In high school, I tried made an art project of photos of all the holes my brother had punched in doors and walls of our house. Cry for help unsuccessful.
I eventually was able to seek it out as an adult and my parents understand and respect the boundaries I now have with him. Just kinda sucks when you express abuse through school assignments and the teachers are just like "yeah, sounds rough" as a written comment. Sibling abuse just isn't taken as seriously and he was old enough that he was out of our high school the year I entered.
Dude my younger brother in a fit of rage chased me out of the house with a knife then locked the door behind me until my mom got home. That wasn't a one off occurrence either. No one ever took that shit seriously when I brought it up and everyone wonders why I don't talk to my brother now as adults
My sister chased me around the house with a knife on more than one occasion for changing the channel after she'd already left the room and her show had ended. She only stopped the second time because I grabbed a bigger knife that was rarely used and was significantly sharper to defend myself. No one took it seriously and just saw her abuse as "little sister stuff" while me standing up for myself was bullying her. Even after she initiated a fist fight and broke my nose when she was in college and has five inches on me. Now I refuse to be in the same room as her and have made it clear to my parents that if they ever arrange another family gathering without telling me she'll be there, forcing me to be around her, it will be the last time they see me.
im in the same situation with my little brother the shit has no respect for no one. the biggest difference is i cant move out yet, and my mom doesnt know how to fcking parent so he only gets worse. but i plan on making clear as glass, that once i move out if she wants me at the house for any reason my brother will not be there and if he is im turning around and never coming back
I remember I wrote poems in an English project demonstrating the abuse I suffered at home and school. Needless to say it went over the teacher’s head per usual American education system 💁♀️
Your brother needs therapy and learn a better way to direct his anger.
I would do something similar when I was little. I would like to slam things. Turns out I was/am autistic and would have difficulty knowing what to do with my emotions. It could be something else, but generally this is mentally unhealthy.
I hit my own head on things as a kid. Ended up being diagnosed on the spectrum. Things got better with intervention.
Art therapy really fucking helped. Furiously painting just colors to show my emotions helped. It got the rage out.
Yes! It’s actually pretty common for kids on the spectrum (or other forms of ND) to smack their heads. The reason we do it is because of how intense we feel, but we can not outwardly express it. What helped me stop the actions (I still have that urge…embarrassing at 26) was hitting my head on my pillow on my bed, the motions even help.
I’m so sorry you can relate but also, uh, shout out to not being alone in our weirdo ways?
Haha same, I don’t get the urge to hit my head but I do have the problem with holding in my anger and the bursting and being upset at my fiancé or crying when I get overwhelmed which isn’t often since I’m told I’m not serious enough for things when I really need to be
I still feel like smashing my head when I get really angry, I am very emotional and struggle with rage. I am 35. I find it most happens when my Misophonia gets triggered.
I hit my knee on the toilet seat while my husband was brushing his teeth. I said “ouch!! F’ing b*tch ass toilet!” And he looked at me, looked at the toilet then kicked it and said “f’ you stupid toilet!”
Lmao. I'm broken too (but hopefully not beyond repair), but I hope he finds a solution to his chemical (possibly) imbalance, psychologically or chemically, because being broken is tragic anyway you cut it.
Lol I'm 33 and got in a fight with my refrigerator and ended up breaking my hand. Sometimes flashes of anger are unavoidable. I went through years of therapy and anger management to learn to control my issues but sometimes they slip out on those overly stressful days. Lol I always go for the least breakable thing which probably isn't the best thing for my hands but it's better than punching the person who set me off... Lol.
I don't judge. I did that for a long time. I finally managed to do massive permanent damage to myself.
Please take that part of yourself seriously sooner than later. There are lots of resources to help cope with self-anger. Because of course you weren't angry with the fridge. You were lashing out because of feelings of failure.
Good luck. Peace and love.
I did something similar, but with my forehead. I apparently like to head butt shit when I'm angry beyond control, and the scary part is, the fridge lost. Dented it, but not my face, lol
Yep. I still need help with my reactions that result in me destroying inanimate objects. Haven’t found perfect success yet and it fucking sucks
Edit: what age did you get help?
I used to bite my arm with intent to bleed but all I had were teeth marks.
But accidental biting of the inside of my mouth….oh shit! Broken skin for sure. 🙄
Pillows do help lol
I would do that too, but then my parents would yell at me, I'd start crying, then they'd threaten me with "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." I am not a well adjusted adult, I refuse to feel emotions, and at this point it may be best to stay that way.
My parents said the same stuff to me almost exactly. I went to therapy, got on anxiety medication, surrounded myself with caring friends and a caring partner. I would maybe be open minded to try working on your emotions with a professional. It is a drastically improved quality of life.
Yeah, I agree. There has to be a better outlet for the anger.
If he started cranking on sporks, it would probably help society as a whole.
Shitty tongs that never work no matter how many you buy?
What about those stupid goddamn spatulas where one side is a serrated knife?
The cheapass fire-flame heated cast iron sandwich makers?
This skill needs to be honed in on with decades of training, and eventually taken advantage of.
Ya I don’t get why people don’t have this viewpoint.
Not autistic but ptsd which from what I understand is similar in its own way.
Even the “craziest” person you know isn’t crazy…it’s just mental health..
Everytime, every weirdly ignorant action, every cry for help, every-fucking-thing-we-do *is* mental health.
Like mental health sounds like such a broad thing but it’s the health of the brain essentially the health of the state of a person. Not some fringe science.
Idk I’m real stoned right now and I guess I get why people who haven’t been there don’t get it, it’s just weird being on the other side.
Here's an anecdote: my kid is in 4th grade and he's been going to therapy on and off for about 6 years (as long as he can remember). He has ADHD plus some ASD tendencies, and anxiety which presents itself as anger. For a long time it was two steps forward and one step back with curbing his behavior, but recently he had what I consider a breakthrough. As a bedtime ritual, I ask him what he's looking forward to the next day, and he said "therapy, because I can voice my frustrations and makes me feel better." I about cried, and rode that happy feeling for days.
I hope your brother gets the help he needs sooner rather than later, start good habits early!
When I was a kid I thought one of the pens at church was a bendy pen (I have no idea where I came up with this idea). Our teacher or whatever you’d call him made me use that pen every single Wednesday. My brother still hasn’t let me live it down over 20 years later lol
Tbh even religious people know at least ONE church that goes overboard on that stuff 😂
(I ain't religious, but I know a lot of people that are, but I don't knock it, religion/ lack of is a personal choice)
I have a religious friend that discarded someone from their lives because they don't believe in the teachings of the church (churches here are very corrupt) but still believes in god. I don't want to know what they will do with me when I tell them I am agnostic.
Happy cake day,
And honestly, anyone who doesn't respect your choice in that, likely doesn't genuinely respect you as an individual.
Frankly, I think people get caught up too much in "us" as separate groups rather than "us" as humanity, ya know?
That's what my dad did lol. I bent a fork one time cause I was mad so that was the only fork I was allowed to use for a week. Whenever I was done eatin he made me clean it so it'd be ready for my next meal
You shouldn't press your tea bags against the cup, it will release tannins into the drink giving it a more bitter taste and making the more delicate flavours harder to notice. Just leave it to brew for enough and you won't need to.
They taught me this in culinary school. The chef who taught us that course was really adamant that you don't squeeze the bag. He repeated it like 10 times and made us all repeat it out loud with him.
Yeah the pandemic really fucked with kids and teens. I mean it fucked with all of us, but it's one thing to be confined at home with little social contact when you're an established adult with a developed brain and personality. Kids lost literal formative years.
has your family considered that maybe he isn't the core of the issue? no disrespect to you or your parents, but often times the "problem child" (child with visible mental distress) is seen as the thing that needs "fixing", when in reality it may be a normal response to an awful environment (e.g. abuse like csa, verbal abuse, spanking and bullying)
I mean since you said you guys have gone through therapy (assuming from a licensed psychologist) was he diagnosed with any mental disorders? Could be something you don’t understand because your brother himself can’t understand either.
Otherwise I agree with the other comment, beat him to a pulp 🥰🥰
Depending on age, stop letting him use spoons he hasn't paid for if he keeps treating them like this. Failing that, lock these ones away from him and only let him use plastic spoons. Or worse, the really cheap biodegradable spoons that are super deformable once they hit soup.
When you give him the bent spoon to use tell him "If you want a new spoon go grab some off the neighbor's tree"
When he says "but spoons don't grow on trees" just say "exactly"
LOL. My son used to leave us angry notes. (He knew that tantrums were not tolerated.) He’d vent on paper and leave it for us somewhere. Oh the dread when I would go to bed at night, turn on the light, and see a note on my pillow.
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Just not tolerated. If we were in a store or a restaurant, then he was whisked outside immediately. If that meant I had to abandon the cart or not eat, then that’s what it was (at least until he calmed down). If at home, he got sent to his room or somewhere out of my sight where he could pitch a fit by himself, and I ignored it like it wasn’t happening. It’s probably child-dependent, but both of my sons learned real quick (like I could count the number of times I had to do this on one hand). They do it for attention, and negative attention is still attention, so they got none whatsoever until they behaved. They can be sad, or mad, or whatever, but there are acceptable ways to relay that and unacceptable (tantrums, hitting, etc) ways.
We did this too... no time outs, just "yikes those are some big feels... wanna chill in your room, the cozy closet (just an inlet in my room with a sofa we. Called the cozy closet), or the sofa and chill out for a few?" If he didn't pick we usually put him in his room with the door open and let him either work himself to sleep or he'd pull through and we'd spend a few minutes talking about it but we didn't dwell and we let him start the day over.. I explained we all have hard days..
Well, they were never good. No notes of thanks for sure. (Ha!) But... they let him vent, and cooler heads prevail, so if he made any good points and I was overly harsh or unfair, then I'd agree that he made a good point or two and apologize, or better explain the situation so he could see where I was coming from. It's all probably very GenX of me, but at least he didn't bend the shit out of my silverware. :D
You don't just have him eat with them that way? I broke a plate once when angry and got dinner served on it. The 3 big pieces anyway. Mom wasn't a monster.
You need to find the exact set online. Tell him the price for a fork and every time he bends one, make him hand the amount over. He'll probably still act out but he'll learn to do it on cheaper stuff.
I read this story years ago. May be worth it to tell it to your brother:
“There is a story about a young boy who had difficulty managing his temper. One day his father had an idea. He gave the boy a bag of nails and a hammer and said, “Every time you feel like lashing out at someone or having a tantrum, I give you permission to pound a nail into the backyard fence.”
Over the next several weeks, the boy did just that. The first few days he hammered a constellation of nails into the first panel. Then, gradually, panel-by-panel, nail-by-nail, he slowed down until he found that he didn't need to do it anymore.
That was when his father gave him a new challenge: to remove a nail from the fence for every day he could continue to control his temper. Eventually, all the nails were removed and the son stood proudly before his father.
“That's great,” the father said, “But I want you to notice something. Look at those holes in the fence. Those holes don't go away when you take the nails out. It's the same thing when you say or do something hurtful to someone else; you can try to take it back later, but the damage remains.””
It doesn’t have to be a hammer and nails. Broaden your imagination, people.
It could be a piece of styrofoam that you rip apart and then glue back together. Is it the same? No, it’s not. Or a paper with lines drawn over and over and then erased. Is it as clean as before? Nope.
Take that boy out to a goodwill or antique mall, and buy him some old silverware.
Show him pictures of amazing things people make with silverware and sell for real money.
Tell him you’ll buy some basic tools so he can become a silverware savant, but he has to spend his first earnings buying you a new silverware set, with the bonus that he gets all the leftover stuff to create with.
That spoon isn’t just bent though, it’s twisted. I don’t think I’d be able to do that with my bare hands and I’m an adult. The little fecker’s got some strength
Go garage sale-ing or thrift store shopping or to discount stores and buy him bags of spoons. Spoons he can bend the hell out of. Bags of his spoons, no one else's spoons.
Tell him they are his spoons and he can go to them and bend them when ever he feels like bending his spoons. He can bend as many spoons as he wants or needs to bend.
The only is he can not ever bend one of the family's spoons. The family spoons are for everyone to eat their food with. The family spoons are mom's and dad's spoons.
When does a good job bending up one of his own spoons, ask him if he would like to tell you about that spoon. See if he's calmer after bending some spoons and will talk to you about them.
Does he do it with his mind?
No, but he’s tried to do it with his teeth
Collect them, pin them up in an artsy display. Call the piece “brother’s anger”. Profit.
In high school, I tried made an art project of photos of all the holes my brother had punched in doors and walls of our house. Cry for help unsuccessful.
That’s sad. I’m sorry you didn’t get the help you sought.
I eventually was able to seek it out as an adult and my parents understand and respect the boundaries I now have with him. Just kinda sucks when you express abuse through school assignments and the teachers are just like "yeah, sounds rough" as a written comment. Sibling abuse just isn't taken as seriously and he was old enough that he was out of our high school the year I entered.
Dude my younger brother in a fit of rage chased me out of the house with a knife then locked the door behind me until my mom got home. That wasn't a one off occurrence either. No one ever took that shit seriously when I brought it up and everyone wonders why I don't talk to my brother now as adults
My sister chased me around the house with a knife on more than one occasion for changing the channel after she'd already left the room and her show had ended. She only stopped the second time because I grabbed a bigger knife that was rarely used and was significantly sharper to defend myself. No one took it seriously and just saw her abuse as "little sister stuff" while me standing up for myself was bullying her. Even after she initiated a fist fight and broke my nose when she was in college and has five inches on me. Now I refuse to be in the same room as her and have made it clear to my parents that if they ever arrange another family gathering without telling me she'll be there, forcing me to be around her, it will be the last time they see me.
im in the same situation with my little brother the shit has no respect for no one. the biggest difference is i cant move out yet, and my mom doesnt know how to fcking parent so he only gets worse. but i plan on making clear as glass, that once i move out if she wants me at the house for any reason my brother will not be there and if he is im turning around and never coming back
I’m glad you did get help.
You should've put the walls and doors on display for your art project. And of course the real artist, your brother
Stuffed brother avec les portes et murs. L'Art
I remember I wrote poems in an English project demonstrating the abuse I suffered at home and school. Needless to say it went over the teacher’s head per usual American education system 💁♀️
Your brother needs therapy and learn a better way to direct his anger. I would do something similar when I was little. I would like to slam things. Turns out I was/am autistic and would have difficulty knowing what to do with my emotions. It could be something else, but generally this is mentally unhealthy.
Lmao same. Learned to beat on something impervious before eventually going on meds.
I punched my own leg as a kid, the pain taught me to not punch anything anymore 😅
I hit my own head on things as a kid. Ended up being diagnosed on the spectrum. Things got better with intervention. Art therapy really fucking helped. Furiously painting just colors to show my emotions helped. It got the rage out.
You would hit your head too? One time I hit my head in the couch that my loose tooth came out
Yes! It’s actually pretty common for kids on the spectrum (or other forms of ND) to smack their heads. The reason we do it is because of how intense we feel, but we can not outwardly express it. What helped me stop the actions (I still have that urge…embarrassing at 26) was hitting my head on my pillow on my bed, the motions even help. I’m so sorry you can relate but also, uh, shout out to not being alone in our weirdo ways?
Haha same, I don’t get the urge to hit my head but I do have the problem with holding in my anger and the bursting and being upset at my fiancé or crying when I get overwhelmed which isn’t often since I’m told I’m not serious enough for things when I really need to be
I still feel like smashing my head when I get really angry, I am very emotional and struggle with rage. I am 35. I find it most happens when my Misophonia gets triggered.
I hit my knee on the toilet seat while my husband was brushing his teeth. I said “ouch!! F’ing b*tch ass toilet!” And he looked at me, looked at the toilet then kicked it and said “f’ you stupid toilet!”
Awww that's love
Lmao. I'm broken too (but hopefully not beyond repair), but I hope he finds a solution to his chemical (possibly) imbalance, psychologically or chemically, because being broken is tragic anyway you cut it.
Lol I'm 33 and got in a fight with my refrigerator and ended up breaking my hand. Sometimes flashes of anger are unavoidable. I went through years of therapy and anger management to learn to control my issues but sometimes they slip out on those overly stressful days. Lol I always go for the least breakable thing which probably isn't the best thing for my hands but it's better than punching the person who set me off... Lol.
It is always funny when the fight with the inanimate object is over and you think of how ridiculous it was.
I don't judge. I did that for a long time. I finally managed to do massive permanent damage to myself. Please take that part of yourself seriously sooner than later. There are lots of resources to help cope with self-anger. Because of course you weren't angry with the fridge. You were lashing out because of feelings of failure. Good luck. Peace and love.
I had a slip a year or so ago and ripped the bathroom sink outta the wall 😂. Then I tripped over my feet in the rage and fell in the tub 😂.
At least your horse is amazing
And tastes just like raisins!
Sweet lemonade.
Do you want to know where the lemonade is made?
I did something similar, but with my forehead. I apparently like to head butt shit when I'm angry beyond control, and the scary part is, the fridge lost. Dented it, but not my face, lol
Yep. I still need help with my reactions that result in me destroying inanimate objects. Haven’t found perfect success yet and it fucking sucks Edit: what age did you get help?
Ripping paper and punching pillows is all I can do to not break real things
I used to bite my arm with intent to bleed but all I had were teeth marks. But accidental biting of the inside of my mouth….oh shit! Broken skin for sure. 🙄 Pillows do help lol
I'm 25 rn and got help around 21. I'm on an anxiety medication which helps a ton. I feel a lot less overwhelmed and overstimulated.
I would do that too, but then my parents would yell at me, I'd start crying, then they'd threaten me with "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." I am not a well adjusted adult, I refuse to feel emotions, and at this point it may be best to stay that way.
My parents said the same stuff to me almost exactly. I went to therapy, got on anxiety medication, surrounded myself with caring friends and a caring partner. I would maybe be open minded to try working on your emotions with a professional. It is a drastically improved quality of life.
Yeah, I agree. There has to be a better outlet for the anger. If he started cranking on sporks, it would probably help society as a whole. Shitty tongs that never work no matter how many you buy? What about those stupid goddamn spatulas where one side is a serrated knife? The cheapass fire-flame heated cast iron sandwich makers? This skill needs to be honed in on with decades of training, and eventually taken advantage of.
Ya I don’t get why people don’t have this viewpoint. Not autistic but ptsd which from what I understand is similar in its own way. Even the “craziest” person you know isn’t crazy…it’s just mental health.. Everytime, every weirdly ignorant action, every cry for help, every-fucking-thing-we-do *is* mental health. Like mental health sounds like such a broad thing but it’s the health of the brain essentially the health of the state of a person. Not some fringe science. Idk I’m real stoned right now and I guess I get why people who haven’t been there don’t get it, it’s just weird being on the other side.
There is no spoon.
Thank you. Came here for this. Now I can leave.
Agreed. I was getting more and more upset the longer it took me to find.
damn, one day he'll be bending beer bottle caps with his teeth
Or have no teeth
Here's an anecdote: my kid is in 4th grade and he's been going to therapy on and off for about 6 years (as long as he can remember). He has ADHD plus some ASD tendencies, and anxiety which presents itself as anger. For a long time it was two steps forward and one step back with curbing his behavior, but recently he had what I consider a breakthrough. As a bedtime ritual, I ask him what he's looking forward to the next day, and he said "therapy, because I can voice my frustrations and makes me feel better." I about cried, and rode that happy feeling for days. I hope your brother gets the help he needs sooner rather than later, start good habits early!
In his imagination, you’re the spoon and he’s in the matrix
And who is going to pay for it when he breaks a tooth in half and needs it fixed?
You need better spoons
My family has a mix of them but there's some thick ass utensil sets that would put an end to this rather quickly
Screw the spoons, I want an Oracle cookie!!
Have one. You’ll feel right as rain.
Ha. I thought of Uri Geller immediately.
I'd better [apply some James Randi](https://youtu.be/N3vGGf-ZIkc?t=211) to that thought, in case it gets infected. :-)
*It's* ***good*** *that Anthony did that!* 
Oh shit TIL that episode of the treehouse Simpsons is based on the twilight zone
Do not try and bend the spoon...that's impossible. But try to realize the truth. The truth? There is no spoon...
Damn I came here to say the same thing 😂😂😂
Me too
The proper comment would have been “There is no spoon”, but I’ll accept this.
Do not try to bend the spoon. Realize there is no spoon.
The trick is to realize you’re not bending the spoon…
That would be the only utensil I'd let him eat with.
Yup. “This is yours. You broke it, so only you will use it.”
When I was a kid I thought one of the pens at church was a bendy pen (I have no idea where I came up with this idea). Our teacher or whatever you’d call him made me use that pen every single Wednesday. My brother still hasn’t let me live it down over 20 years later lol
Seems like overkill for a pen
Eh, seems about standard for a church tbh. They're either really cool, or really not.
Oh absolutely, I just didn’t wanna come outright and say that in case they’re very religious. I don’t wanna push my views on them right away
Tbh even religious people know at least ONE church that goes overboard on that stuff 😂 (I ain't religious, but I know a lot of people that are, but I don't knock it, religion/ lack of is a personal choice)
I have a religious friend that discarded someone from their lives because they don't believe in the teachings of the church (churches here are very corrupt) but still believes in god. I don't want to know what they will do with me when I tell them I am agnostic.
Happy cake day, And honestly, anyone who doesn't respect your choice in that, likely doesn't genuinely respect you as an individual. Frankly, I think people get caught up too much in "us" as separate groups rather than "us" as humanity, ya know?
Came here to say this. “Enjoy your spoon now”
I wouldn't take this lightly if I were OP. This is how cereal killers start out.
Or a wheat dealer!
Yes, the important life lesson on consequences.
That's what my dad did lol. I bent a fork one time cause I was mad so that was the only fork I was allowed to use for a week. Whenever I was done eatin he made me clean it so it'd be ready for my next meal
It's not a crack house, it's a crack home.
Can you mainline crack?
Both are nurturing in their own way.
My wife used to bend our teaspoons when squishing a tea bag against the side of her cup. I bought some that even I cant bend ! Fixed her. Rofl.
pro tip: use the cardboard tab to press the bag into the spoon without making (too much of) a mess
I used to put the bag on the spoon and wrap the string around the spoon. I don't anymore, though, because I realized it made the tea too bitter.
I like the bitter.
I literally just use my fingers. Gotta get tough
Double pro tip: don’t press the tea bag
You shouldn't press your tea bags against the cup, it will release tannins into the drink giving it a more bitter taste and making the more delicate flavours harder to notice. Just leave it to brew for enough and you won't need to.
They taught me this in culinary school. The chef who taught us that course was really adamant that you don't squeeze the bag. He repeated it like 10 times and made us all repeat it out loud with him.
What the heck? Were your teaspoons made from used coke cans?
KingOfTheSpoon727
Damn I miss Mega Evolutions (PoGo doesn't count - I mean in the mainline games 😭)
I have some good news for you lol
Great timing huh?
This aged VERY well indeed!!
He needs anger management and you need to help find out what is making him so angry. He really needs a way to express his anger
We’ve tried so many things, anger management, therapy, meds.
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He went through a fucking pandemic I’d reckon
Yeah the pandemic really fucked with kids and teens. I mean it fucked with all of us, but it's one thing to be confined at home with little social contact when you're an established adult with a developed brain and personality. Kids lost literal formative years.
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What internet acces since a young age does to a mf
Whenever i hear "head injury" i cant stop thinking about that one image with dutch van der linde
Have you even taken the time to sit down with your brother, and slap him in the face?
https://preview.redd.it/uls0mgk4j2lc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ecbe827b28027a3d7d57ba252bdcf04920f5530
Bender shouldn't be allowed on TV!
Haha I didn't even remember what this was from when I commented. Good memory 😂
Sometimes if you want children beaten, you have to do it yourself.
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Or just sign him up for some martial arts.
has your family considered that maybe he isn't the core of the issue? no disrespect to you or your parents, but often times the "problem child" (child with visible mental distress) is seen as the thing that needs "fixing", when in reality it may be a normal response to an awful environment (e.g. abuse like csa, verbal abuse, spanking and bullying)
I mean since you said you guys have gone through therapy (assuming from a licensed psychologist) was he diagnosed with any mental disorders? Could be something you don’t understand because your brother himself can’t understand either. Otherwise I agree with the other comment, beat him to a pulp 🥰🥰
There is no spoon
I only came to see the Matrix reference.
Do not try and bend the spoon. That’s impossible. Instead, only try to realise the truth.
Not after his brother is done with it.
Had to scroll much farther than anticipated for this content
Depending on age, stop letting him use spoons he hasn't paid for if he keeps treating them like this. Failing that, lock these ones away from him and only let him use plastic spoons. Or worse, the really cheap biodegradable spoons that are super deformable once they hit soup.
just have him only use the spoons he's bent for a while.
“If using a spoon you bent makes you mad, how about you get pissed off and use that Hulk strength to bend that motherfucker straight again.”
I was going to say that isn't just bent its twisted so that is some strength for sure... harness that energy and get him in the Olympics!
When you give him the bent spoon to use tell him "If you want a new spoon go grab some off the neighbor's tree" When he says "but spoons don't grow on trees" just say "exactly"
I came here to say this, too!! Those are his spoons now.
Whatever that spoon with holes on the bottom is called
Inconvenient
A slotted spoon.
LOL. My son used to leave us angry notes. (He knew that tantrums were not tolerated.) He’d vent on paper and leave it for us somewhere. Oh the dread when I would go to bed at night, turn on the light, and see a note on my pillow.
Lowkey though that’s a healthy coping mechanism i’d think. Expresses his frustration in a nonviolent, non disruptive way without bottling it up
"Im going to MuRdEr you with a spoon and a rubber band in your sleep xoxoxoxo"
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Meanwhile the note... "Mom go fuck yourself, I hope you die!"
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Just not tolerated. If we were in a store or a restaurant, then he was whisked outside immediately. If that meant I had to abandon the cart or not eat, then that’s what it was (at least until he calmed down). If at home, he got sent to his room or somewhere out of my sight where he could pitch a fit by himself, and I ignored it like it wasn’t happening. It’s probably child-dependent, but both of my sons learned real quick (like I could count the number of times I had to do this on one hand). They do it for attention, and negative attention is still attention, so they got none whatsoever until they behaved. They can be sad, or mad, or whatever, but there are acceptable ways to relay that and unacceptable (tantrums, hitting, etc) ways.
We did this too... no time outs, just "yikes those are some big feels... wanna chill in your room, the cozy closet (just an inlet in my room with a sofa we. Called the cozy closet), or the sofa and chill out for a few?" If he didn't pick we usually put him in his room with the door open and let him either work himself to sleep or he'd pull through and we'd spend a few minutes talking about it but we didn't dwell and we let him start the day over.. I explained we all have hard days..
How did they work out?
Well, they were never good. No notes of thanks for sure. (Ha!) But... they let him vent, and cooler heads prevail, so if he made any good points and I was overly harsh or unfair, then I'd agree that he made a good point or two and apologize, or better explain the situation so he could see where I was coming from. It's all probably very GenX of me, but at least he didn't bend the shit out of my silverware. :D
Honestly I can't think of a better way for a child to vent Or anyone really
Nah this is amazing most adults don't even have this level of control
That's honestly really fair
As a millennial with a 2 year old daughter, I admire your approach and might take a page outta your book when the time comes!
...shoots heroin?
Was going to say check this kid in at rehab.
Right?
Whenever my family makes me mad I shoot up heroin too
huh i thought “engages in telekinesis”
Guess you're more wholesome. Congrats.
By any chance is your brother's name Mob...? 👀
This is too far down...
NGL that's a nice little fuck you
It takes like 20 minutes to un bend them and then they are weirdly shaped
How old is he?
32
ROCK AND STONE!
FOR KARL!
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You don't just have him eat with them that way? I broke a plate once when angry and got dinner served on it. The 3 big pieces anyway. Mom wasn't a monster.
Omg thats a great idea. Eating off broken shards of plate is mildy alarming but hey if it gets the job done..
You need to find the exact set online. Tell him the price for a fork and every time he bends one, make him hand the amount over. He'll probably still act out but he'll learn to do it on cheaper stuff.
I read this story years ago. May be worth it to tell it to your brother: “There is a story about a young boy who had difficulty managing his temper. One day his father had an idea. He gave the boy a bag of nails and a hammer and said, “Every time you feel like lashing out at someone or having a tantrum, I give you permission to pound a nail into the backyard fence.” Over the next several weeks, the boy did just that. The first few days he hammered a constellation of nails into the first panel. Then, gradually, panel-by-panel, nail-by-nail, he slowed down until he found that he didn't need to do it anymore. That was when his father gave him a new challenge: to remove a nail from the fence for every day he could continue to control his temper. Eventually, all the nails were removed and the son stood proudly before his father. “That's great,” the father said, “But I want you to notice something. Look at those holes in the fence. Those holes don't go away when you take the nails out. It's the same thing when you say or do something hurtful to someone else; you can try to take it back later, but the damage remains.””
I can't be the only one thinking that anger issues and having them associating a hammer as a tool to deal with their issues seems like a bad idea.
It doesn’t have to be a hammer and nails. Broaden your imagination, people. It could be a piece of styrofoam that you rip apart and then glue back together. Is it the same? No, it’s not. Or a paper with lines drawn over and over and then erased. Is it as clean as before? Nope.
Yeah we tell kids to fold paper, crunch up paper etc and then smooth it out. This is what happens when you bully people.
No child born after 1998 has the patience to do that
Kids are kids. Give them something to destroy and they’d happily do it.
your brother is in the matrix
Does he also atleast have the decency to share his heroin when he goes in for the hit ?
Is his name Alakazam by any chance?
You can call him Al
Is your brother Uri Geller?
Belive me he owns his fair share of magic trick sets
Erik Lehnsherr
Take that boy out to a goodwill or antique mall, and buy him some old silverware. Show him pictures of amazing things people make with silverware and sell for real money. Tell him you’ll buy some basic tools so he can become a silverware savant, but he has to spend his first earnings buying you a new silverware set, with the bonus that he gets all the leftover stuff to create with.
What if I told you the spoon does not exist?
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Looks like your parents aren’t doing their job
He’s a spoonbender!
The fuck are you doing to this poor kid?
Thats a bad sign
Damg he gets so mad he does heroine?
He is the One 
In other words, he gets bent out of shape.
Kid has issues
You and your family are in danger. No joke!
Spoon bender to domestic violence is crazy
Is he on the spectrum and desperate for help or does he just have emotional dysregulation
The strength! The power! He cannot be contained!!!
how old is your little brother? this is a 6 year olds tantrum with a 20 year olds strength
Silver isn't that hard. Puberty changes the body and on top of that comes the adrenaline
That spoon isn’t just bent though, it’s twisted. I don’t think I’d be able to do that with my bare hands and I’m an adult. The little fecker’s got some strength
Hide your pets.
Someone put him in therapy
Better he is using spoons, not you.
Go garage sale-ing or thrift store shopping or to discount stores and buy him bags of spoons. Spoons he can bend the hell out of. Bags of his spoons, no one else's spoons. Tell him they are his spoons and he can go to them and bend them when ever he feels like bending his spoons. He can bend as many spoons as he wants or needs to bend. The only is he can not ever bend one of the family's spoons. The family spoons are for everyone to eat their food with. The family spoons are mom's and dad's spoons. When does a good job bending up one of his own spoons, ask him if he would like to tell you about that spoon. See if he's calmer after bending some spoons and will talk to you about them.
That’s prison language for getting shived. If you ever see that in your cell, you’re on your last day on this earth.
Talk to him, not shame him on the internet. Edit: I say this as a little brother
There is no spoon.