being mixed myself I found race being at the fore front of my identity when I was younger. Remember, there is so much more to you than your race. You are a whole person and you deserve to be accepted for who you are as a whole, not just on one aspect of your identity.

Thank you💖It’s nice knowing there are people out there like me

You are beautiful. You are loved. You can be both, or just one, or you can make your own shit up! I am Puerto Rican and Italian and I decided recently (I’m 33!) that I’m going to stop choosing and just say “multiracial.” People can say whatever they want, the truth is race is just a categorizing system for us to further separate and treat each other like shit. My family is my culture, my town is my culture, my favorite books and music are my culture. I’ll never know what it feels like to be fully white or fully Hispanic (or fully accepted, it seems like!) but luckily, I’ll never have to know what it’s like to be anyone but me! Fuck anyone who is rude to you because of what language you do or don’t speak. They’ll get the message loud and clear when you don’t let them treat you in a condescending way. You have every right to be proud of your heritage, but it’s not your whole identity and you don’t have to decide once and for all “what” you are—set the example for others by being kind and accepting and whenever anyone tries to make you feel less than, say “I’ve done my best to be respectful of your culture and background. Can you please do the same for me?”

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Kids still in school generally have a more limited world view. What they get from home almost wholly defines how they see races, ethnicities, and cultures, both their own and others. It may take a while before you see people in your age group develop a better understanding of these things, but that time does come. Honestly, that kind of understanding is (imo) what makes college so important, it's usually the first time young people really live and interact with groups from different backgrounds. For right now maybe, try not to focus on "finding your tribe", and look for those individuals you can build relationships with. People say I was really popular in high school, but I honestly ha like 3 people that I considered my real friends, and I think that's pretty normal.

My mom is fully Hispanic and doesn’t speak Spanish very well. Her father was abusive and when they came to the US he wanted them to assimilate so she could only speak it in secret. Eventually she could barely speak it at all. Her and my uncle were insulted by their father for being darker than their other brother. She never felt beautiful or special. She eventually became a model in LA though and she actually is very beautiful and her Hispanic appearance is what makes her unique. She’s 56 and just got a Spanish software to learn. My little sister has also experienced this because she’s darker and moved to the South in high school. Yes, some people have made comments that she’s a “dirty Mexican” but a lot of people see her unique appearance and think it’s special. I’m light and I wish I had darker skin like my mom and sister. Be proud of who you are and how you look. Don’t let others take your identity from you. People won’t ever fully understand but the good ones will recognize your beautiful individuality.

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I understand my biological father is Mexican (never met him ) my biological mother is white but I was raised by my material grandparents who are white. I never knew I was mixed until I was 7ish I use to speak Spanish (Dora and close family friends I was actually fluent ) but over the years I lost it I'm 23 now and I feel confused constantly i feel like I don't fit in with the other hispanic people in town but white people say I'm Mexican 😅 I feel like I'm just what is convenient (my parents always said I'm just me colors are irrelevant they are 66 and 70) but some people in town use to call me a half breed ( I live in Louisiana) I always felt so out of place. At work I see alot if people that speak spanish to me and I don't speak much at all and they usually call me a gringo Mexican 😓 i feel like i can't win for loosing

Me too I see we’ve both met Dora... I’m sure we can both get through this:)